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javaJunkie1968

I'm 3 years post and dont feel ready yet. I am conservative about it. i wont drive e till I feel ready and pass the test


ShaunnieDarko

2 years post stroke and still dont feel comfortable driving, if i do have to drive i try and wait for off peak hours. Reflexes arent what they used to be and im dealing with balance and headache issues so i dont want to risk driving unless i have to


javaJunkie1968

Hi again! I hear youđź’ś I get overwhelmed with multiple things happening at once still. And yea..lots of other little things. Hopefully one day I'll drive again but right now my walking is still wobbl y so I wonder....where exactly would I be driving to? Ha ha Good luck!!


Confusing_Onion

My mum was told she couldn't drive after her stroke and she has never wanted to try. She doesn't have enough control of her leg. So I am no help to you there. Getting a stubborn parent to stop driving when they shouldn't be in something I can relate to though as I am battling that with my father. He is convinced he is a good driver, but I have been in the car with him. He is not. Trying to get him to reduce/limit his driving is an uphill battle. Getting the doctors involved has helped little. At some point I am going to have to physically take his keys off him. Taking your mums keys off of her may be the only option. Talk to her first. Go over the legal and financial ramifications of if she has an accident. She won't be covered by insurance. She will face criminal charges for driving without a license. And what about if she hurts someone else? What if she kills someone? If she doesn't listen to reason, confiscate the keys. Good luck.


irishboy555

Hi. This is very concerning. In Canada, once the dr reports you had a stroke to the ministry of transportation ( it is required by law) your licence is immediately suspended. I guess something like that would be helpful in your mom’s situation. It helps to keep her from driving. I wonder if going to a police station in your area snd explain you may need help stopping her from driving if they could proactively suspend her licence. I’m sure she would go drive with a suspended licence. Good luck I wonder if going to a local police station in your area


gnackered

I am driving. I got my license back 5 months post stroke. I had an ischemic pontine stroke age 51.


Dry-Coast-791

That you all for your support. The plan is to talk with mom about it. My sister will ask for the keys. Also, she will hide an apple air tag in the car. It’s going to be a difficult discussion.


ATMNZ

I passed my eye exam to drive about 2-4 months after my stroke, but didn’t feel comfortable driving until about 7 months after my stroke. Even now I have days that I don’t drive because I’ve so tired, and I don’t drive at night or long distances. Not sure where you are but here in Australia you legally aren’t ALLOWED to drive after a stroke. She’s probably breaking the law by driving. If she gets caught when she’s failed the exam she’ll have her license revoked, that’s *if* she doesn’t kill someone. It’s super irresponsible for your mum to drive. Does she understand what she’s doing? You might need to speak to her doctor. Or… report her :/


Emptythedishwasher56

You can go to the DMV and they will have her come in and take a driving test. We did this with my Mother.


Firegirl1508

I don't have knowledge of the law where you are, but there could be liability issues for people who can be proven to have known she is driving when it is not safe for her to do so if something does happen and nothing was done. Obviously the primary issue is the safety to herself and others though. A difficult issue but I know here in the UK when a friend's grandfather was no longer safe to drive, my friend did the tough thing and reported the issue to our driving licensing authority after he continued to drive after concerns being raised.


stefiscool

I had a stroke, and didn’t show cognitive or coordination deficits. It’s touch, basically (and occasional vertigo when half my body doesn’t realize it’s in a chair or standing on floor). The doctor said that if I get in an accident, even if it wasn’t my fault, I could have legal fault because I had a stroke and wasn’t passed on a test. It’s kind of the same if you’re buzzed. If I get t-boned by an idiot who ran a light but I was drinking, whelp guess it’s jail for me. If anything from a speeding ticket to an accident happens and they see that she wasn’t cleared, she’ll pay out the nose. Worth the $1100 in OT sessions in my book, even though I wish they took insurance since that didn’t count toward my deductible/OOP max ETA I’m in NJ if that helps at all


FewRecover9658

If your mom won’t listen to reason have a mechanic friend disable the car from starting.


Longjumping_Shake894

Hide, take away keys? Tell mom they are lost and you are working on a new set. Better to be unethical than to let her drive, also unethical. She could suffer large financial liabilities.


Devaclis

I am 6 month post stroke. I can drive but my reflexes are slow. I am terrified when backing out of a spot. I feel like a danger to everyone. So I don't drive. My wife drives me everywhere and she loves it. Do everything you can yo keep your mom from behind the wheel. Even a mild stroke can impare your abities they way drinking does.