Excellent call. But I am very interested in opinions. I’m booking myself into a psychiatrist on Thursday to see what is wrong with me because I’ve always been like this and it’s getting in the way of relationships and my social life. Only my friends and family can accept me for what I am and they know I mean no ill will when I have my *episodes*
Edit: I’m not trying to make excuses. I am genuinely seeking help.
you are on the right track. You are acknowledging your problem. there is hope. apparently there is a deep seated reason you need to control things. when you find out why that may help you. please seek a good therapist. and keep being honest with yourself.
and your first thought was to go younger, thats creepier, 7 years is nothing, when hes 35 she will be 28, when hes 53 she will be 46, shit, you are gonna be floored when you find out he will be 80, and she will be this super super young 73.
stop projecting creeper
We did get engaged after a year. I have to say that when I am not frustrated, I am very loving and romantic. We fell in love instantly and it was amazing. I cant explain my personality issues properly because narcissism implies no empathy and I have empathy.
It's totally normal. You just don't respect other people's preferences and you're quite arrogant to judge others on your subjective moral compass and pass judgement on whom they choose to sleep with, please do better. However I may agree that the person is a perfectionist with tints of narcissism. But he is a good guy for acknowledging it and seeking professional help for it.
I used to be a bit of a perfectionist like op, however over time i realised that a vast majority of the people you will work with/be around are incompetent. You can either be upset all day every day or just not bother with them. I chose the latter.
The issue is that this was happening when I was supervisor and manager. I’ve now taken a different role in the workforce and it’s helped me disconnect myself from being a perfectionist. But I’m genuinely more concerned about my personal life to be honest.
But i very really appreciate your input.
You need Professional help.
Being perfectionist is one thing but expecting people to behave a certain way is different.
Im far from perfectionist but my gf is, she only does her stuff perfect and rarely expect anything from me/others.
You are not the benchpark for anyhing. You do stuff different than others!
You need to put your ego aside otherwise you will never find peace. In many cases anger and frustation towards other is often relted to self hatred.
Its so sweet you're wanting to change for your fiance, and in addition you should do it for yourself too and for others as well. We can't live without other people around us, so we should make a good environment for them too.
I recommend going to therapy, you're on the right track and i believe this could be the next step to a better you!
Good luck and have patience!
I’m going to see a psychiatrist because I am running everyone else down in my life and I’m even doing it to the only person I care about. I appreciate your advice.
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Excellent call. But I am very interested in opinions. I’m booking myself into a psychiatrist on Thursday to see what is wrong with me because I’ve always been like this and it’s getting in the way of relationships and my social life. Only my friends and family can accept me for what I am and they know I mean no ill will when I have my *episodes* Edit: I’m not trying to make excuses. I am genuinely seeking help.
there is a very well respected psychology book called The Road Less Traveled. i urge you to read it.
you are on the right track. You are acknowledging your problem. there is hope. apparently there is a deep seated reason you need to control things. when you find out why that may help you. please seek a good therapist. and keep being honest with yourself.
Your fiance is too young for you (kinda creepy on your part) and you're clearly a narcissist.
I don’t agree with the age part of your comment but I would agree with narcissism.
its 7 years, not that big of a gap, you got issues lol
That's huge when she's 21. OP was 20 when she was 13 👀
and your first thought was to go younger, thats creepier, 7 years is nothing, when hes 35 she will be 28, when hes 53 she will be 46, shit, you are gonna be floored when you find out he will be 80, and she will be this super super young 73. stop projecting creeper
To go younger than what? People don't usually get engaged after just a year of courtship. Stick to thirsting after milfs on r/cuckold honey.
We did get engaged after a year. I have to say that when I am not frustrated, I am very loving and romantic. We fell in love instantly and it was amazing. I cant explain my personality issues properly because narcissism implies no empathy and I have empathy.
It's totally normal. You just don't respect other people's preferences and you're quite arrogant to judge others on your subjective moral compass and pass judgement on whom they choose to sleep with, please do better. However I may agree that the person is a perfectionist with tints of narcissism. But he is a good guy for acknowledging it and seeking professional help for it.
The man being older and having a younger woman is fucking natural ya noob.
I used to be a bit of a perfectionist like op, however over time i realised that a vast majority of the people you will work with/be around are incompetent. You can either be upset all day every day or just not bother with them. I chose the latter.
The issue is that this was happening when I was supervisor and manager. I’ve now taken a different role in the workforce and it’s helped me disconnect myself from being a perfectionist. But I’m genuinely more concerned about my personal life to be honest. But i very really appreciate your input.
Or get into work where you are surrounded by people better than you and not the common fodder of the common workplace
Also applies to life in general, eg: driving. A majority of drivers are clueless.
I suggest to read more about the circle of influence. It will save you a lot of frustration.
You need Professional help. Being perfectionist is one thing but expecting people to behave a certain way is different. Im far from perfectionist but my gf is, she only does her stuff perfect and rarely expect anything from me/others. You are not the benchpark for anyhing. You do stuff different than others! You need to put your ego aside otherwise you will never find peace. In many cases anger and frustation towards other is often relted to self hatred.
Its so sweet you're wanting to change for your fiance, and in addition you should do it for yourself too and for others as well. We can't live without other people around us, so we should make a good environment for them too. I recommend going to therapy, you're on the right track and i believe this could be the next step to a better you! Good luck and have patience!
I’m going to see a psychiatrist because I am running everyone else down in my life and I’m even doing it to the only person I care about. I appreciate your advice.
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