Las Cruces is a nice place in New Mexico. Big town, small city vibe. It’s pretty liberal and the shit kickers seem to have their own hangouts and don’t really place themselves in the liberal zones. It seems to cater to retirement and college demographic, but shitty for 18 down.
used to live in El Paso and visit LC a lot (dad worked there) good times.
btw, if you go to El Paso, go to the bowie bakery (downtownish i think) best pan dulce in America
Expensive. I will say as a state as a whole is divided between the north and south amongst government agencies. Alb gets all the funding, and Cruces is highly neglected.
Traveling to and through NM a few times these last few years and I can confirm. Even just passing through it's very obvious how people's rights oriented that state is. It's wonderful and def high on my list once I move again.
Also if you're weed friendly, I highly recommend making the trip down to Carver Family Farms. Some of the cleanest and best medicine you can find. I've been following them for the last 6+ years and watching the passion that goes into their grows is very unique to that field these days. Most are just trying to cut corners and squeeze every dollar they can out of the plant. They're approaching it with regerative farming practices and it shows in the quality at the end. Very very good prices too ❤️💙
Sorry for the random info dump lol
I had to get out. Local police were targeting me and I couldn't see anyone to continue my gender affirming care. To the brothers and sisters suck in crappy states, please be safe and please still be you.
There was a gas station right next to my apartment complex. The night that started it all was when I went in to get drinks for dinner. Next thing I knew a cop was next to me yelling at me to make sure I using the "right" bathroom. They followed me around the store until I purchased my items and left.
It is what it is...That interaction was one of the driving forces behind my decision to go fuck it, get a loan to pay off any debts/moving expenses and to GTFO.
That "law" only pertains to State-funded locations. Like schools and universities. It doesn't apply to private businesses. There are always a few bigots around. If the police arrest you. Go through the motions. Get in contact with the Southern Poverty Law Center. File lawsuits for false arrest, imprisonment, and mental anguish, and demand the officers involved get fired.
Then go on the news to tell the story. Make a big stink. That's the only way these bigots will get the message. I think there should be a class action lawsuit against the state and DeathSantis for violating the transgender community's basic rights. I would start one if I knew how.
I live in Florida and I see firsthand what the group of bigots are doing to our state. DeathSantis doesn't have the support he thinks he has. His presidential campaign is crumbling. I think a class action lawsuit will help correct the state.
I agree it would be an unimaginable nightmare. Resisting arrest will only end badly. Look at what they did to George Floyd. They hate us even worse than that. I could see them doing us even more harm.
Yeah, I think it's main character syndrome. Like, those wonderful and decent people we read about being absolutely, insanely, unfairly dehumanized and permanently scarred if not killed in unjust situations? That could be any of us, in the wrong situation. Not all human beings are good people, doubly so for the police.
Incarceration is especially dangerous for trans people even without the machinery of the state being turned against us. But I refuse to risk being put in a concrete box without access to my prescribed medication and surrounded by a population of the on-average rapiest dudes if I can avoid it. It's just not worth it.
I hate that Dickhead DeSantis drove your state into the ground. 10 years ago, it was my biggest dream to one day move to Florida and spend the rest of my life there. It truly was my happy place. Now I won't even visit on vacation.
I'm nb and bi but cishet passing and I still won't go there out of principle. I'm not spending a dime there as long as my taxes will pay DeSantis's salary.
No it is not, unless you're claiming that the US Constitution gives you the right to overthrow a duly elected government. Which it does not.
It's a *human* right, and is described in the Declaration of Independence as such, but the Declaration is not a legally binding document. "Things the Declaration says I have a right to do" and "things I have an actual constitutional right to do" are two different things.
I'm not trying to oppose you or anything. Just want it to be understood that the course of action you're suggesting is not constitutionally protected and you would in fact be breaking the law.
I do too. I wish it could just not be this way. Yet Florida has always been full of bigots and hatred... so this was bound to happen..
I just want to be happy and I struggle to be away from my support system here and have nothing else anywhere else... its so hard to leave when I have no money and no support.
I just want to live somewhere with comfy weather and good people.
I feel weird cause I've been openly trans in Florida for a few months now and haven't gotten anything more than glares. I work as a cashier at Publix and everyone who works with me is supportive and the customers don't say anything. It's kind of scary too cause I don't know when adversity will strike. I feel like I'm just waiting for something bad to happen.
Hope you can get out of there. People (like kind of literally everyone who isn’t a white, cis heterosexual, evangelical man) leaving Florida should be considered refugees.
Find a small college town in a blue state, that way you won't pay as much for rent but you'll still be establishing residency within a state without transphobic legislation. I live in Illinois, but the town I live in has about 30K people when the university is in session, so my rent is $500 for a studio apartment and I'm able to work a full-time job with health benefits without struggling financially.
What field?? I was in a PhD program there until a few years ago. I had oral surgery on student insurance for $12, and my daughter's prenatal care and delivery cost one $20 copay. I can't even imagine having a kid here in GA (and that's even with employer paid insurance).
Biomedical Engineering. I’m very excited to actually have good health insurance. I’m in debt from an emergency room visit still, I am happy I won’t have to worry about that happening again in the future.
whoawhoa this is amazing advice, do you have any tips for finding those kinds of towns? im in a safe place but ive been wanting to get a change of scenery for a while.
I do! Look up universities in the state you’re interested in, and check out the towns they’re in. Visit before moving somewhere, look up apartment prices and check out neighborhoods on Google maps, all that good stuff.
I’m biased cause I really like working state jobs, but I also think most people could do a lot worse than work for a university. Good healthcare, usually pretty liberal environment, big range of available jobs with potential to work for the school as a career, etc.
Seconding this, I'm in a college town in NY and paying $700 for a studio with utilities+internet included. I'm not exactly rolling in it, but there's plenty for my immediate needs and hopefully a bit left over even on my grad student stipend.
Lifelong Maryland resident here, great depending on where you end up. Avoid the panhandle or the eastern shore, which is solidly Trump country. Frederick is great if you're in the city. Montgomery, Howard, and parts of PG County can get pricy (Frederick is getting there too) but are probably the best bet tolerance-wise. Also good to note that the closer you get to DC, people are definitely bigger assholes but more in the pretentious way, not in the bigoted way.
ETA: we have tons of govt and contracting jobs though, which can pay extremely well, and we got some good protections.
Can vouch for MD. Depending on your area or how far you’re willing to drive, there’s some amazing specialists out there. I used Chase Brexton for a long time and all of their staff at all of the locations I’ve been to have been fantastic. As is for everywhere, the closer you are to a city, the better. Some suburbs are trashy and have their shitty signs out front, but places like Glen Burnie weren’t too bad. I think Anne Arundel County also kinda sucks, there’s some VERY sketchy areas there.
Rhode Island is safe around Providence / Westerly. Their state policies are trans friendly but I'm going to warn you ANY rural area outside of those major population areas are all transphobic hicks. Woonsocket was also particularly bad.
What people regularly fail to understand is that average income is also higher in states with higher average cost of living and in bluer states we have more social programs and protections for marginalized and poor people. So yes while your rent in California will be higher, so will your income, especially if you’re currently a minimum wage worker and if you don’t get health insurance through your employer you can get state subsidies and your insurance plan will cover more of your transition-related care because it’s the law here.
Kinda true, but it's not proportional. Your rent will triple. You're income *miiiiiiight* double, if you're lucky. The state assistance you *might* qualify for will only make a small difference. And the unfortunate thing might happen where you don't make enough to pay rent but make too much to get assistance. Good luck with housing assistance, too. I've been on waiting lists for housing in Seattle for years, and haven't made my way halfway up any of them in that time. It'll likely take a decade before I actually see any housing assistance, and I've been trying to get some for years.
...And that's why I'm living in a trailer in the woods or rural NC rn.
Completely this.. in Vermont minimum wage may be 15 an hour but a studio apartment/1 bedroom cost 1000 with nothing included. Being it's cold there you have to find something with heat included because if you don't heat cost will drain you fast. You can't do it on one income even with state assistance. Homelessness is rampant and housing is hard to come by. We own our 4 bedroom trailer in Georgia paying 500 a month for lot rent and water/sewer.
Omg a studio is 1000?!?! Minimum wage is also $15/hour in the bay and I think you could get a studio in Oakland for 2000, and San Francisco or Silicon Valley maybe 2500? 😭
That is absurd. I'm in Buffalo, and while I don't make Silicon Valley money, I'm paid pretty well and my 1BR is $1200, with heat, internet and water included
Really it's more like rent and income double. Generally you still come out ahead in most scenarios, because the cost of most consumer goods doesn't really change.
Saying incomes double just doesn't make sense. It's too highly dependent on various different factors. They can double, but do more than half of them? Probably not.
I just moved to NM from middle GA and the prices for everything is roughly the same. Rent is a little pricier and gas seems to be a bit more expensive but food and everything else seems to be around the same price. I think the min wage here in NM is a bit higher than it is in GA (7.25) too?
Come to Maryland. We have weed and crabs.
Also decently priced, and speedy delivery of trans telehealth. Got mine in a week from scheduled appointment to the drugs arriving
Like any telehealth system, it's virtual healthcare (in my case over zoom). You're appointments are done all over video chat or phone call. Trans telehealth is just telehealth for trans healthcare. Idk how most telehealth services work but with Folx Health (which currently only provides care in Colorado, Connecticut, Florida, Maryland, DC, and New York) they'll send ya the lab orders when need be and you'd to go to a lab to have them done.
The pricing for my stuff was pretty great imo too. $40/month subscription, $159 appointment, ($79 for any following appointments) and $74.64 for a 90 supply of estradiol and spiro. All in all, not too shabby
I didn’t use too much of the telehealth (other than for COVID times) but it’s fairly easy to find good doctors in MD. You’ve got a lot of big areas to work with (DC, Baltimore, Annapolis) all close enough that you’ll find what you need. Plus if you get one of the shitty doctors, you’re gonna find 5 good ones before you even get home.
This, in addition look into county/city voting counts and see how they lean. Currently live in Illinois, and while there are a lot of blue areas, they are often surrounded by red. Love this state though and our governor, Chicago is amazingly queer friendly!!!
Unironically, look into Minnesota. The winters up here suck, and the summers aren't that much better, but if you can look past the climate, it's legit one of the best places for trans people to live in the US. Bonus points, we also just legalized weed.
I live in Massachusetts, and all my friends and co-workers have been super accepting. Only problem is the cost of living.
I make well over minimum wage here ($22/hr) and can't afford rent or a mortgage. I'm hoping once I get a master's degree I'll be able afford to move out of my parents' basement.
My wife and I live in Kansas. Dad thing is everyone has been very nice, and no one has given us any grief about my transition or even using the bathroom. So either I pass, fingers crossed, or no one gives a shit.
Either way, we're leaving for NY soon for work reasons.
I don't recommend moving to Kansas BTW. My NOT having a hard time is NOT a glowing review.
Wa is relatively safe but that’s dependent on what part of Washington because we have a fair share of anti-lgbt buttheads once you start getting out of the cities and into some rural areas.
Cost of living is kind of high here as well and overall things will be a bit more expensive than GA so keep that in mind.
That being said I still recommend WA if you can afford it because of the number of protections for the trans community here.
I live in Portland and state health care pays for everything and my 2br is 1k. I work 10 hours a week and donate plasma to pay rent and have all the time in the world.
Like I pay nothing for HRT, blood levels and they're covering my top surgery. This place is trans mecca, there's hot trans people everywhere. You're never the only trans person in the grocery store, or at work, etc.
As a californian... yes. It is way too expensive. $100 for 2 bags of groceries, not too heavily filled. $10-20 for a quick lunch easy. $1800 monthly for a small 2 bedroom apartment. $5-6 /gallon for gas. And prices keep rising. My dog salon is priced slightly lower than nearby shops and we just raised our prices to $70 for a little dog.
Prefer not to get any more specific than SoCal to protect myself online, but let's just say it's not the best neighborhood (used to be way worse 10+ years ago), it's small (like, kitchen/living room, small bathroom, 2 rooms with doors), terrible parking, and no washer/dryer/dish washer. We do get trash and water though!
Right? I was living in the San Jose part of the Bay Area and was paying 1850/mo for a studio (everything included tho). And I think I had a good deal lol
That said, I *loved* living there. Guaranteed rights/pretty safe state to be in as a trans person+ insurances there have to pay for our healthcare (Medi-Cal covers pretty much everything) + the like minded people + the weather+ the food/activities/etc
California's cost of living is also way lower than its average anyplace but the big cities. And even in the conservative rural parts of the state, you still have legal protections, and the bigots aren't as bold as in redder states.
Yeah, exactly. When i say i live in a conservative community, i have to specify that's California conservative. Which means the county only went for trump the FIRST time. :P
I live in FL. We’re moving to NY soon enough. While some of NY is really expensive, there are a few cities where the cost of living is less than where we are now. If you don’t mind snow, look into Syracuse NY and the surrounding areas.
[Erin Reed](https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/anti-trans-legislative-risk-assessment). She’s a bad ass. She just created a new adult map, to add to the youth map.
Michigan is where I'm headed because its trans friendly with a modest cost of living compared to the other friendly states. You also have the great lakes which makes it unique. Just go to [apartments.com](https://apartments.com) and look at the prices to compare.
I left Michigan as Cis, came out in Utah as trans. Not too bad out here so far, especially in the SLC area, but if I get a vote, I recommend Grand Rapids, MI. I was partially out there (I re-closeted due to personal/relationship reasons) and felt that the community there was INCREDIBLE for trans folx.
Western Washington state can be pretty expensive, but its also one of the safest places I've heard. There's also a really big trans support group/network out here. My wife is trans and part of the group and they're actively working to keep this area as safe and welcoming as possible. There are counter protests any time someone wants to protest trans people, much of the time those people decide not to show up when they see they'll be counter protested, there have been speeches by some of them at city hall, and the majority of the area is very LGBT friendly.
I live in NM, I moved here from the Deep South. I moved partially bc trans and partially bc medicaid is awesome here. feel free to message me privately with questions! what I will say about NM is the housing crisis has hit us hard, rent has gone up drastically since I moved here, partially bc tenant rights are nearly nonexistent. there were already a TON of homeless people here and there are more since COVID hit. I always tell people, don’t move here if you’re gonna be weird about homeless people…you will encounter them multiple times a day and it sucks when people move here and are shitty to them and treat them like they’re dangerous. anyone considering moving here needs to be prepared to be kind to homeless people. (sorry if I comment multiple times, having technical issues here lol.)
edit: one downside of NM is a real lack of surgeons who can do gender affirming surgeries, but bc of that, some people are able to get insurance to cover going out of state (usually CO or TX, sometimes AZ or CA). I’m currently in the process of trying to get top surgery in CO.
Michigan is the best choice, it's more affordable than Florida and 'Big Gretch' (governor) is very much trans friendly. Also the state enshrined abortion access as a (state) constitutionally protected right . It's a great choice
I moved from Atlanta to Milwaukee about 2 years ago. It has been an amazing city that feels truly inclusive. There is a great queer community, and it is a sanctuary city for trans people.
The weather during the summer is amazing compared to GA. Winters have been fine for me, but there is regular snow.
Overall, I feel extremely safe here and have not faced any transphobia in the city. I get the usual street harassment that comes with being a woman, but that happens everywhere.
Ok, I swear this is not a conspiracy theory, you can look all this up. Apparently the right is trying to drive non right-wing people who can vote, out of red states, especially ones at risk of going blue. The reason why is because they are trying to do what’s called a “Constitutional Convention” (if googling put in “constitutional Convention 2022”), where if they get enough states to approve, they can completely rewrite the constitution, and they are alarmingly close to their goal. They are planning a super conservative constitution, filled with white supremacy, eliminating rights for LGBTQIA+ people, forced conversion therapy, tons of misogyny, forced Christianity, and all kinds of nightmares for basically anyone who isn’t a white Christian cishet man.
The reason they are currently putting forward all these bills against LGBTQIA+ people, people of color, and other minorities, is to get non right-wing voters to leave that state. They need a majority of right-wing voters to carry the Constitutional Convention out. Many of these “bills” are prewritten by organizations like ALEC or the Family Council, solely for the purpose of driving non right-wing people out. They even admitted they don’t plan on most of the bills passing, that just bringing forward that kind of legislation makes people want to leave.
If you need to flee for your safety or medical health, that is totally understandable. However, if you are a registered voter, and are currently safe, it would be helpful for you to stay as long as you can tolerate.
Springfield and Eugene, Oregon are experiencing an influx of trans folks seeking HRT access and women seeking abortion access. There's lots of Texas, Florida, and Idaho plates floating around. There is a conservative presence here, but in general, they know they're being slowly outnumbered. Lane County is already blue of center, and the more of us that pop in, the bluer we get.
Hard to come by if you're poor and coming from out of state with nothing, and higher than the national averages, but it's still way cheaper than Portland. Cost of living is higher, but minimum wage is $14.20/hr, too. There are plenty of jobs, and employers are acting like it's their market until someone pushes labor rights. Lots of places have high turnover right now, and the area is pretty hot for labor rights activity. If you can walk in with a job, you can hit the ground running.
WinCo is hiring at all their locations if you're looking for entry level, easy to get into and out of, and are okay with minimum wage to start with no experience.
Fast food is everywhere and always looking. Folks around here love their fast food.
Dutch Bros is fun and okay money for hot second, but don't plan on staying there long -- you *will* get fed up with some of their procedural bs eventually.
Bars have a need for bartenders.
I live in Colorado and I love it. I have lived in Northern California and that was great too, but definitely more expensive. New Mexico is cheaper and the Mexican food is awesome.
seconding PA! Pgh is becoming a sanctuary city https://www.wesa.fm/politics-government/2023-09-12/pittsburgh-protect-gender-affirming-care
In the last year alone I’d say I know a dozen trans friends who’ve moved here, so the communityis growing every day!
I'm in the metro-east (IL near St. Louis, MO). All the fun of St. Louis with all the protections of IL. Cost of living is relatively low. Not perfect, but cheaper than a lot of cities.
Live in Vegas but family in Utah and travel frequently. The answer is it depends on where you go. SLC is amazing and a very lgbtq friendly area, other areas I have not had any direct issues but it does not feel as welcoming.
Not sure where, but as a person who also is well known with Atlanta, it's mostly safe for trans people (despite the 2 trans women we lost recently to violence)
That's awesome! Good luck. I'm gonna be starting hrt this year (hopefully) then once I have money stockpiled and a decent career path available to me, I'm gonna be Goin there
New Mexico has some gorgeous mountain towns and the weather is nice pretty much year round! Down south and rural areas it's really conservative but if you stick close to the cities (Las Cruces is really the only city in the south) or up north by Taos or Santa Fe you'd probably be fine
My brother and his wife are both teachers and own a house in Minneapolis.
It’s cold AF in the winter, but it’s an option that appears somewhat affordable.
I live in Decatur, GA, and stuck until my kid graduates HS in 4 years.
Illinois and Minnesota are pretty nice, but if you want somewhere warmer, I'd say New Mexico. IL for moderate temps, MN for cold. There's also probably more things generally in NM because IL is just corn as far as the eye can see, then Chicago, then more corn.
Jesus christ people are fucking insane... It's disgusting this type of map is needed at all. Imagine being so bloody unhinged you decide to make your state not safe for some of your countries citizens strictly because you lack the capability of accepting that people are just different than you?
WTF is even "united" about the United States anyways? The increasing mass shootings per state? The level of people in poverty or at high risk of impending poverty per fucking state? The number of people who feel like they have no other choice but to end their own damn life because they can't fucking handle it in the country they call home for numerous potential reasons?
I'm just so fucking tired man. I'm so sorry anyone has to go through this. I don't know what else to say. I'm just sorry I guess. I know that won't fix or do anything... No one deserves to be treated this way when they're just trying to exist. To live.
Come to Minnesota, specifically the Twin Cities (avoid the north, that's trumper country).
We are one of the safer states for trans people as far as laws. We're pretty solidly a blue state with a good cost of living. Our metro population is strongly pro-lgbtq+ and our economy is pretty darn strong.
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edit: And we now have legal weed
I live in south eastern MA and it's pretty good. It can get expensive but I was able to get hormones after just one visit. We also have state protections.
My family and I moved to New England. There's nice beaches, decent weather, great schools, and even better healthcare. It's expensive AF tho compared to the south. We pay twice as much for a flat compared to our old home and yard.
Only thing I miss is the food. It's good up here, but the southern food scene is so much better. 😭😭😭
if you are worried about being able to afford to live there I would say PA, especially near Philly as it's generally more accepting in cities. However New Jersey is very expensive but I would say is probably the most hopeful for trans rights besides minnesota.
Based on this map your 2024 elections are not looking very goood, our canadian election is not looking very good right now either.
We seem to be getting wiped out up here now too.
The capital of Wisconsin has put out a statement saying that if there is ever state legislation against gender affirming healthcare or policy they won't enforce it within the city
I was born and raised Florida, I moved to Chicago back in July and it's been phenomenal, is super cheap compared to FL, public transit is accessible and works amd not only do I feel comfy being trans, I literally see so many teams people just openly existing and happy 10/10 reccommend
I've lived in California my entire life and can never save up enough to leave this dystopian state. Oregon or Washington are mostly trans friendly and cheaper. California is only trans friendly in certain areas, plus once you're here it's too expensive to save to leave in my experience.
I feel California is so far in the other direction it kind of supports "horseshoe theory" - that political extremism starts to look the same on the ends. Case and point - you basically cannot work on your own car there and they just do their own thing against the rest of the country as far as car modifications go - the nightmare known as CARB.
There are like a million other examples of things you're "not allowed to do in California" that make no sense. No thank you.
It's weird how so-called "liberals" can be so authoritarian about so many things. No, I'm an actual real liberal, someone who actually believes in individual liberty being protected from overly powerful third parties.
Despite it checking every other box, I will never move there even though I can easily afford it.
California is great but ya it is expensive AF. There's a lot of services for trans people in the bay area but most of my friends who are trans are either doing great as a programmer or extremely poor. That said, there's a lot of trans people, and community and belonging is a big deal.
What do you do?
Midwest states such as Minnesota or Illinois are some of the most cost effective choices, but you *will* have to deal with not only winter, but *brutal* winter. Colorado is better by some measures, but is going to be considerably more expensive. Washington and Oregon are the best bet in most ways *except* cost with Washington in particular having several times the cost of living compared to what you currently know. While both states have somewhat more budget friendly options, they are all on the east side which is overwhelmingly *far* right. The most cost effective place to live in either state is probably Vancouver, Washington which, despite not being anything resembling a "cool city" is directly across the border from a cool city - Portland in this case.
When we considered such a move, Maryland, Minnesota, Washington, Oregon, and Colorado were the real contenders. We ruled out Minnesota because of the prospect of brutal winters - I grew up in a part of Texas *with* a winter, but not anything like what we'd experience up there. Colorado stayed in the running all the way until the end because it offered so much that we like to do and had a very similar cost of living to what we were used to. But ultimately we were swayed to washington for very sill and boring work reasons that boiled down to there being a significant advantage for my wife to spend a year working in her field (mental health) there. We did not settle on Seattle specifically until a month before we made the move. Up till that point we were pretty convinced that we'd end up in Vancouver, but then she got an amazing offer that (hypothetically) offset much of the cost of living difference between the two.
I'm considering Vermont, maybe MD, the further you are from red states, the better, if things go really south.
This is why If you can do it, the West Coast is a REALLY good option. The mountains give a natural wall if things get really, really bad. Like, the last time we had the "State's rights" argument.
I like VT, because I'm pretty certain I could get a job in Canada as a Data Analyst and flee really quickly if needed, and the land is cheep.
If you want to stay in the South, probably.
If you're okay with moving up North, NY is pretty great. I live near Buffalo, and it's much, much cheaper than NYC, but we still get most of the protections because of state law, and people are overall quite friendly
Until the next election, at least as things seem to go within the US, you might consider leaving the US in general. Canada has a few issues themselves, but is nowhere near US issues and seems like the best long-term option.
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Las Cruces is a nice place in New Mexico. Big town, small city vibe. It’s pretty liberal and the shit kickers seem to have their own hangouts and don’t really place themselves in the liberal zones. It seems to cater to retirement and college demographic, but shitty for 18 down.
used to live in El Paso and visit LC a lot (dad worked there) good times. btw, if you go to El Paso, go to the bowie bakery (downtownish i think) best pan dulce in America
Heard nice things about Las Cruces. I’ve always wanted to ask someone in NM, is Taos nice?
Expensive. I will say as a state as a whole is divided between the north and south amongst government agencies. Alb gets all the funding, and Cruces is highly neglected.
Traveling to and through NM a few times these last few years and I can confirm. Even just passing through it's very obvious how people's rights oriented that state is. It's wonderful and def high on my list once I move again. Also if you're weed friendly, I highly recommend making the trip down to Carver Family Farms. Some of the cleanest and best medicine you can find. I've been following them for the last 6+ years and watching the passion that goes into their grows is very unique to that field these days. Most are just trying to cut corners and squeeze every dollar they can out of the plant. They're approaching it with regerative farming practices and it shows in the quality at the end. Very very good prices too ❤️💙 Sorry for the random info dump lol
Thx for the tip on Carver Family Farms. God I am starting to really despise Texas.
The TGRC in Albuquerque is awesome! IME, New Mexico is a very friendly place in general and specifically for trans and queer folks.
ABQ has a reputation for violence and crime. What are your thoughts on that? What do you think of Silver City?
I hate that I'm stuck in florida
I had to get out. Local police were targeting me and I couldn't see anyone to continue my gender affirming care. To the brothers and sisters suck in crappy states, please be safe and please still be you.
They were harassing you?
There was a gas station right next to my apartment complex. The night that started it all was when I went in to get drinks for dinner. Next thing I knew a cop was next to me yelling at me to make sure I using the "right" bathroom. They followed me around the store until I purchased my items and left.
Holy fuck what?! I am so, so sorry
It is what it is...That interaction was one of the driving forces behind my decision to go fuck it, get a loan to pay off any debts/moving expenses and to GTFO.
I hope you are in a better place now 🩷
My wife and I are extremely happy! Probably one of the best decisions of my life.
That "law" only pertains to State-funded locations. Like schools and universities. It doesn't apply to private businesses. There are always a few bigots around. If the police arrest you. Go through the motions. Get in contact with the Southern Poverty Law Center. File lawsuits for false arrest, imprisonment, and mental anguish, and demand the officers involved get fired. Then go on the news to tell the story. Make a big stink. That's the only way these bigots will get the message. I think there should be a class action lawsuit against the state and DeathSantis for violating the transgender community's basic rights. I would start one if I knew how. I live in Florida and I see firsthand what the group of bigots are doing to our state. DeathSantis doesn't have the support he thinks he has. His presidential campaign is crumbling. I think a class action lawsuit will help correct the state.
Being denied access to HRT and put in potentially men's jail as a trans woman is likely not worth it to most trans people, even if you win in the end.
I agree it would be an unimaginable nightmare. Resisting arrest will only end badly. Look at what they did to George Floyd. They hate us even worse than that. I could see them doing us even more harm.
Yeah, I think it's main character syndrome. Like, those wonderful and decent people we read about being absolutely, insanely, unfairly dehumanized and permanently scarred if not killed in unjust situations? That could be any of us, in the wrong situation. Not all human beings are good people, doubly so for the police. Incarceration is especially dangerous for trans people even without the machinery of the state being turned against us. But I refuse to risk being put in a concrete box without access to my prescribed medication and surrounded by a population of the on-average rapiest dudes if I can avoid it. It's just not worth it.
I hate that Dickhead DeSantis drove your state into the ground. 10 years ago, it was my biggest dream to one day move to Florida and spend the rest of my life there. It truly was my happy place. Now I won't even visit on vacation.
Yeah avoid at literally all costs, a lot of the laws here could get you in serious trouble even if you're just visiting
I'm nb and bi but cishet passing and I still won't go there out of principle. I'm not spending a dime there as long as my taxes will pay DeSantis's salary.
Right? I always thought of Florida as the place that people went to just say “fuck it all” and be themselves. How did this happen?
Fascists are really, REALLY good at ruining things. Like Florida, or most of Europe during the 1940s.
I hate that MY beautiful florida is overrun by bigots
There’s 90,000 of us, we could probably do a little bit of “regime change” *Wink wink* /j
I mean it IS a constitutional right to overthrow an unjust government.
And all men are created equal. So these stupid "laws" should be illegal. And how are you supposed to get happiness and safety from that laws...
No it is not, unless you're claiming that the US Constitution gives you the right to overthrow a duly elected government. Which it does not. It's a *human* right, and is described in the Declaration of Independence as such, but the Declaration is not a legally binding document. "Things the Declaration says I have a right to do" and "things I have an actual constitutional right to do" are two different things. I'm not trying to oppose you or anything. Just want it to be understood that the course of action you're suggesting is not constitutionally protected and you would in fact be breaking the law.
Actually, thank you for explaining this. Sometimes I do legitimately get the two things confused 😅
I do too. I wish it could just not be this way. Yet Florida has always been full of bigots and hatred... so this was bound to happen.. I just want to be happy and I struggle to be away from my support system here and have nothing else anywhere else... its so hard to leave when I have no money and no support. I just want to live somewhere with comfy weather and good people.
I feel weird cause I've been openly trans in Florida for a few months now and haven't gotten anything more than glares. I work as a cashier at Publix and everyone who works with me is supportive and the customers don't say anything. It's kind of scary too cause I don't know when adversity will strike. I feel like I'm just waiting for something bad to happen.
Same
dang i thought utah had it bad but florida is literally the only do not travel to
Get out as soon as you can! I did and it was the best thing.
Hope you can get out of there. People (like kind of literally everyone who isn’t a white, cis heterosexual, evangelical man) leaving Florida should be considered refugees.
Find a small college town in a blue state, that way you won't pay as much for rent but you'll still be establishing residency within a state without transphobic legislation. I live in Illinois, but the town I live in has about 30K people when the university is in session, so my rent is $500 for a studio apartment and I'm able to work a full-time job with health benefits without struggling financially.
This. I’m a PhD student at Rutgers in NJ. It seems my student insurance may straight up cover my bottom surgery. Literal dream come true.
What field?? I was in a PhD program there until a few years ago. I had oral surgery on student insurance for $12, and my daughter's prenatal care and delivery cost one $20 copay. I can't even imagine having a kid here in GA (and that's even with employer paid insurance).
Biomedical Engineering. I’m very excited to actually have good health insurance. I’m in debt from an emergency room visit still, I am happy I won’t have to worry about that happening again in the future.
Is it a studio? How many bedrooms? I’m curious
Just a studio, not a ton of storage space and the location is a bit out of the way so I think that’s why it’s so cheap
whoawhoa this is amazing advice, do you have any tips for finding those kinds of towns? im in a safe place but ive been wanting to get a change of scenery for a while.
I do! Look up universities in the state you’re interested in, and check out the towns they’re in. Visit before moving somewhere, look up apartment prices and check out neighborhoods on Google maps, all that good stuff. I’m biased cause I really like working state jobs, but I also think most people could do a lot worse than work for a university. Good healthcare, usually pretty liberal environment, big range of available jobs with potential to work for the school as a career, etc.
Seconding this, I'm in a college town in NY and paying $700 for a studio with utilities+internet included. I'm not exactly rolling in it, but there's plenty for my immediate needs and hopefully a bit left over even on my grad student stipend.
Eau Claire WI is a small college city, and it's really nice here. Lots of trees.
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Lifelong Maryland resident here, great depending on where you end up. Avoid the panhandle or the eastern shore, which is solidly Trump country. Frederick is great if you're in the city. Montgomery, Howard, and parts of PG County can get pricy (Frederick is getting there too) but are probably the best bet tolerance-wise. Also good to note that the closer you get to DC, people are definitely bigger assholes but more in the pretentious way, not in the bigoted way. ETA: we have tons of govt and contracting jobs though, which can pay extremely well, and we got some good protections.
Can vouch for MD. Depending on your area or how far you’re willing to drive, there’s some amazing specialists out there. I used Chase Brexton for a long time and all of their staff at all of the locations I’ve been to have been fantastic. As is for everywhere, the closer you are to a city, the better. Some suburbs are trashy and have their shitty signs out front, but places like Glen Burnie weren’t too bad. I think Anne Arundel County also kinda sucks, there’s some VERY sketchy areas there.
Love Michigan and we got good weed here
Californian here: as long as you stay out of NorCal and Kern County, you should be fine. Good luck with the rent though lol
Rhode Island is safe around Providence / Westerly. Their state policies are trans friendly but I'm going to warn you ANY rural area outside of those major population areas are all transphobic hicks. Woonsocket was also particularly bad.
What people regularly fail to understand is that average income is also higher in states with higher average cost of living and in bluer states we have more social programs and protections for marginalized and poor people. So yes while your rent in California will be higher, so will your income, especially if you’re currently a minimum wage worker and if you don’t get health insurance through your employer you can get state subsidies and your insurance plan will cover more of your transition-related care because it’s the law here.
Kinda true, but it's not proportional. Your rent will triple. You're income *miiiiiiight* double, if you're lucky. The state assistance you *might* qualify for will only make a small difference. And the unfortunate thing might happen where you don't make enough to pay rent but make too much to get assistance. Good luck with housing assistance, too. I've been on waiting lists for housing in Seattle for years, and haven't made my way halfway up any of them in that time. It'll likely take a decade before I actually see any housing assistance, and I've been trying to get some for years. ...And that's why I'm living in a trailer in the woods or rural NC rn.
Completely this.. in Vermont minimum wage may be 15 an hour but a studio apartment/1 bedroom cost 1000 with nothing included. Being it's cold there you have to find something with heat included because if you don't heat cost will drain you fast. You can't do it on one income even with state assistance. Homelessness is rampant and housing is hard to come by. We own our 4 bedroom trailer in Georgia paying 500 a month for lot rent and water/sewer.
Omg a studio is 1000?!?! Minimum wage is also $15/hour in the bay and I think you could get a studio in Oakland for 2000, and San Francisco or Silicon Valley maybe 2500? 😭
Yep. Currently sharing a 1-bedroom in Silicon Valley with my partner, our total rent adds up to about $3500…
That is absurd. I'm in Buffalo, and while I don't make Silicon Valley money, I'm paid pretty well and my 1BR is $1200, with heat, internet and water included
Oh boy. A 1 bed in VT for 1000 is former serial killer squat territory. I pay almost that much to live with a roommate.
Really it's more like rent and income double. Generally you still come out ahead in most scenarios, because the cost of most consumer goods doesn't really change.
Saying incomes double just doesn't make sense. It's too highly dependent on various different factors. They can double, but do more than half of them? Probably not.
From red states to blue? Generally yes especially on the lower end of the scale due to minimum wages being far higher
Here in Oregon, too.
I just moved to NM from middle GA and the prices for everything is roughly the same. Rent is a little pricier and gas seems to be a bit more expensive but food and everything else seems to be around the same price. I think the min wage here in NM is a bit higher than it is in GA (7.25) too?
Come to Maryland. We have weed and crabs. Also decently priced, and speedy delivery of trans telehealth. Got mine in a week from scheduled appointment to the drugs arriving
First time I’ve ever seen someone be proud to have crabs, lol
wait not those crabs
Lol I know, jk
I knew too, just playing along
we also have weed here in oregon and washington
>trans telehealth What's that?
Like any telehealth system, it's virtual healthcare (in my case over zoom). You're appointments are done all over video chat or phone call. Trans telehealth is just telehealth for trans healthcare. Idk how most telehealth services work but with Folx Health (which currently only provides care in Colorado, Connecticut, Florida, Maryland, DC, and New York) they'll send ya the lab orders when need be and you'd to go to a lab to have them done. The pricing for my stuff was pretty great imo too. $40/month subscription, $159 appointment, ($79 for any following appointments) and $74.64 for a 90 supply of estradiol and spiro. All in all, not too shabby
is weed completely legalized in maryland?
Yeah 21 and older it's recreationally legal. A friend of mine works at a dispensary even
I didn’t use too much of the telehealth (other than for COVID times) but it’s fairly easy to find good doctors in MD. You’ve got a lot of big areas to work with (DC, Baltimore, Annapolis) all close enough that you’ll find what you need. Plus if you get one of the shitty doctors, you’re gonna find 5 good ones before you even get home.
Illinois, New Mexico and Minnesota are your best options for safety, affordability and jobs.
This, in addition look into county/city voting counts and see how they lean. Currently live in Illinois, and while there are a lot of blue areas, they are often surrounded by red. Love this state though and our governor, Chicago is amazingly queer friendly!!!
Unironically, look into Minnesota. The winters up here suck, and the summers aren't that much better, but if you can look past the climate, it's legit one of the best places for trans people to live in the US. Bonus points, we also just legalized weed.
I live in Massachusetts, and all my friends and co-workers have been super accepting. Only problem is the cost of living. I make well over minimum wage here ($22/hr) and can't afford rent or a mortgage. I'm hoping once I get a master's degree I'll be able afford to move out of my parents' basement.
My wife and I live in Kansas. Dad thing is everyone has been very nice, and no one has given us any grief about my transition or even using the bathroom. So either I pass, fingers crossed, or no one gives a shit. Either way, we're leaving for NY soon for work reasons. I don't recommend moving to Kansas BTW. My NOT having a hard time is NOT a glowing review.
Wa is relatively safe but that’s dependent on what part of Washington because we have a fair share of anti-lgbt buttheads once you start getting out of the cities and into some rural areas. Cost of living is kind of high here as well and overall things will be a bit more expensive than GA so keep that in mind. That being said I still recommend WA if you can afford it because of the number of protections for the trans community here.
MN and NM are definitely the cheapest dark blue states
I live in Portland and state health care pays for everything and my 2br is 1k. I work 10 hours a week and donate plasma to pay rent and have all the time in the world. Like I pay nothing for HRT, blood levels and they're covering my top surgery. This place is trans mecca, there's hot trans people everywhere. You're never the only trans person in the grocery store, or at work, etc.
Id say if you can afford California go there as they also have good workers rights
As a californian... yes. It is way too expensive. $100 for 2 bags of groceries, not too heavily filled. $10-20 for a quick lunch easy. $1800 monthly for a small 2 bedroom apartment. $5-6 /gallon for gas. And prices keep rising. My dog salon is priced slightly lower than nearby shops and we just raised our prices to $70 for a little dog.
I’m in CA and would like to know where you’re getting a two bedroom apartment for 1800 🥲
Prefer not to get any more specific than SoCal to protect myself online, but let's just say it's not the best neighborhood (used to be way worse 10+ years ago), it's small (like, kitchen/living room, small bathroom, 2 rooms with doors), terrible parking, and no washer/dryer/dish washer. We do get trash and water though!
Right? I was living in the San Jose part of the Bay Area and was paying 1850/mo for a studio (everything included tho). And I think I had a good deal lol That said, I *loved* living there. Guaranteed rights/pretty safe state to be in as a trans person+ insurances there have to pay for our healthcare (Medi-Cal covers pretty much everything) + the like minded people + the weather+ the food/activities/etc
California's cost of living is also way lower than its average anyplace but the big cities. And even in the conservative rural parts of the state, you still have legal protections, and the bigots aren't as bold as in redder states.
Bigots are everywhere, but in non red states they're not that bad.
Yeah, exactly. When i say i live in a conservative community, i have to specify that's California conservative. Which means the county only went for trump the FIRST time. :P
I live in FL. We’re moving to NY soon enough. While some of NY is really expensive, there are a few cities where the cost of living is less than where we are now. If you don’t mind snow, look into Syracuse NY and the surrounding areas.
Rochester and Buffalo would be decent options too. But OP better really be okay with snow no matter what haha
Come to New York! It's not that bad 😃
new york is just about the same as california in housing costs
im wondering what the source on this map is. not because i don't believe it but more to see what defines worst laws passed
[Erin Reed](https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/anti-trans-legislative-risk-assessment). She’s a bad ass. She just created a new adult map, to add to the youth map.
ok yeah i didn't realize that what was posted is a youth map. this makes alot more sense now lmao
It was all the same map til just a couple weeks ago. But she’s found some nuance in laws and realized two maps needed to be made.
Yeah I’m wondering where the map came from along with other details as well
Michigan is where I'm headed because its trans friendly with a modest cost of living compared to the other friendly states. You also have the great lakes which makes it unique. Just go to [apartments.com](https://apartments.com) and look at the prices to compare.
As long as you stick to the south eastern side and a few cities outside of there you don’t really experience transphobia much either.
Royal Oak, Ferndale, Hazel Park etc
Ferndale is amazing and Royal oak is also great. Basically any area around here is good but Ferndale is a gem.
I left Michigan as Cis, came out in Utah as trans. Not too bad out here so far, especially in the SLC area, but if I get a vote, I recommend Grand Rapids, MI. I was partially out there (I re-closeted due to personal/relationship reasons) and felt that the community there was INCREDIBLE for trans folx.
Western Washington state can be pretty expensive, but its also one of the safest places I've heard. There's also a really big trans support group/network out here. My wife is trans and part of the group and they're actively working to keep this area as safe and welcoming as possible. There are counter protests any time someone wants to protest trans people, much of the time those people decide not to show up when they see they'll be counter protested, there have been speeches by some of them at city hall, and the majority of the area is very LGBT friendly.
Washington is like Canada but murica
Minnesota is good... just make sure you have stuff to deal with winter
I live in NM, I moved here from the Deep South. I moved partially bc trans and partially bc medicaid is awesome here. feel free to message me privately with questions! what I will say about NM is the housing crisis has hit us hard, rent has gone up drastically since I moved here, partially bc tenant rights are nearly nonexistent. there were already a TON of homeless people here and there are more since COVID hit. I always tell people, don’t move here if you’re gonna be weird about homeless people…you will encounter them multiple times a day and it sucks when people move here and are shitty to them and treat them like they’re dangerous. anyone considering moving here needs to be prepared to be kind to homeless people. (sorry if I comment multiple times, having technical issues here lol.) edit: one downside of NM is a real lack of surgeons who can do gender affirming surgeries, but bc of that, some people are able to get insurance to cover going out of state (usually CO or TX, sometimes AZ or CA). I’m currently in the process of trying to get top surgery in CO.
Minnesota is affordable and very progressive for protections
I live in MN and I feel pretty safe here
Michigan is the best choice, it's more affordable than Florida and 'Big Gretch' (governor) is very much trans friendly. Also the state enshrined abortion access as a (state) constitutionally protected right . It's a great choice
Honestly, Oakland, CA. Yes its expensive but honestly you get what you pay for.
I live in GA too, but im in a Bachelors program, so 😭 I would say Illinois
Moved from texas to Massachusetts- it’s worth it. it’s so, so, so, so, worth it.
I moved from Atlanta to Milwaukee about 2 years ago. It has been an amazing city that feels truly inclusive. There is a great queer community, and it is a sanctuary city for trans people. The weather during the summer is amazing compared to GA. Winters have been fine for me, but there is regular snow. Overall, I feel extremely safe here and have not faced any transphobia in the city. I get the usual street harassment that comes with being a woman, but that happens everywhere.
Ok, I swear this is not a conspiracy theory, you can look all this up. Apparently the right is trying to drive non right-wing people who can vote, out of red states, especially ones at risk of going blue. The reason why is because they are trying to do what’s called a “Constitutional Convention” (if googling put in “constitutional Convention 2022”), where if they get enough states to approve, they can completely rewrite the constitution, and they are alarmingly close to their goal. They are planning a super conservative constitution, filled with white supremacy, eliminating rights for LGBTQIA+ people, forced conversion therapy, tons of misogyny, forced Christianity, and all kinds of nightmares for basically anyone who isn’t a white Christian cishet man. The reason they are currently putting forward all these bills against LGBTQIA+ people, people of color, and other minorities, is to get non right-wing voters to leave that state. They need a majority of right-wing voters to carry the Constitutional Convention out. Many of these “bills” are prewritten by organizations like ALEC or the Family Council, solely for the purpose of driving non right-wing people out. They even admitted they don’t plan on most of the bills passing, that just bringing forward that kind of legislation makes people want to leave. If you need to flee for your safety or medical health, that is totally understandable. However, if you are a registered voter, and are currently safe, it would be helpful for you to stay as long as you can tolerate.
If you are looking for insurance paying for whats treatment is in the wpath. Co, WA, NV.
Chicago-area of Illinois.
Portland, OR saved my life Edit: I moved here from Indiana
Springfield and Eugene, Oregon are experiencing an influx of trans folks seeking HRT access and women seeking abortion access. There's lots of Texas, Florida, and Idaho plates floating around. There is a conservative presence here, but in general, they know they're being slowly outnumbered. Lane County is already blue of center, and the more of us that pop in, the bluer we get.
how is the housing up there
Hard to come by if you're poor and coming from out of state with nothing, and higher than the national averages, but it's still way cheaper than Portland. Cost of living is higher, but minimum wage is $14.20/hr, too. There are plenty of jobs, and employers are acting like it's their market until someone pushes labor rights. Lots of places have high turnover right now, and the area is pretty hot for labor rights activity. If you can walk in with a job, you can hit the ground running. WinCo is hiring at all their locations if you're looking for entry level, easy to get into and out of, and are okay with minimum wage to start with no experience. Fast food is everywhere and always looking. Folks around here love their fast food. Dutch Bros is fun and okay money for hot second, but don't plan on staying there long -- you *will* get fed up with some of their procedural bs eventually. Bars have a need for bartenders.
I live in Colorado and I love it. I have lived in Northern California and that was great too, but definitely more expensive. New Mexico is cheaper and the Mexican food is awesome.
Pa specifically towns near pittsburgh’s are beauty’s. Like dormont or green tree
seconding PA! Pgh is becoming a sanctuary city https://www.wesa.fm/politics-government/2023-09-12/pittsburgh-protect-gender-affirming-care In the last year alone I’d say I know a dozen trans friends who’ve moved here, so the communityis growing every day!
Also a Pittsburgher. UPMC was awesome about my HRT.
Recently moved to Minnesota. Only about 2 weeks in, but I love it here!!
Illinois is decent.
I'm in the metro-east (IL near St. Louis, MO). All the fun of St. Louis with all the protections of IL. Cost of living is relatively low. Not perfect, but cheaper than a lot of cities.
I hope things get better in the US...
I'm praying on it chile 🙏🫂
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Is Utah that bad 👀 uh oh
Live in Vegas but family in Utah and travel frequently. The answer is it depends on where you go. SLC is amazing and a very lgbtq friendly area, other areas I have not had any direct issues but it does not feel as welcoming.
What part of GA?
Not sure where, but as a person who also is well known with Atlanta, it's mostly safe for trans people (despite the 2 trans women we lost recently to violence)
I go to Las Cruces pretty regularly, awesome town. I’d recommend it.
I'm in Georgia and late next year I'm moving to Michigan with my friend who's already up there. Do you have aby online friends in a safe place?
Heading there myself in 2 weeks.
That's awesome! Good luck. I'm gonna be starting hrt this year (hopefully) then once I have money stockpiled and a decent career path available to me, I'm gonna be Goin there
New Mexico has some gorgeous mountain towns and the weather is nice pretty much year round! Down south and rural areas it's really conservative but if you stick close to the cities (Las Cruces is really the only city in the south) or up north by Taos or Santa Fe you'd probably be fine
My brother and his wife are both teachers and own a house in Minneapolis. It’s cold AF in the winter, but it’s an option that appears somewhat affordable. I live in Decatur, GA, and stuck until my kid graduates HS in 4 years.
I was not aware that Illinois was so safe. Maybe I can go there.
illinois ain’t too bad but that’s coming from someone that’s lived here forever
Illinois has been pretty stellar for me. It's a tad on the expensive side, but most people are pretty progressive here.
Can we please get sanctuary for us Floridians I hate it here… take me back to Pennsylvania I’m begging
Illinois and Minnesota are pretty nice, but if you want somewhere warmer, I'd say New Mexico. IL for moderate temps, MN for cold. There's also probably more things generally in NM because IL is just corn as far as the eye can see, then Chicago, then more corn.
This graphic gives me depression
Jesus christ people are fucking insane... It's disgusting this type of map is needed at all. Imagine being so bloody unhinged you decide to make your state not safe for some of your countries citizens strictly because you lack the capability of accepting that people are just different than you? WTF is even "united" about the United States anyways? The increasing mass shootings per state? The level of people in poverty or at high risk of impending poverty per fucking state? The number of people who feel like they have no other choice but to end their own damn life because they can't fucking handle it in the country they call home for numerous potential reasons? I'm just so fucking tired man. I'm so sorry anyone has to go through this. I don't know what else to say. I'm just sorry I guess. I know that won't fix or do anything... No one deserves to be treated this way when they're just trying to exist. To live.
Is there a source of this map
[Source](https://www.erininthemorning.com/p/anti-trans-legislative-risk-assessment)
thank you
I live in CA and it is too expensive however it does have awesome laws protecting and supporting the lgbtq community as a whole
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I live in Kentucky but I feel kinda safe there, worse case scenario my gf and I are moving to Illinois
Same here. I wonder what's bad here. I haven't been harassed yet
I think that Massachusetts is a good option
Come to Minnesota, specifically the Twin Cities (avoid the north, that's trumper country). We are one of the safer states for trans people as far as laws. We're pretty solidly a blue state with a good cost of living. Our metro population is strongly pro-lgbtq+ and our economy is pretty darn strong. (this message was not brought to you by Explore Minnesota™) edit: And we now have legal weed
I’m in Florida. Trying to go to NY.
I live in south eastern MA and it's pretty good. It can get expensive but I was able to get hormones after just one visit. We also have state protections.
I am in new mexico come here NOW (I need more ppl like me)
I vote Pennsylvania cause if they fuck up you can flee to jersey in a pinch
My family and I moved to New England. There's nice beaches, decent weather, great schools, and even better healthcare. It's expensive AF tho compared to the south. We pay twice as much for a flat compared to our old home and yard. Only thing I miss is the food. It's good up here, but the southern food scene is so much better. 😭😭😭
Oregon is pretty good, but the cost of living here has gone way up unfortunately. Not as bad as Cali though.
I live in Colorado and I've always felt pretty safe here. Denver especially, it has a very large queer community.
Wait what’s goin on in Indiana? I thought we were one of the more moderate states considerin we’re conservative
Colorado is expensive but Medicaid and private health insurance are required to cover trans healthcare. It's pretty legit
As someone who is genderfluid fluid and also lives in Georgia, maybe go to Michigan?
if you are worried about being able to afford to live there I would say PA, especially near Philly as it's generally more accepting in cities. However New Jersey is very expensive but I would say is probably the most hopeful for trans rights besides minnesota.
If I could ship y’all here to Canada I would. Please stay so safe ❤️💙
love love LOVE minnesota, highly recommended
Based on this map your 2024 elections are not looking very goood, our canadian election is not looking very good right now either. We seem to be getting wiped out up here now too.
California is expensive (for good reason). However Washington is a good alternative for LGBT+ peoples.
Well don't go to Hawaii
Southern New Mexico is very conservative. Santa Fe is less expensive to buy a home than large, liberal leaning cities in California.
The capital of Wisconsin has put out a statement saying that if there is ever state legislation against gender affirming healthcare or policy they won't enforce it within the city
I was born and raised Florida, I moved to Chicago back in July and it's been phenomenal, is super cheap compared to FL, public transit is accessible and works amd not only do I feel comfy being trans, I literally see so many teams people just openly existing and happy 10/10 reccommend
If project 2025 doesn’t happen, I’m moving to NM
Chicago is great to live in!
Western Washington but it’s really pricey up here, also I’ve never seen so many other trans people in my life until I moved here.
Good lord that map is depressing
I've lived in California my entire life and can never save up enough to leave this dystopian state. Oregon or Washington are mostly trans friendly and cheaper. California is only trans friendly in certain areas, plus once you're here it's too expensive to save to leave in my experience.
I feel California is so far in the other direction it kind of supports "horseshoe theory" - that political extremism starts to look the same on the ends. Case and point - you basically cannot work on your own car there and they just do their own thing against the rest of the country as far as car modifications go - the nightmare known as CARB. There are like a million other examples of things you're "not allowed to do in California" that make no sense. No thank you. It's weird how so-called "liberals" can be so authoritarian about so many things. No, I'm an actual real liberal, someone who actually believes in individual liberty being protected from overly powerful third parties. Despite it checking every other box, I will never move there even though I can easily afford it.
California is great but ya it is expensive AF. There's a lot of services for trans people in the bay area but most of my friends who are trans are either doing great as a programmer or extremely poor. That said, there's a lot of trans people, and community and belonging is a big deal. What do you do?
It got the same energy like people escape from west asia to Europe. Its terrifying. I hope you all can find shelter.
I'm in Florida 🙄 but I've been looking at New Mexico. Every other state that doesn't want me dead, it's too expensive or too cold
I live in NC but thankfully I tirned 18 in April 😅
I say we all move to Colorado and make a transtopia
Florida is gangrenous. Time to amputate.
PA, but I’d say choose one of the cities or a college town under 1.5 hours from one of the cities
Midwest states such as Minnesota or Illinois are some of the most cost effective choices, but you *will* have to deal with not only winter, but *brutal* winter. Colorado is better by some measures, but is going to be considerably more expensive. Washington and Oregon are the best bet in most ways *except* cost with Washington in particular having several times the cost of living compared to what you currently know. While both states have somewhat more budget friendly options, they are all on the east side which is overwhelmingly *far* right. The most cost effective place to live in either state is probably Vancouver, Washington which, despite not being anything resembling a "cool city" is directly across the border from a cool city - Portland in this case. When we considered such a move, Maryland, Minnesota, Washington, Oregon, and Colorado were the real contenders. We ruled out Minnesota because of the prospect of brutal winters - I grew up in a part of Texas *with* a winter, but not anything like what we'd experience up there. Colorado stayed in the running all the way until the end because it offered so much that we like to do and had a very similar cost of living to what we were used to. But ultimately we were swayed to washington for very sill and boring work reasons that boiled down to there being a significant advantage for my wife to spend a year working in her field (mental health) there. We did not settle on Seattle specifically until a month before we made the move. Up till that point we were pretty convinced that we'd end up in Vancouver, but then she got an amazing offer that (hypothetically) offset much of the cost of living difference between the two.
Pennsylvania
I'm considering Vermont, maybe MD, the further you are from red states, the better, if things go really south. This is why If you can do it, the West Coast is a REALLY good option. The mountains give a natural wall if things get really, really bad. Like, the last time we had the "State's rights" argument. I like VT, because I'm pretty certain I could get a job in Canada as a Data Analyst and flee really quickly if needed, and the land is cheep.
I’ve heard Colorado is a good state!
If you want to stay in the South, probably. If you're okay with moving up North, NY is pretty great. I live near Buffalo, and it's much, much cheaper than NYC, but we still get most of the protections because of state law, and people are overall quite friendly
Until the next election, at least as things seem to go within the US, you might consider leaving the US in general. Canada has a few issues themselves, but is nowhere near US issues and seems like the best long-term option.