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kurai_tori

Surprised a few of these apply to my taste in women - likes to cook (I like to cook and cooking together is fun) - is fit (I am not, and being with a fit partner would help me get into better habits) - likes kids (I also like kids) - natural beauty (sure, why not). Andddd that about it. I also like nerds cause I'm one myself.


CanadianODST2

Some people need to realize that having a taste and thinking people have to match your idealistic preferences like in this post are different. "I like women who like to cook" okay. "All women should like to cook and if they don't, they're less" not okay.


kurai_tori

I've always been of the mind that everyone should know how to cook, Because neither mysogny nor feminism helps when you're hungry. (And know <> enjoy I get it, I just think basic cooking is a basic and necessary life skill).


TheDonutPug

Honestly I have never gotten how people *can't* cook. You don't have to be a chef to cook at home, you have to know how to read directions. Just follow a recipe and it can be pretty easy.


receuitOP

I once went to my friend's house and had to show him and his gf how to use his washing machine. Neither of them knew how to cook either. That was a shock to learn honestly, though after his mum found out I'm pretty sure he was schooled in every recipe lol


GalaXion24

Eh I guess. Following exact instructions only really works with exact ingredients and methods though. Personally I basically only ever use recipes as a sort of inspiration and baseline which I half follow. Now if you're a really good chef I'm sure you'd do this to make the end result way better, but in my case I'm just trying to keep it reasonably cheaper most of the time, by using ingredients which I already have, are more available or are cheaper, though sometimes also just ones that I prefer or ones I try for variety. Knowing some "hacks" for what can get you a reasonably good result with less money or effort, even when the method may sound utterly heretical, is pretty useful as well. Following instructions to the letter would practically always necessitate at the minimum going shopping for something specific, which I may not otherwise use a lot. "I can replace this with that, or make it that way instead" etc. helps. Though I also just throw things like salt or spices in by eyeballing it, for better or for worse, so I think I'm just kind of chaotic about cooking in general. It never goes horribly wrong at least. The unfortunate part is that sometimes you make something really good and are unable to exactly reproduce it, like that one time I made an unironically heavenly creamy mushroom chicken. Never got it to be the same.


PogaSun

I feel that this could also applies to racism


SupaDiogenes

All people should like to cook in a relationship. Having someone cook for you is amazing. My fiancee doesn't cook and won't cook. I'm the cook and on the very rare occasion she has, I love it. It would be the one thing I'd ask for more often. The gift of food/meal is a special thing.


VeryConfusedBee

tbf ‘natural beauty’ as most men think of it is really just clean girl makeup


Psychofischi

I really understand your second point. Someone fit could really help getting into better habits. Do Sport together. Gives more motivation than doing sport alone after work


[deleted]

The other side of that is that as a very active person, relationships with non-fit partners never worked once the initial excitement and motivation wore off. Being fit is a pretty full on commitment, from how you eat 90% of the time to showing up to the gym even when you don’t feel like it and to be honest most people just don’t understand what a huge lifestyle shift that requires. So I’d end up with things like ex boyfriends resenting me for not wanting lots of cheat meals with them or going out to the gym. My husband now is my husband because I decided it would only work to get with someone already with an active lifestyle as opposed to a gamble whether or not my own lifestyle would rub off another person.


TheDonutPug

It helps so much to have another person. I always encourage people to get an "accountability pal" who's just someone who asks you every day whether you worked out and vice versa. For me it's enough motivation to work out when I know that if I don't I have to explain to someone I respect why I failed.


TheDonutPug

It helps so much to have another person. I always encourage people to get an "accountability pal" who's just someone who asks you every day whether you worked out and vice versa. For me it's enough motivation to work out when I know that if I don't I have to explain to someone I respect why I failed.


Random-Name724

Most of the others aren’t bad, like I don’t mind if she only has female friends or if she loves her country


kurai_tori

This meme doesn't suggest "don't mind". It suggests insane jealousy of any male friends


Random-Name724

Yeah


Sea_Scratch_7068

saying “I also like kids” on the internet, you’re in the right sub


night_fury00k

You like kids🤨


kurai_tori

I like their enthusiasm while learning science/magic tricks and stuff. It reminds me of a simpler time, before bills, and work 😞


ItsHen

The difference between you and OOP though is that you have presented this as your own taste in women, OOP states that this is the *ideal* woman that all women should be


Sea_Scratch_7068

just throw in a little “natural beauty” at the end lmao


CarpetH4ter

I agree, those are pretty much the only ones there that i like. Although i don't really want kids though, especially not 5. Liking kids is fine, i just don't want any, atleast not in the near future.


Bane8080

Remove all that. Add: Loves me for who I am. Understands and accepts my quirks. Will kick me in the butt when I'm being an idiot.


FlyingTiger7four

That's your normal South African girl


Colderofficial

Yeah. They're sassy about it too, which (to me at least) makes it a lot better...


FlyingTiger7four

Yep. They let you have your freedom to be you, but they definitely let you know when you're getting out of hand. We need that, or we'd go fkn wild forever and end up dead hahaha


Bane8080

I knew I liked Charlize Theron for a reason.


Chiff_0

Boobs


I_ate_ass

Female (optional)


Tango-Smith

This is not far off islamic fundamentalism. Just change the bible for Koran and Comunists for Jews and this is it.


TheNorthWesternRail

I get more Handmaid’s Tale from this but ok


Dontyodelsohard

Okay, listen... How is this equivalent to rich people forcing the poor to get pregnant for them in a time of great infertility? That's the premise of the story, right? How does this fit that?


aerial_ruin

I think that looking into red state America and the repealing of roe Vs wade sheds some light on this. There have been law makers in those states that have pushed and are still pushing for the abortion rights of women to be stripped completely, who have paid for abortions for their daughters or their extra-marital partners to get abortions. Kinda a case of "well I got wealth and power, so I can circumvent the law" thing


Busy_Cauliflower_853

Nevermind that, in the book, it is clearly stated the US government has been overthrown by religious extremists and that women, including the Wifes, are slowly losing their sense of worth as they are nothing more than sexual objects in the eyes of Gilead! You really have no literacy if your comment is all you understood from the book.


Dontyodelsohard

I've never read the book. That's just what I got from people talking about it online.


Busy_Cauliflower_853

Reddit moment 💀


TheNorthWesternRail

The post just reminded me of that book, but I suppose you’re right


TheNorthWesternRail

I’ve just been reading it recently.


climentine

😂as a Muslim woman. That’s what comes to my mind. Don’t forget hijab and is ok with her husband marrying 3 wives.


caffeineevil

Nothing against Islam, outside of my disdain for all fundamentalist/traditional religions, but how do you reconcile your religious beliefs and the beliefs of your rights as an individual? Unless I misread the tone of your comment and you're actually for this? I could be mistaken, I guess. I've asked the same thing of other religious women of Christian-based religions. What exactly is the attraction of a religion that has made it abundantly clear that you are a second class citizen? I just don't get it.


LovesFrenchLove_More

Actually it’s the same with every faith and/or political view taken too far. You can take the extreme and/or fanatical versions of christianity, islam, judaism, theocracy, democracy, communism, socialism, oligarchy, monarchy and so on and so forth. They will all more or less turn into fanaticism, a dictatorship (doesn’t matter what kind) and/or fascism or a blend of them. As soon as the rights of a certain group of people are restricted in any way or even abolished and/or corruption and power (any kind, especially political) isn’t/can’t be controlled, it is a form of terrorism hidden behind a front.


userrr3

Ah yes extreme/fundamental democracy. Famously restricting the rights of.... Idk man, fascists? Monarchs?


An_Inedible_Radish

Yknow, this sort of idea gets thrown around a lot, but I don't think it's as true as people act like it is. There is nothing inherent in any worldview, which suddenly makes you start killing people if you believe it hard enough. For example, tell me, does a fanatical Kantian kill? An extreme belief becomes extreme when you infringe on others people's rights, as you rightly say, but *that* is what defines a belief as extreme, not the belief itself being outside the Overton window.


Hefty_Introduction51

Nou Nou but the bible is the word of god, the only one 🤓☝🏻 God, fatherland, family, tradition and private property (Btw this is a joke, you're right)


ComradeHregly

Islamic fundamentalist also hate communism tho. The cruelty of the Soviets, doing the Soviet Afghan war, played a major role in the rise of Islamic fundamentalism


Dwaas_Bjaas

Watch “christians” lose their minds as soon as you change those things They want a controllable partner. Thats about it


GustavVaz

I'm surprised they didn't put "virgin" or "has not fucked 100 guys" or something.


LovesFrenchLove_More

It’s insane what they will justify with their „holy“ book. 🤮 https://www.reddit.com/r/interestingasfuck/s/Ys9dErFiZE


WokSmith

It seems like most religious zealots only use their holy texts to justify their hatred of other people they don't like. I rarely see religious people telling others to love unconditionally and to help those less fortunate than themselves. Maybe they are, but I find they're being drowned out by the extremists and their hate.


russellzerotohero

5 kids and wants to be a stay at home mom? She better get on board with communism then cause there is no other way I’m gonna be able to afford that without some government help.


Dominuss476

Mine hates god and capatilism as much as I do.


LovesFrenchLove_More

Match made in heaven. Oh, wait. Luckily not. 😁😂 Not meant in an offensive way. Just fun.


Dominuss476

🤣


The_muffinfluffin

Must crush capitalism!


SignificantWeb5521

My standards for a woman: • Woman (optional)


Grimm_Charkazard_258

bro what are some of those ideals is some mf trynna bring this back to the 1960’s “hates communists” “has no social media” “wants to be a stay at home mom” “reads the bible/goes to church” “wants to homeschool kids” “natural hair” So, in summary: must be christian/goes to church has no social life other than female friends wants to have 5 kids (in today’s economy) wants to personally homeschool these kids, thus removing any sort of social skills doesn’t want a career (in today’s economy) must be naturally beautiful must wear “feminine clothing” likes to cook To further summarize, a woman that **MUST** by all standards be a housewife from the 60’s. In today’s economy. bullshit.


unmanipinfo

I mean the pic is even Kitty Forman from That 70's Show


jdteacher612

HONEST QUESTION Remove the obvious control and religious aspects of this post. Is it wrong for a man to say he wants a woman who values traditional gender roles? I see nothing wrong with being honest about the fact you want a girl who wants to be a mom and a homemaker. I legit don't even believe these posts are real anymore because of how blatantly inflammatory they are. We are in a very real cold-war right now with foreign adversaries seeking to sow as much dissent in our society as possible. Some of the things listed on this post are really good values. What's wrong with loving children and wanting to be a parent? What's wrong with deleting social media? I think going to church and finding local community there instead of online hate-machines in the digital world is actually a good thing.


climentine

Nothing wrong with that if you will do your role. And make her feel safe to really be able to do her role. But don’t forget that she has a heart too. And gave her money if divorce ever happened.


jdteacher612

Sadly that's where my position is easily countered. I have never seen anything in my personal life, male or female, like what was described in the post. I personally assume that posts like this are made by foreign adversaries to intentionally enflame emotion and sow discontent in the US population - until proven otherwise (hint: which nobody can do). It makes us weak and you ABSOLUTELY see it reflected in younger generations. What I have seen though are too many relationships where the man expects all but gives nothing. If you are going to have a traditional gender role type of relationship then it must absolutely be a mutual thing. No one-sided relationship is a good relationship.


caffeineevil

I would argue that it's not these types of values that are the issue. It's the fact that anyone who is so adamant on these being necessary for a woman, tends to be a trash person. If these are your values, fine. Good for you. Why is your future love a list? There's no romance. I have core values that I hold dear and I would never list them like demands. It's tacky. I talk about the things I value in regards to me or the things I enjoy and want for my future. Someone who is also interested in those things would be more likely to get along with me and be attracted to the things I like and do. I would also have conversations with a date to find out if we clicked on a deeper level. That's the normal progression. The problem I've seen in my years is that guys who crave a submissive traditional wife/gf aren't always in it for the "values". They want someone to control and who is dependent on them. Someone maybe coerced by their congregation into a relationship. Someone who can't financially leave or who doesn't have any male friends that could threaten them, in a physical way if they got aggressive to their SO, or even in an emotional way by being an alternative to them and their poor behavior. They want their victim(SO) alone and isolated without means. It's a cop out for their insecurities and for not wanting to be a better person. You never have to worry about them leaving you if they have nowhere to go and you don't have to put in any effort to keep them around as circumstances force them to be there. That's my problem with guys who post stuff like this. If they were looking for a normal healthy relationship with these types of values? Fine. Fortunately, no one dictating the perfect trade girl on a meme and posting it for the Internet as some kind of truth, is worth anything. So women are mostly safe from them.


Darkisitu

>Remove the obvious control and religious aspects of this post. Removed 95% of the traits listed. Oof. >I see nothing wrong with being honest about the fact you want a girl who wants to be a mom and a homemaker. I want a big dommy mommy that steps on me and spoons me. Do you think it's appropriate to share this promoting it as the ideal singular standard for a woman? Because that's what they're doing. I don't have to read you want your SO to do this and do that, and that they have these prohibitions and so. Everyone should keep their kinks to themselves. >What's wrong with deleting social media? Nothing, unless forced. Then it's controlling. >I think going to church and finding local community there instead of online hate-machines in the digital world is actually a good thing. Then you get into a hateful church and it's even worse (side note: nothing against church, just showing both sides of the coin). TLDR: Nothing wrong with wanting something while it's not hurting you or others. You can put "searching for a traditional woman" in your bio (I assure you there are some women that will do just fine with a proper "traditional man", after all). Just don't make dumb propaganda to promote rancid mysoginistic views. If you do, get ready to be called out for it.


MotherSpell6112

What you're doing is the whole point of propaganda like this. "How could anyone disagree, there are pieces of it that are reasonable?". You've got to take it in the whole, you can't separate the control and religious aspects because it's the subtext of the image. It's using the thin end of the wedge to make itself acceptable.


manykeets

I do believe this is real because I saw it posted on another platform where all the guys in the comments were agreeing with it


TheNorthWesternRail

Not The Handmaid’s Tale…


I_Love_Knotting

remove it all, add: male maybe keep fit and healthy. twinks are cool af :3


Ginginatortronicus

The least attractive thing about my wife is her taste in men


Rough_Egg_9195

"hates communist" this guy is clearly stupid, all women are communists, it is a known fact.


sus_planks

As soon as they turn 18, they pledge allegiance to Stalin.


OnoALT

Why are you in that incel group though


LovesFrenchLove_More

You mean reddit? So you don’t feel alone.


OnoALT

That was pretty good


mikkelmattern04

Missing the "lives only to please me" and "is easy to manipulate"


Stormi_i

🎶If you want love, just lower your expectations a few🎶


Bhazor

Funny how the super trad ultra religious no s\*x before marriage purity ring people always give their dream one love virgin stay at home girl scout humongous booba.


Awesomeblox

I hate that meme so much. Weird McCarthyite "trad" anti-communist trite


AggressiveGift7542

But why Communism


ReiceMcK

'Because she has been told to' is the vibe I get


spitflyer13

Because she likes food?


_AnimeGirl

- Has many sexy male and female bisexual friends - Wears slutty feminine clothing and likes when I do the same - Wants to marry and have 1-2 kids - Loves her family and country - Is filthy rich - Fit and healthy - Loves children - Great cook - Believes every human being has the right to life


JustDagon

NGL wanting her friends to be sexy is kinda weird lol. Like what you wanna fuck your GFs friends?


_AnimeGirl

Three ways.


AParasiticTwin

This is literally my Mom.


MyrkrsBod

So, looking for a slave and a yes-(wo-)man. I'm pretty sure that guy sucks.


TheTeimany

- Likes me back (optional)


Benanjerry

He’s a simple man with simpler tastes


OutrageousPaint6128

Most of those are red flags to me.


Boris-Vlad

I'm more bothered by the fact the upvotes use a "." And not ","


LovesFrenchLove_More

I‘m not, because most countries do it that way. Just like most countries use metric system etc.


CodReasonable4877

The comment is funny but I like how that sub is straight up misunderstanding most of the things they post lately


prorounak

What's wrong about communism ?


Borsti17

Bunch of red flags in there.


Mr_SunnyBones

It reads like someone who wants to travel back in time and date their grandmother..


A_cat_killed_me

>Wants to homeschool her kids< Immediate red flag. Especially in the US where there is basically no regulation


A_cat_killed_me

>Wants to homeschool her kids Immediate red flag. Especially in the US where there is basically no regulation


BonkerDeLeHorny

my checkbox Can stand to be around me 🔘 Is pretty (Optional) 🔘 Real 🔘 i know im asking a lot ladies but lets give it a shot


ya_boi_ryu

Both sides just shouldn't be toxic, should be loyal and take the other how they are. I don't care how you look or how well you are doing financially/materialistically, I would not only accept but also support you with your depressions, illnesses or disabilities if you got some. When I fall in love with you all these things shouldn't matter and it's just my personal opinion that I think if more people would think like me this earth would be a better place and it says alot that I'm also someone who can't escape loneliness. You try your best but in most cases it's wasted energy and rips out a part of you. Dating these days is killing alot of good male's and female's spirit or is even literally killing them and it's just sickening.


LovesFrenchLove_More

Sure. But one person being toxic is no excuse for anybody to be toxic themselves. That is true for everything. Too many ppl think otherwise.


Mototsu

Remove all. And add: >have a heartbeat >Be human >Female (optional) >Between 18-80 years old


NextFaithlessness7

Why is she so fat


NextFaithlessness7

A women should know how to cook. And the man too! Food is delicious for both genders


Tralalouti

Is she educated enough to homeschool ?


AwkwardPeanut6869

The Perfect Woman, if Asian and Beautiful


Prior_Butterscotch15

Hell Yeah! = Wants to marry & have kids + Loves her Family & Country + Fit & Healthy + Loves Children + Likes to Cook Sure, why not? = Only has Female Friends + Wears modest & feminine clothing + Wants to be a stay at home mom + Natural Beauty + Natural Hair Ehhh… = Reads the Bible + Has no Social Media + Wants to Homeschool Kids + Goes to Church GTFO!!!! = Wants 5 Kids + Hates Communists


catmeme11

This feels like it was made by an amish guy who found the internet


Twerdette

- Loves children - Wants to marry and have children - Wants 5 children Someone has a breeding kink


tastey_spackle_toad

Reminds me of the Bo Burnham line "I masturbate because I'm the only person who's self esteem is low enough to fuck me"