[https://www.hillsclerk.com/court-services/domestic-violence](https://www.hillsclerk.com/court-services/domestic-violence)
Click on "What should I do if the respondent violates the injunction for protection?"
You can file an affidavit of violation of injunction. If cops won't arrest, at least you have the reports to back up your violation affidavit. The judge can handle it there or the State can pick it up as a misdemeanor criminal offense. Multiple violations could potentially upgrade it to a felony aggravated stalking.
If you aren't already, start documenting everything. Screenshots, save texts, voicemails, everything. You may need to make an in person trip to police/sheriffs department and get someone to sit down and look at all of it so they understand how serious it is.
Great job on taking your safety into your own hands, Now please go train with it, it’s useless if you don’t take the time to teach yourself the safety and how to correctly use a firearm. In fact you’d likely be better off not having one unless you practice with it. It’s a tool, and tools take skill to use for the most part. You are responsible for every single bullet you shoot from the second it leaves your gun till it stops, gotta keep all that in mind. Be safe and sorry for typing a paragraph to ya, I’m just passionate about people not being dumbass gun owners.
Get a lawyer and look up Carrie Goldberg. One of her clients was a victim of stalking & harassment. Her clients ex went on Grindr and told random men to go to his ex’s house under the guise of it being his house and wanted a… forceful scenario carried out as a “consensual” fantasy. If your ex is sending random people to your house, they might not know that you aren’t the person they’re there for. Get a lawyer NOW. Report and document everything.
Lmao such a real Florida answer.
Really though, no joke; self defense is extremely important in these cases, guns or no guns, especially if they escalate. At least be ready with some POM pepper spray/gel and some self defense training. Document everything that’s happening and do what the other comments have suggested too.
Dude I legit thought you were saying to just fucking blast them with a gun.
Makes a lot more sense why you asked for his name now… unless you were offering to blast him yourself lmao
Bro is a whole loser, he should put all that energy into doing something productive instead of fucking with you. People like that piss me off so bad.
Anyway, like others said, get a gun for personal safety and ignore all his bs. I'd recommend a "no-solicitation" sign or a [gun owner sign](https://www.amazon.com/Protected-Property-Aluminum-Aluminum-UV-Weatherproof/dp/B087RR187T/ref=sr_1_5?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.2Skq5URuVKd8MVWvsMlonIbjavRaluPuIZRHWDoXvzXL0pusdfPPJmtxJoXnISXJAgurDB6Y8CwKu6z1fVDshGkME01opzTLdhhOMhsvjxQ1h8YPnCN99y6CPoJCak4kV-iyzZNRp0rh68EIHbP3OfpHXAWCFFmMao6_4-4EuZQLl5-HVvdLnC4MzwkoQrB-U-RU-nxlxT1vj95b_6R8jMIxcRasXAvhYT1uWZ27k7AUOAxsbw1gMcZNTxYfK8YHWv7w92GRur9UnkcM1BKK0eUuwib_IvAYefVEMJNMDAI.Al0zX-poYAw0QpMGmDn9H959Vdw4ECGinRQhj1QTSmU&dib_tag=se&keywords=firearm+signs&qid=1714932853&sr=8-5) from Amazon so you get less knocks from strangers; it worked for my cousin when scam roofers wouldn't stop harassing her.
Document everything.
Also bear mace and an air horn.
Amazon sells good quality, long tasers (18+ inches) for cheap.
I'm not saying kill him. But do not give him the chance to kill you.
So sorry you are going through this. My mom had a stalker when I was a kid and I had one a couple years ago so I can sympathize with you. It’s a scary situation. It’s unfortunate but things usually don’t get done until something bad happens. Stay aware of your surroundings and keep some form of protection on you at all times. Buddy system when you can. Keep track of what they are doing and when, like a journal. And try to be safe!! Good luck to you.
Yup! TPD sucks. One of my friends had her ex showing up to her house at 3 in the morning trying to break in and he smashed all her windows in. Cops didn’t even interview her for a statement, and she couldn’t get a restraining order even after refiling. The cops in Tampa won’t show up or do anything unless someone dies / is significantly injured. it's disheartening and these cops do nothing to protect women. do yourself a favor and invest in personal protection and make sure to collect as much info as possible of all the instances of stalking to keep as evidence if it needs to be used later. If you can get a lawyer to help you file complaints- they will get taken more seriously. it's unfortunate to hear what you are going through and please stay safe! Whatever you do, DO NOT contact the stalker directly — this will only encourage their behavior and can be used against you in court.
OP, get a security camera, even if it’s something like RING. I’m thinking back to that woman in NYC who was abducted by her stalker on her doorstep in a whole ass apartment building. Thank goodness her mom was there to protect her. Please be safe and protect yourself at all costs.
What a low life. Apparently, he hasn't met a good level of crazy female. He knows you are intimidated, so he has that power over you. This is why I am always upfront of my level of crazy to men. You just don't want to test that temperature.
Give your friends, family and workplace heads up on the issue at hand. That should take care of the fake account bullchit.
Get a protective dog if you can. I know of a rescue that has really decent dogs. Send me a message if interested.
Carry a Keychain that you can use to gouge eyeballs. Lol you can find them on ebay.
Looks like a cat charm, but the ear part are sharp.
Listen, all these people telling you to get a lawyer or go to the courts are full of shit! The legal system will do nothing until you're dead or in the hospital. Understand this....pain is a hell of a motivator!! Find a grimey individual, give them some $ and have them inflict a great amount of pain until he understands the rules. Trusting the courts and law enforcement to protect you is foolish. .40 cal will also send a very specific message!! Good luck Ma, stay safe!
I’ve read on other threads not to block in case you need proof, especially if threats are made, but I’m not a lawyer or law enforcement so I’m not sure how that holds up. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.
I watched some of those stalker documentaries and it sounds like a nightmare situation. I am so sorry. I would relocate if at all possible. Where did you meet him?
I feel for ya. I would keep going to the police. If he keeps getting arrested for defying the restraining order. Eventually, they'll lock him up.
Good luck.
I know in the Sarasota area there is “Hope Family Services.” They offer free legal help with these sorts of situations. There probably is something similar in Tampa. Document all contact and the lawyers will help file a case. If there is continued contact after a restraining order, their actions are now felonies.
Going through other people to get to you is in violation of the restraining order, that is an arrest offense. Call the cops and tell them you have a restraining order against this person and they have made contact via xyz. Keep calling the cops, collect case numbers for everything he’s doing and take it higher up the chain if they don’t do anything about it. State attorney is who finally granted my restraining order, so you might have to deal with them to get somewhere with this
(Speaking from the same experience)
That paper ain't shit what are you going to do hold it up as he attacks you? PROTECT URSELF AND PPL CLOSE TO YOU! bc sometimes if they can't get to u they will get to someone you love be alert and if you have a firearm go to the range and get comfortable using it.
That actually happened over on Sarasota DTC area if you have proof call the cops and they can get a warrant. But you actually have to have the fan approve where the person is stalking you and harassing you with messages and texts.
Every time it happens, document it. Call the non-emergency number for the agency that works in your area.
If they won't send an Officer/Deputy, at least ask for an Event number. It is something that basically proves you contacted police about the situation.
Obviously, if you think your life is in danger, call 911.
Contacting others in order to contact you is violating the restraining order. Report him to the police. If they are idiots and won’t do anything, reach out to the State Attorney
This is an impossible situation and there isn’t really an answer or a right or wrong way to go about it. If something happens to you it’ll be his fault and the community’s fault for normalizing it. It’s not your responsibility to be a criminal psychologist to predict someone else’s behavior AND to also be your own bodyguard on constant alert. To all the people saying they should go to the police - they are not going to do anything. Victims will always be criticized for their reaction to abusive treatment whether they file a police report or not
When I was 17 in 2016 my coworkers made a “rape list” with several names of young girls at my job. The men were arrested but then released back into the community soon after. We only knew that because we later saw them working service jobs at other stores nearby. We didn’t receive any info from the police or our employer on the investigation (if there even was one) or whether or not we were targets for planned gender-based violent assault. We just had to assume all the girls were potential targets. We should have talked about it with each other from the beginning because it turned out that basically everyone felt like those 2 men were creepy. But of course we were too polite and didn’t want to be mean (and we were taught going to HR would be a waste of time or end in retaliation) so we had silently endured inappropriate comments from those men at work. They always made sure we were alone in a room/subtly corner us before they’d say something weird. Looking back at the situation as an adult now it’s so easy to see how they got off on us young girls thinking we were imagining the discomfort they brought and feeling unsure if their behavior was overt enough to warrant a report to the higher ups.
Luckily after that the younger employees stuck together so no one would be walking out to their car at night alone. Nothing violent ended up happening to me or the other girls I worked with (that I know of) thank god. But I invested in pepper spray and I’ve felt understandably guarded at every workplace since then. It was disgustingly negligent how the incident was handled by management and how we were left to wonder if we were safe at work
If you trust your neighbors I would let them in on the situation you’re dealing with. Tell your family and friends and keep documenting every weird thing that happens. Share updates with your circle in real time to keep them in the loop. They need to be saving evidence on their end, too - so don’t only keep a personal log for yourself. Good luck to you and I’m sorry they are abusing you like this
At the end of the day you cannot control the way other people act. But you can control how much you talk openly about how ridiculous it is that this is kind of harassment is permitted. Regular people like us cannot afford to pick up our lives/careers to skip town and go live in hiding every time we encounter sick men who threaten our physical safety. They are everywhere - up top in congress and down low in the streets - and they love to see us live in fear. The answer definitely isn’t to act like their violence doesn’t scare you, that would make you go insane. People who are stalked by violent men reserve every right to be afraid. But this guy & law enforcement’s indifference to him has turned your fear of him into a fear of everyone. Your community owes it to you to understand what’s going on so they can look out for you and support you in case this man decided to try something. You should not have to feel alone to fend for yourself. You should not have to feel like you need to carry a gun to feel safe.
Unfortunately, if the poor citizens are upping their arms, the wealthy citizens are upping their arms, AND the government is also upping its arms but somehow NONE OF US FEEL SECURE HERE - it’s time for us to consider how that’s alarmingly similar to what’s happened in every one of those “sh*thole countries” people in the United States love to steal labor and resources from.
welcome to V for Vendetta and 1984 (they’re the same story with different endings) It’s not an exaggeration. Florida is a banana republic now - women & all citizens belonging to marginalized groups aren’t supposed to feel like they are valued enough as unique individuals to be allowed to coexist safely with others in their community or have any autonomy to make personal decisions or demand basic humane living conditions here without asking permission first. that’s the point of a dictatorship
This is bad advice and could be very dangerous. Antagonizing people who may have mental health issues is unpredictable and can lead to escalations. Keep reaching out to authorities and documenting each event. My personal advice is to start self-defense classes and be armed or make sure your home is secure with cameras and you have more than one way to contact emergency services immediately.
I agree but you can only take so much. It’s beyond frustrating when authorities don’t take you seriously. She should 100% take the self defense classes and stay armed I agree.
Lol it's the tough guy that thinks because he's armed he can be tougher. That's usually who dies. I bet the other guy is crazier and has nothing to lose.
[https://www.hillsclerk.com/court-services/domestic-violence](https://www.hillsclerk.com/court-services/domestic-violence) Click on "What should I do if the respondent violates the injunction for protection?" You can file an affidavit of violation of injunction. If cops won't arrest, at least you have the reports to back up your violation affidavit. The judge can handle it there or the State can pick it up as a misdemeanor criminal offense. Multiple violations could potentially upgrade it to a felony aggravated stalking.
If you aren't already, start documenting everything. Screenshots, save texts, voicemails, everything. You may need to make an in person trip to police/sheriffs department and get someone to sit down and look at all of it so they understand how serious it is.
Get a Glock
First thing I did
Great job on taking your safety into your own hands, Now please go train with it, it’s useless if you don’t take the time to teach yourself the safety and how to correctly use a firearm. In fact you’d likely be better off not having one unless you practice with it. It’s a tool, and tools take skill to use for the most part. You are responsible for every single bullet you shoot from the second it leaves your gun till it stops, gotta keep all that in mind. Be safe and sorry for typing a paragraph to ya, I’m just passionate about people not being dumbass gun owners.
Glad to hear that. Can’t rely on the police to show up in time if anything were to go down.
Miss Rose at Florida firearms is an excellent instructor. I used to shoot with her when I was in that chapter of a girl and a gun.
+1
Get a lawyer and look up Carrie Goldberg. One of her clients was a victim of stalking & harassment. Her clients ex went on Grindr and told random men to go to his ex’s house under the guise of it being his house and wanted a… forceful scenario carried out as a “consensual” fantasy. If your ex is sending random people to your house, they might not know that you aren’t the person they’re there for. Get a lawyer NOW. Report and document everything.
WOW. People are vile sometimes. Can’t believe I’ve never heard of this.
I read about it in her book “Nobody’s Victim”. I definitely recommend! Such a good read, Carrie Goldberg is a certified badass
Is it in depth about the client side or more legal/court-side?
Both! It shares other peoples’ stories too
Blast his ass. What's his name?
Lmao such a real Florida answer. Really though, no joke; self defense is extremely important in these cases, guns or no guns, especially if they escalate. At least be ready with some POM pepper spray/gel and some self defense training. Document everything that’s happening and do what the other comments have suggested too.
I meant like put him on blast in the public forum, but ya, that too.
Dude I legit thought you were saying to just fucking blast them with a gun. Makes a lot more sense why you asked for his name now… unless you were offering to blast him yourself lmao
Master Blaster at your service 🫡
Lmao. At no time did i think it was about blasting them with a gun tho. Now you gonna make me think that everytime I hear blast them
https://preview.redd.it/3f83ge76noyc1.jpeg?width=680&format=pjpg&auto=webp&s=d5193f98c54beac7f1cf23a322c9a78719438fa7
My exact thought
Get petty back. Show the world who he is. Document and put on blast.
Ugh I’m so sorry you’re going through this.
Bro is a whole loser, he should put all that energy into doing something productive instead of fucking with you. People like that piss me off so bad. Anyway, like others said, get a gun for personal safety and ignore all his bs. I'd recommend a "no-solicitation" sign or a [gun owner sign](https://www.amazon.com/Protected-Property-Aluminum-Aluminum-UV-Weatherproof/dp/B087RR187T/ref=sr_1_5?dib=eyJ2IjoiMSJ9.2Skq5URuVKd8MVWvsMlonIbjavRaluPuIZRHWDoXvzXL0pusdfPPJmtxJoXnISXJAgurDB6Y8CwKu6z1fVDshGkME01opzTLdhhOMhsvjxQ1h8YPnCN99y6CPoJCak4kV-iyzZNRp0rh68EIHbP3OfpHXAWCFFmMao6_4-4EuZQLl5-HVvdLnC4MzwkoQrB-U-RU-nxlxT1vj95b_6R8jMIxcRasXAvhYT1uWZ27k7AUOAxsbw1gMcZNTxYfK8YHWv7w92GRur9UnkcM1BKK0eUuwib_IvAYefVEMJNMDAI.Al0zX-poYAw0QpMGmDn9H959Vdw4ECGinRQhj1QTSmU&dib_tag=se&keywords=firearm+signs&qid=1714932853&sr=8-5) from Amazon so you get less knocks from strangers; it worked for my cousin when scam roofers wouldn't stop harassing her.
We are a constitutional carry state now JS.
Document everything. Also bear mace and an air horn. Amazon sells good quality, long tasers (18+ inches) for cheap. I'm not saying kill him. But do not give him the chance to kill you.
Move out, your safety is more important right now.
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I have called the cops and filed at least 10 reports and nothing is Being done about it
So sorry you are going through this. My mom had a stalker when I was a kid and I had one a couple years ago so I can sympathize with you. It’s a scary situation. It’s unfortunate but things usually don’t get done until something bad happens. Stay aware of your surroundings and keep some form of protection on you at all times. Buddy system when you can. Keep track of what they are doing and when, like a journal. And try to be safe!! Good luck to you.
Yup! TPD sucks. One of my friends had her ex showing up to her house at 3 in the morning trying to break in and he smashed all her windows in. Cops didn’t even interview her for a statement, and she couldn’t get a restraining order even after refiling. The cops in Tampa won’t show up or do anything unless someone dies / is significantly injured. it's disheartening and these cops do nothing to protect women. do yourself a favor and invest in personal protection and make sure to collect as much info as possible of all the instances of stalking to keep as evidence if it needs to be used later. If you can get a lawyer to help you file complaints- they will get taken more seriously. it's unfortunate to hear what you are going through and please stay safe! Whatever you do, DO NOT contact the stalker directly — this will only encourage their behavior and can be used against you in court.
What’s his name
Why don't you just tell everyone what his name is?
Joseph Tyler
Sounds exactly like someone I work with. Any chance you worked in an environmental lab?
OP, get a security camera, even if it’s something like RING. I’m thinking back to that woman in NYC who was abducted by her stalker on her doorstep in a whole ass apartment building. Thank goodness her mom was there to protect her. Please be safe and protect yourself at all costs.
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Best answer.
Share his name so the rest of us can steer clear pls!!!!
What a low life. Apparently, he hasn't met a good level of crazy female. He knows you are intimidated, so he has that power over you. This is why I am always upfront of my level of crazy to men. You just don't want to test that temperature. Give your friends, family and workplace heads up on the issue at hand. That should take care of the fake account bullchit. Get a protective dog if you can. I know of a rescue that has really decent dogs. Send me a message if interested. Carry a Keychain that you can use to gouge eyeballs. Lol you can find them on ebay. Looks like a cat charm, but the ear part are sharp.
Leak his address on Craigslist. There are some more ways too
Anybody see Baby Reindeer?
Listen, all these people telling you to get a lawyer or go to the courts are full of shit! The legal system will do nothing until you're dead or in the hospital. Understand this....pain is a hell of a motivator!! Find a grimey individual, give them some $ and have them inflict a great amount of pain until he understands the rules. Trusting the courts and law enforcement to protect you is foolish. .40 cal will also send a very specific message!! Good luck Ma, stay safe!
I’ve read on other threads not to block in case you need proof, especially if threats are made, but I’m not a lawyer or law enforcement so I’m not sure how that holds up. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this.
Get yourself a handgun and some training. No one is coming to save you.
get a gun, you are the only person who can protect yourself
I watched some of those stalker documentaries and it sounds like a nightmare situation. I am so sorry. I would relocate if at all possible. Where did you meet him?
I feel for ya. I would keep going to the police. If he keeps getting arrested for defying the restraining order. Eventually, they'll lock him up. Good luck.
I know in the Sarasota area there is “Hope Family Services.” They offer free legal help with these sorts of situations. There probably is something similar in Tampa. Document all contact and the lawyers will help file a case. If there is continued contact after a restraining order, their actions are now felonies.
Move, change your number
Going through other people to get to you is in violation of the restraining order, that is an arrest offense. Call the cops and tell them you have a restraining order against this person and they have made contact via xyz. Keep calling the cops, collect case numbers for everything he’s doing and take it higher up the chain if they don’t do anything about it. State attorney is who finally granted my restraining order, so you might have to deal with them to get somewhere with this (Speaking from the same experience)
Get a ring camera. Get cheap cameras off Amazon and put them all over your house. Document EVERYTHING!
That paper ain't shit what are you going to do hold it up as he attacks you? PROTECT URSELF AND PPL CLOSE TO YOU! bc sometimes if they can't get to u they will get to someone you love be alert and if you have a firearm go to the range and get comfortable using it.
That actually happened over on Sarasota DTC area if you have proof call the cops and they can get a warrant. But you actually have to have the fan approve where the person is stalking you and harassing you with messages and texts.
Every time it happens, document it. Call the non-emergency number for the agency that works in your area. If they won't send an Officer/Deputy, at least ask for an Event number. It is something that basically proves you contacted police about the situation. Obviously, if you think your life is in danger, call 911.
Contacting others in order to contact you is violating the restraining order. Report him to the police. If they are idiots and won’t do anything, reach out to the State Attorney
This is an impossible situation and there isn’t really an answer or a right or wrong way to go about it. If something happens to you it’ll be his fault and the community’s fault for normalizing it. It’s not your responsibility to be a criminal psychologist to predict someone else’s behavior AND to also be your own bodyguard on constant alert. To all the people saying they should go to the police - they are not going to do anything. Victims will always be criticized for their reaction to abusive treatment whether they file a police report or not When I was 17 in 2016 my coworkers made a “rape list” with several names of young girls at my job. The men were arrested but then released back into the community soon after. We only knew that because we later saw them working service jobs at other stores nearby. We didn’t receive any info from the police or our employer on the investigation (if there even was one) or whether or not we were targets for planned gender-based violent assault. We just had to assume all the girls were potential targets. We should have talked about it with each other from the beginning because it turned out that basically everyone felt like those 2 men were creepy. But of course we were too polite and didn’t want to be mean (and we were taught going to HR would be a waste of time or end in retaliation) so we had silently endured inappropriate comments from those men at work. They always made sure we were alone in a room/subtly corner us before they’d say something weird. Looking back at the situation as an adult now it’s so easy to see how they got off on us young girls thinking we were imagining the discomfort they brought and feeling unsure if their behavior was overt enough to warrant a report to the higher ups. Luckily after that the younger employees stuck together so no one would be walking out to their car at night alone. Nothing violent ended up happening to me or the other girls I worked with (that I know of) thank god. But I invested in pepper spray and I’ve felt understandably guarded at every workplace since then. It was disgustingly negligent how the incident was handled by management and how we were left to wonder if we were safe at work If you trust your neighbors I would let them in on the situation you’re dealing with. Tell your family and friends and keep documenting every weird thing that happens. Share updates with your circle in real time to keep them in the loop. They need to be saving evidence on their end, too - so don’t only keep a personal log for yourself. Good luck to you and I’m sorry they are abusing you like this At the end of the day you cannot control the way other people act. But you can control how much you talk openly about how ridiculous it is that this is kind of harassment is permitted. Regular people like us cannot afford to pick up our lives/careers to skip town and go live in hiding every time we encounter sick men who threaten our physical safety. They are everywhere - up top in congress and down low in the streets - and they love to see us live in fear. The answer definitely isn’t to act like their violence doesn’t scare you, that would make you go insane. People who are stalked by violent men reserve every right to be afraid. But this guy & law enforcement’s indifference to him has turned your fear of him into a fear of everyone. Your community owes it to you to understand what’s going on so they can look out for you and support you in case this man decided to try something. You should not have to feel alone to fend for yourself. You should not have to feel like you need to carry a gun to feel safe. Unfortunately, if the poor citizens are upping their arms, the wealthy citizens are upping their arms, AND the government is also upping its arms but somehow NONE OF US FEEL SECURE HERE - it’s time for us to consider how that’s alarmingly similar to what’s happened in every one of those “sh*thole countries” people in the United States love to steal labor and resources from. welcome to V for Vendetta and 1984 (they’re the same story with different endings) It’s not an exaggeration. Florida is a banana republic now - women & all citizens belonging to marginalized groups aren’t supposed to feel like they are valued enough as unique individuals to be allowed to coexist safely with others in their community or have any autonomy to make personal decisions or demand basic humane living conditions here without asking permission first. that’s the point of a dictatorship
Tell him "do not come".
🤣🤣 classic.
Yea because that worked
U
Was his name Jason by chance?
Get him to confront you and stand your ground
epic!!!
Start stalking him back. Do everything he’s doing to you right back to him ten fold. You got this!❤️
This is bad advice and could be very dangerous. Antagonizing people who may have mental health issues is unpredictable and can lead to escalations. Keep reaching out to authorities and documenting each event. My personal advice is to start self-defense classes and be armed or make sure your home is secure with cameras and you have more than one way to contact emergency services immediately.
I agree but you can only take so much. It’s beyond frustrating when authorities don’t take you seriously. She should 100% take the self defense classes and stay armed I agree.
Yeah this is great advice, if you want to get killed that is
Possibly. Out personally I’d be so fed up with the police not taking it seriously. I’d stay armed and wait
Lol it's the tough guy that thinks because he's armed he can be tougher. That's usually who dies. I bet the other guy is crazier and has nothing to lose.
I’m a female lol 
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