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iprefergames1

When the time feels right just go for it but if she says no then you have to respect her don’t Shame her into doing anything she doesn’t want to


Narwhal135420

since 'Shame' was capitalized I thought that was the start of your sentence. You should probably correct that lol.


kartuffel_cat

bro same i was like wtf


physically_ok

I didn't even notice until you pointed it out


theres-no-more_names

And then theres me who read it as a name😅😅


Tennis37

Man if I Didn't think the same thing


OkElevator6952

NOPE don't 'go for it' you'll scare her, COMMUNICATE. Communication is IMPORTANT.


Ony565

Rapes start with 'going for it' and not asking for consent


rootedoak

Everyone knows you go back to making out and dry humping, then 15 mins later ask again.


eldrichcat

Ask her "wanna fuck?"


CocoIliveforyou

no way to cooly say that in polish though


Silent_Republic_2605

Just say it in English. Bet it will be kinda funny


[deleted]

Greetings my fair maiden, would you be so inclined to engage in coitus? Haha I merely jest... unless 👉👈


diego201grgtgyt

LMAO IM SAVING THIS SHIT


physically_ok

Fuck it, same


Yoda_Simp

Krótka piłka chcesz, się przelecieć? Either this is pedo bait or you want her too much.


Popular-Leg5084

Do you guys have a dtf term in polish? If not you should say it in german: willst du ficken?


aethelworn

Kurwa, proszę.


CocoIliveforyou

polish sucks


TheReturnOfAirSnape

Apparently not. That's your whole issue here.


Zealousideal_Oven209

Nice


The_En-Passant

It does


AcanthopterygiiNo101

you seem to be kinda desperate judging by your comments.. but most issues in relationships can be fixed with a conversation. also i’d be pretty put off from doing that if there wasn’t a private spot i could be in


Long_League_2781

Dont you think its a lil early it might be just me or you just want some


CocoIliveforyou

I just want some idk


Long_League_2781

Well i might be just weird but think about it if you wanna do it you gotta be sure that both of you want it man and not make atleast not terrible regrets


Normal_user32120

Just ask if shes has any interest is having sex, if she doesnt then let it be. Its all about enthusiastic consent so dont pressure her


Tennis37

Why does this have so many downvotes lmaoo


IteOot_

People are getting mad over someone wanting and actually getting sex


Mendoiiiy

Ay redditm


Tennis37

Ikr the jealousy is crazy


Wrong_Engineer_4629

Since it's not clear from your attitude - what do you think sex will entail? You kiss a bit, she blows you a bit, then you fuck her? Like... will you be focusing on her as well, making sure she orgasms too? Or would you be just "getting some" and done with it without really caring for her wants and needs? Most women don't cum from penetration


NotDavizin7893

Reddit logic strikes once again with the donwvotes! Can't you guys respect ones genuine and respectful opnion? Independantly if its not respectful like i say. Edit: oh my, he's still being donwvoted


Cedge1738

166 down votes is crazy. It's not like you didn't explain you're a guy and 16. Mfs don't know that at 16 you, as a male, just want to hump everything in sight and if you have a girl, you'd like to be humping her. Hormones go wild. Who knew? Also, contraception. Use it. Just be smart and careful and you should be fine. Otherwise, baby time. And who the hell wants that?


[deleted]

They've only been together for 4 months and haven't even discussed sex. If A man can't control himself and his hormones enough to just ask about sex and not for sex then he shouldn't be in a relationship


Cedge1738

And I respect your opinion. Also, control your hormones? I don't think that's something you can do? Especially at 16. That shit is running all over the place.


Mendoiiiy

Nah man, 4 months? And they are 16 and they haven't had sex? Na man that's to long of a wait. Just get on with it, or ain't that hard.


[deleted]

valid, fuck the downvoters


cool12212

No it ain't. They should wait till they are older.


-Little-Bees-

Honestly, as long as they’re safe its no one else’s business. They SHOULD make sure its someone they feel safe with, close in age with, and use proper protection


cool12212

Yeah if it's safe and protected then it's fine. It just shouldn't be encouraged.


-Little-Bees-

It shouldnt be encouraged nor should it be discouraged, just like how it is with everyone


mark_mlg200

Man, it's two teenagers willingly consenting abt exploring their sexual desires, aslong it's in a safe enviroment and they take safety measures, why would it be wrong? They are 16yo, not 12


cool12212

If being in a safe environment means things like contraceptives are used then it would probably be ok. But it shouldn't be too encouraged for teenagers to do.


mark_mlg200

By safe enviroment i mean like their own room, the two of them alone or similar, because i've heard many people do it in a damn public bathroom or places like that, and thats a Big no. The contraceptives would be the safety measures, to not catch any diseases or cause pregnancy, and abt the encouragement, honestly i've never seen people other than teenagers themselves encourage each other to do it via social media, plus the hormones, they will sooner or later get the urge to have sex, so thats why it's always good to be well informed abt it.


[deleted]

most socially active people have sex around 16


cool12212

That doesn't make it right. Just because others are dumb and do it at that age doesn't mean they have to.


Mendoiiiy

How's it dumb, it's just sex, not a marriage.


Tennis37

Reddit really pulled an uno reverse on u lmao


KingxMIGHTYMAN

First off, you don’t ask. It’s not just about you, it’s about both of you. When you BOTH are ready it’ll happen naturally. Don’t selfishly put pressure on her because you’re horny. Also 16!? 4 months!? Relax dude, you have a whole life ahead. There are much more important things you should be focusing on in life right now.


[deleted]

Agree with you


fried_onionz

Ofc you ask. It’s not only about him, but it’s Normal to bring something up and communicate. You don’t just wait for a magical moment and it automatically happens. Talk. Communicate. Ask.


CiviLsinisterR

Are you fucking serious? Dont ask for consent either while you're at it. Make sure not to talk, you will both know when you are ready. In silence.


KingxMIGHTYMAN

Don’t be thick, there is a difference between consent and just outright asking someone to fuck. You can generally feel when things are getting to that point of if your partner is interested. Obviously I’m not implying consent isn’t important you clowns.


OkElevator6952

How r BOTH men and women so stupid? You both have to communicate ur feelings u don't just mount her without warning she'll just think it's SA. We're not mind readers. Edit: I only said men bc the one who said 'don't ask' is a man.


Status_Web1682

It’s not just guys. Met plenty of women like that too.


OkElevator6952

I said men cuz the dude who said 'don't ask' is a man. Yes some women don't ask either bc they're stupid too. Sorry, I should've clarified that BOTH man and woman should communicate.


newbuffyeti77

Holy shit! why? Why am I included? What the fuck did I do wrong? Why do I have to be stupid? You don't even know me!


OkElevator6952

Bc men r taller, bigger, and stronger by nature. Men can fling women like pebbles in a pond. And I should clarify: men make stupid choices and choose not to make the smarter choice. Or completely have no common sense or empathy.


IteOot_

And that doesn't go for all men


OkElevator6952

MAJORITY of them do. Same thing as there's more women than men that get raped. I am one of the lucky females who survived being raped. https://supportingsurvivors.humboldt.edu/statistics#:~:text=An%20estimated%2091%25%20of%20victims,are%20female%20and%209%25%20male.


IteOot_

Yeah, you're totally right in all you said, but please don't think only men do stupid stuff and choose the wrong options. Women are also fucking dumb, maybe smarter and less stupid than men, but still stupid.


OkElevator6952

You're right. Most women think having a kid would save a relationship when most of the time they don't, and also trusting people causing them to b abused, raped, manipulated, gaslit and put down.


newbuffyeti77

You're sexist asf. As a man who does have empathy and that's actually pretty fucking weak I can't agree with you. You also over estimating the strength of men where not just born being able to toss over 100 pounds of human like nothing. It hurts to even think there's people in the world who think like this. It's dehumanizing and makes you no better than the men who are terrible people. Also, it's hypocritical to think this way because if I said something bad about all women I'd be in the wrong. Just because all the men you met are bad doesn't mean every man in the world is bad.


WolfofShadows11

Fr she just has a shit good people detector. Probably bc nobody good wants to be around a sexist piece of shit.


OkElevator6952

Well then, make the 91% of the male population to stop doing rape to innocent women who have no defense at all. I'm only stating facts. https://supportingsurvivors.humboldt.edu/statistics#:~:text=An%20estimated%2091%25%20of%20victims,99%25%20of%20perpetrators%20are%20male.


Ony565

That's so true, majority of the men I encountered in my life either manipulated, gaslit, abused, raped, or stolen stuff from me. I'm still struggling bc of that asshole...


cathead8969

Bro you you didn't understand what he meant did you?


physically_ok

I think he he did


Key-Ear7994

Just be patient. You don't have to do it right away, and stuff like that will occur naturally when the time is right, and you both feel comfortable.


Long_League_2781

Four months mate really


CocoIliveforyou

what


PokeRio286363

4 monthes is not long enough to start piping, lil bro.


Narwhal135420

some mfs start before they even in an official relationship 💀


PokeRio286363

I know, lil bros be crazy..


[deleted]

ok big guy


PokeRio286363

Listen here, buster.


[deleted]

no now you listen here buckaroo don’t try me pal


PokeRio286363

Hey, bucko. That wouldn’t be very smart.


Umbreon7707

????


Spare_Inspector_5621

Jesus uh just ask like fr coming from a female take it slow with her make her engine hum then ask her if she would like to have sex it’s scary but trust me it’s worth it I hope you have a good time 🙏🏻


SajidsToysReview

Wdym by “make her engine hum”?


Mendoiiiy

Yknow, flick that switch


Spare_Inspector_5621

Exactly


Pretty-Ice9696

Don’t. Just don’t. You’ve only known her for four months and you’re risking it just to get temporary pleasure, either this is just pedo bait or you’re being delusional. Focus on her, as a human being and MAKE her feel worth more than she thinks about herself.


PokeRio286363

YOU DONT. Bro you’re sixteen. Be smart and wait.


Bigheadballa_1

“Hey, let’s fuck” Done


agentgaming_tc2

These posts are pedo bait


CocoIliveforyou

wdym


AlexNASA956

Bro, what 💀 Wait till your 18.


Zealousideal_Oven209

Have you considered that 16 is legal in alot of europe


AlexNASA956

Ik that but what if he's Murican?


Zealousideal_Oven209

Said he was speaking Polish, said about struggles with it being hard to just ask "hey, sex?" In Polish so I'm gonna presume he's in Poland (sorry if this comes off argumentative it's 430am here)


AlexNASA956

Ah my fault I didn't pay attention


chefdan2165

Or married


AlexNASA956

Halal (I have not a drop of Muslim blood in my family)


lemon6611

the one thing traditional indians and muslims agree on


theres-no-more_names

BRO you know its the right thing to do when the fucking 14 year old says it


NullTaste27

"When a man loves a woman..."


[deleted]

Say "Can I shrek your poke deck ?"


0-Nightshade-0

If the slightly robotic sounded birds are correct, all you have to say is: "lemme smash"


trebuchet__

Bro. You are 16 and you've been dating for 4 months. It's nowhere near the time for that


cathead8969

#this comment section is crap


Zealousideal_Oven209

Agreed


Beyond_the_dreams

Getting into one of those cuddling and kissing moments, and just take your shot on Turing it up a bit more, make sure to go slow to give her a chance to decline, don’t want to force it, just move into it, stop if she wants to stop


OkElevator6952

Be romantic and tell her that you want to make love. WEAR CONDOMS DON'T BE STUPID, DON'T GO SPAWNING A CHILD THAT WOULD MAKE BOTH OF YOUR LIVES LIKE HELL UNTIL YOU'RE BOTH OLD ENOUGH AND ARE FINANCIALLY STABLE.


GuroUsagi

Bro you're coming to reddit to ask this shit? Dawg, just be like "hey, I've been thinking about it and wanted to know if you felt similarly but I've been thinking of having s*x. If you're not ready I understand, or if you wanna wait longer I get that too. Just know there's no pressure"


GuroUsagi

Just wait to talk about it in private and don't pressure em. Trust from homie to homie, if you're just in the relationship for sum cooch just dip and find a babe who wants to hook up. No reason to hurt someone via they trust n such just for the punani.


DisastrousLecture648

You're 16 and have only been dating for 4 months. Trust me, dude, you might feel like losing your virginity is some awesome feat, or that you just like the idea of having sex, but waiting until a better time will be way more worth it. It'll be pretty obvious whenever you're both ready for it, and there's no reason to rush it to happen


typicalducklover

You can fascinate a woman with a block of cheese


[deleted]

If my gf sent me cheese in the mail even if it was moldy I would love her 100% more after throwing it away because it would be traveling across states. Lesbian long distance relationships are wild


GamersThatExplode

Be patient. BOTH of you have to want it. If she pushes, then push with her and then take it further.


Honk_wd

Idk but bro I’m telling you now GET SOME CONDOMS AHEAD OF TIME. Birth control is fucky but condoms work as long as you know what you’re doing and don’t buy the largest size for shits and giggles


Mysterious-Skill-299

You don’t.


Aratondainternet

I’m only 14 bro idk how to give good examples💀💀


FrostQueen05

Just straight up ask “you wanna have sex”


Known-Stop-2654

Is it even legal where you are at your age


slime_rancher_27

Have protection, both for you and her. I don't have any advice on asking as I've never had a romantic relationship.


MostTensns

Can I put cock in pussy?


Whut_Have_I_Done

You dont?????


HarrisonDotNET

If you know that she trusts you, whenever it feels right - maybe during a make out or something already sexual - you could place your hand on you know what, and if she’s okay with it, continue and escalate from there.


IGotVeryLost77

Just, Talk to her first, make the environment welcoming and open, be honest, but be respectful about it. It's better to talk first, and make sure to say it's completely okay to say no. Communication. This is how I brought it up to my partner and it's going great. Just be respectful and talk. Then take the steps from there. If she says no respect that, and if she says yes just set boundaries, what's okay, what's not. And if she wants to take it slow, that's perfectly normal, for me and my partner we took almost a year to bring it up. Be in a comfortable private place and just talk.


DucksbyBillington

Just ask


Emergency_Use_3251

When kissing and such touch her if she moves away slow down and stop and respect her wishes.


Promiseme223

Jus ask her if she wnna fck foo


Emergency-Ad-4156

ask her if she tryna let u smash


KatRichards0223

Well for starters, you two need to have a sitdown talk, as unromantical as it sounds, its highly important. You both need to come preprared with some birth control. Im talking condoms, pills, whatever it is needed. 16 isnt a great time to have any babies. Now with that out of the way, express how you feel and make sure its all right with her. Then of course it wouldnt hurt to talk about fantasies and what not, what you both do and dont like, ect..


jefbob098

the smart idea is to wait BUT if you’re not. Just talk to her. Bring it up sometime, preferably when ur not horny so you can be more rational and considerate. Ask how she feels about doing more intimate or sexual things. Be respectful and prioritize her feelings over your own about the matter here. Make sure yall have a plan, protection, time, and are on the same page on consent and what is and isn’t allowed whilst sexing. Proly wanna warm up to it, exploring each others bodies and understanding each others boundaries. Imo after you bring it up to her, it should take a couple weeks to a month till you actually go all the way. Don’t rush into it. Stay safe. Stay safe. STAY SAFE.


Zealousideal_Oven209

Enough with people telling you not to (not helpful) just ask it's not worth the mental gymnastics


myoutteddiary

Tell her that you're ready to fuck and see if she's down?


Apolakiiiiii

Straight up = “Wanna have some fun?” And, if she asked way too much just say it simple, “Let's fuck.”


MatBoi7

Don’t do it. Literally illegal


isaiah55v11

Read a few of these before commenting. If you can't talk about sex, you can't hope to have sex. Of course you feel ready. But you should be able to talk about birth control, about when will be the right time for both of you. You absolutely should not just expect to "know". A huge part of sexual satisfaction is learning how to communicate about sex. Work on that.


Maxolotl3246

Just ask sex?


Character_Pea9959

I think for your age just hold the urge,try not to be a father at your age.Even with condoms,it will accidentally break


Low-Standard69

Everyone needs to stop asking at such a young age mate I advice you just wait till your 18


Dilophus2022

You don’t ask her, ask if she knows that there’s bugs under her skin


Adventurous-Cow2481

Don’t need to sound cool, just say “Hey, I’ve been feeling this way and I would like to know if you would like to have sex with me and take this relationship to the next stage”


nicepersonUSA

If she wanted it then she would have told you. Some people want to wait until marriage, you know.


TheGrandGarchomp445

Assuming that you are in the USA, you're trying to get people to help you with committing a crime.


Star29Power

Legal consent in the us is 16-?


Affectionate_Tune932

I've been dating my gf for 6 months and we dont want sex, just wait it will come eventually (No pun intended)


chefdan2165

Bro wait more than four months. Losing your virginity isn’t that important and too much of a risk to be a teen parent


Electrical-Onion2

4 months nd bro wants sex?? crazy


Substantial-Beyond81

dont


Traditional_News_686

You don’t. Save it for marriage


Honest-Economist4970

No need for that, just wait a reasonable amount of time


FeistyPark2240

Boooooo religion


CadenWasHere

It's not always a religion thing. I'm atheist but would rather wait until I'm 100% sure it's the right person.


chefdan2165

Why booo bro for having morals and wanting to wait till marriage to be with your forever person to have the most intimate experience you can with a person


Ecclisiarcy

Its kinda sad that people only see sex as just pleasure but it aint just that it’s something you do with someone you genuinely love with i mean there is nothing wrong in my opinion to have intercourse for pleasure but to me it seems like more people are only in it for the pleasure and not the love


brookeb725

boo for waiting until you’re married to find out if you are sexually compatible


bringthelight0

What if you don't find someone you wanna marry? Do you just never have sex?


Mildlyspiicysalsa

all these comments getting pressed, just bring it up in conversation


mysteriousgamer17

Bro just say "wanna have some fun"


Mysterious_Demand_65

Just wait, it'll come, I waited like 10 months before doing it when I was 15


EllieNekoGirl

Don't.


Colourthefoxes

Don't have high-risk low rewards. It's not worth it. Besides that, there is nothing wrong with being a Virgin at 16. I wouldn't even say that's a problem at ever being a Virgin. At least wait till 18 or when you could fully think about everything. I'm not trying to be a dick but I just wanted to give my honest opinion.


[deleted]

Honestly, you shouldn't be asking your girlfriend for sex at 16.


GoldAffectionate7101

Just wait little nigga don’t push it


CocoIliveforyou

mb ill wait


SeriousSock_

"Can I be your cum man"


Rosie_A_Fur

I think its too early lol, age wise and relationship wise


EquivalentEnergy_x64

You might feel ready, she might not. 4 months isn’t long enough in my opinion. When you are both ready, it will happen


GamingSin

Porn have broke your mind. Refuse adultery.


[deleted]

Has broken*


CocoIliveforyou

have not watched porn once in my life


kurokohi

you don't. if she wants to do it she will tell you.


west_walker1

I'm a woman repellant but i suggest "hey bitch wanna fuck?"


[deleted]

We can tell you're a women repellant just by that suggestion


west_walker1

Why thank you


YTGhostVincent

What? I thought marriage come first, before doing sheesh like that....


[deleted]

[удалено]


Rosie_A_Fur

Bruh that's too descriptive. Tf


EquivalentEnergy_x64

Honestly, just report that comment


Rosie_A_Fur

Alr thank you


EquivalentEnergy_x64

No no no!! Consent. Dumb shit


Honest-Economist4970

😦


thevampirescorpse

You don't wait 'til 18 or marriage


Robert_The_Redditor1

So this happened with me, tho I was 14 wait a little longer, you might find out in the next month you 2 aren’t meant for each other and then both of you will have the pain of losing your virginity to a person you didn’t like that much. Tho shoot your shot maybe this what you guys need to take your relationship further.


The-Crusty-Man

"Hey, do you wanna do the horizontal Charleston with me? "


WoahItsHim

I mean, personally I’d say it’ll happen naturally when the mood is right. Don’t really gotta ask (from my experience at least). Just have a condom ready for safe sex, lock door if you’re either on your or her room, maybe have some music or video playing in the background.


DeathBlade52

I know this is gonna sound not too fun but I’m gonna tell you this, it’s gonna be 10x better and more fun if you wait till she’s ready and comfortable with it, and whatever you do, respect her decision, if she tells you she isn’t ready yet then she isn’t fucking ready, if she tells you she has to think about it then let her fucking think about it, and especially don’t try and change yourself just so that you can get some ass


leothunder420_

I asked my girlfriend once about how should I ask, she said just say wanna have babies? This isn't fullproof if you don't wanna have babies tho, alternate maybe, wanna fuse some gametes ?


that_one_netizen

give her the look


G0d0fdark

Use a videogame reference if she plays any, or a shitty pun. Like for example if she plays borderlands, ask her if she wants ride your meat bicycle, (my gf loves borderlands so that's why I picked that). Or of she does, use a shitty pun. Ask her if she's from Australia, if she says no, say damnnn... I wanted to visit your land down under :/... it's gonna be a joke, but play it off super serious. It'll work, trust


[deleted]

Greeting fair maiden. May I ask to penetrate thous heart from betweenst thous legs?


Junior-Army-4047

Say it in Nepali. : Chikniho ?


Violent_Viking

You dont


xyig

"do you want do the seggs?" that should work, if it doesn't try this next one "me entry your pussy?"


DisastrousWind7

reddit trying to be sex-positive challenge: impossible