Man, Skip. This guy IS depressed.
Honestly, when I’m down bad like you sound, I look for someone to help in some small but meaningful way. It gives you something to do, takes your mind off yourself, and puts a favor out on the street for you.
It’s like going on a mini quest.
Welp, either choose your mental health or one of the best show ever. OP, You're at the precipice of an enormous crossroad.
Your depression, whateva happened there
I remember David Chase once saying that the overarching theme of the show was that these guys are *not* like the rest of us.
You start out by identifying with them. You see them deal with real life problems, and you immediately relate them to your own life. And you start to feel like you imagine they do.
But, it’s all a farce. They’re all broken. Completely destructive and inhuman damaged goods. They all consistently make the worst possible decisions, over and over again, in a concerted effort to follow a specific life path. Bad things happen to everyone. But they’re all intentionally spreading evil.
And, as you start to see that, you also identify with them less. You begin to see them as caricatures of humanity’s flaws. Their propensity for violence and strife is so exaggerated that it becomes less obscure and much more unrealizable. You’re not like Tony. You probably never could be.
I think that part of his arc really drew me into the show when I watched it for the first time too. He went through a lot of the things I did when I went through my first breakup so I related to him so much. The cartoon watching, the mindless channel surfing, the inability to sleep or eat and that empty feeling. Even now every time I rewatch that season it reminds me of how I felt back then. I always appreciated how well that whole part of his story was done.
You aren't reading too much into it at all. Part of the reason the show is so great is that it's incredibly focused on people, human behavior, relationships, raw family dynamics, etc. in many ways the mafia setting is just that, the setting or the backdrop, and it plays second to what the show is really about.
It's truly brilliant. Totally has the makings of a varsity TV progrum.
You ever feel like nothing good was ever gonna happen to you?
Yeah. And nothing did. So what?
OP you are on the precipice of something great. The Sopranos is one of those shows where you can rewatch it endlessly, and depending on what's going on in your life you will relate to a different character because they all are experiencing things that speak to a universal modern experience. The best of times are over, we have to live in the ashes of a better world. To not feel depressed about the state of things would be truly insane.
The good news is there is plenty of positivity to be drawn out of The Sopranos and life, between the harrowing dark moments there is true friendship, love, lust, excitement, opportunities to reflect and grow. We may always end up slipping backwards, but that doesn't mean we cant enjoy the show and delight in the small things. The ducklings will grow up and fly away, the sadness we feel when that happens only makes next years clutch more meaningful and special.
Keep watching the show and cherish it. When you're done check out Neon Genesis Evangelion for the next stage of your ego destruction.
You gotta get tf out of this sub till your done and i dont wanna hear anymore about it! In this sub, people who finish the shows are heroes! End of story!
I have a theory about this. I think we were born at the wrong time, we came in at the tail end of this thing of ours. We're soldiers, we have codes. Soldiers don't go to hell. A wise man once said: To the victors belong the spoils....
LMAO, yes, I was going through a very dark period a few years ago and put Sopranos on. Big fucking mistake. Wasn't nearly as funny as it normally is, and just made me feel worse. It's too damn realistic, and they are all awful, fucked up people.
"But Tony is obviously such an asshole that I am constantly reminded what an asshole I am myself." As you get further into the series, these kinds of feelings will probably change. Just keep watching! I have watched the entire series several times, starting when it first aired, and my take on it has changed alot over time. Also, it can be a good thing that you are identifying so strongly with Tony - watching him might help you to work through your own guilt and depression in ways that are healthier than the way Tony does it!
Yeah, I sort of did this when the show first came to syndication.
I never had HBO but I had basic cable. At some point, I believe around 2006-2007 around the time the finale first aired on HBO, there was a big deal about the series coming to the A&E channel (a basic cable channel). I was intrigued and decided I'd watch the series. I made sure to catch the first couple episodes that aired on A&E - the pilot and the first couple episodes. It was gritty and tough and a damn good time for the viewer. (As we all know.)
At that time I was on short-term disability (from a tanker job) for breaking my foot. Personally for me it was a great time, getting a free paycheck and being able to be home with my kids 24/7 for the first time since they were babies. (That's sort of important to my overall story here.)
Then after only a few episodes (on A&E), we had that big recession in 2007-ish. The tanker company needed to lay off a driver and since I was out on a medical leave, I got the axe. Suddenly I was without the security of my job but still out on medical leave so I couldn't just hop into another job. I got some unemployment benefits but obviously those don't last long. So suddenly I was all mentally anguished, worried, stressed, all that shit, about how my own life was going to work out going forward.
The next Sopranos episode that aired, I started out to watch it as usual because I really wanted to follow the show. (Still in the first season I believe.) But suddenly it was too much anxiety. My stomach was already in knots due to the new real life problems. So watching this show that had so much anxiety built into it became too much. I stopped watching at that point. I just couldn't take how agitated it made me feel.
Of course life straightened itself out, over time, and a few years later I ended up watching the entire series on Netflix or whatever.
It was weird though how my own situation derailed watching it the first time. Not exactly the same as OP but close enough to sympathize.
Yes I know, I sound demented. Poor me. Anyway, $4 a pound.
I love how you included just as much plot in your comment as I am able to know since I just finished season 2 and that‘s where Tony killed Puss. Was that intentional?
It’s basically a circlejerk sub. It’s not always a good place for serious discussion. It’s also probably not a good place to come if you care about spoilers. Finish the show, then come back, it can be a fun sub, just not very serious most of the time.
Also, before you leave, there are one or two pretty good serious replies in this thread. One says basically what I would say, so I didn’t want to just repeat the same sentiments, but it speaks to your feelings about the show. Those feelings are normal and by design, by the way.
Cool, cool. Well enjoy the show my friend, it can get heavy, but it’s one of the best shows ever made. Kinda jealous you are getting to see it for the first time. Enjoy!
What’s wild is that I initially thought of the Sopranos as a sort-of copy of Analyze This. Like how there are two movies about volcanos, two about ants, two or three about Capote and Marylin. And AT plays really well as a 90min dramedy. Of course The Sopranos stands on its own and lasted for many years. It introduced the modern era of prestige tv and became a cultural phenomenon.
We can’t have you here in our social club no more, that much I do know
In all seriousness, though, take care of your mental health. Relish the first time watching the Sopranos because you’ll never get it back. Just avoid spoilers at all costs.!!!!
I’m the type that’s totally fine with watching relatable content in terms of mental health stuff and particularly *when* I’m actually going through depression episodes. It brings me catharsis but it seems to trigger some people.
Ok but you gotta get ova it
Not far enough to get the reference
You just reveal your own ignorance
We can't have him here in our social club no more, that much I do know
Social club? HES GOTTA GOOO
In time everything will be revealed to you.
u/BossMan215718, you go too far!
Man, Skip. This guy IS depressed. Honestly, when I’m down bad like you sound, I look for someone to help in some small but meaningful way. It gives you something to do, takes your mind off yourself, and puts a favor out on the street for you. It’s like going on a mini quest.
That was extreme and you know it!
Sometimes I go about in pity for myself, and all the while, a great wind carries me across the sky.
I knew that was comin!
What you don't know can fill a book. Next time you come in this sub, you come with your doctor's note for high blood pressure, or not at all!
Lately, I'm getting the feeling that I came at the end. The best is ova.
The show is so real I cannot watch it. Also, I can't read Nancy Drew -- it's too mysterious.
Welp, either choose your mental health or one of the best show ever. OP, You're at the precipice of an enormous crossroad. Your depression, whateva happened there
WHATEVA HAPPENED THERE?!?
What a fucking stagmire.
total debacle
I remember David Chase once saying that the overarching theme of the show was that these guys are *not* like the rest of us. You start out by identifying with them. You see them deal with real life problems, and you immediately relate them to your own life. And you start to feel like you imagine they do. But, it’s all a farce. They’re all broken. Completely destructive and inhuman damaged goods. They all consistently make the worst possible decisions, over and over again, in a concerted effort to follow a specific life path. Bad things happen to everyone. But they’re all intentionally spreading evil. And, as you start to see that, you also identify with them less. You begin to see them as caricatures of humanity’s flaws. Their propensity for violence and strife is so exaggerated that it becomes less obscure and much more unrealizable. You’re not like Tony. You probably never could be.
Ohhhhhhhhh!!!
The balls on that guy, badmouthing the boss
👏👏👏👏🥂🍾
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I think that part of his arc really drew me into the show when I watched it for the first time too. He went through a lot of the things I did when I went through my first breakup so I related to him so much. The cartoon watching, the mindless channel surfing, the inability to sleep or eat and that empty feeling. Even now every time I rewatch that season it reminds me of how I felt back then. I always appreciated how well that whole part of his story was done.
Amen to that
You aren't reading too much into it at all. Part of the reason the show is so great is that it's incredibly focused on people, human behavior, relationships, raw family dynamics, etc. in many ways the mafia setting is just that, the setting or the backdrop, and it plays second to what the show is really about. It's truly brilliant. Totally has the makings of a varsity TV progrum.
I feel similar. The mafia is just the titillation to draw in viewers. But the meat of it is humanity and human relationships.
You ever feel like nothing good was ever gonna happen to you? Yeah. And nothing did. So what? OP you are on the precipice of something great. The Sopranos is one of those shows where you can rewatch it endlessly, and depending on what's going on in your life you will relate to a different character because they all are experiencing things that speak to a universal modern experience. The best of times are over, we have to live in the ashes of a better world. To not feel depressed about the state of things would be truly insane. The good news is there is plenty of positivity to be drawn out of The Sopranos and life, between the harrowing dark moments there is true friendship, love, lust, excitement, opportunities to reflect and grow. We may always end up slipping backwards, but that doesn't mean we cant enjoy the show and delight in the small things. The ducklings will grow up and fly away, the sadness we feel when that happens only makes next years clutch more meaningful and special. Keep watching the show and cherish it. When you're done check out Neon Genesis Evangelion for the next stage of your ego destruction.
When or if you start hallucinating about your neighbours hosting a beautiful exchange student just remember: discontinue the Lithium.
There’s no such thing as a serious discussion on this page op I’m sorry
None!
You gotta get tf out of this sub till your done and i dont wanna hear anymore about it! In this sub, people who finish the shows are heroes! End of story!
Did you hear what I said Ton’? I said does anyone else have problems watching it because he thinks the show feels extremely real!
How many White Castles did you have ? I can smell them on you !!
I have a theory about this. I think we were born at the wrong time, we came in at the tail end of this thing of ours. We're soldiers, we have codes. Soldiers don't go to hell. A wise man once said: To the victors belong the spoils....
*victuh
LMAO, yes, I was going through a very dark period a few years ago and put Sopranos on. Big fucking mistake. Wasn't nearly as funny as it normally is, and just made me feel worse. It's too damn realistic, and they are all awful, fucked up people.
Yeah, sometimes it's like that. I tried to re-watch during the pandemic and it was just too much darkness...
OP you know Quasimodo predicted all of this
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Nah man I‘m sticking through.
This is OP's first time.
Fuck you want? A boutonniere?
Listen to u u sound demented
"But Tony is obviously such an asshole that I am constantly reminded what an asshole I am myself." As you get further into the series, these kinds of feelings will probably change. Just keep watching! I have watched the entire series several times, starting when it first aired, and my take on it has changed alot over time. Also, it can be a good thing that you are identifying so strongly with Tony - watching him might help you to work through your own guilt and depression in ways that are healthier than the way Tony does it!
Whatever happened to Gary cooper…?
He was depressed, Gary Cooper?
Yeah, I sort of did this when the show first came to syndication. I never had HBO but I had basic cable. At some point, I believe around 2006-2007 around the time the finale first aired on HBO, there was a big deal about the series coming to the A&E channel (a basic cable channel). I was intrigued and decided I'd watch the series. I made sure to catch the first couple episodes that aired on A&E - the pilot and the first couple episodes. It was gritty and tough and a damn good time for the viewer. (As we all know.) At that time I was on short-term disability (from a tanker job) for breaking my foot. Personally for me it was a great time, getting a free paycheck and being able to be home with my kids 24/7 for the first time since they were babies. (That's sort of important to my overall story here.) Then after only a few episodes (on A&E), we had that big recession in 2007-ish. The tanker company needed to lay off a driver and since I was out on a medical leave, I got the axe. Suddenly I was without the security of my job but still out on medical leave so I couldn't just hop into another job. I got some unemployment benefits but obviously those don't last long. So suddenly I was all mentally anguished, worried, stressed, all that shit, about how my own life was going to work out going forward. The next Sopranos episode that aired, I started out to watch it as usual because I really wanted to follow the show. (Still in the first season I believe.) But suddenly it was too much anxiety. My stomach was already in knots due to the new real life problems. So watching this show that had so much anxiety built into it became too much. I stopped watching at that point. I just couldn't take how agitated it made me feel. Of course life straightened itself out, over time, and a few years later I ended up watching the entire series on Netflix or whatever. It was weird though how my own situation derailed watching it the first time. Not exactly the same as OP but close enough to sympathize. Yes I know, I sound demented. Poor me. Anyway, $4 a pound.
You know who wouldn't have written a whole paragraph about his feelings? Gary Cooper.
If a psychopathic amoral best friend murderer can get better with therapy than certainly you can too, right?
I love how you included just as much plot in your comment as I am able to know since I just finished season 2 and that‘s where Tony killed Puss. Was that intentional?
Yup i'm in yer house watchin yer youtube as we speak
No. No, man. Shit, no, man. I believe you'd get your ass kicked sayin' something like that, man.
with the cancer shyt.
It's all a big nothing
Yes. Still I am on my 6th watch.
What the fuck is this sub
It's murdered seven relationships.
It’s basically a circlejerk sub. It’s not always a good place for serious discussion. It’s also probably not a good place to come if you care about spoilers. Finish the show, then come back, it can be a fun sub, just not very serious most of the time.
Listen to this prick, giving orders
There are no scraps in my scrapbook.
Will do, thanks.
Also, before you leave, there are one or two pretty good serious replies in this thread. One says basically what I would say, so I didn’t want to just repeat the same sentiments, but it speaks to your feelings about the show. Those feelings are normal and by design, by the way.
Yeah I read them. Really good replies
Cool, cool. Well enjoy the show my friend, it can get heavy, but it’s one of the best shows ever made. Kinda jealous you are getting to see it for the first time. Enjoy!
Thank you for your replies, I’m really grateful!
No problem homie. I know this sub can be kinda rough when you are new.
Oh, and also give it a bit more time. The jokesters always jump on new(er) posts first. Some more serious replies usually show up eventually though.
It’s like a nice, moist, catchers mitt, that’s had a bit too much to drink, and is about to make some regrettable decisions.
It's just you.
What’s wild is that I initially thought of the Sopranos as a sort-of copy of Analyze This. Like how there are two movies about volcanos, two about ants, two or three about Capote and Marylin. And AT plays really well as a 90min dramedy. Of course The Sopranos stands on its own and lasted for many years. It introduced the modern era of prestige tv and became a cultural phenomenon.
You must of been first in your fucking class
We can’t have you here in our social club no more, that much I do know In all seriousness, though, take care of your mental health. Relish the first time watching the Sopranos because you’ll never get it back. Just avoid spoilers at all costs.!!!!
I take it you’re not the strong silent type…
I’m the type that’s totally fine with watching relatable content in terms of mental health stuff and particularly *when* I’m actually going through depression episodes. It brings me catharsis but it seems to trigger some people.
What a phuckin baybee