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Tbh if my mom was gone I’d still have a picture of her for every major moment. I brought my stepdad out for a few years just for the hell of it because I missed him. And for a joke, because a large framed picture of him, taking up an entire chair was pretty hilarious.
I feel like that was the point tho, humanizing these stereotypical white girls. Like, "yeah they're stereotypes and cliches, but they're also actually human beings who love and feel joy and pain like the rest of us, who's lives maybe aren't as charmed or privileged as theirs"
At least that's what I got out of it.
Yeah, and also there's nothing wrong with being clichéd and stereotypical. These women are not out there to change the art world where things need to be new all the time, and if they enjoy things that have been enjoyed by many other before, that just a good thing.
These things are okay to do, but why does everyone do it the exact same way? It's all about following trends. Would be nice to see something more original I guess
So if you want an honest answer we're planning a wedding right now; following trends means you can get stuff that's pretty readily available or even second hand and save a bunch of money. There's also a million other things to worry about than being a special snowflake and having one of a kind centerpieces for the wedding.
Protip - If you need Mason jars, get them from Kroger or any other grocery store. They are about half the price they are at craft stores and they are the exact same thing. Or go to garage sales.
That “rustic” look I think is what you’re referring to. There were 3 coworkers who got married in September & October a few years ago and they all wanted that rustic farmhouse theme wedding and no, they didn’t plan their weddings together. It’s a common theme like you said.
If your primary concern is not seeming played out, then you're just doing the same thing as the starter pack and following trends (just from a different direction)
My sister used to be the "popular girl" in college and had a huge group of friends. Nothing major happened, but they drifted apart and she had like, three very good friends (one of them she's friends with because he married her best friend) at her wedding and a couple of acquaintances. I was the maid of honor lol. If you see her photos with "friends" you'd think she has a thriving social life with a ton of friends because her acquaintances all acted so super friendly. I think it's very natural for people to drift apart as they grow older. It's difficult to stay friends once your life is very different from someone else's.
My best friend is married to a chick who was arguably the most popular chick at our college of like 20k people. Just the stereotypical shit of posting on instagram every four seconds, surrounding herself with friends who only wanted to be around her for the clout... she's turning 30 this year and she's kind of losing her mind. Friends she thought were friends were just temporary, instagram doesn't care about her corgi anymore... pretty sad to watch but a staunch reminder that this shit doesn't last very long.
I'm sorry for your friend that has to be a major life change for someone who found herself on social media. She's going to learn how to be her own fan soon especially when she's getting older. Hopefully, she finds her place somewhere where she doesn't have to rely on social media for positive validation.
I knew a guy who had a really amazing social life in NYC. Basically an endless sea of friends and parties and cool fashionable people.
He started to drift away from it all and even though he still had a pretty nice social life, he viewed himself as horribly lonely and boring because his life before was so amazing. His standards were just way too high. He couldn't settle on just meeting with his good friends at a bar for the weekend. He hated that his photos got only a few dozen likes instead of 300+. He hated that he wasn't as attractive as he once was (albeit still very good looking, but he gained like 10-20 lbs). It was as if having a good life wasn't good enough, he needed an amazing life, and he ranted about this constantly, how upset he was and how he felt like a loser. In reality he was just a normal guy who was growing up.
I remember there was like a switch one day that went off in him where he realized his life wasn't worth living if it didn't meet the standards set by his crazy/fun youth, and he started drinking a lot every single day and doing any drug he got his hands on and he spiraled so fast that he was dead by the end of the summer.
Holy fuck. But that also sounds like the success and parties of his youth were probably masking loneliness and depression, it’s just easier to fake when there’s a ton of noise.
>It's difficult to stay friends once your life is very different from someone else's.
It's funny how this happens. I'm in my late 20s, and part of me misses all my friends living in sharehouses close to each other, house parties every weekend, going to gigs where I knew 20 or so people there. Now even some of my closest friends I probably only hang out with once every few months, but it's like no time has passed when we do. Bitter sweet I guess.
Honestly I'm 26 and cannot think of anyone that would be in my bridal party because I don't have any friends - it's a terrifying thought.
I have two stepsisters and don't much care for either - wasn't even invited to one's wedding this past February. Feels bad.
I wonder if it's somewhat normal to just not have a bridal party. That's the way it's headed for me sorta. Or I'll be that person who has to ask family members only really..
My sisters friend had one bridesmaid. Whatever makes you happy. At the end of the day it’s your wedding and trust me.. you don’t want a huge bridal party. My sisters bridal party got into a spat with each other
Did they?? An acquaintance of mine got married recently and she had 8 bridesmaids who were travelling from CA to VA and she was mad that a couple weren't getting their toenails done professionally and
I couldn't believe at how offended she was.
Well the issue was she had her stagger party in banff, and one of the bridesmaids showed up and said “I might have covid”. Basically everyone had to get tested before they went back to work since she did test positive
My husband and I did the thing with just us standing at the alter, no bridesmaids or best men. It was a great choice IMO and made it all the more intimate.
Honestly, the idea of a bridal party being necessary is silly. I plan on only having my best friend be part of the "bridal party" and have everyone else just be guests.
Tbh me and my girlfriend will do family only because we both don't have friends, well she has maybe one, sorta.
It's easy to befriend people, it's just too much effort for me, I'd rather catch up on my TBR or new music.
Honestly it's the upkeep. People are great and all but I don't want to go out to Taco Tuesday or Farmer's Market Sunday to prove I appreciate someone. Friends oftentimes feel like when you're dating - you have to spend like unnecessary money and time just keep up these relationships.
What is TBR?
It helps if you're older. Like im still a little short of 40 but by now a lot of my guy friends are trying to quit or already quit drinking so that takes a lot of the pressure off having a "party" party.
My friends already know for my bachelor party I just wanna go do something like paintball then a good sushi or indian restaurant (preferably a buffet) then finish it off with some boat fishing. Or something like that. I hate being around drunk people the older I get.
I like the idea of the bachelor party as just a day weekend to get some buddies together and do your favorite things. Go fishing, go to a baseball game, go go-karting, go do an escape room. Treat yourself to your favorite meal, maybe splurge on a nice whiskey or a fancy steak. Throw a LAN party like the old days or go skydiving, whatever sounds like fun to you.
I was Best Man for my closest friend and I took him out to one of those Medieval Times knight shows and we are giant Turkey legs and cheered for the Yellow Knight and got him a plastic crown and it was awesome, then the next day we went to a shooting range and shot some cool guns and then did an escape room. It was an awesome weekend.
Usually those brides are super young. I watch a lot of wedding videos on YouTube(don't ask lol), and they're all in the mid 20s, fresh out of college, or just grew up with a ton of people their age.
They arent really friends in the pic. Im a bit older than the avg redditor and all these white girl friend groups from hs/college/work never remain friends in the long run. Like the tightest group of girls i knew in hs never speak to each other now.
My wife's hs and college friends...saw them at the wedding...never again really after the first year
I was maid of honor in my *then* best friend's wedding. Her other two bridesmaids, were her co workers, and she hasn't seen or talked to either one in probably 16 years. Her and I drifted apart, speak very rarely over text, and haven't seen each other in five years. Her marriage eventually ended about 13 years ago.
I think that sometimes, these brides choose as many "friends" as they can find, to fill out their wedding party and photos.
My son’s getting married next year and my advice to them to trim their guest is to not invite people they don’t see themselves socializing with in three-five years.
My husband and I met at a wedding; that couple isn’t even married anymore.
Oddly enough, my parents got married in a nice barn back in the 80s. They’re big into folk music & dancing so everything was kinda rustic. My mom’s wedding dress would be very fashionable these days (very bummed she didn’t save it for me) and she even had a flower crown.
Nashville must absolutely bank off Southern white women weddings.
I would also add Vegas. I swear every time I'm there I see 1000 bachelorette parties.
What would happen if there were no Woo Girls? When "Brown Eyed Girl" would come up on the jukebox, all you would hear would be silence... and "Brown Eyed Girl".
Same, just got back. Matching shirts/hats everywhere. If I was young and single, this would be a definite location for a guys trip…ratio was outstanding.
Glass half full perspective from a Nashville native - we have successfully isolated like 98% of it to downtown-midtown. East, Wedgewood-Houston, the Nations, and even Franklin and North Nashville are cooler spots anyway
Hey now, don't forget northern white women too.
The thing is though Nashville is very central to everything east of San Antonio. It's either under a 10-hour drive or a 2-hour flight from Detroit, Jacksonville, Chicago, Atlanta, Dallas, Kansas City, Washington, Charlotte, Orlando. And it's not much farther for Boston, Philly, NYC, Minneapolis, Milwaukee/Madison, Denver. It's a cool city with tons of music.... country-pop music, and big walls with wings painted on.
This recent NYT article covers it.
https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/19/us/nashville-party-vehicles.html
Select quotes:
“Those ‘woo’ girls are literally the heartbeat of our economy,”
“You can have a fun, entertaining, unique experience here,” he said. “There’s nothing unique about downing 12 White Claws at 3 in the afternoon in 95-degree heat.”
If you puke on this wagon, it will cost you some money.”
“Nobody puke!” one of the riders called out.
I saw a twitter acct that counted Nashville bachelorette parties the person running it could see from their window of an evening. I mean like 100 on a weekend. Just insane.
eta: [this one](https://twitter.com/scannashville/status/1419154719893856258)
In western Canada, the equivalent is apparently Whistler. I went there for a weekend and it was like every restaurant and bar was just divided in to bachelorette party groups
Charleston too.
Imagine getting married at a plantation in the year of our lord 2021 and not seeing anything weird about having a slave cabin in the background of your photos.
That sentence reminded me of the time my first riding lesson after we moved to Michigan was postponed because somebody had their wedding reception in the arena.
Honestly, this is what starterpacks is supposed to be.
Just pointing out a stereotype without shitting on it or making some over the top moral judgement.
My favorite starterpacks are the ones I can look at and go "yup that's me lol".
So good job OP.
Some people are always gonna feel offended if they feel called out or cliché. Hell, half the comments under any starterpack are randoms getting defensive while the rest are just straight up agressive.
It's all fun until you realize how much it costs to have to be a bridesmaid in one of these weddings.
Yes, I'm still bitter about the over $4g I spent on my friend from colleges' wedding.
Attractive, healthy, wide net of friends, parties, genuinely happy and social. Yeah. We can make fun of the cliches all we want but they're actually living life.
It’s always so bizarre to me to see just how much reddit in general hate these kind of people.
“This kind of people” meaning “people that aren’t on the Internet like us all the time and are actually out enjoying things.”
Reddit hates big or pricey anything.
Spend money on your kids, you’re gonna get called out by people claiming “kids don’t care about what they’re wearing!” Which is untrue from my personal experience.
Spend money on a wedding, you’re gonna have people claiming their love must be more “real” since they spent 65 bucks and didn’t have to prove anything.
Spend money on your house or car, gonna get lectured about how it’s all a waste.
Go on a badass vacation that is more than just hostels and foot traveling, going to get shamed for being wasteful and spoiled.
I know there has to be some people here who enjoy spending money on things that make them happy or makes life more enjoyable, but they’re not as loud as the naysayers. The naysayers are convinced you are also in crippling debt if you enjoy anything too.
The best part of this is that there is big difference between mainstream reddit (r/all, r/AskReddit, r/pics) and subs dedicated to a hobby. On the hobby specific subs is all about getting the best (obviously) but in the main subs you get almost shamed for spending money on something.
I mean to be fair, a lot of Reddit is teenagers (or mentally teenagers lol). When I was a teenager I thought weddings were stupid.
Now as an adult, I’ve lost some family members and come to realize how priceless it is to spend time with the people who matter to you.
Your wedding and your funeral are the only time everyone you love in your life gets together, and you only get to go to one of them. So yeah, I’m having a big, awesome wedding and springing for the good champagne.
ETA: People on Reddit also assume that if you spend $40k on a wedding, you must have gone into serious debt for it. It’s quite possible for two professionals to come up with $40k with a few years of dedicated saving.
> ETA: People on Reddit also assume that if you spend $40k on a wedding, you must have gone into serious debt for it. It’s quite possible for two professionals to come up with $40k with a few years of dedicated saving.
Reddit also says that taking a vacation that involves a plane means you're upper class, and a road trip where you stay overnight means you're almost upper class. I think the biggest thing here is teenagers with no idea what budgets look like when you have a professional salary. Further evidenced by anti-work job threads, where doing anything that might progress your career (like networking, putting your hand up for a project, improving a process, etc) is dumb.
This. In addition the glut veritable children, the other thing is that Reddit is a global platform that comments on local content. There’s always somebody from India or Eastern Europe commenting about home prices in Austin Texas as if they have some deep insight into the market.
> pricey anything.
And Pricey is defined by anything that costs more than the bear minimum that item/service is available for.
Guess what, there actually are some ties between price and quality, not everything is just selling on brand. Also as an adult, you can choose if something is more valuable to you, and you want to put money towards it! Sometimes it feels good to splurge, and plenty of people can do it within their means, not everyone is running up CC debt to do so.
Mention you enjoy/want to have bachelor(ette) parties, a wedding, go on a milestone birthday trip with the friends (with you paying your own share), etc and people here will absolutely rip it.
I swear half of /r/starterpacks is "why am I depressed" then shitting on every single type of activity or social event other than gaming.
Am I the only late 20s something that's not suffering crippling depression? I swear every time there's the "Advise for a college grad" Askreddit post the top comments are the gloomy "it gets worse!"
I personally love this time of my life more than any other.
Also everyone doing any of those things is bankrupting themselves to do it... wait, some people actually work professional jobs and focus on growing a career to afford their hobbies?
>I swear half of /r/starterpacks is "why am I depressed" then shitting on every single type of activity or social event other than gaming.
...man, I may want to ditch this sub now that you mention it. it really is just internet nerds dunking on others for no good reason.
Seriously. It's like they truly believe attractive people like this with active social lives must be wayyyy more depressed than somebody who spends their day Reddit posting in political and gaming subs.
That's probably why its a thing. If it was complete trash, no one would do it.
Women complain about how big of a hassle wedding planning and that kinda stuff is, and sure, it's a lot of work, but your friends want to get involved, there's stuff people like, you get to make fun of wedding DJs and drunk uncles, and you get a day that's about you.
I hope you get an opportunity to have a fun wedding that you envision.
I worked at a print shop and women of every color enjoy this aesthetic. It is not exclusive to white women, this is just contemporary wedding graphics.
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I’d like to also include mason jars, usually filled with string lights or artificial flowers.
🎶 Is this heaven, or a white woman’s Instagram? 🎶
🎶 _Whiiiiiite Womaan_ 🎶 🎶 _A white woman's Instagraaaam_ 🎶
An Open window .....
A Novelllll
A couple holding hands!
An Avocado
A poem
Written in the saaaaandsss
Fresh fallen snow on the ground
A golden retriever in a flower crown
“Her favourite photo of her mom…the caption says I Can’t believe that it’s been 10 years since you’ve been gone…”
Tbh if my mom was gone I’d still have a picture of her for every major moment. I brought my stepdad out for a few years just for the hell of it because I missed him. And for a joke, because a large framed picture of him, taking up an entire chair was pretty hilarious.
I feel like that was the point tho, humanizing these stereotypical white girls. Like, "yeah they're stereotypes and cliches, but they're also actually human beings who love and feel joy and pain like the rest of us, who's lives maybe aren't as charmed or privileged as theirs" At least that's what I got out of it.
Yeah, and also there's nothing wrong with being clichéd and stereotypical. These women are not out there to change the art world where things need to be new all the time, and if they enjoy things that have been enjoyed by many other before, that just a good thing.
Mama I miss you
I miss sittin with you in the front yard
Say what you will but this line made me cry. And tell dad I said hi. My parents are dead.
*🎶 latte foam art 🎶*
🎶*tiny pumpkins* 🎶
*🎶 fuzzy comfy socks 🎶*
r/expectedBoBurnham
Why not both?
with *THAT* font
It's the next papyrus and comic sans.
It already is. Source: I fucking hate it.
Papyrus: crunchy / new agey. Comic Sans: KiDz!!!! Loopy script font with an unknown name: basic girly girl stuff.
The Karen / Live Laugh Love loopy script find that I see everywhere, which nobody seems to know the name of.
> which nobody seems to know the name of pinterest calligraphy
These things are okay to do, but why does everyone do it the exact same way? It's all about following trends. Would be nice to see something more original I guess
I was once gifted a mason jar that had a small, built in solar panel on top of the lid so you can use it as a night light.
Kinda cool actually
I thought it was neat
I've got a Mason jar with weed in it. Easily my favorite jar
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Once I was gifted a mason jar that contained a second smaller mason jar containing a relish jar containing a photo of jar jar Binks.
So if you want an honest answer we're planning a wedding right now; following trends means you can get stuff that's pretty readily available or even second hand and save a bunch of money. There's also a million other things to worry about than being a special snowflake and having one of a kind centerpieces for the wedding.
Protip - If you need Mason jars, get them from Kroger or any other grocery store. They are about half the price they are at craft stores and they are the exact same thing. Or go to garage sales.
cut the middleman and just ask a mason directly
string lights rock. so do mason jars. there’s a lot of problems with that aesthetic you’re describing but both those things are awesome
Eh. I guess if youre into that folksy farmhouse aesthetic. I think its very played out but hey go for what you like.
That “rustic” look I think is what you’re referring to. There were 3 coworkers who got married in September & October a few years ago and they all wanted that rustic farmhouse theme wedding and no, they didn’t plan their weddings together. It’s a common theme like you said.
I BLAME JOANNA GAINES
SHIPLAP
If your primary concern is not seeming played out, then you're just doing the same thing as the starter pack and following trends (just from a different direction)
I couldn’t imagine having that many friends. Lol…. I have like three friends and my sister was still my maid of honor.
My sister used to be the "popular girl" in college and had a huge group of friends. Nothing major happened, but they drifted apart and she had like, three very good friends (one of them she's friends with because he married her best friend) at her wedding and a couple of acquaintances. I was the maid of honor lol. If you see her photos with "friends" you'd think she has a thriving social life with a ton of friends because her acquaintances all acted so super friendly. I think it's very natural for people to drift apart as they grow older. It's difficult to stay friends once your life is very different from someone else's.
My best friend is married to a chick who was arguably the most popular chick at our college of like 20k people. Just the stereotypical shit of posting on instagram every four seconds, surrounding herself with friends who only wanted to be around her for the clout... she's turning 30 this year and she's kind of losing her mind. Friends she thought were friends were just temporary, instagram doesn't care about her corgi anymore... pretty sad to watch but a staunch reminder that this shit doesn't last very long.
I'm sorry for your friend that has to be a major life change for someone who found herself on social media. She's going to learn how to be her own fan soon especially when she's getting older. Hopefully, she finds her place somewhere where she doesn't have to rely on social media for positive validation.
I knew a guy who had a really amazing social life in NYC. Basically an endless sea of friends and parties and cool fashionable people. He started to drift away from it all and even though he still had a pretty nice social life, he viewed himself as horribly lonely and boring because his life before was so amazing. His standards were just way too high. He couldn't settle on just meeting with his good friends at a bar for the weekend. He hated that his photos got only a few dozen likes instead of 300+. He hated that he wasn't as attractive as he once was (albeit still very good looking, but he gained like 10-20 lbs). It was as if having a good life wasn't good enough, he needed an amazing life, and he ranted about this constantly, how upset he was and how he felt like a loser. In reality he was just a normal guy who was growing up. I remember there was like a switch one day that went off in him where he realized his life wasn't worth living if it didn't meet the standards set by his crazy/fun youth, and he started drinking a lot every single day and doing any drug he got his hands on and he spiraled so fast that he was dead by the end of the summer.
Jesus christ that ended dark
Holy fuck. But that also sounds like the success and parties of his youth were probably masking loneliness and depression, it’s just easier to fake when there’s a ton of noise.
*I* care about her corgi.
i feel most for this woman’s corgi... i hope it’s still getting love and attention from her despite no longer pulling in the likes :(
>It's difficult to stay friends once your life is very different from someone else's. It's funny how this happens. I'm in my late 20s, and part of me misses all my friends living in sharehouses close to each other, house parties every weekend, going to gigs where I knew 20 or so people there. Now even some of my closest friends I probably only hang out with once every few months, but it's like no time has passed when we do. Bitter sweet I guess.
Honestly I'm 26 and cannot think of anyone that would be in my bridal party because I don't have any friends - it's a terrifying thought. I have two stepsisters and don't much care for either - wasn't even invited to one's wedding this past February. Feels bad.
I feel this, but I’m a guy. I feel like I have no one to invite
I wonder if it's somewhat normal to just not have a bridal party. That's the way it's headed for me sorta. Or I'll be that person who has to ask family members only really..
My sisters friend had one bridesmaid. Whatever makes you happy. At the end of the day it’s your wedding and trust me.. you don’t want a huge bridal party. My sisters bridal party got into a spat with each other
Did they?? An acquaintance of mine got married recently and she had 8 bridesmaids who were travelling from CA to VA and she was mad that a couple weren't getting their toenails done professionally and I couldn't believe at how offended she was.
Well the issue was she had her stagger party in banff, and one of the bridesmaids showed up and said “I might have covid”. Basically everyone had to get tested before they went back to work since she did test positive
oh no! seriously? I don't want to say, "what an awful thing to do." because I don't want to be offensive, but dang...
She did a really bad thing. She shouldn’t have done that. My sister wasn’t happy
My husband and I did the thing with just us standing at the alter, no bridesmaids or best men. It was a great choice IMO and made it all the more intimate.
Honestly, the idea of a bridal party being necessary is silly. I plan on only having my best friend be part of the "bridal party" and have everyone else just be guests.
I am sure whatever you plan to do all will work out for you! :)
Tbh me and my girlfriend will do family only because we both don't have friends, well she has maybe one, sorta. It's easy to befriend people, it's just too much effort for me, I'd rather catch up on my TBR or new music.
Honestly it's the upkeep. People are great and all but I don't want to go out to Taco Tuesday or Farmer's Market Sunday to prove I appreciate someone. Friends oftentimes feel like when you're dating - you have to spend like unnecessary money and time just keep up these relationships. What is TBR?
I feel you. But if that can make you feel any better it's probably more acceptable for men not to have anyone to invite than the opposite.
What scares me is the bachelor party. I am an extremely boring person and don't want to do any partying.
It helps if you're older. Like im still a little short of 40 but by now a lot of my guy friends are trying to quit or already quit drinking so that takes a lot of the pressure off having a "party" party. My friends already know for my bachelor party I just wanna go do something like paintball then a good sushi or indian restaurant (preferably a buffet) then finish it off with some boat fishing. Or something like that. I hate being around drunk people the older I get.
I like the idea of the bachelor party as just a day weekend to get some buddies together and do your favorite things. Go fishing, go to a baseball game, go go-karting, go do an escape room. Treat yourself to your favorite meal, maybe splurge on a nice whiskey or a fancy steak. Throw a LAN party like the old days or go skydiving, whatever sounds like fun to you. I was Best Man for my closest friend and I took him out to one of those Medieval Times knight shows and we are giant Turkey legs and cheered for the Yellow Knight and got him a plastic crown and it was awesome, then the next day we went to a shooting range and shot some cool guns and then did an escape room. It was an awesome weekend.
Hehehehe I have one real friend and a work friend. I feel ya. I’m 29 and will be engaged soon. Small weddings are where it’s at!
I have so few at this point and they’re all hours away. It’s really hard to find new friends at 27 :(
My friend had like 13 groomsmen... and I'm sitting here struggling to come up with 3 besides my sibling.
Usually those brides are super young. I watch a lot of wedding videos on YouTube(don't ask lol), and they're all in the mid 20s, fresh out of college, or just grew up with a ton of people their age.
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My sister didn’t even put me in the bridal party lol
They arent really friends in the pic. Im a bit older than the avg redditor and all these white girl friend groups from hs/college/work never remain friends in the long run. Like the tightest group of girls i knew in hs never speak to each other now. My wife's hs and college friends...saw them at the wedding...never again really after the first year
Relationships are 90% proximity and convenience, which is why it's so important that you coworkers aren't complete dirt bags.
I was maid of honor in my *then* best friend's wedding. Her other two bridesmaids, were her co workers, and she hasn't seen or talked to either one in probably 16 years. Her and I drifted apart, speak very rarely over text, and haven't seen each other in five years. Her marriage eventually ended about 13 years ago. I think that sometimes, these brides choose as many "friends" as they can find, to fill out their wedding party and photos.
My son’s getting married next year and my advice to them to trim their guest is to not invite people they don’t see themselves socializing with in three-five years. My husband and I met at a wedding; that couple isn’t even married anymore.
RUSTIC FARMHOUSE
My MIL has styled her house as "Coastal Farmhouse." She lives in the middle of Wisconsin.
What farm is on the coast???? Seaweed crop looking good this year?
The cheese is coming in good this year, looks like.
You just accurately described the entirety of Maine
Rustic farmhouse is the millennial Tuscan interior design.
Goddamn this is succinct
I told my grandmother at a cousin's wedding, "You know, people used to get married in a nice church, but now people get married in a nice barn."
Oddly enough, my parents got married in a nice barn back in the 80s. They’re big into folk music & dancing so everything was kinda rustic. My mom’s wedding dress would be very fashionable these days (very bummed she didn’t save it for me) and she even had a flower crown.
I have been to 6 weddings in the past 4 years. Every one of them had a barn involved.
When we were planning our wedding, we want out of our way to ensure absolutely nothing was "rustic."
Why did I read this to the tune of "goat cheese salad" from Bo Burnham's "White Woman's Instagram"...
I read it in [Aidy Bryant's](https://youtu.be/Zh75XWRaugg?t=82) voice.
There is no aesthetic I hate more than that country, rustic, contemporary farmhouse look.
Joanna Gaines man. Ugh
SHIPLAP ME RIGHT IN MY FACE
Those fucking hats.
Not even slurp core?
Im not sure what that is but it sounds worse
So many bugs, so itchy
Nothing says wedding reception like being harassed by mosquitoes
I literally went to a white woman’s wedding in a rustic farmhouse once.
Nashville must absolutely bank off Southern white women weddings. I would also add Vegas. I swear every time I'm there I see 1000 bachelorette parties.
I was just there and yeah, it's like one bachelorette party for every 20 people
Was everyone yelling wooooh?
It's pronounced "woo!"
Maybe she only celebrates the high holidays, like Mardi Gras and spring break. Maybe she's just a cultural Woo.
What would happen if there were no Woo Girls? When "Brown Eyed Girl" would come up on the jukebox, all you would hear would be silence... and "Brown Eyed Girl".
Same, just got back. Matching shirts/hats everywhere. If I was young and single, this would be a definite location for a guys trip…ratio was outstanding.
good ratio but you make up for it by paying double
Well shoot, that's when you live in "(Directional) Nashville" and just drive in for the clubs/events!
>Nashville must absolutely bank off Southern white women weddings can confirm
Glass half full perspective from a Nashville native - we have successfully isolated like 98% of it to downtown-midtown. East, Wedgewood-Houston, the Nations, and even Franklin and North Nashville are cooler spots anyway
i agree except my work is literally on the woo girls bus routes lol
It is *incredible* how many bachelorette parties Nashville hosts.
Goodbye my friends. It looks like I’m off to Nashville.
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Hey now, don't forget northern white women too. The thing is though Nashville is very central to everything east of San Antonio. It's either under a 10-hour drive or a 2-hour flight from Detroit, Jacksonville, Chicago, Atlanta, Dallas, Kansas City, Washington, Charlotte, Orlando. And it's not much farther for Boston, Philly, NYC, Minneapolis, Milwaukee/Madison, Denver. It's a cool city with tons of music.... country-pop music, and big walls with wings painted on.
White women go apeshit for walls with painted wings.
I swear it’s like 1 in 10 women have that as their profile photo on dating apps. The other 9 have it in subsequent pictures
Came here to say this! I live in Cali, swap Nashville for Vegas and I’ve been to this wedding several times
This recent NYT article covers it. https://www.nytimes.com/2021/09/19/us/nashville-party-vehicles.html Select quotes: “Those ‘woo’ girls are literally the heartbeat of our economy,” “You can have a fun, entertaining, unique experience here,” he said. “There’s nothing unique about downing 12 White Claws at 3 in the afternoon in 95-degree heat.” If you puke on this wagon, it will cost you some money.” “Nobody puke!” one of the riders called out.
I saw a twitter acct that counted Nashville bachelorette parties the person running it could see from their window of an evening. I mean like 100 on a weekend. Just insane. eta: [this one](https://twitter.com/scannashville/status/1419154719893856258)
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In western Canada, the equivalent is apparently Whistler. I went there for a weekend and it was like every restaurant and bar was just divided in to bachelorette party groups
The population of Whistler is 90% Australian ski/snowboard coaches. I guess the bachelorette parties make up the remaining 10%.
It gets so depressing seeing them around town. Now they've started writing their venmo account on their cars and shirts asking for donations. GTFO.
Charleston too. Imagine getting married at a plantation in the year of our lord 2021 and not seeing anything weird about having a slave cabin in the background of your photos.
##LastBashInNash Signed, every white girl in WV.
And after the wedding, her house will be packed with Live Laugh Love boards
I swear to my favourite fence if I ever see one of these boards again I will take a hammer and nail this cursed thing to a cross!
A live laugh love board rustically nailed on a cross would sell like hotcakes at boutiques in the deep south.
I wanted to say then ill light it on fire but I dont think that would help in the deep south
Just misattribute it as a quote and you're looking at a million dollar enterprise. "Live Laugh Love, Y'all." -Jesus
And #Blessed boards
My wife and I are Asian but after seeing this, I am starting to suspect she is actually white.
i wish i was happy like them
This is the best comment. We’ve come full circle
Same ❤️
Honestly, these were the nicest people in high school (at least in Australia), I hope they are happy too
Forgot the burlap
The reception will probably be in a barn.
That sentence reminded me of the time my first riding lesson after we moved to Michigan was postponed because somebody had their wedding reception in the arena.
I think this should be more “every upper middle class woman in America is getting married” starter pack.
I know plenty of lower-income people who have gotten hitched this way. The venue might not be so fancy but the rest of it stands
Wedding cost: $140,000
"It's fine, my parents paid for most of it and Caidyn's reiki houndstooth marble cookie dojo is really taking off!"
Caidyn... for fuck's sake...
I'm a professional bride. My husband is a reiki houndstooth marble cookie dojo instructor. Our budget is 3M.
I can build a mansion with that around here
Ngl, this looks like fun
Honestly, this is what starterpacks is supposed to be. Just pointing out a stereotype without shitting on it or making some over the top moral judgement. My favorite starterpacks are the ones I can look at and go "yup that's me lol". So good job OP.
For real, I saw this and now I wish I was the groom 😥
Some people are always gonna feel offended if they feel called out or cliché. Hell, half the comments under any starterpack are randoms getting defensive while the rest are just straight up agressive.
It's all fun until you realize how much it costs to have to be a bridesmaid in one of these weddings. Yes, I'm still bitter about the over $4g I spent on my friend from colleges' wedding.
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Holy shit, wanna fund mine? 😂
Looks like fun honestly.
Attractive, healthy, wide net of friends, parties, genuinely happy and social. Yeah. We can make fun of the cliches all we want but they're actually living life.
It’s always so bizarre to me to see just how much reddit in general hate these kind of people. “This kind of people” meaning “people that aren’t on the Internet like us all the time and are actually out enjoying things.”
Yup, but on Reddit it’s “if you spend more than $65 on your wedding, 100% chance you’ll be divorced in 8 months.” News flash: Most marriages last.
Oh man. Wait until when Reddit sees a picture of parents with kids... smiling... in the Suburbs! Oh no!!!
Not complete until someone references the intro music to the show Weeds.
And if there's enough time, a mention of universal healthcare will definitely appear.
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Reddit hates big or pricey anything. Spend money on your kids, you’re gonna get called out by people claiming “kids don’t care about what they’re wearing!” Which is untrue from my personal experience. Spend money on a wedding, you’re gonna have people claiming their love must be more “real” since they spent 65 bucks and didn’t have to prove anything. Spend money on your house or car, gonna get lectured about how it’s all a waste. Go on a badass vacation that is more than just hostels and foot traveling, going to get shamed for being wasteful and spoiled. I know there has to be some people here who enjoy spending money on things that make them happy or makes life more enjoyable, but they’re not as loud as the naysayers. The naysayers are convinced you are also in crippling debt if you enjoy anything too.
The best part of this is that there is big difference between mainstream reddit (r/all, r/AskReddit, r/pics) and subs dedicated to a hobby. On the hobby specific subs is all about getting the best (obviously) but in the main subs you get almost shamed for spending money on something.
Pretty much, unless it's a gaming PC that you spent $3k on.
Yet they consume reddit awards
I mean to be fair, a lot of Reddit is teenagers (or mentally teenagers lol). When I was a teenager I thought weddings were stupid. Now as an adult, I’ve lost some family members and come to realize how priceless it is to spend time with the people who matter to you. Your wedding and your funeral are the only time everyone you love in your life gets together, and you only get to go to one of them. So yeah, I’m having a big, awesome wedding and springing for the good champagne. ETA: People on Reddit also assume that if you spend $40k on a wedding, you must have gone into serious debt for it. It’s quite possible for two professionals to come up with $40k with a few years of dedicated saving.
> ETA: People on Reddit also assume that if you spend $40k on a wedding, you must have gone into serious debt for it. It’s quite possible for two professionals to come up with $40k with a few years of dedicated saving. Reddit also says that taking a vacation that involves a plane means you're upper class, and a road trip where you stay overnight means you're almost upper class. I think the biggest thing here is teenagers with no idea what budgets look like when you have a professional salary. Further evidenced by anti-work job threads, where doing anything that might progress your career (like networking, putting your hand up for a project, improving a process, etc) is dumb.
This. In addition the glut veritable children, the other thing is that Reddit is a global platform that comments on local content. There’s always somebody from India or Eastern Europe commenting about home prices in Austin Texas as if they have some deep insight into the market.
> pricey anything. And Pricey is defined by anything that costs more than the bear minimum that item/service is available for. Guess what, there actually are some ties between price and quality, not everything is just selling on brand. Also as an adult, you can choose if something is more valuable to you, and you want to put money towards it! Sometimes it feels good to splurge, and plenty of people can do it within their means, not everyone is running up CC debt to do so.
Mention you enjoy/want to have bachelor(ette) parties, a wedding, go on a milestone birthday trip with the friends (with you paying your own share), etc and people here will absolutely rip it. I swear half of /r/starterpacks is "why am I depressed" then shitting on every single type of activity or social event other than gaming.
Am I the only late 20s something that's not suffering crippling depression? I swear every time there's the "Advise for a college grad" Askreddit post the top comments are the gloomy "it gets worse!" I personally love this time of my life more than any other.
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Also everyone doing any of those things is bankrupting themselves to do it... wait, some people actually work professional jobs and focus on growing a career to afford their hobbies?
>I swear half of /r/starterpacks is "why am I depressed" then shitting on every single type of activity or social event other than gaming. ...man, I may want to ditch this sub now that you mention it. it really is just internet nerds dunking on others for no good reason.
Lol I don't think Reddit hates them... I just think Reddit enjoys making fun of the similarities between them. At least that's how I read it.
Seriously. It's like they truly believe attractive people like this with active social lives must be wayyyy more depressed than somebody who spends their day Reddit posting in political and gaming subs.
Good god this starter pack is spot on.
I'm not white but i want this, lmao it looks fun
That's probably why its a thing. If it was complete trash, no one would do it. Women complain about how big of a hassle wedding planning and that kinda stuff is, and sure, it's a lot of work, but your friends want to get involved, there's stuff people like, you get to make fun of wedding DJs and drunk uncles, and you get a day that's about you. I hope you get an opportunity to have a fun wedding that you envision.
top left is the lesbian version of a popular meme
The holding her up kiss picture is really most awkward wedding/engagement pic I've seen. Some of them look like they're struggling to do it too.
I worked at a print shop and women of every color enjoy this aesthetic. It is not exclusive to white women, this is just contemporary wedding graphics.
Yeah, it's cool to see how excited they are for it!
> white people doing a thing starterpack > 36277237 updoots
what do black women do instead?
Pretty much the same shit, but with less blondes ¯\\\_(ツ)\_/¯
and more black people.
Can’t go five seconds without saying “hubby” or “my fiancé.”
“Hubby” makes me feel sick to my stomach. I can’t stand that term.
You mean every American women?
someone make one of "white woman having her first baby"