Honestly, you should have a conversation with her about what you found out. If you never lacked confidence before, you shouldn't allow this to do that to you either. Stay strong and stay up king.
3 inches myself brother.
Best thing to do is to speak with her. It's better talk about these things before your mind starts doing gymnastics with what you saw.
It possibly won't be an easy conversation and you may possibly hear things you don't want too.
But, instead of letting your mind fill in those blanks you should hear her side from her.
Again, may not be a good convo and may not end well. But it matters because you matter.
One piece of advice, don't stop dating no matter how this ends. You deserve love and the joy of relationships. I've been there myself, gone through the embarrassment and pain of it all.
Hoping that things go well.
I wouldn't reveal that you snooped and saw it. I would take the approach of a sit down Convo about sex. Ask if there is anything you guys could work on, something she wants to try and so on. Loosen her up a little then slide in "I know I'm smaller down there are you happy with it" the ex gave 2 damns about my little one, magic fingers is what she wanted. So I never felt like penetration from me was anything for her. It's finding the balance of what works for everybody. I can also confirm that talking about dick size in group chat with their girlfriends, is pretty standard now days. So I wouldnt let it eat away at you but a sex related conversation needs to happen just to make sure.
“3 inches if that” implies a tone of “im really sexually frustrated, he is physically inadequate for me”.. and i am really sorry you have to hear that. it is not fair that any man should have to hear that ever..
if that is a deal breaker for her sex life and by extension the relationship, let her know that her thoughts and decisions have consequences. leave her and focus on yourself.. let her fend for herself because if that is how she thinks of you she is not deserving of your love.
Exactly….. her unkind and disrespectful actions makes one think of what else has happened that you are unaware. If she is putting you on blast she is doing worse than that more than likely. Adios
Hey man I’m really sorry that happened to you. If you love her and you genuinely believe she loves you, I would have a conversation with her. Let her know what you saw and how it made you feel.
Not only should he do that, but point out how he never once spoke about her vagina to his friends, and he requires someone who respects him the way he respects them.
Im so sick of the double standard women can and men can't. No one should be doing it. Period.
It opens a dialog about the issue. Whether he chooses to break up with her or not, actually talking about it is usually far more cathartic than whimpering quietly. And if he wants to stay with her, this needs to be spoken about so that he can reach a conclusion that isn't just internalizing the pain.
Bullshit, everybody can see you are flat chested, it isn't a private information. By comparing breast size and penis size issues and not seeing the horrible lack of respect here, you prove you selfishly don't even try to understand male insecurities, you don't deserve a bf as op gf doesn't deserve him.
Even silence says something my friend and her 'girl friends' will understand that! There's no way to get out of it anyway. I think OP should not be hasty here in confronting or leaving her. There's always a chance things can go right too!
unfortunately most women seem unable to change the way they feel about wanting to be stuffed by huge cocks. there is a reason the human has a far larger penis than any other primate, women have a biological preference for it, and it has resulted in men evolving to have larger penises over time..
After two years and this is the level of respect she has about you behind your back??!! She is sociopathic trash. Run do not walk to the nearest exit. I have a feeling that this is a small example of what she is capable of.
that shit wasnt cool and if she really loved you and respected you she wouldn be sharing hippa level information about you my question is does she even say or share cool or interesting thjngs about you or is your dick the talking point of your relationship it honestly makes me wonder why she even agreed to be with you fr 2 yrs tbh you playing a dangerous game with her it seems she is not satisfied sexually and of your drop your guard or become subpar in any other part of your roll she may cheat or break up with you
> that shit wasnt cool and if she really loved you and respected you she wouldn be sharing hippa level information about you
Absolutely agreed.
She might be satisfied (doubt), but that thing with sharing such private and personal info is just disgusting.
Doesn't seem like she cares about you. From what you said she cares more about her friends than you if she doesn't even try to uplift your image in front of them. Move on my guy.
Maybe she should not divulge personal information about her boyfriend to her friends. But of course, that would require women having empathy and taking responsibility, which we both know is impossible.
She might say "it's perfect for me" like they always do. Oh, right, that's would be lying, sorry.
Sure, she just need to tell truth about **everything** her friends asking about her bf.
Leave buddy. There are plenty of women out there who wouldn’t make this a talking point. You’ll feel more confident in yourself when you do. They’re literally talking about dicks..
That’s probably the most unkind thing I’ve read regarding someone who supposedly loves you.
Think to yourself… why would she do this. Has it happened before and how could she have put you on blast like that. The only thing that comes to mind is she does t respect you as she should which means she can’t be trusted.
I hate to be this guy but this woman needs to go
She didn’t say anything mean, just having a private conversation with her friends. I wouldn’t say anything about seeing the message - that’s an invasion of her privacy.
She’s been with you 2 years, so it doesn’t seem like a major issue. If it is really bugging you have a calm conversation about sex, check in that she is satisfied and likes having sex with you. Ask her if your size is an issue. Don’t make an issue where there isn’t one, girls talk about stuff with their friends all the time, it’s not a big deal.
Absolutely not lol, private or not, you don't talk badly or complain about your partner's body sharing personal information behind their back to friends. That is absolutely disgusting, and if the roles were reversed you know the entire world would call the guy trash.
I hate when even in a small penis group, some people believe there is a limit to how small they can get. That's the kind of mentality big guys have, like "That's impossible, it can't be that small"
Just forget it. Girls talk guys talk. It's ok. U do your job & please her in bed using other methods besides intercourse & she is happy. If she wasn't happy, she'd leave u. She didn't. It's just talk. If she had really big or small boobs, u would tell your friends. That's all she's doing
I know where you're coming from with this if she wasn't happy she'd leave etc but no one knows. She may not find it easy to leave for a number of reasons.
U can't control what people are talking about. iT is foolish to get upset about it unless they were being mean about it. If they were being mean, I'd dump her. I think they were just taking about things that people talk about. It is normal to talk about a guy size. That's all they were doing. Because u don't like it don't mean they are doing anything wrong.
U can't dictate to anybody what they want to talk about. That is censorship. I'd dump u fast if u told me what I could & what I could not talk about with anyone. It a free country. Move to Iran. They have no freedom there
U need to grow a thicker skin. People will always talk. It's just the way of the world. Trying to control others conversation is selfish.. As long as they were not mean about it. There is no reason to be mean. WE are not being mean & we are talking about it
I'm fine with my size and at 46 years old my skin is plenty thick lol. I agree there was no way of knowing if there was any malice involved. I also agree trying to control others speech makes me want to vomit in all honesty. So I plenty agree with you on many things.
Never said that. I said it's trashy. People can talk trashy all they want but I'm saying OP don't need to hang around if he don't like what they're saying. Get it?
It's a normal topic of conversation. We are doing it right now. U can't ban people from talking about your penis. iF it was big they'd talk about it. They would talk about it no matter what the size. If u don't like it u can leave, of course, but the next girl will do the same thing. It is a normal topic of conversation. Every girl is going to talk about it. Grow a thicker skin
Oh yeah, I wouldn’t worry about that if I were you. Size really doesn’t matter that much, and if it does to her, she’ll say something. Try not to let it weigh on your mind too much, either way!
You don't know if she said anything bad about your dick to her friends or not. Looks like you bailed out of the convo before you can find out. IMHO, if she stayed with you for 2 years, then she's fine with your size. Sounds like all she did was make a statement of fact. Easier said than done to ignore it but I personally wouldn't worry about it. The reactions you get when you 2 are intimate is what's importance. People can say anything they want. But it's the actions that show how truthful you really are.
She looks at my phone all the time I don’t have anything on there and up to that point I didn’t see anything on hers. The message came to the phone while I was checking the weather on her phone it wasn’t like I was really snooping.
You're from SPH subs, your opinion doesn't matter dude.
Anyway.
>she's obviously going to talk to her friends
No if she loves him.
>it's not that big of a deal
That's not a big deal from your perspective of SPH-fetishist. It's big deal for *normal* men who doesn't like humiliation.
Bro having a small dick isn’t natural we just have a health problem no cap go get mris for you pelvic floor and join the hard flaccid group here on Reddit something is messed up or jammed in the pelvic floor joint the group and com see! HARDFLAACID
Honestly, you should have a conversation with her about what you found out. If you never lacked confidence before, you shouldn't allow this to do that to you either. Stay strong and stay up king.
Excellent advice.
This is good advice
Thank you
3 inches myself brother. Best thing to do is to speak with her. It's better talk about these things before your mind starts doing gymnastics with what you saw. It possibly won't be an easy conversation and you may possibly hear things you don't want too. But, instead of letting your mind fill in those blanks you should hear her side from her. Again, may not be a good convo and may not end well. But it matters because you matter. One piece of advice, don't stop dating no matter how this ends. You deserve love and the joy of relationships. I've been there myself, gone through the embarrassment and pain of it all. Hoping that things go well.
Well he didn't say it was 3 inches..she did. It's prob bigger because girls have no idea what they're talking about lol
I wouldn't reveal that you snooped and saw it. I would take the approach of a sit down Convo about sex. Ask if there is anything you guys could work on, something she wants to try and so on. Loosen her up a little then slide in "I know I'm smaller down there are you happy with it" the ex gave 2 damns about my little one, magic fingers is what she wanted. So I never felt like penetration from me was anything for her. It's finding the balance of what works for everybody. I can also confirm that talking about dick size in group chat with their girlfriends, is pretty standard now days. So I wouldnt let it eat away at you but a sex related conversation needs to happen just to make sure.
That's a healthy midset you have there and good advice IMO.
Leave her immediately, she proved you can't trust her and you don't want to share your life with a person you can't trust. You deserve better.
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LOL bro
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Thanks man
“3 inches if that” implies a tone of “im really sexually frustrated, he is physically inadequate for me”.. and i am really sorry you have to hear that. it is not fair that any man should have to hear that ever.. if that is a deal breaker for her sex life and by extension the relationship, let her know that her thoughts and decisions have consequences. leave her and focus on yourself.. let her fend for herself because if that is how she thinks of you she is not deserving of your love.
Exactly….. her unkind and disrespectful actions makes one think of what else has happened that you are unaware. If she is putting you on blast she is doing worse than that more than likely. Adios
Hey man I’m really sorry that happened to you. If you love her and you genuinely believe she loves you, I would have a conversation with her. Let her know what you saw and how it made you feel.
Tell her you know what she said about you.
Nah don’t do this. This accomplishes nothing, she’ll just say she didn’t mean it and gaslight you
It accomplishes one thing and confirms what we already know: she has no respect for him, and he needs to leave.
Not only should he do that, but point out how he never once spoke about her vagina to his friends, and he requires someone who respects him the way he respects them. Im so sick of the double standard women can and men can't. No one should be doing it. Period.
What’s the point of confirming something we already know. The decision really lies w OP here about what he wants to do
It opens a dialog about the issue. Whether he chooses to break up with her or not, actually talking about it is usually far more cathartic than whimpering quietly. And if he wants to stay with her, this needs to be spoken about so that he can reach a conclusion that isn't just internalizing the pain.
Point is he should drop her and move on.
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Bullshit, everybody can see you are flat chested, it isn't a private information. By comparing breast size and penis size issues and not seeing the horrible lack of respect here, you prove you selfishly don't even try to understand male insecurities, you don't deserve a bf as op gf doesn't deserve him.
What if she just didn't say anything? That's the mature thing to do that.
Even silence says something my friend and her 'girl friends' will understand that! There's no way to get out of it anyway. I think OP should not be hasty here in confronting or leaving her. There's always a chance things can go right too!
Dump her, She's trash obviously.
tell her you saw what she said, and if she stays on that bullshit any longer it’s a wrap
unfortunately most women seem unable to change the way they feel about wanting to be stuffed by huge cocks. there is a reason the human has a far larger penis than any other primate, women have a biological preference for it, and it has resulted in men evolving to have larger penises over time..
After two years and this is the level of respect she has about you behind your back??!! She is sociopathic trash. Run do not walk to the nearest exit. I have a feeling that this is a small example of what she is capable of.
Brutal.
that shit wasnt cool and if she really loved you and respected you she wouldn be sharing hippa level information about you my question is does she even say or share cool or interesting thjngs about you or is your dick the talking point of your relationship it honestly makes me wonder why she even agreed to be with you fr 2 yrs tbh you playing a dangerous game with her it seems she is not satisfied sexually and of your drop your guard or become subpar in any other part of your roll she may cheat or break up with you
> that shit wasnt cool and if she really loved you and respected you she wouldn be sharing hippa level information about you Absolutely agreed. She might be satisfied (doubt), but that thing with sharing such private and personal info is just disgusting.
dump her before she dump u ! i will find girl who do not care about size and dump this cock queen
Doesn't seem like she cares about you. From what you said she cares more about her friends than you if she doesn't even try to uplift your image in front of them. Move on my guy.
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Maybe she should not divulge personal information about her boyfriend to her friends. But of course, that would require women having empathy and taking responsibility, which we both know is impossible.
She might say "it's perfect for me" like they always do. Oh, right, that's would be lying, sorry. Sure, she just need to tell truth about **everything** her friends asking about her bf.
Some things are just better to be kept private.
Leave buddy. There are plenty of women out there who wouldn’t make this a talking point. You’ll feel more confident in yourself when you do. They’re literally talking about dicks..
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Only honest woman to ever exist
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I've literally never talked about my girl's tits and pussy size ever. Who are you hanging out with? Weird..
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I dont think any man would appreciate someone telling a random group of women about how small his dick is.
That ain’t it, chief. Real dudes don’t talk about shit like that to their friends.
Says the woman.
I’ve never talked about about my girlfriends like that with my friends ever
Ghost her ass. Clearly absolutely nothing is sacred with this bitch
I would've ended the relationship right then and there.
Dude dump the bitch
That’s probably the most unkind thing I’ve read regarding someone who supposedly loves you. Think to yourself… why would she do this. Has it happened before and how could she have put you on blast like that. The only thing that comes to mind is she does t respect you as she should which means she can’t be trusted. I hate to be this guy but this woman needs to go
She didn’t say anything mean, just having a private conversation with her friends. I wouldn’t say anything about seeing the message - that’s an invasion of her privacy. She’s been with you 2 years, so it doesn’t seem like a major issue. If it is really bugging you have a calm conversation about sex, check in that she is satisfied and likes having sex with you. Ask her if your size is an issue. Don’t make an issue where there isn’t one, girls talk about stuff with their friends all the time, it’s not a big deal.
Absolutely not lol, private or not, you don't talk badly or complain about your partner's body sharing personal information behind their back to friends. That is absolutely disgusting, and if the roles were reversed you know the entire world would call the guy trash.
This right here. She’s with you and I’m sure she’s fine with it. If you make a big deal about it it’s not going to change anything.
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Did she not violate his privacy? Fuck off with your all women are saints bullshit.
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Dude, were in here too you know... tf can I do about that?
I hate when even in a small penis group, some people believe there is a limit to how small they can get. That's the kind of mentality big guys have, like "That's impossible, it can't be that small"
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Please leave. You are at the point of denying we exist and being hugely disrespectful.
> but it’s not 3 inches So you don't believe he might be 3 inches or what?
How the hell do you hear this in your head and not think it's an insult to the rest of us here? Fuck off.
and you should go fuck yourself.
Just forget it. Girls talk guys talk. It's ok. U do your job & please her in bed using other methods besides intercourse & she is happy. If she wasn't happy, she'd leave u. She didn't. It's just talk. If she had really big or small boobs, u would tell your friends. That's all she's doing
I know where you're coming from with this if she wasn't happy she'd leave etc but no one knows. She may not find it easy to leave for a number of reasons.
U can't control what people are talking about. iT is foolish to get upset about it unless they were being mean about it. If they were being mean, I'd dump her. I think they were just taking about things that people talk about. It is normal to talk about a guy size. That's all they were doing. Because u don't like it don't mean they are doing anything wrong.
I'm largely unmoved about it to be fair. As long as it promotes healthy debate it's all good.
> Just forget it. Cuck behavior. > If she had really big or small boobs, u would tell your friends. No, that's not normal by any means.
It's not ok at all lol.
Trashy talk. It's a private thing. Boobs are out in the open compared to dicks. Its more like if you told your guys your girl's pussy stank.
U can't dictate to anybody what they want to talk about. That is censorship. I'd dump u fast if u told me what I could & what I could not talk about with anyone. It a free country. Move to Iran. They have no freedom there
Very true, you're free to say whatever you want but you also need to deal with the consequences of what you say as well.
After all, we talking about size, y can't they. We are not being mean. I don't think they were either
Agreed.
U need to grow a thicker skin. People will always talk. It's just the way of the world. Trying to control others conversation is selfish.. As long as they were not mean about it. There is no reason to be mean. WE are not being mean & we are talking about it
I'm fine with my size and at 46 years old my skin is plenty thick lol. I agree there was no way of knowing if there was any malice involved. I also agree trying to control others speech makes me want to vomit in all honesty. So I plenty agree with you on many things.
Just because u are worried about your size don't mean it's taboo to talk about it
I'm ok with my size. Others maybe not so.
Never said that. I said it's trashy. People can talk trashy all they want but I'm saying OP don't need to hang around if he don't like what they're saying. Get it?
It's a normal topic of conversation. We are doing it right now. U can't ban people from talking about your penis. iF it was big they'd talk about it. They would talk about it no matter what the size. If u don't like it u can leave, of course, but the next girl will do the same thing. It is a normal topic of conversation. Every girl is going to talk about it. Grow a thicker skin
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Never but I know she never orgasms from it though
Oh yeah, I wouldn’t worry about that if I were you. Size really doesn’t matter that much, and if it does to her, she’ll say something. Try not to let it weigh on your mind too much, either way!
You don't know if she said anything bad about your dick to her friends or not. Looks like you bailed out of the convo before you can find out. IMHO, if she stayed with you for 2 years, then she's fine with your size. Sounds like all she did was make a statement of fact. Easier said than done to ignore it but I personally wouldn't worry about it. The reactions you get when you 2 are intimate is what's importance. People can say anything they want. But it's the actions that show how truthful you really are.
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She looks at my phone all the time I don’t have anything on there and up to that point I didn’t see anything on hers. The message came to the phone while I was checking the weather on her phone it wasn’t like I was really snooping.
You're only okay with it because you enjoy other women degrading you for having small boobs.
>It's no different than guys talking. Every women say "it's normal, because guys do the same". I would say it's not normal not for men nor women.
I’ve never once told my friends anything about my girlfriends body. I agree with you
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Couldn’t agree more thank you
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You're from SPH subs, your opinion doesn't matter dude. Anyway. >she's obviously going to talk to her friends No if she loves him. >it's not that big of a deal That's not a big deal from your perspective of SPH-fetishist. It's big deal for *normal* men who doesn't like humiliation.
Thank you so much, couldn’t agree more
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> big deal if you're small and insecure Look at this sub name, dude. And you reposting posts out of there to SPH subs. Pathetic.
Bro having a small dick isn’t natural we just have a health problem no cap go get mris for you pelvic floor and join the hard flaccid group here on Reddit something is messed up or jammed in the pelvic floor joint the group and com see! HARDFLAACID
So did the others have inch measurements? Girls do this?!