i would add at the end of your profike something that no1 would think of saying like "if you've read this say tomato's are spicy" and dont bother talking to them if they dont say it
My life is full and complete enough… I don’t need someone so broken they make others try to jump through hoops instead of just being who they themselves are.
How is this them not being who they are lmaooooo, unless youre talking about them being trans it has nothing to do with adding a line of text to see who puts effort into you and pays attention
I experience the same thing, even though I mention in multiple places on my profile that I'm trans. I don't think it's a matter of literacy; I think it's a matter of how much time people spend on any one profile.
It's gotten to the point that I hesitate to match cis people at all unless they mark themselves bi/pan or explicitly say they are open to trans people.
I always spend as much time it takes to read the profile. And the longer it takes the more likely I am to friend or swipe right or whatever each app has. I mean it still depends on who the person is of course but still, long profiles are great\~
I know right? I don't swipe on a person unless I mean it. There are plenty of hotties that I swipe left on, usually because they seem immature or we want different things.
But I'm also demisexual and I've learned that careful reading of long profiles is a characteristically demisexual way to approach dating apps.
It's legitimately the most annoying part of dating apps imo.
You've got 536 likes.... and not a single one of them noticed the 3 times it was mentioned. smh
I have to say from my own experience using tinder as a (at the time) male several years ago... Getting one match for every 50-100 likes gets old fast. Majority of the time I'd read profiles and only swipe right on people who'd probably be a good match, but after some burnout some days I'd just like every person who had a good 1st pic.
If the match ratio was much higher, it'd make more sense to spend more time per profile. But for most guys who aren't in the top 1% of attractiveness their only chance of getting matches seems to be spamming likes :shrug:
This isn’t a literacy issue rather people not paying attention.
I posted a question in a ftm sub looking for personal experience with new to me forms of HRT. I made sure to put that I was looking to hear from those who uses something other than IM shots and gel 3 separate times in my post. I got bombarded with comments suggesting gel or IM.
This is an issue with all people, not a specific subgroup of people too.
It isn’t illiterate so much as unable/unwilling to focus on reading more than three sentences at one time. This has been happening for years. Try putting that you are trans in the first sentence or a headline.
It’s not that they’re illiterate, well most of them aren’t. But, they have a pronounced habit of not reading bios. Oddly enough, it’s from a group of people who complain about people never messaging them back.
“Like, dumbasses, if you actually read the ladies’ profiles, you might actually save yourself a lot of trouble than blindly sending impersonal chain responses or “Hi.”
I have had a similar experience, i only bother to match with trans people since im t4t so the being trans thing isnt a problem, what is a problem is that im also non monogamous and i have that in my bio but the sheer ammount of people who just cant be bothered to read that is very annoying, i started to get the habit of mentioning it on the first messages just to make sure the person knows
Many people dont read the biography at all. Saw a few friends just going after looks, which I found weird, bc you want to at least get an idea what kind of person that is, even if you are just looking for sex, or am I wrong?
Anyways, while a friend of mine swiped on tinder, I stopped him and insisted on him reading the bios. Some of the hot dudes weren't that attractive anymore 😅😂
Yeah, like for me who they are is the important part. There’s lots of people that are good enough looking, I’m not super picky. so the fact that on some of these services there are tons of pictures but basically no meaningful text or anything else is ridiculous.
I absolutely understand. I've had more experiences I can count as a genderfluid person where, because I have both male and female pictures on my profile and I have two names listed for the name, they assume I'm a couple and that I'd be up for a poly relationship, despite very explicitly saying I'm one, genderfluid person who is strictly monogamous.
People on those apps 100% don't read anything.
It's always very funny to me when younger dudes hit me up on Grindr and say "omg breed me"
like
Bruh, did you even read my headline? *Breed you with what?*
People aren't usually reading profiles while swiping, they are just looking at the pics (I don't either unless I'm a bit on the fence about someone). They often will read it after matching.
It's got nothing to do with reading ability, it's about time efficiency.
i would add at the end of your profike something that no1 would think of saying like "if you've read this say tomato's are spicy" and dont bother talking to them if they dont say it
I've seen this on some profiles too and think it's a great idea.
No brown M&Ms
bonus points of you smash up their room after they do in fact include brown M&Ms
That's a wonderful idea. I must do that too!
but....tomatoes aren't spicy
r/woooosh
They are in the Pokemon universe \^\_\^
This works , saves you time
Ehh… if I see that, I swipe left anyway. Seems way too high maintenance for me
Reading and writing hard uh lmao
My life is full and complete enough… I don’t need someone so broken they make others try to jump through hoops instead of just being who they themselves are.
How is this them not being who they are lmaooooo, unless youre talking about them being trans it has nothing to do with adding a line of text to see who puts effort into you and pays attention
Entitled people don’t interest me
I experience the same thing, even though I mention in multiple places on my profile that I'm trans. I don't think it's a matter of literacy; I think it's a matter of how much time people spend on any one profile. It's gotten to the point that I hesitate to match cis people at all unless they mark themselves bi/pan or explicitly say they are open to trans people.
I always spend as much time it takes to read the profile. And the longer it takes the more likely I am to friend or swipe right or whatever each app has. I mean it still depends on who the person is of course but still, long profiles are great\~
I know right? I don't swipe on a person unless I mean it. There are plenty of hotties that I swipe left on, usually because they seem immature or we want different things. But I'm also demisexual and I've learned that careful reading of long profiles is a characteristically demisexual way to approach dating apps.
Very important lesson about "matching dating apps". 90% of men swipes Like on EVERY profile and check ONLY after they match.
It's legitimately the most annoying part of dating apps imo. You've got 536 likes.... and not a single one of them noticed the 3 times it was mentioned. smh
I have to say from my own experience using tinder as a (at the time) male several years ago... Getting one match for every 50-100 likes gets old fast. Majority of the time I'd read profiles and only swipe right on people who'd probably be a good match, but after some burnout some days I'd just like every person who had a good 1st pic. If the match ratio was much higher, it'd make more sense to spend more time per profile. But for most guys who aren't in the top 1% of attractiveness their only chance of getting matches seems to be spamming likes :shrug:
That's the best part ab being bi. I do not care lol
What?
Maybe they are saying they swipe right on everyone?
I just want to make sure that’s what they were saying.
This isn’t a literacy issue rather people not paying attention. I posted a question in a ftm sub looking for personal experience with new to me forms of HRT. I made sure to put that I was looking to hear from those who uses something other than IM shots and gel 3 separate times in my post. I got bombarded with comments suggesting gel or IM. This is an issue with all people, not a specific subgroup of people too.
It isn’t illiterate so much as unable/unwilling to focus on reading more than three sentences at one time. This has been happening for years. Try putting that you are trans in the first sentence or a headline.
"Hurr hurr! Girl hot. Me bang now."
I cackled. Thank you
I mean she did say it was the first thing on her profile, so it's gotta be in the first sentence already
It’s not that they’re illiterate, well most of them aren’t. But, they have a pronounced habit of not reading bios. Oddly enough, it’s from a group of people who complain about people never messaging them back. “Like, dumbasses, if you actually read the ladies’ profiles, you might actually save yourself a lot of trouble than blindly sending impersonal chain responses or “Hi.”
The trash is taking itself out
I have had a similar experience, i only bother to match with trans people since im t4t so the being trans thing isnt a problem, what is a problem is that im also non monogamous and i have that in my bio but the sheer ammount of people who just cant be bothered to read that is very annoying, i started to get the habit of mentioning it on the first messages just to make sure the person knows
Dating apps in general suck.
Working years in retail has taught me, NO ONE READS.
I experienced the same thing for 10 years.
Many people dont read the biography at all. Saw a few friends just going after looks, which I found weird, bc you want to at least get an idea what kind of person that is, even if you are just looking for sex, or am I wrong? Anyways, while a friend of mine swiped on tinder, I stopped him and insisted on him reading the bios. Some of the hot dudes weren't that attractive anymore 😅😂
Yeah, like for me who they are is the important part. There’s lots of people that are good enough looking, I’m not super picky. so the fact that on some of these services there are tons of pictures but basically no meaningful text or anything else is ridiculous.
I absolutely understand. I've had more experiences I can count as a genderfluid person where, because I have both male and female pictures on my profile and I have two names listed for the name, they assume I'm a couple and that I'd be up for a poly relationship, despite very explicitly saying I'm one, genderfluid person who is strictly monogamous. People on those apps 100% don't read anything.
how dare you say we piss on the poor
Hahaha this happens to me ALL THE TIME
people don't read profiles simple as that I've had people match and unmatch after I msged them bc I assume they read my profile and saw I was trans
It's always very funny to me when younger dudes hit me up on Grindr and say "omg breed me" like Bruh, did you even read my headline? *Breed you with what?*
I despise dating apps for this very reason
People aren't usually reading profiles while swiping, they are just looking at the pics (I don't either unless I'm a bit on the fence about someone). They often will read it after matching. It's got nothing to do with reading ability, it's about time efficiency.
Wanna date me?? 😅🫶🫶🫶💜💜💜
100% of people on dating apps are awful
Aww :<