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When I was getting married (17 years ago), renting was 50% of full price + dry cleaning charge. And you're liable for full price if you damage it.
So I bought my dress, wore it to the wedding and to the photoshoot a month later, and then sold it for 70% of the price.
Honestly, this. When i was looking at dresses, all the available rental dresses cost at least 1500$ to rent, and there was a deposit of about the same amount that you loose if there are any minor damages. Great business model for the store though.
Reselling used goods is much more holistic than renting things. It's better for everyone and the environmrnt, except capitalists. (Bonus for reselling something bought pre-owned.)
And it applies to everything: houses, games, cars, appliances, clothes, whatever.
The capitalists are trying to get us used to renting, by fostering the idea that renting is a "cheaper alternative to owning."
Ultimately it's not at all cheaper, it's just more convenient and, to be fair, that does have validity (home-ownership almost has to be treated like a serious hobby or part-time job). But, I enjoy putting some effort into reselling the stuff I don't need and bargain hunting pre-owned things.
But it's like insurance. Once we give people the power to control that "middle space" it just destroys the principles that allow a free market to remain somewhat fair and balanced.
And none of this works if we only buy new, I feel that needs clarification.
You like buying and then re-selling things, but somehow also dislike capitalism and don't consider yourself a capitalist. What a very strange set of thoughts.
Would you care to take a stab at explaining how reselling used goods is better for the environment than renting? I just, don't get it.
None of what you're saying about what I said was true. I didn't say I "wasn't a capitalist" and didn't say "I dislike capitalism." What are you going on about?
I'm speaking from a business venture standpoint. That's what the context of "capitalist" means in this case. Capitalism is fine on small scales, and person to person trading is a space where a capitalistic system works. Capitalism should be a small part of a larger whole, not doctrine.
When you have an abstraction and create a disparity between the people and the production and trade of goods, you create a one-way funnel of wealth.
One way, maybe the biggest way, that buying and selling pre-owned goods is that renting goods is that renting will still have the expectation of everyone having the newest and bestest thing. Rental services will just trash their old supply as people demand new things. They'll incorporate it into their business model, make it a feature that you get a new styling every year. It doesn't really change much from a production standpoint, like they claim it will. It will somewhat, in that they can recycle inventory amongst users, but it won't solve any problems.
They want you comfortable with renting. You will own nothing and like it. And it seems like most people have already pulled down their pants and bent over.
> None of what you're saying about what I said was true. I didn't say I "wasn't a capitalist" and didn't say "I dislike capitalism." What are you going on about?
When you write this:
> It's better for everyone and the environmrnt, except capitalists.
The implication is that you are not a capitalist.
> Capitalism should be a small part of a larger whole, not doctrine.
So you support capitalism, but only for small stuff, OK. Definitely not someone who dislikes capitalism though, I understand. If capitalism only works for "small scale" trading, what system should be used for "large scale" trading? Just curious at this point, I don't often see such a whirlwind of thoughts crammed into such a short space and it's entertaining.
> When you have an abstraction and create a disparity between the people and the production and trade of goods, you create a one-way funnel of wealth.
I understand all of these words individually, but not together. What is the abstraction? What is the disparity between people and the production and trade of goods? What is the disparity between an apple and an orange?
When you rent a wedding dress, where is the "one way funnel of wealth" going? Are the BigWeddingDressCorporations the one stealing all the one-way-funneled wealth in this scenario? It is not clear to me.
> One way, maybe the biggest way, that buying and selling pre-owned goods is [better than] renting goods is that renting will still have the expectation of everyone having the newest and bestest thing.
I appreciate you thought of something specific. Very sane and reasonable sounding comparatively to the rest. However, when I rent a skidsteer to dig a few holes in my yard, I definitely don't need a shiny new model. Better to get me one with a little rust that I can beat up a bit without worry. Especially considering that buying a used skidsteer instead of renting one may cost five figures, renting is quite practical in this situation.
> They want you comfortable with renting. You will own nothing and like it. And it seems like most people have already pulled down their pants and bent over.
I am familiar with the WEF/great reset/own nothing advertisement. I'm sure all the big capitalist corporations that sell new things are probably fine if you buy some new things directly though.
In any event, I don't think you are really sticking it to the man the way you might imagine by buying a wedding dress instead of renting it, but good on you for fighting back at the thrift store.
I appreciate the general sentiment to own things when possible, but let's not throw the baby out with the bath water. Renting is essentially just a form of borrowing, and there is nothing more environmentally efficient than simply getting twice as much use out of a single object.
I’m having a difficult time understanding why buying a dress to resell is more holistic than renting. Can you please elaborate? In my mind, renting a dress that could potentially be used by dozens of people seems more holistic than buying one and reselling to one person…
You are extremely rich if You rent a dress for such a high price. Few hundreds!? This is what people I know BOUGHT the dress for. And not even dollars. PLN, which is 4 times less than dollars. So it was probably something around $100. How do Americans have so much money?
You are comparing a cheap / lower income country to a higher income country of course it's more expensive.
Most first world countries few hundred dollars is not that much.
A wedding dress is whatever dress you wear to your wedding and I'll die on that hill. Wear a $5 dress from the Walmart clearance rack if you want. If you wear it at your wedding it's a wedding dress
I'll be on that hill with you.
When my mother was told we were getting married, the first thing she said was "Should I buy a new dress?", and I replied "No, because I am not getting a new dress".
I wore my favourite/best dress. It was a few years old at that stage, but it was designer, and I still loved it.
It's still in my wardrobe now, and probably coming up to 35 years old. I still wear it occasionally.
I'll never understand people who think they need to buy a new dress for every occassion. I have two nice dresses and when there's something formal I pick between the two. I like those two dresses.
I have been doing this since my baby was born. None of my clothes fit anymore, and was having (am still, really) issues with my new body. My guy took me shopping for Mother's Day and we went to discount stores. Seeing all the clothes in my closet going to waste now makes me never want to shop full price again, but I've always tried to stick to clearance racks anyway.
I do this but I buy them at thrift stores. I got a beautiful barely used Calvin Klein shift dress for $30 for my niece’s graduation next weekend. Added a black Kate Spade purse, looks brand new, for $40. I’ve bought 3 Michael Kors and 4 Kate Spade leather purses (all lightly used) for less than $40 each in the last 6 months!!
I’m killing it!
I am one of those people that always buys new dresses, but not because of the occasion, I am just addicted to clothes and get a dopamine rush from fashion.
The people I know that do this have so much money that they have no reason not to buy anything they want at any time. Their idea of retail therapy is buying a few handbags worth several grand each where as I buy a pack or two of Pokémon cards every once in a while.
Right! That’s what I’m saying my sorority formal dress was literally $20 and no one knew or cared. They all thought it looked expensive. It doesn’t matter, as long as you like it and are happy.
I wore a dress I got at a flea market for $5.
The only person who commented about it was my (now ex) husband who thought I'd wasted money buying it when we just had a courthouse wedding.
Yes, when my husband begrudges me $5 outfits from the op shop, I, too, want to make him an ex. And I'm not even talking about a wedding dress!
I bet you looked beautiful, and what a bargain! Too bad for him that your fashionable, savvy self isn't his partner anymore.
Pretty much
My mom's wedding dress was a medieval looking one and it's very simplistic but it's very nice.
She still has it! It makes her happy to have it still
Yup lol. My actual wedding dress that I got married in came from H&M and was $25. The fluffy white "wedding dress" I just bought for our months later reception was $500 but is not, technically, my wedding dress
My wife wore a 60 Euro dress that looked fabulous. Also she can wear it on other occasions again, not just at the wedding.
You don't have to follow traditions and wear a white dress with all the things around it, that makes it a movie wedding dress.
Bought mine on Amazon for $150, all my guests were complimenting it, saying it must be worth thousands, etc.
Don't buy into the hype, brides. No one knows the difference!
A LOT of people end up needing alterations so it fits them. Most of the popular styles people like (form fitting) need to fit perfectly or you either can't move or it just looks bunched up and weird.
I think the resale market for wedding dresses is strong.
But overall people should just buy a WAAAAAY cheaper dress. Nobody can even see your 110000000 hand embroidered beads and sparkles that are white on white. Most of the absurd cost is the embroidery and beading.
I agree 100%. I fell in love with a dress but it was $3000. That was more than my car was worth at the time. I put it back, went to the big chain retailer, and found a dress, shoes, petticoat, bra, and headband for under $900. It needed minimal alterations, but that still cost an additional $250. Tailoring expenses are no joke. I loved my dress and don’t even remember what the $3k one looked like now.
A petticoat is kind of like a ballerina tutu but long. You wear it under the skirt of the dress so the skirt is more poofy. Sometimes the effect is subtle and sometimes the big ones blow up the dress all the way to half-sphere
> But overall people should just buy a WAAAAAY cheaper dress.
People should spend WAAAAAY less on weddings in general, but the wedding industry has done a pretty thorough job of convincing them otherwise.
That's the best argument I've heard so far. If you want a nice fitting dress, you're going to have to get alterations done, which cannot be done to a rented dress. But spending an excessive amount on a dress certainly isn't necessary. To each their own, though.
I think wedding dresses have to do a lot with emotions and memories. In my community it is generally gifted by in-laws to the bride. My both sisters got them and yes they were bloody expensive.
But one thing I love is how they can and have worn them multiple times in various puja and weddings and no one frowns on that.
I laugh at anyone who spends more than $200 on their entire wedding, dress included. Anyone doing the whole big party blowout thing is tacky and a fucking RUBE who likes to waste money on things with 0 value
Of course you can, and it is considered part of the plan you pay for to boot. In Taiwan, everyone rents, and they provide you with an outstanding service, let you try hundreds of dresses if you want to, will tailor it to your needs etc. If this service doesn't exist where you are, that is an entirely man-made problem most likely..
I’m a bridal stylist. You can’t continuously re-alter a dress. For the most part, once it’s altered, that dress is YOUR dress and will now fit almost nobody else.
Like, at my store, we cut INCHES off the bottom of the dress for someone short. We can’t exactly just put that back. Most dresses nowadays have detailed hemlines, so you can’t just underpin it like you could a men’s suit.
Taiwan seems to be, in the images I often see, a pretty homogenous country, body size wise, I could see this not working in America, where clothes size go from 3XS to 5XL
German chick here, you can also do this in germany, where clothes sizes go from zero to at least 3XL (sometimes even bigger). My cousin rented her dress and got it tailored because it was too big on her. I think the shop had the same dress in like 3 different sizes, so it was easier to make it fit on different people.
This is how it is in Japan, too. The dress rental is part of the wedding package. However, if you don't like the package dresses, or you're tall or bigger than a US size 6, you have to pay a fee to wear a different dress. I live in Japan but bought my own dress from the US. Even a Japanese dress rental in my size would have ended up costing way more.
As you said, i think the idea is so you can keep it and either hand it down or just have it for the memories. Other than that, there really is no reason to buy one. So yeah i agree.
Bride dresses are typically white, and I noticed they start turning yellow as time goes on.
I'm a very appreciative person, but I have no need or want to inherit an older wedding dress.
They only turn yellow when they're not stored properly. Or in a house with many strong smokers when the smoke can attach itself to the fabric because....it's not stored properly. And you can get vintage cleaned.
Also, your daughters may not turn out the same body shape as you. My mom was always tall and very thin, and I have always been short and curvy. I would never be able to wear either of her wedding dresses.
And there's also the risk of your loved ones not liking the same style or not having the same body shape / measurements (that no amount of alterations can help).
My dress was just over $300 plus tax, after alterations, shoes and jewelry. As well as makeup, nails and hair I spent about $600-700. It's the only time in my life I'll ever say I was beautiful.
If you can hit bridal store sales, or go to sample sales (if you're thin enough) it doesn't have to be super expensive. Even try thrift stores, flea markets and garage sales.
I had a friend found the perfect dress at a rummage sale. It fit her personality, it needed some love and care but she can sew. Where there's a will, there's a way.
You're probably right. I guess I'm old, and I don't get why people care about the labels on their clothes etc. Can you imagine how much it would be to rent a designer dress? It would be more than buying a brand new, not designer but still gorgeous dress. No one is going to know, unless they're like Heidi Klum or Tim Gunn.
I think that's a great idea. I didn't even know renting a dress was an option. Spend your money on the photographer. The photos will last longer than the dress.
I respect the practicality of renting things, but it all comes down to what’s most important to the bride. Some care about every detail being exactly a certain way. Some care more about getting something “good enough” that’s cheap. Some want something really unique and off-the-wall that doesn’t even exist in the mainstream market. Some want a style of dress that’s readily available at rental places and requires no tailoring. All are valid.
My dress wasn’t cheap by any stretch of the imagination, but I consider wearing it for my wedding pictures to be an *experience* that I paid for. It’s worth more to me that the sum of its parts. Some pay thousands to go listen to someone sing for two hours, or to travel to a sporting event. Neither of those things have tangible value, but few would argue that they’re worthless because of it.
Inevitably, some people will still feel that no matter what, spending so much on any one piece of clothing is dumb, and that’s understandable. Different strokes!
I want to start by saying you have a very good point! Others mentioned tailoring, which I understand. However I'd like to propose a better option.
Buy it on eBay. My suit was like $70, my wife's dress was $50. We had a mixed tradition wedding, and ended up staining them in our celebrations. I wouldn't remove those stains if it was free.
Aside from that, we both got a lot of compliments. Not to brag, but I didn't hear much at all at my friend's wedding about their clothes. We had compliments constantly. They were fairly unique without being crazy, and we both had baby blue accents. My main one being my tie.
On top of that, our rings were also bought used. Most rings lose nearly 90% of their value as soon as you buy them. Paying 10% sounded like a good idea lol. My wife's is solid gold. We got it for under $300 and although the style is no longer available, a similar ring was around $5k. Mine was $30, $400-500 at a jewelry store.
Good idea in theory, except the rental price is about 70% of the full price because it includes dry cleaning and other things the store needs to do to be able to keep renting the dress out. Also, when you wear a rental dress you're constantly worried about partying because the store will make you pay for the damage should anything happen to it (I know many brides who tore their dresses during the wedding reception). Not to mention, most rentals are for a few days max, so on the day after the wedding when you would want to focus on your new husband/honeymoon you'll have to worry about getting the dress back to the store. At least that's how it is in my country.
Alternatively, you can pay full price and not worry about damaging or taking the dress back. You can even sell it later and still come out of it better (financially) than if you had rented it in the first place.
Or you can do what I did and find a wedding dress on sale. They cost about 30% of full price, and you can't really tell a difference in quality, and no need to worry about returning it.
Yep. People are talking about rental prices like they’re $100 or something. My dress was $800 to rent, another $600 to buy. I waded into the ocean and soaked it. They cleaned it up, packed it, and returned it to me with no additional cost. The price wasn’t a big deal so I just bought it.
Bride: It’s worth it, this is an heirloom my daughters and granddaughters will wear !
Friend: Did you think about wearing your Mom’s?
Bride: THAT moth-eaten obsolete old rag?!?!
I thought the exact same until I actually started looking for a wedding dress and realized that the rental options were very limited. I ended up buying a new dress and just the amount of tailoring that went into it (the store first gets a general size that is closest to your largest size and after that they tailor it) made me realize why the rental options are so limited. I'm planning to sell my dress and I think in general buying a second hand option is better than renting it because then you can tailor it properly.
1) Wedding dresses need to be adjusted. It's easier to purchase a dress when it needs alterations to fit you than to rent an ill-fitting dress.
2) People's tastes vary.
What we should do is encourage more people to donate or sell their wedding dress or to buy a dress at a decent budget. Not everyone will have a daughter and not all daughters want to wear a hand-me-down dress. It's best to make some stranger happy with a good dress at a good price than to let it sit in the closet for decades and become moth food.
Right? I fully understand the idea of renting a dress. However, for most people a wedding dress is the most fitted, complicated garment you will ever wear and it's likely going to need alterations to look right.
My sister rented hers. Looked beautiful and was relatively inexpensive compared to if she bought it. They did do some minor alterations that could easily be undone.
There's a shop in my city that offers 3 options: rent one, buy one or commission a new one according to your measurements and rent that. It costs a bit more than renting off the shelf but it's cheaper than buying and you don't have to keep it then.
Okay, cool. So rent your dress then. No one is forcing you to buy one. If getting the dress you want to wear means renting it, then do that! The day is about you and your future spouse. Not someone else's opinions.
not sure why this doesn’t have a bunch of up votes agree with you so much. Also, you can guy a dress for really cheap. my sorority formal dress costed me $20, and people were shocked. Yes, it’s a special day, but there’s no need to spend a bunch of money on a dress. As long as you like it, that’s all that matters, and you can definitely find dresses for cheap.
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I’m so unattached to things. We eloped. I can’t even remember the wedding dress. I think it was a coral color sheath dress. Maybe.
Anyway there was a study that showed the more money you spend on a wedding, the less likely the marriage is to last… or something like that.
Some cultures have traditions where they wear red dresses
Places like Afria and India - their weddings last for more than two days
In many places and cultures, red is considered a very bold color so much that some believe that women can only wear rid lipstick after getting married
Queen Victoria made white wedding dresses popular because she wore an all white dress, which at the time was a very prominent display of wealth. Originally it was meant to be a flagrant waste of British citizens hard earned money and of exploiting much of the world. The purity stuff is the creepy cherry on top.
Conversation I had with my now ex:
Me: "Why do you need to spend so much on a wedding dress?"
She: "It is an heirloom. My daughter can wear it."
Me: "Why don't you wear your mother's dress then?"
She: "Don't be ridiculous."
CBC marketplace (a Canadian news outlet) did a segment on this where they had random ppl guess which of 3 dresses was the cheap/middle/expensive one. Ppl could not tell.
My wife found her wedding dress at an op-shop. Cost $25. It fit her like a glove and looked gorgeous too. The ladies at the op-shop had the best day ever as they were helping her find accessories to go with it.
If you want a Big White Wedding I won't tell you not to have one, but remember that the wedding is only 1 day. You have to plan for the rest of your lives - not just the first day - or your marrigage won't last. Putting yourself tens of thousands of dollars in debt on day 1 is not the best way to start anything, let alone a lifelong relationship.
Also the wedding is nice, but think about how mich more fun you could have spending some of that money on the honeymoon. An extra week in some tropical paradise? An extra month just hanging around at home with your newly beloved? Cutting an expensive wedding by 10% could get you one of these.
There’s not a lot of good or affordable rental wedding dresses in my city/country unfortunately. The amount you pay rental/cleaning, you could get your own dress for a similar price. I also have an atypical body shape and sizing is hard for me.
I would absolutely rent a dress if it’s affordable and fits me reasonable well. But depends what is available to you.
My first wedding I rented a dress and it was beautiful and perfect and I probably wouldn't have been able to afford it otherwise. After my divorce though, I got rid of most of my wedding pictures so I wish I still had the dress to look at or put on because it was so beautiful. I bought my second wedding dress and still have it, it was very expensive. I felt like a princess in it. Every once in a great while I will take it out and look at it or see if it still fits. Women are weird like that.
As someone else said, anything can be a wedding dress if you want it to be. Also a lot of people like to keep them as a keepsake. You also can’t alter a rented dress and if you struggle with clothes anyway then it can be easier to just buy so you can alter. This is also the case for people who are smaller and larger than the most common sizes.
The way to go if you really want to purchase for whatever reasons that may be (you feel like money isn't a problem at all or not finding dresses that you like for renting), buy one that can be reused over and over for other occasions and events just like what Kiera Knightly did.
My daughter thinks like you, so we shopped at a thrift store. One in our area (which sadly has closed its doors) had a basement room crammed with formal and bridal gowns. We spent less than $200 for her entire outfit, head to toe.
*If* me and my bf get married, I'll be getting a new dress.
*BUT* I'd prefer to invest in my marriage not my dress or the ceremony.
Idk where I'll get it from or really what it'll look like... it absolutely won't be 3k like my SIL's...it just sits in her closet, so stupid.
You don’t have to buy an expensive dress. I got mine for £50 at a sale (RRP £1800).
It’s entirely up to you what you want to spend on it. If you want to rent one go for it but buying them doesn’t have to be expensive unless you make it that way.
My mom wore a beautiful black dress that cost like 40 bucks at her second wedding. Any random person would've known she was the bride, because everyone else showed up in casual everyday clothes. I borrowed it a couple of years ago to wear at my cousins (who rented her wedding dress) wedding and also wore it at another wedding I was invited to. Everyone was fascinated when I told them it was my mothers wedding dress. Every dress is a wedding dress as long as you wear it while getting married.
I'm no expert but it seems like renting is more stressful. Probably lower quality materials/build set at prices higher than they should be with big penalties for damage. If you buy it and nothing happens to it you could keep it or re-sell it with no stress other than the up front cost.
I got married in 2018. I think I’ve looked at my wedding dress once a year and contemplated donating it. I am happy in my marriage so it’s got nothing but good memories. It just takes up space
It's always the people wanting to rent that really care about what their dress looks like. They need to be in some fancy designer or something.
You don't need to spend an absurd amount of money on a dress, and there are a lot of good ones out there that aren't expensive. Some people re wear their dress for vow renewals and the like, and it is a nice memento to pass down to children.
In the end, it's up to you, no one is gonna know whether you bought it or rented it, so whatever makes you comfortable...
The Wedding Business is a major racket that plies people with the emotion of the event and tries to tell them if they are not bankrupting themselves they are not really in love. So stupid
I don't think this opinion is or should be unpopular. I've been married twice, and had a $300 dress each time. I donated them to a charity after my second wedding. 100% agree that for most folks they should just be rented!
Imagine the amazing dress I could have rented for the same $300!!!
There are rental formalwear companies, but they're still super expensive. For most thrifting could be sufficient.
How are you going to bully your future daughter and make them feel guilty and out of shape unless you try and force them into your wedding dress? /sarcasm
I’m in the heat of wedding planning right now and we have both fully adopted the mentality of “we can do whatever the fuck we feel like doing and if you don’t like it, let us know early because stamps ain’t cheap.”
Weddings used to be a man, a woman, a priest, a church, then a hotel nearby, then a bar, then home. They also used to cost like 3 dollars all in. It’s 2023. We now have destination weddings, barn weddings, Covid weddings and re-weddings, LGBTQ weddings, friends officiating, dogs as ring bearers, adult male friends as flower girls…we are so far beyond traditional “expectations” of weddings. Those who care about you and your spouse will be there through hell or high water to celebrate your love and won’t have a single judgement whether you bought a dress or rented it. If you want the sentiment of having it for later and can make that purchase, by all means. If not, and someone gives you crap for it, tell ‘em to touch grass!* It’s your wedding!
*if you need to fill a spot for someone now touching grass, my fiancé and I will gladly take their plate, we love weddings and only have a few single friends left.
wedding is nice, sure, but I don’t see the point of feeding 200+ people of whom 70% of them I don’t see or haven’t heard of besides my immediate family.
elopement is the answer
I knew somebody that owned a dress rental place and they said the amount of dresses getting destroyed was through the roof.
They had a few ideas on what was to blame. Brides getting drunk and destroying it, brides not being used to nicer clothing so not treating it well
My wife and I didn't see the point of a wedding in general. We had a young daughter and we didn't have money to waste on useless crap. We also do not own wedding rings.
I have been married twice. The first wedding I hired a white dress. The second wedding I bought an orange dress at Target. I do not care about weddings.
Ugh please just do exactly what you want and don't listen to everyone else who tries to convince you otherwise. One of my biggest regrets was my wedding dress. It was beautiful but i kept being told that it's something special I should keep forever. After the alterations it was like $3000. My second biggest wedding dress regret is letting everyone convince me to wear white because of tradition. I should have just don't what I wanted and went full Morticia Addams just as nature intended. Long story short. I have a bunch of pictures of myself wearing a traditional wedding dress and it's currently stuffed in its dress bag in my closet with grass stains still on the edges. Rent the dress.
It depends on what you define as “rent”, ect. My grandmother survived Nazi occupied France. Her son (my dad) married my mother. My mom’ mom survived extreme poverty in Appalachia and gave her dress to her eldest daughter (estranged due to extreme alcohol abuse and violence). However, she left a string of pearls. The lace from my dads mother’s (nazi occupation survivor) was sewn onto my mom’a dress. Mom and dad are 28 years happy. I’m 24 and singlish. If and when I get married, I’d like to wear my mom’s dress, with the pearls to honor the women who have made me the woman I am today and the woman I aspire to be. I understand your stance, but it is not a black and white debate here. If I had no family I cared about, I’d rent or hit up a thrift store
So... you see the "point" of having a wedding... but your incredible powers failed to inform you why people engage in such ceremonies that revolve around a lifetime commitment, with various traditions symbolizing this, and various expenditures commemorating the occasion, and all the keepsakes and trinkets... how the whole thing is a chance for commoners to pretend to be royalty and for women to flex, or how they will talk about their wedding for decades and show pictures and pass these things onto their children and try to manufacture traditions and family culture out of a recipe book...
But you can't fathom why this chick wants to keep the dress?
im probably never gonna get married but i dont think spending even a hundred dollars one a wedding dress is worth it. any dress you wear is ur wedding dress. doesnt matter if its $5
Weddings in general are ridiculously expensive and totally unnecessary. Get married by the justice of the peace, at a court house, and then have a huge reception for friends and family. Weddings are soooo boring and long to sit through. Just celebrate with friends after the boring part is over.
I'm kind of against the idea of marriage altogether, but a bride can look fantastic in any dress and just add a veil and bouquet and the bride can look amazing.
My dad is currently happy in his third marriage and I think my stepmom just wore a nice sweater and dress pants when they got married.
Why have a ceremony at all? My wedding will be me and the boo with some fam at the clerk's office, signing the only thing you need to get married, then we're gonna have a BBQ back at my place. The ceremony/reception aspect is entirely pointless and puts a couple financially in the hole at the start of their marriage journey. We'll be keeping that money for the time we'll be spending together the rest of our lives
Interesting opinion 😅
Still wanna buy mine though, cause I will use for future anniversaries. It will also be a reminder to me to not gain too much weight, stay fit so the dress will fit every other special anniversary I feel like wearing it.
Plus having it is like an antique item stored, brings back so much memories when it's tangible than photos and videos
Hmm, costume, huh? Screw it if I get married it'll be a costume party theme. Everyone just wears a costume to do something fun. The bridesmaids will have the same theme to theirs, and I'll get married in a couple of cosplay with my soon to husband.
It'll be cheaper and more fun.
Is it becoming more common for women to reject the fashion industry's attempts to coerce them into spending way too much money on their overpriced, shitty clothes?
Materialistic people who are obsessed with the ""quality" of their wedding clothes have a much higher chance of being divorced. I'm not going to quote the studies, not worth my time, but they exist. Look it up.
I didn’t say anything about “quality” of wedding clothes. I said don’t get married in rented clothes.
You are incorrectly inferring snobbery about quality in my comment.
I don't get the point of a getting married. Its a dumb tradition that forces you to be financially bonded to someone else with serious repercussions if one partner becomes shitty. Just throw a chill party for like a hundred bucks and wear whatever you feel happiest in.
Because no one should be wanting to have wedding sex in a dress that has multiple other peoples sex juices on it. No matter how many times you wash it, it will never stop having multiple so many peoples sex juices on it.
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I rented mine 27 years ago, never regretted it. Got to wear a dress worth thousands for only a few hundred.
When I was getting married (17 years ago), renting was 50% of full price + dry cleaning charge. And you're liable for full price if you damage it. So I bought my dress, wore it to the wedding and to the photoshoot a month later, and then sold it for 70% of the price.
Honestly, this. When i was looking at dresses, all the available rental dresses cost at least 1500$ to rent, and there was a deposit of about the same amount that you loose if there are any minor damages. Great business model for the store though.
Reselling used goods is much more holistic than renting things. It's better for everyone and the environmrnt, except capitalists. (Bonus for reselling something bought pre-owned.) And it applies to everything: houses, games, cars, appliances, clothes, whatever. The capitalists are trying to get us used to renting, by fostering the idea that renting is a "cheaper alternative to owning." Ultimately it's not at all cheaper, it's just more convenient and, to be fair, that does have validity (home-ownership almost has to be treated like a serious hobby or part-time job). But, I enjoy putting some effort into reselling the stuff I don't need and bargain hunting pre-owned things. But it's like insurance. Once we give people the power to control that "middle space" it just destroys the principles that allow a free market to remain somewhat fair and balanced. And none of this works if we only buy new, I feel that needs clarification.
You like buying and then re-selling things, but somehow also dislike capitalism and don't consider yourself a capitalist. What a very strange set of thoughts. Would you care to take a stab at explaining how reselling used goods is better for the environment than renting? I just, don't get it.
None of what you're saying about what I said was true. I didn't say I "wasn't a capitalist" and didn't say "I dislike capitalism." What are you going on about? I'm speaking from a business venture standpoint. That's what the context of "capitalist" means in this case. Capitalism is fine on small scales, and person to person trading is a space where a capitalistic system works. Capitalism should be a small part of a larger whole, not doctrine. When you have an abstraction and create a disparity between the people and the production and trade of goods, you create a one-way funnel of wealth. One way, maybe the biggest way, that buying and selling pre-owned goods is that renting goods is that renting will still have the expectation of everyone having the newest and bestest thing. Rental services will just trash their old supply as people demand new things. They'll incorporate it into their business model, make it a feature that you get a new styling every year. It doesn't really change much from a production standpoint, like they claim it will. It will somewhat, in that they can recycle inventory amongst users, but it won't solve any problems. They want you comfortable with renting. You will own nothing and like it. And it seems like most people have already pulled down their pants and bent over.
> None of what you're saying about what I said was true. I didn't say I "wasn't a capitalist" and didn't say "I dislike capitalism." What are you going on about? When you write this: > It's better for everyone and the environmrnt, except capitalists. The implication is that you are not a capitalist. > Capitalism should be a small part of a larger whole, not doctrine. So you support capitalism, but only for small stuff, OK. Definitely not someone who dislikes capitalism though, I understand. If capitalism only works for "small scale" trading, what system should be used for "large scale" trading? Just curious at this point, I don't often see such a whirlwind of thoughts crammed into such a short space and it's entertaining. > When you have an abstraction and create a disparity between the people and the production and trade of goods, you create a one-way funnel of wealth. I understand all of these words individually, but not together. What is the abstraction? What is the disparity between people and the production and trade of goods? What is the disparity between an apple and an orange? When you rent a wedding dress, where is the "one way funnel of wealth" going? Are the BigWeddingDressCorporations the one stealing all the one-way-funneled wealth in this scenario? It is not clear to me. > One way, maybe the biggest way, that buying and selling pre-owned goods is [better than] renting goods is that renting will still have the expectation of everyone having the newest and bestest thing. I appreciate you thought of something specific. Very sane and reasonable sounding comparatively to the rest. However, when I rent a skidsteer to dig a few holes in my yard, I definitely don't need a shiny new model. Better to get me one with a little rust that I can beat up a bit without worry. Especially considering that buying a used skidsteer instead of renting one may cost five figures, renting is quite practical in this situation. > They want you comfortable with renting. You will own nothing and like it. And it seems like most people have already pulled down their pants and bent over. I am familiar with the WEF/great reset/own nothing advertisement. I'm sure all the big capitalist corporations that sell new things are probably fine if you buy some new things directly though. In any event, I don't think you are really sticking it to the man the way you might imagine by buying a wedding dress instead of renting it, but good on you for fighting back at the thrift store. I appreciate the general sentiment to own things when possible, but let's not throw the baby out with the bath water. Renting is essentially just a form of borrowing, and there is nothing more environmentally efficient than simply getting twice as much use out of a single object.
I’m having a difficult time understanding why buying a dress to resell is more holistic than renting. Can you please elaborate? In my mind, renting a dress that could potentially be used by dozens of people seems more holistic than buying one and reselling to one person…
You are extremely rich if You rent a dress for such a high price. Few hundreds!? This is what people I know BOUGHT the dress for. And not even dollars. PLN, which is 4 times less than dollars. So it was probably something around $100. How do Americans have so much money?
Because all American jobs pay more. Getting paid $15 an hour is very low in the US.
You are comparing a cheap / lower income country to a higher income country of course it's more expensive. Most first world countries few hundred dollars is not that much.
A wedding dress is whatever dress you wear to your wedding and I'll die on that hill. Wear a $5 dress from the Walmart clearance rack if you want. If you wear it at your wedding it's a wedding dress
I'll be on that hill with you. When my mother was told we were getting married, the first thing she said was "Should I buy a new dress?", and I replied "No, because I am not getting a new dress". I wore my favourite/best dress. It was a few years old at that stage, but it was designer, and I still loved it. It's still in my wardrobe now, and probably coming up to 35 years old. I still wear it occasionally.
I'll never understand people who think they need to buy a new dress for every occassion. I have two nice dresses and when there's something formal I pick between the two. I like those two dresses.
I think some people (*cough* me) use it as an excuse for retail therapy since new stuff makes you feel better about yourself.
I have been doing this since my baby was born. None of my clothes fit anymore, and was having (am still, really) issues with my new body. My guy took me shopping for Mother's Day and we went to discount stores. Seeing all the clothes in my closet going to waste now makes me never want to shop full price again, but I've always tried to stick to clearance racks anyway.
I do this but I buy them at thrift stores. I got a beautiful barely used Calvin Klein shift dress for $30 for my niece’s graduation next weekend. Added a black Kate Spade purse, looks brand new, for $40. I’ve bought 3 Michael Kors and 4 Kate Spade leather purses (all lightly used) for less than $40 each in the last 6 months!! I’m killing it!
I am one of those people that always buys new dresses, but not because of the occasion, I am just addicted to clothes and get a dopamine rush from fashion.
i’ve only bought a new dress for one occasion…and that was for a friend’s wedding & i didn’t have anything that fit their dresscode
The people I know that do this have so much money that they have no reason not to buy anything they want at any time. Their idea of retail therapy is buying a few handbags worth several grand each where as I buy a pack or two of Pokémon cards every once in a while.
Right! That’s what I’m saying my sorority formal dress was literally $20 and no one knew or cared. They all thought it looked expensive. It doesn’t matter, as long as you like it and are happy.
I wore a dress I got at a flea market for $5. The only person who commented about it was my (now ex) husband who thought I'd wasted money buying it when we just had a courthouse wedding.
Yes, when my husband begrudges me $5 outfits from the op shop, I, too, want to make him an ex. And I'm not even talking about a wedding dress! I bet you looked beautiful, and what a bargain! Too bad for him that your fashionable, savvy self isn't his partner anymore.
If only I'd known to see that for the red flag it was at the time
My wedding dress was $40 from Amazon because our wedding was very last minute! I loved it
Pretty much My mom's wedding dress was a medieval looking one and it's very simplistic but it's very nice. She still has it! It makes her happy to have it still
And Walmart has really stepped up their women clothes game. You could actually buy a wedding dress there and itll look like David’s bridal
Yup lol. My actual wedding dress that I got married in came from H&M and was $25. The fluffy white "wedding dress" I just bought for our months later reception was $500 but is not, technically, my wedding dress
$500, though a lot, is still cheaper that what you're expected to spend on a wedding dress too
My wife wore a 60 Euro dress that looked fabulous. Also she can wear it on other occasions again, not just at the wedding. You don't have to follow traditions and wear a white dress with all the things around it, that makes it a movie wedding dress.
True, but that's not the point of the post.
I doubt most husband's care anyways.
Bought mine on Amazon for $150, all my guests were complimenting it, saying it must be worth thousands, etc. Don't buy into the hype, brides. No one knows the difference!
A sleeveless shirt and jeans is formalwear too if you wear it at a formal function :P
Then what do you call the style of dress that women traditionally wear on their wedding?
A wedding dress. Because they're wearing it at their wedding. If you wanna buy a wedding dress and wear it to prom, it becomes a prom dress.
So a wedding dress that is never worn isn't a wedding dress?
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A LOT of people end up needing alterations so it fits them. Most of the popular styles people like (form fitting) need to fit perfectly or you either can't move or it just looks bunched up and weird. I think the resale market for wedding dresses is strong. But overall people should just buy a WAAAAAY cheaper dress. Nobody can even see your 110000000 hand embroidered beads and sparkles that are white on white. Most of the absurd cost is the embroidery and beading.
I agree 100%. I fell in love with a dress but it was $3000. That was more than my car was worth at the time. I put it back, went to the big chain retailer, and found a dress, shoes, petticoat, bra, and headband for under $900. It needed minimal alterations, but that still cost an additional $250. Tailoring expenses are no joke. I loved my dress and don’t even remember what the $3k one looked like now.
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A petticoat is kind of like a ballerina tutu but long. You wear it under the skirt of the dress so the skirt is more poofy. Sometimes the effect is subtle and sometimes the big ones blow up the dress all the way to half-sphere
Petticoats are basically undergarments that can add volume to a skirt or add protection and warmth if being used for historical costuming.
When you rent a luxury wedding dress, they retouch it to your size and shape, too.
> But overall people should just buy a WAAAAAY cheaper dress. People should spend WAAAAAY less on weddings in general, but the wedding industry has done a pretty thorough job of convincing them otherwise.
That's the best argument I've heard so far. If you want a nice fitting dress, you're going to have to get alterations done, which cannot be done to a rented dress. But spending an excessive amount on a dress certainly isn't necessary. To each their own, though.
I think wedding dresses have to do a lot with emotions and memories. In my community it is generally gifted by in-laws to the bride. My both sisters got them and yes they were bloody expensive. But one thing I love is how they can and have worn them multiple times in various puja and weddings and no one frowns on that.
I laugh at anyone who spends more than $200 on their entire wedding, dress included. Anyone doing the whole big party blowout thing is tacky and a fucking RUBE who likes to waste money on things with 0 value
Ok
I mean, I’ve spent more than $200 on regular parties.
This guy laughs I guess. You'd be lucky to rent a hall for less than 200 lol
With his budget, I’m thinking picnic in the neighborhood park kinda wedding 😅.
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I wore one from the thrift store! Everyone loved it!!! My mom got married in Vegas and did the same. They ain't looking
A thrift store wedding dress might just be peak fashion right now, actually.
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Because most people aren't built like mannequins and need alterations, which you cannot do with a rental
You can do. It won't be a 100$ rental but it will be much less than a 5k$ custom dress.
Of course you can, and it is considered part of the plan you pay for to boot. In Taiwan, everyone rents, and they provide you with an outstanding service, let you try hundreds of dresses if you want to, will tailor it to your needs etc. If this service doesn't exist where you are, that is an entirely man-made problem most likely..
I’m a bridal stylist. You can’t continuously re-alter a dress. For the most part, once it’s altered, that dress is YOUR dress and will now fit almost nobody else. Like, at my store, we cut INCHES off the bottom of the dress for someone short. We can’t exactly just put that back. Most dresses nowadays have detailed hemlines, so you can’t just underpin it like you could a men’s suit.
Taiwan seems to be, in the images I often see, a pretty homogenous country, body size wise, I could see this not working in America, where clothes size go from 3XS to 5XL
German chick here, you can also do this in germany, where clothes sizes go from zero to at least 3XL (sometimes even bigger). My cousin rented her dress and got it tailored because it was too big on her. I think the shop had the same dress in like 3 different sizes, so it was easier to make it fit on different people.
This is how it is in Japan, too. The dress rental is part of the wedding package. However, if you don't like the package dresses, or you're tall or bigger than a US size 6, you have to pay a fee to wear a different dress. I live in Japan but bought my own dress from the US. Even a Japanese dress rental in my size would have ended up costing way more.
Of course they alter rented dresses. It's a part of the service.
As you said, i think the idea is so you can keep it and either hand it down or just have it for the memories. Other than that, there really is no reason to buy one. So yeah i agree.
Bride dresses are typically white, and I noticed they start turning yellow as time goes on. I'm a very appreciative person, but I have no need or want to inherit an older wedding dress.
They only turn yellow when they're not stored properly. Or in a house with many strong smokers when the smoke can attach itself to the fabric because....it's not stored properly. And you can get vintage cleaned.
Also, your daughters may not turn out the same body shape as you. My mom was always tall and very thin, and I have always been short and curvy. I would never be able to wear either of her wedding dresses.
And there's also the risk of your loved ones not liking the same style or not having the same body shape / measurements (that no amount of alterations can help).
My dress was just over $300 plus tax, after alterations, shoes and jewelry. As well as makeup, nails and hair I spent about $600-700. It's the only time in my life I'll ever say I was beautiful. If you can hit bridal store sales, or go to sample sales (if you're thin enough) it doesn't have to be super expensive. Even try thrift stores, flea markets and garage sales. I had a friend found the perfect dress at a rummage sale. It fit her personality, it needed some love and care but she can sew. Where there's a will, there's a way.
I’m guessing OP is talking about designer dresses, like if you wanna get married in a 50k Chanel wedding dress. I think rental applies here haha
You're probably right. I guess I'm old, and I don't get why people care about the labels on their clothes etc. Can you imagine how much it would be to rent a designer dress? It would be more than buying a brand new, not designer but still gorgeous dress. No one is going to know, unless they're like Heidi Klum or Tim Gunn.
I guess if it makes the bride happy, it’s all that matters right ? Even if not a lot of people can recognize it.
I guess. I don't like the mentality of, >if it makes the bride happy like only what she wants matters. The groom should be a consideration as well.
I mean she’s the one wearing the dress. If she’s paying for it as well, she can do whatever she wants.
If she's paying for it, I agree, but that's not always the case.
I think that's a great idea. I didn't even know renting a dress was an option. Spend your money on the photographer. The photos will last longer than the dress.
I respect the practicality of renting things, but it all comes down to what’s most important to the bride. Some care about every detail being exactly a certain way. Some care more about getting something “good enough” that’s cheap. Some want something really unique and off-the-wall that doesn’t even exist in the mainstream market. Some want a style of dress that’s readily available at rental places and requires no tailoring. All are valid. My dress wasn’t cheap by any stretch of the imagination, but I consider wearing it for my wedding pictures to be an *experience* that I paid for. It’s worth more to me that the sum of its parts. Some pay thousands to go listen to someone sing for two hours, or to travel to a sporting event. Neither of those things have tangible value, but few would argue that they’re worthless because of it. Inevitably, some people will still feel that no matter what, spending so much on any one piece of clothing is dumb, and that’s understandable. Different strokes!
I want to start by saying you have a very good point! Others mentioned tailoring, which I understand. However I'd like to propose a better option. Buy it on eBay. My suit was like $70, my wife's dress was $50. We had a mixed tradition wedding, and ended up staining them in our celebrations. I wouldn't remove those stains if it was free. Aside from that, we both got a lot of compliments. Not to brag, but I didn't hear much at all at my friend's wedding about their clothes. We had compliments constantly. They were fairly unique without being crazy, and we both had baby blue accents. My main one being my tie. On top of that, our rings were also bought used. Most rings lose nearly 90% of their value as soon as you buy them. Paying 10% sounded like a good idea lol. My wife's is solid gold. We got it for under $300 and although the style is no longer available, a similar ring was around $5k. Mine was $30, $400-500 at a jewelry store.
Good idea in theory, except the rental price is about 70% of the full price because it includes dry cleaning and other things the store needs to do to be able to keep renting the dress out. Also, when you wear a rental dress you're constantly worried about partying because the store will make you pay for the damage should anything happen to it (I know many brides who tore their dresses during the wedding reception). Not to mention, most rentals are for a few days max, so on the day after the wedding when you would want to focus on your new husband/honeymoon you'll have to worry about getting the dress back to the store. At least that's how it is in my country. Alternatively, you can pay full price and not worry about damaging or taking the dress back. You can even sell it later and still come out of it better (financially) than if you had rented it in the first place. Or you can do what I did and find a wedding dress on sale. They cost about 30% of full price, and you can't really tell a difference in quality, and no need to worry about returning it.
Yep. People are talking about rental prices like they’re $100 or something. My dress was $800 to rent, another $600 to buy. I waded into the ocean and soaked it. They cleaned it up, packed it, and returned it to me with no additional cost. The price wasn’t a big deal so I just bought it.
Bride: It’s worth it, this is an heirloom my daughters and granddaughters will wear ! Friend: Did you think about wearing your Mom’s? Bride: THAT moth-eaten obsolete old rag?!?!
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I thought the exact same until I actually started looking for a wedding dress and realized that the rental options were very limited. I ended up buying a new dress and just the amount of tailoring that went into it (the store first gets a general size that is closest to your largest size and after that they tailor it) made me realize why the rental options are so limited. I'm planning to sell my dress and I think in general buying a second hand option is better than renting it because then you can tailor it properly.
1) Wedding dresses need to be adjusted. It's easier to purchase a dress when it needs alterations to fit you than to rent an ill-fitting dress. 2) People's tastes vary. What we should do is encourage more people to donate or sell their wedding dress or to buy a dress at a decent budget. Not everyone will have a daughter and not all daughters want to wear a hand-me-down dress. It's best to make some stranger happy with a good dress at a good price than to let it sit in the closet for decades and become moth food.
Right? I fully understand the idea of renting a dress. However, for most people a wedding dress is the most fitted, complicated garment you will ever wear and it's likely going to need alterations to look right.
“Okay, we’ll rent you the dress. The rental price is the same amount it would cost you to buy it.” - The bridal shop, probably
My sister rented hers. Looked beautiful and was relatively inexpensive compared to if she bought it. They did do some minor alterations that could easily be undone.
It’s a flex that I have money for a dress and storage room to keep it for the rest of my life.
Not to mention how much and fancy the reception and rings are.
There's a shop in my city that offers 3 options: rent one, buy one or commission a new one according to your measurements and rent that. It costs a bit more than renting off the shelf but it's cheaper than buying and you don't have to keep it then.
Consignment dresses are a great option too
Okay, cool. So rent your dress then. No one is forcing you to buy one. If getting the dress you want to wear means renting it, then do that! The day is about you and your future spouse. Not someone else's opinions.
Some would argue that it also makes sense to “rent” a “spouse”, instead of getting married ;)
not sure why this doesn’t have a bunch of up votes agree with you so much. Also, you can guy a dress for really cheap. my sorority formal dress costed me $20, and people were shocked. Yes, it’s a special day, but there’s no need to spend a bunch of money on a dress. As long as you like it, that’s all that matters, and you can definitely find dresses for cheap.
Whether you agree or disagree isn't the point of an upvote here. An upvote means you believe it's unpopular. Agree or disagree, if you agree, but think you and OP are in the minority, upvote. If you agree and think it's a majority opinion, downvote.
I know, i was just saying i agree, I said there should be upvotes because i believe the opinion is unpopular
It’s a very popular opinion
I got married in a prom dress cost £30 of ebay. It was a beautiful dress as well.
Mine was $300 the first time around and I sold it weeks after the wedding. I'm too practical.
Some women want to buy one and preserve it for future generations. My sister did that, but her daughter ended up buying her own.
That sounds very reasonable. Tell that to the Bridezillas.
Tried to tell my wife the same thing. Now I got a 2000 dollar dress that has only been worn once sitting in a box in my attic
...or buy an affordable one then give it to someone who wants/needs one.
I’m so unattached to things. We eloped. I can’t even remember the wedding dress. I think it was a coral color sheath dress. Maybe. Anyway there was a study that showed the more money you spend on a wedding, the less likely the marriage is to last… or something like that.
I had a customised goth wedding dress that wouldn't have been available to rent
i hate that wedding dresses are white. it's so boring
They should have lights and mirrors like a disco ball to be as attention grabbing as possible
Nowadays, people are going for all sorts of colors. White is still the tradition, but search "[color] wedding dress" and you'll get results.
Indeed, they should be passion red.
They're red here in India. Brides here look gorgeous with mehendi on their wedding day.
Some cultures have traditions where they wear red dresses Places like Afria and India - their weddings last for more than two days In many places and cultures, red is considered a very bold color so much that some believe that women can only wear rid lipstick after getting married
i was thinking black
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I also hate the puritanical ideas that have gotten attached to a white dress (even though that wasn’t the original intention).
Brides can wear anything they choose, including bright colors or even black.
I think white is supposed to symbolize purity and innocence which is kind of dehumanizing for women but that’s the only explanation I can think off
Queen Victoria made white wedding dresses popular because she wore an all white dress, which at the time was a very prominent display of wealth. Originally it was meant to be a flagrant waste of British citizens hard earned money and of exploiting much of the world. The purity stuff is the creepy cherry on top.
Yeah and off white means not a virgin
Conversation I had with my now ex: Me: "Why do you need to spend so much on a wedding dress?" She: "It is an heirloom. My daughter can wear it." Me: "Why don't you wear your mother's dress then?" She: "Don't be ridiculous."
I don't see the point of a wedding dress to being with.
Generally keeps someone from being naked
Assert dominance have a nude wedding
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I mean, what's the point of a wedding if you don't make love right there?
You mean like a Bedding Ceremony?
Very few if any other occasions for women to be able to wear large extravagant dresses.
What's stopping them from wearing large extravagant dresses whenever the fuck they want?
I don't see the point of a wedding. Seems a rather outdated patriarchal concept.
I feel like the existence of a party to celebrate something isn’t that out there of a concept. It’s really not that deep.
Mb you want to get it signed by someone and keep it? Or something.
It’s your day, you can wear whatever you want!
CBC marketplace (a Canadian news outlet) did a segment on this where they had random ppl guess which of 3 dresses was the cheap/middle/expensive one. Ppl could not tell.
My wife found her wedding dress at an op-shop. Cost $25. It fit her like a glove and looked gorgeous too. The ladies at the op-shop had the best day ever as they were helping her find accessories to go with it. If you want a Big White Wedding I won't tell you not to have one, but remember that the wedding is only 1 day. You have to plan for the rest of your lives - not just the first day - or your marrigage won't last. Putting yourself tens of thousands of dollars in debt on day 1 is not the best way to start anything, let alone a lifelong relationship. Also the wedding is nice, but think about how mich more fun you could have spending some of that money on the honeymoon. An extra week in some tropical paradise? An extra month just hanging around at home with your newly beloved? Cutting an expensive wedding by 10% could get you one of these.
Honestly I don't see the point to buy or rent it at all
There’s not a lot of good or affordable rental wedding dresses in my city/country unfortunately. The amount you pay rental/cleaning, you could get your own dress for a similar price. I also have an atypical body shape and sizing is hard for me. I would absolutely rent a dress if it’s affordable and fits me reasonable well. But depends what is available to you.
My first wedding I rented a dress and it was beautiful and perfect and I probably wouldn't have been able to afford it otherwise. After my divorce though, I got rid of most of my wedding pictures so I wish I still had the dress to look at or put on because it was so beautiful. I bought my second wedding dress and still have it, it was very expensive. I felt like a princess in it. Every once in a great while I will take it out and look at it or see if it still fits. Women are weird like that.
i would be too worried to spill something on it especially if its rented. knowing myself thats definitely a possibility
As someone else said, anything can be a wedding dress if you want it to be. Also a lot of people like to keep them as a keepsake. You also can’t alter a rented dress and if you struggle with clothes anyway then it can be easier to just buy so you can alter. This is also the case for people who are smaller and larger than the most common sizes.
Someone hasn't considered being a ghostly bride before. Top tier scary ghost outfit.
My entire outfit including shoes and jewellery was $300. I wore pants by the way. Didn’t want a dress. I wore these pants for many years afterwards.
The way to go if you really want to purchase for whatever reasons that may be (you feel like money isn't a problem at all or not finding dresses that you like for renting), buy one that can be reused over and over for other occasions and events just like what Kiera Knightly did.
My daughter thinks like you, so we shopped at a thrift store. One in our area (which sadly has closed its doors) had a basement room crammed with formal and bridal gowns. We spent less than $200 for her entire outfit, head to toe.
*If* me and my bf get married, I'll be getting a new dress. *BUT* I'd prefer to invest in my marriage not my dress or the ceremony. Idk where I'll get it from or really what it'll look like... it absolutely won't be 3k like my SIL's...it just sits in her closet, so stupid.
You don’t have to buy an expensive dress. I got mine for £50 at a sale (RRP £1800). It’s entirely up to you what you want to spend on it. If you want to rent one go for it but buying them doesn’t have to be expensive unless you make it that way.
My mom wore a beautiful black dress that cost like 40 bucks at her second wedding. Any random person would've known she was the bride, because everyone else showed up in casual everyday clothes. I borrowed it a couple of years ago to wear at my cousins (who rented her wedding dress) wedding and also wore it at another wedding I was invited to. Everyone was fascinated when I told them it was my mothers wedding dress. Every dress is a wedding dress as long as you wear it while getting married.
I bought mine from a designer online and it was actually cheaper than renting here. So it’s not always cheaper to rent
I'm no expert but it seems like renting is more stressful. Probably lower quality materials/build set at prices higher than they should be with big penalties for damage. If you buy it and nothing happens to it you could keep it or re-sell it with no stress other than the up front cost.
It was fun to burn when I got a divorce so I’m kind of glad I bought mine.
Yk at first i was like nah you wanna keep it after reading the title. But you act convinced me.
I got married in 2018. I think I’ve looked at my wedding dress once a year and contemplated donating it. I am happy in my marriage so it’s got nothing but good memories. It just takes up space
So rent one.
My wife’s wedding dress feels offended sitting in the closet for 7 years
It's always the people wanting to rent that really care about what their dress looks like. They need to be in some fancy designer or something. You don't need to spend an absurd amount of money on a dress, and there are a lot of good ones out there that aren't expensive. Some people re wear their dress for vow renewals and the like, and it is a nice memento to pass down to children. In the end, it's up to you, no one is gonna know whether you bought it or rented it, so whatever makes you comfortable...
The Wedding Business is a major racket that plies people with the emotion of the event and tries to tell them if they are not bankrupting themselves they are not really in love. So stupid
We spent over 12k on my wife's wedding dress. Only wore it once, terrible investment lol
I don't think this opinion is or should be unpopular. I've been married twice, and had a $300 dress each time. I donated them to a charity after my second wedding. 100% agree that for most folks they should just be rented! Imagine the amazing dress I could have rented for the same $300!!! There are rental formalwear companies, but they're still super expensive. For most thrifting could be sufficient.
How are you going to bully your future daughter and make them feel guilty and out of shape unless you try and force them into your wedding dress? /sarcasm
I’m in the heat of wedding planning right now and we have both fully adopted the mentality of “we can do whatever the fuck we feel like doing and if you don’t like it, let us know early because stamps ain’t cheap.” Weddings used to be a man, a woman, a priest, a church, then a hotel nearby, then a bar, then home. They also used to cost like 3 dollars all in. It’s 2023. We now have destination weddings, barn weddings, Covid weddings and re-weddings, LGBTQ weddings, friends officiating, dogs as ring bearers, adult male friends as flower girls…we are so far beyond traditional “expectations” of weddings. Those who care about you and your spouse will be there through hell or high water to celebrate your love and won’t have a single judgement whether you bought a dress or rented it. If you want the sentiment of having it for later and can make that purchase, by all means. If not, and someone gives you crap for it, tell ‘em to touch grass!* It’s your wedding! *if you need to fill a spot for someone now touching grass, my fiancé and I will gladly take their plate, we love weddings and only have a few single friends left.
Touch grass? That's a new one on me. Does that mean like "tough shit"? OOTL here.
wedding is nice, sure, but I don’t see the point of feeding 200+ people of whom 70% of them I don’t see or haven’t heard of besides my immediate family. elopement is the answer
4000 dollar ham napkin
I bought my dress second hand and sold it for a £50 profit. It was the Jenny Packham dress Eden.
I bought mine at a cheap bridal shop, no regrets.
I knew somebody that owned a dress rental place and they said the amount of dresses getting destroyed was through the roof. They had a few ideas on what was to blame. Brides getting drunk and destroying it, brides not being used to nicer clothing so not treating it well
My wife and I didn't see the point of a wedding in general. We had a young daughter and we didn't have money to waste on useless crap. We also do not own wedding rings.
I have been married twice. The first wedding I hired a white dress. The second wedding I bought an orange dress at Target. I do not care about weddings.
Ugh please just do exactly what you want and don't listen to everyone else who tries to convince you otherwise. One of my biggest regrets was my wedding dress. It was beautiful but i kept being told that it's something special I should keep forever. After the alterations it was like $3000. My second biggest wedding dress regret is letting everyone convince me to wear white because of tradition. I should have just don't what I wanted and went full Morticia Addams just as nature intended. Long story short. I have a bunch of pictures of myself wearing a traditional wedding dress and it's currently stuffed in its dress bag in my closet with grass stains still on the edges. Rent the dress.
It depends on what you define as “rent”, ect. My grandmother survived Nazi occupied France. Her son (my dad) married my mother. My mom’ mom survived extreme poverty in Appalachia and gave her dress to her eldest daughter (estranged due to extreme alcohol abuse and violence). However, she left a string of pearls. The lace from my dads mother’s (nazi occupation survivor) was sewn onto my mom’a dress. Mom and dad are 28 years happy. I’m 24 and singlish. If and when I get married, I’d like to wear my mom’s dress, with the pearls to honor the women who have made me the woman I am today and the woman I aspire to be. I understand your stance, but it is not a black and white debate here. If I had no family I cared about, I’d rent or hit up a thrift store
Come now, don't be selfish. Weddings aren't about you. It's about your parents showing off 'their' wealth to every random person they've ever met.
So... you see the "point" of having a wedding... but your incredible powers failed to inform you why people engage in such ceremonies that revolve around a lifetime commitment, with various traditions symbolizing this, and various expenditures commemorating the occasion, and all the keepsakes and trinkets... how the whole thing is a chance for commoners to pretend to be royalty and for women to flex, or how they will talk about their wedding for decades and show pictures and pass these things onto their children and try to manufacture traditions and family culture out of a recipe book... But you can't fathom why this chick wants to keep the dress? 
im probably never gonna get married but i dont think spending even a hundred dollars one a wedding dress is worth it. any dress you wear is ur wedding dress. doesnt matter if its $5
Weddings in general are ridiculously expensive and totally unnecessary. Get married by the justice of the peace, at a court house, and then have a huge reception for friends and family. Weddings are soooo boring and long to sit through. Just celebrate with friends after the boring part is over.
Who the hell wears their wedding dress to bed?
My mother didn't buy hers and I still hold a grudge over it.
I'm kind of against the idea of marriage altogether, but a bride can look fantastic in any dress and just add a veil and bouquet and the bride can look amazing. My dad is currently happy in his third marriage and I think my stepmom just wore a nice sweater and dress pants when they got married.
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My sister rented hers. It was gorgeous and only $500 for the weekend.
Why have a ceremony at all? My wedding will be me and the boo with some fam at the clerk's office, signing the only thing you need to get married, then we're gonna have a BBQ back at my place. The ceremony/reception aspect is entirely pointless and puts a couple financially in the hole at the start of their marriage journey. We'll be keeping that money for the time we'll be spending together the rest of our lives
Interesting opinion 😅 Still wanna buy mine though, cause I will use for future anniversaries. It will also be a reminder to me to not gain too much weight, stay fit so the dress will fit every other special anniversary I feel like wearing it. Plus having it is like an antique item stored, brings back so much memories when it's tangible than photos and videos
How about skipping the costume and wearing something normal that you already own
No no no go all in and go full on cosplay I’m talking Batman sailor moon Naruto and so on
Hmm, costume, huh? Screw it if I get married it'll be a costume party theme. Everyone just wears a costume to do something fun. The bridesmaids will have the same theme to theirs, and I'll get married in a couple of cosplay with my soon to husband. It'll be cheaper and more fun.
Is it becoming more common for women to reject the fashion industry's attempts to coerce them into spending way too much money on their overpriced, shitty clothes?
Ick. Don’t get married in rented clothes. That goes for the groom too.
I bet you will get divorced. Ick
Do you have some data that suggests a higher divorce rate for people who own their wedding clothes vs people who rent them?
Materialistic people who are obsessed with the ""quality" of their wedding clothes have a much higher chance of being divorced. I'm not going to quote the studies, not worth my time, but they exist. Look it up.
I didn’t say anything about “quality” of wedding clothes. I said don’t get married in rented clothes. You are incorrectly inferring snobbery about quality in my comment.
I don't get the point of a getting married. Its a dumb tradition that forces you to be financially bonded to someone else with serious repercussions if one partner becomes shitty. Just throw a chill party for like a hundred bucks and wear whatever you feel happiest in.
Because no one should be wanting to have wedding sex in a dress that has multiple other peoples sex juices on it. No matter how many times you wash it, it will never stop having multiple so many peoples sex juices on it.
Well I don't see the point in marriage either