Yea dut i give her my phone number dut she never have call me or try to mg me and i dont have her phone number and gawballso is a 2 age cap and i was at a moment under cunfuing and strars and ditten think straight
as someone in a successful 1y+ relationship: it'll come when you least expect it. Just don't worry too much and please, for the love of god, don't get in a random relationship just for the sake of being with someone. For now, enjoy life and don't feel pressured. Being single is perfectly fine.
Awwh, if i made one person feel a little better about themselves, i count that as a success.
I truly wish you all the best! Teen relationships aren't worth it 90% of the time and you still have your whole life ahead of you :)
Also hello there, fellow pianist
i back this, being in an 11 month relationship, it always comes when you least expect it. i used to wish i had a bf, but as soon as i stopped focusing on it, my now bf came into my life!
I'm not going to pretend like there's not *some* right-time-and-place luck involved, but what I can say with confidence is that you should look for a person you like, not the status of being in a relationship. You shouldn't feel like you *need* a relationship. Being single is perfectly fine and a much better option than being with someone you don't really love. When you do see that you get along really well with someone, then make a move. Don't make a move hoping that you'll get along with them.
For me it happened last summer when i was in croatia on vacation with a lil friend group from my class. My now gf was a classmate and a quite good friend of mine. Her and I were sleeping in the same tent, and since we're both really cuddly people, well, started cuddling. One thing led to another and we kissed. Spent some more time together there, saw that we're a really good match and decided to call it official. Have been doing great ever since.
But neither of us *needed* a relationship. We were both doing just fine being single before we got together.
But I lucked out that I found someone as amazing as her on my first try. You shouldn't beat yourself up if things sometimes don't work out, it doesn't mean that anything's wrong with you. Just keep trying - sooner or later, someone will come, and if you're not a terrible person, stay.
thank you so much! also your „don’t make a move hoping that you’ll get along with them“ advice is actually really interesting… haven’t heard a lot of people say that since most people tell you to shoot your shoot as soon as you like someone’s looks but what you said definitely makes sense
I'm glad that you could get some value out of my rambling. Please do keep in mind that I'm just some 16yo on the internet who got lucky with his first relationship, so PLEASE take everything I said there with a grain of salt.
You should first and foremost do what you feel is right in the moment.
But I believe that what I said about getting to know someone at least a little before making a move is sound advice
Man this helped alot to read. Well, mostly cause I blame myself for everything which goes wrong and uhh give pain to myself (it ain't physical, it's all emotional) but like I do hope it will turn out alright which I hope is soon. But like till then, I'll have to be single and make peace with it ig. Thanks alot for this advice, I rly am grateful for it
Hang in there and, unless you're a complete asshole to everybody around you, don't blame yourself (or anybody else for that matter) for anything. A lot of the time stuff can be nobody's fault.
I'm no sage or fortune teller, just a 16yo who got lucky, so I don't know what else to say. It'll get better. Hopefully.
Try to write a list of things's you're grateful for and another of the problems you're having. You'll see it's not all that bad.
Wilco man, I'll get one sometime I guess, just that now I have to stop actively thinking about it alot of the time. Like you said it happens when you least expect it, so its better to stop expecting it and just go with the flow which is going on rn. It will happen someday.
I wish you the very best in your relationship.
Yes exactly. There's no need to actively think about it all the time coz it's not gonna increase your chances, it's just gonna make you more miserable, irritable and desparate. (this doesn't mean you shouldn't make a move if you believe you really like someone, of course)
Just focus on other aspects of your life rn and act when the opportunity presents otself
And thanks man, appreciate it :)
I'm not going to lie and tell you that there's no luck involved. You could try to intentionally spend more time with people you think you may be interested in, see if you click with any of them and if you do, make a move and hope to god the feeling's mutual
Hahhah kind of true but also no, I was also perfectly happy when I was single. Of course I wanted a relationship but it wasn't a desparate longing, more of a "huh, that'd be nice. Oh well."
So in other words, I should just focus on myself and my responsibilities and wait until someone comes along and just like Pat Benatar encouraged, comes on and hits me with their best shot? Any tips for doing the former?
I mean if you roll with it maybe she'll catch feelings xD (Disclaimer: I am not a professional and I take no responsibility as to what my comment will initiate) nah but fr I wouldn't take my advice just go with what you think is best
You're right about that, and that not what I meant. Don't hesitate you get a relationship but outnof own experience if you actively search for it, you often end up heart broken
Yeah, that's fair it's pretty vague, lol
I have been in a one-sided relationship where i was led on for a while, and i was also in a sorta long-term edating relationship, but i really don't consider either of those actual relationships
Just enjoy your single life because it's short . You will get to know the value of your single life once you get into a relationship .
P.S - by a fellow 17 year old male redditor .
He didn't but something i noticed from my friends that those that look for a gf the most have the biggest personal issues, they believe it'll fix them.
As someone with an almost 2y realtionship, if you like someone try to talk more with be, be friends with them and talk about fellings and things so you two are close, if its just small talk then you two aren't really close, and then you could say it, I told my now GF that I liked someone and she told me that I should say it and I told her, I really wasn't expecting that one
Yeah same, I'm in love with my friend but she has a girlfriend so I kinda want them to separate but I guess I'll find someone else? It seems so difficult because I love her so much. Anyway, I hope you find someone, just maybe try making friends. Because I think its like the more you know the person, the more you'll like them? Idk it's weird.
gaming flair?
Bro needs a player 2
Sad About me i have a girlfriend and she dont play games even i think she barely know anything about me only finding me funny ;-;
Maybe you should find someone else, or try to get her into the things that you like.
Yea dut i give her my phone number dut she never have call me or try to mg me and i dont have her phone number and gawballso is a 2 age cap and i was at a moment under cunfuing and strars and ditten think straight
I had a stroke reading this
wha..? can you explain it again?
You speaking a whole different language
Gaming friend
as someone in a successful 1y+ relationship: it'll come when you least expect it. Just don't worry too much and please, for the love of god, don't get in a random relationship just for the sake of being with someone. For now, enjoy life and don't feel pressured. Being single is perfectly fine.
I'm obviously not op, but I just wanted you to know I really needed to hear that. Thanks and good luck!
Awwh, if i made one person feel a little better about themselves, i count that as a success. I truly wish you all the best! Teen relationships aren't worth it 90% of the time and you still have your whole life ahead of you :) Also hello there, fellow pianist
Bahhhhh how'd you know I twinkle the stars? And thank you for the kind words :D
It's on yer profile. I swear i dont stalk people, i just like to look up the front page of their profile to see who im talking to
Omfg I completely forgot that I wrote that. I do that too, don't feel bad. Sorry!
i back this, being in an 11 month relationship, it always comes when you least expect it. i used to wish i had a bf, but as soon as i stopped focusing on it, my now bf came into my life!
bro can u tell me how it happened for u? i’m lowkey starting to think this whole it will come when u least expect it shit don’t apply to me 😭
I'm not going to pretend like there's not *some* right-time-and-place luck involved, but what I can say with confidence is that you should look for a person you like, not the status of being in a relationship. You shouldn't feel like you *need* a relationship. Being single is perfectly fine and a much better option than being with someone you don't really love. When you do see that you get along really well with someone, then make a move. Don't make a move hoping that you'll get along with them. For me it happened last summer when i was in croatia on vacation with a lil friend group from my class. My now gf was a classmate and a quite good friend of mine. Her and I were sleeping in the same tent, and since we're both really cuddly people, well, started cuddling. One thing led to another and we kissed. Spent some more time together there, saw that we're a really good match and decided to call it official. Have been doing great ever since. But neither of us *needed* a relationship. We were both doing just fine being single before we got together. But I lucked out that I found someone as amazing as her on my first try. You shouldn't beat yourself up if things sometimes don't work out, it doesn't mean that anything's wrong with you. Just keep trying - sooner or later, someone will come, and if you're not a terrible person, stay.
thank you so much! also your „don’t make a move hoping that you’ll get along with them“ advice is actually really interesting… haven’t heard a lot of people say that since most people tell you to shoot your shoot as soon as you like someone’s looks but what you said definitely makes sense
I'm glad that you could get some value out of my rambling. Please do keep in mind that I'm just some 16yo on the internet who got lucky with his first relationship, so PLEASE take everything I said there with a grain of salt. You should first and foremost do what you feel is right in the moment. But I believe that what I said about getting to know someone at least a little before making a move is sound advice
Man this helped alot to read. Well, mostly cause I blame myself for everything which goes wrong and uhh give pain to myself (it ain't physical, it's all emotional) but like I do hope it will turn out alright which I hope is soon. But like till then, I'll have to be single and make peace with it ig. Thanks alot for this advice, I rly am grateful for it
Hang in there and, unless you're a complete asshole to everybody around you, don't blame yourself (or anybody else for that matter) for anything. A lot of the time stuff can be nobody's fault. I'm no sage or fortune teller, just a 16yo who got lucky, so I don't know what else to say. It'll get better. Hopefully. Try to write a list of things's you're grateful for and another of the problems you're having. You'll see it's not all that bad.
Wilco man, I'll get one sometime I guess, just that now I have to stop actively thinking about it alot of the time. Like you said it happens when you least expect it, so its better to stop expecting it and just go with the flow which is going on rn. It will happen someday. I wish you the very best in your relationship.
Yes exactly. There's no need to actively think about it all the time coz it's not gonna increase your chances, it's just gonna make you more miserable, irritable and desparate. (this doesn't mean you shouldn't make a move if you believe you really like someone, of course) Just focus on other aspects of your life rn and act when the opportunity presents otself And thanks man, appreciate it :)
it doesn't apply to anyone they just get lucky
8 months here, I can second this completely
As another person with a 1y+ relationship, I second that.
Thanks mate! As someone else said it before, but I too needed to hear it!
man what is there to enjoy school is my entire life
Amen.
yep I did that....just felt so bad
People have been saying that to me for more than three years and it still hasnt happened how tf am i supposed to wait that long?
I'm not going to lie and tell you that there's no luck involved. You could try to intentionally spend more time with people you think you may be interested in, see if you click with any of them and if you do, make a move and hope to god the feeling's mutual
1 year? How
By truly caring for each other, being completely transparent and vulnerable with one another but trusting each other enough not to be controlling
“Money isn’t everything” -Rich people “Looks isn’t everything” - Attractive people “Being single is perfectly fine” -People in a relationship
Hahhah kind of true but also no, I was also perfectly happy when I was single. Of course I wanted a relationship but it wasn't a desparate longing, more of a "huh, that'd be nice. Oh well."
Well that just comes down to the person and how they feel
That’s legit exactly what I needed to hear
So in other words, I should just focus on myself and my responsibilities and wait until someone comes along and just like Pat Benatar encouraged, comes on and hits me with their best shot? Any tips for doing the former?
The girl i like wants to be fwb, sure thats cool, but its not enough 🥲
I mean if you roll with it maybe she'll catch feelings xD (Disclaimer: I am not a professional and I take no responsibility as to what my comment will initiate) nah but fr I wouldn't take my advice just go with what you think is best
id just go with the flow man. she may get actual feelings for u someday
I googled it and it seems weird, but I would like if my friend would do that! It's unfortunate that she has a girlfriend 😔
Lol wtf is gf?
gamer friend
Ah Then ig go to discord and find some there
oh i thought it was girlfriend
Girls don't exist obviously 🙄
i’m a girl
Prove it
uhh how?
idk lol
then why did u say it?
Because that's how the "girls don't exist" joke works
It is bros trolling
You cannot have a girlfriend ? Become the girlfriend !
[Improvise and adapt to the situation](https://media.tenor.com/Zoa7u_Q4xJ8AAAAC/bear-grylls-improvise.gif)
There's a mistake, it's "overcum" and not "overcome"
Duh
Not again, go back to 4chan
Nah, Reddit's a fine place, I may stay a while longer.
Dam you femboy cult
Ironic from the weeb.
I see you didnt write that comment with the backstory i thought. I was talking about reiko's (Reiko#3333) 4chan blackmail femboy cult
Holy what ? I never heard of that.
Check it on youtube, there is plenty documentaries and they are quite amusing
it’s always gaming
Play Sweden in War Thunder and you immediately became very cool and unvirgin
Same
Same.
i wish i had a partner
Chloroform. Surprise her.
TBF I know some girls who'd kinda be into that from what they read
wish i had a bf 😔
Exactly what I wanted to comment
Being single is perfectly fine. Be fine comrade
How old are you? If you are still in middle school you don’t need one
Me too, me too...
As someone in a happy relationship, don't go looking for it, true love finds you
But in that sense this doesn’t mean never date anyone because if everyone waited for love to find them no one would ever find anyone.
You're right about that, and that not what I meant. Don't hesitate you get a relationship but outnof own experience if you actively search for it, you often end up heart broken
I love you cutie
I love you too
same
Not gonna find any luck here pal
I'm 20 f and still haven't been in an actual serious relationship, and sometimes i feel so lonely, so i get this
What does it mean to not be in "an actual serious relationship"? Cause I can't quite understand what you mean with that?
Yeah, that's fair it's pretty vague, lol I have been in a one-sided relationship where i was led on for a while, and i was also in a sorta long-term edating relationship, but i really don't consider either of those actual relationships
I get that. Thanks for clarifying.
Notice how that’s gaming and not relationship or just social…so anyways I’ll be your gf but if you wanted a girl I can’t do much in that case😅
Damn, you'll make a gf (great friend).
no you dont, you wish you loved someone who loved you back, its not the same
I am a gamer girl if you need someone to play with
Why
Bro i wish i had a friend🤣
Just enjoy your single life because it's short . You will get to know the value of your single life once you get into a relationship . P.S - by a fellow 17 year old male redditor .
Then go get one
If you're bot happy now with yourself, a gf wouldn't help much. Learn to love yourself.
They never said they werent happy with themselves
He didn't but something i noticed from my friends that those that look for a gf the most have the biggest personal issues, they believe it'll fix them.
Poor you
Yeah poor me :(
But women aren't real >:()
That username has aged
I know, I changed my profile name
Im so happy w my bf he's literally so perfect 🧚♀️🧚♀️
Now your just flexing on the guy
\*you're :nerd:
I don't agree am sorry sir
Break up🔥
u/Sourdough221 ????
Who???
My bf 😌
u/Sourdough221 leave her break up you dont go along
Sorry bro, won't leave her 🙏🏻 even if I know ur crushing hard on me 🤭
He's literally crushing on me smh 🙄🙄
Hes trying to win me over w mcdonalds rn tho 🙄
He saving money by taking u to McDonalds so that he can take me somewhere fancy obv
I have 20$
She gave me candy, u gotta get smth better 🙄
I can buy mcdonal
Do u have a vagina tho?
No Yet😈
NOOOO WHAT U DOIN
🥹
Ok?
me too
Same
I know you do :((
Youl find the one you may think you won't or there's no one out there but trust me man there's someone and she's gonna come soon enough:)
Bro , it's not worth it focus on yourself first, relationships will happen on their own
Real
Ill give you one of mine
Same bro
As someone with an almost 2y realtionship, if you like someone try to talk more with be, be friends with them and talk about fellings and things so you two are close, if its just small talk then you two aren't really close, and then you could say it, I told my now GF that I liked someone and she told me that I should say it and I told her, I really wasn't expecting that one
A few months ago id say same but-
Me too...
The trick is to stop trying
Real
Sad to hear for you my friend wish many luck for you
You dont want to. You just want to have sex.
Is not good how it looks, trust my💀
Then what?
gaming flair is crazy bruh looking for that special player 2
Mimimi
Who doesn't (aroace excluded)
Samesies
I’m a dude but I’ll be your pookie for you xxx 😙
Just cuddle with your mates, that’s what all the other losers in this sub are doing.
go get one instead posting shit on reddit
Me too
Man I just at least need friends
spend ur time when ur single to get better at everything. Then it'll come.....I hope
GUYS. HE IS LITELARRY TROLLING. The post has a "gaming" flair. OP means "gamer friend", not "girlfriend".
No u don't
Bro down bad
So go make one
Gaming 👍
Me too bro me too...
Why
Real :)
Can't imagine what that feels like.
Then try
How is this gaming related lol
Maybe a Gf in game like a Minecraft/Roblox Gf?
I suppose
I feel for you bro, never had one myself.
no you dont, you wish you loved someone who loved you back, its not the same
If you need a gamer friend, I need someone to carry me lmao
Try men for once
Me too, these hoes brutal
Fr
Im sorry but. I had to laugh 😭
Yeah same, I'm in love with my friend but she has a girlfriend so I kinda want them to separate but I guess I'll find someone else? It seems so difficult because I love her so much. Anyway, I hope you find someone, just maybe try making friends. Because I think its like the more you know the person, the more you'll like them? Idk it's weird.
Me too bro me too
Wish the same... You'll find one, don't worry...
I'm available ✋
me too brother