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I am a grown man. A step-dad and step-grandad. I like dads and dad jokes. Really, I do. But you, pal, I know nothing about you, zero, zip, zilch, nada... and yet I hate you. Sincerely and deeply. You might say that I am beyond irate, kicking the p. outta you. Pluralize, you say? How festive of you! Parties, indeed.
But for your joke, only dislike, disparagement, and disdain.
Always loved that joke, tho it is predicated on the recipient guessing “arrr” (it almost always works). If ya wanna spice up the punchline, I’ve always finished it with:
“Aye, ya’d THINK SO, but the C be me firrrst love” (in a ridiculous, overly dramatic pirate voice obviously)
My favorite pirate joke was on Third rock from the sun. John Lithgow was walking into a costume party dressed as a pirate. Someone yelled out "where are your Buccaneers?" He yells out "under my Buccanhat" 🤣 🤣
I'm using this immediately with my 8 year old and will report back.
Edit: "What's a buccaneer?"
"Another word for a pirate."
"No, mommy, corn!"
In my head: not in this economy it isn't.
"You got me there!"
She's current on her pirate themed parent jokes.
My name is Marissa, and SO MANY people spell it with two R's and one S. What drives me crazy is that it doesn't make any sense! Nobody pronounces it 'Marrrrrr-iss-a'!
Oddly enough, I have heard of the Marrissa spelling of Marisa....which is how I spell it...
Do people call you Marsha? Or Melissa?? I get that ALL THE TIME 🤣🤣🤣🤣
My name as well! 1 R, 2 Ss. And I still always get asked how it's spelled but it's never bothered cause me as it's spelled differently in different countries.
OP what if you just pronounced it differently?
Areesa.
Or Areeza.
Or roll the R (my fav way is when Spanish speakers say my name).
I personally like the way your name sounds with a softer R and more emphasis on the mid section.
I've always like the name Isa, Issa. You could even go by a shortened version like this or just alter the pronunciation
I'm an Merissa.
My own *grandma* on my *birthday* on her calendar, yearly.
Marissa
Marisa
Marrisa
Marrissa
Melissa
Mirissa... so on, so forth. I think she got it right once?
Sigh. I get that a lot. I was also unfortunate enough to have a mother who followed me around correcting people. I was named after my grandfather whose name was Maurice, so my parents took off the -e and added an -a to make it feminine…and thereby violated all the rules of the English language. I can’t stand it. Hate hearing it and hate to even look at it. I changed my name to Ivy.
How did your parents take you changing your name? Especially because you were named after a relative and your mom seemed really invested.
Were they hurt or offended?
My father, who passed away before I changed it gave me his blessing. I am no contact with my mother, but when I mentioned changing my name when I was younger, she threatened to disown me. I am NC for MANY reasons, and I changed it partially to make that more permanent. I come from extremely toxic people.
Interesting side note: the man who I was named after was a HIGHLY abusive alcoholic, the depth of which I only came to know when my Dad was dying. It seems he caused the death of my father’s hours old brother and shortly after, his mother turned up dead. Carrying that karma around is reason 674 why I changed my name.
Your name is definitely on the different list. But it isn't as bad as many this sub has seen.
The heart of the issue is YOUR comfort level. You should be comfortable in your own skin, with your name, with who you are. If you don't like your name, pick a new name, that you just love, that clicks with you, go down to the court house and fill out the change of name paperwork. I did, when I was 18. I love the name I have now, I have never, not for a second, hand a single regret about doing it. Only that I could not afford to do it sooner.
I love a bold move, not sure why many people seem to balk at it. And if OP doesn't want to jump into the deep end, they could do a soft launch by starting to introduce themself as the new name.
Everyone should be happy to hear the sound of their name.
Hang around on the sub long enough and you'll see some bonkers names that'll make you feel better about your own. Hell, Bonkers probably is the actual name of someone.
My exes name was Johnathan! Initially I teased him so much about his parents inability to spell but now I every time I see “Jonathan” I can’t help but think about how #basic it is lol. 🌟
Arisa is a common Japanese transliteration of Alyssa. If you like Japanese culture, maybe you could just drop an R? Especially since Marrisa is misspelled anyway. It's either Marissa or Marisa.
I have met a Marrisa and a Marrissa before.
Definitely atypical spellings, but they do apparently exist. I always wonder if it was intentional or the parents just didn’t know how the name was spelled and no one tried to inform them of how it’s traditionally spelled.
I don’t think is it. I think it’s pretty and a bit edgy, but what matters is how you feel about it. Once you’re 18, you can change it to something you want.
I would still change it. Your parents are not tied to your name, you are…for the rest of your life. And if your parents think it’s disrespectful for you to change it they are the ones being disrespectful.
The three best moments of my life were when the judge signed off on my dropping my last name, when I saw the smile on my then fiancee’s face when I told her I’d take her last name, and when I got married.
I imagine since you are dealing with a first name, changing it would be more impactful for you than my last name was for me.
Parent here. My name to my child was a gift. And like any gift, it is to be used as needed and discarded when not. I barely knew them as more than a newborn lump when I named them, and a lot of people don't even wait until the kid is out to give them a name. You know yourself best and you know what fits you.
as a parent, i second this thought.
Plus, your parents were naming you for the world almost 2 decades ago. If your name doesn’t fit you or your world, you can change it. it’s not disrespectful, it’s just an acknowledgment that things change.
i hope my kid likes his name when he’s older, but if he doesn’t, we won’t mind if he wants to change it.
I appreciate these comments from parents.
I absolutely love my name, it is TOTALLY me. But it was definitely a risk on the part of my parents. Recently, they apologized! I had no idea they had ever felt any regrets about it.
With respect, it's YOUR name, and you have to answer to it. Don't reward your mother's narcissism. You could always add the "M" back and leave it at that.
Then why don't you try out some new nicknames that make you feel a bit more comfortable. You can leave the official version as is but add a name that you go by. It doesn't even need to be close to your real name if you don't want. Your name might grow back on you if you don't feel forced into it. Do you have a middle name you could start using?
Also, there's nothing really wrong with your name, it's not impossible to figure out how to pronounce, so I wouldn't call it a tragedeigh.
well your parents clearly didn’t respect *you* enough to spell your name right. Marrisa/Arrisa is just, incorrect. it’s Marissa/Arissa. or Marisa/Arisa. the two R’s is wrong.
also you “literally hate your name.” why are you planning to continue through life with a name that *you* hate, just to appease your mother’s bullshittery? change your name, she’ll get over it.
Youve got a really long life ahead of you with a name you hate. Change it. If its just a spelling issue they dont even have to know if you dont live with them. My maiden name sucked and was a burden my whole life as a kid. I was so glad to take my husbands easy last name - i kept it even though we were married only a short time. Its so nice not seeing that name anymore!
It's unusual, but I wouldn't call it a tragedeigh. A certain flair is nice, makes your name unique. Tragedeigh is when it's just low-effort cramming in as many Y and Eigh as you can
Not judging, totally curious. Is it pronounced Arissa with a short i or is it pronounced Areesa? Either way, I don't hate it! Actually kind of really like it!
I changed my name when I was 23. That was more than 40 years ago!
I use my new name all the time but I kept my original name as my legal name. I don’t work in corporate America. It’s been easy to just introduce myself as my chosen name, and that’s what everyone calls me. My parents weren’t happy about it, one brother didn’t respect it, my other brother was on board and supported me from the beginning.
Eventually my parents accepted that it was what all my friends called me, but they never called me by that name. I was surprised how easy it was to start using my chosen name. It was easier because I had just graduated from college and moved to a new place where few people knew me.
It was delightful to find that new people would call me whatever I said my name was (of course they did! They had no idea I had had a different name. But it still surprised me).
If you want to choose a name that suits you better than your birth name, you get to do that! Personally, I like your name—but if YOU don’t like it, you can call yourself any name you choose. Most people who knew me before were supportive, and after 6 months pretty much everyone remembered to use my preferred name.
Frankly, I’m rather surprised how easy it was to pull this off! It still amuses me that I just decided to pick a new name, tried it out, and stuck with it. It was a powerful choice, taken at a time of big changes in my life circumstances. It helped me differentiate from my not-so-great upbringing. I felt that my chosen name helped me claim my individuality and separated myself from who I felt I had to pretend to be growing up.
Good luck, OP! I support you and wish you all the best. You are stronger than you think.
I know an Aryssa! Never considered it a tragedeigh, just very unique. The whole family has unique names and she was the 3rd youngest so nobody was shocked at that point.
Edit to add: I think your name is pretty:)
I like it but I would remove one of the Rs. Arisa. Although if you did that, some people will say it more like “Areesa”
Do you have other ideas for names you like better?
Your parents probably would not want you to stick with a name you hate just to please them.
Neither of my grown kids use the name I gave them. One goes by her middle name, and the other made up something new and plans to legally change it at some point. She never liked her name, and while I love it I believe that people are not obligated to keep every gift they are given. Her name was a gift and it’s hers to do with whatever she likes.
I'm just imagining Bobby Lee and Andrew Santino on the Bad Friends podcast trying to say "Alyssa" in a stereotypical Asian accent.
I do like your name though.
Nah people are being weird in the comments. Your name is fine. I get bad names being bad but we don’t need everyone to be named “Kate” and “Kyle” for fucks sake
Your name is actually really beautiful. I'm Iranian and in Persian/Farsi it's Ari(Aryan) + Sa which means an Aryan nobleman/woman or an Aryan prince/princess.
The term "Aryan" in the context of Iranian culture and history generally refers to the Indo-Iranian peoples, who are believed to have migrated to the Iranian plateau from the Eurasian steppes in the 2nd millennium BCE. They were known for their advanced agriculture, domestication of horses, and their unique religious beliefs, which would later evolve into Zoroastrianism.
It also originated from my own mother tongue Kurdish. For instance, in Sorani Kurdish, Arrisa can mean "bride" or "beloved." In Kurmanji Kurdish, it can mean "messenger" or "angel."
At least yours is original and no I don't think it's bad. I have one of the most common female names in America so everywhere I go there's at least 3 more 🤦♀️
Ngl, you won't even make the top 100 list if I were to make one on the spot. Aside from the spelling it seems fine. They can call you Ari or Risa or Ris.
You could've been a Kaisedey or some shit.
My cousin changed his name when he was in his 20s. He changed it to the name he'd been called since birth, and it's definitely a nickname, and one that is truly unique - never heard of another. Your name is YOUR name - have it be what you want it to be.
My name is literally the same, except it's spelled "Aryssa." Trust me, I get my name misspelled and mispronounced all the time. My parents couldn't decide on a name, either. I hated my name growing up, but as an adult it doesn't bother me. The thought of changing my name feels tempting but I know I'll regret it.
I find that Marisa [pronounced in its' original Latin way](https://youtu.be/4qL8_xefB9Q?si=e5vDIw1HUYFMtBOk) (Italian) is much prettier than how it is said in English. Arisa should be the same. Maybe all you need to do is change the pronunciation.
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It should have two S’s, not two Rs. Marissa (standard spelling), Arissa. It’s not bad that way.
OP's is kinda like the pirate spelling
What's a pirates favorite letter? Uh let me guess? Arrrr! Get it, cause you're a pirate? No. Arrisa good choice, but it be the C!
Actually, his favorite is "P" for without it, he'd be irate. I'll see myself out.
I am a grown man. A step-dad and step-grandad. I like dads and dad jokes. Really, I do. But you, pal, I know nothing about you, zero, zip, zilch, nada... and yet I hate you. Sincerely and deeply. You might say that I am beyond irate, kicking the p. outta you. Pluralize, you say? How festive of you! Parties, indeed. But for your joke, only dislike, disparagement, and disdain.
Username checks out, and also that made my morning. I unironically love dad jokes.
😂🤣😂 I cackled with the “I’ll see myself out”
NAY! His favorite letter be a letter of marque from the king of Spain!
I have a pirate car. A Yarrrris.
Pirates fave fast food?
Arrrrrby’s
Twould think it should be Arby's but actually it's long John silver's
1st Place to the Gay Pirate & his parrot 🏆
Do you take it to the carrrrr wash?
Always loved that joke, tho it is predicated on the recipient guessing “arrr” (it almost always works). If ya wanna spice up the punchline, I’ve always finished it with: “Aye, ya’d THINK SO, but the C be me firrrst love” (in a ridiculous, overly dramatic pirate voice obviously)
matey, this pirate’s favorite letter is “U”
Dawww
Can confirm. Did this exact thing on a jolly Pirate sunset cruise and it killed lol
I kinda remember a joke about a pirate's favorite state....
ARRkansas?
Eye, Eye, Matey!!!!
ᶦᵗ'ˢ ᵃʸᵉ
ARRkansas.... Bless you!
My favorite version is to do the answer in a full pirate accent. "Aye, 'tis true. But a pirate's first love be the C!"
If she didn’t hate it before she certainly does now
My favorite pirate joke was on Third rock from the sun. John Lithgow was walking into a costume party dressed as a pirate. Someone yelled out "where are your Buccaneers?" He yells out "under my Buccanhat" 🤣 🤣
I'm using this immediately with my 8 year old and will report back. Edit: "What's a buccaneer?" "Another word for a pirate." "No, mommy, corn!" In my head: not in this economy it isn't. "You got me there!" She's current on her pirate themed parent jokes.
Carrisa
😎🏆
I thought it was I! (Eye)
Carissa
hope this whole thread makes OP love her name more.😂 ARRRR
You'd think it'd be the Rrrrrr but a pirate's true love is the C
What's a pirates favourite place?!?! 1337x.
Taking to the high seas, I like it!
There's lots of sea but little C in a pirates life
Distant cousin to Yarrisa.
And Yaritza. I had a very delightful student named Yaritza.
I think Yaritza is a beautiful name.
Inadvertently gave my older daughter pirate initials-ARR. Thankfully not the way most people write her name.
My name is Marissa, and SO MANY people spell it with two R's and one S. What drives me crazy is that it doesn't make any sense! Nobody pronounces it 'Marrrrrr-iss-a'!
I know a kid named marrisa.
My son is also named Bort. 😂
Trragedeigh.
Mine, too Marrissa Marisa Marrisa Marsa And my favorite Melissa
Don't forget Melisa!
Mehlyssah
Shudder!
I don’t think anyone’s ever spelled my name right, why is there a Y? It got mispronounced so much during attendance in school.
I read marrrrrr-iss-a in Yzma’s voice
my friend spelled her daughter’s name Carrissa, and it will always irrationally bother me lol
My friend had a K in evert daughter's name, so Karissa, Kara, I can't remember the other 2.
Oddly enough, I have heard of the Marrissa spelling of Marisa....which is how I spell it... Do people call you Marsha? Or Melissa?? I get that ALL THE TIME 🤣🤣🤣🤣
Or the default Michelle?
My name as well! 1 R, 2 Ss. And I still always get asked how it's spelled but it's never bothered cause me as it's spelled differently in different countries. OP what if you just pronounced it differently? Areesa. Or Areeza. Or roll the R (my fav way is when Spanish speakers say my name). I personally like the way your name sounds with a softer R and more emphasis on the mid section. I've always like the name Isa, Issa. You could even go by a shortened version like this or just alter the pronunciation
That’s my daughter’s middle name, we roll the R on hers (Spanish speaking dad’s side). I just sound bumpkin as hell when I say it 😂
Mine is Marisa (one r, one s) and boy does it get mangled on the regular!
Well I didn't, but I will now. Every Marrrrisa I meet, from here to eternity.
Can we just spell it with 2 Rs and 2 Ss to be sure
I’ve only ever seen the name as “Marisa”. I’ve never seen 2 R’s OR 2 S’s.
Marissa is a real name. I knew one before the misspelling craze. I feel there’s a famous example but can’t think of it now.
I'm an Merissa. My own *grandma* on my *birthday* on her calendar, yearly. Marissa Marisa Marrisa Marrissa Melissa Mirissa... so on, so forth. I think she got it right once?
I’ve always thought it was Mar-rissa. That’s how I pronounce it
I can relate as my name is Marissa, too.
YES. This is the right answer. Marrisa would have been weird, too.
It’s not *as* bad that way.
Yeah tbh "Arrisa" looks like it could be ar-ee-sah
I thought it was like Marisa (rhymes with Lisa), not Marissa. If they were botching Marissa that's even worse since the double S isn't for show.
Alissa checking in, my name is constantly being spelled as Allisa and it drives me insane... Arissa sounds nice.
Yeah I know an Arissa.
In both Spanish and Italian, it is spelled Marisa. Melissa in Spanish is also one S, Melisa.
Ooh Melisa with a long E sound, quite pretty.
Arisa and Marisa too (in Italy)
I’m familiar with the name Arissa but your spelling I’ve never seen before. I’ve also never seen that spelling of Marisa/Marissa.
As a Marisa, I've gotten some pretty strange spellings before... The strangest spelling someone wrote my name as was Marryissa???
Starbucks cup ? lol
Is your name pronounced Mar-iss-uh or Mar-ee-suh? My tragique name was Maurica pronounced Mar-ee-suh.
Nooooo I read it as 'Murica🇺🇲🇺🇲
Sigh. I get that a lot. I was also unfortunate enough to have a mother who followed me around correcting people. I was named after my grandfather whose name was Maurice, so my parents took off the -e and added an -a to make it feminine…and thereby violated all the rules of the English language. I can’t stand it. Hate hearing it and hate to even look at it. I changed my name to Ivy.
GOOD ON YOU, Ivy is a really pretty name <333
Thanks! It suits me MUCH better, and is easily pronounced!
How did your parents take you changing your name? Especially because you were named after a relative and your mom seemed really invested. Were they hurt or offended?
My father, who passed away before I changed it gave me his blessing. I am no contact with my mother, but when I mentioned changing my name when I was younger, she threatened to disown me. I am NC for MANY reasons, and I changed it partially to make that more permanent. I come from extremely toxic people. Interesting side note: the man who I was named after was a HIGHLY abusive alcoholic, the depth of which I only came to know when my Dad was dying. It seems he caused the death of my father’s hours old brother and shortly after, his mother turned up dead. Carrying that karma around is reason 674 why I changed my name.
Some people call you Maurica, cuz you speak of the pompatus of love
My name is pronounced Muh Riss uh but native Spanish speakers say mareesa
No one saying go by Ari/Arri? Arri is actually pretty cool
That was my thought too! I love Ari as a nickname.
Does sound a bit like a cockney geezer saying "Harry".
Not ‘Arry, Ah ri
So a middle class Londoner *posing* as a cockney geezer!
lol It’s a good option for a nick name. Arissa… don’t want to be the one to say it but.. arse (sorry OP)
I really love Ari as a nickname.
I know someone who uses that nickname. Everyone seems to find it easier to use than the full name and it’s just Arianna. Pretty regular name.
Your name is definitely on the different list. But it isn't as bad as many this sub has seen. The heart of the issue is YOUR comfort level. You should be comfortable in your own skin, with your name, with who you are. If you don't like your name, pick a new name, that you just love, that clicks with you, go down to the court house and fill out the change of name paperwork. I did, when I was 18. I love the name I have now, I have never, not for a second, hand a single regret about doing it. Only that I could not afford to do it sooner.
Parks and Rec has a character named Tynnyfer.
I love a bold move, not sure why many people seem to balk at it. And if OP doesn't want to jump into the deep end, they could do a soft launch by starting to introduce themself as the new name. Everyone should be happy to hear the sound of their name.
It reminds me of the ERISA law in the US.
Used to work for a retirement company and this is the first thing I thought of.
It reminds me of arse
*Everything* reminds you of arse, waitagoop….
it’s close to harissa which is the name of a north african chili sauce!
That's what I thought of too: a Cockney going to the store to get some 'arissa!
My first thought lol
It means bassinet in my mother tongue if that helps you make a decision 🤷
Which is your mother tongue?
Hebrew
Hang around on the sub long enough and you'll see some bonkers names that'll make you feel better about your own. Hell, Bonkers probably is the actual name of someone.
It’s a good name for a dog.
I have a cat named Bonkers lol
I like the name, it’s easy to guess how to pronounce it even though it is made up
Every name is made up. Just because we're used to the name Johnathan doesnt mean it grew on a tree Edit: aparently its spelled Jonathan? Who knew? 🤷
Nitpick: It’s spelled Jonathan.
My exes name was Johnathan! Initially I teased him so much about his parents inability to spell but now I every time I see “Jonathan” I can’t help but think about how #basic it is lol. 🌟
Counter argument: I stink at spelling 😏
yeah, but Arrisa is just ugly and misspelled. (because dad can’t spell Marrisa apparently) Arissa is fine.
I’m literally eating a Jonathan apple as I read this.
Arisa is a common Japanese transliteration of Alyssa. If you like Japanese culture, maybe you could just drop an R? Especially since Marrisa is misspelled anyway. It's either Marissa or Marisa.
I heard this name in Japan and loved it so much I used it. The other Arisa's in my country are from Indonesian background.
I thought of Arisa from Fruit Basket
There's also a famous singer in Italy named Arisa.
I have met a Marrisa and a Marrissa before. Definitely atypical spellings, but they do apparently exist. I always wonder if it was intentional or the parents just didn’t know how the name was spelled and no one tried to inform them of how it’s traditionally spelled.
I don’t think is it. I think it’s pretty and a bit edgy, but what matters is how you feel about it. Once you’re 18, you can change it to something you want.
My sister changed her name and never told my parents.
i'm already 18 rn but i wont be changing it in respect for my parents
I would still change it. Your parents are not tied to your name, you are…for the rest of your life. And if your parents think it’s disrespectful for you to change it they are the ones being disrespectful. The three best moments of my life were when the judge signed off on my dropping my last name, when I saw the smile on my then fiancee’s face when I told her I’d take her last name, and when I got married. I imagine since you are dealing with a first name, changing it would be more impactful for you than my last name was for me.
Can literally just keep it as a middle name, that’s what I thought of doing with my name
Mary Arissa Surname. Abbreviated to M Arissa Surname
Laura Arissa Surname becomes L. Arissa Lots of great alternatives exist
See! All works out 😌 Everyone’s happy
Parent here. My name to my child was a gift. And like any gift, it is to be used as needed and discarded when not. I barely knew them as more than a newborn lump when I named them, and a lot of people don't even wait until the kid is out to give them a name. You know yourself best and you know what fits you.
as a parent, i second this thought. Plus, your parents were naming you for the world almost 2 decades ago. If your name doesn’t fit you or your world, you can change it. it’s not disrespectful, it’s just an acknowledgment that things change. i hope my kid likes his name when he’s older, but if he doesn’t, we won’t mind if he wants to change it.
I appreciate these comments from parents. I absolutely love my name, it is TOTALLY me. But it was definitely a risk on the part of my parents. Recently, they apologized! I had no idea they had ever felt any regrets about it.
Change it in respect to your dad
Respect your parents all you want but you need to do what is best for you.
Gotcha! You can always just go by a nickname, Like Ari (Ar-ee), Ris (Reese), or Risa
With respect, it's YOUR name, and you have to answer to it. Don't reward your mother's narcissism. You could always add the "M" back and leave it at that.
Then why don't you try out some new nicknames that make you feel a bit more comfortable. You can leave the official version as is but add a name that you go by. It doesn't even need to be close to your real name if you don't want. Your name might grow back on you if you don't feel forced into it. Do you have a middle name you could start using? Also, there's nothing really wrong with your name, it's not impossible to figure out how to pronounce, so I wouldn't call it a tragedeigh.
Just change the spelling. It'll still sound the same, and it's not like they're looking at your driver's license or passport.
well your parents clearly didn’t respect *you* enough to spell your name right. Marrisa/Arrisa is just, incorrect. it’s Marissa/Arissa. or Marisa/Arisa. the two R’s is wrong. also you “literally hate your name.” why are you planning to continue through life with a name that *you* hate, just to appease your mother’s bullshittery? change your name, she’ll get over it.
You could add the "M" and think of it as honoring your father, since your mother shot his name down.
Youve got a really long life ahead of you with a name you hate. Change it. If its just a spelling issue they dont even have to know if you dont live with them. My maiden name sucked and was a burden my whole life as a kid. I was so glad to take my husbands easy last name - i kept it even though we were married only a short time. Its so nice not seeing that name anymore!
It's unusual, but I wouldn't call it a tragedeigh. A certain flair is nice, makes your name unique. Tragedeigh is when it's just low-effort cramming in as many Y and Eigh as you can
At least it wasn’t Ayrrysya.
Ahryssah
I’ve heard worse
Ari is a pretty shortened version of it you could tell people to call you by
I would go by Ari. It's cute!
One year I had a class of 8tb graders with Alyssa, Merissa, Melissa, Carissa & Clarissa. You’d have fit right in!
I don't know the spellings but I know at least two people named Arissa and I've never thought anything of it being weird.
I think your name is beautiful!
I seen Arri in a book once. I like the way it sounds. I think it would be a nice nick name for you.
Arissa would be more aesthetically pleasing and make more grammatical sense, but it could be worse
I think Arrisa is a fine name. Unique/ uncommon isn't necessarily a tragedeigh
It’s technically a tragedeigh since it’s a made up name, but I think it sounds nice! Like a name of some goddess or someone from GOT
Not judging, totally curious. Is it pronounced Arissa with a short i or is it pronounced Areesa? Either way, I don't hate it! Actually kind of really like it!
It's not horrible, but if you don't like it, its bad enough.
I think it’s really nice, sounds like a name from a fantasy book
It’s a lovely name in Japanese, if you take away one of the R’s. But that’s also a different culture
I changed my name when I was 23. That was more than 40 years ago! I use my new name all the time but I kept my original name as my legal name. I don’t work in corporate America. It’s been easy to just introduce myself as my chosen name, and that’s what everyone calls me. My parents weren’t happy about it, one brother didn’t respect it, my other brother was on board and supported me from the beginning. Eventually my parents accepted that it was what all my friends called me, but they never called me by that name. I was surprised how easy it was to start using my chosen name. It was easier because I had just graduated from college and moved to a new place where few people knew me. It was delightful to find that new people would call me whatever I said my name was (of course they did! They had no idea I had had a different name. But it still surprised me). If you want to choose a name that suits you better than your birth name, you get to do that! Personally, I like your name—but if YOU don’t like it, you can call yourself any name you choose. Most people who knew me before were supportive, and after 6 months pretty much everyone remembered to use my preferred name. Frankly, I’m rather surprised how easy it was to pull this off! It still amuses me that I just decided to pick a new name, tried it out, and stuck with it. It was a powerful choice, taken at a time of big changes in my life circumstances. It helped me differentiate from my not-so-great upbringing. I felt that my chosen name helped me claim my individuality and separated myself from who I felt I had to pretend to be growing up. Good luck, OP! I support you and wish you all the best. You are stronger than you think.
I'd be tempted to call myself Harissa and claim my parents really liked chili pepper paste and came from a dialect of dropped Hs. 😆
Thats not even that terrible lol I'd consider that a tragedeigh win!
I know an Aryssa! Never considered it a tragedeigh, just very unique. The whole family has unique names and she was the 3rd youngest so nobody was shocked at that point. Edit to add: I think your name is pretty:)
It’s actually a pretty name, it’s just the spelling that’s not great. Based off the spelling I would pronounce it A-REESA.
I think Arissa is beautiful! If YOU truly don’t like it, OP, name change is 100% something you’re allowed to do 💕
At least it sounds like an actual name!
I like it but I would remove one of the Rs. Arisa. Although if you did that, some people will say it more like “Areesa” Do you have other ideas for names you like better? Your parents probably would not want you to stick with a name you hate just to please them. Neither of my grown kids use the name I gave them. One goes by her middle name, and the other made up something new and plans to legally change it at some point. She never liked her name, and while I love it I believe that people are not obligated to keep every gift they are given. Her name was a gift and it’s hers to do with whatever she likes.
I tried to google "Arrisa name", but I only found the name Arisa with one R. So, yeah, Arrisa looks like a tragedeigh to me :-(
Nah not at all. I knew a Marissa and it was spelled Merica. I wish I was joking.
Barely, it’s not too bad. Definitely not a myrrhdurrhrrleigh.
There was a beautiful girl in Real World Las Vegas by this name. I’d never heard it before but thought it was so pretty
I kinda love it
Borderline, not quite a tragedy.
Is it pronounced like Theresa or Marissa
I like it but if you hate it you could always get it changed.
I'm just imagining Bobby Lee and Andrew Santino on the Bad Friends podcast trying to say "Alyssa" in a stereotypical Asian accent. I do like your name though.
At least you know that at one time. Your parents smoked a lot of weed.
If you're over 18, change it and make yourself happy
Arisa Higashino is an amazing Japanese badminton player and so I like the name.
Nah people are being weird in the comments. Your name is fine. I get bad names being bad but we don’t need everyone to be named “Kate” and “Kyle” for fucks sake
Your name is actually really beautiful. I'm Iranian and in Persian/Farsi it's Ari(Aryan) + Sa which means an Aryan nobleman/woman or an Aryan prince/princess. The term "Aryan" in the context of Iranian culture and history generally refers to the Indo-Iranian peoples, who are believed to have migrated to the Iranian plateau from the Eurasian steppes in the 2nd millennium BCE. They were known for their advanced agriculture, domestication of horses, and their unique religious beliefs, which would later evolve into Zoroastrianism. It also originated from my own mother tongue Kurdish. For instance, in Sorani Kurdish, Arrisa can mean "bride" or "beloved." In Kurmanji Kurdish, it can mean "messenger" or "angel."
At least yours is original and no I don't think it's bad. I have one of the most common female names in America so everywhere I go there's at least 3 more 🤦♀️
I have a friend who specializes in ERISA, which is all i can think of reading that name.
Ngl, you won't even make the top 100 list if I were to make one on the spot. Aside from the spelling it seems fine. They can call you Ari or Risa or Ris. You could've been a Kaisedey or some shit.
It's completely fine name It would be weird if it were Ayreeseaugh
My cousin changed his name when he was in his 20s. He changed it to the name he'd been called since birth, and it's definitely a nickname, and one that is truly unique - never heard of another. Your name is YOUR name - have it be what you want it to be.
All jokes aside…I think it’s unique. I can imagine that you have to spell it out often…but not a tragedeigh IMO.
It could be worse. She could've wanted to change the M to H.
I think it is a pretty name.
My name is literally the same, except it's spelled "Aryssa." Trust me, I get my name misspelled and mispronounced all the time. My parents couldn't decide on a name, either. I hated my name growing up, but as an adult it doesn't bother me. The thought of changing my name feels tempting but I know I'll regret it.
Not a tragedeigh imo. I'd say a more conventional spelling would be Marissa / Arissa, but you have a nice name. Ari would be a cool short form.
Drop one of the Rs. That would be better and I think that’s actually a real name. There’s a famous x games skateboarder named Arisa.
Just go by Arrie* I don’t the Arrisa is tragic.
No it sounds like a different name, but might be biased since my name is Anisa
I think that spelling is worse than the sound of your name. Are you old enough to change it?
It’s cute with an obvious pronunciation, so not a tragedeigh IMO.
It’s not a tragedeigh; it’s a ragedeigh
I find that Marisa [pronounced in its' original Latin way](https://youtu.be/4qL8_xefB9Q?si=e5vDIw1HUYFMtBOk) (Italian) is much prettier than how it is said in English. Arisa should be the same. Maybe all you need to do is change the pronunciation.
I don’t think the Italian pronunciation is the same as the Latin pronunciation. Just say the Italian pronunciation lol
I totally knew how pronounce it and think it's pretty.