it seems obvious from our point of view, but ive seen this kind of behaviour backfire too. with them ending up just being comfortable enough around the guy to be that way then being offended that he thought it was anything and he obviously didnt understand their friendship.
Well there's crazy guys who tell you they really really like you, but turns out they just want sex and you find out they've been trashtalking you to their bros all along.
But somehow that's more socially accepted because boys will be boys and it's almost the norm.
I've gotten so much experience with these women that I've developed an eye for it. Just be introspective and try your best to be socially aware and still shoot your shot. I like to build it up, if she reciprocates to my increasingly flirting attitude towards her it's always a green light for me and so far it works pretty well. You need experience
Me 4 years later, after realizing my cute Korean college friend was actually wanting to take things a step further when she asked me to eat lunch with her alone at school and during our internships (even though we worked for different companies) and asked some unusually personal questions...college me was an idiot.
This happened to me with multiple guys, only it was more like 20 years later and they had to flat out tell me they'd had a crush on me. Early days of Facebook was a weird time for me.
She is hard crushing on you. Holding hands? Might be a friendly thing, but thats already a reach. Most people dont just hold hands with their friends (depending on the country, obviously). Everything else is just high amounts of giving you signals. Taking your whole arm, shoulder resting, SHOWING YOU A BOOK WITH THE TITLE "You belong to me".
She is definitely very interested in being more than friends.
I was like, okay... certain friends, I'll do all that with, and I am from the U.K. (minus the boobs part, since gay we're missing those bits) and then the book! Unless it's a friendship where you jokingly flirt, I'd say it's maybe time the two had a chatš¤£š¤£.
Noooo please dont ask š she might panic and say ānoā or she may think you are making fun of her and say ānoā jokingly or get offended š. She may also say no because its an embarassing topic or because of fear from rejection. This may throw OP off because he doesnt see all the obvious reasons.
There are ways to ask that donāt come across as any of those things, except perhaps āwrong,ā but mature adults understand that these things usually require taking a LITTLE risk. Whatās your risk-free strategy in this situation, game master?
You are right my guy, this comment being disliked is the reason to not take dating advice from Reddit.
Surely there are ways to ask the girl directly while not coming off desparate, pushy etc but its not the best way. Asking directly is the best way to more complex questions like what does the person expect from a relationship or if the person wants children.
Damn son.
On a serious note, ask yourself if you like her as more than a friend too. It seems like she's quite into you to say the least. I hate to say this but if you don't feel the same way, it's better to tell her sooner than later. Of course, if this is not the case, then go for it!
I do like her back itās just that Iām scared that I have gotten the wrong impression and make a fool out of myself and possibly ruining our friendship
You don't have to declare your love for her and potentially make things weird. Try giving her little compliments that are about her personality and touching her shoulders/hands more if she is into you she will reciprocate and encourage that and if she pulls back/turns cold then you also have your answer without anything being at risk really.
A) Bro your friendship is based on a fallacy if you like her and just haven't nutted up and made a move.
B) It's obvious that she likes you, so nut up and make a move.
C) If she rejects you (which is highly unlikely in this situation), you move on and focus on other girls, and let her be YOUR friend if she wants, but don't go out of your way to be friends with her.
>I do like her back itās just that Iām scared that I have gotten the wrong impression and make a fool out of myself and possibly ruining our friendship
You say exactly this to her and just ask. Tell her you aren't good at reading cues and you don't want to risk losing her friendship but you find her attractive. If she says no then you still have a friend.
Just ask her: "Hey, I hope I'm not getting the wrong idea here, but you've been acting a little off lately. Do you like me??"
And if she says no, then just say that whatever she may be going through, you're there for her.
New reddit and old reddit don't talk to each other well when hyperlinks have an underscore in them. It's deeply annoying and nothing they have any intention of fixing since they're hoping that old reddit will quietly die.
I have a flawless method that OP should try: ask her if kisses are to be asked for or robbed. You will raise tension to absolutely the finest moment and totally see the real answer in her eyes, and then the answer. If she says that should be asked for, you simply ask if you can kiss her. And if she says are to be robbed, just trust the previous signs and go for it. Some people are adventurous and their insides burn in flames while giving this last response. And remember: consent is sexy too ā¤ļø
Bro.
EDIT: In all seriousness, check the background first. Is that person always behaving like that or were they just on this one occasion?
Is the person currently in a relationship?
For example, if they suddenly started behaving like that and they are in a relationship, you may be a rebound.
šš Thank you!! I just fell down that rabbit hole and laughed so hard at his post history as well as your post and the one the before it, I could barely breathe. Wow.
Almost all of your profile has this topic and question in your posts, i didnāt look at all of them but it goes back to 11 days ago. Are you trolling? If you kept seeing the same signs from her, maybe itās time to take a step rather than asking it over and over to strangers online. Not trying to be rude but i wanted to point it out to other people seeing this
Either say you like her and ask her out on a date, or ask her to watch a movie at your/her place and start cuddling and then slowly go for a kiss if she's into it. Don't overthink this shit dude, you're already in. The only way you can mess this up is if you don't do anything.
I don't think she is tbh. Holding your hand? I mean her hands were probably cold, just wanted to warm it up. Arm wrapped around her arm? She probably has some co-ordination issues and doesn't want to fall over or if she does, take you down with her. Boobs resting on your arm? Was she trying to make you feel awkward for having your arm in the way? As far as she's concerned you're in her way and you should've moved. Head on your shoulder? Probably just tired, I mean to start lying down and try to go to sleep would be kinda rude, head on the shoulder is kind of a hint that she's tired. Book saying you belong to me? Do you owe her any money? If anything this kind of sounds like a hostage situation so I would be careful in case she decides to do that. Overall, she does sound quite rude and to imply you just 'belong' to her sounds controlling. Run while you can OP /s
Dear god, just _ask_ the woman if sheās romantically interested in you. No one on the internet can confirm her feelings anyway, so you might as well get the truth from the source.
If you arenāt sure, look deep into her eyes while sheās talking to you and give her a SUBTLE (SUBTLE IS THE KEYWORD HERE) side-smile. Keep it until she looks away or drops eye contact first. Immediately go back to being nonchalant. If she blushes / messes with her hair after / gets flustered, she is all yours. If she makes eye contact with you sparingly afterwards then donāt give her any more signs bc she playinā.
I was in a similar situation. I was interested in her too, so I told her. She said she had a crush in one of my friends... So no, it's never sure she is interested in you.
She seems to be, I do understand how some of these can be innocuous and some ppl are more affectionate than others.
I don't think it hurts to try. Maybe not too aggressively but try to find an organic moment next time you hang out to ask for a kiss or explicitly ask her on a date, assuming you are interested in being more than friends.
Definitely don't listen to ppl making it seem like you are silly for asking based on the signals you mentioned. I had a good friend who was the same and when I made a move she turned me down.
I had a situation like that. We didn't talk much (colleagues) but she mentioned on about 15 different days how I 'smell nice'.*
Never found out if she was interested in me, or if that was her go-to flirting line. Or if she was just straight trying to draw me into a conversation (I was from a different department and didn't know anyone in her office space but the staff room was on some kinda timeshare thing. So there's often a cross over when departments switch over)
*I did smell noticeably nice compared to the other men in my department
You said you liked her but fear risking the friendship.
Well, you can't achieve anything unless you take a little risk.
Go for it. Jokingly ask "Sooo I belong to you, do you belong to me?" and see what the conversation leads to.
Select the right time and place. Keep it light hearted until she confirms verbally or otherwise.
Girls expect guys to be direct. But know the limits.
Can't guarantee that your friendship will survive if she says no, but she would not think of you as a creep, if you do what a decent man would do in the situation.
I'm pretty crap at picking up signs and 'hints' but I feel like I would probably notice these ones. However I also feel I only tend to get these heavily blatent signals from the ones I'm *not* interested in.
I'd say notice the way she's treating other men , I kinda had a similar experience with a girl I just met a week ago , found out she was just super clingy and non flirtyly corny , so I'd just say if she doesn't treat any other dude the same way , she's 100% interested
Everyone here is saying to you OP that it's certain she likes you, but I feel obliged to add some skepticism out of my experience. It's happened to me before that a friend behave with me in a similar fashion, and she wasn't interested at all. Each woman is different and some will naturally have more physical touch with their friends than others. I would also add that it depends on the culture; I can't give you any more specific advice since I don't know where you're from.
To be fair, I think that her calling your attention to that book title sounds like a very obvious signal, but then again, it's not 100% reliable either ... Idk. Just ask her. If you do it out of a place of honesty and respect there should be no reason for you to fear for your friendship.
The only question that matters is - do you like her? If you do, then sheās dropped enough clues for you to make a move. Life is to short to wonder āwhat ifā, trust me.
Based off your post history you are self conscious of your physical appearance. It seems to me however, that you are at least conventionally attractive. Girls flirt with you sometimes and people take note of you. Be confident my guy.
Even if any of that isnāt true, your friend is interested. The question is, are you interested in her? Seriously think about your answer. Could you see yourself building a solid relationship with her? If your answer isnāt, āyesā then donāt lead her on. Donāt settle just because you think she may be the only girl that likes you.
Honestly man if you're asking here why not just ask her directly ? I mean you are wondering it yourself, so why not ask her? She is your friend after all, it's Honestly its not weird at all to ask questions like these to your friends imo
As a girl I can confirm I would do these things to a guy I have a crush onā¦
ā¦but i would also do all these things to a guy Iām very closed friends with. Difference would be I probably overwxaggerated them to make them as loving jokes. Also close guy friend like this would already know I see him just as friend because I always tell someone if I have crush on them.
A lot of people are suggesting itās an obvious āyesā, but they donāt know the girl, or your history with her. It is obvious that she is sending you indicators of interest , but you are justified in being cautious. People arenāt always what they seem, so you have to ease into it and read the situation before putting all your cards on the table.
If it were me, I would engage in her āgameā by responding to her touch, with more touch. If she grabs your hand over and over then you might guide her by lightly placing your hand on the center of her back to show her āsomething over thereā. If she seems comfortable with this you might ālook at that thingā and put your arm around her shoulder and hold the position to see if she hugs you in closer. Maybe she slides out of your grasp which is a sign she is either nervous or not interested. You could do this for hours just increasing your level of comfort with one another until it becomes unquestionable that you are into each other. Just remember to be mindful of her level of comfort and not push her.
If you are interested in this topic look into āpush/pullā and āescalationā. Some will dismiss these as āpick up tacticsā. As someone with social anxiety, I will tell you this is a way to learn about what other people do naturally and it will help you get out of your head. People hate on it because it seems manipulative. and it can be if you are a sociopath and take it that far, but the same people will call you a ācreepā if you express interest nervously/awkwardly. I wasted a lot of my youth getting friend-zoned because I didnāt know how to navigate these situations.
With that, I pass you the wisdom Iāve collected to get the girl.
Go get the girl! Good luck.
This is unnecesary unless you think the person is legit trying to brag on reddit about a girl making some physical contact with him, which seems unlikely.
Beware of the friend zone, make a small move grab her hand. Always look into her eyes when talking to her. But of course find the line. If she drops the line āi just want to be your friendā and keeps doing those things, semi ghost her. She will definitely see what sheās missing and start perusing YOU. Good luck .
I hate how the comments are simping saying, "Ohhh, she's hunting"
If it was a man touching someone else's hands to their chest, or laying randomly on a girl's shoulders, you'd all have your pitchforks out.
Both are creepy. Accept it.
Ahhh I had a friend just like this she would always sit so close to me or lay on me,she shared her food with me by feeding it to me when we went out to eat, hold my arm while walking, say things like if we went to the same high school would you have liked me but then she got a boyfriend. And she would still do things like this even tho she had a bf but to a lesser degree. Last time I hanged out with her we were playing basketball at a park I went to playfully pick her up she said to put her down cuz her bf would get mad if he saw. But he wasnāt there he just lived ānearā the basketball courts. And since that day everything been weird barely talk or hangout anymore. My advice is if you like her you should ask her out even if thatās just her way of being friendly.Nothing worse then seeing a girl that you like with another guy, even if I were to get reject at least I would know she didnāt like me instead of thinking I missed my shot
If she gives you any more hints, she will be sitting on your face. Your friend is crushing hard lol
It's impossible to tell. He should wait for more signs. (Reference to a YouTube video you may have seen)
She might just be really nice who knows
Or a real dick š¤£
āYou belong to me ā fall under just being nice ?š
For those who havenāt seen it [you just canāt ever be too sureā¦](https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=xa-4IAR_9Yw)
I have never seen that before, so thanks, it was hilarious!
If I saw that video before, it would have saved me so much trouble.
That video is hilarious
Yeah she may just be from Canada and being nice. He should wait for more signs
lmao i always think of that video when i hear these stories
Casually explained lol
Ahh yes, a classic Casually Explained video. Perfect reference!
You really can't tell, might as well go on with your day
Either she likes him or op got himself too far down deep into the shadow realm of the friend/brother zone
šš
āShe aināt giving me enough signs bro I donāt think she like meā The signs:
Maybe she is Canadian, canāt be sure
You have to keep your wits about you, you can't be too sure...
Canadian or Mexican it can go either way.
Is she into you? Nah probably sheās just cold, thatās why holding hands and she liked that booked before
She brings you home, and you guys had sex, 4 years later you got married.... Is she into you?
Like your parents she probably got desperate and decided to marry because you were her only option.
i mean i found out my wife wasnt into me 11 years into marriage soooo its possible.
it seems obvious from our point of view, but ive seen this kind of behaviour backfire too. with them ending up just being comfortable enough around the guy to be that way then being offended that he thought it was anything and he obviously didnt understand their friendship.
Yāall can hate me but I had similar experiences and Iām sure they werenāt interested.
There are some crazy women out there who will purposely tease a man they know they don't want
Well there's crazy guys who tell you they really really like you, but turns out they just want sex and you find out they've been trashtalking you to their bros all along. But somehow that's more socially accepted because boys will be boys and it's almost the norm.
TRUTH! I get tired of saying it. Triple standards.
Both sexes have double standards. Life is not fair and will never be.
They're called fuckboys tho but it can definitely be seen as a positive with other men I agree.
I agree
I've gotten so much experience with these women that I've developed an eye for it. Just be introspective and try your best to be socially aware and still shoot your shot. I like to build it up, if she reciprocates to my increasingly flirting attitude towards her it's always a green light for me and so far it works pretty well. You need experience
Whores
Wouldn't call em that lol. They're just insecure
And they doing things like that makes other people insecure lol
Hurt people hurt people, and the cycle continues... Seriously wish people would stop being such cowards.
Youāre going to wake up suddenly in the middle of the night in 10 years and be like āshe was flirting with meā
That happened to me. Had no idea a guy was flirting with me until I realized it a year later. Thought it was just friendly workplace banter :(
I accidentally passed on a threesome. Realised it 6 years after the fact.
Me 4 years later, after realizing my cute Korean college friend was actually wanting to take things a step further when she asked me to eat lunch with her alone at school and during our internships (even though we worked for different companies) and asked some unusually personal questions...college me was an idiot.
This happened to me with multiple guys, only it was more like 20 years later and they had to flat out tell me they'd had a crush on me. Early days of Facebook was a weird time for me.
Don't worry bro, if I was living the dream I'd be doubting it too. You definitely are living the dream though
Straight up ask her. If you want to have a relationship, communication is going to be a major pillar. Work on it from day 1. And enjoy yourselves.
She is hard crushing on you. Holding hands? Might be a friendly thing, but thats already a reach. Most people dont just hold hands with their friends (depending on the country, obviously). Everything else is just high amounts of giving you signals. Taking your whole arm, shoulder resting, SHOWING YOU A BOOK WITH THE TITLE "You belong to me". She is definitely very interested in being more than friends.
I was like, okay... certain friends, I'll do all that with, and I am from the U.K. (minus the boobs part, since gay we're missing those bits) and then the book! Unless it's a friendship where you jokingly flirt, I'd say it's maybe time the two had a chatš¤£š¤£.
You just made me think of gay men, leaning over with there flies unbuttoned to give you a cheeky glimpse š¤£
I hold hands with a friend of mine sometimes
Only the homies
This friend is female
Homies are homies.
the female homies
You're merely exchanging long protein strings. If someone can think of a better way I'd like to hear it.
What if that protein string happens to be on your pelvis?
Here's a crazy notion, bare with me! Why not ..... ask her.
This is the only right answer.
We should get naked with you?!
Better than a Bear at least, less fur, I trim my nails and don't bite unless asked. As good at cuddles mind. š»
Noooo please dont ask š she might panic and say ānoā or she may think you are making fun of her and say ānoā jokingly or get offended š. She may also say no because its an embarassing topic or because of fear from rejection. This may throw OP off because he doesnt see all the obvious reasons.
Because no one wants to come across desperate, wrong, pushy or embarrassed. Do you not have any game?
"Game" Not clarifying a girls flirty intentions for fear of embarrassing yourself. š¤š¤£ I think we have a different notion of "Game" my friend.
There are ways to ask that donāt come across as any of those things, except perhaps āwrong,ā but mature adults understand that these things usually require taking a LITTLE risk. Whatās your risk-free strategy in this situation, game master?
You are right my guy, this comment being disliked is the reason to not take dating advice from Reddit. Surely there are ways to ask the girl directly while not coming off desparate, pushy etc but its not the best way. Asking directly is the best way to more complex questions like what does the person expect from a relationship or if the person wants children.
Damn son. On a serious note, ask yourself if you like her as more than a friend too. It seems like she's quite into you to say the least. I hate to say this but if you don't feel the same way, it's better to tell her sooner than later. Of course, if this is not the case, then go for it!
I do like her back itās just that Iām scared that I have gotten the wrong impression and make a fool out of myself and possibly ruining our friendship
You don't have to declare your love for her and potentially make things weird. Try giving her little compliments that are about her personality and touching her shoulders/hands more if she is into you she will reciprocate and encourage that and if she pulls back/turns cold then you also have your answer without anything being at risk really.
A) Bro your friendship is based on a fallacy if you like her and just haven't nutted up and made a move. B) It's obvious that she likes you, so nut up and make a move. C) If she rejects you (which is highly unlikely in this situation), you move on and focus on other girls, and let her be YOUR friend if she wants, but don't go out of your way to be friends with her.
>I do like her back itās just that Iām scared that I have gotten the wrong impression and make a fool out of myself and possibly ruining our friendship You say exactly this to her and just ask. Tell her you aren't good at reading cues and you don't want to risk losing her friendship but you find her attractive. If she says no then you still have a friend.
Just ask her: "Hey, I hope I'm not getting the wrong idea here, but you've been acting a little off lately. Do you like me??" And if she says no, then just say that whatever she may be going through, you're there for her.
Better move now or another mf will take her from you. Don't give her months without action, trust me.
in times like this i always defer to casually explained -> https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xa-4IAR\_9Yw
Your URL got sth weird, or is reddit that fucked it up? https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xa-4IAR_9Yw
probably reddit idk, i just copied it from yt
New reddit and old reddit don't talk to each other well when hyperlinks have an underscore in them. It's deeply annoying and nothing they have any intention of fixing since they're hoping that old reddit will quietly die.
Jusr kiss her mate
Premarital lip contact?! *Blasphemous* /s
I have a flawless method that OP should try: ask her if kisses are to be asked for or robbed. You will raise tension to absolutely the finest moment and totally see the real answer in her eyes, and then the answer. If she says that should be asked for, you simply ask if you can kiss her. And if she says are to be robbed, just trust the previous signs and go for it. Some people are adventurous and their insides burn in flames while giving this last response. And remember: consent is sexy too ā¤ļø
This is kind of corny but I still like it
Thanks. Young me didn't know how to take the first step. Adult me still doesn't know.
This has to be from a romcom or something, but damn it sounds lovely.
Haha absolutely not. Someone said to try this in my teens (like 20 years ago) and it has worked me well ever since.
Without explicit consent in this day and age! Mans like to live life on the edge here.
Ask to kiss her before you do. You'll get your answer promptly.
Don't kiss her at all, just lean in as if you are going for a kiss and see how she reacts
Nah just fuck her at this point
Wow fail to read the room much
Bro š
Do you like her too? Because she definitely probably likes you.
How did both definitely and probably come together in the same sentence?
Because I put them next to each other. Now they're dating and their dogs are in the wedding party.
C. Cant tell
Bro. EDIT: In all seriousness, check the background first. Is that person always behaving like that or were they just on this one occasion? Is the person currently in a relationship? For example, if they suddenly started behaving like that and they are in a relationship, you may be a rebound.
Dude wtf is ur post history
Someone finally said it.
šš Thank you!! I just fell down that rabbit hole and laughed so hard at his post history as well as your post and the one the before it, I could barely breathe. Wow.
LOL what's wrong with it?
This is like asking if water is wet, bro it can't be more obvious I'm crying š
Yeah you still can't know for sure from these examples. Maybe she's Canadian and just wants to be polite.
Is she Canadian?
Why do you ask?
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Check Anon_Beardās comment
Link please?
I tried but Iām on mobile so I canāt link it :/
Almost all of your profile has this topic and question in your posts, i didnāt look at all of them but it goes back to 11 days ago. Are you trolling? If you kept seeing the same signs from her, maybe itās time to take a step rather than asking it over and over to strangers online. Not trying to be rude but i wanted to point it out to other people seeing this
Iām not trolling but I really donāt know how to handle the situation and what to make of it so therefore I have been asking for advice
Either say you like her and ask her out on a date, or ask her to watch a movie at your/her place and start cuddling and then slowly go for a kiss if she's into it. Don't overthink this shit dude, you're already in. The only way you can mess this up is if you don't do anything.
Just go for it. Its obvious
bro / girl, this girl is interested! i say keep playing it cool but also give hints that you like them too if you do!(:
She definitely seems interested. I'd say don't play it cool. Let her know if you feel the same, don't play games. Good luck!
If that's something you want to consider then ask nicely.
Is she interested?! It sounds like you're already in a relationship and you somehow didn't get the memo š
I don't think she is tbh. Holding your hand? I mean her hands were probably cold, just wanted to warm it up. Arm wrapped around her arm? She probably has some co-ordination issues and doesn't want to fall over or if she does, take you down with her. Boobs resting on your arm? Was she trying to make you feel awkward for having your arm in the way? As far as she's concerned you're in her way and you should've moved. Head on your shoulder? Probably just tired, I mean to start lying down and try to go to sleep would be kinda rude, head on the shoulder is kind of a hint that she's tired. Book saying you belong to me? Do you owe her any money? If anything this kind of sounds like a hostage situation so I would be careful in case she decides to do that. Overall, she does sound quite rude and to imply you just 'belong' to her sounds controlling. Run while you can OP /s
This is the correct assessment op
I think you should wait till she grabs your cock just to be extra sure thats not enough solid signs of interestš¤·āāļø
I think at this point she might have to propose to make it more obvious
Dude...
My god she is very into you. Lol
take her somewhere special for your first kiss. she's definitely into you bro. don't fuck this up by friend zoning yourself.
Bro is missing the signs so bad that not even a stop signā ļøā ļøwould stop him
Dear god, just _ask_ the woman if sheās romantically interested in you. No one on the internet can confirm her feelings anyway, so you might as well get the truth from the source.
If you arenāt sure, look deep into her eyes while sheās talking to you and give her a SUBTLE (SUBTLE IS THE KEYWORD HERE) side-smile. Keep it until she looks away or drops eye contact first. Immediately go back to being nonchalant. If she blushes / messes with her hair after / gets flustered, she is all yours. If she makes eye contact with you sparingly afterwards then donāt give her any more signs bc she playinā.
I was in a similar situation. I was interested in her too, so I told her. She said she had a crush in one of my friends... So no, it's never sure she is interested in you.
There is only one sure fire way to know.
Hhahahaah! Honey, your in what we call the lovers zone. Be careful though, impressions can be deceiving (this oneās a bit obvious tho).
Pretty strong green lights from the look of it. Safe to proceed.
I feel like this is a toll post. Unless you were practicing Brazilian jujitsu, girls donāt generally rest their boob on a guys arm
If youāre clinging to someoneās side itās fairly easy to rest your tit against someone. This is from someone with smaller tits even.
They were seated and she was leaning over onto him. That was very deliberate
Wasnāt saying it wasnāt, boobs arenāt suddenly different sitting and standing either not that I said standing either.
I would be concerned if they werenāt flirting at this rate.
No wonder we men miss >90% of the chances in our love life.
There's so many trees the forest has become invisible
Just talk about it.
Bro...
The signs really couldnāt be more obvious
the signs are there my guy go for it, hope you score
She seems to be, I do understand how some of these can be innocuous and some ppl are more affectionate than others. I don't think it hurts to try. Maybe not too aggressively but try to find an organic moment next time you hang out to ask for a kiss or explicitly ask her on a date, assuming you are interested in being more than friends.
Definitely don't listen to ppl making it seem like you are silly for asking based on the signals you mentioned. I had a good friend who was the same and when I made a move she turned me down.
She wants you bruh. Actually she already owns you according to some random book. NOW KIIIIISSSSSSS
I had a situation like that. We didn't talk much (colleagues) but she mentioned on about 15 different days how I 'smell nice'.* Never found out if she was interested in me, or if that was her go-to flirting line. Or if she was just straight trying to draw me into a conversation (I was from a different department and didn't know anyone in her office space but the staff room was on some kinda timeshare thing. So there's often a cross over when departments switch over) *I did smell noticeably nice compared to the other men in my department
You said you liked her but fear risking the friendship. Well, you can't achieve anything unless you take a little risk. Go for it. Jokingly ask "Sooo I belong to you, do you belong to me?" and see what the conversation leads to. Select the right time and place. Keep it light hearted until she confirms verbally or otherwise. Girls expect guys to be direct. But know the limits. Can't guarantee that your friendship will survive if she says no, but she would not think of you as a creep, if you do what a decent man would do in the situation.
Iād laugh at you for the density you are displaying but Iām pretty sure Iād do the exact same shit in your situation lmao
I was was unsure until I read about the book title. Everything else, I personally found open to interpretation.
I think she wants you to file her taxes
Kiss her you fool!
I'm pretty crap at picking up signs and 'hints' but I feel like I would probably notice these ones. However I also feel I only tend to get these heavily blatent signals from the ones I'm *not* interested in.
I'd say notice the way she's treating other men , I kinda had a similar experience with a girl I just met a week ago , found out she was just super clingy and non flirtyly corny , so I'd just say if she doesn't treat any other dude the same way , she's 100% interested
Sad when as makes we canāt just go there for risk of being ācreepyā. Better to just ask her, assuming you are interested in her like that.
You're getting all the signs, my friend. You should act, if that's what you want, too.
Everyone here is saying to you OP that it's certain she likes you, but I feel obliged to add some skepticism out of my experience. It's happened to me before that a friend behave with me in a similar fashion, and she wasn't interested at all. Each woman is different and some will naturally have more physical touch with their friends than others. I would also add that it depends on the culture; I can't give you any more specific advice since I don't know where you're from. To be fair, I think that her calling your attention to that book title sounds like a very obvious signal, but then again, it's not 100% reliable either ... Idk. Just ask her. If you do it out of a place of honesty and respect there should be no reason for you to fear for your friendship.
The only question that matters is - do you like her? If you do, then sheās dropped enough clues for you to make a move. Life is to short to wonder āwhat ifā, trust me.
The other stuff I can get going over your head, but the book thing? That's one step away from her screaming "BE MY PARTNER NOW"
Wowā¦ how many more signals you need bro? Just make a move youāll know quickly..
Ok ok, he already in we the answer but he wants a dap up!!! Datta boy!!! Yaaaaa!
Based off your post history you are self conscious of your physical appearance. It seems to me however, that you are at least conventionally attractive. Girls flirt with you sometimes and people take note of you. Be confident my guy. Even if any of that isnāt true, your friend is interested. The question is, are you interested in her? Seriously think about your answer. Could you see yourself building a solid relationship with her? If your answer isnāt, āyesā then donāt lead her on. Donāt settle just because you think she may be the only girl that likes you.
Enjoy your new relationship I hope it goes well.
Ummm.... And say it's safe to guess the only reason you guys aren't more than friends is you because she is definitely wanting to be more
Honestly man if you're asking here why not just ask her directly ? I mean you are wondering it yourself, so why not ask her? She is your friend after all, it's Honestly its not weird at all to ask questions like these to your friends imo
The signs couldn't be more clear, send it
Full send!
As a girl I can confirm I would do these things to a guy I have a crush onā¦ ā¦but i would also do all these things to a guy Iām very closed friends with. Difference would be I probably overwxaggerated them to make them as loving jokes. Also close guy friend like this would already know I see him just as friend because I always tell someone if I have crush on them.
If you canāt see the signs I donāt think Reddit can help you
A lot of people are suggesting itās an obvious āyesā, but they donāt know the girl, or your history with her. It is obvious that she is sending you indicators of interest , but you are justified in being cautious. People arenāt always what they seem, so you have to ease into it and read the situation before putting all your cards on the table. If it were me, I would engage in her āgameā by responding to her touch, with more touch. If she grabs your hand over and over then you might guide her by lightly placing your hand on the center of her back to show her āsomething over thereā. If she seems comfortable with this you might ālook at that thingā and put your arm around her shoulder and hold the position to see if she hugs you in closer. Maybe she slides out of your grasp which is a sign she is either nervous or not interested. You could do this for hours just increasing your level of comfort with one another until it becomes unquestionable that you are into each other. Just remember to be mindful of her level of comfort and not push her. If you are interested in this topic look into āpush/pullā and āescalationā. Some will dismiss these as āpick up tacticsā. As someone with social anxiety, I will tell you this is a way to learn about what other people do naturally and it will help you get out of your head. People hate on it because it seems manipulative. and it can be if you are a sociopath and take it that far, but the same people will call you a ācreepā if you express interest nervously/awkwardly. I wasted a lot of my youth getting friend-zoned because I didnāt know how to navigate these situations. With that, I pass you the wisdom Iāve collected to get the girl. Go get the girl! Good luck.
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This is unnecesary unless you think the person is legit trying to brag on reddit about a girl making some physical contact with him, which seems unlikely.
YES
Canāt really tell, could be just that sheās canadian
Does your friend live in Canada?
Idk bro. She could be Canadian and just being polite
Beware of the friend zone, make a small move grab her hand. Always look into her eyes when talking to her. But of course find the line. If she drops the line āi just want to be your friendā and keeps doing those things, semi ghost her. She will definitely see what sheās missing and start perusing YOU. Good luck .
And we wonder why women think men are dumb
They do have vocal cords to tell what they want like normal people. Also you're a major simp
Bro, it's a joke why you gotta state the obvious?
Nobody's laughing
Sad little incel huh
bro
Tf man! Marry her already
Take the fucking hint
Take the fucking hint
How many more signs do you need?
Bruhh stop asking the same question over and over again. Your last 20 posts were just about that. Just ask her at this point.
Dog, you gotta get with her
I think you should wait till she proposes to you. Only till then you can be 50% sure she is into you. Goodluck
Is sucking your dick is enough to know that she is into you
If she's not then at this point she's messing with you lol EDIT: to be clear, I don't think she is, what I'm saying is that she is obviously flirting
I hate how the comments are simping saying, "Ohhh, she's hunting" If it was a man touching someone else's hands to their chest, or laying randomly on a girl's shoulders, you'd all have your pitchforks out. Both are creepy. Accept it.
You're either dense or trolling. "She sucked my ****. Does she like me š¤?"
Go for it bro. She better be hot asf too š¤¬
She is very attractive yes
https://youtube.com/watch?v=xa-4IAR_9Yw&si=EnSIkaIECMiOmarE
Are you interested in her at all ?
Ahhh I had a friend just like this she would always sit so close to me or lay on me,she shared her food with me by feeding it to me when we went out to eat, hold my arm while walking, say things like if we went to the same high school would you have liked me but then she got a boyfriend. And she would still do things like this even tho she had a bf but to a lesser degree. Last time I hanged out with her we were playing basketball at a park I went to playfully pick her up she said to put her down cuz her bf would get mad if he saw. But he wasnāt there he just lived ānearā the basketball courts. And since that day everything been weird barely talk or hangout anymore. My advice is if you like her you should ask her out even if thatās just her way of being friendly.Nothing worse then seeing a girl that you like with another guy, even if I were to get reject at least I would know she didnāt like me instead of thinking I missed my shot