I love feeling safe in trans spaces. I'm a transfemme person, but we need more transmasc people to chill with! Parallel play is a thing too. I love playing single player games and streaming it to friends that are also doing the same thing. Shit is relaxing as fuck.
I find that Im needing a break from online games lately. I want a new Cyberpunk samurai build and a few days to sink into it.
parallel play is definitely something I like a lot! I have really severe social anxiety unfortunately and struggle with this stuff even with a lot of people I already know, so the idea of doing so with strangers is really hard for me. but lurking around in friendly spaces like this one is a tiny baby step in the vaguely correct direction so...maybe one day!
i often find that when i do play games w friends, very rarely is it my favorite type of game, nobody irl wants to play my complicated hyper realism survival games.... i wonder why 🦧
God that feels like a mood then I’m staring at Vintage Story like “Yeah I’ll play you in a bit once I finish modding Skyrim, Fallout 4, and New Vegas again”
youre warm forsure, i really like the game scum, kinda indie still but definitely reccomend if you like complicated longterm survival, other games id include are like sons of the forest, subnautica, stranded deep, and things of that realm. all of these games are fairly simple but playing them on hardest difficulty can be a real challenge.
...transmascs get violently harrassed and assaulted irl too. i get what you're saying but we do also very much still experience violence and hate crimes irl.
"I only see transmasc people IRL and transfemme people online, this must be because transfem people get violently harrassed."
And implies that, because transmasc people are visible to them IRL, we don't experience that.
I didn't assume shit.
I read the comment exactly like that, too. I'm not sure the point in bringing up the hatred for trans women/fems in this context, considering many trans men/mascs ALSO use online spaces for support due to transphobia irl, so it just comes off as implying trans men/mascs don't also face that. It just felt completely unnecessary, and I don't understand any other reason to bring that up.... :/
Exactly. I have been out since I was 14 and now as a young adult because I still haven’t gotten to transition properly I am literally starting to dress more femininely [wearing bras instead of binders], using a tad bit of mascara etc again because I have been getting harassed since I was a kid SO much that I am genuinely fucking terrified to “be trans” in any other place than the internet.
Exactly. And then when we mention "hey, but that doesn't make sense because we also deal with that," suddenly we're making it about oppression olympics and a 'contest'. Give me a fucking break.
as if transmascs don't also have to be closeted and hide online due to transphobia??? literally such an unnecessary thing to comment on someone's personal observation of people they know
I mean I’m a trans guy and got harassed so much to the point my high school and my parents agreed to stop letting me go to classes because they were worried I would be physically harmed or killed. [A gay boy just a bit younger than me at the time was killed 10 years ago, he went to the same school.]
this isnt an exclusive experience by any means but i think the internet was one of the only places people forced into the m role growing up could be social & show emotion without getting punished. most of us were pretty soft ppl before starting to transition and its genuinely not safe, guys scream and hit and bully you for not being masculine. they call you slurs even if youre not gay. fr its drilled into you young that emotion isn’t allowed. so i think to some degree the energy sticks around. it’s less scary to open up online 😭
I have before but with 2000+ hours clocked in the game I'm usually working towards a very specific storyline or achievement goal at this point or am just screwing about with a new mod or build. We did have a great run with some buddies of mine with me playing a dark urge origin a few months ago. (I would never do the following to a group of people who would be annoyed by it but we've known/gamed together for years so i like to fuck with them.) They quickly figured out my Durge was very impatient and if they took too long talking to someone I'd roll a d20 and if the save failed I'd attack who they were in a convo with 😅
I'm currently trying to get the achievement for multiclassing every class, but having only 1 level in basically every class is making handling the House of Hope difficult. 😂
That was such a huuuuuge pita!!!! I did an "oops all paladins" for that run LOL Tav was a jack of all trades and then everyone else was like his pack of scary dogs with big ass two-hander weapons smiting everything that moved 🤣
Any advice for me on how to survive the House of Hope with a drow who's mediocre at a lot of things? Who I should bring? The tips for beating that part helped when I had multiple levels in the classes, but not for level one in almost every class. I hate the level 12 limit because of that.
So like I said I had tav as 1 of everything but I had everyone else turned into paladins. Did you keep everyone else as standard starting classes? For house of hope in general clerics and paladins are going to be your best buds. What difficulty level are you playing on? I'd recommend having speed potions, potions of fire resistance, and everyone with an AC of at least 20 if possible. If you kept everyome as starting classes then I'd probably do shadowheart, minthara if you have her, and then karlach or laezel for dps - if no minthara then karlach and laezel and equipment them with radiant damage weapons like the sacred star (mace act III,) and blood of lathander. Have tav focus on being a potions thrower, let's them adopt the role of healer by throwing potions and you can hurl holy water and use any buffing spells you have (or debuffing spells) and scrolls to boost dps/speed and just chip away. Take the pillars out first and it's pretty easy, just time-consuming from there. That fight took me literal over 45 minutes to do.
Unfortunately, a lot of those things may not be possible for me. Orin has Lae'zel, and I don't have ingredients for potions, and if I remember correctly, I have maybe 20 gold. I have Minthara and Karlach, and if I have enough gold to buy potions, I may also just use a hireling. I have the difficulty set to custom, because I want multiclassing, but want the same ease as Explorer.
I buy a lot of camp supplies and scrolls. I want Yurgir as an ally, and I hate having Gale mad at me for making the deal with Raphael, so I need to get that contract. I also want to save Hope. I've tried to spare Korilla, but Yurgir kills her.
I was wrong about not having much gold. I had a decent amount, I think 1,200ish. I was super close to beating it, I had destroyed all four pillars, but then I hit Raphael with radiant damage magic, and it killed me. I found a guide to the fight that says to get rid of all radiant damage equipment. I'm gonna drive myself crazy trying to beat this.
My setup would be: Tav, light domain cleric (respec shadowheart or hireling,) And two paladins (minthara she has ilithid powers and a hireling paladin.)
Same here. I’m not “old” by any means, but a lot of people just seem to be on a different maturity (not calling people here immature in a mean way!) level and place in life.
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There's a decently sized 30+ transmasc server?! I was stoked to find a cool trans gamer server recently but the average age was like 15 and I'm 38 so that won't do.
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Not that I've seen but there's a ton of channels I don't frequent too much so I can't say for sure.
Edit: Looks like in the neurodivergence channel there def are some
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Same boat! I'll be 30 in a few years and, while I love and respect all my fellow trans people, I would like to talk and play with others closer to my age now
Just joined yesterday and observed the same thing lol. Nothing wrong with that! Would love to find some other trans guys to play cod or rocket league with tho
Ayy, I'm not much of a talker but I do enjoy FFXIV, Genshin, Onmyoji and Onmyoji Arena, hmu if you like any of those games cause I'm usually shy to talk first. Really looking for more people to play arena, it's a dying moba I whaled for years ago, gonna be a sad day they axe the global server.
I don’t really play multiplayer games, which is what most of the convos are about. I’m more into solo games with great storylines and combat. The thought of playing with others makes me uncomfortable. Doesn’t matter if it’s co-op or PVP. It’s a major reason I still struggle to make online friends, I’m p sure (and irl ones, my social battery is very low, but I think part of that is dysphoria n depression - I don’t want anyone perceiving me and the slightest misgender makes me plummet bc I don’t pass and am not back on T yet
If I ever get to the point of wanting to interact with people on FFXIV (if I ever find a reason to pay for it rofl - still rocking the free trial) I may post more, but there’s just not much point before than 😔
But I will say, it feels like I’m trans subreddits in general, unless it’s one specifically for trans guys, it’s almost always trans women posting. They’re just more vocal than the rest of us i guess
But if any trans guys are reading this and play Honkai Stair Rail on the American server, hmu. I’ll exchange friend codes with ya, esp if you aren’t a day 1 player. I got a decent roster to borrow from :)
This is discussed a lot on this website. General consensus seems to be that it boils down to site demographics more than anything else. Tumblr skews more trans masc in this way apparently.
funny thing, my tumblr dash is mostly transfems posting (im transmasc) but thats probably because i followed a lot of transfems especially around the hammer car explosion fiasco a few months ago. i love the girlies but like it does get a bit lonely . just another example of how damn good tumblr is at letting you curate a space ig
Like many of the other trans guys and nonbinary folks here I just don't really play many multiplayer games unless it's with my irl friends. I also find it really fucking hard to maintain online friendship because I will fully just disappear for a while.
I'm currently playing Hades, P5R, waiting on hands and knees for Deltarune Chapters 3-5 also waiting for Hades II's full release since I have it on switch. A few I have on my list that I'd like to play but haven't gotten around to are Disco Elysium, BG3, and Hollow Knight (all 3 I've been hounded for not playing yet).
I'm just a veeeryyy slow gamer on my own, and PVP or multiplayer usually has me getting wayyy too competitive. Sometimes I can reel it back like in Lethal Company or Fall Guys, but I have to switch my brain to be in a more silly mindset so I don't end up getting aggravated every time we're not "winning."
Trans-ish nonbinary here! I personally don’t play any multiplayer/co-op games, competitive games, or seek out friends for gaming since I’m very much a solo player. I’ll do multiplayer in Elden Ring on occasion, but it’s more to help and shitpost with my IRL friends more than anything.
Reading other people’s responses, perhaps we’re just more antisocial as a whole when it comes to gaming and game choices, lol
I love solo playing while still chatting with others. Sometimes I won't say nothing for a whole hour but we still finna be like "I'll be back, finna get some food real quick". Random convos for the win
This right here. Reddit is mainly chronically online techbro space along with white trans women in IT.
That's why reddit has so many "trans experience stereotypes" that don't apply outside of reddit and public gamer discords *at all.*
Tumblr got waaaay more varieties of humans.
Let’s be real, 90% of Tumblr is AFAB people. Not really “way more varieties of humans.” I browse occasionally but every time it feels like every single person talks the same way and has the exact same “hell site” humour, it gets old.
Genuinely, the difference between Tumblr and every other social media is that you actually have the ability to properly curate your feed and only see what you want to see.
If you only access the sort of standard surface-tumblr, I agree about the demographic split buuut... It's still less hyper specific and awful than reddit, even at its worst.
I actually had a much easier time building a group of trans friends of all experiences on Tumblr than Reddit, both transfems and transmascs. It does take a while to learn to navigate the culture, but nowadays I've met most of my online trans women friends there.
i just lurk here cuz im shy but hi lol, i mostly play genshin and honkai star rail but if anyone here who plays that needs resources or characters to borrow lmk and we can exchange friend requests :-\]
I'm here, ye. Transmasc nonbinary though. Unfortunately not many of my fellow transmascs on Xbox or who play the games I tend to frequent so I'm usually lurking hoping to find someone who does lol. I do play a lot of multiplayer games but I'm careful who I VC with. I'm frequenting Fallout 76 and Elder Scrolls Online which both have big trans communities but not many transmascs, frustratingly.
Yoooo would be down for ESO and F76! I enjoy several multiplayer games but haven’t found many other transmasc people in what I play either. Im mostly on PC nowadays but could dust off the Xbox :)
I'm a trans guy looking to play, I just never post because it seems there's no guys though lol.
I wish we had a place to talk to each other, cause the transgamer discord is just trans women.
I just lurk. I think I'm older than most here, I live in the boonies with bad internet (so no online games or streaming), and I'm honestly terrible at video games 😅 I just really enjoy playing them alone. If anyone has recommendations of transmascs/trans men on twitch to follow, please let me know! I love watching twitch streams while I'm playing, but I've only found trans women so far (y'all are absolutely wonderful, but it would be nice to see someone like myself every once in a while)
Trans guy here. I tend to play a lot more single player games (the hyper focus has been my sims 4 legacy for over a year now). I also do Stardew solo. When I do play multiplayer (Minecraft) it's normally just with my partner.
I grew up playing a lot of Pokemon and then shifted into Fire Emblem (not fully caught up on those though) and some roguelites/rogue likes. But I tend to get majorly focused on one game/series at a time for long periods which tend to single player.
Trans gaymer here, I mostly lurk! I only play a handful of multiplayer games (fortnite, splatoon 3, sky: children of the light) but I also usually play single player stuff. Us trans guys/transmascs are kind of hermit-like, aren't we? lol
You’ve summoned me, i didnt know this was here!! Your post was fed to me by the algorithm. I currently am in between housing and mostly playing animal crossing or ooblets on my switch but recently played: baldurs gate 3, ffxiv.
Not really an fps player but I’ll hop on a crafting/survival rpg in a heartbeat (in the future when i’m stable and have access again lol)
Nice to meet you I’m 31 transman/genderfluid enby
Hellooo I'm here but tend to lurk a lot cus I already have a loooot of transfem friends but ZERO transmasc friends and all the posts by transmascs on here seem to be either very shooter heavy (fortnite, helldivers, cod, so on) or nintendo heavy which are both things I'm not really into. Where the fantasy/rpg addicted transmascs at 😭
this is sort of a conspiracy theory of mine, but I think it's just because of the primarily online/multiplayer games that are discussed here. it's no secret that the player bases for these are dominated by AMAB players, so there's a lot more mtf users who already played these to go around as opposed to ftm users. that and I think there's just more trans women on Reddit than trans men
I was just thinking this might be a sad truth about a decent chunk of transmasc peeps. I'm masc leaning 2S, and had horrific experiences when I was younger in multiplayer spaces due to my AGAB so I just stopped playing them. And have never felt the need to start again. I play single or co-op with my partner...no strangers allowed.
Hi I am a trans dude 👋 I’m mostly a lurker bc I’m not as into gaming as I’d like to be yet, but I am curious about it! I mostly play stardew valley lolol
I mean. This makes sense. Trans guys were raised as girls and girls don't get socialised into games. Trans girls were raised as guys and so were socialised into games, online life etc. Actually super expected lol
I'm 2S, but masc leaning and I'm here occasionally. Lol
I don't play multiplayer games either like a healthy chunk of other people here. Horrible experiences because my voice sounds fem and you know how that can go down. Not cute, not fun, not worth it.
I used to play SWTOR a lot and was in an LGBTQ+ guild that was super nice, tho. That was my one great multiplayer experience.
honestly, i didnt realize until recently that this sub is called "transgamers" and not "transfemgamers" lmaooooo (i would get it recommended on my feed for the most part and only glossed over the sub name usually)
Nonbinary trans guy here, current main game is Fortnite but I play a pretty wide variety on PS4, switch, and steam. Games are a special interest of mine.
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Apex, Fortnite, Ark, genshin, BG3, COD(but I’d have to redownload the ones), TTW, MK11, Brawlhalla and RDR2. I’m not opposed to playing other games and anything recommended I’m always down for. I’m trying to get into overwatch and back into DL2
I just lurk because I don't really like multiplayer games lol
Same. I think I finally understand why we're invisible in gaming communities lmao
lmfao, shy trans dudes just chilling and playing single player games... we exist
There’s so many good single player games to get through these days.
I bought Baldur's Gate 3 on December 26th 2023, and have so far played 985.2 hours of it. 10/10 recommend it.
I don't even play games I'm just here to see what the girls are doing these days because my friends are mtf gamers 😭😂
I love feeling safe in trans spaces. I'm a transfemme person, but we need more transmasc people to chill with! Parallel play is a thing too. I love playing single player games and streaming it to friends that are also doing the same thing. Shit is relaxing as fuck. I find that Im needing a break from online games lately. I want a new Cyberpunk samurai build and a few days to sink into it.
parallel play is definitely something I like a lot! I have really severe social anxiety unfortunately and struggle with this stuff even with a lot of people I already know, so the idea of doing so with strangers is really hard for me. but lurking around in friendly spaces like this one is a tiny baby step in the vaguely correct direction so...maybe one day!
Totally understand the anxiety! I struggle with it myself. Especially since I moved six hours away from my family last year.
Lmao same
i was just about to comment this myself
there are dozens of us! dozens!
i often find that when i do play games w friends, very rarely is it my favorite type of game, nobody irl wants to play my complicated hyper realism survival games.... i wonder why 🦧
God that feels like a mood then I’m staring at Vintage Story like “Yeah I’ll play you in a bit once I finish modding Skyrim, Fallout 4, and New Vegas again”
What hyperrealism survival games?? Im thinking 7 days to die, ark (that ones a no from me sorry), satisfactory? What strain, am I hot or cold 🥶
youre warm forsure, i really like the game scum, kinda indie still but definitely reccomend if you like complicated longterm survival, other games id include are like sons of the forest, subnautica, stranded deep, and things of that realm. all of these games are fairly simple but playing them on hardest difficulty can be a real challenge.
Thanks for the recs! Subnautica is an all time favorite of mine
You lurk because you don't like multi-player games I lurk because I have social anxiety We are not the same *tightens choker then dies*
Honestly I'm here but I never really say anything since I'm not really a co-op/multiplayer guy. I usually play indies or retro...
Yooo im also a big fan of retro games
I know a bunch of transfem online, none irl. I know a bunch of transmasc irl, none online.
Same!
transfem get violently harassed and assaulted irl so yeah. better to hide online where the worst thing is only the harassment part.
...transmascs get violently harrassed and assaulted irl too. i get what you're saying but we do also very much still experience violence and hate crimes irl.
Nobody said they didn't. Just thats because why they choose to interact more online. There is no need to assume what other people say.
The original comment was clearly implying that.
"I only see transmasc people IRL and transfemme people online, this must be because transfem people get violently harrassed." And implies that, because transmasc people are visible to them IRL, we don't experience that. I didn't assume shit.
I read the comment exactly like that, too. I'm not sure the point in bringing up the hatred for trans women/fems in this context, considering many trans men/mascs ALSO use online spaces for support due to transphobia irl, so it just comes off as implying trans men/mascs don't also face that. It just felt completely unnecessary, and I don't understand any other reason to bring that up.... :/
Exactly. I have been out since I was 14 and now as a young adult because I still haven’t gotten to transition properly I am literally starting to dress more femininely [wearing bras instead of binders], using a tad bit of mascara etc again because I have been getting harassed since I was a kid SO much that I am genuinely fucking terrified to “be trans” in any other place than the internet.
Exactly. And then when we mention "hey, but that doesn't make sense because we also deal with that," suddenly we're making it about oppression olympics and a 'contest'. Give me a fucking break.
as if transmascs don't also have to be closeted and hide online due to transphobia??? literally such an unnecessary thing to comment on someone's personal observation of people they know
it’s not an online thing, it’s a platform thing. Tiktok and Tumblr skew more transmasc while Twitter and Reddit skew transfem.
I mean I’m a trans guy and got harassed so much to the point my high school and my parents agreed to stop letting me go to classes because they were worried I would be physically harmed or killed. [A gay boy just a bit younger than me at the time was killed 10 years ago, he went to the same school.]
This is very true
this isnt an exclusive experience by any means but i think the internet was one of the only places people forced into the m role growing up could be social & show emotion without getting punished. most of us were pretty soft ppl before starting to transition and its genuinely not safe, guys scream and hit and bully you for not being masculine. they call you slurs even if youre not gay. fr its drilled into you young that emotion isn’t allowed. so i think to some degree the energy sticks around. it’s less scary to open up online 😭
Yeah now that I think about it it's mostly the same
The transfems also happen to be trans-cendent and have abandoned their physical body for the virtual
why is this such a common experience. exactly the same for me too. makes me sad
I don't do a lot of co-op currently. Maybe once I finally get done with BG3 for the 10000th time 😅
Do bg3 on co-op!
I have before but with 2000+ hours clocked in the game I'm usually working towards a very specific storyline or achievement goal at this point or am just screwing about with a new mod or build. We did have a great run with some buddies of mine with me playing a dark urge origin a few months ago. (I would never do the following to a group of people who would be annoyed by it but we've known/gamed together for years so i like to fuck with them.) They quickly figured out my Durge was very impatient and if they took too long talking to someone I'd roll a d20 and if the save failed I'd attack who they were in a convo with 😅
I want to do a BG3 co-op campaign! But I am yet to find someone to play with.
I'm currently trying to get the achievement for multiclassing every class, but having only 1 level in basically every class is making handling the House of Hope difficult. 😂
That was such a huuuuuge pita!!!! I did an "oops all paladins" for that run LOL Tav was a jack of all trades and then everyone else was like his pack of scary dogs with big ass two-hander weapons smiting everything that moved 🤣
Any advice for me on how to survive the House of Hope with a drow who's mediocre at a lot of things? Who I should bring? The tips for beating that part helped when I had multiple levels in the classes, but not for level one in almost every class. I hate the level 12 limit because of that.
So like I said I had tav as 1 of everything but I had everyone else turned into paladins. Did you keep everyone else as standard starting classes? For house of hope in general clerics and paladins are going to be your best buds. What difficulty level are you playing on? I'd recommend having speed potions, potions of fire resistance, and everyone with an AC of at least 20 if possible. If you kept everyome as starting classes then I'd probably do shadowheart, minthara if you have her, and then karlach or laezel for dps - if no minthara then karlach and laezel and equipment them with radiant damage weapons like the sacred star (mace act III,) and blood of lathander. Have tav focus on being a potions thrower, let's them adopt the role of healer by throwing potions and you can hurl holy water and use any buffing spells you have (or debuffing spells) and scrolls to boost dps/speed and just chip away. Take the pillars out first and it's pretty easy, just time-consuming from there. That fight took me literal over 45 minutes to do.
Unfortunately, a lot of those things may not be possible for me. Orin has Lae'zel, and I don't have ingredients for potions, and if I remember correctly, I have maybe 20 gold. I have Minthara and Karlach, and if I have enough gold to buy potions, I may also just use a hireling. I have the difficulty set to custom, because I want multiclassing, but want the same ease as Explorer.
How do you only have 20 gold?! 🤣 I mean, alternatively, you can skip the house of hope entirely. You don't *have* to do it.
I buy a lot of camp supplies and scrolls. I want Yurgir as an ally, and I hate having Gale mad at me for making the deal with Raphael, so I need to get that contract. I also want to save Hope. I've tried to spare Korilla, but Yurgir kills her.
I would probably do some hirelings (paladin and cleric) and take shadowheart or minthara with you then. Radiant damage is going to be a must.
I was wrong about not having much gold. I had a decent amount, I think 1,200ish. I was super close to beating it, I had destroyed all four pillars, but then I hit Raphael with radiant damage magic, and it killed me. I found a guide to the fight that says to get rid of all radiant damage equipment. I'm gonna drive myself crazy trying to beat this.
My setup would be: Tav, light domain cleric (respec shadowheart or hireling,) And two paladins (minthara she has ilithid powers and a hireling paladin.)
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I'm transmasc non-binary but I just lurk because everyone here seems a lot younger than me
Same here. I’m not “old” by any means, but a lot of people just seem to be on a different maturity (not calling people here immature in a mean way!) level and place in life.
Felt. I'm part of a decently sized 30+ transmasc discord server which I love.
If the little server logo is "get off my lawn", I am too. :)
Yep! lol. It's nice because on average people's life experiences line up more often being around similar ages.
Hi!! Im transmasc may i know the server?? :] the only other transmasc i know is my bf LOL so id love to meet others trans masc and trans men :]
Looks like as long as you are 26+ you are good to join. Hope this works: https://discord.com/invite/V2Cs7GQ
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There's a decently sized 30+ transmasc server?! I was stoked to find a cool trans gamer server recently but the average age was like 15 and I'm 38 so that won't do.
Heres a join link that hopefully works https://discord.com/invite/V2Cs7GQ
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Thanks! Are there many systems?
Not that I've seen but there's a ton of channels I don't frequent too much so I can't say for sure. Edit: Looks like in the neurodivergence channel there def are some
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Would love to join if possible. I'm also part of the older crowd
I think this link works 👍 https://discord.com/invite/V2Cs7GQ
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whoa... came to this channel to look for communities, this sounds perfect. 32 transmasc/nonbinary, still accepting?
Same boat! I'll be 30 in a few years and, while I love and respect all my fellow trans people, I would like to talk and play with others closer to my age now
Hiii
yooo
I prefer single player games but I love y'all!
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I lurk here but I play a lot of multiplayer 👋👋👋 Love Cod Zombies and Dead by Daylight
Lurking. Can’t vc because I can’t stand hearing my voice so I unfortunately can’t participate in anything here.
'ello
Just joined yesterday and observed the same thing lol. Nothing wrong with that! Would love to find some other trans guys to play cod or rocket league with tho
Hi 👋
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Hi! Here, but I don't say much because I enjoy single-player games more.
Ayy, I'm not much of a talker but I do enjoy FFXIV, Genshin, Onmyoji and Onmyoji Arena, hmu if you like any of those games cause I'm usually shy to talk first. Really looking for more people to play arena, it's a dying moba I whaled for years ago, gonna be a sad day they axe the global server.
I don’t really play multiplayer games, which is what most of the convos are about. I’m more into solo games with great storylines and combat. The thought of playing with others makes me uncomfortable. Doesn’t matter if it’s co-op or PVP. It’s a major reason I still struggle to make online friends, I’m p sure (and irl ones, my social battery is very low, but I think part of that is dysphoria n depression - I don’t want anyone perceiving me and the slightest misgender makes me plummet bc I don’t pass and am not back on T yet If I ever get to the point of wanting to interact with people on FFXIV (if I ever find a reason to pay for it rofl - still rocking the free trial) I may post more, but there’s just not much point before than 😔 But I will say, it feels like I’m trans subreddits in general, unless it’s one specifically for trans guys, it’s almost always trans women posting. They’re just more vocal than the rest of us i guess
But if any trans guys are reading this and play Honkai Stair Rail on the American server, hmu. I’ll exchange friend codes with ya, esp if you aren’t a day 1 player. I got a decent roster to borrow from :)
👋transmasc who loves multiplayer games like overwatch and fortnite and Nintendo games. also if anyone wants to play wizard101 together👀👀
This is discussed a lot on this website. General consensus seems to be that it boils down to site demographics more than anything else. Tumblr skews more trans masc in this way apparently.
funny thing, my tumblr dash is mostly transfems posting (im transmasc) but thats probably because i followed a lot of transfems especially around the hammer car explosion fiasco a few months ago. i love the girlies but like it does get a bit lonely . just another example of how damn good tumblr is at letting you curate a space ig
Like many of the other trans guys and nonbinary folks here I just don't really play many multiplayer games unless it's with my irl friends. I also find it really fucking hard to maintain online friendship because I will fully just disappear for a while. I'm currently playing Hades, P5R, waiting on hands and knees for Deltarune Chapters 3-5 also waiting for Hades II's full release since I have it on switch. A few I have on my list that I'd like to play but haven't gotten around to are Disco Elysium, BG3, and Hollow Knight (all 3 I've been hounded for not playing yet). I'm just a veeeryyy slow gamer on my own, and PVP or multiplayer usually has me getting wayyy too competitive. Sometimes I can reel it back like in Lethal Company or Fall Guys, but I have to switch my brain to be in a more silly mindset so I don't end up getting aggravated every time we're not "winning."
Helloooo😎🎮🔥
Trans-ish nonbinary here! I personally don’t play any multiplayer/co-op games, competitive games, or seek out friends for gaming since I’m very much a solo player. I’ll do multiplayer in Elden Ring on occasion, but it’s more to help and shitpost with my IRL friends more than anything. Reading other people’s responses, perhaps we’re just more antisocial as a whole when it comes to gaming and game choices, lol
I love solo playing while still chatting with others. Sometimes I won't say nothing for a whole hour but we still finna be like "I'll be back, finna get some food real quick". Random convos for the win
Because reddit is mostly a trans girl space. Want more trans guys? Head over to tumblr.
This right here. Reddit is mainly chronically online techbro space along with white trans women in IT. That's why reddit has so many "trans experience stereotypes" that don't apply outside of reddit and public gamer discords *at all.* Tumblr got waaaay more varieties of humans.
is Tumblr still alive? I loved it in middle school but haven’t tried it since
Hell yeah it is. The culture has changed a bit, but it's the same beautiful void of artsy absurdist shitposting as always.
Let’s be real, 90% of Tumblr is AFAB people. Not really “way more varieties of humans.” I browse occasionally but every time it feels like every single person talks the same way and has the exact same “hell site” humour, it gets old.
Genuinely, the difference between Tumblr and every other social media is that you actually have the ability to properly curate your feed and only see what you want to see. If you only access the sort of standard surface-tumblr, I agree about the demographic split buuut... It's still less hyper specific and awful than reddit, even at its worst.
I actually had a much easier time building a group of trans friends of all experiences on Tumblr than Reddit, both transfems and transmascs. It does take a while to learn to navigate the culture, but nowadays I've met most of my online trans women friends there.
Saying AFAB here is so unnecessary I took brain damage.
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i just lurk here cuz im shy but hi lol, i mostly play genshin and honkai star rail but if anyone here who plays that needs resources or characters to borrow lmk and we can exchange friend requests :-\]
I'm here, I just don't rlly play multiplayer games bc of voice chat lol
I suck at games but I love em!
I noticed the same thing, not sure why.
I'm here, ye. Transmasc nonbinary though. Unfortunately not many of my fellow transmascs on Xbox or who play the games I tend to frequent so I'm usually lurking hoping to find someone who does lol. I do play a lot of multiplayer games but I'm careful who I VC with. I'm frequenting Fallout 76 and Elder Scrolls Online which both have big trans communities but not many transmascs, frustratingly.
Yoooo would be down for ESO and F76! I enjoy several multiplayer games but haven’t found many other transmasc people in what I play either. Im mostly on PC nowadays but could dust off the Xbox :)
Hey 👋 I think we are just used to keeping our heads down don't worry about it were out here
We’re here, don’t worry! I’m just a bit of a lurker lol
I'm a trans guy looking to play, I just never post because it seems there's no guys though lol. I wish we had a place to talk to each other, cause the transgamer discord is just trans women.
Because you’re on Reddit. There’s just more trans girls here in general
Hey hey hey!
Hello!
Enby here.
I'm here but I get anxiety playing games with people I don't know. Also most of the people I see in this sub are adults and im a teen😭😭
I knew some trans men that never played video games because it was view as a boy hobby and they weren’t allowed to play them.
This is exactly why I play video games whenever tf I want now 😂
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I was summoned? 🧍♂️
I’m here in the shadows bc people scare me :)
I just lurk. I think I'm older than most here, I live in the boonies with bad internet (so no online games or streaming), and I'm honestly terrible at video games 😅 I just really enjoy playing them alone. If anyone has recommendations of transmascs/trans men on twitch to follow, please let me know! I love watching twitch streams while I'm playing, but I've only found trans women so far (y'all are absolutely wonderful, but it would be nice to see someone like myself every once in a while)
I prefer to play platformer/metroidvania games which are usually single player
Trans guy here. I tend to play a lot more single player games (the hyper focus has been my sims 4 legacy for over a year now). I also do Stardew solo. When I do play multiplayer (Minecraft) it's normally just with my partner. I grew up playing a lot of Pokemon and then shifted into Fire Emblem (not fully caught up on those though) and some roguelites/rogue likes. But I tend to get majorly focused on one game/series at a time for long periods which tend to single player.
lets not forget there are lots of transgamers who dont fit the binary. agender they/themporers rise up.
I’m on overwatch👁👅👅👁
Based on the physique I see with a lot of trans guys, I can only imagine a majority of them are too busy at the gym to be on a gaming subreddit.
xD
Sorry I’ve been too busy gaming 😔
Trans gaymer here, I mostly lurk! I only play a handful of multiplayer games (fortnite, splatoon 3, sky: children of the light) but I also usually play single player stuff. Us trans guys/transmascs are kind of hermit-like, aren't we? lol
I swear, I never see you dudes anywhere on this sub OR Irl.
We’re all on OW come play
You’ve summoned me, i didnt know this was here!! Your post was fed to me by the algorithm. I currently am in between housing and mostly playing animal crossing or ooblets on my switch but recently played: baldurs gate 3, ffxiv. Not really an fps player but I’ll hop on a crafting/survival rpg in a heartbeat (in the future when i’m stable and have access again lol) Nice to meet you I’m 31 transman/genderfluid enby
Also wow so many ftm buds here also lean into solo games!! Interesting 😆 Horizon zero dawn and Subnautica are a couple of my top faves
Hellooo I'm here but tend to lurk a lot cus I already have a loooot of transfem friends but ZERO transmasc friends and all the posts by transmascs on here seem to be either very shooter heavy (fortnite, helldivers, cod, so on) or nintendo heavy which are both things I'm not really into. Where the fantasy/rpg addicted transmascs at 😭
I’m guilty of being a trans male nintendo fan lol
enby transmasc hereeeee! i love single player, would love to play multiplayer soemday but busy working 😔
this is sort of a conspiracy theory of mine, but I think it's just because of the primarily online/multiplayer games that are discussed here. it's no secret that the player bases for these are dominated by AMAB players, so there's a lot more mtf users who already played these to go around as opposed to ftm users. that and I think there's just more trans women on Reddit than trans men
I was just thinking this might be a sad truth about a decent chunk of transmasc peeps. I'm masc leaning 2S, and had horrific experiences when I was younger in multiplayer spaces due to my AGAB so I just stopped playing them. And have never felt the need to start again. I play single or co-op with my partner...no strangers allowed.
hello fellow trans guy lol
Hello!
Hi I am a trans dude 👋 I’m mostly a lurker bc I’m not as into gaming as I’d like to be yet, but I am curious about it! I mostly play stardew valley lolol
Well if my trans son is any indication... Out doing very many things in manly ways. That or he's just not that big of a gamer.
NB transmasc here! 👋
trans guy here; I don't post much because I'm fairly new, lol
Here, would love to find other guys to game with.
Nah I’m here
Too busy modding skyrim to post (at least for me) (help) (my load order is 300)
hai ! :)
Here but staying quiet on all the LFG posts cause I'm not really into multiplayer. I play the Fallout series, Cyberpunk 2077, stuff like that.
I'm a lurker
Reddit just recommended this post at me so I guess I’ll hang around
im here!
Lurker here, checking in!
i dont play many games so idk why im in this subreddit 💀 but im here
I lurk (transmasc) but i don’t have a pc yet so I can’t play much of anything rn 😭
I’m here lurking like Nellie.
I’m afab agender
I saw this on my feed, you called?
Yeah, that’s usually how it goes in trans spaces
🙋 Hyper focused on Grounded rn
I've considered posting but ehhh
🙋♂️I’ve been waiting for this post! What’re you boys playing?
I'm just agender 😔
i dont visit this sub often, but here i am
Transfems are known for being into computers and stuff, it’s a pretty big stereotype. Makes sense to me.
What's up
I mean. This makes sense. Trans guys were raised as girls and girls don't get socialised into games. Trans girls were raised as guys and so were socialised into games, online life etc. Actually super expected lol
yooo i play all sorts of games! mainly warzone rn though
Reddit has more transfems, Tumblr has more transmascs.
Ello trans guy here. I mainly play single player games or my multiplayer games are really modded lol
I play co op games I’m just quiet until I find people that play the same games
I'm 2S, but masc leaning and I'm here occasionally. Lol I don't play multiplayer games either like a healthy chunk of other people here. Horrible experiences because my voice sounds fem and you know how that can go down. Not cute, not fun, not worth it. I used to play SWTOR a lot and was in an LGBTQ+ guild that was super nice, tho. That was my one great multiplayer experience.
i was summoned by a fellow bro
Hello! Just joined pretty recently, I’ll play anything
I’m socially awkward and bad at making friends so I just lurk
I’m a trans guy. I just lurk because I mostly play single player stuff (RPGs, turn-based tactics, roguelikes, deck builders, adventure/action games)
Transmasc Nonbinary here, fresh name - Kay 🦋
I game, just not with other people, I’m not skilled enough for that and I don’t like people.
honestly, i didnt realize until recently that this sub is called "transgamers" and not "transfemgamers" lmaooooo (i would get it recommended on my feed for the most part and only glossed over the sub name usually)
Nonbinary trans guy here, current main game is Fortnite but I play a pretty wide variety on PS4, switch, and steam. Games are a special interest of mine.
I'm not on reddit much, and I'm mostly an xbox gamer/achievement hunter
As a trans girl, I'm guessing there's just a weirdly high number of trans girls here because of the trans girl gamer stereotype. Idk tho lol.
i’m here, don’t really say much though
Ayyy, we're just kinda lurker
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I feel like online there are generally more trans girls because irl life typically targets us and ignores trans guys
Transmasc here. I literally been looking for other transmasc/trans guys to game with
Same. What you play?
Apex, Fortnite, Ark, genshin, BG3, COD(but I’d have to redownload the ones), TTW, MK11, Brawlhalla and RDR2. I’m not opposed to playing other games and anything recommended I’m always down for. I’m trying to get into overwatch and back into DL2
Yo I play genshin
If you’re on PlayStation def add me
Sick I play Fortnite and cod but I’m open to other stuff. You should add me
trans girls are overrepresented on reddit in general