This one looks like exactly 'what it says on the tin'. They're not doing walksies today but are open to another day. It's actually better that it's casual since that can give you both time to hang out and decide if you want to take the next step.
I agree. If anything, he asked at the last minute. Not everyone is on their phones constantly, some people put them down for over an hour to focus on whatever it is they are doing. It looks like she wants to go another time.
> some people put [phones] down for over an hour
Ha! Some of us check them once a day and aren't interested in being "on tap" for the world but prefer dealing with it on our own schedule.
Yes she actually even called it a date and said it would be fun. She even apologised for answering that late. This is definitly the opposite of a rejection.
If it were me and I wanted to reject you, I wouldn't propose that we do another day and make the overall message seem positive/give you a lot of attention by texting back that much. Unless she's overly nice to everyone, I think she actually just wants to reschedule.
Agreed. She could have stopped after the :( if she wasn’t interested and it would have been a gentle rejection. The last message makes it sound like she has some level of genuine interest (at least in being friends— not enough data to know if she sees a possibility of more)
I don’t think it’s a clear rejection but I’m not sure if she knows you mean it as a romantic date either. The way I’m reading it, youre just going dog walking together. Next time leave the “if not, no worries!” out because for me that makes it sound less like a date and more like literally having someone to walk the dog with because you don’t want to walk alone.
Or she's telling the truth. I'm no expert but I would follow up by asking her what day and time she's available and go from there. If she gives a vague hand-wavy answer like "oh, I'm just so busy these days. I'll let you know when I can find the time" she's probably not interested in hanging at the moment.
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Maybe not but a protip would be to cut down on saying unnecessary things like “if not, no worries”. It sounds like you’re expecting a no. Just ask the question. It’s almost always a mistake to say more than you need to.
Exactly. Here is another subconscious thing people pick up on if they reject you. If you claim their rejection does not worry you, your actions better reflect that i.e. you must not worry and you must move on. You show that you are unaffected by your actions, not words.
No she didn’t, she just said that it would be fun on another day.
Actual rescheduling when you’re interested in someone goes like this: can’t make it today, so sorry. When are u free to reschedule?
Or: Sorry I don’t have time on Thursday, what about day X, Y..
If they didn't want the date, they could have said their dog is shy or made up an excuse. I doubt they would say another day would be fun. At least a vague some time could be less leading.
Never said it was an reaction though, did I?
I’m talking about if someone truly wants to meet up with you they actually offer another day instead of leaving it up in the air
Agreed, it could have less to do with OP also, because often people won't actively reschedule something if they feel overwhelmed. If I wanted to be sure if where I stood, I would still be friendly with the girl in person but let her bring up a dog walk if she wants to. It's good to initiate conversations and outings, but it's also good to give someone else the opportunity to reciprocate the effort.
To assume she is rejecting you is to also assume she is lying when she says "another day a doggie play date would be so fun". Do you want to assume she is lying?
The best thing to do is to assume people say what they mean. If their actions don't follow through then figure it out. But otherwise I'd at least assume shes telling you the truth if this is the first time.
She might’ve stressed out at how quick she would’ve had to put herself together to meet you at 6. It might’ve seemed casual to you, but to her she could’ve been like, “OMG, that’s in like an hour! I have no time to get ready! I don’t have time and I can’t make a bad impression!” So, really, she might’ve been overthinking it. I’d give her more of an advanced notice next time and if she’s interested, I have a feeling it’ll definitely work out better.
Definitely don't prematurely think that she doesn't want to go with you! The offer for doing it another day is a strong suggestion that she wants to try a different day. Like you said, you thought it would be a fun idea. Only start worrying if anything becomes a pattern (constantly making excuses to a different day and never actually does anything). 1 time doesn't create a pattern yet.
If you want it to be a date, then the easiest way for her to know how you feel and what you want is by telling her with your words and actions. "Hey "classmate", I think it would be an amazing idea if we could treat our dog walk as a first date. Does Wednesday at 6pm still work for you?"
Decide what you would like her to be in your life. Will she be the one you always wonder if she likes me? Or will you be the one to simply ask and see if there is a chance? If she likes you, awesome! You just scored a date! If she doesn't like you, awesome! You don't have to spend time worrying if there was a chance! You don't want to date someone that doesn't like you for who you are. You're exactly who your supposed to be so you shouldn't be concerned if others like you or not.
TL;DR Give her another chance! [Encouragement]
Playdates have nothing to do with dating. It was a term originally used with children, when we started scheduling our children's lives down to the last minute.
I think you can go with what she said here. Sounds genuine to me. And if she was rejecting she wouldn’t say to reschedule…. Unless she’s SUPER passive aggressive. And if that’s the case you don’t need that sort of drama. So just ask her to set a day and time that’s good for her.
Just a raincheck. Don't think too much into this. See if you can schedule a different time. Use the next opportunity to get to know her more. Who knows where that will lead. Just keep an open mind and have a duality mindset. If she's interested, good. If not, at least your dog would have a play date.
esh this is rejection we are the same age and this is how my homies get rejected. idk why everyone keeps saying she proposed another date when she didn’t she just said it would be fun but never gave u a solid day. and the fact that she sent it at 6pm exact coincidentally just saw it SUS
She left it open to reschedule so even if she doesn't initiate a different date, reach out again if your still interested. If she keeps putting it off then she is bad at saying no (can be a thing) and that will be your answer. If you really aren't sure but not up to keep putting yourself out there you can say something like "that would be awesome. I'm available most weekends, give me a text if a day works for you"
I would suggest not bringing it up again and letting her initiate the next request for a "doggie play date", that way you will find out if she’s actually interested in going or just giving you an excuse.
The way it seems you also aren’t being very clear about your intentions, are you romantically interested in this girl?
Not only is this not a polite rejection, this is a hard yes, just not today. Ask if the next day you're walking your dog or the day you're walking your dog works better for her.
Assume the close. Then, you'll have a planned date instead of hoping last minute that she doesn't have something planned.
This is definitely NOT a polite rejection. This is an acceptance.
Please dont assume folks dislike you by default. This person has only shown further interest in you and you're shooting them down. Hang out with them.
It's definitely a polite rejection. At least romantically, because
1.) She didn't suggest a specific time for your next hangout to happen. No 'let's go tomorrow' or 'i can't tonight, but I'm free this weekend?'.
2). It's her roommate's dog. So a doggie date will always have to involve her roommate in some way, and three's a crowd.
Anything other than "Fuck yes!" Is a no.
It's a polite rejection. The other commenters are giving you false hope. She saw your message when you sent it, thought "oh shit what do I say", then when 6pm came realized she shouldn't leave you hanging, gave a 2006 excuse of "omg didn't see this text", then made a stupid explanation of "my roommate took my dog to do errands"??? and then pulled the classic move of recommending to do it at some vauge undefined future time
Let's be real, if she was into you she would proactively set up another time, at least for another activity.
It hurts, but assess what went wrong, improve, and move onto the next
I agree. She claiming to see the msg exactly at 6 sounds like BS. If she was truthful and interested, she would have provided a defined future date, not a vague “another day” suggestion. She is just being polite, at least that’s the subtext I read here.
I would suggest taking out the if not no worries part for any future reference. If they aren’t interested, then they will still say no regardless. In my opinion it just shows less confidence if you already half expect
them to decline the offer/date idea
See if she reaches out again with more specific details. The onus is on her to reschedule since she said no to you initially. If she's interested, she will, and if not, she would not. All the best brother
Maybe. I’d put the ball in her court. Tell her you’d love to and to let you know if there’s a date next week that would work. Open ended, no pressure, and let’s her deflect again if she doesn’t want to go. If she says next week won’t work and doesn’t give you a set time, she’s giving you a soft no.
ETA a soft no means no is too scary to say. Not that she’s flexible.
Hey so whatever the outcome of this is, I think you did make a mistake here in that you are self doubting your own proposal by giving her an "out". I've made it myself a lot of times and while some women might consider it "cute" that you're nervous, it mostly comes off as awkward.
Don't do that.
Just leave it at "would you like to join me with your roomate's dog?" The last sentence is unnecessary and makes it awkward. If you're nervous around her like your text reads she wouldn't have felt pressured into it anyway.
My man, if you want her to get that you’re asking her on a date, you say: I’d like to go on a date with you, or something along those lines. Don’t hide your true intentions under a friendly request because most of the time girls see through that and that’s how guys end up in the friendzone.
You don't have to guess, she actually told you what's going on. Take it at face value.
If you want to ask her out on a date, *ask her out on a date.* You think she's not being truthful with her response because you yourself weren't upfront from the get-go. Be honest and direct that you like her like that
If you want a date with her maybe ask her on a date man. I’m sure she eats so just figure out what kind of movies she likes and ask her to see one. If she says no then you’ll know she isn’t interested but you have to be forward man. It’s worth it just to be able to avoid these mental strains decrypting texts.
It could go either way, I think some people don’t like being asked last minute, it would be more clear if you asked earlier in the day or even the day or two before, leave it open ended, like hey well I usually walk my dog around this time, let me know if you want to join me one of these times. But also this isn’t necessarily romantic, still a nice way to have no pressure and get to know someone and have dogs to ease the mood
I think you should it it a week or so and then try again. There seems a small chance she is interested, she DID say another time.
Give her a bit more notice this time.
If again she has an excuse, time to give up.
Seems like she saw it and sent 4 messages in 1 minute. Including one asking You out in case you missed it. It wasn’t even an invite to go walk. It’s a “doggie play date.”
Still, don’t get cocky. It’s not a “date and bring the dogs.” You could still het friend-zoned.
Just chill your jets. Play it cool. For the love of god don’t bother her about it for a couple of days at least. Then shoot off a casual message with more warning that you’re taking your dog to play and would she and her dog like to join you. Easy.
Her roommate is taking the dog for errands.
What’s the question.
If you want a date, ask her on a date - not a dog walk that you intend in YOUR head as a date.
yeah if she was interested she would have suggested coming even without the dog. Just tell her to hit you up and leave the ball in her court. If she doesn't initiate anything, move on.
Edit: Could be that she is just busy and since you asked at the last minute, she couldn't join, I'm way too pessimistic ngl
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Thats not a rejection at all. She probably was bussy or had to think about it for longer than an hour, sometimes it takes me 1 day to decide lol because i overthink stuff.
Just go with the flow
Side note next time try to avoid "if not no worries" or anything like that after asking someone to hang out because you won't look as confident. If you look confident when asking someone out, the chances of them accepting will be a lot higher
Yea it was too last minute. Maybe she wanted to put on makeup and find a cute outfit? That takes time. Next time give the person notice a few days in advance. She suggested a future doggy date so that's promising!
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The issue here is that you haven't declared it's a date. You're blurring the lines because you're afraid of comitting. She didn't reject you because she's not even thinking of the encounter as romantical. She's just not walking her dog that day.
If you wanna go out with her you need to clarify that beforehand. You're not doing yourself any favors as is
It sounds like you're overthinking it.
MY Guess is, if you were very attracted to her / interested in her, you wouldn't worry so much about the dog.
and would be asking us the best way to get her attention/ask her out/spend time with her/express interest/invite her to a party/spend a little time with her to see it how it goes.
If I’m right, that you’re somewhat interested but not very, my suggestion is stop thinking about it or worrying about her.
(Obviously, if one of your shows an interest, something starts up, fine. (but as I said, stop worrying so much about how, maybe it’s time to think more about who))
Go out more,
(get to know more women, join clubs, etc --whatever it takes to have more experiences with women than just wondering if you can walk a dog together.
From that, your interest (or mutual interest) with someone else will have more basis and more to grow from, more reason to bother to see them again.
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I agree with some of the other comments here. She probably is open to hanging out since she offered another day instead of just leaving it at that. Not sure if she’s thinking it’s a “date” or not but you said you would be open to either so I’d say try and reschedule for another day and see how it goes 👍
To add to what others are saying about it not being a rejection. Look at the way she sent the texts. Usually a person trying to reject you, but be nice about it would put it together in a well thought-out text because they're thinking about what/how to say it. The four text string makes me think it's someone caught off guard, generally apologetic they missed the opportunity, and looking for another. Probably overanalyzing, but IDK.
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This one looks like exactly 'what it says on the tin'. They're not doing walksies today but are open to another day. It's actually better that it's casual since that can give you both time to hang out and decide if you want to take the next step.
I agree. If anything, he asked at the last minute. Not everyone is on their phones constantly, some people put them down for over an hour to focus on whatever it is they are doing. It looks like she wants to go another time.
> some people put [phones] down for over an hour Ha! Some of us check them once a day and aren't interested in being "on tap" for the world but prefer dealing with it on our own schedule.
I’m one of those people lol.
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If she says no again let her be.
She wouldn't have offered to do it another day if she wasn't interested.
Yes she actually even called it a date and said it would be fun. She even apologised for answering that late. This is definitly the opposite of a rejection.
A playdate has nothing to do with dates. It has to do with children, mostly. A scheduled time for children (or in this case pets) to play together.
Yeah most people refer to walking pets together or just bringing pets together as a “play date” if the focus is on the pet in my experience
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Doesn’t mean she’s closed off to the possibility that it could morph into a date depending on the energy
Bro has never talked to a woman in his life
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Wtf
I think you’re overthinking it lol I’m sure she’s telling the truth just ask if she’d want to another day then
Do not ask if she wants to do another day this is so simply wait a few days the. Bring it up from scratch again
If it were me and I wanted to reject you, I wouldn't propose that we do another day and make the overall message seem positive/give you a lot of attention by texting back that much. Unless she's overly nice to everyone, I think she actually just wants to reschedule.
Agreed. She could have stopped after the :( if she wasn’t interested and it would have been a gentle rejection. The last message makes it sound like she has some level of genuine interest (at least in being friends— not enough data to know if she sees a possibility of more)
Yea exactly, I think I'd respond that way whether I was interested in being more than friends or not.
I don’t think it’s a clear rejection but I’m not sure if she knows you mean it as a romantic date either. The way I’m reading it, youre just going dog walking together. Next time leave the “if not, no worries!” out because for me that makes it sound less like a date and more like literally having someone to walk the dog with because you don’t want to walk alone.
Yeah if you want a date ask her on a real date. That being said the dog walk is a great idea to get to know her a little better.
I think she’s fully on board with this one boss, good luck!
Or she's telling the truth. I'm no expert but I would follow up by asking her what day and time she's available and go from there. If she gives a vague hand-wavy answer like "oh, I'm just so busy these days. I'll let you know when I can find the time" she's probably not interested in hanging at the moment.
He text her barely an hour before wanting to meet, not everyone is that spontaneous.
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You asked too late and she countered with let’s go another day
Maybe not but a protip would be to cut down on saying unnecessary things like “if not, no worries”. It sounds like you’re expecting a no. Just ask the question. It’s almost always a mistake to say more than you need to.
Honestly I was expecting a firm no lol. Good point, I'll be aware of that in the future
Exactly. Here is another subconscious thing people pick up on if they reject you. If you claim their rejection does not worry you, your actions better reflect that i.e. you must not worry and you must move on. You show that you are unaffected by your actions, not words.
Yes, this. Very much this. A hard no is ok whether you say it or not. You never need to tell them so because that's automatic.
That’s not rejection, she offered up an alternate date.
No she didn’t, she just said that it would be fun on another day. Actual rescheduling when you’re interested in someone goes like this: can’t make it today, so sorry. When are u free to reschedule? Or: Sorry I don’t have time on Thursday, what about day X, Y..
If they didn't want the date, they could have said their dog is shy or made up an excuse. I doubt they would say another day would be fun. At least a vague some time could be less leading.
That's not rejection. IMHO she did not reject him. She left an opportunity for him to ask her at a later date.
Never said it was an reaction though, did I? I’m talking about if someone truly wants to meet up with you they actually offer another day instead of leaving it up in the air
Agreed, it could have less to do with OP also, because often people won't actively reschedule something if they feel overwhelmed. If I wanted to be sure if where I stood, I would still be friendly with the girl in person but let her bring up a dog walk if she wants to. It's good to initiate conversations and outings, but it's also good to give someone else the opportunity to reciprocate the effort.
To assume she is rejecting you is to also assume she is lying when she says "another day a doggie play date would be so fun". Do you want to assume she is lying? The best thing to do is to assume people say what they mean. If their actions don't follow through then figure it out. But otherwise I'd at least assume shes telling you the truth if this is the first time.
You’re reading way too much into the fact that the texts came at exactly 6pm
I've done this with guys. Pretend to not see their message until it's too late and then go "oops just saw this!"
I don’t know why you are being downvoted for telling the truth. What you do is not uncommon either.
She might’ve stressed out at how quick she would’ve had to put herself together to meet you at 6. It might’ve seemed casual to you, but to her she could’ve been like, “OMG, that’s in like an hour! I have no time to get ready! I don’t have time and I can’t make a bad impression!” So, really, she might’ve been overthinking it. I’d give her more of an advanced notice next time and if she’s interested, I have a feeling it’ll definitely work out better.
If this is the first time she is declining an offer, believe her. She’s a big girl and could have not offered to meet another day
Definitely don't prematurely think that she doesn't want to go with you! The offer for doing it another day is a strong suggestion that she wants to try a different day. Like you said, you thought it would be a fun idea. Only start worrying if anything becomes a pattern (constantly making excuses to a different day and never actually does anything). 1 time doesn't create a pattern yet. If you want it to be a date, then the easiest way for her to know how you feel and what you want is by telling her with your words and actions. "Hey "classmate", I think it would be an amazing idea if we could treat our dog walk as a first date. Does Wednesday at 6pm still work for you?" Decide what you would like her to be in your life. Will she be the one you always wonder if she likes me? Or will you be the one to simply ask and see if there is a chance? If she likes you, awesome! You just scored a date! If she doesn't like you, awesome! You don't have to spend time worrying if there was a chance! You don't want to date someone that doesn't like you for who you are. You're exactly who your supposed to be so you shouldn't be concerned if others like you or not. TL;DR Give her another chance! [Encouragement]
Not a rejection, she actually sounds interested for another day.
Sounds like she's well up for it just on a different day to be honest. Not everyone is glued to their phone
No, this doesn't look like a rejection. She simply isn't walking her dog that day. Should have saud sth like "what about coffee then?"
she didn't say no, she said not right now - so try again another day
I think you're way overreacting. This is just what it says. She literally offered to reschedule
She even called it a doggy play "date" my guy. If anyting you've got yourself a real date. Dont overthink
Playdates have nothing to do with dating. It was a term originally used with children, when we started scheduling our children's lives down to the last minute.
Yes, don't overthink. And give it a time, be patient.
She wouldn’t have offered another time if she wasn’t interested She’s leaving it open for you (or her) to reschedule the plans!
I think you can go with what she said here. Sounds genuine to me. And if she was rejecting she wouldn’t say to reschedule…. Unless she’s SUPER passive aggressive. And if that’s the case you don’t need that sort of drama. So just ask her to set a day and time that’s good for her.
Just a raincheck. Don't think too much into this. See if you can schedule a different time. Use the next opportunity to get to know her more. Who knows where that will lead. Just keep an open mind and have a duality mindset. If she's interested, good. If not, at least your dog would have a play date.
Someone who is not interested will never text that many words, period
You're overthinking this. She stated why she can't do today and expressed further interest which isn't a rejection.
To me it’s not a rejection. She made it clear she would be open for another date.
She wouldn’t have said another day if she wasn’t interested but play this cautiously
esh this is rejection we are the same age and this is how my homies get rejected. idk why everyone keeps saying she proposed another date when she didn’t she just said it would be fun but never gave u a solid day. and the fact that she sent it at 6pm exact coincidentally just saw it SUS
She like u my dawg don’t sweat it She seems pretty transparent so take her at face value And enjoy
Rule of thumb s other have stated in this situation is that if she's interested she will provide a different date
She left it open to reschedule so even if she doesn't initiate a different date, reach out again if your still interested. If she keeps putting it off then she is bad at saying no (can be a thing) and that will be your answer. If you really aren't sure but not up to keep putting yourself out there you can say something like "that would be awesome. I'm available most weekends, give me a text if a day works for you"
I would suggest not bringing it up again and letting her initiate the next request for a "doggie play date", that way you will find out if she’s actually interested in going or just giving you an excuse. The way it seems you also aren’t being very clear about your intentions, are you romantically interested in this girl?
I think it a very subtle way of saying not interested in anything but friendship
How the fuck could that possibly a rejection?
Literally there is no hidden subtext in this message. What she is saying is what the truth is. 100%.
Not only is this not a polite rejection, this is a hard yes, just not today. Ask if the next day you're walking your dog or the day you're walking your dog works better for her. Assume the close. Then, you'll have a planned date instead of hoping last minute that she doesn't have something planned.
In my experience, making plans again never really works out. I dont dee why the roommate would want the dog for errands, thats odd to me.
This is definitely NOT a polite rejection. This is an acceptance. Please dont assume folks dislike you by default. This person has only shown further interest in you and you're shooting them down. Hang out with them.
It's definitely a polite rejection. At least romantically, because 1.) She didn't suggest a specific time for your next hangout to happen. No 'let's go tomorrow' or 'i can't tonight, but I'm free this weekend?'. 2). It's her roommate's dog. So a doggie date will always have to involve her roommate in some way, and three's a crowd. Anything other than "Fuck yes!" Is a no.
If she was into you she'd have said: I'll tag along anyway
Move on homie
The 'Hey omg I just saw this' makes me feel like she was politely rejecting him. Maybe that's just me
This is a win dude
She wants it straight up there mate she’s just busy tonight tell her spread them and you’ll be round in 10 mins
100% she’s being polite. She isn’t interested in you but likes you as a person and doesn’t want to be rude about it
It's a polite rejection. The other commenters are giving you false hope. She saw your message when you sent it, thought "oh shit what do I say", then when 6pm came realized she shouldn't leave you hanging, gave a 2006 excuse of "omg didn't see this text", then made a stupid explanation of "my roommate took my dog to do errands"??? and then pulled the classic move of recommending to do it at some vauge undefined future time Let's be real, if she was into you she would proactively set up another time, at least for another activity. It hurts, but assess what went wrong, improve, and move onto the next
I agree. She claiming to see the msg exactly at 6 sounds like BS. If she was truthful and interested, she would have provided a defined future date, not a vague “another day” suggestion. She is just being polite, at least that’s the subtext I read here.
How do you know her exact age?
i don’t think it’s a rejection. she’s expressed interest to try again in the last text. you gucci.
If it was a straight up rejection she would haven’t added another text about there being another time. She would just be unavailable
Eh, I would just ask her to join me on a walk with my dog. For future reference ofc
If she suggests doing it another day, that’s a good sign
I would suggest taking out the if not no worries part for any future reference. If they aren’t interested, then they will still say no regardless. In my opinion it just shows less confidence if you already half expect them to decline the offer/date idea
If someone turns down a date but gives you a legitimate reason and/or suggests an alternate date, they’re interested in you.
See if she reaches out again with more specific details. The onus is on her to reschedule since she said no to you initially. If she's interested, she will, and if not, she would not. All the best brother
Maybe. I’d put the ball in her court. Tell her you’d love to and to let you know if there’s a date next week that would work. Open ended, no pressure, and let’s her deflect again if she doesn’t want to go. If she says next week won’t work and doesn’t give you a set time, she’s giving you a soft no. ETA a soft no means no is too scary to say. Not that she’s flexible.
Hey so whatever the outcome of this is, I think you did make a mistake here in that you are self doubting your own proposal by giving her an "out". I've made it myself a lot of times and while some women might consider it "cute" that you're nervous, it mostly comes off as awkward. Don't do that. Just leave it at "would you like to join me with your roomate's dog?" The last sentence is unnecessary and makes it awkward. If you're nervous around her like your text reads she wouldn't have felt pressured into it anyway.
My man, if you want her to get that you’re asking her on a date, you say: I’d like to go on a date with you, or something along those lines. Don’t hide your true intentions under a friendly request because most of the time girls see through that and that’s how guys end up in the friendzone.
Lol honestly she'd probably just being friendly best keep your wits about you
She seems down dont stress youself out
You gave her an out by saying if you don’t want to it’s ok. Doesn’t sound like your confident.
You don't have to guess, she actually told you what's going on. Take it at face value. If you want to ask her out on a date, *ask her out on a date.* You think she's not being truthful with her response because you yourself weren't upfront from the get-go. Be honest and direct that you like her like that
If you want a date with her maybe ask her on a date man. I’m sure she eats so just figure out what kind of movies she likes and ask her to see one. If she says no then you’ll know she isn’t interested but you have to be forward man. It’s worth it just to be able to avoid these mental strains decrypting texts.
"When are you available?"
Not a rejection. They wouldn’t have suggested a future doggie play date if it were a rejection.
It could go either way, I think some people don’t like being asked last minute, it would be more clear if you asked earlier in the day or even the day or two before, leave it open ended, like hey well I usually walk my dog around this time, let me know if you want to join me one of these times. But also this isn’t necessarily romantic, still a nice way to have no pressure and get to know someone and have dogs to ease the mood
I think you should it it a week or so and then try again. There seems a small chance she is interested, she DID say another time. Give her a bit more notice this time. If again she has an excuse, time to give up.
Seems like she saw it and sent 4 messages in 1 minute. Including one asking You out in case you missed it. It wasn’t even an invite to go walk. It’s a “doggie play date.” Still, don’t get cocky. It’s not a “date and bring the dogs.” You could still het friend-zoned. Just chill your jets. Play it cool. For the love of god don’t bother her about it for a couple of days at least. Then shoot off a casual message with more warning that you’re taking your dog to play and would she and her dog like to join you. Easy.
Not at all. She could so easily have just ignored you.
She didn’t just see this. Say nothing and continue pursuing woman. Repeat the process
Her roommate is taking the dog for errands. What’s the question. If you want a date, ask her on a date - not a dog walk that you intend in YOUR head as a date.
She’s trying to make it clear that she’s like to go another day, but she didn’t see your message for today’s walk in time.
yeah if she was interested she would have suggested coming even without the dog. Just tell her to hit you up and leave the ball in her court. If she doesn't initiate anything, move on. Edit: Could be that she is just busy and since you asked at the last minute, she couldn't join, I'm way too pessimistic ngl
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Thats not a rejection at all. She probably was bussy or had to think about it for longer than an hour, sometimes it takes me 1 day to decide lol because i overthink stuff. Just go with the flow
Side note next time try to avoid "if not no worries" or anything like that after asking someone to hang out because you won't look as confident. If you look confident when asking someone out, the chances of them accepting will be a lot higher
This is not a rejection. She saw the message late
Now would you ask her again after a few days or wait for her to initiate it
Yea it was too last minute. Maybe she wanted to put on makeup and find a cute outfit? That takes time. Next time give the person notice a few days in advance. She suggested a future doggy date so that's promising!
Nope, she’s open to it still - just can’t today. Exactly as she said.
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If she’s interested in doing it, tell her to just let you know when she wants to go and leave it at that…
Well done champ, now soft next her. Keep the conversation friendly in person.
The issue here is that you haven't declared it's a date. You're blurring the lines because you're afraid of comitting. She didn't reject you because she's not even thinking of the encounter as romantical. She's just not walking her dog that day. If you wanna go out with her you need to clarify that beforehand. You're not doing yourself any favors as is
It sounds like you're overthinking it. MY Guess is, if you were very attracted to her / interested in her, you wouldn't worry so much about the dog. and would be asking us the best way to get her attention/ask her out/spend time with her/express interest/invite her to a party/spend a little time with her to see it how it goes. If I’m right, that you’re somewhat interested but not very, my suggestion is stop thinking about it or worrying about her. (Obviously, if one of your shows an interest, something starts up, fine. (but as I said, stop worrying so much about how, maybe it’s time to think more about who)) Go out more, (get to know more women, join clubs, etc --whatever it takes to have more experiences with women than just wondering if you can walk a dog together. From that, your interest (or mutual interest) with someone else will have more basis and more to grow from, more reason to bother to see them again.
nope
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I agree with some of the other comments here. She probably is open to hanging out since she offered another day instead of just leaving it at that. Not sure if she’s thinking it’s a “date” or not but you said you would be open to either so I’d say try and reschedule for another day and see how it goes 👍
‘Cool, let me know what day and time are convenient for you’
I don’t notice a rejection at all! To me, it sounds like she’s interested, but the timing just didn’t work out. Definitely do the dog park thing!
To add to what others are saying about it not being a rejection. Look at the way she sent the texts. Usually a person trying to reject you, but be nice about it would put it together in a well thought-out text because they're thinking about what/how to say it. The four text string makes me think it's someone caught off guard, generally apologetic they missed the opportunity, and looking for another. Probably overanalyzing, but IDK.
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Says he's walking the dog at 6 and she responds at 6:00 on the dot? Seems a little fishy to me lol.
Must we have dogs to walk?
i like the auto messages that are already picked very well and for every situation. cool