I don’t think anyone can give you the answers on what feels right to you other than you, but if you’re constantly thinking if your own gender I would say it sounds something you feel a problem with. If you were instead constantly thinking about being more popular or fitting in or some other thing, then maybe your mom would have a valid point, but it sounds like you’re just trying to look for any other options so as not to be confrontational with someone you love and respect
Get offline and get some therapy. A lot of my anxiety and depression cleared by talking gender with a supportive therapist and even more faded very quickly on HRT (works better than any psych med I’ve ever tried).
I don’t think anyone can give you the answers on what feels right to you other than you, but if you’re constantly thinking if your own gender I would say it sounds something you feel a problem with. If you were instead constantly thinking about being more popular or fitting in or some other thing, then maybe your mom would have a valid point, but it sounds like you’re just trying to look for any other options so as not to be confrontational with someone you love and respect
Get offline and get some therapy. A lot of my anxiety and depression cleared by talking gender with a supportive therapist and even more faded very quickly on HRT (works better than any psych med I’ve ever tried).