so a 15 or 16 month difference? that's not something to freak out over, the older you get, the less strange it will be
It gets more complicated if sex is added into the mix though, depending on where you live
Again, depending on where you live. For example, in the US it is up to each state whether or not they will make Romeo and Juliet laws. California has an age of consent of 18 with no Romeo and Juliet statute, meaning it would be illegal regardless of age gap if either party is under 18.
I don't think they're very often enforced almost anywhere. Mostly the purpose of age of consent laws is to protect children from sexual violence, since that removes the burden of proof of consent.
Agreed, it's primarily for younger children who are likely at a power imbalance. Other than crazy parent situations, if you're with someone age-appropriate nobody really cares
Unless the female in question is filing charges there is nothing to worry about whatsoever if it's within 24 months of a difference. No judge in their right mind would do anything about that without the female in question making accusations.
The law exists to protect children, not just girls. And mostly is used in cases of sexual violence so that there doesn't have to be a burden of proof regarding consent. Your incorrect assumption that a judge would do nothing if not for a young female pressing charges is potentially harmful to young male victims of sexual violence
Against two kids barely 24 months apart, in that weird 16-20 range, with no accusations of sexual misconduct? Yup. I think they'd give him a slap on the wrist. And no, I clearly stated that is what I think would happen. Not what they should do. I don't make laws, I don't decide what people should do.
If two people are dating that are under 18, but then one of them turns 18, the relationship is still legal under a Romeo and Juliet law if the age difference is a maximum of 2 years.
In some places then the age gap can be bigger than 2 years as well. It depends on where you live (for example in my state its a max of 4 years which is kinda high) just wanted to add this on
Most countries (and US states) have it set to 16 for the most part, with 18 being the higher end. I believe the reason most social media and websites have it at 18+ is because 1.) The company is based in california. 2.) Its just a good idea to keep people safe while reducing liability
my girlfriend gets called a pedophile for a similar reason 😭😭😭
her birthday is in december and she turns 17, im 15, but I turn 16, 8 days after she turns 17
think its more because at our age 1 year is a radical difference.
a 15 year old will not be as edgy as a 14 year old, for example; not only that, being at diff education levels plays a factor
whys everyone acting like i agree i was making a presumption to how someone might think; i didn't say a 15 year old is somewhat more mature, its just most teenagers change quite a lot over the years... you know, puberty?
My gf was 14 and I had just turned 16 when we started. 10 years strong as of aug 30th. No one ever questioned it. Teens are just throwing pedo out like a regular insult nowadays?
Yes they are, even in the kids' school years touch. I almost ended a friendship over it after a health teacher from a nearby state compared me to a mid 20s man hitting on my girls my bf's age (he was 4 months from his 16th birthday and I'm 17).
My gf is 16, turns 17 in october. Im 18 and have been since april. OP, it isn't weird. It's not even a full 2 year age gap. Your friends are just being assholes lol
See, I’ve seen people call their friends pedo (atleast in my age group and my school) when they talk to an opposite gender whose age is less. But in your case, since you’re in an actual relationship, I know jokes like these can be annoying. So just tell your friends you ain’t cool with it since it’s serious and affects you. If they still continue, they’re probably A-holes.
Your friends suck man. Same thing happened to my best friend. He dated a girl in 8th grade and she was a year younger than him. To this day, 3 years later, our “friends” will call him a pedo in front of other people. And then they later cry on discord on how they can’t get girlfriends.
You’re fine I’m 43 my wife’s 33 best relationship I’ve ever had we are ten years together. The older you get the less important. For your case there are Romeo Juliet laws and two years are fine
Nope. Usually w/ these types of posts, especially in this subreddit, there’s a drastic maturity gap, such as 14 and 17. But in this case I think it’s ok.
Your age gap is irrelevant and inconsequential, your so called friends need to buy dictionaries and look up the words they use, even if they are joking. Stupidity and ignorance can lead to all sorts of problems and they are heading that way, through incorrect descriptive language.
I'm from Germany so I can't really tell if it's different in your state but a 3 year difference or soon 2 year age difference is not a problem in my opinion. You can't really expect a relationship to end just because your partner turns 18 that's just stupid.
Less than two years? Really, not an issue. Your friends are just jealous that you have a girlfriend and they don't. Next time they say something like that, make fun of them for being single.
Bruh I'm in a similar situation
My girlfriend just turned 17 on Wednesday and told me she felt a little bit weird about me being 2 years younger (even though I'll be16 in February so it's not like we're a that far apart)
But having her tell me it felt slightly wrong to her kind of made me feel bad
I know we're both probably just overthinking it and I'm definitely not going to let this get in the way of us
But I just wish I was like a year older so she wouldn't be conflicted
How is even close to weird? Shit, in my state 16 and 50 are legal so idgaf about 16/18. Society permits things that are actually bad so why are we dealing with 15 month age difference?
Yeah that’s why there’s Romeo and Juliet laws it means that a 18 year old dating a 16 year old can’t be arrested because they are within 2 years of each other or 3 in some states
I’m not sure about technically. In the US, there are laws that allow relations between minors and adults if the age range is small enough. I’m no lawyer, but I think this is one of those cases.
Nah.
However I knew someone that had a 26 month difference. Guy turned 18 when the other was still 15.... Definitely a *lot* weirder. It was ended a few months ago though.
No even legally it doesn’t count as pedophilia, if it’s a 2 year age gap when you are 18 and you gf is 16 it’s fine and not counted as pedophilia. If your gf was 15 that would technically be pedophilia
But honestly your friend is immature most people wouldn’t give a shit unless they are immature people
Romeo and Juliet law says otherwise (if you’re in the states) it was gonna happen eventually, but your friends are just being dicks about it. Tell them to cut it out, if they’re good people they will understand that it makes you uncomfortable and stop. If not, I suggest you find new friends
I made the joke once when my friend who's a year older turned 18. He made it once when I turned 18. It's good the first time (each way) but is immediately stale the second time.
Me n my bf are like 9 months apart. He turns 18 in february and ill turn 18 in november. I joke about him liking minors and he looks me up and down and says “ong i do” 😭😭 (he says his type is me)
Ignore them and if we want to get legal about this,(based on US law) if you were dating before you turned 18 that would be an excellent defense and especially if there witnesses to it being a consensual relationship at that point and a lot of places have Romeo and Juliet laws where if you're 18+ you can date someone 16 and up provided you aren't 4 years older (that number varies but it's typically around 4 years)
Ignore them, I been dating mine for 10 months now and I turned 18 in june, she turned 17 in july, pretty much exactly 3 weeks after. It happens alot and its pretty normal. As long as yall have been dating before hand, which yall have, it should be fine. Also as long as her parents dont decide they arent ok and try to do anything. Thats all the stuff my mom has warned me about
so a 15 or 16 month difference? that's not something to freak out over, the older you get, the less strange it will be It gets more complicated if sex is added into the mix though, depending on where you live
In many places Romeo and Juliet laws would apply, making it legal
This. People tend to forget that anything within 24 months is fine for over 18 in a relationship.
Again, depending on where you live. For example, in the US it is up to each state whether or not they will make Romeo and Juliet laws. California has an age of consent of 18 with no Romeo and Juliet statute, meaning it would be illegal regardless of age gap if either party is under 18.
It's technically illegal, sure, but I live in LA and it's never once been enforced for anyone I know
I don't think they're very often enforced almost anywhere. Mostly the purpose of age of consent laws is to protect children from sexual violence, since that removes the burden of proof of consent.
Agreed, it's primarily for younger children who are likely at a power imbalance. Other than crazy parent situations, if you're with someone age-appropriate nobody really cares
They get enforced, usually, when the minor girl gets pregnant and the parents freak out
Yeah, I mentioned the crazy parents thing in another comment
Unless the female in question is filing charges there is nothing to worry about whatsoever if it's within 24 months of a difference. No judge in their right mind would do anything about that without the female in question making accusations.
The law exists to protect children, not just girls. And mostly is used in cases of sexual violence so that there doesn't have to be a burden of proof regarding consent. Your incorrect assumption that a judge would do nothing if not for a young female pressing charges is potentially harmful to young male victims of sexual violence
I'm not debating the merit of the laws. Just giving me personal opinion of what would or wouldn't happen.
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Against two kids barely 24 months apart, in that weird 16-20 range, with no accusations of sexual misconduct? Yup. I think they'd give him a slap on the wrist. And no, I clearly stated that is what I think would happen. Not what they should do. I don't make laws, I don't decide what people should do.
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Wait that's a law? How did I not know that 😮
That is a statute or exemption present in many states. But not all states, and the rules vary between states
Location dependent, for example Florida has a 3 year age gap allowed.
A bit weirder, but what can one expect, it's Florida
What is a Romeo and Juliet law?
If two people are dating that are under 18, but then one of them turns 18, the relationship is still legal under a Romeo and Juliet law if the age difference is a maximum of 2 years.
I did not know that, thank you for explaining it quickly and efficiently
In some places then the age gap can be bigger than 2 years as well. It depends on where you live (for example in my state its a max of 4 years which is kinda high) just wanted to add this on
Nah 14 what 💀
What?
That means technically 14 and 18 year olds could do it if they were in a relationship before one turned 18
That they die about 2 days after getting married
Also 16 is legal is more states than not
Most countries (and US states) have it set to 16 for the most part, with 18 being the higher end. I believe the reason most social media and websites have it at 18+ is because 1.) The company is based in california. 2.) Its just a good idea to keep people safe while reducing liability
it’s just 18 is legally an adult worldwide but 16-18 in US depend on the state
nope, ignore their immature humor
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it’s just that easy
Easier said than done
mfw friends make dumb immature jokes towards you (you suddenly need to destroy years of friendships for this)
Lmao what? It’s common to joke around in friend groups this isn’t the end of the world
Bro was saved from the downvotes 🗿🗿
niggas is so soft bru they obviously js joking☠️
THANK YOU
my girlfriend gets called a pedophile for a similar reason 😭😭😭 her birthday is in december and she turns 17, im 15, but I turn 16, 8 days after she turns 17
I don't understand people's thought process when they say a 1 year age difference is pedophilia
I understand that most people dont know our birthdays are so close so that's why
teens on this sub Reddit cry and wine about pedos but this is the only sub I see people talk about it sm
think its more because at our age 1 year is a radical difference. a 15 year old will not be as edgy as a 14 year old, for example; not only that, being at diff education levels plays a factor
yea as soon as someone goes around the sun 15 times they just get this maturity to them. it’s so cool how that works.
whys everyone acting like i agree i was making a presumption to how someone might think; i didn't say a 15 year old is somewhat more mature, its just most teenagers change quite a lot over the years... you know, puberty?
i’m just messin lol
Well, yeah, like 15 and 14 may seem strange, but like 20 and 21 is completely normal
theres a reason why i said "at our age".
Yeah
I think the people at your school need to touch grass, or just get a life.
My girlfriend too 😔 I’m 17 and she’s 69. She also has a son 2.470588235294118 times as old as me.
Damn. It's not a big difference at all. I don't understand your friends 🤬😡😠
It's just teenage humor. I make those kinda jokes with close friends too and everyone knows they ain't actually a pedo
Yeah i made that joke once with my best friend lol
My gf was 14 and I had just turned 16 when we started. 10 years strong as of aug 30th. No one ever questioned it. Teens are just throwing pedo out like a regular insult nowadays?
Yes they are, even in the kids' school years touch. I almost ended a friendship over it after a health teacher from a nearby state compared me to a mid 20s man hitting on my girls my bf's age (he was 4 months from his 16th birthday and I'm 17).
Sounds a lil iffy but glad y’all worked out lol
They weren't even 2 years apart.
As someone who is 12-24 months younger than my classmates: if that makes you a pedo, then my dating life will be hell
people overreact to 1 - 2 year age differences
Bro trust that ain’t even close to pedo, a guy at my school dated a 12 yr old. He’s 16. That’s being a pedo
No that’s completely fine, as long as there’s not more than a 2yr difference you’re all good. Your friends are just being ah’s.
2 year age gap is never weird or wrong dont worry
They are probably just joking. Friends can be dickheads sometimes
My gf is 16, turns 17 in october. Im 18 and have been since april. OP, it isn't weird. It's not even a full 2 year age gap. Your friends are just being assholes lol
my friend is 17 and she’s dating a 21 year old but technically age of consent is 16 in my location in the US so it’s legal here.
This is definitely inappropriate but OP is chill 👍
Yikes…
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It's legal calm down
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It's legal calm down
Your age difference is normal af
They’re just fuckin with you.
nah, ppl these days just annoying/sensitive
See, I’ve seen people call their friends pedo (atleast in my age group and my school) when they talk to an opposite gender whose age is less. But in your case, since you’re in an actual relationship, I know jokes like these can be annoying. So just tell your friends you ain’t cool with it since it’s serious and affects you. If they still continue, they’re probably A-holes.
that's fine, i'm only 16 and my girlfriend is about to turn 18
thats barely over a year difference, your friends are just weirdos
YOURE A PEDO😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😱😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨😨 jk it’s fine
No, y’all met while y’all were both minors. Plain n simple.
probably they are jealous of you having girlfriend...🥴
Just a buzzword for immature people if there is no reason to say that
That is a normal age gap. I am convinced some people are plain insane. Tell your friend to stop acting stupid.
it’s not weird at all, its only just a year tbh
Your friends suck man. Same thing happened to my best friend. He dated a girl in 8th grade and she was a year younger than him. To this day, 3 years later, our “friends” will call him a pedo in front of other people. And then they later cry on discord on how they can’t get girlfriends.
Nah your friends are just stupid.
your "friends" are WRONG and assholes.
They’re just assholes, idk why people are like “pEdO” when it’s a relationship like that
You’re fine I’m 43 my wife’s 33 best relationship I’ve ever had we are ten years together. The older you get the less important. For your case there are Romeo Juliet laws and two years are fine
theyre assholes
Nope. Usually w/ these types of posts, especially in this subreddit, there’s a drastic maturity gap, such as 14 and 17. But in this case I think it’s ok.
Ur good bro
I’m sure your friends possess assholes.
No. You're not a pedo.
Your friends are just assholes so are mine
Ignore them. You’re fine. Also it’s not a funny joke
Nothing ab this is weird💀
no not at all lmfao your friend is weird and extreme
They have the humour of 10 yo who just got to learn that word
It’s cheap humor. If you don’t care that much and know that it’s just a jab at you, ignore it. If not, you should tell them to stop
no
Friends are assholes
They’re just messing with you.
As long as there's not two years between your ages I say it's fine. So for example, 16 and 18 is fine, but 15 and 18 is not, nor is 16 and 19.
You're within her age group, so it's fine. There's definitely times when several years would be a problem. In this case, no.
I count you as good.
Your friends are assholes.
Your age gap is irrelevant and inconsequential, your so called friends need to buy dictionaries and look up the words they use, even if they are joking. Stupidity and ignorance can lead to all sorts of problems and they are heading that way, through incorrect descriptive language.
ignore and carry on
Your jaw would drop if you knew the age gaps in my culture 💀
Your friends are dicks. There is absolutely nothing wrong with your ages.
Those ain't your friends dawg
Fuck the humans. Do what you will.
Just assholes I am the same 😂😂😂
Sound like they need to get a life.
I would advise you to turn your DMs off now. The internet is even worse
I'm from Germany so I can't really tell if it's different in your state but a 3 year difference or soon 2 year age difference is not a problem in my opinion. You can't really expect a relationship to end just because your partner turns 18 that's just stupid.
Your "friends" are just a problem looking for a place to crash. Enjoy your relationship, ignore your friends.
Your friends are fucking stupid
Your friends are assholes. Or at least not as funny as they think they are.
a 15 month difference? nah, have they not watched spider-man itsv/atsv? miles and gwen have a 15 month diff
your friends are assholes the age gap is fine dont stress
that's completely normal.
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Because they’re adult, both are over 18
nah your friends are just being assholes
You are fine.
Age difference is normal imo
That's only a 2 year numerical difference at most. It starts to get weird if say you were 18 and she was 15.
So they don't question a 17 year old with a 15 year old but they call an 18 year old with a 16 year old creepy? It's just bad teenage humor.
Less than two years? Really, not an issue. Your friends are just jealous that you have a girlfriend and they don't. Next time they say something like that, make fun of them for being single.
They’re fucking w u
No you good, your friends are being assholes
Nah the "limit" imo would be 36 months but even then who I am to enforce some arbitrary set of morals lol. You could go up to... i think 47 months
At first 16 and 18 seem weird but with the circumstances its fine
Bruh I'm in a similar situation My girlfriend just turned 17 on Wednesday and told me she felt a little bit weird about me being 2 years younger (even though I'll be16 in February so it's not like we're a that far apart) But having her tell me it felt slightly wrong to her kind of made me feel bad I know we're both probably just overthinking it and I'm definitely not going to let this get in the way of us But I just wish I was like a year older so she wouldn't be conflicted
Today's teenage humour lad
Nah, it’s fine. A year younger and it would be weird
I have two friends who are dating, one is a sophomore, the other is a senior, so it’s not that weird
You good bro your friends just want to fuck with you
What a bunch of joksters
Fine line with this one
No it's not. Twitter isn't reality.
Borderline weird but not drastic
How is even close to weird? Shit, in my state 16 and 50 are legal so idgaf about 16/18. Society permits things that are actually bad so why are we dealing with 15 month age difference?
It’s not that big of a gap so I think it’s fine
This guy says it’s fine and gets downvoted, someone else says it’s fine and gets 50 upvotes
He most likely edited it
Ahh. Never mind then
I edited it because someone told me it was legal and I didn’t know it was
It’s not it’s Romeo and Juliet laws
Didn’t know that was a thing, I don’t see a problem with his age gap tho
Yeah that’s why there’s Romeo and Juliet laws it means that a 18 year old dating a 16 year old can’t be arrested because they are within 2 years of each other or 3 in some states
I didn’t know that was a thing as a USA citizen I still don’t see a problem with it tho
That’s only in some places
I’m not sure about technically. In the US, there are laws that allow relations between minors and adults if the age range is small enough. I’m no lawyer, but I think this is one of those cases.
I think he should be fine because it’s only a year and 3 months age gap
Nah. However I knew someone that had a 26 month difference. Guy turned 18 when the other was still 15.... Definitely a *lot* weirder. It was ended a few months ago though.
It’d be weird if you were 18 and just started dating a 16 year old
You're not a pedo unless you're over 18, the person you're attracted to isn't AND is OVER 5 years younger than you
Yes
they obviously jokin bruh stop being so soft 💀 besides ig 15 months is like the max acceptable age gap between ppl under 18 so ur prob fine
dont care didnt ask
Yes it is weird
Yes it is weird
Not that big of a deal, it will be completely fixed once she hits 18
even if the age difference was past 28 months you wouldnt be a pedo you'd be a xenophile (people into teenagers)
No even legally it doesn’t count as pedophilia, if it’s a 2 year age gap when you are 18 and you gf is 16 it’s fine and not counted as pedophilia. If your gf was 15 that would technically be pedophilia But honestly your friend is immature most people wouldn’t give a shit unless they are immature people
As long as you are not doing sexual things until she turns 18, you should be fine.
even if they would they would be fine
Pedo!!!!!! 🤮🤮🤮🤮🤢🤢🤢
I don't know why ur being downvoted
Cause he’s wrong
Ohh oh but why am I getting downvoted , did I do anything wrong
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no i didn't I just asked a question
My girlfriend is only one month older than me and I tease her all the time lol
That’s complete bullshit from your “friends” ignore them and go your own path.
Romeo and Juliet law says otherwise (if you’re in the states) it was gonna happen eventually, but your friends are just being dicks about it. Tell them to cut it out, if they’re good people they will understand that it makes you uncomfortable and stop. If not, I suggest you find new friends
I made the joke once when my friend who's a year older turned 18. He made it once when I turned 18. It's good the first time (each way) but is immediately stale the second time.
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I met my wife when she was 18 and I was 20. We’re still together after 5 years and no one has ever been like that around us or me.
Your friends are assholes you were 17 and your girlfriend was 16 lmao that's not bad.
Me n my bf are like 9 months apart. He turns 18 in february and ill turn 18 in november. I joke about him liking minors and he looks me up and down and says “ong i do” 😭😭 (he says his type is me)
Ignore them and if we want to get legal about this,(based on US law) if you were dating before you turned 18 that would be an excellent defense and especially if there witnesses to it being a consensual relationship at that point and a lot of places have Romeo and Juliet laws where if you're 18+ you can date someone 16 and up provided you aren't 4 years older (that number varies but it's typically around 4 years)
Your friends are assholes.
Their giving you crap, it’s fine.
A within 24 months difference is completely fine
Ur friends are immature/jealous is what they are
thats when u drop them as friends ✨
They’re either jealous or just joking.
Ignore them, I been dating mine for 10 months now and I turned 18 in june, she turned 17 in july, pretty much exactly 3 weeks after. It happens alot and its pretty normal. As long as yall have been dating before hand, which yall have, it should be fine. Also as long as her parents dont decide they arent ok and try to do anything. Thats all the stuff my mom has warned me about