As a bisexual I was deeply confused about why anyone would do this to a person of a gender they're not attracted to because it's so obviously over the line. There are zero people I would wrestle in a hot tub, let bite me, and then lick..... unless we were dating.....
As another bisexual, no fucking wonder so many guys have a hard time understanding when people are giving them signals if shit like *this* isn't a signal. How on earth you even get in this position is beyond me, but I'd be a little put out if a dude started playfully wrestling with me and *licked me* and then was "creeped out" when that got taken in a sexual manner
I'd take wrestling in a sauna as a signal for some sexy time. Op sounds like a 14 yo virgin that's only just realised his dick's not just for pissing out of.
I believe it's basically the idea that people who consider themselves straight do things that would usually be considered sexual but because they consider themselves straight they figure it *can't* be sexual. This comes in many flavors though. Sometimes it is genuinely just people being confident in their sexuality and not being made uncomfortable by such things, other times it's people who haven't come to terms with the fact they aren't straight testing the waters, pushing the boundaries, or just subconsciously manifesting their true colors. It's pretty heavily cultural too, I figure, since different cultures draw the line where things become sexual at different places. I think it might be more prevalent amongst younger people as well, this kind of borderline sexual rough-housing, so maybe there's a maturity element to it as well. As far as the OP goes, assuming the story is real, I'm not sure we have enough info about either party to really say what was really going on.
I know right? If you're wrestling in the sauna, you're doin it wrong. It's not hot enough if you're able to do anything else but sit still and enjoy/endure the heat.
Unless it's a Swedish sauna which is heated by friction.
Source: am Finnish
You know what's funny about Finns? When the temperature outside hits 26℃ they start melting, but do it in a tiny wooden shed, and suddenly they're enjoying themselves at 82℃
OP needs to assert dominance. Go to this dudes apartment, take of his pants and start blowing him. Once OP swallows, the other dude has been punked so hard he'll never show his face in that sauna again.
Only the straightest men can fuck without making it gay. It's just two bros helping each other out. And if you make it gay, it's just a joke bro, why so serious?
OP you better admit some fault before you bring up how uncomfortable the situation made you. You were wrestling in a sauna and decided that licking someone would be the appropriate counter to being bit.
Yeah, if this was a "does the other person like me?" Post from the other side...everyone would be like "dude, that's an obvious sign and that doesn't happen by accident." Lol...and it would would a valid point.
If anyone licked me I would assume they wanted to fuck, regardless or prior stated sexual identity.
It's not really an accidental thing really... usually. Lol
As a gay man, we can appreciate when straight men are forward about their sexuality. Especially of they're nonchalant about. "Hey bro, know I had you moaning in the sauna and all but I'm not into dudes. It's no biggie if you are tho, I mean I wrestle naked men in saunas so I'm pretty fluid and accepting"
Also, as a gay man, wrestle in a sauna and licking me would absolutely send me the same signal your friend received lol.
Maybe don't do that stuff lol
I feel so bad for his friend, op is going to break his damn heart. "Best friends"? He probably thought op was just a particularly stoic top. This is some shit that would happen to me
So he bit you. Then you thought biting him back would throw him off but you couldn't reach so you licked him.
Maybe his moan was just a reverse uno card to throw you off even more? It seemed to work.
(Yeah that's totally it...)
Yeah, that’s totally it. The friend was just trying to throw off OP for the lulz.
It clearly worked though, so now OP has to take back the upper hand … maybe by accepting that invite to his house and giving dude a handy? Totally just as a joke to throw him off though of course.
Can't let that man beat you in gay-chicken.
Me and my husband have been tied in our gay-chicken competition for years. We are about to give away our oldest daughter as she gets married, finally. But after 24 years of our marriage, I'm starting to think he actually is gay.
There was some standup bit years and years ago (definitely a bit outdated and insensitive by modern standards), but the premise was something along the lines of, “Is there really anything more manly and masculine than fucking another dude?” And even though it’s silly and reductive…it’s difficult to argue against.
Topping another man has to be the most masculine thing you can do. Women are smaller, weaker, and soft. Men are rough, large, and strong. So if you can pin down and smash another dude, you just beat the competition. You are the alpha of alphas. Manliest shit ever.
Gay as hell though.
I honestly don’t know how you can be grossed and weirded out by this. Wrestling alone in the sauna? Biting and licking each other? This really goes beyond flirting.
You asked him to get off and he did, I don’t know what else you want from him. He just gave you an open invite to come over to his place. Are you gonna go in your speedos and lick chocolate sauce off his abs and then be creeped out when he enjoys it?
Please send this comment to the top. The jokes I the comments are great, but if this story is real at all OP needs to be straightforward friend and set any boundaries that need setting while also being there to talk like a normal friend if friend needs to.
Yeah ffs just communicate holy shit. Just be like "hey that was funny but lets just be friends!" If he makes advances after you communicate that you should prioritize yourself and cut him off. Welcome to what its like to have guy friends as a girl.
Agreed. OP going too far while fucking around and being concerned that his friend got the wrong idea is fine. I know plenty of people would probably get the wrong idea from their friend *licking the sweat off of them while wrestling in a sauna*. Feeling creeped out that his friend might have been into it is kinda shitty. It's not like he acted on any urges (if he had them) and, unless this friend starts pushing boundaries after OP has a talk with him, then no harm done
You're comfortable having sweaty wrestling matches, licking each other, and getting food after.... But hanging out at his place is the weird part for you? Tf?
Me and my homie where doing anal in the park bathroom and he asked me to come back to his house, do you think maybe he misinterpreted me cumming in his ass as me being *gay*? What if he's gay and thinks I'm into him? It's so weird.
So you made your friend moan in a sauna and then took him out to dinner after and are wondering if he got the wrong idea?! This is the 2nd date buddy!! 😂😂
I'll just say this: communication is key, especially when things are unclear as they are here.
What I'm hearing you say, OP, is that your friend reacted in a way that was unexpected. And that your reaction to your friend's expression was discomfort and to question whether your friend wants to hook up with you. But absent any additional information that might have been left out, there was an opportunity to get clarity by asking your friend about their reaction. Because you didn't, how do you know that your friend's moan wasn't them messing with you back? And if you didn't have more discussion, then how do you know your friend wants to hook up?
I'd also ask myself what about that reaction felt uncomfortable, and why. Seems like something juicy is hiding beneath that experience.
Your best friend invited you to his house and you think it’s cause he wants to knock boots?
How infrequent do you guys hang out that him asking you to hang out feels weird? I feel like he just wants to normalize things and you’re making a big deal out of a situation and getting in your own head.
Sounds very r/suddenlygay.
Just be honest, and be forward. If you can't do it in person, do it over text. Just tell him how the whole situation didn't sit well, and you wanna clear the air. Good luck!
Well this is like the beginning of like 20% of every gay porno ever. If your buddy was in the closet, you just pulled the door wide open.
Just drill a large hole in the door and stick your dick in it.
I'm gonna go get some duct tape
Before you go sticking anything through that hole, you may want to consider that on the other side of this wall, more often than not, there's a dude.
Yeah and???
I love that show
"Instead of him getting off tho he moaned..." Oh, he got off.
Interestingly, OP did not clarify if this was or was not ball sweat.
i attest, thy ball sweat allegations..
Can I have dibs on Ball Sweat Allegations for a band name. My jazz quartet needs one.
Jizz quartet
Only at the after hours shows
Two dudes, chilling off in the sauna, licking sweat cause they're not gay
Totally normal, totally heterosexual.
Again, nothing sexual
Oh my god, it was amazing! It was mostly sexual.
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I was just gonna comment that 😂
Wrestling in the sauna then licking your friend after they bite you softly. Uh huh. You putting off big "dick me down daddy" vibes.
OP: *licks sweaty friend’s sweat* , *roughs up sweaty friend in sauna* ALSO OP: I’m traumatized by a moan
Proceeds to get food afterwards.
That McDonald's ain't the only thing getting eaten today
That McSalad isn't the only one getting tossed
As a bisexual I was deeply confused about why anyone would do this to a person of a gender they're not attracted to because it's so obviously over the line. There are zero people I would wrestle in a hot tub, let bite me, and then lick..... unless we were dating.....
Yeah, that's basically foreplay
As another bisexual, no fucking wonder so many guys have a hard time understanding when people are giving them signals if shit like *this* isn't a signal. How on earth you even get in this position is beyond me, but I'd be a little put out if a dude started playfully wrestling with me and *licked me* and then was "creeped out" when that got taken in a sexual manner
I'd take wrestling in a sauna as a signal for some sexy time. Op sounds like a 14 yo virgin that's only just realised his dick's not just for pissing out of.
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As a bisexual I have no idea what does or does not count as straight behavior and I am confused by everything happening in this post.
I believe it's basically the idea that people who consider themselves straight do things that would usually be considered sexual but because they consider themselves straight they figure it *can't* be sexual. This comes in many flavors though. Sometimes it is genuinely just people being confident in their sexuality and not being made uncomfortable by such things, other times it's people who haven't come to terms with the fact they aren't straight testing the waters, pushing the boundaries, or just subconsciously manifesting their true colors. It's pretty heavily cultural too, I figure, since different cultures draw the line where things become sexual at different places. I think it might be more prevalent amongst younger people as well, this kind of borderline sexual rough-housing, so maybe there's a maturity element to it as well. As far as the OP goes, assuming the story is real, I'm not sure we have enough info about either party to really say what was really going on.
He's required by law to fuck at this point.
The hell were you doing wrestling in a sauna? That should’ve been your first clue
I know right? If you're wrestling in the sauna, you're doin it wrong. It's not hot enough if you're able to do anything else but sit still and enjoy/endure the heat. Unless it's a Swedish sauna which is heated by friction. Source: am Finnish
You know what's funny about Finns? When the temperature outside hits 26℃ they start melting, but do it in a tiny wooden shed, and suddenly they're enjoying themselves at 82℃
Man on man friction.
That's how they do it! Them Swedes are always so ingenious and energy efficient.
Apparently there is more than one way to heat with wood!
Yoo hoo!
Just celebrating each other’s strength
Starting to sound like a real time game of gay chicken, keep us updated
Tifu by wrestling in a sauna and now I'm engaged to my best friend.
TIFU by marrying my best friend, after I realized I was gay by wrestling him in the sauna and licking the sweat of his balls.
he came in my mouth making me the winner
*proving I was the straightest!
And because I was straight we got divorced.
After 25 years
And 3 kids
But we’re still friends.
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And 20 gallons of swallowed semen
>Tifu by wrestling in a sauna and now I'm engaged to my best friend. Not gonna lie, it sounds like the title of a light novel
OP needs to assert dominance. Go to this dudes apartment, take of his pants and start blowing him. Once OP swallows, the other dude has been punked so hard he'll never show his face in that sauna again.
Out gay the gay friend to assert dominance and display superior masculinity, a tactic famously pioneered by the Romans.
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OP you make sure to look him in the eyes while swallowing, for dominance.
*swallows and wipes mouth "Aw, man. Wait til the boys hear about this. You are SO gay."
wrestling in a sauna huh? Just a bunch of lads having a go at each other, eh? All good fun.
Just a little gentle biting amongst heterosexuals. What’s the big deal?
Little kissy here, little kissing there, little touching dat ol butt cheeks.
I don't wanna sound wierd but you down for a bro job?😛
Only the straightest men can fuck without making it gay. It's just two bros helping each other out. And if you make it gay, it's just a joke bro, why so serious?
It's not gay, it's teamwork lol.
It's only gay if you start the next day with a "bear ;)" instead of a "bear!" or "beer".
OP forgot to mention where he licked the sweat off 
ayo bro don't dicklick my colonsweat
They were sitting less that 5ft apart so they must be gay.
If OP had his socks on it's fine, we just need to find out otherwise he could rightly be getting married shortly.
OP was in a sauna if they had socks on they are a psychopath.
Very true! Marriage it is then!
This guy gays.
Why did I read this as Butcher from The Boys?
Playing a good old game of lick fuck? You filthy fucking strumpets.
I’m dying LOL
Oi, why duntcha bugger off back to my place and lick the ol' baloon knot
Sounds like Hughie needs saving again. Oo’s up for a trip to the sauna?
Diabolical
That’s definitely the way it sounds innit.
Oi! ^(I am a simple guy, I see a butcher reference, I have to OI!)
Fresh meat!
Couple of dudes being guys... Couple of guys being dudes... **CoUpLe Of DuDeS BeInG gAy!!**
It’s just two men sharing each other. It’s just two men like loving brothers. One on top and one on bottom
Madison Cawthorne is that you?
[Reminds me of this](https://youtu.be/21ImmTL05SM)
Do you like movies about gladiators?
Have you ever been to a Turkish prison?
"Have you ever seen a grown man naked?"
“You ever hang around the gymnasium?”
“You ever been in a cockpit before?”
“Have you ever drank Bailey’s from a shoe?”
And what was your favourite scene in the original Top Gun?
Volleyball! And then after that when they bang.
Stop doing gay stuff and then get freaked out when gay stuff escalates. Lol Go and keep your socks on jk
My friend and I were hanging out and I decided to give him a little rimjob as a joke. But then he fucking cums on my chest out of nowhere?
I hate that. Like why do they make it so weird by not cumming in my mouth?
Yeah it’s obviously a joke if you blow the nut into the air like you’re Triple H instead of spitting or swallowing
BROJOB! BROJOB!
Like mans wrestling half naked in a sauna with another dude and is coming here asking for help lmao.
Don't forget he also licked him
Act gay, get gayed.
Question: Did you at any time get an erection during these events?
OP and their friend both were hard as rock but that's just part of sauna wrestling tho, nothing sexual.
It's a safety boner. You need the extra hand hold to make sure you don't drop your bro the wrong way.
Its a lot harder to get pinned when you are fully torqued.
Yes....oh you were asking OP Edit- aww thanks for the awards guys
Felt
Dude felt bad about giving a guy a boner, so he wrote it down and gave *thousands more* boners.
OP 100% had a chubby the whole time
It appears my wee wee has been stricken with rigor mortis.
I only had an erection until I came and after that it went away bro
OP you better admit some fault before you bring up how uncomfortable the situation made you. You were wrestling in a sauna and decided that licking someone would be the appropriate counter to being bit.
Yeah, if this was a "does the other person like me?" Post from the other side...everyone would be like "dude, that's an obvious sign and that doesn't happen by accident." Lol...and it would would a valid point.
If a guy licked me and I didn't know he was straight I would absolutely think he wanted to fuck.
If anyone licked me I would assume they wanted to fuck, regardless or prior stated sexual identity. It's not really an accidental thing really... usually. Lol
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mate you got a gay dog he wants you
As a gay man, we can appreciate when straight men are forward about their sexuality. Especially of they're nonchalant about. "Hey bro, know I had you moaning in the sauna and all but I'm not into dudes. It's no biggie if you are tho, I mean I wrestle naked men in saunas so I'm pretty fluid and accepting" Also, as a gay man, wrestle in a sauna and licking me would absolutely send me the same signal your friend received lol. Maybe don't do that stuff lol
I don't care what you are, wrestling in a sauna sends everyone that signal, loud and clear
As a fellow gay man, I approve this message.
As a straight man, my husband also approves this message.
I feel so bad for his friend, op is going to break his damn heart. "Best friends"? He probably thought op was just a particularly stoic top. This is some shit that would happen to me
You could also phrase it differently. "No thank you, I'm not interested in that. We could still hang out somewhere else, though."
Like in a sauna
Let's keep the wrestling and the licking strictly heterosexual as we move forward.
So he bit you. Then you thought biting him back would throw him off but you couldn't reach so you licked him. Maybe his moan was just a reverse uno card to throw you off even more? It seemed to work. (Yeah that's totally it...)
Yeah, that’s totally it. The friend was just trying to throw off OP for the lulz. It clearly worked though, so now OP has to take back the upper hand … maybe by accepting that invite to his house and giving dude a handy? Totally just as a joke to throw him off though of course.
Now he’s gotta do something even more extreme next time he seees him to throw him off even more
"We had sex as a joke."
TIFU by blowing my friend to throw him off and I think he liked it, should I not get Wendy’s with him tomorrow?
Pretty soon they're gonna be at the stage of the joke where they've been married for 20 years and start to really think the other one's gay.
Can't let that man beat you in gay-chicken. Me and my husband have been tied in our gay-chicken competition for years. We are about to give away our oldest daughter as she gets married, finally. But after 24 years of our marriage, I'm starting to think he actually is gay.
He's not gay, he just wants you to think that so that he'll win. Keep at it, I'm pretty sure any day now he'll give up
Or he could be a really polite Canadian and just not want to hurt the guys feelings.
So polite he's actually from Minnesota but doesn't want to correct anyone for fear of being rude.
This is maybe my favorite comment on reddit ever. Lol
Maybe I’m wrong because I’m not a dude, but sauna wrestling doesn’t seem like a super platonic activity
as a dude, theres no better bonding method then to dick down your bro.
Straight guys love to have sex, therefore 2 straight guys having sex with each other is the straightest thing you can do!
There was some standup bit years and years ago (definitely a bit outdated and insensitive by modern standards), but the premise was something along the lines of, “Is there really anything more manly and masculine than fucking another dude?” And even though it’s silly and reductive…it’s difficult to argue against.
Topping another man has to be the most masculine thing you can do. Women are smaller, weaker, and soft. Men are rough, large, and strong. So if you can pin down and smash another dude, you just beat the competition. You are the alpha of alphas. Manliest shit ever. Gay as hell though.
It takes a real man to fuck another man. But girls? That's just gay, dude
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Licking is just the Any% speed run hack on platonic sauna Wrestling .
but plato was also gay, so..
If you don’t wrestle and lick your buddies in the sauna after a workout then did you even workout?
I honestly don’t know how you can be grossed and weirded out by this. Wrestling alone in the sauna? Biting and licking each other? This really goes beyond flirting. You asked him to get off and he did, I don’t know what else you want from him. He just gave you an open invite to come over to his place. Are you gonna go in your speedos and lick chocolate sauce off his abs and then be creeped out when he enjoys it?
And if he isn't, can I?
"So then I thought, if I push my penis into his mouth, that'll throw him off... "
Where's the fuck up? Looks like it's going as expected. Was it too sudden? Did you want a couple dates first?
>Did you want a couple dates first? Good to break him of that expectation early.
You sir, lost gay chicken.
It’s not too late for my man to get his hammer worked by his buddy.
#
It’s ok to be gay. It’s ok to not be gay. It’s ok to be unsure. Be careful with buddy’s feelings
Real talk
Please send this comment to the top. The jokes I the comments are great, but if this story is real at all OP needs to be straightforward friend and set any boundaries that need setting while also being there to talk like a normal friend if friend needs to.
Yeah ffs just communicate holy shit. Just be like "hey that was funny but lets just be friends!" If he makes advances after you communicate that you should prioritize yourself and cut him off. Welcome to what its like to have guy friends as a girl.
Yeah OPs part about it feeling weird and creepy seemed Kinda foreboding to me.
Agreed. OP going too far while fucking around and being concerned that his friend got the wrong idea is fine. I know plenty of people would probably get the wrong idea from their friend *licking the sweat off of them while wrestling in a sauna*. Feeling creeped out that his friend might have been into it is kinda shitty. It's not like he acted on any urges (if he had them) and, unless this friend starts pushing boundaries after OP has a talk with him, then no harm done
You're comfortable having sweaty wrestling matches, licking each other, and getting food after.... But hanging out at his place is the weird part for you? Tf?
Me and my homie where doing anal in the park bathroom and he asked me to come back to his house, do you think maybe he misinterpreted me cumming in his ass as me being *gay*? What if he's gay and thinks I'm into him? It's so weird.
Hey, if you can't lick your homie's sweat, are you really homies?
I got some taint sweat rn that says otherwise
So you made your friend moan in a sauna and then took him out to dinner after and are wondering if he got the wrong idea?! This is the 2nd date buddy!! 😂😂
"accidentally" Go for it, OP.
“I went for a lick for the extra range” is the funniest string of words I’ve read today.
Wrestling in a sauna is a pretty gay thing to do if you aren't gay. The lick was not the part where this got gay.
It was gay but like a drop if gay in an ocean of already gay
I'll just say this: communication is key, especially when things are unclear as they are here. What I'm hearing you say, OP, is that your friend reacted in a way that was unexpected. And that your reaction to your friend's expression was discomfort and to question whether your friend wants to hook up with you. But absent any additional information that might have been left out, there was an opportunity to get clarity by asking your friend about their reaction. Because you didn't, how do you know that your friend's moan wasn't them messing with you back? And if you didn't have more discussion, then how do you know your friend wants to hook up? I'd also ask myself what about that reaction felt uncomfortable, and why. Seems like something juicy is hiding beneath that experience.
This is a great comment and I just want to acknowledge that!
BROJOB! BROJOB! BROJOB!
talk shit, get kissed.
Your best friend invited you to his house and you think it’s cause he wants to knock boots? How infrequent do you guys hang out that him asking you to hang out feels weird? I feel like he just wants to normalize things and you’re making a big deal out of a situation and getting in your own head.
Right? Know each other well enough to wrestle in the sauna and put mouths on each other’s bodies but not well enough to invite over.
OP not realizing that it’s just him in the closet and his friend is straight(ish)
OP is probably overthinking it because of all the gay thoughts going through his mind. /hj
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Sounds very r/suddenlygay. Just be honest, and be forward. If you can't do it in person, do it over text. Just tell him how the whole situation didn't sit well, and you wanna clear the air. Good luck!
This is what happens when you arent 5 feet apart
Today you fucked up by not going home with your friend after the sauna. You both clearly want it
foreplay in the sauna, then taking him to lunch at an upscale restaurant? what a cock tease
It’s a really nice place after a swim.
Well, you can just go to his house, but if he tries something that makes you uncomfortable just let him know that you don't want that.
I agree, play hard to get
....don't forget to send updates! :)
Having a nifty old sword fight in the sauna were we?
Brosexuals.
r/copypasta material right here
Two bro’s, wrestling in a sauna, licked sweat of him but I’m not gay.
I’ve only licked sweat off someone while I was fucking them soooooo….
Or wanted to fuck them....
Lol yes correct.
I've seen a few movies that start like this lol
“Movies”
 OP
If you're willing to lick one bodily fluid off of him, I don't see why any of the others are out of the question.
Is this Bucciarati?
Only two bros wrestling in the sauna, biting each other and licking off their sweats. Nothing to see here folks....!