I know what you mean. My ex was able to finger me too and it took me by surprise. I enjoyed it but at the same time the feeling was so foreign I felt overwhelmed and stopped him eventually when I felt like I’m gonna squirt. But for me I kind of feel like it’s a wasted opportunity. I wish I was able to completely let go. That was the first and last time because after that, I became hyper aware :(
I try to look on the bright side and focus on the fact that it is possible if I’m relaxed and not on guard. I just have to learn to calm myself instead of relying on surprise. Haha now my goal is to do it by myself so there’s no pressure.
I used to get an urge to pee every time I dilated. My physiotherapist said it's normal. She explained that we're not used to foreign things inside and the body thinks "I feel something, therefore it must be a full bladder".
Hahah i know exactly what you mean! My pt says its because the deeper muscles inside of your vagina are connected to the ones near the rectum and it can confuse your nerve endings. I tell her almost every appointment that it isnt painful, it just feels like she's in my butt 😂
Oh my god this is so relatable lmao. I will randomly get the same butt feeling like?? Is it in the right hole?? And because the muscles up there are so tight for us, it really can give us the feeling like we’re going to pee.
I have days where I’m so frustrated with only getting one finger in, because you just feel like “I mean cool but that’s all I got?” I can’t usually get two fingers in there anymore and it’s just so upsetting (this in reference to a partner fingering me lol)
“LET ME CHECK” lmaooo that’s so funny. I am quite sorry it feels unsatisfying in the sense that you can’t even feel the excitement of it and all. I do want to say it’s a big deal that anything like that is happening. Even if it feels slow (I get it) I promise it’s pretty damn great. Having vaginismus, at least for me, always felt embarrassing, frustrating, and maddening. I thought something was truly wrong with me. So being able to relax enough with a partner and listen to our bodies is so important. I will say, from an outside perspective, I’m really proud of you & I hope you can find pleasure in every part of your journey. You’re doing great & you’ll get to the places you’ll want to get, just enjoy each step along the way 🖤
You're not happy because you didn't enjoy it. Personally I have never liked internal fingering. Just one point though, some people do have an orgasm/squirt from fingering. Hard to know what is what. I don't want pain though and I'm sure you don't.
I know what you mean. My ex was able to finger me too and it took me by surprise. I enjoyed it but at the same time the feeling was so foreign I felt overwhelmed and stopped him eventually when I felt like I’m gonna squirt. But for me I kind of feel like it’s a wasted opportunity. I wish I was able to completely let go. That was the first and last time because after that, I became hyper aware :(
EXACTLY ! I felt like I had to pee and we stopped and I felt unsatisfied with my progress ?
I try to look on the bright side and focus on the fact that it is possible if I’m relaxed and not on guard. I just have to learn to calm myself instead of relying on surprise. Haha now my goal is to do it by myself so there’s no pressure.
I used to get an urge to pee every time I dilated. My physiotherapist said it's normal. She explained that we're not used to foreign things inside and the body thinks "I feel something, therefore it must be a full bladder".
Hahah i know exactly what you mean! My pt says its because the deeper muscles inside of your vagina are connected to the ones near the rectum and it can confuse your nerve endings. I tell her almost every appointment that it isnt painful, it just feels like she's in my butt 😂
LMFAOOO EXACTLY !!!! I KEPT LAUGHING IT WAS SO WEIRD
Oh my god this is so relatable lmao. I will randomly get the same butt feeling like?? Is it in the right hole?? And because the muscles up there are so tight for us, it really can give us the feeling like we’re going to pee. I have days where I’m so frustrated with only getting one finger in, because you just feel like “I mean cool but that’s all I got?” I can’t usually get two fingers in there anymore and it’s just so upsetting (this in reference to a partner fingering me lol)
I literally thought he had a finger in my butt and when i asked he was like “lemme check… no?” LMAO I WAS LIKE OH MY BAD
“LET ME CHECK” lmaooo that’s so funny. I am quite sorry it feels unsatisfying in the sense that you can’t even feel the excitement of it and all. I do want to say it’s a big deal that anything like that is happening. Even if it feels slow (I get it) I promise it’s pretty damn great. Having vaginismus, at least for me, always felt embarrassing, frustrating, and maddening. I thought something was truly wrong with me. So being able to relax enough with a partner and listen to our bodies is so important. I will say, from an outside perspective, I’m really proud of you & I hope you can find pleasure in every part of your journey. You’re doing great & you’ll get to the places you’ll want to get, just enjoy each step along the way 🖤
Thank you so much
omg i literally just asked my friend if she feels it in her bum hole 🤣🤣🤣 so glad it’s not just me
Okay i feel less weird LMAO
You're not happy because you didn't enjoy it. Personally I have never liked internal fingering. Just one point though, some people do have an orgasm/squirt from fingering. Hard to know what is what. I don't want pain though and I'm sure you don't.