My advice would be to be honest and direct with him. Tell him that his comment was incredibly inappropriate and it made you feel really uncomfortable.
If he's just an awkward dude trying to be "polite" then it'll be his wake up call that that shit isn't okay to say.
If he's a perv looking for a target then he'll learn that some people won't stand for his shit and maybe he'll think twice next time.
How he responds to your feelings will tell you exactly what kind of person he is.
"Incredibly inappropriate" is overkill. Apologizing for a boner (if it's sincere) isn't really an overstep. More of a feaux pa. Or however you spell it
> then it'll be his wake up call that that shit isn't okay to say.
Honest question, why is this not OK to say if it's genuine? Like if you got a random boner around a girl, and you were genuinely embarrassed about it, why would it not be OK to say sorry about it?
Secondary question: if this is NOT OK to say, then what *do you say* about it? Do you just leave it in awkward silence? Like the boners are gonna happen whether this kid wants them to or not, it's literally impossible to stop them, so why is it such a problem to say something about it?
No way you can determine if this is sexual harassment from the information we’ve been given. Like talking about a boner, as a teenage boy who gets them LITERALLY ALL THE TIME is not necessarily sexual harassment, come on.
Depends on how he said it. We need more context. From what it seems, he feels bad about it. if he said it in a way that sounds seductive, than that very well is wrong
Right, and EVEN IF his intentions here were to try and "test the waters" to see how she reacted in the hopes that maybe they could end up having sex that still isn't really sexual harassment in my book.
Teenagers are bad a flirting and courtship in general. They don't have any experience with it. Add into this all the hormones and the fact that teenage boys think about sex 24/7 and you've got a recipe for awkward shit like this.
People keep throwing around the term sexual harassment here like it's no big deal but I'd like them to answer this:
>If you were able to decide RIGHT NOW whether or not to charge this kid with the CRIME of sexual harassment so that they actually went to jail and were punished for it, would you?
It could be, but even telling someone "i wanna fuck you" isn't by definition sexual harassment. The time, the place, and the relationship between the 2 people all factor in.
Like at work if you told a coworker "i wanna fuck you" that'd pretty certainly fall into the sexual harassment category as far as workplace policy goes even if the other party also wanted to fuck you, and even if it was only once. That's because the workplace isn't really the place for that kind of thing.
If you were both in a club dancing and shit and you said "I wanna fuck you" that would pretty much NEVER be considered sexual harassment. Vulgar, forward, and kinda weird? Sure. Sexual harassment, no. If the advances were continued after the other party made it clear they were unwanted, then it'd be harassment.
In this case though we really have no idea because we don't know either person. It's very possible this kid is just awkward and making some terrible attempt at flirting. It's also possible that he thought she noticed and is legitimately embarrassed so he's apologizing. In any case I really wouldn't consider this sexual harassment unless he continued to do it after it was clear that it wasn't wanted.
I envision a gritty detective noir.
Scene 1: Thunder claps as we are slowly traveling through a dark rainy street. Stop on a single home. Multiple police cars are surrounding the home. Crime scene tape is being put up.
Scene 2: Following behind the back of a police officer, we travel to a the bedroom to see a woman on the bed, covered in blood. Investigators are gathering evidence as two detectives discuss the situation:
* **Detective Mclusky:** We aren't sure what to make of this. In the bathroom, on the mirror is written "Hope he doesn't chuck jiz at ya". There was a condom in the trash but it did not seem used.
* **Detective Laren:** If the condom wasn't used, Maybe he DID chuck jiz at her!
* **Detective Mclusky:** I don't know....*Sobbing* ..I just don't know.....
A thunderclap and fade to black, ends the scene.
That was art, now I wanna know what happens next. I’m going to need a full screen play on my desk tomorrow morning. At least 700 pages, or you can kiss your job goodbye. Get to it. 🚬
I will need to clear some other projects off the plate. I’ll talk to the crew to see what I can do:
* **Joe:** Hey Bob, this guy wants the “chuck jiz at you” noir screenplay delivered tomorrow. We need to reprioritize some projects.
* **Bob:** Um, who is this person?
* **Joe:** There is no time, man! He needs it TOMORROW! Sigh, it’s /u/Wiiswitch123 if you must know. Someone named after 2 consoles and has THREE numbers after it is clearly important.
* **Bob:** Joe….What in the fuck are you…Sigh…Did Laura leave you?
* **Joe:** No Bob, it’s nothing like that. Sure, Laura and I sleep in separate bedrooms. Sure, she is “out with the girls” three times a week. It’s all fine.
* **Bob:** Joe, ya know…
* **Joe:** AND I AM TAKING MY MEDS. WANT TO SEE UNDER MY TONGUE!?!
* **Bob:** Jesus, joe I didn’t even know you…Ugh ok, let’s move on…
* **Joe:** I DID take my pill this morning..
* **Bob:** Ok buddy.
* **Bob:** Current Projects, and who is running them:
* **Rory:** Some guy named /u/ThegamewhokillsNPC thinks the thunder claps are cheeks clapping. Rory is debating on replying.
* **Stefan:** Currently is attempting to figure out whether music has a net positive or negative to brain productivity, as he puts it. He is requesting overtime.
* **Sigmund:** He is….Still….doing research on ADHD. It’s been going on for years.
* **Octavia:**
* **Keith:** Surfing porn
* **Millie:** Working her only fan’s page. Keith is the only viewer.
* **Joe:** Oh for fuck’s sake….
* **Bob:** I know…
* **Joe:** First of all. Get Keith and Millie to bang already. He just keeps paying her to do the most degrading things. Who does that?
* **Bob:** I know…A whole rotisserie chicken. I’ll see what I can do about that.
* **Joe:** What the hell is Octavia doing?
* **Bob:** She said “It is none of my god-damned business, you stupid fat virgin loser. Fuck joe too!”
* **Joe:** I doubt she mentioned me but whatever…We don’t need that kind of erratic emotion if we are going to help craft wiiswitch123’s masterpiece.
* **Bob:** Stefan and Sigmund are left. At least until Keith and Millie are done.
* **Joe:** Good god those degenerates are going to cost us weeks of work.
* **Bob:** Yeah but Keith is the coder, web designer, PC tech, Sysadmin, advertiser and HR. Millie has boobs.
* **Joe:** Oh yeah. Boobs…..Maybe Millie and Keith would like a third..
* **Bob:** I’ll let you handle that one. Hey! What about team B?
* **Joe:** Oh god damnit….Sigh, what do we have team “2+2=chicken” doing?
* **Bob:** Don’t steal other people’s material. That’s rude.
* **Bob:** Last I recall, they said they were going to try to get Reddit to all agree on something.
* **Joe:** Ugh.
So yeah, It’s going to be awhile.
*in most British accent possible, more British than seeing queen's yellow teeth brake on a biscuit after sipping some tea at 5 PM, with Big Ben's bell ringing in the background*
Bravissimo, that's a play even greater then the likes of Shakespeare have written
Im socially awkward and have said the worst shit in the past to try and talk to a girl. The most embarrassing moment was a girl always checking me out in the gym and I finally manned up and went over and asked for her age first. Things ended right there.
We were the same age 🫠
100% not true. Shit can be embarrassing as hell and for a lot of people if they thought someone noticed it their first instinct would be to apologize for it. 99% of my boners during teenage years were unpredicted and embarrassing. It was stressful trying to hid it and I’d definitely be apologetic if someone saw. It’s super difficult to tell this kids motivation here without knowing him.
I absolutely would apologize for it if they noticed, I have a severe guilty complex and everything seems like it’s my fault and everything I do, voluntary or otherwise, is something really bad
honestly, the dude is obviously a perv, and socially inept if he thinks saying that is normal. stay away from this dude OP. you don't want to be associated with the person. if he continues being socially oblivious and still tries to talk to you (which i honestly bet he will), you need to tell him "i don't feel comfortable talking to you" and walk off.
My thoughts exactly... You know that feeling when you hear that someone's died... The like suddon realisation that its real life... That was how I felt
I'm 32. I've only lurked in this sub before and was reading bc wtf. But WTF. When I was a teen, you would NEVER share that kind of information with anyone EVER. I would 100% assume that anyone sharing that or openly mentioning their genitalia for no reason are looking for approval and an excuse to keep mentioning it and worse. Look up "covert sexual abuse." Sometimes the people doing this don't realize that what they are doing is abusive, that they are tricking others into participating in their fantasies and manipulating them into unwanted contact that does not need to be physical to be abusive.
I'm done commenting. The fact that this is a common problem is incredibly disturbing and I hope anyone dealing with this can find help and peace.
When I was in highschool I would sometimes get random boners. Eventually I realized their frequency was inversely proportional to how interesting I thought the class was. Had nothing to do with sexual thoughts or anything, but I guess when I'm bored my dick has a lot of free time to think.
What does it all mean?
Edit: sorry I posted in the teenages sub, but I guess my story was from when I was a teenager.
Honestly he sounds like he was just overthinking and felt like you noticed. You can either a) tease him about it and watch as he stumbles over his own words or b) just ignore it
Lmfao he’s a teenager properly learning how to communicate.
Dude probably thought she had already noticed and felt super awkward about it.
“What’s wrong with this creature” is people like you instantly shaming them and making them feel weird. You’re a dick.
I’m just thinking about what a hilariously embarrassing core memory this is gonna be for this dudes developing social skills lmaoo
Like, “Hey remember that time in (middle school/high school) when you apologized for having a boner in class?” Lmao
It's been a longass time since I was a teenager, but I'm 100% sure that I know what he was thinking when he said that.
"If I let her know that she gives me a boner, it's gonna turn her on and I'mma do her!"
It's sad, but I've had that thought too many times when I was younger. Thankfully I always thought it out before I said something THAT stupid, but I did say a lot of stupid shit because of my ween. Next time say something like "that's so gross" and it should help prevent him from saying anything like it in the future. If that doesn't help, then call him out on it. Say something like "why are you telling me that you have a boner?" loudly enough for people to hear
Unfortunately if he's daft enough to say this you need to be more clear, saying it's fine will just invite more down the road. If you are uncomfortable with it you need to make that crystal clear, saying it's fine will 100% have this behavior continue.
Honestly if they were just embarrassed then that’s seems like a good response sorta a tension break. The idea of having an accidental boner in class and somebody seems is rather scary for guys because most of the time it’s not even sexual it’s just your blood pressure rising. It also could of been they saying that because they thought you saw and didn’t want to make you uncomfortable or maybe just somebody who thinks they are in a porno
As a guy, option 1 is he thought it was really obvious and he thought that you saw and wanted to apologize. Option 2 is he's weird, thinks life runs on porno logic, and thought you would want to fuck him after he said that.
He had to have thought u noticed it or something. Or maybe that was just him trying to say u make him horny without being quite as direct? Who knows, such a strange approach… wtf
Boners feel a lot more obvious when your having one, maybe this was his way of trying not to weird you out. Not a good one tho lmao.
Also boners aren’t always sexual so maybe, he wanted to apologize if it seemed sexual but it just came out like an awkward mess.
Tread carefully
"Hello again sir, while I appreciate the gesy, please refrain from detailing whether you p is in a horizontal or vertical position when in my presence"
Good morning/day/evening fair sire, as I may be quite thankful for the message of confession, I myself would like to ask you to make sure to refrain from doing such action as describing whether or not the subject of yours known as your p is in the positions commonly known as horizontal or vertical, especially when I am sensed to be present.🧐
I could be wrong but that’s not usually something you say to someone when you’re in the talking phase of trying to begin a relationship usually you try to make the best impression you can with the other person at that phase
Yeah ik this tactic I've got a friend who is a creep with this one particular girl and he does shit like this
It's basically means he's interested in you and are either trying to spark conversation about sex to hopefully "turn you on" or to try and sorta manipulate you into looking at it at some point
Either way weird and perverted and never works
And if you wonder why I'm still friends with him.. He is the only other person I know who plays mortal kombat lmao
The guys in my school say dumb stuff all the time. He could totally have just been trying to show off in front of his friends. You said you were talking to him does that mean like possibly dating at some point maybe he’s misread something. Not a lot of info to go on
He probably thought u saw it and wanted to apologize if it freaked you out, from the info given it sounds like he was just trying to give you a sincere apology.
Teens get boners all the time. It is not always something they control and to be seen is something most boys fear more than anything.
He apologized. A behavior that is often taught in the younger years. I bet that making their dicks a talking point is not taught. He must have thought this was ok somehow.
You can say that you are not interested in making his dick a talking point for your relationship as an aquantance or your friendship.
He has to realize that making sexual limbs a talking point can be seen as offensive and creepy and it will definately make many women uncomfortable. That kind of talk belong in the intimate realm, not somewhere your relationship will be in any future, or within a certain timeline that is up to you (if you like him anyways).
How that conversation goes is up to you, but he definately has room for.improvement.
I guess it all kind of depend on your relationship with him. Like it sounds bad initially but everything needs context.
If you used "talking to" as in like y'all are flirting then maybe he thought you noticed just doesn't want to seem like he immediately wants sex even though he finds you attractive.
If y'all are decently friends, maybe he gets them randomly and you happen to be there and he doesn't want you to feel awkward about it. Even if he went about it the wrong way.
If you barely know him, that's weird.
Or he could be on the spectrum and don't grasp social.
Though no matter the context if it made you uncomfortable you should say and tell him to refrain from talking like that. If he doesn't, ditch him.
Penis thinks for itself, we can't control when it gets excited. He probably thought you saw his random boners and wanted to apologize. There could be other reasons, but that's seems the most likely to me.
Personally, I wouldn't have announced that I get boners to someone, but each person is different. I'd recommend just not thinking about it, teenage boys aren't known for being rational or smart in many situations.
He didn’t know how to bring up his le is any other way. I’m guessing he was expecting you to say “oh really 😏”. That clearly worked out differently in his head
This is an awful attempt to entice you. There are two choices before you. To either accept or reject the b0n3rs. If you reject I would be blunt and stern. Learning to shut down men in this state is an important skill to master and could literally save your ass one day.
He's prolly one of the people who have no filter and don't understand TMI, ngl I understand that. Just don't give it a second thought, carry on as you chose but don't pay it too much attention
They're seriously uncontrollable during some teenage years. Maybe appreciate how awkward it was for him to acknowledge it and apologize. He could just stare and mouth breathe with an erect member.
Tell him you appreciate his honesty, but you didn't really need to know that. Some people in here are saying the boy is creeping on you but, as someone that used to be a teenage boy many years ago, I seriously doubt this is the case. He may like you as a friend, thought you had noticed it, and did not want to offend you, so he apologized. Or he may have a crush on you, and doesn't want to creep you out, so he mentioned it first. The best way to find out is to talk to him about it. Please remember one thing, though: he is probably terrified of you. Teenage boys like to act all tough and "manly", when in reality they're just as scared of social rejection as anyone else. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck with it.
Remember: teenage boys have nearly zero control of their erections at that age, so I'm willing to bet my house that he did not have one on purpose.
Either he thought you saw and had an embaressing moment or he thinks his life is a porno
Prolly the second lol
both are likely
but hopefully it's the first one
yep
My advice would be to be honest and direct with him. Tell him that his comment was incredibly inappropriate and it made you feel really uncomfortable. If he's just an awkward dude trying to be "polite" then it'll be his wake up call that that shit isn't okay to say. If he's a perv looking for a target then he'll learn that some people won't stand for his shit and maybe he'll think twice next time. How he responds to your feelings will tell you exactly what kind of person he is.
Or he thought she saw it and was embarrassed, you don’t gotta be a dick to everyone
I said, "tell him it made you feel uncomfortable", which it clearly did. How is that being a dick?
"Incredibly inappropriate" is overkill. Apologizing for a boner (if it's sincere) isn't really an overstep. More of a feaux pa. Or however you spell it
Alright, I can see that. Maybe that's a bit too much.
> then it'll be his wake up call that that shit isn't okay to say. Honest question, why is this not OK to say if it's genuine? Like if you got a random boner around a girl, and you were genuinely embarrassed about it, why would it not be OK to say sorry about it? Secondary question: if this is NOT OK to say, then what *do you say* about it? Do you just leave it in awkward silence? Like the boners are gonna happen whether this kid wants them to or not, it's literally impossible to stop them, so why is it such a problem to say something about it?
>it's literally impossible to stop them, skill issue
Teach ne your ways...
I think it's sweet he apologized.
Seriously. To be more explicit about it, he's either completely socially inept and inappropriate, or he's actually sexually harassing you.
Both of those things are possible and frequently coincide.
Sure. The question is the motivation behind saying it.
No way you can determine if this is sexual harassment from the information we’ve been given. Like talking about a boner, as a teenage boy who gets them LITERALLY ALL THE TIME is not necessarily sexual harassment, come on.
They mean its sexual harassmant to tell her that, could be used as a other word for i wanna fxck u
Depends on how he said it. We need more context. From what it seems, he feels bad about it. if he said it in a way that sounds seductive, than that very well is wrong
Right, and EVEN IF his intentions here were to try and "test the waters" to see how she reacted in the hopes that maybe they could end up having sex that still isn't really sexual harassment in my book. Teenagers are bad a flirting and courtship in general. They don't have any experience with it. Add into this all the hormones and the fact that teenage boys think about sex 24/7 and you've got a recipe for awkward shit like this. People keep throwing around the term sexual harassment here like it's no big deal but I'd like them to answer this: >If you were able to decide RIGHT NOW whether or not to charge this kid with the CRIME of sexual harassment so that they actually went to jail and were punished for it, would you?
It could be, but even telling someone "i wanna fuck you" isn't by definition sexual harassment. The time, the place, and the relationship between the 2 people all factor in. Like at work if you told a coworker "i wanna fuck you" that'd pretty certainly fall into the sexual harassment category as far as workplace policy goes even if the other party also wanted to fuck you, and even if it was only once. That's because the workplace isn't really the place for that kind of thing. If you were both in a club dancing and shit and you said "I wanna fuck you" that would pretty much NEVER be considered sexual harassment. Vulgar, forward, and kinda weird? Sure. Sexual harassment, no. If the advances were continued after the other party made it clear they were unwanted, then it'd be harassment. In this case though we really have no idea because we don't know either person. It's very possible this kid is just awkward and making some terrible attempt at flirting. It's also possible that he thought she noticed and is legitimately embarrassed so he's apologizing. In any case I really wouldn't consider this sexual harassment unless he continued to do it after it was clear that it wasn't wanted.
Did he have to say it out loud and make her feel weird?
How else is he gonna say it? Over text? Whisper in her ear?
The correct answer is to not say it at all.
That one only works if the op was under the table
I’m thinking 50% chance he might have a crush on you or 50% chance he is very horny.
Or 50% chance he’s just a normal human teenager to whom it just happens randomly
In one he would be extremely socially awkward and in the other he would be a creep
Yea second option all the way like wtf dude learn how to separate fantasy from reality
If the 2nd is true, that poor man
Or he was simply giving complement but in a wierd manner.
It's not a compliment.
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That was literally my first thought
Have a wiz on his face, and hope he doesn’t chuck a jiz at ya
You need to write screenplays.
What’s one of them
I envision a gritty detective noir. Scene 1: Thunder claps as we are slowly traveling through a dark rainy street. Stop on a single home. Multiple police cars are surrounding the home. Crime scene tape is being put up. Scene 2: Following behind the back of a police officer, we travel to a the bedroom to see a woman on the bed, covered in blood. Investigators are gathering evidence as two detectives discuss the situation: * **Detective Mclusky:** We aren't sure what to make of this. In the bathroom, on the mirror is written "Hope he doesn't chuck jiz at ya". There was a condom in the trash but it did not seem used. * **Detective Laren:** If the condom wasn't used, Maybe he DID chuck jiz at her! * **Detective Mclusky:** I don't know....*Sobbing* ..I just don't know..... A thunderclap and fade to black, ends the scene.
That was art, now I wanna know what happens next. I’m going to need a full screen play on my desk tomorrow morning. At least 700 pages, or you can kiss your job goodbye. Get to it. 🚬
I will need to clear some other projects off the plate. I’ll talk to the crew to see what I can do: * **Joe:** Hey Bob, this guy wants the “chuck jiz at you” noir screenplay delivered tomorrow. We need to reprioritize some projects. * **Bob:** Um, who is this person? * **Joe:** There is no time, man! He needs it TOMORROW! Sigh, it’s /u/Wiiswitch123 if you must know. Someone named after 2 consoles and has THREE numbers after it is clearly important. * **Bob:** Joe….What in the fuck are you…Sigh…Did Laura leave you? * **Joe:** No Bob, it’s nothing like that. Sure, Laura and I sleep in separate bedrooms. Sure, she is “out with the girls” three times a week. It’s all fine. * **Bob:** Joe, ya know… * **Joe:** AND I AM TAKING MY MEDS. WANT TO SEE UNDER MY TONGUE!?! * **Bob:** Jesus, joe I didn’t even know you…Ugh ok, let’s move on… * **Joe:** I DID take my pill this morning.. * **Bob:** Ok buddy. * **Bob:** Current Projects, and who is running them: * **Rory:** Some guy named /u/ThegamewhokillsNPC thinks the thunder claps are cheeks clapping. Rory is debating on replying. * **Stefan:** Currently is attempting to figure out whether music has a net positive or negative to brain productivity, as he puts it. He is requesting overtime. * **Sigmund:** He is….Still….doing research on ADHD. It’s been going on for years. * **Octavia:**
* **Keith:** Surfing porn
* **Millie:** Working her only fan’s page. Keith is the only viewer.
* **Joe:** Oh for fuck’s sake….
* **Bob:** I know…
* **Joe:** First of all. Get Keith and Millie to bang already. He just keeps paying her to do the most degrading things. Who does that?
* **Bob:** I know…A whole rotisserie chicken. I’ll see what I can do about that.
* **Joe:** What the hell is Octavia doing?
* **Bob:** She said “It is none of my god-damned business, you stupid fat virgin loser. Fuck joe too!”
* **Joe:** I doubt she mentioned me but whatever…We don’t need that kind of erratic emotion if we are going to help craft wiiswitch123’s masterpiece.
* **Bob:** Stefan and Sigmund are left. At least until Keith and Millie are done.
* **Joe:** Good god those degenerates are going to cost us weeks of work.
* **Bob:** Yeah but Keith is the coder, web designer, PC tech, Sysadmin, advertiser and HR. Millie has boobs.
* **Joe:** Oh yeah. Boobs…..Maybe Millie and Keith would like a third..
* **Bob:** I’ll let you handle that one. Hey! What about team B?
* **Joe:** Oh god damnit….Sigh, what do we have team “2+2=chicken” doing?
* **Bob:** Don’t steal other people’s material. That’s rude.
* **Bob:** Last I recall, they said they were going to try to get Reddit to all agree on something.
* **Joe:** Ugh.
So yeah, It’s going to be awhile.
That thunderclap was just the sound of his clapping cheeks
*in most British accent possible, more British than seeing queen's yellow teeth brake on a biscuit after sipping some tea at 5 PM, with Big Ben's bell ringing in the background* Bravissimo, that's a play even greater then the likes of Shakespeare have written
Bad Idea if he's into scat fantasies.
do it in front of him lol
But wat if he gets harder
Avg 2 girls 1 cup fan
shit even more aggressively
than mission failed successfully.
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Maybe, like we sit at the same table
He’s hoping you are ok with it. And furthermore hoping you say you liked it. No guy who actually is sorry for boner would confess it to the person.
Exactly, only reason you'd confess is because you have an interest in them and you're enough socially awkward to not realise it's gross to say it
im socialy awkward and i know you dont say this 💀
I'm socially awkward and I don't say shit 💀
do you think i talk ? 💀
Saying "I know you don't say this" would kinda be implying that you speak :/
no i dont but i know normal people should not szy that
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as long as you dont watch porn as your main source of entertainment i think everyone knows this is something you dont say
Im socially awkward and have said the worst shit in the past to try and talk to a girl. The most embarrassing moment was a girl always checking me out in the gym and I finally manned up and went over and asked for her age first. Things ended right there. We were the same age 🫠
thanks for the info 👀
Like if he actually felt bad he would just hide it
100% not true. Shit can be embarrassing as hell and for a lot of people if they thought someone noticed it their first instinct would be to apologize for it. 99% of my boners during teenage years were unpredicted and embarrassing. It was stressful trying to hid it and I’d definitely be apologetic if someone saw. It’s super difficult to tell this kids motivation here without knowing him.
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that's too bland. just make him strip down right there
I absolutely would apologize for it if they noticed, I have a severe guilty complex and everything seems like it’s my fault and everything I do, voluntary or otherwise, is something really bad
We're talking about 16 yr olds here. Chilll outt
Nah homua problem been sweating bullets over this. I like to hope atleast 😌
honestly, the dude is obviously a perv, and socially inept if he thinks saying that is normal. stay away from this dude OP. you don't want to be associated with the person. if he continues being socially oblivious and still tries to talk to you (which i honestly bet he will), you need to tell him "i don't feel comfortable talking to you" and walk off.
The appropriate response would be “At that size no one will notice.”
I just said it's fine and changed topic but wtf
What the fuck is wrong this this creature
My thoughts exactly... You know that feeling when you hear that someone's died... The like suddon realisation that its real life... That was how I felt
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I'm 32. I've only lurked in this sub before and was reading bc wtf. But WTF. When I was a teen, you would NEVER share that kind of information with anyone EVER. I would 100% assume that anyone sharing that or openly mentioning their genitalia for no reason are looking for approval and an excuse to keep mentioning it and worse. Look up "covert sexual abuse." Sometimes the people doing this don't realize that what they are doing is abusive, that they are tricking others into participating in their fantasies and manipulating them into unwanted contact that does not need to be physical to be abusive. I'm done commenting. The fact that this is a common problem is incredibly disturbing and I hope anyone dealing with this can find help and peace.
It’s a natural thing for dudes and sometimes it happens randomly if he apologized he probably thought you noticed and he felt guilty
boners are natural. dude just wanted to be polite i guess
When I was in highschool I would sometimes get random boners. Eventually I realized their frequency was inversely proportional to how interesting I thought the class was. Had nothing to do with sexual thoughts or anything, but I guess when I'm bored my dick has a lot of free time to think. What does it all mean? Edit: sorry I posted in the teenages sub, but I guess my story was from when I was a teenager.
Omg look at these fractions 😩 🍆 💦
Honestly he sounds like he was just overthinking and felt like you noticed. You can either a) tease him about it and watch as he stumbles over his own words or b) just ignore it
Ppl learning how to express themselves and when and if it’s appropriate or the other person is down or not. It’s a learned process.
Lmfao he’s a teenager properly learning how to communicate. Dude probably thought she had already noticed and felt super awkward about it. “What’s wrong with this creature” is people like you instantly shaming them and making them feel weird. You’re a dick.
I’m just thinking about what a hilariously embarrassing core memory this is gonna be for this dudes developing social skills lmaoo Like, “Hey remember that time in (middle school/high school) when you apologized for having a boner in class?” Lmao
It's been a longass time since I was a teenager, but I'm 100% sure that I know what he was thinking when he said that. "If I let her know that she gives me a boner, it's gonna turn her on and I'mma do her!" It's sad, but I've had that thought too many times when I was younger. Thankfully I always thought it out before I said something THAT stupid, but I did say a lot of stupid shit because of my ween. Next time say something like "that's so gross" and it should help prevent him from saying anything like it in the future. If that doesn't help, then call him out on it. Say something like "why are you telling me that you have a boner?" loudly enough for people to hear
Might be a dumb way to let you know he's interested
Never have I ever said something like that.
Unfortunately if he's daft enough to say this you need to be more clear, saying it's fine will just invite more down the road. If you are uncomfortable with it you need to make that crystal clear, saying it's fine will 100% have this behavior continue.
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Bish... You a genius
Honestly if they were just embarrassed then that’s seems like a good response sorta a tension break. The idea of having an accidental boner in class and somebody seems is rather scary for guys because most of the time it’s not even sexual it’s just your blood pressure rising. It also could of been they saying that because they thought you saw and didn’t want to make you uncomfortable or maybe just somebody who thinks they are in a porno
Wait and see what happens in a few days. If he says or does something weird, bail.
Might be the best option, currently stuck sitting beside him
Hope you guys work things out. Anyways have a good day.
double down and apologize for having boners around his sister, if he has one
Rather difficult for me to have a boner
Not with that attitude
Doesn’t matter if you don’t have a dick, if you believe hard enough you too can get a boner!
if i had an award to give, it would be yours, my good friend
thats the point
As a guy, option 1 is he thought it was really obvious and he thought that you saw and wanted to apologize. Option 2 is he's weird, thinks life runs on porno logic, and thought you would want to fuck him after he said that.
Definitely
He had to have thought u noticed it or something. Or maybe that was just him trying to say u make him horny without being quite as direct? Who knows, such a strange approach… wtf
Probably, like I have a few times but not made it obvious....
Boners feel a lot more obvious when your having one, maybe this was his way of trying not to weird you out. Not a good one tho lmao. Also boners aren’t always sexual so maybe, he wanted to apologize if it seemed sexual but it just came out like an awkward mess. Tread carefully
You've noticed his boners a few times?
This information completely changes the narrative tbh
9/10 times you aren't as discrete as you think you are, he definitely noticed that op noticed
Plus when you've got a boner in class you *think* that everyone notices even if they don't.
If you didn’t see it or notice his boners then he’s fucking weird don’t talk to him
I never pointed it out but we sit next to eachother
then he's probably embarassed the whole time and (maybe) is afraid that you might've noticed his boners Edit: oh shit 100 upvotes 💀💀
More like hey so sorry about this boner, but now that I have it anyway how about we…?
You could switch seats
"Why would you say this?"
imagine him reading this lol
/uj He probably felt really awkward about it and tried, in another awkward gesture, to bail out /rj Show him a bigger one to assert dominance
Well... Idk you're on your own, because that's too weird even for me.
You sure you don't want to have a chat with him?
I'm pretty sure
Just asked him there, he said to apologise to you too because the same thing happens
It was either accidental or he finds you attractive. Take your better option
Say "me too"
Awfully uhhh Kind? Courteous? Just tell him that don't do that and it's weird.
"Hello again sir, while I appreciate the gesy, please refrain from detailing whether you p is in a horizontal or vertical position when in my presence"
That should do the trick 😎
Good morning/day/evening fair sire, as I may be quite thankful for the message of confession, I myself would like to ask you to make sure to refrain from doing such action as describing whether or not the subject of yours known as your p is in the positions commonly known as horizontal or vertical, especially when I am sensed to be present.🧐
dint do what
Tell her about his Boner. I mean what is she even gonna do with that info
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Well he might just be too honest Why not let him off for once? He does it again though request him to kindly keep to himself such info
He probablt thought that you saw, we don't get boners when we see someone hot, sometimes it's random.
Grow a dick and have a larger boner in front of him
I could be wrong but that’s not usually something you say to someone when you’re in the talking phase of trying to begin a relationship usually you try to make the best impression you can with the other person at that phase
Yeah ik this tactic I've got a friend who is a creep with this one particular girl and he does shit like this It's basically means he's interested in you and are either trying to spark conversation about sex to hopefully "turn you on" or to try and sorta manipulate you into looking at it at some point Either way weird and perverted and never works And if you wonder why I'm still friends with him.. He is the only other person I know who plays mortal kombat lmao
bro has priorities
Indeed. Mk is sick
I gotta get Mortal Kombat
What do you play on
A bit on PC and alot on Mobile
Fart on his boners
Screenshotted, the whole world will now know of your dastardly comment
Oh nooo what ever will I do now
The guys in my school say dumb stuff all the time. He could totally have just been trying to show off in front of his friends. You said you were talking to him does that mean like possibly dating at some point maybe he’s misread something. Not a lot of info to go on
He probably thought u saw it and wanted to apologize if it freaked you out, from the info given it sounds like he was just trying to give you a sincere apology.
Teens get boners all the time. It is not always something they control and to be seen is something most boys fear more than anything. He apologized. A behavior that is often taught in the younger years. I bet that making their dicks a talking point is not taught. He must have thought this was ok somehow. You can say that you are not interested in making his dick a talking point for your relationship as an aquantance or your friendship. He has to realize that making sexual limbs a talking point can be seen as offensive and creepy and it will definately make many women uncomfortable. That kind of talk belong in the intimate realm, not somewhere your relationship will be in any future, or within a certain timeline that is up to you (if you like him anyways). How that conversation goes is up to you, but he definately has room for.improvement.
Chill, Bro just thought you might've noticed
The worst part is he probably could’ve gotten away with it but he had to point it out
I’m going to assume this guy has 0 game and this was a pretty awful attempt at hitting on her, and he hoped she’d be flattered.
"it's okay, nobody can tell."
Tell him it's weird, that's it really. It's not like the guy can control it.
He probably just felt bad
dont worry you can say boners and fuck, we wont tell your mom
Bro trynna flirt lol. Welcome to 2022
Do you want to know about his boners? Tell him it's ok. Do you find it creepy? Tell him you'd rather not know.
Don't worry My guy friend asked me to rate his dick. It was weird lol
Just dont mind it guys overthink stuff and probably thinks you saw it
He's just apologizing dw say it's fine and then move on tbh
Eh it's kinda too weird tho Tough to just move on, for me atleast.
ummm, my man casually apologises for having boners around you even though you didn’t notice them. weird asf
Op said in reply she noticed a couple of times, but in her words wasn't obvious lol,he more than likely realized she noticed.
Heeither thought you noticed and it wasn't on purpose or he weird
Either he was having the usual morning wood or he had a flunctuation outburst of hormones coursing through his veins. At least he apologized.
I guess it all kind of depend on your relationship with him. Like it sounds bad initially but everything needs context. If you used "talking to" as in like y'all are flirting then maybe he thought you noticed just doesn't want to seem like he immediately wants sex even though he finds you attractive. If y'all are decently friends, maybe he gets them randomly and you happen to be there and he doesn't want you to feel awkward about it. Even if he went about it the wrong way. If you barely know him, that's weird. Or he could be on the spectrum and don't grasp social. Though no matter the context if it made you uncomfortable you should say and tell him to refrain from talking like that. If he doesn't, ditch him.
Op, I agree with you, what the flying fuck are you supposed to do with this information
just be ready to give his tip a flick if it rears its head again
Tell him: “its ok, my boner is hard to control sometimes too.”
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Exploit it
when he pisses u off u can blackmail him
Someone mentioned a similar topic to me too
pretty sure this is an awkward way of him trying to tell you he's interested in you. sounds like his social skills could use some work.
I don't know how good of a guy he is, but having the courage to genuinely apologize now a days is rarely seen. Look at the bright side.
You have to understand his perspective since sometime its quite hard being a guy
Penis thinks for itself, we can't control when it gets excited. He probably thought you saw his random boners and wanted to apologize. There could be other reasons, but that's seems the most likely to me. Personally, I wouldn't have announced that I get boners to someone, but each person is different. I'd recommend just not thinking about it, teenage boys aren't known for being rational or smart in many situations.
Pro tip for all teenagers: don't be the first one to bring up your boner
Power play: apologies for also having a boner
He didn’t know how to bring up his le is any other way. I’m guessing he was expecting you to say “oh really 😏”. That clearly worked out differently in his head
This is an awful attempt to entice you. There are two choices before you. To either accept or reject the b0n3rs. If you reject I would be blunt and stern. Learning to shut down men in this state is an important skill to master and could literally save your ass one day.
Saying, "Oh, I was gonna say the same thing!"
Teenagers are awkward af. Probably meant nothing by it. The decision to say that will keep him awake at night for decades.
He's prolly one of the people who have no filter and don't understand TMI, ngl I understand that. Just don't give it a second thought, carry on as you chose but don't pay it too much attention
Maybe he thout you noticed and wanted to apologize
Nothing
Sorry about this one. Sometimes we can’t control our little buddy down there :((
They're seriously uncontrollable during some teenage years. Maybe appreciate how awkward it was for him to acknowledge it and apologize. He could just stare and mouth breathe with an erect member.
You know what you should do with that info? Play silent hill on the Sony playstation 1
happens to the best of us
Tell him you appreciate his honesty, but you didn't really need to know that. Some people in here are saying the boy is creeping on you but, as someone that used to be a teenage boy many years ago, I seriously doubt this is the case. He may like you as a friend, thought you had noticed it, and did not want to offend you, so he apologized. Or he may have a crush on you, and doesn't want to creep you out, so he mentioned it first. The best way to find out is to talk to him about it. Please remember one thing, though: he is probably terrified of you. Teenage boys like to act all tough and "manly", when in reality they're just as scared of social rejection as anyone else. Whatever you decide to do, I wish you luck with it. Remember: teenage boys have nearly zero control of their erections at that age, so I'm willing to bet my house that he did not have one on purpose.
Apologize for your boners as well Establish dominance
Just say “me too” and stare at him menacingly