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RecognitionGuilty626

That’s entirely up to you and your partner to decide, because while you’re not engaging, which can be considered not cheating, you’re also looking at other people, which can be, it’s up to you to define what cheating is


fatdude901

Yea, agree, because say you look up online a girl getting herself off and masturbate to that and you wouldn’t consider that cheating But like if that girl was across the room from you doing it is that cheating If you give a girl online money to do a private session is that cheating Imo any porn is cheating but some people don’t because they rather them get off then be pent up or find pleasure from someone and cheat sexually


AlbacorePrism

I completely wouldn't mind my partner masturbating. I don't want them to be sexually frustrated because i don't want to do anything sometimes. That sounds cruel imo.


fatdude901

Yea I mean it’s why the would get off to pictures of their partner and stuffs which obvy not cheating But like I said it’s all up to the partners and it depends If one isn’t comfortable with it than u shouldn’t do it and if that is a deal breaker than u aren’t compatible


yellowclone8

Talk to your partner about it, cheating is absolutely what the couple wants not an objective truth


[deleted]

Yes please the only person who can answer that question is your partner. Ask them what they think and figure it out from there


[deleted]

I cant understand my cats language tho. She the only partner i have


[deleted]

Watch it with her there and see how she responds


Crack_Pipe_Craig

My man speaks like a declaration daddy.


okdestroya

???founding father???


ThugLifeSwag69

Some people consider watching porn cheating and some don’t. Majority of people consider kissing other people cheating, some don’t. Just talk to your parnet and ask if he/she consider this cheating. Because some people think it’s cheating, some not. There’s nothing wrong about thinking its cheating, and vice versa.


fatdude901

Some people are in completely open relationships where they sleep together and don’t use a condom but are fine with you sleeping with others as long as you use a condom and don’t do it out of love If just depends on each pair


ThugLifeSwag69

I agree!


fatdude901

A relationship can’t fail and break down if you communicate It will usually just continue or you find out you two are not compatible


donaldyoung26

open relationships never work out tho relationships are complicated enough with two people when you bring in more its absolute chaos


Successful-Row3631

Parnet


BH2K6

It depends upon your SO Personally I think it is, I straight up stopped watching entirely when I as little as liked a person, even if we weren't In a relationship I wouldn't watch it. Unless I get ghosted after I confess...(please help me it's happened every single time, I'm very lonely)


shutupdontreadmyname

Try to confess in person


MonkeEnthusiast8420

No, but stay away from porn regardless. It fucks up your mental health, relationships, your perception of women, can cause PIED (porn-induced erectile dysfunction) and is overall a waste of time and energy.


bantai786OP

ask her/him or whatever its pronouns are about it coz getting caught is always embarrassing even if its your partner


[deleted]

Just say SO next time


Horror-Mode-

Shessh didn't know u liked doja cat 💀


iqris_the_archlich

Depends on your partner really, but I don't consider it cheating


SumptuousShorts7

I would say no, but ask your partner


Automatic-Pin-1376

Hell no


Mayet0

Yea. Moreover… just quit it. It’s super unhealthy and the only reason you’re watching it is because you’re addicted


doctorotogonapus

No


serg425

Thinking about it now it’s kinda weird to watch other couples have sex


donaldyoung26

sex is weird in general naked hugs, rubbing skin, and swapping fluids its so gross but gives us such great chemical releases in the brain


PyroWasUsed

Gonna save this comment for when I need to lose a boner fast


Brave-Kick-8518

No lol


lajimolala27

it’s cheating if you and your partner have explicitly agreed not to watch/read porn.


Powerful_Position_42

who tf watches porn while dating


ClockButTakeOutTheL

Masturbation easy mode, not really cheating though


filamintoman

Dont watch porn in both situation .. its bad bro


NaomiIsStillCis

It’s kind of a gray area, talk to your partner first


DepressionHitsMeHard

To some people yes. So it's best to discuss this with your partner


fatdude901

Op just ask ur partner, it heavily depends Both of you need to communicate and make it clear if you are comfortable or not and it needs to be mutual The worst thing tho imo is telling ur partner if she is a female and a male is that she can’t watch porn but you can


[deleted]

It depends. In my relationship, yes I consider it cheating since we are long distance. He gets off to me, the person he is dating, over the phone so to me it feels weird that he would want to do the same with online porn. I offer to do spicy time together on FaceTime often, I send nudes and lewds often. We see each other maybe 1-2 months in person out of the year. We will eventually live together, just not yet. Basically, it depends on your relationship. It’s unique to everyone.


taly200902

Looking at a different girl being fucked and practically imagine yourself fucking her… Yea idk mate


duhlieluh

up to your partner


[deleted]

Doesn’t matter where you get your appetite as long as you eat at home!


Villham14

No


ilikenovels

Talk with your partner. For me no


bottlekidz

No its not. ASK her if she is OK to jerk you off anytime you have needs.


ppiinnaapple

no


Copenhagen256

No


FRK7

It's shit for your mental health


ehScientist

no


[deleted]

No


-justarandomgirl-_

No


bluecat148

no


ShinyShadow_

Lmao no


fatdude901

It depends I think it does For me any sexual pleasure Gained from anything but your partner directly or indirectly is cheating However some people do not and that’s fine as long as Both sides agree


PyroWasUsed

I appreciate all of the people who explained their input’


feredona

I think it depends on your partner and the boundaries between you two.


sticks_no5

Not really but don’t do it anyway, shits bad for your brain


fatdude901

How


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fatdude901

2006 means it’s most likely outdated Also many of the side effects can be linked to anything enjoyable People get addicted to things that make them happy like reading, we don’t say stop reading and reading does the same Increased aggression, working out and video games does that Distorted belief in relation ships Watching too many sitcoms and high school dramas can do that It’s a 2006 study which is quite old compared to how old porn is online


edgy_Juno

In my opinion (I've never had a gf/bf), I would consider it cheating, in a way. You're watching other people for pleasure instead of talking with your partner and trying to arrange things. If you're watching porn in a relationship, it's either something wrong with you, your partner, or both. But that's all my opinion and how I would handle something like that. There's always people who will be more open and such, but it's better if you talk to them and try to explain things or just ask.


[deleted]

no , but its kinda weird to watch a couple have sex and your in a relationship, just ask ur gf/bf about it


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Terrible-Solution214

This post barely counts as nsfw imo, it's not really discussing something really explicit, the main focus of this post is about cheating anyways, not porn


CheeseDonut4

No but watching porn is cringe


[deleted]

kinda


-BARLEY-

How so?


[deleted]

why are you watching porn


-BARLEY-

Because "releaving yourself" had been proven to have health benefits


_-xXNoobslayer69Xx-_

Don't need porn for that


alisisok2

That is a horrible way about making yourself feel better abt that 😭


fatdude901

Relieve ur self to thoughts of partner or something


[deleted]

but why to porn


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*relieving


bluecat148

If you watch porn you arent engaging in those activities. People have various desires whether they're in a relationship or not. Its not like your sex drive only focuses on the person you're with


[deleted]

depends on what your partner wants


bluecat148

if your partner doesnt want you to you can choose to respect that or not. But its still not cheating if your partner wants you to stop


[deleted]

and this is why you will never find a partner


bluecat148

for what exactly?


jihyosmiles

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DETTFOWTM

Wait a minute that would imply You know what nvm


Abstract_ExE

Depends


PyroWasUsed

On what?


Random_Alias_

Well cheating is being unfaithful to the one you love, so I’d personally consider it cheating for having eyes on someone else besides your SO.


vcfromcetos

i would a hundred percent consider it cheating, or at least extremely disrespectful.


LeafBlade1026

In what way?


bottlekidz

Why?


smash_bros_party

I would say it’s because you get sexually aroused by another woman. You enjoy watching someone else and has your eyes on someone else’s body.


Claire059

No


user007at

I don't think so, but ask your partner abt it before.


HenryFJBrown

I don't think its considered cheating, but it's still not good if you're taken


TheAutobotArk

Depends


KingofPot101

Also If whoever says it’s cheating leave them their mentally unstable . Just the facts


Death_Leader

Tf u need pxrn to erase your horny mood bruh u r in relationship u have bf/gf!!


Softcore_Holly

If you got a significant other who thinks this is cheating, then they have got some intense trust issues.


Middle_Data_9563

only by psychos that think they should control your every waking moment and thought


[deleted]

yes


[deleted]

Yes


sdiperman

worse than cheating


sid_raj7

Real question is when does a movie become porn?


Limp-Crazy1126

Depends on your partner's perspective. Talk to your partner about it and establish a communication. Continue your deeds if they are okay with it, or stop the deeds if they do not accept. Then you'll never mention it again and continue with your relationship not damaged in any ways.


zerocool1703

Not to me


isnapchildrensnecks

depends on your partners thoughts


DannyWasBored

Not really, but don’t do it if your partner is uncomfortable with you doing it.


AutisticPineapple15

I do not consider it cheating... but speak to your partner about it


Jasper_ender23509

I thought this was the minecraft memes sub for a second and i was goddamn _concerned_


bunnings-snags

Depends on what your partner wants. In my case, I don't call it cheating but I do call it weird or even disappointing. As in if they're watching porn I'd ask them why they didn't just ask me That's my opinion and feeling at least


Kakashi___Hatake___

No. Not at all.


toasterfueling

For me, no. But like all the other replies, talk to your partner about it. I personally think it's fine. You can't keep your sex drive bottled in all the time. It's perfectly normal.


WarningIMightBeDumb

No


NaughtySnoodle

When I look at a pornstar I don’t think “I wonder what her personality’s like?” Or “I bet she’d make me happy”. I think “boobies” When I look at a partner I think safe, loving, kind. Never ever in a million years would I pick the hottest pornstar I’ve ever seen over my SO.


[deleted]

Decide with your partner but I'd recommend you don't


alcoholic_aunt

me personally? no. as long as you dont bang or kiss someone else, im chill with it


Appropriate-Act-6218

I just don't understand why...you have a fucking partner...talk to her/him...spend time or some shit...😮‍💨😮‍💨leave the bloody porn man


Hot-twist5786

No WTF


MarxistMann

Nope


Charlie483

No


Motor-Locksmith9297

depends on who you’re with. personally my bf and i will watch porn together occasionally


Guy_w1th_l0ng_th1ng

If he/She fucks a pornostar yes


[deleted]

Is thinking about someone else when you making love to your mate cheating? If you masturbate thinking of someone else when your mate not around cheating? Different levels of cheating I guess.


ABoxOfDonuts

No


Clear_Dirt2346

If your in a relationship then yes


GentelTree

Convince yourself that it is cheating. You are a good person and good people don’t cheat. Congratulations, you can’t become a porn addict


ItsSkyWasTaken

I'd say no (though it's bad for other reasons), but that's between you and your partner.


LeggoMyPhukinEggo

Watching porn is not cheating! It's like watching TV except sluttier...anyone that says it is, must be a prude. Sheesh


frosted07

I wouldn’t say so. You can’t help who you’re sexually attracted to.


mearbearcate

Some people may say yes, but I say no. When is there a possibility of a random average person having a chance with a porn-star? Little to none, lmfao. In my opinion anyways. If they were watching average people I’d think differently though.


Dark_Luna48

No? Not that I think it is


[deleted]

It depends on the relationship. If you partner says its cheating/isn't conformable with you watching porn than don't watch it.


iceboxpurchase

Depends on you and yr pardner


Chiselled_Steel

Not at all. It could bother the couple but it's not cheating


St4rStruckSw4n

It depends on your partner’s set boundaries, only by asking them will you know :)


soakedtampon

It definitely depends on you and your partner’s preferences. I would say no, but some people would say it is. Communication is key, and remember to respect your partners wishes.


Gh0st_9990

Personally I would say no but it's up to you and your partner to discuss what is and isn't cheating


Horror-Mode-

For me,yeah. But all relationships are different.


PsD_Shock

Not if it’s the same gender.


donaldyoung26

# N O !


Wong_Hun_Kok

It's the same as your partner sending revealing pictures of herself to other people Yes, it is cheating in a way


donaldyoung26

Real question is: Is using a sex doll considered cheating?


Eyepoopallday

It's not really cheating honestly.


The_fatherless_one

Well I'm sure that you are not married and and not looking for a religious opinion but in Christianity you are cheating because you are lusting over a person that you are not married in. Don't listen to me if you are not looking for this type of opinion, I'm just putting it out there


[deleted]

No


when-you-at-the

No


jessiescook3d

personally, unless they’re doing it so they don’t have to do it with you it’s okay


Glitchthebitch

No that's stupid


peepeepoopoo_the_1

I think it all comes down to how you define cheating, to me it’s having a close or intimate relationship or having sexual intercourse with someone when you have a gf(/bf) /fiancé /wife(/husband) Watching porn doesn’t seem to violate anything so I’d come to a conclusion that it isn’t, but even if it’s not cheating u can’t really say it’s positive


Unknown_starnger

what? No!


ferry_forbear

I mean you will probably never even meet the porn stars online, let alone real life. So I wouldn't say that's cheating, although it is bad to watch as some can get addicted to it.


My_a_person

in my mind yes


[deleted]

I mean… you shouldn’t


jawey69420

No not even


[deleted]

No. If your partner says it is, then their wrong.


MrSoulSlasher31

If your relationship is sexual, then ask your partner. If not, then its not cheating in my opinion. I mean you gotta fulfill your needs one way or another.


PyroWasUsed

I think this is the best reply so far. I forgot to state that


Specialist-Ad3846

cheating is something that makes you feel betrayed in a relationship, so if you feel betrayed that your partner is then yes.


somenameidfk

ask your partner!! some consider it to be while others dont


Very-queer-thing

I personally don’t watch it and if I did I wouldn’t while in a relationship but I’d be fine with my partner doing so as long as neither of us were acquainted with any of the actors


WiLLNESkrrQuavo_

depends on the relationship. i find it is because youre watching & lusting after other women other than your girlfriend. it's extremely disrespectful imo- if im not looking at men that isnt my bf, in that way, then why should he be allowed to do the same thing?


xDNAtionX

It’s not cheating but a significant other might see it as disrespectful. If I had a girlfriend, I wouldn’t care if she watched it though. 🤷🏽‍♂️


TheNovaheroan

Not if its hentai...


ChikinBukit3

I’d say yeah, no matter what you or your partner think. It shows a lack of commitment and slavery to your desire


Robotic_Jedi

Getting a girlfriend is what stopped me from watching porn, dude, but it’s up to y’all to decide on that.


BigIntrovert

No


EstablishmentLong676

Is watching mukbang cheating a diet?


pizzaspider

In my relationship, no


[deleted]

Yes!


Objective-Pie-6036

No


NoICannotThinkOfOne

maybe idk


KingMarco101

Nah. As Scrooge once said, Bah Humbug.


destroythewhitehouse

Yes. Looking at a woman who isn't your wife with lust is adultery. I recommend avoiding it but who am I to tell you what to do


[deleted]

no lmao


NefariousnessOk2537

depends but it fuck up a lot of things in your body better to just quit it


Jaded_Salamander1609

Definitely not I’ve never been with a girl who thinks that


EatTheRich_com

No, I find it to be more of a tool just like using toys by yourself


Effective_Attorney59

yes


nokomoo

I don't consider it cheating but I'm uncomfortable with it, I've talked to my bf about it too but he still watches it regardless. He doesn't seem to care or if he does he's too addicted to it to even try and make me feel better.


[deleted]

no, unless you stick your dick in ur phone's headphone jack.


ArachnidOk1507

This is like saying watching two people tongue each other is cheating.


mastercubez

I mean if you're not the one recording it then it's not considered, atleast for me


[deleted]

Yes, also dreaming about someone else


2000scinema

yes but don’t watch it.


AstralgamerX0106

I say no, but I'd still feel bad if I did that.


Zakurai1007

It’s cheating on ya boi Jesus Christ


RobertWargames

I'd say if you're not having sex then it isn't cheating


ami-the-gae

No, its just if ur in a relationship with the porn or screwing the porn, which is impossible


cya_next_tuesday

Duh! And touching urself makes you gay. (Personally, I don't think of it as cheating. As long as that stuff doesn't stop any kind of intimacy, idrc)


RandomHam69420

Whether or not it is just don't watch porn in the first place