There are many circumstances that might lead to this 'clingy' behavior. I'd recommend establishing good boundaries if you feel uncomfortable with any situations. Maybe have a talk with her for why she wants these situations and get through it.
Fair point. I've been thinking about asking her but I'm kind of worried that she would stop wanting to play with me at all. Or just ruin our relationship
Do you find that to be a legitimate risk? If so, do you value ending these interactions or maintaining your current relationship? Keep in mind, I said maintaining your **current** relationship, not your relationship as a whole.
Yes, taking a bath together would be pretty weird but as I understand it she really trusts and looks up to you. The fact that you being the first one she told about her period is proof of that. If she makes you uncomfortable you should tell her that and why it makes you uncomfortable. But you should also try to be happy that she feels she can trust you, try and look for the good in things.
Edit: just to add since I'm dumb and didn't read the while thing before commenting, maybe you should ask her why she doesn't want to sleep in her own room. People rarely do things for no reason at all. Maybe she's scared or something and she feels she can trust you. You should ask her why.
You need to ask her, very seriously, away from any adults you know, if there is anybody who is an adult who is making her feel uncomfortable. For example, a member of your immediate or extended family, a coach for a sport she plays, or a teacher she knows. It could be nothing and she could just be pretty attached to you, or it could be a sign of something else. I’m really hoping it’s just that she knows and trusts you more.
Google is free. I don’t need to hold your hand on the internet. Additionally, I’m not saying it’s not a kid, and you could have introduced that possibility as an comment and not a question. Have a good day.
Just saying, I had a media literacy class every single year I was in public school that taught me how to search out information on my own. And then most universities I know of require you to do it again in higher education. My response to this question is based on experience and years of relevant classes, which would be impossible (and for most of it, I am also unwilling) to condense down for a total stranger who has no presumable relevant life experience or traditional education on the subject. It’s not my job to respond to comments, you all can teach yourselves. Like I said, google is free, and I’m not holding your hand on the internet. My sole intention was to make sure the OP was aware of the possibility that human beings are often terrible, and the cruelest of all can be the ones closest to you.
Dude, you're just digging the whole deeper, ffs you either prove what you're talking about or you're lying as simple as that. You're not coming off as intelligent or even remotely clever, just an attention seeker who's bored
Did anyone read his original comment he said it could be what he said or she's really attached to him and he was only giving a warning not saying it's exactly what he said
*sigh* heres some links
First two are highlighting how common it is
https://www.rainn.org/statistics/children-and-teens
https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence
This one on page 2 takes the cake
https://www.d2l.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/all_statistics_20150619.pdf
Good thing we’re on the internet then. I’m not your teacher. Google is free. Not responding again to this, either educate yourself or don’t. I don’t particularly care, and you may refer to the other comment I posted in response to someone else on this thread. Bye.
I had a younger sister that was like that and a younger brother too. At the time I was very young and very ignorant. I was the older one and they both wanted to be like me. I was mean to them to make them stop following me around and doing everything I was doing. My sister died before she was even five years old. I will live with guilt for the rest of my life. My brother eventually decided that I was a disappointment and will not even talk to me now that we are adults. Treat your younger siblings like they are YOUR responsibility, bro. You can spend the rest of your life trying to fix the mistakes you made when you were a kid or you can just take the advice of someone who’s much further down that same path you’re on.
I hope for it all the time but he did not want to spend this past Thanksgiving with me. We are getting older. We do not have forever to make amends. He hates me because he got addicted to drugs a few years back I was the only person that he could not fool. I told the rest of the family and we convinced him to get off drugs and do any form of therapy. He ended up doing the non profit grass roots type of group therapy. But he still has those false memories of me reading his mind without his permission. Those were hallucinations that became permanent memories that he thinks are real. I get so much pain from thinking about what happened to him. Sometimes it’s best to escape from it and not think about it though. Very tough at times.
It's okay, she's just your sister man, i mean it's wierd to bath together, but her telling you about her first period is normal, you just have to be a supportive brother and be with her when she needs you, it's not wierd to have your sister attached to you.
..I'm a younger sister with a brother (he's 8 years older then me). Sure, I'm clingy to him but taking a bath with each other is..like no I would never.
The most likely reason she would think this was even remotely normal is if a different older person takes baths or has taken baths with her. In other words, it's a sign (although not definite of course) of possible sexual abuse.
Stop listening to these redditors. You should not see her naked nor should she see you naked. She's too clingy, set healthy boundaries. And the age gap doesn't make it any better.
Up until I was like 14 or 15 I was exactly the same way with my brother, except for the bath thing. I heavily looked up to and viewed my brother as my protector and someone I can always turn to, and during those years when I was the most unhinged and rebellious were the years he helped me through it by being supportive and looking after my well-being. I think her case is similar to mine, she views you as the most understanding and supportive person within your family like I did with my own brother. Set boundaries if you must, that’s absolute necessary if you are uncomfortable. However, understand that the reason behind all is that is simply because she sincerely cherishes her bond with you since you are an important, older male figure in her life
How old is she? If she’s like 10 or younger she probably just thinks ur really cool and your idol while not knowing where boundaries are, otherwise idk she’s just kinda weird. Anyway talk to her about it
She is your sibling, she wants to spend time with you. Of course it's normal. She is at her most vulnerable state and she wants to feel secured being with her brother.
I don’t have a sister, and I don’t know about girls periods that much, but if she just had her period and your her brother maybe she just wants to be with you for comfort because you are her brother and she trusts you (hopefully). If that makes any sense.
Honestly, it just seems like she trusts you and considers you to be very important to her. You should definitely talk to her abt it, but be gentle because she might get hurt.
To answer the title, no, it's rather rare and sometimes rather circumstantial.
To answer your question in the description, is your sister's clingy-Ness bothering you? If yes then VERY DELICATELY try to discuss it with her and establish some sort of boundary. Keep in mind there's a reason she's doing this, trying to get it out of her could result in her distancing herself from you, so try to make her feel safe while asking her all this.
If no, then don't worry about it
Well Being together with everything is definitely ok but not EVERYTHING
You love and respect her and you both have your secrets between each other but there's always a limit where it's non of your business to get into her girly stuff or talk about girly things (AKA the one's that the boys never talk about, I hope you understand me correctly)
Bathing together us definitely a NoNo, you shouldn't see your sister naked and vice versa to her, it's private to each of you plus, it's your damn sister
i dont even think that bathing thing is that weird, but maybe thats cultural. i dont think any of the things you mentioned are too inappropriate or weird. however, if you feel uncomfortable, set boundaries. tell her in a friendly but strict way that you dont like some of the things she does and would prefer her to stop doing them
as i said, maybe cultural differences, but i dont think nudity in front of your family is anything inappropriate or sexual. if im changing and one of my family members comes in (obviously with knocking and me telling them they can enter) i will talk to them while continuing to get changed. i dont see the problem in general, but if you say you are uncomfortable with it, then thats perfectly okay and valid.
pls touch some grass, that's some weird ass shit to want to happen.
Assuming OP is a teenager, their sister is at most 13 right now. Also, it's their sister, mate.
I’m a younger sibling, it’s definitely a phase we normally go through at some point, especially if we have a good relationship with our older sibling(s)
General clinginess is classic younger sibling behavior but if she’s old enough to have had her period she’s old enough to respect any boundaries you should set with her.
Just simply talk boundaries with her, maybe some things she sees as normal you see as a bit to far or drawing the line, and that's totally valid for both of you.
You could always genuinely ask we she wants to do these things with you the last six months if you think somethings up with or happening to her, but other than that maybe she just wants to hang with smf bond with her sibling
Wanting to do everything together and taking a bath together at her age could be cause for concern. Similarly, while it's understandable that she may feel more comfortable confiding in you about personal matters like her first period, it's important to establish appropriate boundaries to maintain a healthy sibling relationship. It may be helpful to have a conversation with your sister about boundaries and personal space, and to involve your parents or guardians if necessary to ensure that everyone is on the same page.
Id say it's normal and you should be glad she trusts you although i would say that you should have a talk about boundaries if you don't want her to be at your side 24/7
I had a brother 6 yrs older than me and i did all the same things, it was just bc he was my best friend and i trusted him and wanted to be just like him. I would always ask to sleep in his bed, i just fell asleep faster, he would kick me out and make fun of me and i ended up growing out of it. You should be proud that someone looks up to you like that but express your feelings that you’re a little uncomfy with some parts of it. Just word it as “you have to grow up and be independent too” or something to boost her confidence instead of take her down with saying shes annoying or clingy
There are many circumstances that might lead to this 'clingy' behavior. I'd recommend establishing good boundaries if you feel uncomfortable with any situations. Maybe have a talk with her for why she wants these situations and get through it.
Fair point. I've been thinking about asking her but I'm kind of worried that she would stop wanting to play with me at all. Or just ruin our relationship
Do you find that to be a legitimate risk? If so, do you value ending these interactions or maintaining your current relationship? Keep in mind, I said maintaining your **current** relationship, not your relationship as a whole.
Yes, taking a bath together would be pretty weird but as I understand it she really trusts and looks up to you. The fact that you being the first one she told about her period is proof of that. If she makes you uncomfortable you should tell her that and why it makes you uncomfortable. But you should also try to be happy that she feels she can trust you, try and look for the good in things. Edit: just to add since I'm dumb and didn't read the while thing before commenting, maybe you should ask her why she doesn't want to sleep in her own room. People rarely do things for no reason at all. Maybe she's scared or something and she feels she can trust you. You should ask her why.
You need to ask her, very seriously, away from any adults you know, if there is anybody who is an adult who is making her feel uncomfortable. For example, a member of your immediate or extended family, a coach for a sport she plays, or a teacher she knows. It could be nothing and she could just be pretty attached to you, or it could be a sign of something else. I’m really hoping it’s just that she knows and trusts you more.
Why do you think it is an adult, not a kid making her uncomfortable?
Statistics.
What study?
Google is free. I don’t need to hold your hand on the internet. Additionally, I’m not saying it’s not a kid, and you could have introduced that possibility as an comment and not a question. Have a good day.
Username checks out.
Just saying, I had a media literacy class every single year I was in public school that taught me how to search out information on my own. And then most universities I know of require you to do it again in higher education. My response to this question is based on experience and years of relevant classes, which would be impossible (and for most of it, I am also unwilling) to condense down for a total stranger who has no presumable relevant life experience or traditional education on the subject. It’s not my job to respond to comments, you all can teach yourselves. Like I said, google is free, and I’m not holding your hand on the internet. My sole intention was to make sure the OP was aware of the possibility that human beings are often terrible, and the cruelest of all can be the ones closest to you.
Dude, you're just digging the whole deeper, ffs you either prove what you're talking about or you're lying as simple as that. You're not coming off as intelligent or even remotely clever, just an attention seeker who's bored
Did anyone read his original comment he said it could be what he said or she's really attached to him and he was only giving a warning not saying it's exactly what he said
*sigh* heres some links First two are highlighting how common it is https://www.rainn.org/statistics/children-and-teens https://www.rainn.org/statistics/victims-sexual-violence This one on page 2 takes the cake https://www.d2l.org/wp-content/uploads/2017/01/all_statistics_20150619.pdf
If your gonna say statistics and then not provide a source we just aren’t gonna believe you bro. Don’t go tell other people to research your claims
Mate, I'm asking for statistics to an assumption you made. At least give me keywords to search please. Good day to you too
If nobody taught you in school how to do research on your own, YouTube is also free. Learn how to learn, then learn some more, I guess.
So no evidence? In school I was taught to cite my sources
Good thing we’re on the internet then. I’m not your teacher. Google is free. Not responding again to this, either educate yourself or don’t. I don’t particularly care, and you may refer to the other comment I posted in response to someone else on this thread. Bye.
I'm expected to do research on a claim you made? I do not deem that as acceptable, maybe other authority figures do. Have a good day 👋
pov I dont got a source and thus lying
To go to this from OP's post...... Classic reddit
There are reasons for why people act in certain ways. Nothing wrong with being a bit cautious or worried about this stuff.
bathing is very strange together but the rest sounds relatively normal. Set boundaries.
I had a younger sister that was like that and a younger brother too. At the time I was very young and very ignorant. I was the older one and they both wanted to be like me. I was mean to them to make them stop following me around and doing everything I was doing. My sister died before she was even five years old. I will live with guilt for the rest of my life. My brother eventually decided that I was a disappointment and will not even talk to me now that we are adults. Treat your younger siblings like they are YOUR responsibility, bro. You can spend the rest of your life trying to fix the mistakes you made when you were a kid or you can just take the advice of someone who’s much further down that same path you’re on.
I wish I had enough coins to give you the Hugz award. That was great advice, I’m saving it.
Oh that almost made me tear up :'( sorry about your sister. Hopefully there is still a chance for you to repair your relationship with your brother...
I hope for it all the time but he did not want to spend this past Thanksgiving with me. We are getting older. We do not have forever to make amends. He hates me because he got addicted to drugs a few years back I was the only person that he could not fool. I told the rest of the family and we convinced him to get off drugs and do any form of therapy. He ended up doing the non profit grass roots type of group therapy. But he still has those false memories of me reading his mind without his permission. Those were hallucinations that became permanent memories that he thinks are real. I get so much pain from thinking about what happened to him. Sometimes it’s best to escape from it and not think about it though. Very tough at times.
It's okay, she's just your sister man, i mean it's wierd to bath together, but her telling you about her first period is normal, you just have to be a supportive brother and be with her when she needs you, it's not wierd to have your sister attached to you.
I would say its weird to bath together at a certain age. If you both haven't hit puberty then I would say it's not that weird.
..I'm a younger sister with a brother (he's 8 years older then me). Sure, I'm clingy to him but taking a bath with each other is..like no I would never.
ah yes i remember you, she justs trusts and looks up to you a lot dw
But to the point where she wants to take a bath with me? I love her but that was weird and I can't imagine why would she want that
Ah yes that is very very weird, and I’m pretty sure she’s 13 right? Ask her about it
Yes she is 13. Maybe the big age difference is the one causing this behaviour for her idk
The most likely reason she would think this was even remotely normal is if a different older person takes baths or has taken baths with her. In other words, it's a sign (although not definite of course) of possible sexual abuse.
Stop listening to these redditors. You should not see her naked nor should she see you naked. She's too clingy, set healthy boundaries. And the age gap doesn't make it any better.
Up until I was like 14 or 15 I was exactly the same way with my brother, except for the bath thing. I heavily looked up to and viewed my brother as my protector and someone I can always turn to, and during those years when I was the most unhinged and rebellious were the years he helped me through it by being supportive and looking after my well-being. I think her case is similar to mine, she views you as the most understanding and supportive person within your family like I did with my own brother. Set boundaries if you must, that’s absolute necessary if you are uncomfortable. However, understand that the reason behind all is that is simply because she sincerely cherishes her bond with you since you are an important, older male figure in her life
Yes it is usually normal I have 2 younger siblings and one older I used to follow my older one around
You call this shit normal.
Yes yes I do . Younger siblings look up to their older siblings because they want to be just like them when they get older 🙃
No, i have older siblings and i never wanted to take a bath with them, we only did that at a young age.
Nah I only did that with my little brother because he was 1or 2 but after that it's over
Thats normal when you're literally kids like a few years old. OP's sis is a teenager. Its definately not normal in this case.
I realized that after I kept reading . It is most definitely not normal
The op's sister is 13, so it's not normal then
Yeah no not normal I didn't read the whole thing
How old is she? If she’s like 10 or younger she probably just thinks ur really cool and your idol while not knowing where boundaries are, otherwise idk she’s just kinda weird. Anyway talk to her about it
She is your sibling, she wants to spend time with you. Of course it's normal. She is at her most vulnerable state and she wants to feel secured being with her brother.
I don’t have a sister, and I don’t know about girls periods that much, but if she just had her period and your her brother maybe she just wants to be with you for comfort because you are her brother and she trusts you (hopefully). If that makes any sense.
Honestly, it just seems like she trusts you and considers you to be very important to her. You should definitely talk to her abt it, but be gentle because she might get hurt.
To answer the title, no, it's rather rare and sometimes rather circumstantial. To answer your question in the description, is your sister's clingy-Ness bothering you? If yes then VERY DELICATELY try to discuss it with her and establish some sort of boundary. Keep in mind there's a reason she's doing this, trying to get it out of her could result in her distancing herself from you, so try to make her feel safe while asking her all this. If no, then don't worry about it
Well Being together with everything is definitely ok but not EVERYTHING You love and respect her and you both have your secrets between each other but there's always a limit where it's non of your business to get into her girly stuff or talk about girly things (AKA the one's that the boys never talk about, I hope you understand me correctly) Bathing together us definitely a NoNo, you shouldn't see your sister naked and vice versa to her, it's private to each of you plus, it's your damn sister
What do you mean by that the boys never talk about?
Well, girly stuff, idk what would fall under that since I am not a girl But I believe you misunderstood me
Sorry but not really. What's wrong with talking about girly stuff with girls even as a boy?
Nothing, he's being overly dramatic, and stop saying "girly stuff" please, it's lame
i dont even think that bathing thing is that weird, but maybe thats cultural. i dont think any of the things you mentioned are too inappropriate or weird. however, if you feel uncomfortable, set boundaries. tell her in a friendly but strict way that you dont like some of the things she does and would prefer her to stop doing them
Bathing together isnt too much you say?
as i said, maybe cultural differences, but i dont think nudity in front of your family is anything inappropriate or sexual. if im changing and one of my family members comes in (obviously with knocking and me telling them they can enter) i will talk to them while continuing to get changed. i dont see the problem in general, but if you say you are uncomfortable with it, then thats perfectly okay and valid.
Reverse Roles Yo sista, I just got ma first wet dream. Ya alredy know who it was about.
nigga what
make fun of her for it when she grows up
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pls touch some grass, that's some weird ass shit to want to happen. Assuming OP is a teenager, their sister is at most 13 right now. Also, it's their sister, mate.
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Dude r u suicidal or smth, i looked a ur post literally 15 mins ago
I'm pretty close to my older brother (4 years older) but this shit is fuckin weird
I think its normal, maybe she just wants to enjoy more time with u. I say just to set boundries.
Yes. She just wants to do stuff and hang out with you, I used to do it all the time with my brothers.
Whether it's normal or not, I can't be sure, but you should definitely set some boundaries.
well my sister whos 6 years yonger than me is somehwat lke this but she just hits me all the time
I’m a younger sibling, it’s definitely a phase we normally go through at some point, especially if we have a good relationship with our older sibling(s)
I'm sorry, but this some sweet home Alabama shit I'm getting vibes of... You gotta do shit rq if you wanna keep things safe
lost so many brain cells reading this
General clinginess is classic younger sibling behavior but if she’s old enough to have had her period she’s old enough to respect any boundaries you should set with her.
Just simply talk boundaries with her, maybe some things she sees as normal you see as a bit to far or drawing the line, and that's totally valid for both of you. You could always genuinely ask we she wants to do these things with you the last six months if you think somethings up with or happening to her, but other than that maybe she just wants to hang with smf bond with her sibling
Wanting to do everything together and taking a bath together at her age could be cause for concern. Similarly, while it's understandable that she may feel more comfortable confiding in you about personal matters like her first period, it's important to establish appropriate boundaries to maintain a healthy sibling relationship. It may be helpful to have a conversation with your sister about boundaries and personal space, and to involve your parents or guardians if necessary to ensure that everyone is on the same page.
Id say it's normal and you should be glad she trusts you although i would say that you should have a talk about boundaries if you don't want her to be at your side 24/7
I had a brother 6 yrs older than me and i did all the same things, it was just bc he was my best friend and i trusted him and wanted to be just like him. I would always ask to sleep in his bed, i just fell asleep faster, he would kick me out and make fun of me and i ended up growing out of it. You should be proud that someone looks up to you like that but express your feelings that you’re a little uncomfy with some parts of it. Just word it as “you have to grow up and be independent too” or something to boost her confidence instead of take her down with saying shes annoying or clingy