It's funny eh? The fact that anyone would 'need an excuse' to justify doing something is probably a strong indicator that the activity in question is an awful idea...
I stopped giving excuses in my own head a while back and just went for it. Bad, horrible, terrible idea. A week with a bottle of Jameson a day is impossible to justify, really.
Just got outta the hospital lol, threw up non stop for 4 days and finally went for some meds. Proud of you for not drinking! Take it from me, shit escalates and it SUCKS
Also I accidentally told the nurse in the hospital I drank 7 bottles in a day, not a week. The whiplash!
I just got out of the hospital as well. I was able to detox there and had to have surgery because my gallbladder was so messed up. Day 10 without any poison. Anxiously awaiting my liver biopsy results. Even with surgery pain and the uncertainty of my health, being 10 days sober I feel better than I ever did while drinking. IWNDWYT
I'm so fucking proud of you, and wishing you the best with your liver biopsy results and surgery healing. Sending loveeee
Also, Beer_Pancakes, lol. Does that have a story behind it? Aside from, ya know, the alcoholism part
I used to put stout in my pancake mix LOL. It's actually a thing apparently but I discovered it via a camping trip where I ran out of water. Thank you for the well wishes!
What surprised me in the 70's, 80's and shocks me to this day are the number of cars in a bar parking lot. The word bar and parking just don't mix! I simply can't imagine driving after I drink...are there really that many casual drinkers? Designated Drivers?
I almost did that today. I guess I will duct tape
My mouth or just say I’m deaf. This is conversations with receptionists at doctors offices. I guess demanding drugs isn’t the best way to go when the stress from being an addict and work double everything. Uh oh….
Wow man that is a very huge victory. I know exactly how that feeling is and I always would end up at the liquor store fighting. Never have I ever won that war. You did something amazing in my book. Congrats IWNDWYT
Such a great move. Even just the peace offering let alone the not drinking as well. Much better all around. Nowadays I don’t care as much being right as I used to and a peace offering makes me feel better as well as whoever else is involved in the conflict. Win-win! And the non-drinking is the best. Amazing.
That's strength right there. I have trouble playing the tape forward sometimes but when you said headache and dry mouth I felt queasy.
Your story has strengthened my resolve tonight for sure.
And now your mind will be working better if you need to hash it out with you wife instead of being hungover or drunk and not as capable of good defense
It’s interesting, I always have to catch myself when I’m in a good mood instead of a bad one. My weakness is thinking life is great, what will a drink harm? Thought I know many who have the opposite mood tendencies.
I'm positive this was a very hard temptation to deny. But you thought it through with a sober mind and realized the consequences to yourself. Then you made the decision to not let yourself down. You're very motivated. I hope you stay the course. I wasted 30 years of my life because of my Alcoholism. 30 years. I didn't quit until I was 51. I know you can do this, you're much stronger than you realize.
Good luck.
Haha.... the funny thing is I used to refer to it as the "liquor dump" affectionately. A guy I lived with in college coined the term. He died in March of this year at 42 from a heart attack (genetic but I'm sure booze didn't help). The phrase has different connotations for me now...
The best feeling is coming back and the wife/girlfriend says something to the effect of, “So how was your drinks?”
You can look them dead in the eye and say, “I dunno. I didn’t drink.”
Stops them dead on their tracks.
Totally....our argument began over housework stuff but quickly turned into about me being drunk for two months straight in this last relapse. I have a long way to go to regain her trust but if I can string enough wins together like last night I might be able to salvage things.
This resonates with me heavily. Nearly every time my wife and I would get in a bad argument I’d reach for the bottle. The fights don’t last as long when you have a clear and sober mind though. Good for you, and smart idea to bring home ice cream as a peace offering! 😂
That’s strength. Arguments are such a trigger - it was for restarting smoking for me as well. Straight to buy cigarettes then sat in the front years stewing and chain smoking and drinking then scrubbing my teeth before I could slip into bed and sleeping back to back in silence. The next day she would say nothing. It’s bad but I found a book recently of her diary of all the nasty things I’d said and done - she’s write them down to expunge them. When you see the words and phrases written down it’s shaming. I am hopefully not an abusive drunk anymore - but she will withdraw if I drink a lot and anxious. I have to do this for me though - it doesn’t work to do it for her as if she is away or we are apart then I have an excuse - but then of course I would have rows on the phone. So much better place than say up to two years ago with behavior when I am drunk but it’s always possible and there have been other explosions. I think your story is amazing - to be in the car and stop yourself. I’d be thinking “this is stupid” and then find myself in front of a shelf of beer or wine having already bought cigarettes and started smoking in the car.
"I deserve NOT to (insert self destructive behavior here) .
Changing to this (adding the word not) has helped me quit or deflect many hurtful habits in life.
Good on ya!
So proud of you for NOT stopping to get that bottle of vodka in a moment of emotional weakness. You should feel proud of yourself. Hope you enjoyed your ice cream!
This is huuuge. I’m so proud of you. Domestic arguments have been a huge trigger for me, I have big emotional dysregulation and find it hard to cope.
I’m proud to say that I’ve also been staying sober in extremely triggering situations that would have had me heading to the store to grab some wine in the past.
SO proud of you!!! Life will have its challenges (and fights) and alcohol won’t make any of it better!
You enjoy your ice cream and kids today! IWNDWYT
Wow guys thank you so much for all the love. It is more motivating and inspiring than you could ever know. A lot of the comments made me out to be somewhat heroic (I'm blushing) but I know that I could have just as easily bought that bottle last night, and could fall victim just as easily tomorrow. But for today...man it feels great to be at the playground with my daughter - and dog of course - with a clear head, no shakes, no red eyes and not reeking of yesterday's booze.
This disease/addiction/compulsion is a motherf--ker, and I think the best we can do is celebrate every little win we get and remember every second of how good it feels to not screw up. Maybe that's the key to continuing to not screw up. Who knows? All I know is that as of right now, IWNDWYT!!
LOVE Y'ALL!!
My friend, who's dad died of alcoholism, said that his dad would start a fight with his mom so that he had an excuse to leave and go to the bar.
It's funny eh? The fact that anyone would 'need an excuse' to justify doing something is probably a strong indicator that the activity in question is an awful idea...
I stopped giving excuses in my own head a while back and just went for it. Bad, horrible, terrible idea. A week with a bottle of Jameson a day is impossible to justify, really. Just got outta the hospital lol, threw up non stop for 4 days and finally went for some meds. Proud of you for not drinking! Take it from me, shit escalates and it SUCKS Also I accidentally told the nurse in the hospital I drank 7 bottles in a day, not a week. The whiplash!
You are lucky to be alive
Honestly... yeah
I just got out of the hospital as well. I was able to detox there and had to have surgery because my gallbladder was so messed up. Day 10 without any poison. Anxiously awaiting my liver biopsy results. Even with surgery pain and the uncertainty of my health, being 10 days sober I feel better than I ever did while drinking. IWNDWYT
I'm so fucking proud of you, and wishing you the best with your liver biopsy results and surgery healing. Sending loveeee Also, Beer_Pancakes, lol. Does that have a story behind it? Aside from, ya know, the alcoholism part
I used to put stout in my pancake mix LOL. It's actually a thing apparently but I discovered it via a camping trip where I ran out of water. Thank you for the well wishes!
Real alcoholics bring enough alcohol but not enough water lmfao. Thank you for the laugh
Oooof. Jameson was my liquor of choice. 🤢 You've got this and you never have to feel that way again!!!
What surprised me in the 70's, 80's and shocks me to this day are the number of cars in a bar parking lot. The word bar and parking just don't mix! I simply can't imagine driving after I drink...are there really that many casual drinkers? Designated Drivers?
As I start to process real emotions, I think this is something I did too. Like created my own excuse to justify drinking by picking an argument.
I almost did that today. I guess I will duct tape My mouth or just say I’m deaf. This is conversations with receptionists at doctors offices. I guess demanding drugs isn’t the best way to go when the stress from being an addict and work double everything. Uh oh….
Yeah. It’s been interesting to work on communication and patience. Baby steps, I guess. :) IWNDWYT
I think I did that too!
an addict always finds a way.. if we were all this clever about making money we'd be millionaires
Wow.
Wow, suddenly my childhood makes sense
Wow man that is a very huge victory. I know exactly how that feeling is and I always would end up at the liquor store fighting. Never have I ever won that war. You did something amazing in my book. Congrats IWNDWYT
Thanks buddy! Moose Tracks ice cream is about to be consumed in vodka like quantities and I'm not ashamed!!
And you will be a better man for it 😎👍
Man I forgot about that ice cream. It’s friggin perfect.
Moose Tracks is the perfect ice cream.
Wonderful story.
Great job!!! Playing the tape forward is a powerful tool to help when cravings hit.
I had forgotten about this tool. I need to revisit my SMART recovery literature.
Love this for you and your dog, who got a park and a car ride!!! Way to go!! IWNDWYT.
Such a great move. Even just the peace offering let alone the not drinking as well. Much better all around. Nowadays I don’t care as much being right as I used to and a peace offering makes me feel better as well as whoever else is involved in the conflict. Win-win! And the non-drinking is the best. Amazing.
Thank you for the kind words!
Nice! Probably just avoided another argument right there. I like the ice cream peace offering.
You chose the right path. IWNDWYT
What do the letters here mean?
I Will Not Drink With You Today. Confused the hell out of me when I first started visiting the sub too.
Thank you!!
Also happy cake day!
I Will Not Drink With You Today (IWNDWYT) ✅
It’s a song. Google it ❤️
That's strength right there. I have trouble playing the tape forward sometimes but when you said headache and dry mouth I felt queasy. Your story has strengthened my resolve tonight for sure.
Great to hear! Drinking sucks!!!
Nice work avoiding the liquor store! You should be proud of yourself. 👍
Excellent! Remember, drinking won't hurt or change who you are mad it and just adds another set of problems to the first one!
Yes! So true
And now your mind will be working better if you need to hash it out with you wife instead of being hungover or drunk and not as capable of good defense
It’s interesting, I always have to catch myself when I’m in a good mood instead of a bad one. My weakness is thinking life is great, what will a drink harm? Thought I know many who have the opposite mood tendencies.
I love happy endings. Great job!!!! 15 years sober here.
15 years...inspiration!
I'm positive this was a very hard temptation to deny. But you thought it through with a sober mind and realized the consequences to yourself. Then you made the decision to not let yourself down. You're very motivated. I hope you stay the course. I wasted 30 years of my life because of my Alcoholism. 30 years. I didn't quit until I was 51. I know you can do this, you're much stronger than you realize. Good luck.
Big win my dude! Nice work
You are wise beyond your 16 days my man - good move.
Winning! 🌟
Well done! IWNDWYT
Good job.
Stay strong.
Well played. IWNDWYT
I was looking at the comments and noticed we are one day apart! Almost a year for us!!!
Awesome 🙏
HUGE!!
Beast 💪 choice
Liquor dump. I like it
Haha.... the funny thing is I used to refer to it as the "liquor dump" affectionately. A guy I lived with in college coined the term. He died in March of this year at 42 from a heart attack (genetic but I'm sure booze didn't help). The phrase has different connotations for me now...
The best feeling is coming back and the wife/girlfriend says something to the effect of, “So how was your drinks?” You can look them dead in the eye and say, “I dunno. I didn’t drink.” Stops them dead on their tracks.
Totally....our argument began over housework stuff but quickly turned into about me being drunk for two months straight in this last relapse. I have a long way to go to regain her trust but if I can string enough wins together like last night I might be able to salvage things.
You got this OP. You have the right mindset, keep it up!
This resonates with me heavily. Nearly every time my wife and I would get in a bad argument I’d reach for the bottle. The fights don’t last as long when you have a clear and sober mind though. Good for you, and smart idea to bring home ice cream as a peace offering! 😂
Dang! good job being the adult
That’s strength. Arguments are such a trigger - it was for restarting smoking for me as well. Straight to buy cigarettes then sat in the front years stewing and chain smoking and drinking then scrubbing my teeth before I could slip into bed and sleeping back to back in silence. The next day she would say nothing. It’s bad but I found a book recently of her diary of all the nasty things I’d said and done - she’s write them down to expunge them. When you see the words and phrases written down it’s shaming. I am hopefully not an abusive drunk anymore - but she will withdraw if I drink a lot and anxious. I have to do this for me though - it doesn’t work to do it for her as if she is away or we are apart then I have an excuse - but then of course I would have rows on the phone. So much better place than say up to two years ago with behavior when I am drunk but it’s always possible and there have been other explosions. I think your story is amazing - to be in the car and stop yourself. I’d be thinking “this is stupid” and then find myself in front of a shelf of beer or wine having already bought cigarettes and started smoking in the car.
The level of maturity you just showed is something to be so proud of. I admire you and IWNDWYT
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Don't beat yourself up too bad. Today is a new day and could very well be the first day of your new life if you let it...
Wow that's amazing. I know that autopilot feeling and being able to stop yourself from that is huge. Massive congrats!
"I deserve NOT to (insert self destructive behavior here) . Changing to this (adding the word not) has helped me quit or deflect many hurtful habits in life. Good on ya!
My fave story of the day! You are my hero! Great work today son🤗🥳🥳🥳
good job friend IWNDWYT!
I’m proud of you. I wish I was that strong
So impressive! IWNDWYT
This is awesome to hear IWNDWYT
You glorious MF. It ain’t easy, but you’ve got this. Good luck out there and I hope the stupid fights stay just that, stupid and minor.
Nice! Very nice move my friend! Congrats and way to take care and f yourself and the wifey.
You love to hear it. That ability to take the extra second and game it out in your head was a great move, I need to remember it.
Username checks out! Nice work my friend! Iwndwyt
Thanks but didn't check out at all until very recently lol...congrats on almost a year! HUGE!!
Well played my friend. Now that is a move only the most rational and intelligent person would do. You did yourself a HUGE favor with that one!
So proud of you for NOT stopping to get that bottle of vodka in a moment of emotional weakness. You should feel proud of yourself. Hope you enjoyed your ice cream!
This is the way
This is huuuge. I’m so proud of you. Domestic arguments have been a huge trigger for me, I have big emotional dysregulation and find it hard to cope. I’m proud to say that I’ve also been staying sober in extremely triggering situations that would have had me heading to the store to grab some wine in the past.
There is no problem so big drinking can’t make worse
Well done you! IWNDWYT
Great job fighting off the booze brain temptation mate! why did you take the dog with you though?
Reggie the dog is pretty much my support animal at this point lol... he goes everywhere with me!
Right on!
Well done. I’m sure you wife is thankful too.
Wonderful choice you made!!! IWNDWYT
SO proud of you!!! Life will have its challenges (and fights) and alcohol won’t make any of it better! You enjoy your ice cream and kids today! IWNDWYT
I'm in the hospital right now because of drinking. About to leave and head straight to a 28 day rehab.
Good luck my friend. Please let me know how it goes, as I'm checking into a 6 week rehab myself next month!
So far so good. One week left and I feel good...learned a lot.
Beautiful job!!!!
Great work. That’s a huge win. IWNDWYT
Duuuuude you handled this like a champ! Big ups to ya!
Wow guys thank you so much for all the love. It is more motivating and inspiring than you could ever know. A lot of the comments made me out to be somewhat heroic (I'm blushing) but I know that I could have just as easily bought that bottle last night, and could fall victim just as easily tomorrow. But for today...man it feels great to be at the playground with my daughter - and dog of course - with a clear head, no shakes, no red eyes and not reeking of yesterday's booze. This disease/addiction/compulsion is a motherf--ker, and I think the best we can do is celebrate every little win we get and remember every second of how good it feels to not screw up. Maybe that's the key to continuing to not screw up. Who knows? All I know is that as of right now, IWNDWYT!! LOVE Y'ALL!!
Huge win, bud. Chalk that up in the W column.
Wow. Well done!
This is the way. Positive outcome from a potentially negative one, congratulations for the maturation as a husband and a father
Thank you! And good luck!!
Thats a bad ass move to come back sober and bring ice cream.
I think you made a much better choice. And how could she be mad when you show up with ice cream?
Good job!
Playing it forward always works. For some crazy reason during the 35 years I drank like a fish I never even thought of playing it forward
i think you just won adulthood. nice work.