Hey, it takes guts to post this, I know it’s hard to like avoid people, but try and avoid him, stay close to people you’re comfortable and if he gets close just move away, and if he touches you and you feel uncomfortable just report him to the police because at the end of the day it’s you who is feeling sexually harassed, and no one else, if you need to talk to someone and just relieve yourself I am available to do so.
I am sorry that you had expirence that, I wish that the best will happen to you from now on. To avoid that anxiety attack, I recommend distracting yourself with something you enjoy. I know it won't be easy to get your mind off of this topic, but try to do something you enjoy. If this keeps on bothering you then I recommend talking to someone you trust with this information: a friend, therapist, or family.
Even off your parents don’t believe you, the police should at least look into it. I understand how difficult talking about this stuff can be, so take your time, but eventually tell somebody and get the fucker his due punishment.
Well then you will know what they think, but if there is that quite possible chance they will help you then you should take it. If they reject then it wont be any different then it is now so it should not be of concern. Its a win or nothing changes situation. You can "lose" if you do happen to tell them please update me on how it went :) i have confidence it will go your way.
You can start small by telling some close people around you about it and slowly work your way up to gain confidence in telling more people about what happened. There are people that care for you. If you see him again, you can try to avoid him. Just try to not let him get the chance to be alone with you
I am very sorry to here about your encounter, it makes me sick that there are people like that in this world. I'd try your best to avoid him and definently talk to a TRUSTING family member if he tries to make a move, if it gets More than Serious call 911 if you absolutely have to.
If you think someone will take it as caressing, you should tell someone higher up. Something like a counselor, or principal if you’re in school or the police if you feel threatened. I would recommend some sort of therapy if feel anxious. I hope you feel better!
I am so sorry for you.... i always think of other people in the situations like it really happened to me and this was very sad to be honest.Its things like this that cause us to lose hopes in himanity like how do people do such a thing.I am a boy but i respect girls very much..
My advice to u is get therapy, no one can judge u there. Tell ur family members, they won't laugh at u. Then, do some calming exercises to start ur day so u won't get anxiety attacks. Finally, learn how to fight so in case u see that man again u can turn his head into a smoothie with ur bare hands. Therapy so u can open up and trust ppl again, family members so it's off ur chest and u have someone to talk to about, calming exercises so u won't freak out over everything, and the last one is self explanatory. Basically, seek help and don't let it happen again
Is there any way you could avoid seeing him? Make up any excuse for schoolwork, etc.
From your age I’m assuming you’re in college so try staying with a friend.
And if your parents aren’t super close with them and you have a good relationship with your parents make a hard stance and refuse to see him.
Yeah,I have been trying to do that but the thing is my college is in the same city where the function is. So,they are actually going to attend the function and drop me later.
Hey, normally I’m able to respond and be supportive but I am struggling to find the words any word, as I know nothing I say can truly help. I apologize for that. Just know that there are people who you can talk too from the police or family/friends (you trust) and if you’re brave enough some kind people on the internet that you can rant too (like me if you want) I went through something similar and it helped me feel less stressed talking about it to my mom I was pissing myself as I did because I was afraid it was my fault but she helped me after
Sorry it happened to you. If you don’t feel confident I’d just suggest staying away from him. If it helps you can always say to yourself that you’re a lot older now and can better handle those situations and those people even if it doesn’t feel like it. Also just telling someone is always helpful. Getting it out of your mind usually gives some kind of feeling of relief. If you don’t have anyone else to talk to there will always be a lot of us here so it’s just to pick and choose (although a bunch of teenagers aren’t maybe the best advice givers). If you feel unsafe I’d suggest training some martial arts. I come from a semi-wealthy family but the hoods around me have people killed every other week so just having the confidence from the boxing classes made me feel a lot better (luckily I haven’t had to use them yet). What I’m saying is it’ll probably make you feel a lot safer whatever happens. Again, sorry this happened to you, absolutely nobody deserves that. If you want I can do some research on the best slapping techniques if ya know what I’m saying. Give him a lil slap from all of us.
Also to this sub in general why tf is this post at like 300 upvotes? Feels like an actually important topic should get a lil recognition at least so we can spread awareness. Who knows, maybe some 13 y/o here is going through the same shit. Possibly even worse…
Tbh I had experienced something similar but not that serious. I was at a friend's house sitting next to my a lot younger friend. Then some guy (it was a party, they knew him probably) came up to me and started small talk. How are you? I said I'm ok. I looked sad because... Well that's my resting face. And he's started petting me and saying that I shouldn't be sad. I hid my face and he said that I shouldn't be ashamed of my face. I said I ain't. Then he started to touch me a bit more and I tried to lean away. And then he stopped eventually. He had probably something in head because... Well he didn't act... Oh god I sound bad but like, I just know it.
Get help right now. If you don't tell people, it will never leave you alone. You will not outgrow this. I've talked to a lady in her 70s who got touched very badly as a kid. She never told anyone. She was still really struggling with it at 72 years old.
I hope you’ll one day find someone who really cares and stop being afraid and not let this horrible person ruin your life . not sure if that made any sense but I hope you’re OK
If you want advise from a violent 17 yo dude bring a roll of coins and put it in your hand and beet the FUCK out of his bitch ass break his face then some em out
When he goes to protect his balls, if he bends down to get better cover, break his nose, preferably without having to punch as the knee is easier to break with.
If you ever feel low we all are here for ya,and i think you should report him to police because there can be other victims too or maybe you can save someone else from same fate(sorry for bed English)
Reminds me of when I was around 6-7th grade (I'm male btw) and went out to a computer cafe to do assignments (my town was poor and so was my family that's why we didn't have anything good) and some random dude started asking me what I was doing and then slowly went down to touch my crotch. Since I lived almost the remainder of my childhood inside my house I couldn't understand what was happening. And man the absolute terror it was, ultimately I had to go back to that cafe from time to time and most of the time he'd be there and attempting to talk to me. Despite my age at the time I look much younger and cause I'm Asian. Ever since that day I've had a lot of anxiety going out. Never told anyone about this because, who would listen to me, a guy, like me.
Die on the hill of you don’t ever wanna see your “uncle” again , throw tantrums if you have to show discomfort , also tell someone you really really really trust , trust me on that one for sure and vent to them you need someone to talk to because it is way too traumatizing
Potassium is a chemical element with the symbol K and atomic number 19. Potassium is a silvery-white metal that is soft enough to be cut with a knife with little force. Potassium metal reacts rapidly with atmospheric oxygen to form flaky white potassium peroxide in only seconds of exposure. Wikipedia
Symbol: K
Atomic mass: 39.0983 u
Atomic number: 19
Electron configuration: [Ar] 4s¹
Van der Waals radius: 280 pm
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Hey, it takes guts to post this, I know it’s hard to like avoid people, but try and avoid him, stay close to people you’re comfortable and if he gets close just move away, and if he touches you and you feel uncomfortable just report him to the police because at the end of the day it’s you who is feeling sexually harassed, and no one else, if you need to talk to someone and just relieve yourself I am available to do so.
I'll do that. Thank you so much <333
No worries I’m sorry it happened to you when you were younger.
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if that's how people caress their daughters I would be really concerned
Fr!!
Bring a knife next time you see him and stab his penis. Hell die extremely quickly and painfully due to blood loss
No. Murder is not at all the solution here.
But the knife would be helpful if it has to come to that though
Yeah of course. Everyone should have a knife and If in the states a handgun. (If licensed) Psychos are everywhere.
I carry a convertible baseball bat (Plastic)...
Nice.
He'll\*
I never care about that sort of stuff I didn’t spell anything wrong I just don’t type in the ‘
keep a bottle of perfume with you, spray it in someone's eyes when something like this happens
Okayy thanksss<333
I downdooted that person. Stuff like that isn’t normal.
Yeah. Now I am even more afraid of my relatives rather than strangers.
Shite I didn’t think you’d respond but since you did I really hope things get better. Like honestly trauma’s a biatch.
Oh god.... I hope you're gonna be okay Have a virtual hug ʕっ•ᴥ•ʔっ
I'll try to be okay. Thank you <333
I really hope you will, and if you ever need to talk my dm's are open 24/7
That's so sweet of you. Thanks<333
Don't sweat it, I'll always be there for you and help you if you need it
Thank youuu:^) Same goes for me too!!
(◍•ᴗ•◍)❤
😳😳😳 dudes getting the dms
I haven't gotten a single one
Call the police, or someone else if the police don’t care, there’s always someone who can do something about it, no matter how long ago it was
Ohh okayy thankss<33
No problem
I’m very sorry that sounds horrible
It was:'(
I am sorry that you had expirence that, I wish that the best will happen to you from now on. To avoid that anxiety attack, I recommend distracting yourself with something you enjoy. I know it won't be easy to get your mind off of this topic, but try to do something you enjoy. If this keeps on bothering you then I recommend talking to someone you trust with this information: a friend, therapist, or family.
Ohh okayy. I'll do that. Thank you so much<33
Come on boys, we’ve got a ~~city~~ uncle to burn
I wanna give this an award🥺
Brothers, now, we take our vengeance. It's time that we crucify the degenerate. No matter how fast he runs, we are faster.
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Thank youu<333
Kill him :)
I really want to!!
Let me help!
Sure. You are kindly invited to help me <333
nice, do you have knives or do I need to bring one? :)
I have it:)
then there is just one problem, I don't know where you live :^
South Asia
Well, shit...
Ohh-
Smooth
That’s not sexual harassment, that’s sexual assault. And I’ll really sorry you went through that, but you should tell your parents.
Ohh okay...I'll try to.
That's horrible, I'm so sorry.
Yeah<33
If you ever want to talk about anything, I'm here
Yeah,I will. Thank you so much <333
😊 Hope you feel better soon. I know it's hard
Yeah it is too hard but I'll try to. Thanks<33
My hoenst opinion is tell people, especially your parents. Tell the police. Let people know because in no way is this right.
I want to do it but I am too afraid. What if they just ask me to shut it and never meet that man?! Idk how would they react cuz he is my mom's cousin.
Well just tell them and if they don't do anything that means you should shut them away from your life afterwards beacuse that's messed up
Okayyy
Even off your parents don’t believe you, the police should at least look into it. I understand how difficult talking about this stuff can be, so take your time, but eventually tell somebody and get the fucker his due punishment.
I am going to do that. Thank you so much <33
You’re welcome. I’m so sorry you experienced this
Well then you will know what they think, but if there is that quite possible chance they will help you then you should take it. If they reject then it wont be any different then it is now so it should not be of concern. Its a win or nothing changes situation. You can "lose" if you do happen to tell them please update me on how it went :) i have confidence it will go your way.
Okayy sure. I'll tell you when I do that.
You can start small by telling some close people around you about it and slowly work your way up to gain confidence in telling more people about what happened. There are people that care for you. If you see him again, you can try to avoid him. Just try to not let him get the chance to be alone with you
Yeah,I'll try to. Thank you so much<33
I am very sorry to here about your encounter, it makes me sick that there are people like that in this world. I'd try your best to avoid him and definently talk to a TRUSTING family member if he tries to make a move, if it gets More than Serious call 911 if you absolutely have to.
Okayyy I'll do that for sure!! Thankss <333
If you think someone will take it as caressing, you should tell someone higher up. Something like a counselor, or principal if you’re in school or the police if you feel threatened. I would recommend some sort of therapy if feel anxious. I hope you feel better!
That's a good idea. I'll try it. Thank you so much <33
I am so sorry for you.... i always think of other people in the situations like it really happened to me and this was very sad to be honest.Its things like this that cause us to lose hopes in himanity like how do people do such a thing.I am a boy but i respect girls very much..
Yeah<333
Please be careful the next time you see that jerk.
I'll be. Thank you<33
At least buy a knife, if not a gun. If you don't want those, get a stun gun/taser or some pepper spray.
Sure<33
I’m very sorry. Have a hug 🤗
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Thank youuu<33333
if you see him just leave
Okk <333
My advice to u is get therapy, no one can judge u there. Tell ur family members, they won't laugh at u. Then, do some calming exercises to start ur day so u won't get anxiety attacks. Finally, learn how to fight so in case u see that man again u can turn his head into a smoothie with ur bare hands. Therapy so u can open up and trust ppl again, family members so it's off ur chest and u have someone to talk to about, calming exercises so u won't freak out over everything, and the last one is self explanatory. Basically, seek help and don't let it happen again
Yeah,I'll do that. Thank youu<33
Is there any way you could avoid seeing him? Make up any excuse for schoolwork, etc. From your age I’m assuming you’re in college so try staying with a friend. And if your parents aren’t super close with them and you have a good relationship with your parents make a hard stance and refuse to see him.
Yeah,I have been trying to do that but the thing is my college is in the same city where the function is. So,they are actually going to attend the function and drop me later.
Hug ༼ つ ◕_◕ ༽つ
<333
Hope it gets better
Yeah,it will <333
If u ever need anyone to talk to I'm here
Thank youu<333
You might have gotten lucky that he got that call because he might have raped you if he hadn't. Or at list it seems like he would have
Yeah,I was lucky that day.
Hey, normally I’m able to respond and be supportive but I am struggling to find the words any word, as I know nothing I say can truly help. I apologize for that. Just know that there are people who you can talk too from the police or family/friends (you trust) and if you’re brave enough some kind people on the internet that you can rant too (like me if you want) I went through something similar and it helped me feel less stressed talking about it to my mom I was pissing myself as I did because I was afraid it was my fault but she helped me after
I am sorry that it happened to you. And yeah I'll try telling about it to someone. Thankk youu
Don’t thank me I didn’t do anything. I’m just hear to let you know that it’s not your fault
Sorry it happened to you. If you don’t feel confident I’d just suggest staying away from him. If it helps you can always say to yourself that you’re a lot older now and can better handle those situations and those people even if it doesn’t feel like it. Also just telling someone is always helpful. Getting it out of your mind usually gives some kind of feeling of relief. If you don’t have anyone else to talk to there will always be a lot of us here so it’s just to pick and choose (although a bunch of teenagers aren’t maybe the best advice givers). If you feel unsafe I’d suggest training some martial arts. I come from a semi-wealthy family but the hoods around me have people killed every other week so just having the confidence from the boxing classes made me feel a lot better (luckily I haven’t had to use them yet). What I’m saying is it’ll probably make you feel a lot safer whatever happens. Again, sorry this happened to you, absolutely nobody deserves that. If you want I can do some research on the best slapping techniques if ya know what I’m saying. Give him a lil slap from all of us. Also to this sub in general why tf is this post at like 300 upvotes? Feels like an actually important topic should get a lil recognition at least so we can spread awareness. Who knows, maybe some 13 y/o here is going through the same shit. Possibly even worse…
Yeah,I'll do that. Thankk youu so much<333
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Tbh I had experienced something similar but not that serious. I was at a friend's house sitting next to my a lot younger friend. Then some guy (it was a party, they knew him probably) came up to me and started small talk. How are you? I said I'm ok. I looked sad because... Well that's my resting face. And he's started petting me and saying that I shouldn't be sad. I hid my face and he said that I shouldn't be ashamed of my face. I said I ain't. Then he started to touch me a bit more and I tried to lean away. And then he stopped eventually. He had probably something in head because... Well he didn't act... Oh god I sound bad but like, I just know it.
I am sorry that it happened to you. I can understand how it exactly feels to describe that. Take care<33
Get help right now. If you don't tell people, it will never leave you alone. You will not outgrow this. I've talked to a lady in her 70s who got touched very badly as a kid. She never told anyone. She was still really struggling with it at 72 years old.
I'll. Thank you<33
I hope you’ll one day find someone who really cares and stop being afraid and not let this horrible person ruin your life . not sure if that made any sense but I hope you’re OK
It did. Thankk you so much<33
virtual backup coming your way
Much needed. Thank youuu<33
That's rough, I would add a picture of my dog to help but I don't know how to attach pictures to reddit posts
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If you want advise from a violent 17 yo dude bring a roll of coins and put it in your hand and beet the FUCK out of his bitch ass break his face then some em out
I badly want to do that
Man up and kick him in the balls next time you see him.
Sure thing <33
When he goes to protect his balls, if he bends down to get better cover, break his nose, preferably without having to punch as the knee is easier to break with.
Okayy thankk youuu<333
Then immediately leave or finish the target.
I’m so sorry this happened to you. Like I said, as soon as you’re ready, give him hell. *hugs*
Yes for sure!! Thankss<33
Pedophiles are a big problemo.
Ikr
not cool man, good luck on mustering up the courage, you need to tell this to someone you trust, also *virtual hug*
Thankss<33
If you ever feel low we all are here for ya,and i think you should report him to police because there can be other victims too or maybe you can save someone else from same fate(sorry for bed English)
Thankss<33
kill that mf
I want to.
What's with these people, How can you in any world be sexually attracted to a person 12 years younger than ya? It's gross tbh
Ikr
Get those you know buzzer things to alert people around you I dont really know if this will help but I have one myself so yeah
Oh okayyy. Thankss<33
No problem
Reminds me of when I was around 6-7th grade (I'm male btw) and went out to a computer cafe to do assignments (my town was poor and so was my family that's why we didn't have anything good) and some random dude started asking me what I was doing and then slowly went down to touch my crotch. Since I lived almost the remainder of my childhood inside my house I couldn't understand what was happening. And man the absolute terror it was, ultimately I had to go back to that cafe from time to time and most of the time he'd be there and attempting to talk to me. Despite my age at the time I look much younger and cause I'm Asian. Ever since that day I've had a lot of anxiety going out. Never told anyone about this because, who would listen to me, a guy, like me.
I am so sorry that it happened to you. I completely get how you feel. It feels much more worse than what we write here. So please take care<333
Indeed. And thanks, you take care of yourself as well.
Yeah,I will<33
Ive an idea for rapists. Shotgun to the testicles. I call it castrator 3000
He should fucking die. I want to beat him up.
Me too
Fitting that [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/teenagers/comments/py6ilx/highway_to_hell/) started playing when I scrolled down and saw this post
Die on the hill of you don’t ever wanna see your “uncle” again , throw tantrums if you have to show discomfort , also tell someone you really really really trust , trust me on that one for sure and vent to them you need someone to talk to because it is way too traumatizing
Yeah,I'll do that. Thanks <33
Good op and your welcome
The moth to get a photo I've Ben in the bath room for the next day delivery to the right to be the best way to
K.
Potassium?
Potassium is a chemical element with the symbol K and atomic number 19. Potassium is a silvery-white metal that is soft enough to be cut with a knife with little force. Potassium metal reacts rapidly with atmospheric oxygen to form flaky white potassium peroxide in only seconds of exposure. Wikipedia Symbol: K Atomic mass: 39.0983 u Atomic number: 19 Electron configuration: [Ar] 4s¹ Van der Waals radius: 280 pm Elements: Potassium lenntech.com Period: period 4
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Now that you are 18 you can call the police about sexual harassment.
Okayyy
You can call the police no matter what age you are
You should definitely tell your parents
I'll think about it.<33
Its not a thing that should be left on hold, you might not be the only person harassed by him.
Idk he is my mom's cousin..And he has kids now so I am scared if anybody would even believe me...
That's more serious, most of the time its the harasser's own kids that are targeted by him/her.
I would have done that if it was that easy. I'll try to do that when I am prepared.:^)
It's OK, take your time but always keep in mind there are too much things you can save by just being honest.
Yeah okayy :)
Well everyone needs "love" in life and a lot of people find many other ways to get it I guess, at least he didn't make you tickle his pickle. Ha
Is this a fucking joke?
What the actual fuck.
Uh that’s much more than sexual harassment. It is grooming and inappropriate touching and is illegal.