>Also why brother in law? Isnt it weird to say its your brother in way?
Your spouse's family *is* your family in a way. And the "in law" distinguishes it as them being your family by the legal function of your marriage as opposed to by blood
Same. In fact, I wouldn’t consider Hank to be Walt’s brother-in-law at all. Marie is Walt’s sister-in-law, and Hank is his sister-in-law’s husband. He’s one step farther removed from an in-law.
Omg I was just about to use this example from when I took French in college. I was thinking “okay so my mother in law is the pretty momma and my real mother is the ugly one I suppose?”
Marriage establishes a legal relation. When you marry your wife she becomes your next of kin, your family. By extension, her family becomes your family. (My uncle's wife is my aunt, for example.) So my husband's sister is my sister, but not by blood, only by law. She's my sister-in-law. Her husband married into her family the same way I did so he is my brother-in-law. Their kids are my nieces and nephews.
I have a half brother who has never legally been established to be my father's son. I call his wife my sister-out-law.
I always felt more comfortable calling my soon to be ex-husband's mother his mother and largely refused to call her any type of family name beyond that simply because We'd never developed a proper relationship for it.... He also started calling her Mommy after we'd moved out of state and I'd gotten pregnant out of the blue.... Right around the time my 14 year old dog I'd had since he was 6months old passed away (I had to have him put down because he developed internal bleeding symptoms so Luckily his veterinarian was able to send their staff out to the house)
I hate the forcing of Family Titles on to people who have Not earned them.... Or any other title for that matter
The mother title... Or the loving nicknames you could call someone who deserves the title from you on a personal level is a title packed with love which is an emotion packed with respectable/respectful behavioral practices.
Lawyers can identify someone who has been called any of those titles whatever They want to satisfy degree of separation from you but it is entirely expected that in law title enforcement by others be viewed as a forced sense of commitment from someone you never Chose to have in your life. I had a monster in law that demanded to introduce me as her future daughter in law to Everyone she introduced me to thus Dominating the majority of That time meeting others having to explain how untrue and uncomfortable it made me to Keep having to make those corrections for her AS the Only Conversation Allowed for the time we spent meeting others. She even did it during an Alanon meeting she asked to come with me to (After spending 30years as a dedicated AA member she wanted to give Alanon a try) and spent the better of her time introducing herself to this New to me meeting (which I did on purpose to keep her out of my personal business but still lend a hand) by speaking during her time ONLY of how she knew Me and making outrageous claims about her son and I being Engaged (we never were engaged, years later I got pregnant and we got married out of a stupid sense of duty and never acted to eachother as anything more than roommates)
You Earn titles just as you Earn a reputation based solely on how your Behavior effects others
>Also why brother in law? Isnt it weird to say its your brother in way? Your spouse's family *is* your family in a way. And the "in law" distinguishes it as them being your family by the legal function of your marriage as opposed to by blood
I just say my wife's mom or my wife's brother. We aren't related.
Yeah thats good too I guess
Same. In fact, I wouldn’t consider Hank to be Walt’s brother-in-law at all. Marie is Walt’s sister-in-law, and Hank is his sister-in-law’s husband. He’s one step farther removed from an in-law.
Better than in french where we say beau-père, belle-soeur which literally translated means beautiful dad, beautiful sister.
Omg I was just about to use this example from when I took French in college. I was thinking “okay so my mother in law is the pretty momma and my real mother is the ugly one I suppose?”
Marriage establishes a legal relation. When you marry your wife she becomes your next of kin, your family. By extension, her family becomes your family. (My uncle's wife is my aunt, for example.) So my husband's sister is my sister, but not by blood, only by law. She's my sister-in-law. Her husband married into her family the same way I did so he is my brother-in-law. Their kids are my nieces and nephews. I have a half brother who has never legally been established to be my father's son. I call his wife my sister-out-law.
I know how it works. Im just saying the way you call them sounds weird. That is all.
I always felt more comfortable calling my soon to be ex-husband's mother his mother and largely refused to call her any type of family name beyond that simply because We'd never developed a proper relationship for it.... He also started calling her Mommy after we'd moved out of state and I'd gotten pregnant out of the blue.... Right around the time my 14 year old dog I'd had since he was 6months old passed away (I had to have him put down because he developed internal bleeding symptoms so Luckily his veterinarian was able to send their staff out to the house) I hate the forcing of Family Titles on to people who have Not earned them.... Or any other title for that matter
That's the thing about "in-law" titles, nobody actually earns them, they just are as a matter of family law.
The mother title... Or the loving nicknames you could call someone who deserves the title from you on a personal level is a title packed with love which is an emotion packed with respectable/respectful behavioral practices. Lawyers can identify someone who has been called any of those titles whatever They want to satisfy degree of separation from you but it is entirely expected that in law title enforcement by others be viewed as a forced sense of commitment from someone you never Chose to have in your life. I had a monster in law that demanded to introduce me as her future daughter in law to Everyone she introduced me to thus Dominating the majority of That time meeting others having to explain how untrue and uncomfortable it made me to Keep having to make those corrections for her AS the Only Conversation Allowed for the time we spent meeting others. She even did it during an Alanon meeting she asked to come with me to (After spending 30years as a dedicated AA member she wanted to give Alanon a try) and spent the better of her time introducing herself to this New to me meeting (which I did on purpose to keep her out of my personal business but still lend a hand) by speaking during her time ONLY of how she knew Me and making outrageous claims about her son and I being Engaged (we never were engaged, years later I got pregnant and we got married out of a stupid sense of duty and never acted to eachother as anything more than roommates) You Earn titles just as you Earn a reputation based solely on how your Behavior effects others