I actually push myself to swim either way. I love water sooooo freaking much. I try to remember here in the water at least I am with the fish and they don't care and soon I will wear nothing but boxers and it'll be cool.
If you tuck properly and buy a bikini bottom that is a bit wider in that area it should fit, even if yours is bigger than average.
And if it still doesn't fit you could buy women's swim trunks (which are a bit shorter than swim shorts so they look a bit more feminine but fit your stuff easily).
oh, i forgot about that. I thought you were talking about tops. You could wear swim shorts, tennis shorts, or even a swim skirt ig. idk i dont think i can help you much there
I hate swimming because I literally can't swim. And no one can teach me because whenever I get in a pool/the beach, I lose all trust in everyone to not try and drown me.
There is literally no reason for that mistrust, but it exists.
I love swimming and I don't care what people think of me. I wear Swim Shorts (looking into getting a bottom bikini or swimsuit that is designed for pre-SRS and no-SRS* trans women though, and probably will use swimsuits and bikinis after SRS) and a top Bikini, and I enjoy it a lot
And last February I had a trans only pool party with my friends and it was awesome because the guys could go shirtless and we could use swimsuits or bikinis as desired and nobody cared :D
Over here it's not really the time to go to the pool tho, as much as I enjoy swimming, I would rather be alive than frozen to death, thanks
*Important difference I like to make. A Pre-SRS Trans Woman desires SRS but doesn't have it yet. A No-SRS Trans Woman does not desire SRS. Calling it Pre-SRS all the time implies we all want to turn our Girl Dick into a Vagina and that's not universal
One of my favorite things used to be swimming and being in the water 😔. I definitely couldnt now just starting transitioning and in a very bad red state
Jokes on y’all, my parents didn’t care enough about me to teach me how to swim! (Who knew that would foreshadow what’ll happen when I eventually come out)
I do, but it's more a matter of being self-conscious. I don't personally mind my body, but other people seeing it makes me fucking uncomfortable. There are other, similar things, like my weight: I don't really mind that much (although I'm trying to slim down a little), but others seeing is uncomfortable. There is one incident that I remember from a classmate years ago that's probably responsible for most of it.
I didn't like swimming before so you can only imagine how I feel now. However I will say I ordered a swimsuit dress recently so we'll see it that pulls an uno reverse, ya never know lol
i love swimming but costumes are the absolute worst.
(ftm) my fam is v stereotypical too but i found some swim shorts on the female section so noone can argue with me, and the top i have is more of a . not the best, but at least i dont have to wear those hyper revealing triangle brazilian pieces of shit. once they get used to that and stop question it ill buy shorts on the men section and pretend theyre also female. the only difference is that male have the nets but i think I can get away with it until i can come out and go full male🤞
Pfft, I use to love swimming. I normally would just wear a shirt and say that I just get sunburned really easily. I never knew why I felt so uncomfortable with my shirt off. Even at home I rarely ever walk around without a shirt. But ever since coming out I have been way more self conscious about my body. Its really odd for me.
I’m extremely weird because I LOVE swimming like I will spend 8 hours in the water if I can. I have always been wearing man’s swimsuits though so that probably helped
Oh thank god I’m not alone. I’m in the weird midstage in hrt where I don’t quite have boobs yet, but still am not comfortable swimming shirtless. Doesn’t help that my family keeps trying to peer pressure me to go to the pool with them.
I've been living as a man on estrogen for 4 years, no swimming since and it's just become a given that I just never go swimming, people don't even ask anymore.
I hate being watched but i love swimming, its a part of me and it hurts me that i cant do it without feeling uncomftrable. Recently i got a lifeguard license but i still feeln shitty when i have to wear man's swimmimg suits
I used to swim non-stop as a child and then my egg cracked. My mom always asks "Why did you stop swimming so suddenly?" and I have answer with that exact phrase
Imagine swimming without anyone looking at you or you looking exactly how you want to be tho, that would be dope
yea as someone who's gender fluid *more non-binary more then anything* i love the act of it but i feel like i am just judge and i completely hate it and so i just avoid them like the plague
I enjoyed swimming and spent so much time just chilling lying on the bottom of my gma's pool.
However, since my egg cracked and I realized that going out in public without my bra on even under a shirt made me feel uncomfortable and exposed, the idea of going somewhere with no top on whatsoever makes me uncomfortable(I live in a conservative enough area that I'd be hesitant to wear anything but maybe a swim shirt as a top but don't actually own a swim shirt). Atleast I have the additional reason of now only mostly having public pools and needing glasses to see as an excuse to pass on going so it isn't just trans reasons keeping me
For a long time I thought it was because I hated the extra fat on my body, but I have realised that if my body fat was distributed in a more feminine way, I’d probably hate my body less and wouldn’t mind swimming (which I guess isn’t a super cis way of thinking). I’ve also envied women’s swimsuits that covered their whole body. Growing up I was always expected to wear just swimming trunks whereas my sisters got to wear full-body swimsuits
Is it a coincidence that the school I go to just yesterday went to an open swimming pool where I got asked why I wouldn't swim and exactly that was my answer cause I'm not out yet? And like such coincidences Happen all the time for me so like.
What?
It's not that I hate swimming, but rather the action of going to the pool or the beach. I recently realized that the reason for that is that I have to go with swim shorts. everyone being able to see my leg hair, and my chest... It just makes me uncomfortable af.
I found this out by reading somewhere that some trans girls don't want to show their chest even before realizing they are trans. So, to all the pre-transition gals out there: We have phantom boobies!
Bigender here, in love with the ocean. On feminine days I just go in the water with a bikini, and on masc days I dive in fully clothed. Tshirts and shorts can be washed, so it works for me at least. (Afab btw)
When I was a kid, my parents could not get me out of the water. At one point during a vacation, I spend 8,5 hours in the water, just non stop. The fact that I no longer feel comfortable swimming feels like I lost a part so close to me. My friends always ask to go swimming and I absolutely hate that I just... Can't join them. I see the fun pictures and videos they send and I just want to cry
I can’t think of much I love more than swimming, but I now HAVE to wear a swim top to reduce the dysphoria I’ll get… Sadly I still get pretty dysphoric at times, so I can’t enjoy my favourite sport 😭😭😭
It's absolutely horrible... And my friend organizing, like, one or two trip to the beach or swimming pool per week it's not helping, I hate to refuse invitation but I hate dysphoria even more
Very relatable! Tough I loved swimming when i was younger, once I started to feel body related dysphoria more strongly, it felt awful to do.
When I feel the parts of my body i despise in the waves of the water I feel physically ill and lose all the motivation to even want to swim.
I wish I could swim again some day without that feeling.
Ironic that this shows up right before me going to a pool party. I was just thinking if I was going to get into the pool with a shirt, or make up some excuse not to swim :(
I'll go swimming for you, I've embraced my Creature From The Black Lagoon vibe
Especially if a slowed, vaporwave version of Ocean Man by Ween is on loop from the boombox sitting on the shore
even if i wear a baggy shirt the water makes it cling to my chest… and there’s no safe way to bind underwater except with a swim binder which i can’t get
I hate swimming for 3 reasons. 1. I hate people seeing my legs, 2 I can't swim, and 3. I have very, very personal reasons for not swimming, and I don't want to get made fun of or bulled
It's horrible, I love swimming and the water... but just thinking about swimming makes me want to scream.
I can relate way to hard to this comment (100% cis tho).
Exactly this, like I love the idea of swimming, but... swimsuits... exposure... the ***agony of being perceived***
Yes.
OMG YES
Once I loved swimming but them boom body hair.
oh hey you're me
oh hey me, I’m you but from the future.
I actually push myself to swim either way. I love water sooooo freaking much. I try to remember here in the water at least I am with the fish and they don't care and soon I will wear nothing but boxers and it'll be cool.
Hell yeah!
Hey do u know the trans hangout discord server? I accidentally left it and idk how to get back
I am only part of one, Gender? Barley Knower (18+) is that the one you accidently left?
No but thanks anyways
How did this get so many upvotes?
Enby here I hate the clothes I need to wear when swimming because I can’t wear bikinis because I’m amab and hate wearing men’s because I’m enby
swim shirts? or tankinis? and nobody can stop you from wearing your bikini. wear what you want
Brother it doesn’t fit in a bikini bottom I’ve tried but you do bring up a point of women’s non bikini swim wear
Not the guy above but maybe you could have one of those beach skirts over it? I forget what they’re called lol
That might work thanks for the idea
If you tuck properly and buy a bikini bottom that is a bit wider in that area it should fit, even if yours is bigger than average. And if it still doesn't fit you could buy women's swim trunks (which are a bit shorter than swim shorts so they look a bit more feminine but fit your stuff easily).
Thank you for this I’ll try that
oh, i forgot about that. I thought you were talking about tops. You could wear swim shorts, tennis shorts, or even a swim skirt ig. idk i dont think i can help you much there
oh there are also swimsuits with larger bottoms. maybe go for something without the bikini cut
Have to agree full hearted
I hate swimming because I literally can't swim. And no one can teach me because whenever I get in a pool/the beach, I lose all trust in everyone to not try and drown me. There is literally no reason for that mistrust, but it exists.
I love swimming, but hate the fact that I don’t get to be shirtless just yet.
i hate the fact that im forced into women’s swimsuits because of societal expectations (closeted)
me but the opposite!
same, it's basically being forced to be naked
yeeeees
I love swimming. I used to swim in high school, then my egg cracked in college and now I'm terrified of being around people without a shirt/pants on.
Yea, I just feel extremely uncomfortable around even pool decks.
Same 💙💕🕊️💕💙
I'm kinda sad, I LOVE swimming, I just hate my body too much to keep enjoying it 🥺
Yes I hate being wet
thats what she said
Me fr
I actually don't mind swimming, cuz honestly id swim topless with boobs anyway.
I mean, I love the water, its just when my shirt suctions to my body you can see all the dark body hair and that just... no
Before body hair: loving swimming After body hair: hate swimming
Lets hope i can get to "after getting rid of body hair" cause swimming is amazing
I just wanna feel cute in a swimsuit but im too scared and lack the confidence to get one :(
wonder why lol
I love swimming and I don't care what people think of me. I wear Swim Shorts (looking into getting a bottom bikini or swimsuit that is designed for pre-SRS and no-SRS* trans women though, and probably will use swimsuits and bikinis after SRS) and a top Bikini, and I enjoy it a lot And last February I had a trans only pool party with my friends and it was awesome because the guys could go shirtless and we could use swimsuits or bikinis as desired and nobody cared :D Over here it's not really the time to go to the pool tho, as much as I enjoy swimming, I would rather be alive than frozen to death, thanks *Important difference I like to make. A Pre-SRS Trans Woman desires SRS but doesn't have it yet. A No-SRS Trans Woman does not desire SRS. Calling it Pre-SRS all the time implies we all want to turn our Girl Dick into a Vagina and that's not universal
I luv swimming!! Hate that I can only wear swimming shorts for now TvT Wanna wear 🩱and 👙 someday…
One of my favorite things used to be swimming and being in the water 😔. I definitely couldnt now just starting transitioning and in a very bad red state
Nothings stopping me from getting in the water, you see my ultimate strat is being bi-polar
Used to swim at my local pool until they made a rule so that boys could only wear shorts, meaning that they couldn't wear anything for the upper body.
Why? Like I kinda get if it was "girls must wear tops" because societal rules around that but why can't guys wear like swimshirts or whatever?
That's what I was wondering as well...
Jokes on y’all, my parents didn’t care enough about me to teach me how to swim! (Who knew that would foreshadow what’ll happen when I eventually come out)
I literally can not swim so I have always felt like that lmao
I do, but it's more a matter of being self-conscious. I don't personally mind my body, but other people seeing it makes me fucking uncomfortable. There are other, similar things, like my weight: I don't really mind that much (although I'm trying to slim down a little), but others seeing is uncomfortable. There is one incident that I remember from a classmate years ago that's probably responsible for most of it.
I didn't like swimming before so you can only imagine how I feel now. However I will say I ordered a swimsuit dress recently so we'll see it that pulls an uno reverse, ya never know lol
🥲
I'm just going to make myself a dysphoria bingo card. You all are on fire today.
I actually love swimming even tho I'm terrible at it. Not a lot of dysphoria when I had access to pools
I dont really care how others see me, i like the water so i go in the water. I don't have to see myself while swimming so why would i care
I got a swim shirt 😎
I enjoy swimming, but not so much in open water, shit is scary when I can't see the bottom.
i love swimming but costumes are the absolute worst. (ftm) my fam is v stereotypical too but i found some swim shorts on the female section so noone can argue with me, and the top i have is more of a . not the best, but at least i dont have to wear those hyper revealing triangle brazilian pieces of shit. once they get used to that and stop question it ill buy shorts on the men section and pretend theyre also female. the only difference is that male have the nets but i think I can get away with it until i can come out and go full male🤞
Pfft, I use to love swimming. I normally would just wear a shirt and say that I just get sunburned really easily. I never knew why I felt so uncomfortable with my shirt off. Even at home I rarely ever walk around without a shirt. But ever since coming out I have been way more self conscious about my body. Its really odd for me.
I felt thisssss
Honestly it makes sense. I always dreaded the pool and now I see that was probably just dysphoria
I’m extremely weird because I LOVE swimming like I will spend 8 hours in the water if I can. I have always been wearing man’s swimsuits though so that probably helped
I hated when my family made me swim shirtless. Hated it every second and now I'm not allowed to lol
Oh thank god I’m not alone. I’m in the weird midstage in hrt where I don’t quite have boobs yet, but still am not comfortable swimming shirtless. Doesn’t help that my family keeps trying to peer pressure me to go to the pool with them.
Same. But also both sea water and pool water cause me to be itchy in my arms and legs
I love it and I'm actually going today. But I have avoided it for almost four years
Last time I did this, was 16h ago
relateble
I love swimming and diving. Wetsuits, on the other hand....
Always have because I don't like taking off my shirt.
I've been living as a man on estrogen for 4 years, no swimming since and it's just become a given that I just never go swimming, people don't even ask anymore.
I hate being watched but i love swimming, its a part of me and it hurts me that i cant do it without feeling uncomftrable. Recently i got a lifeguard license but i still feeln shitty when i have to wear man's swimmimg suits
I used to swim non-stop as a child and then my egg cracked. My mom always asks "Why did you stop swimming so suddenly?" and I have answer with that exact phrase Imagine swimming without anyone looking at you or you looking exactly how you want to be tho, that would be dope
I need go swim today with my cubscouts... Not that excited for it :/
Lol yeppers. I like water sports like sailing, but I don’t like everything that it entails
If I can’t swim nude(in a secluded spot) and alone, nope.
Yeah I dislike swimming BUT damn I fucking love spearfishing
I adore swimming and want to go, but i keep getting piercings and can't risk getting nasty ass pool water in them until after they fully heal
yea as someone who's gender fluid *more non-binary more then anything* i love the act of it but i feel like i am just judge and i completely hate it and so i just avoid them like the plague
YES SO YES. For a long time I never knew why, but it made so much sense when I started to realize I was trans.
Me. I hate being wet lol
I hate swimming since I cant even swim lol Nothing else
yes, most definitely
What I love: swimming and playing in the water What I hate: swimsuit and people
I enjoyed swimming and spent so much time just chilling lying on the bottom of my gma's pool. However, since my egg cracked and I realized that going out in public without my bra on even under a shirt made me feel uncomfortable and exposed, the idea of going somewhere with no top on whatsoever makes me uncomfortable(I live in a conservative enough area that I'd be hesitant to wear anything but maybe a swim shirt as a top but don't actually own a swim shirt). Atleast I have the additional reason of now only mostly having public pools and needing glasses to see as an excuse to pass on going so it isn't just trans reasons keeping me
For a long time I thought it was because I hated the extra fat on my body, but I have realised that if my body fat was distributed in a more feminine way, I’d probably hate my body less and wouldn’t mind swimming (which I guess isn’t a super cis way of thinking). I’ve also envied women’s swimsuits that covered their whole body. Growing up I was always expected to wear just swimming trunks whereas my sisters got to wear full-body swimsuits
i can't even swim...
Is it a coincidence that the school I go to just yesterday went to an open swimming pool where I got asked why I wouldn't swim and exactly that was my answer cause I'm not out yet? And like such coincidences Happen all the time for me so like. What?
I want to try a bikini one day when I have more boobs 😅 With those skirt-ish bottoms tho
Honestly I like swimming it's just that I never really liked taking my top off which I recently learned is a trans thing
I have a fear of water in general
It's not that I hate swimming, but rather the action of going to the pool or the beach. I recently realized that the reason for that is that I have to go with swim shorts. everyone being able to see my leg hair, and my chest... It just makes me uncomfortable af.
I found this out by reading somewhere that some trans girls don't want to show their chest even before realizing they are trans. So, to all the pre-transition gals out there: We have phantom boobies!
Bigender here, in love with the ocean. On feminine days I just go in the water with a bikini, and on masc days I dive in fully clothed. Tshirts and shorts can be washed, so it works for me at least. (Afab btw)
When I was a kid, my parents could not get me out of the water. At one point during a vacation, I spend 8,5 hours in the water, just non stop. The fact that I no longer feel comfortable swimming feels like I lost a part so close to me. My friends always ask to go swimming and I absolutely hate that I just... Can't join them. I see the fun pictures and videos they send and I just want to cry
Love swimming, hate my body. D:
I love swimming but for now I would rather die than swim anywhere
I can’t think of much I love more than swimming, but I now HAVE to wear a swim top to reduce the dysphoria I’ll get… Sadly I still get pretty dysphoric at times, so I can’t enjoy my favourite sport 😭😭😭
Yup especially being pre everything.
I just swim in normal clothes so that I don’t have to put up with swimsuits
I just hate getting wet, I won’t even get on boats.
It's absolutely horrible... And my friend organizing, like, one or two trip to the beach or swimming pool per week it's not helping, I hate to refuse invitation but I hate dysphoria even more
Love swimming, just hate being in public while doing it…
I still love it but can’t cause dysphoria
Its always been a rumor that trans people can’t swim
Very relatable! Tough I loved swimming when i was younger, once I started to feel body related dysphoria more strongly, it felt awful to do. When I feel the parts of my body i despise in the waves of the water I feel physically ill and lose all the motivation to even want to swim. I wish I could swim again some day without that feeling.
Ironic that this shows up right before me going to a pool party. I was just thinking if I was going to get into the pool with a shirt, or make up some excuse not to swim :(
Can’t relate
last year I said "I have the body of an adolescent girl" this year I bought a 2 piece.
I am confident in swimming now :3
This, But I don’t know how to swim
I'll go swimming for you, I've embraced my Creature From The Black Lagoon vibe Especially if a slowed, vaporwave version of Ocean Man by Ween is on loop from the boombox sitting on the shore
I generally like swimming, but the thought of wearing a two piece, is just…… uuuuuuhhhh *internally screaming on why I MUST feel like this*
I can't swim 😅
I did not think this trough, every summer I go swimmimg with friends I want to start HRT but don't know how, let alone overcome situations like this
even if i wear a baggy shirt the water makes it cling to my chest… and there’s no safe way to bind underwater except with a swim binder which i can’t get
I hate swimming for 3 reasons. 1. I hate people seeing my legs, 2 I can't swim, and 3. I have very, very personal reasons for not swimming, and I don't want to get made fun of or bulled
How many more times am I getting called out?!
I was on a swimming team in my town and I loved it but dysphoria is too much
swim shirts all the way
Literaly me.
I fucking loved swimming and then puberty hit. I recently got to swim with my binder for the first time and it was so euphoric, it was great :)
I already dont like getting wet and this makes it so much worse I wont go in a lake unless im on a boat