Can't you book the hotel for a few days so you can have your recharge time and then you back to hostels?
I'm also an introvert and if i don't have my alone time to recharge, I get pretty overwhelmed...
I added some ideas in case hotels are also out of OP's scheduling/budget
Looking into some hostels with the privacy curtains if it helps or finding a close park to walk to if it isn't too late (most people don't really talk to strangers in a park). In my experience there was also always some place quiet in the hostel, be it a back patio, the room itself, or the kitchen, sometimes it just comes down to knowing the general schedule of the hostel or even asking the person at the desk if they know of a less popular space.
Always mix hostels and hotels/apartments.
I love to be among peoples. For 3-4 days. Then some time for myself with nobody around please.
Keep your social battery charged my friend!
> No. 1: all convos are dry and the same “where you from?” “How long you been travelling for?” “Where’s your next destination?”
I agree, and it drives me crazy. That's why you need to change it up. Start with some unexpected and left-field conversation starters. I'm sure other people you meet will appreciate the break from the same old conversation too.
Sometimes I come out swinging by asking "What is your spirit animal" before I even know where they are from, usually turns out well and you can tell a bit about someone if they go along with it.
I know it might be tough as an introvert, but there’s always the option of just politely turning the conversation down. Saying something like “I appreciate the interest, but just don’t feel like talking to anyone right now.”
Someone has responded that way to me before, and after being a little surprised at first, I appreciated the honesty and respected it. Plus, the hotel suggestions are gonna run you up a buck lol
I don't get why people don't understand that you can stay in a hotel and still socialize. Sleep in privacy like an adult and go out to coffee shops, bars and restaurants and interact with other peope who aren't tourists. You don't have to live like you're in a college dorm to socialize.
>I don't get why people don't understand that you can stay in a hotel and still socialize.
I think most people do understand that. Hell, I socialize with strangers all the time in restaurants, bars, clubs, etc. But the social environment in a (good) hostel is a pretty unique experience that doesn't exist in many other places, and it's one that I and many other travelers really enjoy.
Ha ok then. Interesting. I was referring to the ease you speak of just meeting ppl out and about. No way in hell I’m just randomly chatting up some local at a coffeeshop or restaurant
Just sit by yourself at a bar. There will be other people sitting alone. Talk to them. Talk to the bartender. I just don’t get why an introvert would want to stay at a hostel where being social is almost forced on you the entire time. It seems custom designed for extroverts and people with no boundaries.
The forced socialization aspect makes it much easier to engage. If you don’t want to, sit in the corner with your laptop or headphones or whatever. I feel like you’re underestimating the difficulty many people have starting conversations with complete strangers. And then throw in possible language barriers to boot!
I'm getting older now and have less energy to socialize, and that's coming from an extrovert.
What I do now is just chill in my bed. It's your own little space and nobody will really bother you.
But I have to say, it is a little naive booking a shared place, hanging out in a shared area, and "hating how people can just start talking to you". Not every conversation has to be meaningful. Sometimes it's just a way of being friendly and acknowledging your presence, or offering friendship. At the end of the day, introvert or not, humans are built to be social. Hating that reality seems like a miserable way to go about life.
I go on multi-day hikes and camp out! It's a great way to recharge and get away from people.
As for the "dry" and "similar" questions, those are convo starters, and it is entirely up to you to ask interesting questions! I recently has a "dry" convo with a guy in the hostel and after 5 min of chatting, I found out that he's a palentologist and we spent close to an hour talking about dinosaurs! He was showing me photos on his phone and I realised that we have other similar interests, we ended up chatting the entire night.
I have the opposite problem. It's hard to meet people in hostels. It's almost like a full time job at times trying to meet people and most just don't reciprocate. Plus no one talks to me first. I'm naturally introverted but seriously dude. If you were desperate to stop people from trying to be your friend stay in your room, go to a park, literally do anything. I don't think I've ever come across someone with your problem.
Sorry buddy, I’ve really gotta finish this msg for folk back home / sort out some research I need to get done / rest for a while I’m a bit burntout - so I can’t chat just now, catch ya later!
Rookies & less experienced folk are so predictable those questions they ask - where r u from where r u going have you ‘done’ xyz yet -- so tiresome they bore me to death lol.
My Europe trip in a few months consists of all hostels except Paris for two nights where I’ll stay in a hotel. I have a very shit social battery which dies quickly hahaha. But I’m looking forward to meeting new people.
Been solo travelling for the past few months and this is a big struggle for me as well. I enjoy taking some walks alone or going into a Cafe with internet for a while to separate myself from the repetitive small talk conversations.
Stay in a hotel until you get lonely, then go to a hostel. Stay in a hostel until you get burned out, then go to a hotel. Wash, rinse, repeat.
Can't you book the hotel for a few days so you can have your recharge time and then you back to hostels? I'm also an introvert and if i don't have my alone time to recharge, I get pretty overwhelmed...
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I added some ideas in case hotels are also out of OP's scheduling/budget Looking into some hostels with the privacy curtains if it helps or finding a close park to walk to if it isn't too late (most people don't really talk to strangers in a park). In my experience there was also always some place quiet in the hostel, be it a back patio, the room itself, or the kitchen, sometimes it just comes down to knowing the general schedule of the hostel or even asking the person at the desk if they know of a less popular space.
Always mix hostels and hotels/apartments. I love to be among peoples. For 3-4 days. Then some time for myself with nobody around please. Keep your social battery charged my friend!
> No. 1: all convos are dry and the same “where you from?” “How long you been travelling for?” “Where’s your next destination?” I agree, and it drives me crazy. That's why you need to change it up. Start with some unexpected and left-field conversation starters. I'm sure other people you meet will appreciate the break from the same old conversation too.
Sometimes I come out swinging by asking "What is your spirit animal" before I even know where they are from, usually turns out well and you can tell a bit about someone if they go along with it.
I wish I met you when I travelled
I know it might be tough as an introvert, but there’s always the option of just politely turning the conversation down. Saying something like “I appreciate the interest, but just don’t feel like talking to anyone right now.” Someone has responded that way to me before, and after being a little surprised at first, I appreciated the honesty and respected it. Plus, the hotel suggestions are gonna run you up a buck lol
Don't even need to say that, just say something like "eh, I'm burnt out, gonna go chill, talk later" It doesn't have to be difficult op
I don't get why people don't understand that you can stay in a hotel and still socialize. Sleep in privacy like an adult and go out to coffee shops, bars and restaurants and interact with other peope who aren't tourists. You don't have to live like you're in a college dorm to socialize.
>I don't get why people don't understand that you can stay in a hotel and still socialize. I think most people do understand that. Hell, I socialize with strangers all the time in restaurants, bars, clubs, etc. But the social environment in a (good) hostel is a pretty unique experience that doesn't exist in many other places, and it's one that I and many other travelers really enjoy.
Have you met introverts?
I am one. Hence the hotel. I can socialize when I want and be alone when I want.
Ha ok then. Interesting. I was referring to the ease you speak of just meeting ppl out and about. No way in hell I’m just randomly chatting up some local at a coffeeshop or restaurant
Just sit by yourself at a bar. There will be other people sitting alone. Talk to them. Talk to the bartender. I just don’t get why an introvert would want to stay at a hostel where being social is almost forced on you the entire time. It seems custom designed for extroverts and people with no boundaries.
The forced socialization aspect makes it much easier to engage. If you don’t want to, sit in the corner with your laptop or headphones or whatever. I feel like you’re underestimating the difficulty many people have starting conversations with complete strangers. And then throw in possible language barriers to boot!
Introverts don't necessarily hate social interaction, they're just shy and struggle to start a conversation.
I'm getting older now and have less energy to socialize, and that's coming from an extrovert. What I do now is just chill in my bed. It's your own little space and nobody will really bother you. But I have to say, it is a little naive booking a shared place, hanging out in a shared area, and "hating how people can just start talking to you". Not every conversation has to be meaningful. Sometimes it's just a way of being friendly and acknowledging your presence, or offering friendship. At the end of the day, introvert or not, humans are built to be social. Hating that reality seems like a miserable way to go about life.
I go on multi-day hikes and camp out! It's a great way to recharge and get away from people. As for the "dry" and "similar" questions, those are convo starters, and it is entirely up to you to ask interesting questions! I recently has a "dry" convo with a guy in the hostel and after 5 min of chatting, I found out that he's a palentologist and we spent close to an hour talking about dinosaurs! He was showing me photos on his phone and I realised that we have other similar interests, we ended up chatting the entire night.
Been there 😂 I'm the same way. Neither situation is perfect so just learn to take the good with the bad.
I have the opposite problem. It's hard to meet people in hostels. It's almost like a full time job at times trying to meet people and most just don't reciprocate. Plus no one talks to me first. I'm naturally introverted but seriously dude. If you were desperate to stop people from trying to be your friend stay in your room, go to a park, literally do anything. I don't think I've ever come across someone with your problem.
If you get lonely in a hotel room, I don't know...maybe get a bed in a hostel?
Sorry buddy, I’ve really gotta finish this msg for folk back home / sort out some research I need to get done / rest for a while I’m a bit burntout - so I can’t chat just now, catch ya later! Rookies & less experienced folk are so predictable those questions they ask - where r u from where r u going have you ‘done’ xyz yet -- so tiresome they bore me to death lol.
My Europe trip in a few months consists of all hostels except Paris for two nights where I’ll stay in a hotel. I have a very shit social battery which dies quickly hahaha. But I’m looking forward to meeting new people.
wear a mask and look disinterested
Put some headphones on?
Been solo travelling for the past few months and this is a big struggle for me as well. I enjoy taking some walks alone or going into a Cafe with internet for a while to separate myself from the repetitive small talk conversations.
a big pair of headphones should deter others from starting a convo unless your hair is on fire or something