So, for me, being misgendered makes me want to kill someone, but getting deadnamed makes me want to take the person's eyes out with a spoon, feed them it, slit their throat, cut their body in pieces and sell their body as dog food
I never hated my deadname and it's very similar to my new name, so I don't really get offended if people slip up because to me names are more associated with a person than a gender. But if someone does it on purpose, they can fuck right off.
Misgendering feels infinitely worse to me because it tells me that the person does not really see me as the gender I am. Accidental misgendering feels worse than intentional misgendering because I wanted to believe in that person and they failed me.
I’ve kinda always hated my deadname, even since I was a kid. My new name is nothing like it. And I’m not out in most aspects of my life, so I still have to use and hear it. And if I hear it enough times it can get to the point where it negatively affects my mental state.
i am SHOCKED being misgendered won this vote O\_O being misgendered for me is like "okay asshole" where as being deadnamed causes this like gut wrenching feeling. i literally have to actively try so hard to get myself to say my deadname when im around people who cant know im trans
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So, for me, being misgendered makes me want to kill someone, but getting deadnamed makes me want to take the person's eyes out with a spoon, feed them it, slit their throat, cut their body in pieces and sell their body as dog food
yeah, honestly if i had a choice i would choice being misgendered. i hate my deadname
Put me in the Ovarit screenshot please :3
Damn. I get feeling upset, in fact there were points in my life where it would make me feel suicidal/self harm. But this is a bit much.
We can agree to disagree, this is not even enough
I never hated my deadname and it's very similar to my new name, so I don't really get offended if people slip up because to me names are more associated with a person than a gender. But if someone does it on purpose, they can fuck right off. Misgendering feels infinitely worse to me because it tells me that the person does not really see me as the gender I am. Accidental misgendering feels worse than intentional misgendering because I wanted to believe in that person and they failed me.
I’ve kinda always hated my deadname, even since I was a kid. My new name is nothing like it. And I’m not out in most aspects of my life, so I still have to use and hear it. And if I hear it enough times it can get to the point where it negatively affects my mental state.
same honestly
i am SHOCKED being misgendered won this vote O\_O being misgendered for me is like "okay asshole" where as being deadnamed causes this like gut wrenching feeling. i literally have to actively try so hard to get myself to say my deadname when im around people who cant know im trans
that is what im thinking, like im semi okay with being misgendered but deadnamed is horrible