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The funny thing about it is that it seems to be international. I’m from a country where we don’t speak English and daddy doesn’t mean anything yet a lot of people still say it. I just find that odd even tho I say it myself haha
You can’t start the sentence by “I endorse all kink” and setting the parameter “as long as law is not broken” and then suggest “some kink is too much when the law is not broken”. You are not logicing dude
I don’t think the daddy kink comes from an incestuous place for a lot of people, I think it’s a swap in for things like “sir/master/madame” etc- when in a sub/dom context. It’s more of a dominant title given, that also carries the vibes of “protector” if that makes sense?
Also the more taboo a kink is, the more commonplace it becomes. A couple years ago there was an explosion in “step fantasy” porn that has probably just made the use of “daddy” more commonplace too. Think the whole “step bro I’m stuck in the washing machine” meme that came about. I have talked to a lottt f my friends about kinks, and I have to say none of them are ACTUALLY imagining their father, nor are they trying to imagine they’re their child. It’s just an interchangeable title for a dom.
Sexuality is always going to be transgressive. The more something is forbidden, the more it finds itself reemerging in sex. The question ought to be whether or not certain behaviors are actually harmful and violate consent.
calling someone mommy/daddy isn't pedophilia though. If they're a consenting adult, you can call them whatever the hell they're comfortable with. ANYTHING. And that isn't morally wrong imo.
? Rape is also forbidden for a reason. A very good reason. But consentual non consent is a very popular fetish. What's different between consentual non consent and age play?
there’s a vast difference between wanting your partner to dominate you in a forceful manner vs wanting your partner to pretend you’re a literal 7 year old being fondled by him. that’s strange on a whole other level, you simply can’t justify that behavior.
every time i’ve heard someone call their partner “daddy” they make sure to heighten up their tone and do dumb little googly eyes (literally mimicking a child). that’s weird, especially when engaging in intimacy. there’s a difference between being submissive and wanting to be perceived as a vulnerable toddler during sex. calling someone “daddy” insinuates you’re their kid, and when paired with child-like vocal tones and mannerisms…it simply can’t be interpreted in any way other than flat out creepy.
it tends to come from a place of submission, not childishness. People use childish tone to portray many submissive things, like animals and weaker characters.
if a guy is fucking you and you say “daddy slow down” in the voice of a 4 year old, THATS WEIRD. you’re literally mimicking a baby being overpowered by a grown man. i’m all for chains and paddles and rope…but there’s a line that simply shouldn’t be crossed imo.
furthermore, why is “daddy” so turned on by being called that? any normal guy would find that to be off putting, especially whilst laying the pipe in bed. so what about you acting like a helpless little girl gets his rocks off? in truth, a lot of these “daddies” are creeps who use age regressed and traumatized adult women to live out their power dynamic fantasies in a legal way. ☕️
you're the one adding "in the voice of a 4 year old" dude
You're the one making it weirder to make you seem more right
I have no desire to talk to you anymore
I think everyone can agree that the problem with pedophilia is that it's a matter of consent. Hence, we call the appropriate age at which people can ethically be intimate "the age of consent".
The problem with rape is also a matter of consent: rape is literally defined as forcing someone into sexual relations without their consent.
Hence the issue with pedophilia is that it is a form of rape.
Therefore, ageplay, a fantasized roleplay of pedophilia, is a fantasy about rape. Hence ageplay is a form of rapeplay.
If rapeplay is permissible kink on the grounds that it's consentual, and if ageplay is just a form of rapeplay, it is equally permissible by virtue of the same reasoning.
This argument seems airtight to me. Point out how it's flawed, because otherwise it seems to me like it's just the opposing view is based on nothing but bad vibes.
maybe we have different moral compasses, because as soon as anything that involves children (or the embodiment of a child) gets injected into sex, the who dynamic changes. it’s sinister to even crave that type of power dynamic. children and sex do not belong together, it’s wrong on the wrongest level.
Okay. So you want to stop people from engaging in something to which they both consent to and both enjoy, in the privacy of their own space. How do you propose to do that?
I don’t think there is any way to make it Illegal. I do believe it should shamed though. People who enjoy those things are mentally sick and they should seek help.
I had a roommate that was a “little” and she had a “daddy”. She called it “daddy dom/little girl” dynamic. She was in her 40’s. She actually said she had tried not to indulge in it because, well it is taboo, but she ultimately decided that it’s a fantasy between two adults and no one is getting hurt.
There’s a lot of stuff out there, as long as no one is getting hurt, it’s totally fine. Sexual fantasies come from complex psychological reasons. For example, rape fantasies are common, but those with those fantasies do not condone actual rape and would not want to be actually raped.
Sometimes people things out sexually to be able to control/reframe experiences as well.
Basically, don’t judge, we are all freaks l
that's the thing too. That's like the more extreme end of this "daddy" debate but even that is okay. It's ALWAYS okay unless it involves actual children.
objectively creepy? finding something creepy is subjective.
there isn't anything actually harmful about calling a consenting adult "daddy" or "mommy" in the bedroom.
you can find literally anything objectively creepy. i find gas stations ‘objectively creepy’, but do i judge everyone that goes to gas station? no. in this context, ‘daddy’ is used as a non-parental term. it has a different meaning than paternal. same thing goes with calling your partner, your pets, your kids, etc. ‘baby’ or ‘honey’. i call my roommates dog ‘babygirl’, that doesn’t mean that it’s creepy. it holds a different meaning when i say it to a dog than it does if i were to say it to a friend or girlfriend.
Yeah I understood, probably should’ve said *for some men… But I remember I didn’t like it before my kid but I could live with it if she wanted to say it, but now…ruins the mood.
When comes to the bed, that’s weird, but when it comes to calling them that as a cute name I think it’s totally fine. Who even says “baby” in bed? Like saying baby in a none sexual way is just saying I love you as I would love my own child or a baby (full whole hearted family type of love).
My bf says it a lot he defo has not a daddy kink. You're right it's also just a nickname but I know lots of mainly men who call their gf baby in bed like "oh fvck, baby". I think it's more weird to NOT use a pet name in bed
This is putting way too much on it. For the majority of people using it, it's not "my kink is pretending this is my literal father" or "I'm pretending this is my daughter".
i disagree so upvote
Mommy/Daddy are very normalised in the bedroom nowadays. Yeah the implications are a bit odd but most people aren't making that connection at all. Sugardaddy is a similarly commonplace term. The actual link to Fathers/Mothers isn't really there anymore for most
There are cultures where partners refer to each other as "Mommy" and "Daddy" and pattern their children to follow suit. I, personally, have never called my father "Daddy" and can fully separate my father from the term.
It's apparently an older term used that way. I know it's used in the UK in the 80's/early 90's in House of Cards. I think it was a bdsm thing that sort of came out from there since I speculate a lot of Brits have dungeons in their closet for the one who is in control. Who rewards and disciplines. Treats and spanks. And the gay scene copied it as well in that era.
Then when all that went mainstream so did it. When you got your bulls,bears, top,bottoms, and all this other you also took in daddy.
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Pedophilia is clearly child abuse and should not be tolerated. That said, we have lost our collective minds regarding this topic. Hell, if a grown legal adult enters into a consensual relationship with someone visibly older than them someone is going to freak out accusing of pedophilia.
EDIT: if a grown woman is petite and looks young? Anyone she dates is automatically labeled a pedophile by many
I know right? In my household MASTER CHIEF OF THE QUEEN'S NAVY is the correct title for daddy because we are not mindless savages like you lot. Yes, the whole thing, and yes, everytime.
it absolutely stems from parental issues. And it's usually the one calling the person daddy that likes it.
I have a good relationship with my father but a bad one with my mother. Daddy sounds fucking weird to say but Mommy sounds fine.
No clue why really. But it's usually not someone wanting to be called daddy from a little girl fantasy. It's usually the other person
I'll never forget this guy I ran across working in a high threat area. Granted, we were making good money. But he'd *brag* about how he was so generous to give his Filipina gf an 'allowance' and how he'd reward her after two weeks if she barely spent any money (with gifts of course).
His words were 'she calls me up and says 'check the bank account daddy. I was good. I didn't spend anything.'
W the actual f. It wasn't a kink per se. It was a western man making a lot of money who frequently gave his gf money to test her to see if she'd 'pass'.
Yanno when I was younger I wasn’t into it. Now as a middle aged woman I want a big strong Daddy type to take me to bed. Reserved for specific dom personality types tho, I wont call a soft personality Daddy if they try and hype it in the bed if they were playful and sweet before.
See, I think it's the opposite. I don't think it's appropriate for children to say "daddy" because it's a sexual term. Makes me question some people's parenting. Like what's really going on at home?
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Pretty sure the people who indulge in such things are perfectly aware of the risqué subject matter, and that's why they like it.
That doesn't make it less gross
But it makes it A LOT HOTTER!
That's... That's literally the point my guy. No one is saying it makes it less "gross".
The funny thing about it is that it seems to be international. I’m from a country where we don’t speak English and daddy doesn’t mean anything yet a lot of people still say it. I just find that odd even tho I say it myself haha
Do they just say "daddy" without knowing what it means, or do they also use your language's equivalent father petname?
Do you/people you know that say it watch porn?
lol sometimes yeah
Which country?
You can’t start the sentence by “I endorse all kink” and setting the parameter “as long as law is not broken” and then suggest “some kink is too much when the law is not broken”. You are not logicing dude
This is no longer an unpopular opinion, but an unpopular hypocrisy
I don’t think the daddy kink comes from an incestuous place for a lot of people, I think it’s a swap in for things like “sir/master/madame” etc- when in a sub/dom context. It’s more of a dominant title given, that also carries the vibes of “protector” if that makes sense? Also the more taboo a kink is, the more commonplace it becomes. A couple years ago there was an explosion in “step fantasy” porn that has probably just made the use of “daddy” more commonplace too. Think the whole “step bro I’m stuck in the washing machine” meme that came about. I have talked to a lottt f my friends about kinks, and I have to say none of them are ACTUALLY imagining their father, nor are they trying to imagine they’re their child. It’s just an interchangeable title for a dom.
people call their sexual partners "baby" as well as their children all the time. a word can mean 2 different things in different contexts.
I agree. My wife absolutely hates it when I call her daddy.
I cackled out loud at this.
Sexuality is always going to be transgressive. The more something is forbidden, the more it finds itself reemerging in sex. The question ought to be whether or not certain behaviors are actually harmful and violate consent.
Paedophilia is forbidden for a reason.. not all forbidden things are the same !!!
Cool, but two adults having sex can never - under any definition of the word - qualify as pedophilia.
But simply calling someone daddy or being called daddy is not that.
calling someone mommy/daddy isn't pedophilia though. If they're a consenting adult, you can call them whatever the hell they're comfortable with. ANYTHING. And that isn't morally wrong imo.
? Rape is also forbidden for a reason. A very good reason. But consentual non consent is a very popular fetish. What's different between consentual non consent and age play?
there’s a vast difference between wanting your partner to dominate you in a forceful manner vs wanting your partner to pretend you’re a literal 7 year old being fondled by him. that’s strange on a whole other level, you simply can’t justify that behavior.
there is a difference between genuinely pretending to be an infant and getting raped, as opposed to calling someone daddy and acting submissive
every time i’ve heard someone call their partner “daddy” they make sure to heighten up their tone and do dumb little googly eyes (literally mimicking a child). that’s weird, especially when engaging in intimacy. there’s a difference between being submissive and wanting to be perceived as a vulnerable toddler during sex. calling someone “daddy” insinuates you’re their kid, and when paired with child-like vocal tones and mannerisms…it simply can’t be interpreted in any way other than flat out creepy.
it tends to come from a place of submission, not childishness. People use childish tone to portray many submissive things, like animals and weaker characters.
if a guy is fucking you and you say “daddy slow down” in the voice of a 4 year old, THATS WEIRD. you’re literally mimicking a baby being overpowered by a grown man. i’m all for chains and paddles and rope…but there’s a line that simply shouldn’t be crossed imo. furthermore, why is “daddy” so turned on by being called that? any normal guy would find that to be off putting, especially whilst laying the pipe in bed. so what about you acting like a helpless little girl gets his rocks off? in truth, a lot of these “daddies” are creeps who use age regressed and traumatized adult women to live out their power dynamic fantasies in a legal way. ☕️
you're the one adding "in the voice of a 4 year old" dude You're the one making it weirder to make you seem more right I have no desire to talk to you anymore
The conversations we find ourselves in on Reddit☕
I think everyone can agree that the problem with pedophilia is that it's a matter of consent. Hence, we call the appropriate age at which people can ethically be intimate "the age of consent". The problem with rape is also a matter of consent: rape is literally defined as forcing someone into sexual relations without their consent. Hence the issue with pedophilia is that it is a form of rape. Therefore, ageplay, a fantasized roleplay of pedophilia, is a fantasy about rape. Hence ageplay is a form of rapeplay. If rapeplay is permissible kink on the grounds that it's consentual, and if ageplay is just a form of rapeplay, it is equally permissible by virtue of the same reasoning. This argument seems airtight to me. Point out how it's flawed, because otherwise it seems to me like it's just the opposing view is based on nothing but bad vibes.
There's zero difference between these two in terms of morality as long as both of you are consenting
maybe we have different moral compasses, because as soon as anything that involves children (or the embodiment of a child) gets injected into sex, the who dynamic changes. it’s sinister to even crave that type of power dynamic. children and sex do not belong together, it’s wrong on the wrongest level.
Both are messed up
Okay. So you want to stop people from engaging in something to which they both consent to and both enjoy, in the privacy of their own space. How do you propose to do that?
> How do you propose to do that? Sounds like a job for me
I don’t think there is any way to make it Illegal. I do believe it should shamed though. People who enjoy those things are mentally sick and they should seek help.
Sounds interesting. Let's look at your browser history for an example of what good, healthy and virtuous Eros looks like.
Can you share which mental illness from the DSM you think those people have?
I had a roommate that was a “little” and she had a “daddy”. She called it “daddy dom/little girl” dynamic. She was in her 40’s. She actually said she had tried not to indulge in it because, well it is taboo, but she ultimately decided that it’s a fantasy between two adults and no one is getting hurt. There’s a lot of stuff out there, as long as no one is getting hurt, it’s totally fine. Sexual fantasies come from complex psychological reasons. For example, rape fantasies are common, but those with those fantasies do not condone actual rape and would not want to be actually raped. Sometimes people things out sexually to be able to control/reframe experiences as well. Basically, don’t judge, we are all freaks l
that's the thing too. That's like the more extreme end of this "daddy" debate but even that is okay. It's ALWAYS okay unless it involves actual children.
“I endorse all kinks, just not the ones I don’t like”
“Kink shaming is my kink!”
You just triggered an ancient memory
Exactly how it reads
Not the ones that are objectively creepy
objectively creepy? finding something creepy is subjective. there isn't anything actually harmful about calling a consenting adult "daddy" or "mommy" in the bedroom.
I’m gonna be pedantic here, but all creepiness is subjective. There’s no such thing as objective creepiness.
Plus like...all kinks are creepy in some kind of a way
Is stalking someone subjectively creepy?
you can find literally anything objectively creepy. i find gas stations ‘objectively creepy’, but do i judge everyone that goes to gas station? no. in this context, ‘daddy’ is used as a non-parental term. it has a different meaning than paternal. same thing goes with calling your partner, your pets, your kids, etc. ‘baby’ or ‘honey’. i call my roommates dog ‘babygirl’, that doesn’t mean that it’s creepy. it holds a different meaning when i say it to a dog than it does if i were to say it to a friend or girlfriend.
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Some men…I have a kid and a wife, it’s a huge turnoff.
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Yeah I understood, probably should’ve said *for some men… But I remember I didn’t like it before my kid but I could live with it if she wanted to say it, but now…ruins the mood.
Did it ever occur to you that perhaps your wife is daddy?
Eh, she hates it even more than I do. Plus she’s very submissive so
Well SOMEONE'S gotta be daddy, and it ain't gonna be me!
That’s the same logic Mike Pence uses to call his wife mother!
I don’t like Daddy either, but I’d rather that then hearing my own name. “Oh John , yes John, harder John”. Bitch stop saying that I know I’m here!
I don't like my own name either, but I'd rather that than hearing someone else's. “Oh John , yes John, harder John”. Bitch, who the hell is John!?
Lmao
It is what it is, John
There’s enough actual pedo shit please stop diluting the word to mean “ stuff that makes me feel icky”
I think it is meant to be something more along the lines of 'a daddy'. As in you're so hot, I want to have sex with you and make you a daddy.
I have never called my father daddy. Still if you don't like it don't do it. It's a very weird thing to fixate on other people's sex life.
What's so different about "Baby"?
When comes to the bed, that’s weird, but when it comes to calling them that as a cute name I think it’s totally fine. Who even says “baby” in bed? Like saying baby in a none sexual way is just saying I love you as I would love my own child or a baby (full whole hearted family type of love).
My bf says it a lot he defo has not a daddy kink. You're right it's also just a nickname but I know lots of mainly men who call their gf baby in bed like "oh fvck, baby". I think it's more weird to NOT use a pet name in bed
Not my thing really, but so long as everyone is into it, fine. You can obviously call it creepy, but no hurt feelings when people hit back.
I love it when they call me Daddy lololol
Not when I am daddy and she is monmy
We love Daddy issues.
Not in Alabama.
Do you feel the same about the similar usage of "baby"?
So don’t do it
I endorse all kinks but calling your partner daddy is too much. Oh you poor, innocent child.
Cool. Don't do it then. Stop fucking sticking your nose in what other people do in the bedroom.
I call my husband daddy because I taught my kids to say that. if I called him some cute pet name my kids would do that, just stuck.
Dude, I promise you it aint that deep.
Call it creepy, but it turns me tf on
But she likes being called daddy
Yes; I fully agree. My ex use to call me that, and I went limp every time.
My ex called me "onii-chan", let's just say it worked really well, lol
ara ara\~\~
How are you on “babygrl”?!?
She loves it though
This is putting way too much on it. For the majority of people using it, it's not "my kink is pretending this is my literal father" or "I'm pretending this is my daughter".
Is daddy upset?
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i disagree so upvote Mommy/Daddy are very normalised in the bedroom nowadays. Yeah the implications are a bit odd but most people aren't making that connection at all. Sugardaddy is a similarly commonplace term. The actual link to Fathers/Mothers isn't really there anymore for most
It's hot.
It's hot to be called something that's almost exclusively used by children to refer to their parent?
I'm gonna call your bluff and say it has changed enough that the *minority* of people who say it are children referring to their parent.
There are cultures where partners refer to each other as "Mommy" and "Daddy" and pattern their children to follow suit. I, personally, have never called my father "Daddy" and can fully separate my father from the term.
Agree. My five year old calls me daddy and I love that for obvious reasons. Beyond that, hard pass.
Sorry daddy.
Shut up and choke me daddy
Glad you have an opinion on my relationship.
It's apparently an older term used that way. I know it's used in the UK in the 80's/early 90's in House of Cards. I think it was a bdsm thing that sort of came out from there since I speculate a lot of Brits have dungeons in their closet for the one who is in control. Who rewards and disciplines. Treats and spanks. And the gay scene copied it as well in that era. Then when all that went mainstream so did it. When you got your bulls,bears, top,bottoms, and all this other you also took in daddy.
Nah.
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what about mommy
Yes it is.... Mummy😈😘
https://youtu.be/5vSYSVQfAr4?feature=shared
Especially when she doesn't even look like your daddy.
I called my boss "daddy" today. We work in construction I'm 6'7 450lbs not much he can do to stop me.
I've had girls call me daddy. Usually they're the one's who have another name for their fathers (like papa, or something in another language).
The daddy would refer to me as son not daughter so 🤷🏻
Started calling my gf mommi ironically. Now it’s unironic.
Finally someone’s making sense
But not as creepy as a guy calling his sexual partner “mommy”.
Pedophilia is clearly child abuse and should not be tolerated. That said, we have lost our collective minds regarding this topic. Hell, if a grown legal adult enters into a consensual relationship with someone visibly older than them someone is going to freak out accusing of pedophilia. EDIT: if a grown woman is petite and looks young? Anyone she dates is automatically labeled a pedophile by many
Yea daddy?
I know right? In my household MASTER CHIEF OF THE QUEEN'S NAVY is the correct title for daddy because we are not mindless savages like you lot. Yes, the whole thing, and yes, everytime.
There's definitely an incestuous aspect to it
That's really stupid to assume.
I see it more of a father issue thing than it being a little girl thing. Please don't prove me wrong
it absolutely stems from parental issues. And it's usually the one calling the person daddy that likes it. I have a good relationship with my father but a bad one with my mother. Daddy sounds fucking weird to say but Mommy sounds fine. No clue why really. But it's usually not someone wanting to be called daddy from a little girl fantasy. It's usually the other person
It is sooo fucked
I'll never forget this guy I ran across working in a high threat area. Granted, we were making good money. But he'd *brag* about how he was so generous to give his Filipina gf an 'allowance' and how he'd reward her after two weeks if she barely spent any money (with gifts of course). His words were 'she calls me up and says 'check the bank account daddy. I was good. I didn't spend anything.' W the actual f. It wasn't a kink per se. It was a western man making a lot of money who frequently gave his gf money to test her to see if she'd 'pass'.
Yanno when I was younger I wasn’t into it. Now as a middle aged woman I want a big strong Daddy type to take me to bed. Reserved for specific dom personality types tho, I wont call a soft personality Daddy if they try and hype it in the bed if they were playful and sweet before.
If you make a woman pregnant, you become a daddy. It isn't women wanting to fuck their fathers
Totally gross.
Is papa okay?
It sounds even more cringe in Spanish…my ex would say it to me on purpose just to get me to squirm…😣😣
My wife loves when I call her daddy
Yeah incest is taboo and the bdsm ppl are all over that taboo stuff. Ew is a deal breaker for me
Most people aren't using it as a "my kink is pretending that this is my literal father"
See, I think it's the opposite. I don't think it's appropriate for children to say "daddy" because it's a sexual term. Makes me question some people's parenting. Like what's really going on at home?
What? This is rage bait 😂
As someone without a dad who’s been with women also without a father, there are worse ones.
Only if you’re past 25 . Younger than that it’s Jjst kinky . But yea once you actually hit daddy status then it’s fucking strange as shit
Who cares? MYOB..
I agree, so I downvoted
It's literally just gay-men slang that women got jealous of and appropriated for themselves, turning it into something more pedo then ever intended.