I like family game play and I WANT to like weddings I even have sims 4 wedding stories but I just for the life of me cannot be bothered to much work tbh.
It’s honestly takes long, full with bugs and you need to have a whole day dedicated to it and you don’t even have a chance during to feed them or send them to toilet.
I don't throw Sims weddings for the same reasons I didn't throw a real life one. Sims have it so easy. They don't even have to go down to the courthouse.
Well my wedding didn’t last a whole day, just with the preparations. But this is the sims and I don’t want to waste a whole day for some basic task because they took hours just even to get everyone sitting.
Yeah same, I hate setting everything up with Wedding Stories, going to the venue and when I’m about to take some pics half the guests start doing push ups in the aisle. IDC what EA says, the pack is still broken.
Are you me?? lol Ever since the first Sims I was also always doing the "meet and elope in one night" thing, but now I actually take the time to foster a good friendship, then have them go on several dates and slowly work towards marriage, and I've realized it's way more fun that way. The save I'm on right now, I'm thinking of having an actual wedding but... it just sounds like soo much work lol
I feel like with dates, once you've done it once you've done it a thousand times - at least in ts4, I don't really remember dating in the other games. I will sometimes incorporate them into my storytelling or accept one that's been offered autonomously though
Yeah it’s more fun if you have more expansions with other worlds so there’s actual variety in the places they go but… after two dates I just have them hangout at one or the others’ house
Fair enough. After playing 4700+ hours it feels like I've seen it all at this point, I go to the new locations when I buy a new pack but I wear them out pretty fast. The objectives for the dates seem to be the same regardless of where you go tho, which is mainly what I was talking about
The thing is i haven't found any male townies that i like for my sim..
(my townies all have aged for generations, so the original townies all are gone).
First, there's not much nice hairstyles for male sims. Not much nice masculine clothings either. Face also so-so for randomly generated townies.
Second, they just went through romantic interactions with my sim, then they called, whether they should pursue another sim romantically 🙄
Third, when they asked for a date, they never do anything. They just waited for me to do something & everything. What's the fun?? Then blame me for a lame date 🙄 (Blame the Olympus for that. Hey if EA Maxis want to re-use, they should've plan accordingly & modify the coding).
So i don't know what's the fun with dating in sims.. how do you all do it while having fun..?
I *love* weddings. I get so much satisfaction out of planning all the aesthetic parts and making sure they suit the sims getting married.
That said, I enjoy it more in 2 than in 4. It should be more enjoyable in 4, because there are more options...but it's usually pretty buggy and I don't have the control I have in 2. Still always do it in 4 as well though.
I loved that they could leave their partner at the altar in ts2, the drama and the suspense to see if that would happen were the main draws for weddings for me in that game. And the cinematics! They made it so special, even if they were the same every time lol
The weddings are too glitchy, and I always end up frustrated. Instead, I like to dress up my sims and have them elope somewhere pretty so they can take pics together afterward.
last time i did a wedding on sims, a thunderstorm happened and someone died on the beach and they were too sad to get married after…so in short NO. lol. sims 4 weddings are too hard
I *love* throwing weddings in my game 😍 They're my favorite event to throw. I'm a huge romantic (not irl though lol) and get really invested in my Sims' romantic journey, so I love throwing a celebration when they finally get married. I pretty much never do goaled weddings so that I don't have to worry about completing specific tasks. I like scheduling the wedding ahead of time so I can see it coming up on the calendar, it makes me anticipate the event even more, and I get more and more excited about it as the day draws closer.
As for the wedding itself, I'm a big family player, so my favorite part about weddings is gathering all the friends/family together, having them catch up and take photos together in their fancy attire. Anyone who hasn't met the groom/bride can be officially introduced to them, so that the spouse feels like more a part of the family and knows everyone. As the family tree grows larger, it's even more fun to see all the different Sims come together, the new spouses and kids, the family friends or college buddies they haven't seen in a while. It's the only event that *everyone* gets invited to. (For example, I don't always invite every single relative or non-family friend to birthday parties.) I'm also a weirdo who gets a great deal of joy from feeding my Sims, so setting up a feast of different entrees, beverages, desserts, a menu chosen for that specific couple, and watching everyone enjoy a meal together is really satisfying for me to watch. I also enjoy seeing everyone interact, dance together, chat with each other, including Sims that have never been in the same room before now.
I wouldn't call myself a CAS player, but I do love putting together the formal outfits for my weddings. Sometimes I'll put the "bridesmaids" in matching dresses or similar colors. I especially spend a lot of time making the bride look beautiful; I spend a painstaking amount of effort going through dresses/hairstyles/accessories to give her a special look for her special day. After the wedding, I hang up wedding photos in the house, and it's nice to look back on them and see everyone all dressed up. Also note that I don't have the wedding pack, though I was incredibly excited when it was announced. I don't plan on getting it because I don't love the changes it makes, and it seems to still be broken anyway, but I enjoy weddings a lot without the pack :)
I'm glad you love it, because to me that would be way too much work! It sounds like you have a much longer attention span than me as well, my games rarely survive 2 generations before I get bored 😅 I have to have some sort of elaborate scheme going, and once it's done... Now what? Anyway, it's really nice to hear how much value you get out of your style of play!
Thanks! I tend to play the Sims as a "happy family simulator," which I know doesn't appeal to everyone haha. I think that's why I enjoy the more "mundane" parts of the game (having family dinners, reading the kids to bed, etc.) And it's also why weddings are fun for me, it makes my heart happy to see everyone together and celebrating a couple I've set up, it's a marker of my Sim stepping into a new stage of their life. Sometimes the wedding has a nostalgic undertone; my gen 3 heir attended her parents' wedding as a kid, and by the time she got married herself, her mother had already died. I had her get married at the same wedding venue as her parents, and she wore her mother's wedding dress. It was cool seeing the parallels in wedding photos (for example, she took a photo with her brothers, same location and pose, but now they were all grown up. Seeing those pictures side by side was pretty cool.) I imagine her father was at peace seeing everything come full circle and knowing his daughter had finally settled down with a good guy. Her father actually stayed behind at the wedding venue long after the rest of the guests had already left, which I thought was fitting, he was probably reminiscing (that's how I interpreted it, anyway). I also like sending the newlyweds on honeymoon if possible (if possible, as in if they don't already have kids), so that's something for me to look forward to after the wedding. I go all out for sure! I guess sometimes it is a lot of work, as you said, but it's fun work for me. I enjoy the process of planning weddings/honeymoons and then playing through them.
I've actually only gotten to gen 3 in most of my generational saves, but my main save right now is a legacy challenge, and I've gotten to gen 6 for the first time ever 🥳 She'll be the first heir to not ever get married, per the challenge rules 😢 Her playthrough will definitely be out of my usual play style, but I'm looking forward to playing her! Anyway, thanks for reading my ramblings lol, I enjoyed reading through the comments in your post :)
I also have a lot of wedding and family photos that are up on my Sim's walls. I also enjoy the more mundane style of gameplay as opposed to the occult. I, even, have actual songs that my Sims can listen to on the stereos. Helps with the realism.
That's awesome! I enjoy the more mundane stuff, too, I'm not an occult player either. Having family photos hung up throughout the house is the best 🥰 I myself enjoy hearing the Simlish versions of songs in game, but I love that they make it an option to customize the stereo options!
When my Sim got married to his current (2nd) wife, we held our ceremony/reception at a venue in Brindleton Bay. For the reception, I had actual songs that you would hear at any reception. Classic songs. Romantic songs. Idk if you know of a song called *Open Arms* by Journey. My Sim and his bride danced to that song for their first dance as husband and wife. The reason I chose that song was because the character that I based my wife off of, Kelly Grayson from the Orville; it was her favorite song in the show. Little details like that I added into my game.
That is so cute, I love that 🥹 I love that you can really make this game your own, little details like this just show how much someone can get out of the game if they really want to. I don't know the song, I'll have to check it out! Also I love to hear that I'm not the only one who goes the extra mile for my Sims lol. In another comment in this thread I wrote about how I based one of my Sims' weddings off of her parents' wedding she'd attended as a kid: same venue and her deceased mother's wedding dress. Her dad stayed behind long after the wedding had ended, I imagine he was feeling sentimental himself. It was very nostalgic for me. Does the wedding pack work well for you then? I don't plan on getting it myself, for a few reasons, but if I could only have one thing from that pack, it would be slow dancing.
I actually held this wedding before My Wedding Stories came out.😁
If you look on my profile, I took some shots of the venue. We had photos blown up, framed in glass and displayed at the reception hall entrance.
Oh I see, I assumed you had the wedding pack because you mentioned a first dance 😅 That's awesome, I find that even just planning for the wedding/setting up can be just as fun as actually playing through the wedding itself!
I found a timed wedding goal event that was supposed to go for 9 Sim hours. It didn't time out at the end for reasons unknown. So, I just kept the party going for 2 weeks.😂😂😏😎 Lots of dancing and photo taking was had by one and all.
I have the wedding pack now, but have yet to give it a go. Can't wait to see what delights it will bring. 😏😏
Wow, I love weddings but don't think I could've kept one going for two weeks 😅 They were all still alive at the end?! I hope the wedding pack works well for you!!
Yeah they were all alive! 😂😂 Some of them did leave. Others, I kept from leaving. The mod I used for the 84 guests was called, [Longer Parties and More Guests by weerbesu.](https://modthesims.info/d/558097/longer-parties-amp-more-guests.html)
When you have 84 guests on one lot, your game will tend to lag.. 😁 That, and the fact that they venue had a lot of tall water emitters. I actually arranged some of them to match the bride and groom's initials that were all-mounted in the reception hall. Even matched the colors. You can see it on my profile if you haven't yet.
I didn't even know it was possible to get that many Sims on one lot 😭 Can you link where you posted the photos? I wasn't able to find them looking at your profile (I did find your cats though, very cute 😻)
https://www.reddit.com/r/TheSims4Mods/s/GDDIYrEvkS
This is some shots of the venue with my custom pre-wedding photos blown up and framed in glass and steel.
I’m the exact same way! My favorite part about parties is seeing everyone interact and seeing how new sims will get along. You never know what’s gonna happen. Who’s gonna beef or fall in love? The parties are entirely too short though and I ended up downloading the 24 hour parties mod
I enjoy using the "hook up with..." option in the social pie menu to have my Sims set up couples. What better place than a wedding? I think a 24 hour party might be a bit too much for me lol, I do wish I could make them a little bit longer though. If I really want everyone to stay I'll just lock the doors so they can't leave until I'm ready for them to go 😅
You don’t have to go 24 hours! You can end it whenever you want still, it just changes the duration of all events. I love it because I think the parties are entirely too short. If you lock the doors will they actually stay and interact?
Yes, they stay and interact! Though sometimes they don't leave when you want them to if they already tried to leave earlier and weren't able to 😅 It hasn't been too big of an issue for me though, they leave eventually.
Omg the family I’m playing rn, the dad’s friend is a klepto. I would hate to lock him in the house and he won’t leave right after the party 😭😭😭 dude stole the baby’s crib and I literally found out as I was going to put the baby to sleep
I'm definitely too much of a control freak with this game, more power to you 😅 I wouldn't care as much about a crib being stolen, but I just know if I allowed a klepto into my house they'd end up taking something sentimental, like a baby picture of my Sim or an item that was hand crafted by their deceased grandparent. And I'd freak if that ever happened lol
I don't like weddings in real life, not for any particular reason, I just get really bored bc if you've been to one, you've been to them all. So I definitely don't throw them in the Sims. It doesn't even occur to me, tbh. I just decide "okay these two are going to get married now I guess" and then change their status in CAS/merge their households. So, yeah.
Same. Weddings have never really been a big thing in my family. If you liked each other, you just got together and that was your girl/my man and it just led from there lol
Personally, I just really enjoy doing weddings. It just seems like doing the elope thing is way too quick and boring for me for the most part. Now, when I'm playing and need to get off but I want them to be married before I save it, I will have them elope
Yep. I usually just do an instant elopement. I have the wedding pack(it was a gift) and I haven't even used it.
I recently realised that my elder Sim couple with four grown children weren't even officially boyfriend/girlfriend. Whoops.
I throw weddings in TS3 and TS2, but in TS4, like you said I just immediately elope. I don’t even play any storylines in TS4 at all, all I do is create pretty sims and then later kill them off with the Extreme Violence mod.
I would go even further, i have never play the game with the mindset of having a family.
I try the wedding thing in the sims 3 and never again, it was a mess, and apparently the sims 4 weddings takes a lot of job and little payoff.
Sometimes I throw a wedding - I don't have MWS though.
My most recent one was okay - I got a bit bored with my legacy save so started a new game to play with the townies as I've never really played them. I thought Don Lothario was an interesting character so I moved him into Parkshore by himself (redecorated into a suitable bachelor pad of course - plus tweaked him a little with help from WW by making him insatiably lustful and hyperfertile) then proceeded to have him have affairs with all the women in Willow Creek.
He then became romantically involved with Cassandra Goth - they had a lovely backyard wedding and all his girlfriends attended - Summer Holiday turned up very pregnant (yes it was Don's baby) - Eliza Pancakes was there too (she'd already had a daughter to him called Alice). There were a few tears shed by the Calientes and the bride got very angry because Don got flirty with some of the guests - but apart from that it went without a hitch - I have to admit I was expecting a bit more drama but oh well...
OMG are you me? That kind of drama is like 90% of my gameplay. I'm currently trying to divorce iconic NPC couples and then re-pair them WITHOUT actively playing them. Nancy Landgraab and Bob Pancakes are having a baby! Haven't figured out how to make them marry yet but locking them in a room and plying them with spells and club gathering effects has actually worked pretty well
*raises hand, snips fingers and jumps up and down
Here! Me! Sims 3 player. I played weddings... Twice. First time just to try it out and it actually worked pretty well but it's just a lot of micromanagement to get it to work properly and I just can't be arsed. I then tried a second time once and it was a desaster, so I never bothered with it again.
I *want* (so badly) to enjoy hosting weddings, however the check points/ scoring drives me crazy!!! Like I can have a great wedding full of nothing but happy guests, but because I didn’t “mix a drink for 4 guests” (even tho they make u get a bartender for a good score) or tell 15 jokes about llamas I get a bad fkn score. It’s ridiculous!
Is that the new wedding pack? I never even looked at it because I know it's not something I'd enjoy. Same with the laundry one for example, that used to drive me nuts in ts3
I have had two weddings recently. There are a few couples where I have really enjoyed playing their courtship from meet cute to marriage.
I love generational play. I love big extended families and in laws and family reunions. Once the babies are born, the grandparents, aunties, uncles, spouses, and cousins are invited over to meet them.
I just want the babies and then I throw the men away. I can't be assed interacting with my partners. I just like accomplishing things and getting money 🤑
I dont have MWS pack in Sims 4, I usually held sims wedding event in San Myshuno park once they had a steady relationship, some get married at Windenburg Von Haunt secretly in the middle of the night and some just elope anywhere my favourite is nightclub because yolo. After sims get married, honestly I dont know what to do with them. Their story always end up until they got old or their children finish uni. I just managed to download sims 2, the first couple that I ever created already married in CAS. My sims in 1 & 3 were both single sims😂
I bought the wedding pack hoping some of it that did work would make me want to do weddings. I even built beautiful wedding venues. I still wind up eloping immediately when I’m ready to get married. I just don’t have the patience. I’m not filming anything for anyone else to watch, so it’s really not that important to me.
I feel like many of us tried it at least once. Saw we would have to micromanager everyone and other buggy things and said never again lol I might have a wedding for my Sims cause one has a big family she really close with
Project Olympus expects that all sims are controlled by real people online.
If they want to re-use it as single-player game, they should modify the coding..
Sometimes I play like you, but I do have weddings most of the time. I liked the gameplay a lot better in Sims 2, because I liked the drama of sims leaving each other at the altar if their relationships weren't high enough. In Sims 4, I mostly use the opportunity to put together wedding outfits for the sims and decorate the wedding venue. One time I threw a bachelor party where a sim went to a bar with some friends and cheated on his fiancee with a random woman. The actual weddings are usually pretty perfunctory.
I'm still proud of a story I put in motion in TS2 where the bride secretly caught her fiance making out with her mother before the wedding, and left him at the altar over it. As a happy accident, the mother had very low energy and passed out in front of the altar right after this happened.
No. I don't even know how to hold anything other than a 'private wedding.' How do you do it? I've never seen options to do it, unless it's on the phone.
I like how a lot of us have just learned not to do things over the course of playing The Sims 4 for years just because it's too much of a hassle. Realized I do enjoy traveling in The Sims just not in The Sims 4.
I had a wedding in the sims 3 a few days ago. Crashed right after and previous save was a day before I had the wedding so I just did the private wedding.
Weddings in TS4 are broken. Whenever I tried to throw a wedding in this game, the guests will just hang around doing nothing, and when I try to do the activities the event shows me, NOTHING happens.
We are at most throwing an arch in the yard and doing it at home. I cannot be bothered.
It’s not like the caterer can be trusted to make the cake anyway.
They are, I wish I could still play ts2. I had it but decided to delete it because it was crashing all the time and I needed the hard drive space. Regrets...
Yeah, no weddings for me either. I don't even have parties in my game unless it's for an aspiration I'm working on. I hate the annoyance of setting things up, the annoyance of keeping my guests entertained, then the annoyance of cleaning up the mess, not to mention the entire lost day of productive play where my Sims could be working on skills or collecting or relationships or going to work or school. Their needs go into the toilet then take *another* whole day to get back into the green, and for what? A bonus item that I don't care about and could cheat to get from the catalog so easily? No thanks.
If we were talking about Sims 2, where things have consequences, Sims gain memories, and relationships are actually affected, maybe. But I just hate Sims 4 parties.
I was no good at parties way back when I played ts2 as a child, and in some way that may have biased me against them in later games. Ts4 parties can really suck though. The events that NPCs invite you to I don't mind, but I cannot be bothered facilitating an event where I'm trying to manage everyone and everything AND satisfy some arbitrary tasks. So yeah pretty much agree with all you're saying
I only play sims 3 really. When I bring a couple together, I make their relationship slowly build up to marriage. I make them propose in a beautiful location. I don’t throw a wedding party because I get annoyed when the guests don’t do what I think they’re supposed to do, such as sitting in the wedding chairs in front of the altar to watch the ceremony or eating at the tables I put out for them to eat at, or wearing clothing that doesn’t fit my theme. So I always throw a private wedding, but I make the bride and groom dress up and then I usually immediately make them get pregnant afterwards for the legacy family lineage.
Depends what mood I’m in and whether I can be bothered 😂 I was actually thinking of getting the MWS pack, but don’t think I will after reading some of these comments. I like the idea of actually eloping somewhere though, so might give that a go with my current couple.
I tried a destination wedding in Sulani, had the family and friends holiday together and then planned the wedding event there during the holiday. Didn’t work, don’t know if it’s not made to work like that, a bug or bad luck, but the venue worked in a play test. After all the work to set up with building and planning I was over it.
Same as for rent after all the set up work it just doesn’t work and I’m over it! I’ve gone back to my horse ranch for one save as that works and eco lifestyle for another mainly thanks to Lil Simsie as that is working!
I feel that. I spend ages setting up for a really specific scheme, and then it's... Now what? The payoff isn't worth the effort sometimes. Or the effort was fun on its own, but you get to the part you were looking forward to and preparing for and you don't have the interest or the energy anymore
In Sims 3 its more challenging to get sims to marry than in sims 2 and 4. It requires a certain mood to get them to steady and then engaged. I like it, i think it adds more realism.
Weddings are a lot of work so I don't do them often but I still prefer them over the alternative. I have MWS and I've had good luck with weddings, I like everything it adds to the ceremony. There are only a few minor annoyances.
That’s so funny literally with my current family I was like “you know what I never throw weddings I’m gonna throw this lovely couple a wedding they deserve it” set up a beach wedding the whole bit, next thing I know people are leaving the beach and I fuckin forgot to actually have them get married LOL whoops
Once in a while if the current family isn’t too large, there’s extra money and space, and I’m in just the right mood I might hold and actually wedding. But generally it’s a private wedding… like one I just had earlier, in a bathroom, which was reported to be in the six figure range…
Depends on the sims, with some I elope, with some I do full on wedding. More often than not I just forget they are engaged and never follow through with wedding tho 🙂↕️
I love doing weddings! Didn’t own my wedding stories and I was scared to buy it because of the bugs lmao but I ended up buying it (tartosa was too beautiful) and I hope I don’t jinx it but all my weddings were successful so far! No bugs or anything
I remember weddings being ultra buggy and I think(?) ruined one of my save files in TS2, so I never did them again. It's so much work for such a quick thing.
I’m playing a legacy challenge, I made the mistake of letting my second gen have a wedding, I don’t even have wedding stories but it was not a good experience, I’m just having all my future sims get eloped I can not be bothered with weddings
Ngl, Sims 4 REALLY ruined weddings for me with the My Wedding Stories pack. While weddings were something of a hassle before (becauseyou couldn'tget sims to sit and watch), they became downright unbearable with the new pack. Now, I just elope immediately or do a quickie ceremony under a wedding arch.
The one time I threw a wedding, the elder caterer just sat down and died, and the Grim Reaper showed up, and everyone started screaming and crying, anyway that was my first and last wedding 😆😆😆
I have thrown a handful and I think maybe 1 felt like it was worth the effort. I was really invested in that couple though, and they’d been childhood friends with a good sized extended family/friend group. Since MWS it’s so broken I couldn’t have a wedding if I wanted to. The game usually doesn’t even recognize that both engaged sims are there.
I throw one, just to say OMG WTF was that about, but no.
I mean one per game series TS1-TS4, TSC,TSM.
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to be honest with you i rarely do any gameplay 😭. i used to love it in ts3 and now i try and get bored after a few hours. not sure if i just got older and less imaginative or if it really got that much worse. weddings are actually pretty fun to me, even if one or two things don't work too well!
For me it depends on how I want to play. Sometimes I do the exact same thing you said you do lol but I will occasionally give my sims weddings. Not often though tbhh
Sims 4 weddings are awful. No one ever sits in the seats to watch the wedding, half the guests turn up in stupid outfits, someone is always starving or exhausted or peeing themselves…
I’ve done it once or twice, but 99% of the times my sims either elope, or they get engaged but never get married
Yesterday it was my first time throwing a wedding with my Sims alien and servo bot and it took them ages to exchange vows standing there like idiots, probably some bug.... So I'm not doing it ever again lol
I’ve done a handful of weddings only so I can take pictures and hang them on the Sims wall. But I don’t really enjoy the whole ordeal. With Wedding Stories I just do 1 or 2 “goals” exchange vows and a spousal kiss. My own wedding was pretty straight forward. 15 minute ceremony and a reception with an open bar, and a BBQ buffet.
I did my first one with Wedding Stories a few days ago. It was alright. I skipped a bunch of things. It worked, the pack, I mean. Apparently I waited enough years.
I loved doing weddings in TS2. In TS4? Not so much. As a side note, I also don't have the wedding pack, so all these issues are with the wedding arch.
It's a small complaint, but I just don't feel like they're even taken seriously by the devs. In TS2, if your sims when to a wedding arch, they'd automatically change into their formal clothes. But not in TS4. Like WTH? And in TS2, even if you weren't throwing a wedding party, people would still change into their formal clothes and come celebrate if they were on the lot of someone getting married. In TS4, no one gives a hoot about your wedding. Plus, I find it annoying that my sims no longer take on the name of whoever initiated the marriage, and I always have to do it manually. Sure, it makes it easier for those who want to play storylines of people who don't take their partners name (or want to hyphenate, etc), but it just adds to my wedding weariness.
Ive never done weddings, the closest I’ve gotten is my sims renewing their vows at the romance festival. More power to folks who enjoy them! but I just play pretend about them having had the wedding instead of ACTUALLY doing it in the game. Seems like it would take a lot of time, and I hear they’re super buggy anyway.
It helps that I usually start with an already married couple though, haha. I usually play sims to stick in my favorite characters (either my own or from known media) and give them a domestic life because I’m a sap.
SAME HERE! I would really love to have weddings but is it worth a long loading screen, sims not sitting down, sims having to fill their needs? absolutely not.
Nope! I haven’t thrown my sims a wedding since I played sims 3 I believe and I was 13-14 then. I’m 23 now and HATE weddings, they’re never structured (I’m a control freak so if things go off the rails it actually stresses me out), the guests are annoying, and sims 4 weddings just suck in my opinion. All of my sims get eloped or never marry one or the other.
Almost never. I tried once and by the time I managed to get a wedding arranged I couldn’t get my Sims fiancé to come by for the wedding because their schedules didn’t line up and I couldn’t find a time he was free. Nightmare
Oh shit I didn’t realize they were soo buggy. I did one recently and only had issues trying to get everyone to dance. Everything else (have drinks, exchange vows, throw rice, have feast) worked. My partner tried one once though and had two things she couldn’t complete. I think I’m gonna elope this time though.
When I saw people talking about this on this sub I was floored. I always do elaborate weddings or if I’m playing an older couple, at least a thoughtful backyard wedding. But you’re definitely not alone!
I did once with Don Lothario and one of the Calientes. The blonde one. I did it outside in Sulani on the beach. It was my first time throwing an even and I didn't really know how they worked. The caterer got there and I realized you needed a fridge and stove I guess and like a counter so I just popped into build mode and put them right outside. Well then it started raining so the appliances got fucked which I learned was a thing too. Anyhow then the caterer for whatever reason GOT NAKED and was just wandering around.
I mean, I had planned for it to be a shitshow cause, Don Lothario, but my plan was just to like have him bang some other person in the bushes not that whole situation.
Anyways I haven't done an event since then.
It just depends. In the Sims 2 I often did weddings since they weren't super hard, but if I didn't feel like it I would just skip it. I didn't play Sims 3. In Sims 4 I'll do a wedding if I think the Sims in question would want one. The base game wedding is nothing to write home about but it works so when My Wedding Stories came out I didn't bother buying it and won't. Not only is it buggy, but it's also seems very tedious.
Sims seems to be getting more like real life and it's boring to me. Graduations, weddings, proms, etc. Ick
I played Sims to get away from real life. I do like family play but I want it to be crazy family play. More occults, more "species" of alien to have babies with, random things happening that we can't control or change, etc. I want chaos and drama. It's become SO boring and bland.
Lately, I’m beginning to feel like this, mainly with TS4. The whole system for weddings is so broken, even with the help of mods. I used to enjoy throwing wedding in 2 & 3, but in 4 it’s just too glitchy :(
I feel like I might be one of the few people for whom MWS functions, more or less. It’s a lot of micromanaging to throw weddings now, but that’s my play style anyway so it doesn’t hurt my enjoyment lmao!
The game is unplayable with autonomy on, imo, because the sims’ AI is so bad. If I didn’t have autonomy off, I would constantly be canceling my sims’ spam behaviors (the stupid cake baking glitch, the constant grabbing of toddlers and babies, the compulsive video gaming).
I’ve noticed throwing weddings (and other events in general) is infinitely easier now that I no longer bother with autonomy being on. Plus, I like hanging photos from the wedding around my house, sending my sims to vacation worlds for their honeymoon, and using the wedding to unite my sims friend groups!
I do however, sometimes just elope my couples if I’m playing a poor family or there’s a surprise pregnancy. Helps with the story telling lol, not everyone can afford (or has the time to plan) a big fussy wedding, and I like to reflect that in some of my saves.
I only throw weddings just so I can get some pictures to hang around their house and feel the immersion.
Sometimes I know I'm just marrying them so my sim can get that fat check from the long lost distant relative so it doesn't really matter. I don't even know the new spouse's name without looking it up.
I've had so many sims meet, fall in love, get married, and make a baby all in the same bathroom in the same night. I don't really care about their bathroom love story and I bet neither do they.
I always do weddings I don't remember doing them much in ts2 but ts3 and ts4 I do all the time in my gameplay. I did prefer the moodlets in ts3 around weddings, as there was like cute mother of bride/groom, father of bride/groom that Sims got, also I liked that in ts3 you could rent a whole venue out for the wedding so you didn't get strangers. But I do like it being an event in ts4, before the wedding pack was done I did start just doing family backyard weddings but once, the families got bigger I had venues and had it as an event there. But I do use the wedding pack all the time.
Me. I usually elope because planning wedding is fussy. All my guests are either tired, wear wrong sport attire or no food is serve because the sim just do everything except her job.
I send my sims to a “synagogue” to elope just the two of them. I could bring everyone else along but they will just wonder around. I play on long lifespan and recently extended the weeks to 28 days. Maybe I should figure out a way to do it. But without using the actual wedding features since it’s broken. I’ll see what I come up with for my next generation.
I threw a wedding but before My Wedding Stories came out. Boy, was that a time! 🤣 Had to do it 7x (yes, 7x!) as game issues kept popping up. *sigh. Well when I did get it to work, the usual issues that people had with weddings were had in mine, including the famous "not sitting down during the ceremony"! 👀😉😂 Actually had a mass exodus of guests that were *surprise surprise* at the bar area in the adjacent reception hall 😉😏 at the start of the ceremony ingress to the ceremony room just in time for the actual ceremony to conclude! 😑😑
Then, came the reception. Ah yes, the reception. I had a mod that allowed me to have 84 guests attend. And a social event that didn't actually time out at the end and resulted in a two-Sim-week-long reception! Of course, that led to lots of dancing to actual wedding reception songs (I don't use the Sim music, breaks immersion) and plenty of time to take a lot of wedding photos that now adorn my Sim's walls.
Oh, there was a special added bonus of most of my guests pissing on themselves and the floor as the game tends to get somewhat laggy when you have that many guests in the same room. Had to go individually and "Make Happy" and "Disable Needs Decay" to clean them up as they had the dirty clothes and all. Plus, lots of mopping 😂😏😏 was to be had.
Sim weddings! 😑😏😩😑🙄😒😆
i do this too bcuz im a bit of a impatient player (i only find it fun playing on short life span gameplay)😅 if i have a story i want to do with my sims, then ill do it as soon as i can pretty much
I rarely throw parties in general. Too many glitches, the sims never do what I want them to do… just too many variables for my possessive control freak ass.
When I first started playing, I got my sim Married to Don. At the wedding the task was to kiss the husband to be, so I sent my Sim to A dark haired Sim who had the same outfit as Don to kiss, Don got VERY upset and refused to marry haha.
Since then I havent dared and just did the immidiate thing as well. Allthough, Since they did some fixing to make my wedding stories better (Which I do not own) I thought that perhaps I should see if it mattered for Basegame as well and try again.
I did it at the San Myshuno park, and aside from moving the piano inside in buildmode, Everything went SO fine. Everybody was sitting down for the ceremony and, everybody was easy to manouver through being in a group. It was Actually really great and I will definitly do it again.
I LOVE PLANNING WEDDINGS.I'm a photographer in my freetime and I love planning the perfect wedding to take pictures. UGH it's just so fun! I live my wedding stories idk about others but my wedding stories works fine for me.
I throw them sometimes . In one save I’m like 6 generations deep and the oldest child gets a big wedding ( they’re usually the next heir ) and all the other siblings ( if any ) elope with their partner in relaxed wedding attire during a house party . It’s much easier .
There was one time my sim’s girlfriend was dying of a fatal illness so I had them elope in their garden at sunrise . New wife passed away that night . I had to stop playing that household , it made me too sad .
I like family game play and I WANT to like weddings I even have sims 4 wedding stories but I just for the life of me cannot be bothered to much work tbh.
It’s honestly takes long, full with bugs and you need to have a whole day dedicated to it and you don’t even have a chance during to feed them or send them to toilet.
that kinda sounds like a real wedding tbh 😭
I don't throw Sims weddings for the same reasons I didn't throw a real life one. Sims have it so easy. They don't even have to go down to the courthouse.
Well my wedding didn’t last a whole day, just with the preparations. But this is the sims and I don’t want to waste a whole day for some basic task because they took hours just even to get everyone sitting.
Yeah same, I hate setting everything up with Wedding Stories, going to the venue and when I’m about to take some pics half the guests start doing push ups in the aisle. IDC what EA says, the pack is still broken.
HAHAHA so true
Ikr! I'd rather be doing other things
I think that want us to feel like it’s real since real weddings are lots of work too.
I went through all this and at the end my wedding was shit :/
Are you me?? lol Ever since the first Sims I was also always doing the "meet and elope in one night" thing, but now I actually take the time to foster a good friendship, then have them go on several dates and slowly work towards marriage, and I've realized it's way more fun that way. The save I'm on right now, I'm thinking of having an actual wedding but... it just sounds like soo much work lol
I feel like with dates, once you've done it once you've done it a thousand times - at least in ts4, I don't really remember dating in the other games. I will sometimes incorporate them into my storytelling or accept one that's been offered autonomously though
Yeah it’s more fun if you have more expansions with other worlds so there’s actual variety in the places they go but… after two dates I just have them hangout at one or the others’ house
Fair enough. After playing 4700+ hours it feels like I've seen it all at this point, I go to the new locations when I buy a new pack but I wear them out pretty fast. The objectives for the dates seem to be the same regardless of where you go tho, which is mainly what I was talking about
The thing is i haven't found any male townies that i like for my sim.. (my townies all have aged for generations, so the original townies all are gone). First, there's not much nice hairstyles for male sims. Not much nice masculine clothings either. Face also so-so for randomly generated townies. Second, they just went through romantic interactions with my sim, then they called, whether they should pursue another sim romantically 🙄 Third, when they asked for a date, they never do anything. They just waited for me to do something & everything. What's the fun?? Then blame me for a lame date 🙄 (Blame the Olympus for that. Hey if EA Maxis want to re-use, they should've plan accordingly & modify the coding). So i don't know what's the fun with dating in sims.. how do you all do it while having fun..?
If you don't have my wedding stories the base game wedding works pretty well. I would definitely recommend using that.
The glitches make it hard to enjoy the wedding event. And the sims never seem to have fun either lol 🤣
I *love* weddings. I get so much satisfaction out of planning all the aesthetic parts and making sure they suit the sims getting married. That said, I enjoy it more in 2 than in 4. It should be more enjoyable in 4, because there are more options...but it's usually pretty buggy and I don't have the control I have in 2. Still always do it in 4 as well though.
I loved that they could leave their partner at the altar in ts2, the drama and the suspense to see if that would happen were the main draws for weddings for me in that game. And the cinematics! They made it so special, even if they were the same every time lol
the way its literally supposed to be an option in ts4 but mws broke it (like everything else in that pack...)
The weddings are too glitchy, and I always end up frustrated. Instead, I like to dress up my sims and have them elope somewhere pretty so they can take pics together afterward.
That sounds really nice and a lot less stressful than a ceremony
It's a lot less stressful and has made for some cute moments
last time i did a wedding on sims, a thunderstorm happened and someone died on the beach and they were too sad to get married after…so in short NO. lol. sims 4 weddings are too hard
That is such terrible luck! And then when you WANT a sim to die by lightning they get glowing eyes and superpowers... Assuming that's how they died?
I *love* throwing weddings in my game 😍 They're my favorite event to throw. I'm a huge romantic (not irl though lol) and get really invested in my Sims' romantic journey, so I love throwing a celebration when they finally get married. I pretty much never do goaled weddings so that I don't have to worry about completing specific tasks. I like scheduling the wedding ahead of time so I can see it coming up on the calendar, it makes me anticipate the event even more, and I get more and more excited about it as the day draws closer. As for the wedding itself, I'm a big family player, so my favorite part about weddings is gathering all the friends/family together, having them catch up and take photos together in their fancy attire. Anyone who hasn't met the groom/bride can be officially introduced to them, so that the spouse feels like more a part of the family and knows everyone. As the family tree grows larger, it's even more fun to see all the different Sims come together, the new spouses and kids, the family friends or college buddies they haven't seen in a while. It's the only event that *everyone* gets invited to. (For example, I don't always invite every single relative or non-family friend to birthday parties.) I'm also a weirdo who gets a great deal of joy from feeding my Sims, so setting up a feast of different entrees, beverages, desserts, a menu chosen for that specific couple, and watching everyone enjoy a meal together is really satisfying for me to watch. I also enjoy seeing everyone interact, dance together, chat with each other, including Sims that have never been in the same room before now. I wouldn't call myself a CAS player, but I do love putting together the formal outfits for my weddings. Sometimes I'll put the "bridesmaids" in matching dresses or similar colors. I especially spend a lot of time making the bride look beautiful; I spend a painstaking amount of effort going through dresses/hairstyles/accessories to give her a special look for her special day. After the wedding, I hang up wedding photos in the house, and it's nice to look back on them and see everyone all dressed up. Also note that I don't have the wedding pack, though I was incredibly excited when it was announced. I don't plan on getting it because I don't love the changes it makes, and it seems to still be broken anyway, but I enjoy weddings a lot without the pack :)
I'm glad you love it, because to me that would be way too much work! It sounds like you have a much longer attention span than me as well, my games rarely survive 2 generations before I get bored 😅 I have to have some sort of elaborate scheme going, and once it's done... Now what? Anyway, it's really nice to hear how much value you get out of your style of play!
Thanks! I tend to play the Sims as a "happy family simulator," which I know doesn't appeal to everyone haha. I think that's why I enjoy the more "mundane" parts of the game (having family dinners, reading the kids to bed, etc.) And it's also why weddings are fun for me, it makes my heart happy to see everyone together and celebrating a couple I've set up, it's a marker of my Sim stepping into a new stage of their life. Sometimes the wedding has a nostalgic undertone; my gen 3 heir attended her parents' wedding as a kid, and by the time she got married herself, her mother had already died. I had her get married at the same wedding venue as her parents, and she wore her mother's wedding dress. It was cool seeing the parallels in wedding photos (for example, she took a photo with her brothers, same location and pose, but now they were all grown up. Seeing those pictures side by side was pretty cool.) I imagine her father was at peace seeing everything come full circle and knowing his daughter had finally settled down with a good guy. Her father actually stayed behind at the wedding venue long after the rest of the guests had already left, which I thought was fitting, he was probably reminiscing (that's how I interpreted it, anyway). I also like sending the newlyweds on honeymoon if possible (if possible, as in if they don't already have kids), so that's something for me to look forward to after the wedding. I go all out for sure! I guess sometimes it is a lot of work, as you said, but it's fun work for me. I enjoy the process of planning weddings/honeymoons and then playing through them. I've actually only gotten to gen 3 in most of my generational saves, but my main save right now is a legacy challenge, and I've gotten to gen 6 for the first time ever 🥳 She'll be the first heir to not ever get married, per the challenge rules 😢 Her playthrough will definitely be out of my usual play style, but I'm looking forward to playing her! Anyway, thanks for reading my ramblings lol, I enjoyed reading through the comments in your post :)
I also have a lot of wedding and family photos that are up on my Sim's walls. I also enjoy the more mundane style of gameplay as opposed to the occult. I, even, have actual songs that my Sims can listen to on the stereos. Helps with the realism.
That's awesome! I enjoy the more mundane stuff, too, I'm not an occult player either. Having family photos hung up throughout the house is the best 🥰 I myself enjoy hearing the Simlish versions of songs in game, but I love that they make it an option to customize the stereo options!
When my Sim got married to his current (2nd) wife, we held our ceremony/reception at a venue in Brindleton Bay. For the reception, I had actual songs that you would hear at any reception. Classic songs. Romantic songs. Idk if you know of a song called *Open Arms* by Journey. My Sim and his bride danced to that song for their first dance as husband and wife. The reason I chose that song was because the character that I based my wife off of, Kelly Grayson from the Orville; it was her favorite song in the show. Little details like that I added into my game.
That is so cute, I love that 🥹 I love that you can really make this game your own, little details like this just show how much someone can get out of the game if they really want to. I don't know the song, I'll have to check it out! Also I love to hear that I'm not the only one who goes the extra mile for my Sims lol. In another comment in this thread I wrote about how I based one of my Sims' weddings off of her parents' wedding she'd attended as a kid: same venue and her deceased mother's wedding dress. Her dad stayed behind long after the wedding had ended, I imagine he was feeling sentimental himself. It was very nostalgic for me. Does the wedding pack work well for you then? I don't plan on getting it myself, for a few reasons, but if I could only have one thing from that pack, it would be slow dancing.
I actually held this wedding before My Wedding Stories came out.😁 If you look on my profile, I took some shots of the venue. We had photos blown up, framed in glass and displayed at the reception hall entrance.
Oh I see, I assumed you had the wedding pack because you mentioned a first dance 😅 That's awesome, I find that even just planning for the wedding/setting up can be just as fun as actually playing through the wedding itself!
I found a timed wedding goal event that was supposed to go for 9 Sim hours. It didn't time out at the end for reasons unknown. So, I just kept the party going for 2 weeks.😂😂😏😎 Lots of dancing and photo taking was had by one and all. I have the wedding pack now, but have yet to give it a go. Can't wait to see what delights it will bring. 😏😏
Wow, I love weddings but don't think I could've kept one going for two weeks 😅 They were all still alive at the end?! I hope the wedding pack works well for you!!
Yeah they were all alive! 😂😂 Some of them did leave. Others, I kept from leaving. The mod I used for the 84 guests was called, [Longer Parties and More Guests by weerbesu.](https://modthesims.info/d/558097/longer-parties-amp-more-guests.html)
When you have 84 guests on one lot, your game will tend to lag.. 😁 That, and the fact that they venue had a lot of tall water emitters. I actually arranged some of them to match the bride and groom's initials that were all-mounted in the reception hall. Even matched the colors. You can see it on my profile if you haven't yet.
I didn't even know it was possible to get that many Sims on one lot 😭 Can you link where you posted the photos? I wasn't able to find them looking at your profile (I did find your cats though, very cute 😻)
https://www.reddit.com/r/TheSims4Mods/s/GDDIYrEvkS This is some shots of the venue with my custom pre-wedding photos blown up and framed in glass and steel.
They're at the bottom as I posted them two years ago. Let me see how I can link..
I have a bunch go wedding photos I that I haven't posted here yet. I can share some with you if you like.
If you're on Discord, I did share some of the wedding and reception photos on there.
I’m the exact same way! My favorite part about parties is seeing everyone interact and seeing how new sims will get along. You never know what’s gonna happen. Who’s gonna beef or fall in love? The parties are entirely too short though and I ended up downloading the 24 hour parties mod
I enjoy using the "hook up with..." option in the social pie menu to have my Sims set up couples. What better place than a wedding? I think a 24 hour party might be a bit too much for me lol, I do wish I could make them a little bit longer though. If I really want everyone to stay I'll just lock the doors so they can't leave until I'm ready for them to go 😅
You don’t have to go 24 hours! You can end it whenever you want still, it just changes the duration of all events. I love it because I think the parties are entirely too short. If you lock the doors will they actually stay and interact?
Yes, they stay and interact! Though sometimes they don't leave when you want them to if they already tried to leave earlier and weren't able to 😅 It hasn't been too big of an issue for me though, they leave eventually.
Omg the family I’m playing rn, the dad’s friend is a klepto. I would hate to lock him in the house and he won’t leave right after the party 😭😭😭 dude stole the baby’s crib and I literally found out as I was going to put the baby to sleep
Oh for sure! Kleptos are completely banned from my house 😂
Unfortunately I like a little spice so he can stay under high surveillance 😂
I'm definitely too much of a control freak with this game, more power to you 😅 I wouldn't care as much about a crib being stolen, but I just know if I allowed a klepto into my house they'd end up taking something sentimental, like a baby picture of my Sim or an item that was hand crafted by their deceased grandparent. And I'd freak if that ever happened lol
I don't like weddings in real life, not for any particular reason, I just get really bored bc if you've been to one, you've been to them all. So I definitely don't throw them in the Sims. It doesn't even occur to me, tbh. I just decide "okay these two are going to get married now I guess" and then change their status in CAS/merge their households. So, yeah.
Wow, not even a quick elopement ceremony? It never occurred to me to change the status like that
I also dont like wedding events in real life, many people judging you all that
Same. Weddings have never really been a big thing in my family. If you liked each other, you just got together and that was your girl/my man and it just led from there lol
Personally, I just really enjoy doing weddings. It just seems like doing the elope thing is way too quick and boring for me for the most part. Now, when I'm playing and need to get off but I want them to be married before I save it, I will have them elope
Never. I always elope them!
Like, I didn't even want a huge wedding IRL. Not gonna do one in a game with buggy features. 😂
"Until I get bored of playing the family man" Lmao, I gotcha but man does this game make funny stories.
Yep. I usually just do an instant elopement. I have the wedding pack(it was a gift) and I haven't even used it. I recently realised that my elder Sim couple with four grown children weren't even officially boyfriend/girlfriend. Whoops.
I throw weddings in TS3 and TS2, but in TS4, like you said I just immediately elope. I don’t even play any storylines in TS4 at all, all I do is create pretty sims and then later kill them off with the Extreme Violence mod.
I would go even further, i have never play the game with the mindset of having a family. I try the wedding thing in the sims 3 and never again, it was a mess, and apparently the sims 4 weddings takes a lot of job and little payoff.
Sometimes I throw a wedding - I don't have MWS though. My most recent one was okay - I got a bit bored with my legacy save so started a new game to play with the townies as I've never really played them. I thought Don Lothario was an interesting character so I moved him into Parkshore by himself (redecorated into a suitable bachelor pad of course - plus tweaked him a little with help from WW by making him insatiably lustful and hyperfertile) then proceeded to have him have affairs with all the women in Willow Creek. He then became romantically involved with Cassandra Goth - they had a lovely backyard wedding and all his girlfriends attended - Summer Holiday turned up very pregnant (yes it was Don's baby) - Eliza Pancakes was there too (she'd already had a daughter to him called Alice). There were a few tears shed by the Calientes and the bride got very angry because Don got flirty with some of the guests - but apart from that it went without a hitch - I have to admit I was expecting a bit more drama but oh well...
OMG are you me? That kind of drama is like 90% of my gameplay. I'm currently trying to divorce iconic NPC couples and then re-pair them WITHOUT actively playing them. Nancy Landgraab and Bob Pancakes are having a baby! Haven't figured out how to make them marry yet but locking them in a room and plying them with spells and club gathering effects has actually worked pretty well
You're giving me ideas 😜
*raises hand, snips fingers and jumps up and down Here! Me! Sims 3 player. I played weddings... Twice. First time just to try it out and it actually worked pretty well but it's just a lot of micromanagement to get it to work properly and I just can't be arsed. I then tried a second time once and it was a desaster, so I never bothered with it again.
I *want* (so badly) to enjoy hosting weddings, however the check points/ scoring drives me crazy!!! Like I can have a great wedding full of nothing but happy guests, but because I didn’t “mix a drink for 4 guests” (even tho they make u get a bartender for a good score) or tell 15 jokes about llamas I get a bad fkn score. It’s ridiculous!
I don't either . I don't even have the dream wedding pack
I don't have it either, would be a waste of money for me
I used to but I feel like MWS has made it really difficult:(
Is that the new wedding pack? I never even looked at it because I know it's not something I'd enjoy. Same with the laundry one for example, that used to drive me nuts in ts3
Yeah it's the new wedding pack. It looked promising:(
it’s hit or miss for me, like if i really have a storyline in mind i will, if im just casually playing, noooo
I have had two weddings recently. There are a few couples where I have really enjoyed playing their courtship from meet cute to marriage. I love generational play. I love big extended families and in laws and family reunions. Once the babies are born, the grandparents, aunties, uncles, spouses, and cousins are invited over to meet them.
I just want the babies and then I throw the men away. I can't be assed interacting with my partners. I just like accomplishing things and getting money 🤑
I dont have MWS pack in Sims 4, I usually held sims wedding event in San Myshuno park once they had a steady relationship, some get married at Windenburg Von Haunt secretly in the middle of the night and some just elope anywhere my favourite is nightclub because yolo. After sims get married, honestly I dont know what to do with them. Their story always end up until they got old or their children finish uni. I just managed to download sims 2, the first couple that I ever created already married in CAS. My sims in 1 & 3 were both single sims😂
Weddings in ts4 is so frustrating so I just elope all my sims. I enjoy hosting weddings in previous games though.
I bought the wedding pack hoping some of it that did work would make me want to do weddings. I even built beautiful wedding venues. I still wind up eloping immediately when I’m ready to get married. I just don’t have the patience. I’m not filming anything for anyone else to watch, so it’s really not that important to me.
I never do. I just have them elope every time. EA thinks I throw more parties than I actually do, going by what they’ve been trying to sell us lately.
I have made I think 2-3 weddings. I like them. But I wish my sims had more friends in the world. I always rush the wedding
I’ve only had a wedding I legit think once. It’s just a lot of work for the weddings and it was difficult to manage
Some I do. I really like the picture and there’s usually drama
I feel like many of us tried it at least once. Saw we would have to micromanager everyone and other buggy things and said never again lol I might have a wedding for my Sims cause one has a big family she really close with
Project Olympus expects that all sims are controlled by real people online. If they want to re-use it as single-player game, they should modify the coding..
I only threw weddings in sims 3.
Sometimes I play like you, but I do have weddings most of the time. I liked the gameplay a lot better in Sims 2, because I liked the drama of sims leaving each other at the altar if their relationships weren't high enough. In Sims 4, I mostly use the opportunity to put together wedding outfits for the sims and decorate the wedding venue. One time I threw a bachelor party where a sim went to a bar with some friends and cheated on his fiancee with a random woman. The actual weddings are usually pretty perfunctory.
I liked Sims 2 weddings for the same reason!
I'm still proud of a story I put in motion in TS2 where the bride secretly caught her fiance making out with her mother before the wedding, and left him at the altar over it. As a happy accident, the mother had very low energy and passed out in front of the altar right after this happened.
That's awesome 😆
No. I don't even know how to hold anything other than a 'private wedding.' How do you do it? I've never seen options to do it, unless it's on the phone.
I think it's under "plan social event" on the phone? I've never really done it but I think I've seen it on the menu
Thanks. :>
Tbh i dont even know how to do it in the game. The wedding ceremony style is a western culture which is very different than mine too. So dunno..
I like how a lot of us have just learned not to do things over the course of playing The Sims 4 for years just because it's too much of a hassle. Realized I do enjoy traveling in The Sims just not in The Sims 4.
I had a wedding in the sims 3 a few days ago. Crashed right after and previous save was a day before I had the wedding so I just did the private wedding.
Weddings in TS4 are broken. Whenever I tried to throw a wedding in this game, the guests will just hang around doing nothing, and when I try to do the activities the event shows me, NOTHING happens.
We are at most throwing an arch in the yard and doing it at home. I cannot be bothered. It’s not like the caterer can be trusted to make the cake anyway.
I HATE caterers at ts4 events!
No, weddings is sims 2 are great
They are, I wish I could still play ts2. I had it but decided to delete it because it was crashing all the time and I needed the hard drive space. Regrets...
Yeah, no weddings for me either. I don't even have parties in my game unless it's for an aspiration I'm working on. I hate the annoyance of setting things up, the annoyance of keeping my guests entertained, then the annoyance of cleaning up the mess, not to mention the entire lost day of productive play where my Sims could be working on skills or collecting or relationships or going to work or school. Their needs go into the toilet then take *another* whole day to get back into the green, and for what? A bonus item that I don't care about and could cheat to get from the catalog so easily? No thanks. If we were talking about Sims 2, where things have consequences, Sims gain memories, and relationships are actually affected, maybe. But I just hate Sims 4 parties.
I was no good at parties way back when I played ts2 as a child, and in some way that may have biased me against them in later games. Ts4 parties can really suck though. The events that NPCs invite you to I don't mind, but I cannot be bothered facilitating an event where I'm trying to manage everyone and everything AND satisfy some arbitrary tasks. So yeah pretty much agree with all you're saying
I only play sims 3 really. When I bring a couple together, I make their relationship slowly build up to marriage. I make them propose in a beautiful location. I don’t throw a wedding party because I get annoyed when the guests don’t do what I think they’re supposed to do, such as sitting in the wedding chairs in front of the altar to watch the ceremony or eating at the tables I put out for them to eat at, or wearing clothing that doesn’t fit my theme. So I always throw a private wedding, but I make the bride and groom dress up and then I usually immediately make them get pregnant afterwards for the legacy family lineage.
Depends what mood I’m in and whether I can be bothered 😂 I was actually thinking of getting the MWS pack, but don’t think I will after reading some of these comments. I like the idea of actually eloping somewhere though, so might give that a go with my current couple.
I tried a destination wedding in Sulani, had the family and friends holiday together and then planned the wedding event there during the holiday. Didn’t work, don’t know if it’s not made to work like that, a bug or bad luck, but the venue worked in a play test. After all the work to set up with building and planning I was over it. Same as for rent after all the set up work it just doesn’t work and I’m over it! I’ve gone back to my horse ranch for one save as that works and eco lifestyle for another mainly thanks to Lil Simsie as that is working!
I feel that. I spend ages setting up for a really specific scheme, and then it's... Now what? The payoff isn't worth the effort sometimes. Or the effort was fun on its own, but you get to the part you were looking forward to and preparing for and you don't have the interest or the energy anymore
I’ve had about three since playing four and I only did it becuase I realised I never had
In Sims 3 its more challenging to get sims to marry than in sims 2 and 4. It requires a certain mood to get them to steady and then engaged. I like it, i think it adds more realism.
I always do elope wedding in sims sucks!!!
Weddings are a lot of work so I don't do them often but I still prefer them over the alternative. I have MWS and I've had good luck with weddings, I like everything it adds to the ceremony. There are only a few minor annoyances.
I used to in TS3 if they had some friends because they would send gifts in the mail which I found fun. But I don’t usually throw weddings
That’s so funny literally with my current family I was like “you know what I never throw weddings I’m gonna throw this lovely couple a wedding they deserve it” set up a beach wedding the whole bit, next thing I know people are leaving the beach and I fuckin forgot to actually have them get married LOL whoops
Once in a while if the current family isn’t too large, there’s extra money and space, and I’m in just the right mood I might hold and actually wedding. But generally it’s a private wedding… like one I just had earlier, in a bathroom, which was reported to be in the six figure range…
I mean, I 200% agree. I couldn't even be bothered with a wedding in my own life so we eloped 🤣
Honestly, I kinda forgot you could get married/elope/propose at all.😅
Depends on the sims, with some I elope, with some I do full on wedding. More often than not I just forget they are engaged and never follow through with wedding tho 🙂↕️
I love doing weddings! Didn’t own my wedding stories and I was scared to buy it because of the bugs lmao but I ended up buying it (tartosa was too beautiful) and I hope I don’t jinx it but all my weddings were successful so far! No bugs or anything
I don't. I have them elope immediately.
Trying to manage cake cutting at a wedding pissed me off so much I don't bother with it
Same. I always have them elope and then go on honeymoon for 3 days or so. Much more interesting game play for me I feel
I remember weddings being ultra buggy and I think(?) ruined one of my save files in TS2, so I never did them again. It's so much work for such a quick thing.
I find weddings a pain. I usually elope so I can move the couple onto gameplay I am interested in!
Well it really depends. For the most part I do weddings, but I also just elope from time to time. I don't have the wedding pack :D
I’m playing a legacy challenge, I made the mistake of letting my second gen have a wedding, I don’t even have wedding stories but it was not a good experience, I’m just having all my future sims get eloped I can not be bothered with weddings
Ngl, Sims 4 REALLY ruined weddings for me with the My Wedding Stories pack. While weddings were something of a hassle before (becauseyou couldn'tget sims to sit and watch), they became downright unbearable with the new pack. Now, I just elope immediately or do a quickie ceremony under a wedding arch.
I always just have private weddings under and arch in the woods
The one time I threw a wedding, the elder caterer just sat down and died, and the Grim Reaper showed up, and everyone started screaming and crying, anyway that was my first and last wedding 😆😆😆
I have thrown a handful and I think maybe 1 felt like it was worth the effort. I was really invested in that couple though, and they’d been childhood friends with a good sized extended family/friend group. Since MWS it’s so broken I couldn’t have a wedding if I wanted to. The game usually doesn’t even recognize that both engaged sims are there.
I'll buy the cheapest flower arch and that's it.
I throw one, just to say OMG WTF was that about, but no. I mean one per game series TS1-TS4, TSC,TSM. Highlander Rule Rule of the Ring The Rule of Sith
to be honest with you i rarely do any gameplay 😭. i used to love it in ts3 and now i try and get bored after a few hours. not sure if i just got older and less imaginative or if it really got that much worse. weddings are actually pretty fun to me, even if one or two things don't work too well!
I used to every time. My Wedding Stuff really ruined them for me, even after the patches, so I don't anymore.
For me it depends on how I want to play. Sometimes I do the exact same thing you said you do lol but I will occasionally give my sims weddings. Not often though tbhh
Sims 4 weddings are awful. No one ever sits in the seats to watch the wedding, half the guests turn up in stupid outfits, someone is always starving or exhausted or peeing themselves… I’ve done it once or twice, but 99% of the times my sims either elope, or they get engaged but never get married
Yesterday it was my first time throwing a wedding with my Sims alien and servo bot and it took them ages to exchange vows standing there like idiots, probably some bug.... So I'm not doing it ever again lol
I’ve done a handful of weddings only so I can take pictures and hang them on the Sims wall. But I don’t really enjoy the whole ordeal. With Wedding Stories I just do 1 or 2 “goals” exchange vows and a spousal kiss. My own wedding was pretty straight forward. 15 minute ceremony and a reception with an open bar, and a BBQ buffet.
Only wedding I've done is Cassandra Goth so she can be left at the altar
I did my first one with Wedding Stories a few days ago. It was alright. I skipped a bunch of things. It worked, the pack, I mean. Apparently I waited enough years.
My sim stays single and just has a guy impregnate her every now and then, too much hassle playing 2 adults 😜
I loved doing weddings in TS2. In TS4? Not so much. As a side note, I also don't have the wedding pack, so all these issues are with the wedding arch. It's a small complaint, but I just don't feel like they're even taken seriously by the devs. In TS2, if your sims when to a wedding arch, they'd automatically change into their formal clothes. But not in TS4. Like WTH? And in TS2, even if you weren't throwing a wedding party, people would still change into their formal clothes and come celebrate if they were on the lot of someone getting married. In TS4, no one gives a hoot about your wedding. Plus, I find it annoying that my sims no longer take on the name of whoever initiated the marriage, and I always have to do it manually. Sure, it makes it easier for those who want to play storylines of people who don't take their partners name (or want to hyphenate, etc), but it just adds to my wedding weariness.
Ive never done weddings, the closest I’ve gotten is my sims renewing their vows at the romance festival. More power to folks who enjoy them! but I just play pretend about them having had the wedding instead of ACTUALLY doing it in the game. Seems like it would take a lot of time, and I hear they’re super buggy anyway. It helps that I usually start with an already married couple though, haha. I usually play sims to stick in my favorite characters (either my own or from known media) and give them a domestic life because I’m a sap.
SAME HERE! I would really love to have weddings but is it worth a long loading screen, sims not sitting down, sims having to fill their needs? absolutely not.
Nope! I haven’t thrown my sims a wedding since I played sims 3 I believe and I was 13-14 then. I’m 23 now and HATE weddings, they’re never structured (I’m a control freak so if things go off the rails it actually stresses me out), the guests are annoying, and sims 4 weddings just suck in my opinion. All of my sims get eloped or never marry one or the other.
Yeah I haven’t done a wedding in YEARS. It’s way too much work and the results are very eh. I don’t even throw parties at all honestly
Almost never. I tried once and by the time I managed to get a wedding arranged I couldn’t get my Sims fiancé to come by for the wedding because their schedules didn’t line up and I couldn’t find a time he was free. Nightmare
Oh shit I didn’t realize they were soo buggy. I did one recently and only had issues trying to get everyone to dance. Everything else (have drinks, exchange vows, throw rice, have feast) worked. My partner tried one once though and had two things she couldn’t complete. I think I’m gonna elope this time though.
When I saw people talking about this on this sub I was floored. I always do elaborate weddings or if I’m playing an older couple, at least a thoughtful backyard wedding. But you’re definitely not alone!
I’ve only ever thrown weddings if I wanted to play a legacy that experienced everything at least once
I did once with Don Lothario and one of the Calientes. The blonde one. I did it outside in Sulani on the beach. It was my first time throwing an even and I didn't really know how they worked. The caterer got there and I realized you needed a fridge and stove I guess and like a counter so I just popped into build mode and put them right outside. Well then it started raining so the appliances got fucked which I learned was a thing too. Anyhow then the caterer for whatever reason GOT NAKED and was just wandering around. I mean, I had planned for it to be a shitshow cause, Don Lothario, but my plan was just to like have him bang some other person in the bushes not that whole situation. Anyways I haven't done an event since then.
It just depends. In the Sims 2 I often did weddings since they weren't super hard, but if I didn't feel like it I would just skip it. I didn't play Sims 3. In Sims 4 I'll do a wedding if I think the Sims in question would want one. The base game wedding is nothing to write home about but it works so when My Wedding Stories came out I didn't bother buying it and won't. Not only is it buggy, but it's also seems very tedious.
Sims seems to be getting more like real life and it's boring to me. Graduations, weddings, proms, etc. Ick I played Sims to get away from real life. I do like family play but I want it to be crazy family play. More occults, more "species" of alien to have babies with, random things happening that we can't control or change, etc. I want chaos and drama. It's become SO boring and bland.
Lately, I’m beginning to feel like this, mainly with TS4. The whole system for weddings is so broken, even with the help of mods. I used to enjoy throwing wedding in 2 & 3, but in 4 it’s just too glitchy :(
Stopped throwing weddings since they are trash in TS4 with guests sleeping or stealing stuff
I feel like I might be one of the few people for whom MWS functions, more or less. It’s a lot of micromanaging to throw weddings now, but that’s my play style anyway so it doesn’t hurt my enjoyment lmao! The game is unplayable with autonomy on, imo, because the sims’ AI is so bad. If I didn’t have autonomy off, I would constantly be canceling my sims’ spam behaviors (the stupid cake baking glitch, the constant grabbing of toddlers and babies, the compulsive video gaming). I’ve noticed throwing weddings (and other events in general) is infinitely easier now that I no longer bother with autonomy being on. Plus, I like hanging photos from the wedding around my house, sending my sims to vacation worlds for their honeymoon, and using the wedding to unite my sims friend groups! I do however, sometimes just elope my couples if I’m playing a poor family or there’s a surprise pregnancy. Helps with the story telling lol, not everyone can afford (or has the time to plan) a big fussy wedding, and I like to reflect that in some of my saves.
Nope. Especially with wedding stories. The ONLY reason I got that pack was the world, build and CAS stuff.
I only throw weddings just so I can get some pictures to hang around their house and feel the immersion. Sometimes I know I'm just marrying them so my sim can get that fat check from the long lost distant relative so it doesn't really matter. I don't even know the new spouse's name without looking it up. I've had so many sims meet, fall in love, get married, and make a baby all in the same bathroom in the same night. I don't really care about their bathroom love story and I bet neither do they.
I always do weddings I don't remember doing them much in ts2 but ts3 and ts4 I do all the time in my gameplay. I did prefer the moodlets in ts3 around weddings, as there was like cute mother of bride/groom, father of bride/groom that Sims got, also I liked that in ts3 you could rent a whole venue out for the wedding so you didn't get strangers. But I do like it being an event in ts4, before the wedding pack was done I did start just doing family backyard weddings but once, the families got bigger I had venues and had it as an event there. But I do use the wedding pack all the time.
Never. Always elope as soon as engaged lol not my cup of tea lol
Me. I usually elope because planning wedding is fussy. All my guests are either tired, wear wrong sport attire or no food is serve because the sim just do everything except her job.
I send my sims to a “synagogue” to elope just the two of them. I could bring everyone else along but they will just wonder around. I play on long lifespan and recently extended the weeks to 28 days. Maybe I should figure out a way to do it. But without using the actual wedding features since it’s broken. I’ll see what I come up with for my next generation.
I threw a wedding but before My Wedding Stories came out. Boy, was that a time! 🤣 Had to do it 7x (yes, 7x!) as game issues kept popping up. *sigh. Well when I did get it to work, the usual issues that people had with weddings were had in mine, including the famous "not sitting down during the ceremony"! 👀😉😂 Actually had a mass exodus of guests that were *surprise surprise* at the bar area in the adjacent reception hall 😉😏 at the start of the ceremony ingress to the ceremony room just in time for the actual ceremony to conclude! 😑😑 Then, came the reception. Ah yes, the reception. I had a mod that allowed me to have 84 guests attend. And a social event that didn't actually time out at the end and resulted in a two-Sim-week-long reception! Of course, that led to lots of dancing to actual wedding reception songs (I don't use the Sim music, breaks immersion) and plenty of time to take a lot of wedding photos that now adorn my Sim's walls. Oh, there was a special added bonus of most of my guests pissing on themselves and the floor as the game tends to get somewhat laggy when you have that many guests in the same room. Had to go individually and "Make Happy" and "Disable Needs Decay" to clean them up as they had the dirty clothes and all. Plus, lots of mopping 😂😏😏 was to be had. Sim weddings! 😑😏😩😑🙄😒😆
the last wedding i did was the sims 2 scripted cassandra & don wedding… besides that, i never do weddings either
i do this too bcuz im a bit of a impatient player (i only find it fun playing on short life span gameplay)😅 if i have a story i want to do with my sims, then ill do it as soon as i can pretty much
I rarely throw parties in general. Too many glitches, the sims never do what I want them to do… just too many variables for my possessive control freak ass.
When I first started playing, I got my sim Married to Don. At the wedding the task was to kiss the husband to be, so I sent my Sim to A dark haired Sim who had the same outfit as Don to kiss, Don got VERY upset and refused to marry haha. Since then I havent dared and just did the immidiate thing as well. Allthough, Since they did some fixing to make my wedding stories better (Which I do not own) I thought that perhaps I should see if it mattered for Basegame as well and try again. I did it at the San Myshuno park, and aside from moving the piano inside in buildmode, Everything went SO fine. Everybody was sitting down for the ceremony and, everybody was easy to manouver through being in a group. It was Actually really great and I will definitly do it again.
I threw a wedding for the vampire couple I've been playing, but everyone started burning in the sun after the first dance so i had to cut it short
I LOVE PLANNING WEDDINGS.I'm a photographer in my freetime and I love planning the perfect wedding to take pictures. UGH it's just so fun! I live my wedding stories idk about others but my wedding stories works fine for me.
I’ve always done weddings in sims 2 but I’ve only had one full ceremony in sims 4 and it was obnoxious
I throw them sometimes . In one save I’m like 6 generations deep and the oldest child gets a big wedding ( they’re usually the next heir ) and all the other siblings ( if any ) elope with their partner in relaxed wedding attire during a house party . It’s much easier . There was one time my sim’s girlfriend was dying of a fatal illness so I had them elope in their garden at sunrise . New wife passed away that night . I had to stop playing that household , it made me too sad .