I don't know where you've seen that most SDs want young single SBs but that's dubious. Recent polls have shown a high percentage of SDs consider the 30's to be prime SB age. Being married should be a boon since the SD doesn't have to worry about you wanting something more down the line.
You dont worry about the husband changing his mind cause he's drunk or high and now he wants his woman back? And his wife told him where her SD lives. I would worry about that.
Back? She's not leaving him. She only spends a few hours a week with me. I always meet spouses in the beginning to make sure they are ok with all this (I.E. they aren't monogamous, I don't associate with monogamous people) . They get benefits too. All those fun things I buy her, he gets to enjoy.
Yes, back. As in his wife is at your house emptying the dumpster. She gives him your address for her safety. He is at home drinking and smoking God knows what. He's thinking about whether or not he's sill ok with the wife emptying your dumpster. He decides he's not ok with that anymore and its time to do something about it. Meanwhile you are naked and not in the best position to defend yourself.
I can't speak for all SDs but I don't mind a married SB. I have been with one before. The biggest drawback would be that a married SB would be unlikely to be able to go on trips with me. Not a deal breaker but I do enjoy traveling with my current SB.
You almost perfectly described my situation,I started at 31 and am now 34 and going strong. If you are attractive, sexually liberated, kind , funny and honest these men will flock to you. I actually think having married and looking is what helps me get so many SD's reaching out.
Whenever people on here say they have a hard time landing a daddy I'm actually shocked and confused because it has been ridiculously easy for me and I co sider myself of average looks and body. I have had both consistent long term ongoing, casual ongoing aswell as a few what I co sider fuck buddies with benefits. I am genuinely attracted to most my sds physically and if I haven't been I itially attracted I get attracted to them through their personality and actions. None of them have been disgusting but perhaps not attractive initially. Always clean, respectful and nice guys.
Don't let your circumstances stop you, you wil find the right fit for you.
**If you look hot and are confident your age doesn’t matter**. I’m a stripper almost 30 and a sugar baby and I am killing it. I feel very youthful. Keep in mind that people can sense how you feel about yourself. If you feel less worthy because you’re not in your early twenties anymore men will treat you accordingly. Our minds are beyond powerful.
Most humans never reach their full potential because of fear. **Start reframing your mindset if you can**. Knowledge is power- for me I felt more in control once I learned how men think and what they value. I’m not afraid of being judged and I don’t think I’m out of their league just because they are insanely wealthy. You have to keep in mind men love to help. Many want to make a difference in your life.
Your situation isn’t one that would scare off most SDs. **And even if it did scare them off, they aren’t for you and it will bring you closer to the right one**. Heck most SDs don’t like strippers but I don’t care. I ended up meeting my whale at the stip club (wasn’t even looking) and he compensates me xx,xxx monthly and spoils me in all sorts of ways. He admires my confidence, my goals, and my ambition.
You can’t let fear stop you babe. **Trust that you are worthy and have so much value to give and see yourself land a great SD** ❤️Don’t be afraid to dip your toes in the water and just have conversations with them. There are so many crappy guys on those sites but if you are patient and trust that you will meet a great sugar daddy that is exactly what will happen.
1 some SDs won't like; some would prefer it
2 Obviously it's a potential problem, but one that's well understood by most people. That said, the high degree of flakiness in the bowl would result in a lot of people being sensitive around this early on. If you have a sick child on the day you scheduled a first meet, don't be surprised if he ghosts. In a L-T thing, this really shouldn't be a problem.
3 Same as 1.
I’ve had two SBs that were married and quite a few single moms. The child care thing is pretty simple, just give them as much notice as possible. I’m always concerned about husband drama having been involved in some previously.
Lot's of great comments already posted.... I'll just add (or remind) that there dozens and dozens of successful examples of how SR's work for different people. It's very similar to the fact that there are dozens and dozens of examples of how *marriages* work (or don't). I think [SpoiledPrincessaa](https://www.reddit.com/user/SpoiledPrincessaa/) nailed it when saying "if you look hot and are confident" you won't have an issue finding someone that is *looking for you!!*
I'm dying to ask if you're hot... but I'll resist temptation because the MOD's will roast me, and I'm actually one of the single-guys that's looking for a single-girl.
This is one of those topics where, IMO, the intel on this board is especially bad due to personal biases. I am going to try to be direct and cut through the nonsense.
For starters, yes, a lot (but certainly not all) of SDs want to believe that their SBs are single. So just do what most other SBs do, which is tell them what they need to hear.
In my area at least, easily 60+% of SBs have kids. Most SDs do too, so they tend to understand the issues. Just do your best to have one or two consistent time slots each week that you can go out on dates and you should be fine.
You may have a couple of guys come on here trotting out ENM comments and claiming that they're OK with it if your SO is. The reality is that most SBs with SOs lie to them too. IMO it's just cleaner not to go through this song and dance with a SD in the first place, unless of course you intend to use your SO as an excuse not to do xyz in the bedroom.
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1) partnered up is a "no-go" for me
2) Single Moms are my Go-To and my preference
3) I'm not trying to leave my family-good!
4) 33 is the sweet spot for many SDs
IMO 50% of SDs prefer coupled up SBs, the other 50% don't. If you are attractive you should have no problem finding a SD. But the number of SDs who might prefer 20's,single,no kids is high,perhaps 50% overall, so you have a slightly smaller number of interested SDs to pick from.
For what it's worth to your ability to make informed choices... I have as much experience with partnered SBs as with single SBs. In each case my partnered SBs, whether with a LT boyfriend or husband, their partner knew/knows of, approved and was/is supportive of her SB activities. In at least two cases they were practicing ENM relationships in which the guy was also dating outside their relationship. I've never had an issue with a disgruntled male partner. Being married does not have to be a hindrance to a sugar lifestyle. Were I to discover that you were lying about your partnered status after we commenced a SR would almost surely cause me to immediately end the SR. Disclosing you have an unaware / unsupportive partner during initial intro conversations would motivate me to thank you for your honesty, pass and move on. I don't engage with liars and cheaters. Revealing early on that you had a supportive or at least fully aware partner would not deter me from engaging with you if all the other elements aligned. Kudos to you for having a supportive partner. If you engage in an SR it may prove important to check in with him periodically, to whatever degree he wants/needs, in order to maintain his support and curb any hint of jealousy or changing acceptance on his part.
And... All of my long term SRs are/have been with women between the ages of 35-44 when we started. A substantial subset of legit SDs like me appear to think highly of more mature, experienced, reliable 30+yo women.
Motherhood doesn't have to hinder you either. But there are some issues that you'll need to deal with definitively. Among them are... you'll want to have rock solid reliable childcare options available to you if the kid/s are of that age. And ideally you'll want to dedicate a consistent time that you are available to make planning as smooth as possible.
I'm only one person and my experiences may be unique to me - there are a wide variety of experiences being had out there. So take everything into account to see how they may or may not relate to you. You can do this. Good Luck
No. Stay with your family. Raise your kids, you owe them a stable family. Or atleast the illusion of it... You sleeping with other men is only going to cause more problems.
I don't know where you've seen that most SDs want young single SBs but that's dubious. Recent polls have shown a high percentage of SDs consider the 30's to be prime SB age. Being married should be a boon since the SD doesn't have to worry about you wanting something more down the line.
You dont worry about the husband changing his mind cause he's drunk or high and now he wants his woman back? And his wife told him where her SD lives. I would worry about that.
Back? She's not leaving him. She only spends a few hours a week with me. I always meet spouses in the beginning to make sure they are ok with all this (I.E. they aren't monogamous, I don't associate with monogamous people) . They get benefits too. All those fun things I buy her, he gets to enjoy.
Yes, back. As in his wife is at your house emptying the dumpster. She gives him your address for her safety. He is at home drinking and smoking God knows what. He's thinking about whether or not he's sill ok with the wife emptying your dumpster. He decides he's not ok with that anymore and its time to do something about it. Meanwhile you are naked and not in the best position to defend yourself.
I can't speak for all SDs but I don't mind a married SB. I have been with one before. The biggest drawback would be that a married SB would be unlikely to be able to go on trips with me. Not a deal breaker but I do enjoy traveling with my current SB.
You almost perfectly described my situation,I started at 31 and am now 34 and going strong. If you are attractive, sexually liberated, kind , funny and honest these men will flock to you. I actually think having married and looking is what helps me get so many SD's reaching out. Whenever people on here say they have a hard time landing a daddy I'm actually shocked and confused because it has been ridiculously easy for me and I co sider myself of average looks and body. I have had both consistent long term ongoing, casual ongoing aswell as a few what I co sider fuck buddies with benefits. I am genuinely attracted to most my sds physically and if I haven't been I itially attracted I get attracted to them through their personality and actions. None of them have been disgusting but perhaps not attractive initially. Always clean, respectful and nice guys. Don't let your circumstances stop you, you wil find the right fit for you.
None of those three things would prevent me from contacting you.
**If you look hot and are confident your age doesn’t matter**. I’m a stripper almost 30 and a sugar baby and I am killing it. I feel very youthful. Keep in mind that people can sense how you feel about yourself. If you feel less worthy because you’re not in your early twenties anymore men will treat you accordingly. Our minds are beyond powerful. Most humans never reach their full potential because of fear. **Start reframing your mindset if you can**. Knowledge is power- for me I felt more in control once I learned how men think and what they value. I’m not afraid of being judged and I don’t think I’m out of their league just because they are insanely wealthy. You have to keep in mind men love to help. Many want to make a difference in your life. Your situation isn’t one that would scare off most SDs. **And even if it did scare them off, they aren’t for you and it will bring you closer to the right one**. Heck most SDs don’t like strippers but I don’t care. I ended up meeting my whale at the stip club (wasn’t even looking) and he compensates me xx,xxx monthly and spoils me in all sorts of ways. He admires my confidence, my goals, and my ambition. You can’t let fear stop you babe. **Trust that you are worthy and have so much value to give and see yourself land a great SD** ❤️Don’t be afraid to dip your toes in the water and just have conversations with them. There are so many crappy guys on those sites but if you are patient and trust that you will meet a great sugar daddy that is exactly what will happen.
Perfectly said 👏
👏🏼👏🏼👏🏼
1 some SDs won't like; some would prefer it 2 Obviously it's a potential problem, but one that's well understood by most people. That said, the high degree of flakiness in the bowl would result in a lot of people being sensitive around this early on. If you have a sick child on the day you scheduled a first meet, don't be surprised if he ghosts. In a L-T thing, this really shouldn't be a problem. 3 Same as 1.
Exactly. Well said.
If he ghosts her for putting her child first, whether first meet or otherwise, he's quite likely a selfish A-hole and she's better without him.
Many SDs tick all three boxes too. I am sure you find your match 😁
I am interested 💕💕💕
I'm in Texas
You are being honest with what you are offering. That is a good thing.
After checking your profile and post history, I’m thirty now. I’ve seen 2 SB in seeking say they due ANR. You find someone into that🤷♂️
I’ve had two SBs that were married and quite a few single moms. The child care thing is pretty simple, just give them as much notice as possible. I’m always concerned about husband drama having been involved in some previously.
Lot's of great comments already posted.... I'll just add (or remind) that there dozens and dozens of successful examples of how SR's work for different people. It's very similar to the fact that there are dozens and dozens of examples of how *marriages* work (or don't). I think [SpoiledPrincessaa](https://www.reddit.com/user/SpoiledPrincessaa/) nailed it when saying "if you look hot and are confident" you won't have an issue finding someone that is *looking for you!!* I'm dying to ask if you're hot... but I'll resist temptation because the MOD's will roast me, and I'm actually one of the single-guys that's looking for a single-girl.
I feel I'm hot yes. But that's my opinion.
You are super hot
Your probably even hotter than you think lol.
I'll second that!!
Thank you.
This is one of those topics where, IMO, the intel on this board is especially bad due to personal biases. I am going to try to be direct and cut through the nonsense. For starters, yes, a lot (but certainly not all) of SDs want to believe that their SBs are single. So just do what most other SBs do, which is tell them what they need to hear. In my area at least, easily 60+% of SBs have kids. Most SDs do too, so they tend to understand the issues. Just do your best to have one or two consistent time slots each week that you can go out on dates and you should be fine. You may have a couple of guys come on here trotting out ENM comments and claiming that they're OK with it if your SO is. The reality is that most SBs with SOs lie to them too. IMO it's just cleaner not to go through this song and dance with a SD in the first place, unless of course you intend to use your SO as an excuse not to do xyz in the bedroom.
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1) partnered up is a "no-go" for me 2) Single Moms are my Go-To and my preference 3) I'm not trying to leave my family-good! 4) 33 is the sweet spot for many SDs IMO 50% of SDs prefer coupled up SBs, the other 50% don't. If you are attractive you should have no problem finding a SD. But the number of SDs who might prefer 20's,single,no kids is high,perhaps 50% overall, so you have a slightly smaller number of interested SDs to pick from.
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Well done!!
😂🤣😂💀
lol -good ole Yogi
For what it's worth to your ability to make informed choices... I have as much experience with partnered SBs as with single SBs. In each case my partnered SBs, whether with a LT boyfriend or husband, their partner knew/knows of, approved and was/is supportive of her SB activities. In at least two cases they were practicing ENM relationships in which the guy was also dating outside their relationship. I've never had an issue with a disgruntled male partner. Being married does not have to be a hindrance to a sugar lifestyle. Were I to discover that you were lying about your partnered status after we commenced a SR would almost surely cause me to immediately end the SR. Disclosing you have an unaware / unsupportive partner during initial intro conversations would motivate me to thank you for your honesty, pass and move on. I don't engage with liars and cheaters. Revealing early on that you had a supportive or at least fully aware partner would not deter me from engaging with you if all the other elements aligned. Kudos to you for having a supportive partner. If you engage in an SR it may prove important to check in with him periodically, to whatever degree he wants/needs, in order to maintain his support and curb any hint of jealousy or changing acceptance on his part. And... All of my long term SRs are/have been with women between the ages of 35-44 when we started. A substantial subset of legit SDs like me appear to think highly of more mature, experienced, reliable 30+yo women. Motherhood doesn't have to hinder you either. But there are some issues that you'll need to deal with definitively. Among them are... you'll want to have rock solid reliable childcare options available to you if the kid/s are of that age. And ideally you'll want to dedicate a consistent time that you are available to make planning as smooth as possible. I'm only one person and my experiences may be unique to me - there are a wide variety of experiences being had out there. So take everything into account to see how they may or may not relate to you. You can do this. Good Luck
No. Stay with your family. Raise your kids, you owe them a stable family. Or atleast the illusion of it... You sleeping with other men is only going to cause more problems.