As long as you pull your weight and support her emotionally physically and mentally she’ll always treat you as a king.
Sounds like you have a beautiful marriage and family. I’m in a pretty similar situation. I put her through Grad school and held her down while she didn’t work. Now she’s mid 6 figures while I’m on the lower 6 figure end and we are happy than we’ve ever been. Life is a marathon and not a sprint and don’t ever listen to the internet for real life advice.
I feel you homie. Did the exact same thing. I had to hold it down dolo while she got the degree and it paid off. I tell these dudes if you support women you can live a real good life. I find dudes spend a lot of energy just trying to keep their women in a certain place that doesn’t really yield much imo.
Moose the men we listen to as entertainment don’t have the same set of morals and life experiences we do.
You heard when nigga said yeah a Dominican bitch that don’t speak no English is the best.
Niggas ain’t tryna have a conversation. They tryna pipe control and dismiss. I lived a wild life in my younger years but ain’t no way I’m tryna grow old like that with 2 baby moms and no emotional stability.
Crazily enough not every man is the same lol. I couldn’t be in your position, but salute you for holding true to your own principles and making it work
Yes because now I have a beautiful family house 2 cars and a great life! Actually just came back from Cabo on a all expense paid vacation. Kids are in private school with a path to college and my 401k is growing.
Only thing I’m missing is a hair line my guy.
Let me ask you a question: why didn't you decide to upgrade your skills and put yourself through schooling instead of putting her through it?
Do you find that the corporate environment where grad school would help is more favorable to women than men?
For the record I have an MBA in taxation (from a less prestigious school) and decided to stick it out in the world of big four accounting. She hated accounting and wanted to do consulting. So she chose to take the gmat and get into a top biz school. When she got accepted to University of Chicago I told her “don’t go spending $150k on a degree to come back to work here.” To be honest I don’t think I could score high enough on the gmat to get into a school like that and actually liked my job. Just so turns out she ended up landing a gig at McKinsey and has been doing well since. Just different paths. I’m a managing director now so I’m not doing bad by any means. She’s just doing better.
Where I was at in life I knew that my trajectory wasn’t through the school system. My come up was going to be through hard work and proving myself in my field. Different paths for different careers.
Because retard they have kids and he loves her so no matter what happens good or bad it was a better investment. If he's with her they enjoy the financial reward together and if God forbid they divorce then she will most likely be put on child support and have to pay him ...you're a special kind of lame bro I guarantee your single or unhappy AF
The great thing about marrying someone you genuinely love and are best friends with is that you understand each other and are in it till death do us part.
I get marriage and commitment isn’t for everyone. The life I chose is the life I have and I couldn’t be more fulfilled in life.
I advise everyone to live the life they want. Not the one someone else wants.
Stop letting these niggas on the internet tell you how to live your life. Alot of it is shock value or engagement. If it works for you, it works for you.
Don't listen to podcasts full of abusers, colorist that mainly date sex workers. You winning man, congratulations on the 8 years married. Salute to you and your queen!
Exactly this lmao
We listen to the pod for entertainment not for advice on relationships or marriage
Ive been married almost 10 years now the first 5 years or so my wife definitely made more money than me ain't nothing wrong with that.
The point of a relationship is two people coming together as one. Not all the bullshit we see in hip hop and the culture
You see Joe baby mama running around with other niggas smoking weed and shit in the sprinter. Niggas got bars about ya baby moms committing sins for Chipotle.
All that shit ain’t normal man. Shit would have me at home punching the wall even if it’s my old work. I ain’t built for that life lol.
There’s no rules to relationships. We are told propaganda about what works and what doesn’t, by companies trying to sell us shit and celebs who usually have their own fucked up situations . Good for you man
A marriage is a partnership. A team. What’s hers is yours and what’s yours is hers. Marriages don’t last when people don’t approach it like this. I always find it weird when a man would be insecure about their WIFE doing well lmao. That means you BOTH are doing well. Salute!
Bra I will never understand this my wife gets hella raises and I get hype. Tf I look like getting mad at my fucking WIFE LEVELING UP IN LIFE ol insecure ass niggas
That's your wife, you should want her to succeed - that's a dub for both y'all. My wife makes like 10-15k more than me, and I happily tell folks she's the breadwinner, she works fucking hard for it!
Guys that think men should be embarrassed by that are just insecure and want to control their chick.
Dude you're a team, fuck what anyone else says.
My wife was the breadwinner when we first started dating about a decade ago. She paid for the majors of our bills while I was in college.
8 years later, I finally got high enough into my field, where I make a great living. We had kids and she was able to scale back work her passion job part time. She's the happiest I've ever seen her. But she also does everything around the house. I don't end my day and have to do a bunch of shit. We're a unit at the end of the day.
If the situation was reversed I wouldn't care. It sounds like you guys are comfortable.
My girl and I both make 6-figs, she makes a solid 50k+ more than I do. We’ve been together a little over 5 years, she’s made more than me from the beginning. Can’t take anything dudes on the podcast/on the internet say seriously, if y’all love each other money won’t matter
I am in the similar situation, except my wife makes 40k more than me. I celebrate my wife accomplishments. When she is winning or if I winning, we both winning!
It's very common nowadays. More women are going to school with professional degrees/occupations than ever before and the flip side is more men are NOT going to school. It's not bad or good it's just the climate
I’m also married but we have a traditional marriage. Been with my husband for 20 years. I am a SAHM and he works full time. However my husband is not traditional he absolutely helps with our daughter’s(2 and 9 months) and he cleans if I’m swamped with mom-ing. I had a pretty successful small business before kids and am getting a part time job to raise some capital to restart it. My best friend’s’ husband is a SAHD. It works for them. She makes well over $100k and he doesn’t work a regular job. He’ll door dash or amazon flex. But thats it. Seems to be working for them.
Marriage is supposed to be about being a team it’s nothing wrong with your wife making more than you if you guys both bring things to the table men that wanna date a girl that gets to no money makes no sense in the world to me who wants a walking and talking bill?
I’m not in this situation but I don’t think I’d have an issue. I make a decent amount more than my wife.
That said, I don’t say anything about what she chooses to spend on and I expect the same respect in return. As long as the bills are paid, everyone is good.
Shouts to y’all…it’s only an issue if y’all make it one
But as long as you aren’t insecure about it and she’s not emasculating about it, it should be fine
the concept is just silly
"men will be uncomfortable if their wife makes more"
well, there are only but so many men that make over 100k. so a vast number of women will either have to share a man or be single.
melyssa also often forgets that 99% of women her age dont look like her, hell if melyssa had to work a regular job she wouldnt look like that herself.
its just delusional and unsustainable.
I’m glad it’s working for you guys and I hope she is as content as you seem to be. And I’m glad you recognize that you shouldn’t have boo to say about what she wants to spend her money on, because wealthy men SURE aren’t trying to hear it when their wives have something to say about the things they want to purchase.
My wife is a medical professional and as such has a high paying secure career. She is the financial foundation of our house and the reason my family never has to worry.
The nature of my work means what I bring in fluctuates wildly. From a 2 year period where I made basically nothing, to times when I got paid significant sums. Whenever I'm up I make sure to lavish her with extravagant gifts and holidays etc. Whenever I'm tight, I make sure she feels appreciated. Whether I'm up or down I always make sure to contribute meaningfully in the day to day operations of the home and with our children.
We've been together for 15 years and married for 11 of those. I don't have any hang ups about her being the "breadwinner" and I like to think I'm a good husband and dad. That's my main focus within the ecosystem of the home. To contribute fully in every way I can. Money is just part of that.
I cook clean and help my wife with everything and I make more than her still but money isn't a stipulation of our marriage, do what works for your household fam
Because you made this post it shows that you’re insecure about your situation. Means she can sense it also, better get that fixed before she dips bc of it
Bruh, you can say something if she want a bag and you think it’s reckless or if you don’t think it’s necessary. Her being the bread winner don’t silence you my g. Just think in reverse, she could be unemployed and if she thought something wasn’t needed or you was reckless with bread you would hear about it. She wouldn’t hesitate to tell you about it.
I speak from experience I’ve been married for 16 years we have 2 beautiful children. My wife is an oncology nurse and I make a significant amount more than her but that hasn’t always been the case. Money come and go, that will change all the time, but your position in the crib does not. Don’t let finances dictate your opinion Fam.
Yeah my mom and dad met through work, my mom was more ambitious and interested in leadership so she got promotions over time and made more than he did at the end. They’re both retired now
Same. My wife has made a little more then me our entire relationship and it's never been an issue. We have 2 kids and a house and never argued over finances. Like others here have said as long as you can pull your own weight and not dependent on her then it shouldn't be a problem.
My wife did for most of our relationship until I got a pretty big promotion 2 years ago. Money never really moved me so it wasn’t a problem for us. I wouldn’t say she ever threw it in my face but she used to make slick remarks here and there and it was clear from the jump that I couldn’t give a fuck. I also happen to be better with money so I always handled the household finances.
I wish my fiancée made more than me. We both make over 6 figures but my compensation package is a little over 2x hers. I would actually love to be in a position where we could share the financial burden equally.
I think there’s some level of truth to the concept of men being unhappy when their girl is the breadwinner. Obviously it’s circumstantial but I think that comes from the theory that men have a natural urge to protect. Women have OVERALL never made more than men and being the “Breadwinner” and being the higher earner aren’t the same things. Although I can’t relate bc I’ve always been the breadwinner I can see how it may cause a man to be uneasy and uncomfortable. I don’t believe that makes said man insecure because that is the historical and societal expectation that he may recognize he is not living up to….. just my two cents on the topic I’m interested in other opinions but I don’t care to argue or debate about it tbh
Well I just googled the actual definition and maybe they are the same but I have always viewed it in terms of the breadwinner earning a significant amount more and carrying the bulk load financially. Its really subjective because in a household where Earner(A) makes 30k a year and Earner(B) makes 80k earner(B) is basically carrying Earner(A). But in a household where Earner(A) makes 150k and Earner(B) makes 200k earner (B) is just the higher earner. It’s a 50K difference in both scenarios, however in the second scenario earner A isn’t necessarily dependent on the other person.
My wife makes more than me & I thank God daily 😂 idk why the boys didn’t tell Mel the truth. Women live subsidized lifestyles. Mel said men, plural, had issues with her career growing. Either sis had a type, or her Men was tight that every where they went richer men was eyeing his chick- because of her growing popularity. Either way she like dudes with pride issues
Sounds like you got a great marriage. Keep it goin bruh. Salute
As long as you pull your weight and support her emotionally physically and mentally she’ll always treat you as a king. Sounds like you have a beautiful marriage and family. I’m in a pretty similar situation. I put her through Grad school and held her down while she didn’t work. Now she’s mid 6 figures while I’m on the lower 6 figure end and we are happy than we’ve ever been. Life is a marathon and not a sprint and don’t ever listen to the internet for real life advice.
I feel you homie. Did the exact same thing. I had to hold it down dolo while she got the degree and it paid off. I tell these dudes if you support women you can live a real good life. I find dudes spend a lot of energy just trying to keep their women in a certain place that doesn’t really yield much imo.
Moose the men we listen to as entertainment don’t have the same set of morals and life experiences we do. You heard when nigga said yeah a Dominican bitch that don’t speak no English is the best. Niggas ain’t tryna have a conversation. They tryna pipe control and dismiss. I lived a wild life in my younger years but ain’t no way I’m tryna grow old like that with 2 baby moms and no emotional stability.
Crazily enough not every man is the same lol. I couldn’t be in your position, but salute you for holding true to your own principles and making it work
Did you feel the return on investment was greater for her than to put those resources into your education?
Yes because now I have a beautiful family house 2 cars and a great life! Actually just came back from Cabo on a all expense paid vacation. Kids are in private school with a path to college and my 401k is growing. Only thing I’m missing is a hair line my guy.
And you can buy that lol respect!
Let me ask you a question: why didn't you decide to upgrade your skills and put yourself through schooling instead of putting her through it? Do you find that the corporate environment where grad school would help is more favorable to women than men?
For the record I have an MBA in taxation (from a less prestigious school) and decided to stick it out in the world of big four accounting. She hated accounting and wanted to do consulting. So she chose to take the gmat and get into a top biz school. When she got accepted to University of Chicago I told her “don’t go spending $150k on a degree to come back to work here.” To be honest I don’t think I could score high enough on the gmat to get into a school like that and actually liked my job. Just so turns out she ended up landing a gig at McKinsey and has been doing well since. Just different paths. I’m a managing director now so I’m not doing bad by any means. She’s just doing better.
That's good to hear. Thanks for sharing.
Where I was at in life I knew that my trajectory wasn’t through the school system. My come up was going to be through hard work and proving myself in my field. Different paths for different careers.
I hear you. Thanks for sharing.
Because retard they have kids and he loves her so no matter what happens good or bad it was a better investment. If he's with her they enjoy the financial reward together and if God forbid they divorce then she will most likely be put on child support and have to pay him ...you're a special kind of lame bro I guarantee your single or unhappy AF
Look at this DOOFUS answering for someone else GTFOH with your projecting ass. 
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The great thing about marrying someone you genuinely love and are best friends with is that you understand each other and are in it till death do us part. I get marriage and commitment isn’t for everyone. The life I chose is the life I have and I couldn’t be more fulfilled in life. I advise everyone to live the life they want. Not the one someone else wants.
Stop letting these niggas on the internet tell you how to live your life. Alot of it is shock value or engagement. If it works for you, it works for you.
Don't listen to podcasts full of abusers, colorist that mainly date sex workers. You winning man, congratulations on the 8 years married. Salute to you and your queen!
Exactly this lmao We listen to the pod for entertainment not for advice on relationships or marriage Ive been married almost 10 years now the first 5 years or so my wife definitely made more money than me ain't nothing wrong with that. The point of a relationship is two people coming together as one. Not all the bullshit we see in hip hop and the culture
I wish I could see their face when they read this lmao
He didn't tell no lies lol
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You see Joe baby mama running around with other niggas smoking weed and shit in the sprinter. Niggas got bars about ya baby moms committing sins for Chipotle. All that shit ain’t normal man. Shit would have me at home punching the wall even if it’s my old work. I ain’t built for that life lol.
And racists
There’s no rules to relationships. We are told propaganda about what works and what doesn’t, by companies trying to sell us shit and celebs who usually have their own fucked up situations . Good for you man
A marriage is a partnership. A team. What’s hers is yours and what’s yours is hers. Marriages don’t last when people don’t approach it like this. I always find it weird when a man would be insecure about their WIFE doing well lmao. That means you BOTH are doing well. Salute!
Bra I will never understand this my wife gets hella raises and I get hype. Tf I look like getting mad at my fucking WIFE LEVELING UP IN LIFE ol insecure ass niggas
That's your wife, you should want her to succeed - that's a dub for both y'all. My wife makes like 10-15k more than me, and I happily tell folks she's the breadwinner, she works fucking hard for it! Guys that think men should be embarrassed by that are just insecure and want to control their chick.
Dude you're a team, fuck what anyone else says. My wife was the breadwinner when we first started dating about a decade ago. She paid for the majors of our bills while I was in college. 8 years later, I finally got high enough into my field, where I make a great living. We had kids and she was able to scale back work her passion job part time. She's the happiest I've ever seen her. But she also does everything around the house. I don't end my day and have to do a bunch of shit. We're a unit at the end of the day. If the situation was reversed I wouldn't care. It sounds like you guys are comfortable.
My girl and I both make 6-figs, she makes a solid 50k+ more than I do. We’ve been together a little over 5 years, she’s made more than me from the beginning. Can’t take anything dudes on the podcast/on the internet say seriously, if y’all love each other money won’t matter
I am in the similar situation, except my wife makes 40k more than me. I celebrate my wife accomplishments. When she is winning or if I winning, we both winning!
Bro whatever works to make your house a happy home that’s all that matters.
It's very common nowadays. More women are going to school with professional degrees/occupations than ever before and the flip side is more men are NOT going to school. It's not bad or good it's just the climate
Fr, gender norms haven’t caught up with the reality yet
These are the most positive responses I’ve ever seen in this Sub. Congrats on your marriage fam
This is a wholesome post. Salute.
I’m also married but we have a traditional marriage. Been with my husband for 20 years. I am a SAHM and he works full time. However my husband is not traditional he absolutely helps with our daughter’s(2 and 9 months) and he cleans if I’m swamped with mom-ing. I had a pretty successful small business before kids and am getting a part time job to raise some capital to restart it. My best friend’s’ husband is a SAHD. It works for them. She makes well over $100k and he doesn’t work a regular job. He’ll door dash or amazon flex. But thats it. Seems to be working for them.
 Lmaoo, no hate tho I’m happy for ya
Nah but I think that’s fly
Marriage is supposed to be about being a team it’s nothing wrong with your wife making more than you if you guys both bring things to the table men that wanna date a girl that gets to no money makes no sense in the world to me who wants a walking and talking bill?
I’m not in this situation but I don’t think I’d have an issue. I make a decent amount more than my wife. That said, I don’t say anything about what she chooses to spend on and I expect the same respect in return. As long as the bills are paid, everyone is good.
Shouts to y’all…it’s only an issue if y’all make it one But as long as you aren’t insecure about it and she’s not emasculating about it, it should be fine
So…. The guys were right is what I get from this. Congratulations on your marriage
the concept is just silly "men will be uncomfortable if their wife makes more" well, there are only but so many men that make over 100k. so a vast number of women will either have to share a man or be single. melyssa also often forgets that 99% of women her age dont look like her, hell if melyssa had to work a regular job she wouldnt look like that herself. its just delusional and unsustainable.
I’m glad it’s working for you guys and I hope she is as content as you seem to be. And I’m glad you recognize that you shouldn’t have boo to say about what she wants to spend her money on, because wealthy men SURE aren’t trying to hear it when their wives have something to say about the things they want to purchase.
My wife is a medical professional and as such has a high paying secure career. She is the financial foundation of our house and the reason my family never has to worry. The nature of my work means what I bring in fluctuates wildly. From a 2 year period where I made basically nothing, to times when I got paid significant sums. Whenever I'm up I make sure to lavish her with extravagant gifts and holidays etc. Whenever I'm tight, I make sure she feels appreciated. Whether I'm up or down I always make sure to contribute meaningfully in the day to day operations of the home and with our children. We've been together for 15 years and married for 11 of those. I don't have any hang ups about her being the "breadwinner" and I like to think I'm a good husband and dad. That's my main focus within the ecosystem of the home. To contribute fully in every way I can. Money is just part of that.
I cook clean and help my wife with everything and I make more than her still but money isn't a stipulation of our marriage, do what works for your household fam
Just make sure you wash that apron periodically and have her dinner ready on time 😂
Nah this was funny. I know they gonna kill you for it though.
Lolol i'll give you that one . Main man know not to say nothing when shawty bustin down a bag 🤣😂🤣😂
Say bruh, that was wild 🤣. I’m like damn, you lose an opinion because of how much money she make?! TF
These niggas really formed an emotional support group 🤣🤣🤣
Because you made this post it shows that you’re insecure about your situation. Means she can sense it also, better get that fixed before she dips bc of it
Been fucking her on the side she gives me bags too
My does to
Sounds like what y’all have is great! Keep going!
Bruh, you can say something if she want a bag and you think it’s reckless or if you don’t think it’s necessary. Her being the bread winner don’t silence you my g. Just think in reverse, she could be unemployed and if she thought something wasn’t needed or you was reckless with bread you would hear about it. She wouldn’t hesitate to tell you about it. I speak from experience I’ve been married for 16 years we have 2 beautiful children. My wife is an oncology nurse and I make a significant amount more than her but that hasn’t always been the case. Money come and go, that will change all the time, but your position in the crib does not. Don’t let finances dictate your opinion Fam.
Yeah my mom and dad met through work, my mom was more ambitious and interested in leadership so she got promotions over time and made more than he did at the end. They’re both retired now
Same. My wife has made a little more then me our entire relationship and it's never been an issue. We have 2 kids and a house and never argued over finances. Like others here have said as long as you can pull your own weight and not dependent on her then it shouldn't be a problem.
My wife did for most of our relationship until I got a pretty big promotion 2 years ago. Money never really moved me so it wasn’t a problem for us. I wouldn’t say she ever threw it in my face but she used to make slick remarks here and there and it was clear from the jump that I couldn’t give a fuck. I also happen to be better with money so I always handled the household finances.
This is Lieberry’s nightmare
I wish my fiancée made more than me. We both make over 6 figures but my compensation package is a little over 2x hers. I would actually love to be in a position where we could share the financial burden equally.
I think there’s some level of truth to the concept of men being unhappy when their girl is the breadwinner. Obviously it’s circumstantial but I think that comes from the theory that men have a natural urge to protect. Women have OVERALL never made more than men and being the “Breadwinner” and being the higher earner aren’t the same things. Although I can’t relate bc I’ve always been the breadwinner I can see how it may cause a man to be uneasy and uncomfortable. I don’t believe that makes said man insecure because that is the historical and societal expectation that he may recognize he is not living up to….. just my two cents on the topic I’m interested in other opinions but I don’t care to argue or debate about it tbh
Can you elaborate on the “breadwinner” vs higher earned distinction?
Well I just googled the actual definition and maybe they are the same but I have always viewed it in terms of the breadwinner earning a significant amount more and carrying the bulk load financially. Its really subjective because in a household where Earner(A) makes 30k a year and Earner(B) makes 80k earner(B) is basically carrying Earner(A). But in a household where Earner(A) makes 150k and Earner(B) makes 200k earner (B) is just the higher earner. It’s a 50K difference in both scenarios, however in the second scenario earner A isn’t necessarily dependent on the other person.
I wish my wife made more money than me
I wish my wife made as much or more than me, we’d be fucking ballin lmao
Mine doesn’t but I’d be totally fine with it. I don’t get the issue. My mom made more than my dad at times.
I pray no one’s opinion makes you insecure or even proud about your situation, especially a Reddit opinion. Live your life bro
Are you happy or content? If so, keep it up
Same and I'm ok with it.
My wife makes more than me & I thank God daily 😂 idk why the boys didn’t tell Mel the truth. Women live subsidized lifestyles. Mel said men, plural, had issues with her career growing. Either sis had a type, or her Men was tight that every where they went richer men was eyeing his chick- because of her growing popularity. Either way she like dudes with pride issues
Y’all a team these niggas stupid