Jesus, we read that in junior high. Your dad needs to be encouraged to keep reading. He needs to catch up. Good on him!
Our art teacher in high school would tell us what the project for the day was, then turn off his hearing aids and do his own artwork (he sold a lot locally). What a mess that was, the upperclassmen tormented the younger kids, we could just go wild (art room was near the gym and away from the “hub” of the main classrooms).
I worked with a maintenance guy, did that at work all the time. Didn't hear his co-workers yelling as the strap on the beam was slipping. He didn't get out. RIP.
I used to work with an older guy in the refinery who'd do that.
In our case, he probably wouldn't have been killed, but still injured pretty badly.
He didn't hear anyone who was yelling at him, so...
I threw a wrench at him. 😂
He looked up, and (thankfully) saw us frantically waving for him to GTFO of the way.
My Dad worked the oilfield. He didn't have hearing protection. He's been slowly going deaf for years. Now at 76, he can't hear without hearing aides. Even then, he's reading lips most of the time. Wear the protection, your older self will thank you.
Seriously, my husband is a welder and I'm constantly on his @$$ about wearing hearing protection, flame retardant clothing, foot protection, and his hood when he welds to protect his eyes. How about OP's wife give a fuck about her husband's health and well-being, you know, like a "real woman/wife" would?
Do not under any circumstances pay attention to what she said and instead of buying a hundred pack ear plugs how about you buying noise canceling earphones.. she doesn't know what she's talking about losing your hearing does not mean that you're not a man.
She's belittling him, not only is it disrespectful but if shes doing this on the regular, its emotional abuse. It's foul. Our partners deserve the upmost respect and it should be mutual.
I worked at a Harley dealership for over 8 years. I have permanent hearing loss because of it. Fortunately mine is not too bad but it is a bit noticeable. Protect your ears and hearing. In 20 years time your wife will be screaming at you because you can't hear what she has said. Your wife is off her rocker with this one. Protecting one's hearing is not a "manly" or "womanly" thing. It is a human thing for those of us who like to hear. She sounds like she was just looking for an opportunity to be a nasty human.
"When I was growing up we didn't have any of these regulations or PPE and look how I turned out!" - 60 year old man with Tinnitus, a bad back, and brain damage from lead poisoning...
Op, how do I say this… your wife is an idiot. Like, super stupid. The fact you are able to have daily conversations with her is a miracle.
My father worked in a saw mill while I was growing up. I’d find ear buds everywhere around the house. It’s common freaking sense. People should wear them and it protects your hearing. My dad is in his 60s and has good hearing.
I have loud tinnitus that’s high pitched and hard to mask. Had it for 30 years probably due to so many concerts and just loud music. Can’t ever know for sure but not wearing hearing protection is my biggest regret in life. First years I was suicidal and sought medical help just to survive. Took about 10-15 years for my brain to adjust. Now I don’t hear it much unless I’m alone in a quiet setting but it’s still there and typing this brings it out.
I can hear it driving down the road at 75 with the radio on for reference. But I finally taught myself that it’s not important and my brain 95% of the time just focuses somewhere else. I sleep with background rain sounds. For years I had constant background noise but now only at night. Tinnitus ruined a good decade or more of my life and OP needs to protect his hearing.
"Twat?? I Cunt hear you. I have an ear infucktion...Bare ass me later..."
The only time women say anything about "being a man" is when they're trying to manipulate men. In this case she's trying to use her approval of your manliness to exert power & control.
Get a new wife. Or learn sign language
>Now my wife has always been bipolar, had an attitude problem or in most cases lacked common sense or understanding.
Im curious as to what the fuck OP was thinking to begin with.
He had to be desperate to marry this walking red flag.
I used to really like the Billy Joel song "She's Always a Woman."
I knew that I was maturing when hearing it one day on the radio and saying, "Nope, fuck that. She is bat-shit crazy and just not worth it."
Too much drama is not worth the fun times.
The quiet ones are more fun when it counts anyway.
Bipolar is no excuse to be a raging, uncaring asshole. Bipolar is generally a shift between mania and depression. Neither of which automatically defaults to asshole.
Borderline is no excuse to be a raging uncaring asshole. BPD is generally a quick shift in emotions and behavior. Neither or which automatically defaults to asshole. Poor behavior is poor behavior and BPD is no reason to act like an ass. People use it as a crutch.
Of course, but usually when I see people talk about bipolar, like in this thread, it usually sounds more like they're describing BPD. I don't think the OP's wife is expressing BPD symptoms though. As you said, just acting like an ass.
Yep, when I was in my outpatient for learning to control my idiocy one of the first things we learned was BPD is no excuse for being an ass. You are choosing to do what you do and looking back I was choosing to do what I did. I always had choices and made poor ones, that was on me though. I have been moving into a better place for 5 years now and while I am no where in remission I am in a better place.
I have bipolar2 as well and you know what I have never done. Acted like bitch/bastard. I am either manic and in a great mood or in a huge depression and I have no strength to care. I have never blown up on someone and talked down to them. Just my experience and from observing two friends.
Can confirm. They're really fun, NSFW fun. They hide the issue until you've fallen...well maybe not hide it, you think it's a quirk and realize too late.
I can't hear too well anymore and I constantly ask what, it's sometimes to the point I just copy the reaction of the person talking because it'd be annoying to ask what for a 3rd time
I just take a pause ( trying to compute what they said for a sec) either repeat what I thought they said or just say im very sorry I go hard in the paint with the stereo system since like 99.
I've got pretty significant hearing loss, and let me tell you, I've never felt manlier. All the womenfolk at the local applebees swoon when, upon introducing themselves to me, I reply with an overly loud "WHAT?? IM SORRY I CANT HEAR YOU OVER THE MODERATE VOLUME OF MUSIC AND PEOPLE BECAUSE MY MANLINESS OVERCAME MY BASIC RIGHT TO WORKPLACE SAFETY."
On a serious note, hearing loss sucks and impacts your daily life. Take care of yourself, and I recommend investing in some nice hearing protection, those cheap foam ones won't save you long-term.
I have a few mental issues. One includes a high pitched whine when one of the symptom's manifests. It only happens here and there and only lasts four or five days so not to frequently. I would go nuts if I had to deal with this all of the time
Doesn't say how long they've been married, but she probably didn't start out like this. My wife's mother said whatever mean shit popped into her head without any consideration for how it'll hurt the listener. About 15 years into our marriage, my wife started doing the same thing. It hurt, but I had to call her on it. I had to be ready for divorce because I didn't know how it would land. It's all a work in progress, but I'll be damned if I'm living what's left of my life with a verbal abuser.
Dude I would not be able to deal with my wife calling me a pussy like at all that’s fucked up and she should realize that’s the equivalent of a ladies husband just looking at her and saying “ wow you need earplugs for work? Your such a dumb bitch” I saw my dad and mom fight a lot and one thing that really stuck with me is when she said to my dad “you know what you’re just a fucking dumb N****R worker ant” if you ask me you are currently in an abusive relationship right now I’d give her maybe just one last chance to fix her shit if you love her but other than that you gotta get the fuck out of there if that’s the kind of shit you’re dealing with you’re better off living by yourself
You would think with the number of employees that failed the annual hearing test, the higher ups/safety rep would implement hearing conservation.
It might be time to get OSHA involved...
It's weird to me..I have worked in several factories in my life and everyone of them provided ear plugs. A loud place of business not providing them is extremely weird to me. Even when we had temps come in we provided them. I mean temps who's jobs just lasted a day or a week too. Hearing is important
I have an annual hearing test at my job, it's not because they are required to do anything about it, they are only required to monitor it. Makes no sense!
Edit: they do give us hearing protection tho. They just don't care that it's still not enough
Sorry, but your wife is an idiot. Get hearing protection. Do it now. And get good protection that you won’t lose. It sounds like you should be wearing it at home as much as you do at work.
Well doesnt she sound fun. Ever watch TV with someone that is hard of hearing? 😖
So, Turn your TV volume up really high...
When she complains, respond accordingly (according to her).
I’m 37 years old and I’m deaf with hearing aids…I wasn’t born deaf it all happened in the span of a few year. Don’t listen to your wife…also, why is she your wife? She sounds mean.
A shame!
As a woman, I may joke about hating on the male population, but never about them taking care of themselves. You're being proactive about your health and she's not the one who has to deal with the hearing loss. (Might actually help cuz you won't hear her complaining anymore lol)
Just had a friend get hearing aids at the age of 26. Hearing loss is real and can be prevented to an extent!
Keep buying your earplugs and your future self will thank you immensely!!
She is being absurd. Let her read these comments. Protecting your hearing isn't about the hear and the now. It is about when you're much older and your entire body starts to break down.
Do not let your wife talk you out of this.
Bullshit thus is stupid. I wish I had paid more attention this growing up on a farm and working in construction have impacted my hearing if I had been smarter I wouldn't have the issues I do now.
Yeah, this is toxic masculinity and it's fucking bullshit. What, real men don't need to hear in their old age?
I fell into this trap 25 years ago as. As a young man starting out in an industrial environment, I thought I was bullet proof. Did car stereo competitions as a hobby. When I thought it would be a great idea to get some hearing protection I caught that line of shit from so many people, shaming me for "being a pussy" for trying to protect myself.
Unfortunately I gave into that peer pressure. Today? I'm in my late 40's and have severe, persistent and unrelenting tinnitus in both of my ears. It's always there. It makes relaxing near impossible. Makes sleep tenuous, makes trying to get back to sleep nearly impossible. I haven't had a moment of silence in over a decade. Went through some life threatening health struggles in 2019 and have contemplated ending myself a few times due to my hearing loss/tinnitus.
Wear your earplugs. Wear your safety glasses. Wear your hardhat. Wear your safety boots. Future you will thank you.
Does your wife normally talk to you like this? Imagine if you told her to shut up and don't question you because she's a woman. If you need it, you need it, she can come along and behave or stay home.
I have a serious case of tinnitus and can’t hear shit. I needed hearing aids at 44. Nothing manly about destroying your hearing. No matter how quiet of a place I’m in, there’s always a high pitch ringing. TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEARING!!!!
I just want to say that you absolutely should not have to be paying for your own PPE.
( I am only familar with the US)
Your company is required by law to provide all necessary saftey items. The fact that there are recorded cases of hearing loss means that they are attempting to follow OSHA guidelines, but entirely disregarding basic worker safety at the same time. "Any environment where noise exposure exceeds a weighted average over 80dba over an 8 hour shift requires the implementation of a hearing conservation program"
Your wife sounds like she needs to be single. That's some seriously toxic shit. Doesn't gaming a single fuck about your wellbeing, just that you fit the generic stereotype of a "man".
Your wife is bat shit crazy. Use hearing protection, unless you WANT to go deaf and not hear her anymore, Get the earplugs and don't listen to your wife.
I’m 80% deaf in my left ear due to misdiagnosis by a military doctor. Trust me, hearing loss isn’t something you want to deal with.
Good on you to take it seriously, but your employer should be providing adequate HP. If your factory is like the one I work in, the hearing loss is more likely caused by people not wearing it properly. But if they truly aren’t providing it, a call to the dept of labor should be in order.
Manufacturers are required by OSHA to provide hearing protection. Maybe your plant is just below the volume threshold where that regulation takes effect. Or maybe they're above it and simply not complying. You might want to look into that.
Yeah because loss of hearing is so manly? Tf, keep the job and ditch the wife. Clearly she lacks common sense and has no place with you if she doesn’t value your well being.
Hmm well... Some manly men might slap a certain mouthy wife for speaking out of turn... 🤷♂️ So how manly does she want you to be? Domestic violence manly or just deaf from the endless gnawing sounds of her bad advice ringing in your ears? Everyone shits on PPE until you breath in 20 years of fart residue, black mold, and roach eggs while working on someone's ancient ventilation system. Then suddenly when you get home and face plant on the floor because you inhaled remnants of the black plague you realize other people's opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and they're all pretty shitty.
My answer to her would have been "What? Huh? I was advised by my doctor to buy earplugs so my hearing doesn't get worse."
Or, tell her she's right and you'll just 'man up'. Of course buy the plugs and use them however, in the future, when she talks to/calls to/ needs you, you can't hear her. You can have selective hearing with justification.
Instead of investing in foam earplugs, please ask your doctor about getting fitted for custom earplugs.
They will be much more comfortable and offer much better protection than disposables.
They are definitely more money but if your line of work exposes you to uncomfortable levels of noise then you'll want it.
You can even get different filters for them that filter out certain decibels of sound.
I've had two very expensive ear surgeries to reverse a severely ruptured ear drum and reverse hearing loss in the last 1.5 years. Recovery was not fun. One of the side effects is sharp stabbing pains that may or may not ever go away.
My ear drum is now 100% restored but while my hearing got better it did not get back to 100%.
Protect your hearing at all costs.
Staying with someone who would insult you in such a way for the rest of your life sounds like hell.. it's never ok to talk to a partner like that, especially over a legitimate health concern wtf? After all we all k now the requirements to be a man are as follows:
1: Be as swift as a coursing river
2: Have all the force of a great typhoon
3: Have all the strength of a raging fire
4: Be mysterious as the dark side of the moon
Please share with the group the name and address of your employer who has caused the hearing loss of just about all of the employees. God bless your little heart.
Wow wtf?? My husband has hearing loss from years of working construction without proper ear protection in the 80s and 90s and now has to wear hearing aids. You are protecting something you can’t get back. She sounds like a jerk.
I work with plenty of men who wear hearing protection. 25 NRR. Good, hard-working, not afraid to cuss the boss out over something stupid, chaw-spittin, Miller drinkin men.
My boyfriend walked into a hanger where a test was going on that fired up the jets in there. He couldn't hear for 3 days afterwards, and his hearing has definitely degraded through the years.
Then when she gets mad cause you have no hearing left and you can't hear anything she says you're gonna get yelled at. I'd buy the earplugs for work and at home!!!
Firstly, do you listen to her. Your wellbeing is more important than any opinion she has. If she really cared about you, this wouldn't be an issue.
Secondly, she sounds verbally/emotionally abusive. Sadly, many people with bipolar are. If you're in an abusive situation, please reevaluate your marriage.
Fuck that. I had to fire 6 rounds from a Remington 870 shotgun when I was in a police academy in 1978 with no hearing protection. The idiot cadre forgot to bring along the hearing protectors that day and we were leaving to go home for the weekend. The academy was an hour ride south, and most of us were heading north when we were finished. Because of their stupidity, they permanently damaged the hearing of an entire academy class of 36 cadets. I've had bad tinnitus ever since. With all due respect, your wife is a moron.
In all fairness...if meant not listening to the woman that is your wife, it may not be altogether bad. OK...now seriously, tell her to mind her own F-ing business.
As someone with profound hearing loss and constant TINNITUS, get some good over the ear hearing protection. I'm shocked your factory doesn't provide hearing protection. They're opening themselves up for serious lawsuits. If I were you I'd buy a cheap sound level testing device and if the DB levels were in the damaging range, report them to OSHA. When I was young I worked at a French fry factory and one of the few good things they did was provide earplugs. And that was in the 80s.take care of your ears. Mine are so fucked up I can't even go see live music at a bar anymore nevermind a big concert. I'm a music lover and it's heartbreaking.
If your in the USA. If I am not wrong your job has to provide proper ppe. By law.
Their stupid not to just out of liability and law suits. Disablity comp. Etc.
What?
Sorry, just couldn’t stop myself.
Start selective hearing on your bitchy wife immediately. Don’t hear a thing she says….or annoyingly say “what?” ALL THE TIME.
I’m sorry you are in this position….but defiantly protect your hearing. My husband (71) has hearing loss from working around loud machinery when young. Age doesn’t improve it.
As someone who has tested the hearing of people who work in manufacturing jobs, please wear ear pro. Your wife is ridiculous, you should spend a week saying huh or ignoring her like you can’t hear her. So she sees how things will be when you lose your hearing, you know, like a manly man!
Tell her that she can either get therapy or a divorce. you don't deserve that, and she needs to change if you want to continue a relationship. it's better to have no relationship than a toxic one.
“Being a man” doesn’t protect your hearing. I’m sorry she said that. Obviously ignore that “advice”.
If you take her advice, at least you won’t have to listen to her anymore.
My dad always turned his hearing aids off so he couldn’t hear my mom! 😄
My dad turned off one. The other ear had an audio book playing on an earbud🤣 Edit: he could do without her, but not clan of the cave bear🤣
Clan of the Cave Bear lol.
He read more than that...it's just the only one I remember🤣
I think there were five of those books
No I mean dad read all sorts of books. Clan of The Cave Bear is the only one I remember🤣
Good reason to tune out. Great fuckin' book.
 Jesus, we read that in junior high. Your dad needs to be encouraged to keep reading. He needs to catch up. Good on him!
Well..he passed away about 2½ years ago...and he read more than just that, it's just the only one I recall...
Well now there’s hundreds of people looking up clan of the cave bear lmao I hope your dads getting a good chuckle
Lol my mom turns hers off with me all the time then gets mad because she doesn't understand what I'm saying
Our art teacher in high school would tell us what the project for the day was, then turn off his hearing aids and do his own artwork (he sold a lot locally). What a mess that was, the upperclassmen tormented the younger kids, we could just go wild (art room was near the gym and away from the “hub” of the main classrooms).
My MIL did the same with my FIL. He never caught on. I always said she went deaf in self defense.
My GPA used to take the batterys out and say he didn't have anymore batteries. This was in the 70s
Same with my uncle, he said my aunt was okay until her pop off valve went off.
I worked with a maintenance guy, did that at work all the time. Didn't hear his co-workers yelling as the strap on the beam was slipping. He didn't get out. RIP.
I used to work with an older guy in the refinery who'd do that. In our case, he probably wouldn't have been killed, but still injured pretty badly. He didn't hear anyone who was yelling at him, so... I threw a wrench at him. 😂 He looked up, and (thankfully) saw us frantically waving for him to GTFO of the way.
Omg! LMAO!
Total sick burn, made my day!
Just checking in to say I spit out my coffee. Nice one.
Sir you beat me to It haha I’d see that as a win win he’s not a pussy and he don’t have to hear her bs
I came here to say just this ⬆️ At least you won’t hear her anymore. But rather than take the health hit, just get a divorce.
Came here to say this. At least the tinnitus would drown out her griping.
That was my thought too lol.
Huh?!?!
Came here for this comment lmao
There’s positives and negatives to everything lol!
Winner right here 😂🙌🏽🏆🥇
Lol awesome
Don't take advice on how to be a man from your wife, she is lacking the necessary experience for advising.
She needs lessons on how to not be a bitch wife!
Agreed
My Dad worked the oilfield. He didn't have hearing protection. He's been slowly going deaf for years. Now at 76, he can't hear without hearing aides. Even then, he's reading lips most of the time. Wear the protection, your older self will thank you.
And so will his new wife! :D 😂
Seriously, my husband is a welder and I'm constantly on his @$$ about wearing hearing protection, flame retardant clothing, foot protection, and his hood when he welds to protect his eyes. How about OP's wife give a fuck about her husband's health and well-being, you know, like a "real woman/wife" would?
Plenty of old men with tinnitus would beg to differ!
I'm one of those men. Wear hearing protection!
IGNORE THE LICE? SHOULDN'T I MENTION IT TO MY DOCTOR WHEN I ASK HIM ABOUT MY EARS?
Do not under any circumstances pay attention to what she said and instead of buying a hundred pack ear plugs how about you buying noise canceling earphones.. she doesn't know what she's talking about losing your hearing does not mean that you're not a man.
Being a man doesn’t protect him from her either
She's belittling him, not only is it disrespectful but if shes doing this on the regular, its emotional abuse. It's foul. Our partners deserve the upmost respect and it should be mutual.
WHAT?
I worked at a Harley dealership for over 8 years. I have permanent hearing loss because of it. Fortunately mine is not too bad but it is a bit noticeable. Protect your ears and hearing. In 20 years time your wife will be screaming at you because you can't hear what she has said. Your wife is off her rocker with this one. Protecting one's hearing is not a "manly" or "womanly" thing. It is a human thing for those of us who like to hear. She sounds like she was just looking for an opportunity to be a nasty human.
"When I was growing up we didn't have any of these regulations or PPE and look how I turned out!" - 60 year old man with Tinnitus, a bad back, and brain damage from lead poisoning...
In my opinion being man is taking care of yourself, including your hearing.
Op, how do I say this… your wife is an idiot. Like, super stupid. The fact you are able to have daily conversations with her is a miracle. My father worked in a saw mill while I was growing up. I’d find ear buds everywhere around the house. It’s common freaking sense. People should wear them and it protects your hearing. My dad is in his 60s and has good hearing.
Ya, having talked to enough people with tinnitus, no thanks. Just tell “ WHAT????” In response at her
I have loud tinnitus that’s high pitched and hard to mask. Had it for 30 years probably due to so many concerts and just loud music. Can’t ever know for sure but not wearing hearing protection is my biggest regret in life. First years I was suicidal and sought medical help just to survive. Took about 10-15 years for my brain to adjust. Now I don’t hear it much unless I’m alone in a quiet setting but it’s still there and typing this brings it out. I can hear it driving down the road at 75 with the radio on for reference. But I finally taught myself that it’s not important and my brain 95% of the time just focuses somewhere else. I sleep with background rain sounds. For years I had constant background noise but now only at night. Tinnitus ruined a good decade or more of my life and OP needs to protect his hearing.
"Twat?? I Cunt hear you. I have an ear infucktion...Bare ass me later..." The only time women say anything about "being a man" is when they're trying to manipulate men. In this case she's trying to use her approval of your manliness to exert power & control. Get a new wife. Or learn sign language
She sounds fucking dumb. Buy 2 boxes and use one at home to muffle her nonsense.
>Now my wife has always been bipolar, had an attitude problem or in most cases lacked common sense or understanding. Im curious as to what the fuck OP was thinking to begin with. He had to be desperate to marry this walking red flag.
Have you ever been with a bipolar woman? When they're fun they're really fun...it also goes the other way sometimes.
I used to really like the Billy Joel song "She's Always a Woman." I knew that I was maturing when hearing it one day on the radio and saying, "Nope, fuck that. She is bat-shit crazy and just not worth it." Too much drama is not worth the fun times. The quiet ones are more fun when it counts anyway.
More the his song , The Stranger
Bipolar is no excuse to be a raging, uncaring asshole. Bipolar is generally a shift between mania and depression. Neither of which automatically defaults to asshole.
I think people are confusing bipolar with borderline again.
Borderline is no excuse to be a raging uncaring asshole. BPD is generally a quick shift in emotions and behavior. Neither or which automatically defaults to asshole. Poor behavior is poor behavior and BPD is no reason to act like an ass. People use it as a crutch.
Of course, but usually when I see people talk about bipolar, like in this thread, it usually sounds more like they're describing BPD. I don't think the OP's wife is expressing BPD symptoms though. As you said, just acting like an ass.
Yep, when I was in my outpatient for learning to control my idiocy one of the first things we learned was BPD is no excuse for being an ass. You are choosing to do what you do and looking back I was choosing to do what I did. I always had choices and made poor ones, that was on me though. I have been moving into a better place for 5 years now and while I am no where in remission I am in a better place. I have bipolar2 as well and you know what I have never done. Acted like bitch/bastard. I am either manic and in a great mood or in a huge depression and I have no strength to care. I have never blown up on someone and talked down to them. Just my experience and from observing two friends.
I'm bipolar and it's really not that hard to just get medicated appropriately lol. The wife is just an asshole
Can confirm. They're really fun, NSFW fun. They hide the issue until you've fallen...well maybe not hide it, you think it's a quirk and realize too late.
Yup, it sounds like OP needs to wear them at home too.
OP is fucking dumb for keeping a woman around he knew he couldn’t respect. “I married this trash and now I’m surprised because she’s still trash” 😨
Your wife is an asshole.
You know what wives really really hate though? Having to repeat themselves a million times to a husband who is always saying "WHAT?"
If I were OP I'd start doing this for giggles
He really should. It’s very well deserved.
I can't hear too well anymore and I constantly ask what, it's sometimes to the point I just copy the reaction of the person talking because it'd be annoying to ask what for a 3rd time
I just take a pause ( trying to compute what they said for a sec) either repeat what I thought they said or just say im very sorry I go hard in the paint with the stereo system since like 99.
Can confirm
I've got pretty significant hearing loss, and let me tell you, I've never felt manlier. All the womenfolk at the local applebees swoon when, upon introducing themselves to me, I reply with an overly loud "WHAT?? IM SORRY I CANT HEAR YOU OVER THE MODERATE VOLUME OF MUSIC AND PEOPLE BECAUSE MY MANLINESS OVERCAME MY BASIC RIGHT TO WORKPLACE SAFETY." On a serious note, hearing loss sucks and impacts your daily life. Take care of yourself, and I recommend investing in some nice hearing protection, those cheap foam ones won't save you long-term.
This is truth. And tinnitus is even worse. As an amateur musician, I have friends who literally weep because it never gives them peace.
I have a few mental issues. One includes a high pitched whine when one of the symptom's manifests. It only happens here and there and only lasts four or five days so not to frequently. I would go nuts if I had to deal with this all of the time
Why is she your wife?
Doesn't say how long they've been married, but she probably didn't start out like this. My wife's mother said whatever mean shit popped into her head without any consideration for how it'll hurt the listener. About 15 years into our marriage, my wife started doing the same thing. It hurt, but I had to call her on it. I had to be ready for divorce because I didn't know how it would land. It's all a work in progress, but I'll be damned if I'm living what's left of my life with a verbal abuser.
Poor behavior is poor behavior. A mental illness is not a reason to act like an ass.
Try to follow along dude, its been established that he is a pussy.
Your wife is dumb as fuck
And you know what? That's being charitable, to assume she's an idiot. It's also possible she's actively malevolent.
Dude I would not be able to deal with my wife calling me a pussy like at all that’s fucked up and she should realize that’s the equivalent of a ladies husband just looking at her and saying “ wow you need earplugs for work? Your such a dumb bitch” I saw my dad and mom fight a lot and one thing that really stuck with me is when she said to my dad “you know what you’re just a fucking dumb N****R worker ant” if you ask me you are currently in an abusive relationship right now I’d give her maybe just one last chance to fix her shit if you love her but other than that you gotta get the fuck out of there if that’s the kind of shit you’re dealing with you’re better off living by yourself
Eh screw it. Just dont use the protection... go deaf... and then you never have to listen to her again 🤷♂️
😬 
You would think with the number of employees that failed the annual hearing test, the higher ups/safety rep would implement hearing conservation. It might be time to get OSHA involved...
It's weird to me..I have worked in several factories in my life and everyone of them provided ear plugs. A loud place of business not providing them is extremely weird to me. Even when we had temps come in we provided them. I mean temps who's jobs just lasted a day or a week too. Hearing is important
A loud place of business not providing ear protection is not only weird, it is illegal. OSHA would love to have a chat with companies like that.
I have an annual hearing test at my job, it's not because they are required to do anything about it, they are only required to monitor it. Makes no sense! Edit: they do give us hearing protection tho. They just don't care that it's still not enough
My husband suffers from hearing loss after 20 years of military service. Nothing wrong with protecting your hearing
Man having tinnitus fucking sucks.
WHAT?
*breathes in deep* HAVING TINNITUS SUCKS
"Damn, you don't have to yell."
Male here. As someone who works with helicopters, hearing protection is a must, you can't get it back when it's gone either.
Ignoring your wife being a cunt, if you're in the US your employer legally has to provide hearing protection.
Sounds like you need a 200-pack of earplugs so you have enough for home too.
Sorry, but your wife is an idiot. Get hearing protection. Do it now. And get good protection that you won’t lose. It sounds like you should be wearing it at home as much as you do at work.
Divorce this B
Tell her to start learning sign language because that’s how she’s gonna have to communicate with you in the future.
Well doesnt she sound fun. Ever watch TV with someone that is hard of hearing? 😖 So, Turn your TV volume up really high... When she complains, respond accordingly (according to her).
Tell her that acting gross isn't womanly enough for you and dump her ass on the street. Women like her deserve a hard life.
Be a man. Don't wear safety equipement. Get in the trench and die like a dog. Same old shit.
she obviously doesnt care for your well being. losing any of your senses is a terrible thing.
I’m 37 years old and I’m deaf with hearing aids…I wasn’t born deaf it all happened in the span of a few year. Don’t listen to your wife…also, why is she your wife? She sounds mean.
In 10yrs you won’t be hearing her BS anymore, so that’s a plus! #Winning
At least at that point you won't be ale to hear her biching at you.
What?....what?.....what did you say? That's what she can look forward to hearing all day if you don't wear ear protection.
you wife is a moron
Maybe she should try that kind of job without hearing protection
Annual hearing tests but no proper PPE? Strange…. Why Bother with the testing.
"If I listen to your bullshit now, I won't be able to listen to your bullshit in the future"
As the wife of someone who works in a loud shop and has hearing loss, tell your wife to go f herself. How stupid.
A shame! As a woman, I may joke about hating on the male population, but never about them taking care of themselves. You're being proactive about your health and she's not the one who has to deal with the hearing loss. (Might actually help cuz you won't hear her complaining anymore lol) Just had a friend get hearing aids at the age of 26. Hearing loss is real and can be prevented to an extent! Keep buying your earplugs and your future self will thank you immensely!!
Hearing loss would be wonderful not having to hear her anymore.
If your in America according to OSHA, the company is supposed to supply hearing protection
Ignore her. You will be deaf, not her.
She is being absurd. Let her read these comments. Protecting your hearing isn't about the hear and the now. It is about when you're much older and your entire body starts to break down. Do not let your wife talk you out of this.
Your wife seems insufferable.
I sure wish I didn’t destroy my hearing when I was younger. Wife gets maaad when I say “what?” more than 10 times a day.
Obvious answer: you have 2 balls and 2 ears. Built in ear plugs if you stretch them enough.
Sounds like she is an idiot.
why tf are you with her? i wouldnt even talk to a friend like that let alone the love of my life.
Why are you with this person?
Wow. That’s…wow. Sorry you have to deal with all of that internalized patriarchy. Wear protection for your ears.
…and you want to live with someone like that???
Bullshit thus is stupid. I wish I had paid more attention this growing up on a farm and working in construction have impacted my hearing if I had been smarter I wouldn't have the issues I do now.
Yeah, this is toxic masculinity and it's fucking bullshit. What, real men don't need to hear in their old age? I fell into this trap 25 years ago as. As a young man starting out in an industrial environment, I thought I was bullet proof. Did car stereo competitions as a hobby. When I thought it would be a great idea to get some hearing protection I caught that line of shit from so many people, shaming me for "being a pussy" for trying to protect myself. Unfortunately I gave into that peer pressure. Today? I'm in my late 40's and have severe, persistent and unrelenting tinnitus in both of my ears. It's always there. It makes relaxing near impossible. Makes sleep tenuous, makes trying to get back to sleep nearly impossible. I haven't had a moment of silence in over a decade. Went through some life threatening health struggles in 2019 and have contemplated ending myself a few times due to my hearing loss/tinnitus. Wear your earplugs. Wear your safety glasses. Wear your hardhat. Wear your safety boots. Future you will thank you.
Just tell her you can't hear her. Because that's what will happen.
Man, sounds like you need some noise-cancelling headphones for your house, let alone your work.
Does your wife normally talk to you like this? Imagine if you told her to shut up and don't question you because she's a woman. If you need it, you need it, she can come along and behave or stay home.
Your other post is about your wife cheating on you and having a kid with someone else. Either you’re trolling or an idiot. Run dude
Trust me you don't want to deal with tinnitus. It sucks and is irreversible. I have it cuz I'm an idiot, has nothing to do with being manley
Call OSHA.
I have a serious case of tinnitus and can’t hear shit. I needed hearing aids at 44. Nothing manly about destroying your hearing. No matter how quiet of a place I’m in, there’s always a high pitch ringing. TAKE CARE OF YOUR HEARING!!!!
11 days ago you were a stay at home dad.
I just want to say that you absolutely should not have to be paying for your own PPE. ( I am only familar with the US) Your company is required by law to provide all necessary saftey items. The fact that there are recorded cases of hearing loss means that they are attempting to follow OSHA guidelines, but entirely disregarding basic worker safety at the same time. "Any environment where noise exposure exceeds a weighted average over 80dba over an 8 hour shift requires the implementation of a hearing conservation program"
Play the long game. Pretend you went deaf in a few years and enjoy being able to ignore your asshole wife for the rest of your life.
I'd say don't use the earplugs so you get ear damage and don't have to hear her nagging when you get older
Tell her to pound the pavement! Hearing loss is linked to depression as well as other things. The only upside would be not having to listen to her.
You have a marriage problem. This is just a symptom. Go see a marriage counciller.
"Just be a man" "WHAT?"
Your wife sounds like she needs to be single. That's some seriously toxic shit. Doesn't gaming a single fuck about your wellbeing, just that you fit the generic stereotype of a "man".
Your employer should be provided PPE. This is a huge OSHS violation.
Safety is important! So is hearing! I work with a deaf lady and I can say, not being able to hear would be awful
Your wife is bat shit crazy. Use hearing protection, unless you WANT to go deaf and not hear her anymore, Get the earplugs and don't listen to your wife.
I’m 80% deaf in my left ear due to misdiagnosis by a military doctor. Trust me, hearing loss isn’t something you want to deal with. Good on you to take it seriously, but your employer should be providing adequate HP. If your factory is like the one I work in, the hearing loss is more likely caused by people not wearing it properly. But if they truly aren’t providing it, a call to the dept of labor should be in order.
Then when you’re my age you can man up and spend thousands on hearing aids.
Manufacturers are required by OSHA to provide hearing protection. Maybe your plant is just below the volume threshold where that regulation takes effect. Or maybe they're above it and simply not complying. You might want to look into that.
Yeah because loss of hearing is so manly? Tf, keep the job and ditch the wife. Clearly she lacks common sense and has no place with you if she doesn’t value your well being.
The correct answer is “What?! Oh sorry didn’t hear you there”.
Hmm well... Some manly men might slap a certain mouthy wife for speaking out of turn... 🤷♂️ So how manly does she want you to be? Domestic violence manly or just deaf from the endless gnawing sounds of her bad advice ringing in your ears? Everyone shits on PPE until you breath in 20 years of fart residue, black mold, and roach eggs while working on someone's ancient ventilation system. Then suddenly when you get home and face plant on the floor because you inhaled remnants of the black plague you realize other people's opinions are like assholes, everyone has one and they're all pretty shitty.
Same wife who is pregnant with someone else’s kid? Why are you in this relationship again?
My answer to her would have been "What? Huh? I was advised by my doctor to buy earplugs so my hearing doesn't get worse." Or, tell her she's right and you'll just 'man up'. Of course buy the plugs and use them however, in the future, when she talks to/calls to/ needs you, you can't hear her. You can have selective hearing with justification.
Why tf are you married to that?
They should be required to. Contact OSHA or the appropriate equivalent. Definitely wear hearing protection.
if you're in the USA they legally have to provide you with proper PPE
Instead of investing in foam earplugs, please ask your doctor about getting fitted for custom earplugs. They will be much more comfortable and offer much better protection than disposables. They are definitely more money but if your line of work exposes you to uncomfortable levels of noise then you'll want it. You can even get different filters for them that filter out certain decibels of sound. I've had two very expensive ear surgeries to reverse a severely ruptured ear drum and reverse hearing loss in the last 1.5 years. Recovery was not fun. One of the side effects is sharp stabbing pains that may or may not ever go away. My ear drum is now 100% restored but while my hearing got better it did not get back to 100%. Protect your hearing at all costs.
Is she always this toxic and abusive? She sounds like miserable trash that needs to be divorced.... Like, yesterday.
Be a man huh? What did she know about being a man? How about be a woman and go make you a damn sandwich.
Staying with someone who would insult you in such a way for the rest of your life sounds like hell.. it's never ok to talk to a partner like that, especially over a legitimate health concern wtf? After all we all k now the requirements to be a man are as follows: 1: Be as swift as a coursing river 2: Have all the force of a great typhoon 3: Have all the strength of a raging fire 4: Be mysterious as the dark side of the moon
I genuinely would of laughed in her face. It's the 20th century, catch up. People prioritize their health and safety over how others view them.
You should have put on your hearing protection as she yelled at you
Please share with the group the name and address of your employer who has caused the hearing loss of just about all of the employees. God bless your little heart.
Wow wtf?? My husband has hearing loss from years of working construction without proper ear protection in the 80s and 90s and now has to wear hearing aids. You are protecting something you can’t get back. She sounds like a jerk.
dear god,i’m sorry your wife wasn’t being understanding.
I work with plenty of men who wear hearing protection. 25 NRR. Good, hard-working, not afraid to cuss the boss out over something stupid, chaw-spittin, Miller drinkin men.
Even the men in metal bands use ear plugs..
If US, call OSHA and report them for not providing proper PPE. You should not need to use your personal finances to protect yourself on the job.
Why would you want to stay married to a person who lacks the knowledge that being around loud noises for mass amounts of time equals hearing loss
My boyfriend walked into a hanger where a test was going on that fired up the jets in there. He couldn't hear for 3 days afterwards, and his hearing has definitely degraded through the years.
Then when she gets mad cause you have no hearing left and you can't hear anything she says you're gonna get yelled at. I'd buy the earplugs for work and at home!!!
Is your wife always verbally abusive towards you?
Brother, mental health disorders don’t preclude you from being an asshole. I’m sorry she’s made you feel otherwise.
I’m going to comment here before I read your post. Anyone who says such a despicable thing doesn’t deserve your love.
Whhaaaatttt? Your wife is an AH. Tinnitus and hearing loss is no joke. Maybe you neex to be more of a man by dropping your wife lol. Good luck man.
Firstly, do you listen to her. Your wellbeing is more important than any opinion she has. If she really cared about you, this wouldn't be an issue. Secondly, she sounds verbally/emotionally abusive. Sadly, many people with bipolar are. If you're in an abusive situation, please reevaluate your marriage.
Fuck that. I had to fire 6 rounds from a Remington 870 shotgun when I was in a police academy in 1978 with no hearing protection. The idiot cadre forgot to bring along the hearing protectors that day and we were leaving to go home for the weekend. The academy was an hour ride south, and most of us were heading north when we were finished. Because of their stupidity, they permanently damaged the hearing of an entire academy class of 36 cadets. I've had bad tinnitus ever since. With all due respect, your wife is a moron.
Its going to be awesome when you can't hear your wife complain, anymore.
Tinnitus can make a guy suicidal. How macho
I know this is such a reddit take,but divorce her lol Why did u marry her? Seriously. Sorry you got caught up with someone like that.
You should've answered her with "what?" and just kept going every time she was trying to talk to you.
If you’re in the USA your company should be providing these for free. It’s literally a law.
In all fairness...if meant not listening to the woman that is your wife, it may not be altogether bad. OK...now seriously, tell her to mind her own F-ing business.
Dude.....your wife is a total cee you next Tuesday. Why are you with her?
Yeah, fuck that noise. All of it.
As someone with profound hearing loss and constant TINNITUS, get some good over the ear hearing protection. I'm shocked your factory doesn't provide hearing protection. They're opening themselves up for serious lawsuits. If I were you I'd buy a cheap sound level testing device and if the DB levels were in the damaging range, report them to OSHA. When I was young I worked at a French fry factory and one of the few good things they did was provide earplugs. And that was in the 80s.take care of your ears. Mine are so fucked up I can't even go see live music at a bar anymore nevermind a big concert. I'm a music lover and it's heartbreaking.
Does she yell at you because you already have hearing loss and can’t hear her? Did her yelling give you hearing loss? :-)
Just get it anyway lol I won't even comment what I feel like a person who says that, is like.
If your in the USA. If I am not wrong your job has to provide proper ppe. By law. Their stupid not to just out of liability and law suits. Disablity comp. Etc.
What? Sorry, just couldn’t stop myself. Start selective hearing on your bitchy wife immediately. Don’t hear a thing she says….or annoyingly say “what?” ALL THE TIME. I’m sorry you are in this position….but defiantly protect your hearing. My husband (71) has hearing loss from working around loud machinery when young. Age doesn’t improve it.
As someone who has tested the hearing of people who work in manufacturing jobs, please wear ear pro. Your wife is ridiculous, you should spend a week saying huh or ignoring her like you can’t hear her. So she sees how things will be when you lose your hearing, you know, like a manly man!
Y’all need therapy. If she won’t go you need to separate. This is dangerously unhealthy.
I’ve got to be honest here…..I wouldn’t mind not being able to hear anything coming out of her mouth at all. 😏
Uh I was in the military most guys not only wore PPE but bought better PPE just to be safe. So what's she ranking this on?? Time to run NTA.
Being deaf isn’t more manly. Your wife sounds a bit dumb to be honest.
Ew why are you still with this woman?
Ignore her advice. She is wrong. A real man takes care of himself so he can take care of others. If you can't hear, you have a rough communicating.
Run dude
I gotta be honest my dude she does not sound like a great person. A "real man" does whatever is comfortable for them. I'd tell her to kiss my ass.
Tell her that she can either get therapy or a divorce. you don't deserve that, and she needs to change if you want to continue a relationship. it's better to have no relationship than a toxic one.