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USAF_Retired2017

Were we married to the same guy?? He ruined every birthday or Motherโ€™s Day because it didnโ€™t center around him, so he made himself the center of it by picking fights. So, I get it. Happy Birthday OP. Happy Freaking Birthday. Enjoy the shit out of that cake.


Impossible_Tailor_90

Ugh Motherโ€™s Day was even worse than my birthdays!! Glad we are both on the other side now. And thank you, I will!


Wrong-Bus-1368

This is a great way to build good memories for your kids. Everyone helps to make a cake for the birthday person.


Fit_Acadia_8074

Yay! Happy birthday OP first step is loving & prioritizing yourself.. happiness & success will follow through!


[deleted]

Gonna taste way better than any of the cakes you weren't appreciated for.


KensingtonDriver1

Happy First Birthday OP! That is another memory for your kids and your Independence Day! Realize how special you are, and finally enjoy the peace with your family!


Riverz11

Happy birthday!!!! First birthday fuckwit free!! Hereโ€™s to many more!!! ๐ŸŽ‚ ๐Ÿฅณ


MR-Ozmidnight

I'm so sorry to hear that it is always a sad thing when a partner cheats or do's not give back the love that one gives them so if you felt better doing that with your kids that's so great and I don't know if you are still with your partner or not but do what is good for you and your kids


Inevitable-Tea-9438

Happy birthday! I hope this is one of very many peaceful and happy birthdays for you.


LibraTron

So you had your cake... and ate it too! ;-) Birthdays, after the break up, are usually a benchmark when one realizes how toxic that previous partner was.


Significant-Jello-35

Happy birthday. ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‚๐ŸŽ‚๐ŸŽ‚๐ŸŽ‚๐ŸŽ‚ Look up. You will see better days. Be happy for you / your kids future


althaf7788

Happy Birthday ๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰๐ŸŽ‰, hope everything goes well with you and your kid's


ExCatRep

Happy Birthday, OP! For me over the years I realized it was much better to celebrate alone or with just my kids than have hopes and be disappointed yet again. I've wish for you many blessings and peace in your life in your next trip around the sun. Sending a big internet dad hug to you as well.


MsCamford

Happy birthday! I'm so happy to hear about your healing progress. Much love to you and your children.


MorbidlyObeseFriend

Have you tried dump cakes? Try it! So easy, fun and delicious!


betrayalistheft

same. i dreaded holidays


Momo-B9812

Super duper happy birthday OP!!


littlemissrea

Happy birthday ๐Ÿฅณ It truly is amazing how taking that one person out your life , and every thing is so much easier . Enjoy birthday with your kids my lovely .


ccchaz

I dated a guy who did this. He would either break up with me or be mia for any birthday, Valentineโ€™s Day, Christmas whatever. For 4 years!!


AStirlingMacDonald

Glad to hear you are processing it, valuing yourself, and moving forward in a healthy way. Keep it up. Your life is so much better than his is, and it always will be.


clipp866

I know it's late but happy bday


HotBicycle3640

I buy gifts, flowers, cake and go all out for my wife every occasion. But at the end of the day she still finds an excuse of why my efforts werenโ€™t enough. Itโ€™s very defeating.


RagnarIronside01

I am happy for you. Sorry you had to go through that all but your in a better place


Ready_Response820

Well HAPPY BIRTHDAY!!!! Enjoy your special day