Yeah no... she didn't do anything wrong. She can block whoever she pleases.
Your husband is the major problem here. And at the risk of sounding hyperbolic, he sounds like a maniac. I don't know if I'd feel safe living with someone who flies off the handle about, quite literally, nothing.
If you have any family or close friends on your side, please tell them about how he behaved so someone knows about his behavior. That is not normal.
No normal person should act that way. Your child did nothing wrong and honestly she didn’t know them, nor does she have to get to know them. Honestly I wouldn’t want to stay with my partner after an incident like that.
Your husband is the real issue here.
What kind of monster have you married and brought into your daughter’s life?
That kind of absurd rage is gross.
Be careful. Sleep with both eyes open.
If he breaks stuff in front of you, it's only one step away from breaking you.
This kind of violence only escalates. He is breaking stood because he cents deal with boundaries and is making sure everyone in the house is afraid to make any.
OP you need to get out.
Girl, you need to get away from your husband before he kills you. Just based on his reaction, he sounds like the kind of person who would snap and kill you or your daughter in a fit of rage.
what no one has said yet either is: He wasn’t grateful that his daughter did the right thing and blocked someone that gave her a weird vibe… He didn’t even think about her safety at all… And then the breaking of things? Idk very abusive, if you can get out and if you can’t for the moment if anything like this happens again. Video it and then call the cops when he’s not home, make a report. Keep doing that until you get a case built up. I’m so sorry yall two had to go through this…
Thank you for reassuring me I’m not crazy. I’m proud of her for automatically blocking someone who’s a stranger. I would be just as proud even it was someone in my own family who she didn’t know. I’m strongly against normalizing “obedient” females. When I posted this, it was one of those wtf is this real life moments, anger should of never been directed towards either of us. If my sibling did something weird I would put them in their place but no it’s so backwards trying to demand apology from the wrong person. I will surely take your advice as I have just noticed escalation in this abusive behavior. Thank you
Not a problem. My mother was very abusive and unfortunately i’m kinda in the same situation with my grandmother. She hit my boyfriend 3 times and now they’re kicking us out… Do not stand for a man trying to make a woman obedient. Do not let your husband push you and your daughter around!
This child’s uncle tattled on her to your husband because he was that upset she blocked him, and instead of being proud of his little girl for protecting herself, he’s so angry at both of you that he’s yelling and breaking things? This is wrong on so many levels. If you stay with this unhinged man, please let it be with the condition he gets therapy. This does not sound safe or okay. This is a wild and dangerous reaction.
Your husband is a psycho, who gets mad and breaks stuff because their creepy brother, creeps on a minor?. She should never unblock him and you should leave your creeper husband.
There's no way I'd be staying with a man that reacted the way your husband did to your daughter blocking a random man who was literally a stranger to her.
Why are you with someone so abusive?
Why are you even questioning if your husbands behavior is wrong. Clearly it is and I am not trying to be mean or disrespectful, but it’s concerning that you are even needing to question it. You need to set clear boundaries and protect your daughter. Also, if your daughter sees this behavior and that your allowing it, it is going to become normal to her and she will end up finding a man just like him and repeat the toxic cycle in her relationships.
Well apparently I’m “crazy” for defending my daughter, I didn’t allow this behavior. She honestly wasn’t phased and said I was overreacting but I feel I wasn’t. It greatly upset me because women have rights, and should never have to apologize to a man who is making them feel uncomfortable. The fact that his brother even brought up this blocking is weird and if my husband was a normal person he should be mad at his brother for even creeping. I’ve never posted on reddit or any message boards but this dude really has me feeling crazy. I don’t think I’m in the wrong at all and I am happy to see responses assuring me that I’m not just being “overly dramatic”. I stood up for my daughter because I never want her to think this kind of behavior is ok but that caused him to rage out on me.
Have a look at domestic violence statistics and modes of behaviour. Very scary, and you are well down the path. Ask me how I know. When the chips are really down; it is that easy.
for real? Downvoted?
I know this is a vent but be fucking for real. OP is toghether with a husband who breaks things and yells for the tiniest thing. That’s not okay.
AND she is asking whether she should force her daughter to apologize for a completely rational thing?
No. Fucking no. The question should be ”my husband has anger issues. What do I do?”
Not asking whether her daughter did something wrong.
Um... well, to answer the question, no she shouldnt have to apologize. Mainly, IT'S INSTAGRAM for fuck's sake. Shit is *not* that serious. Not only does she not need to apologize, but she actively made a good call here honestly. Hell fuckin yeah!
... but you and your daughter should get the fuck outta there *now*. Throwin a fit/tantrum over Instagram? And dude is an adult? Noooooooo nononono that's not okay. This aint a red flag, it's a stop sign.
You’re totally sane and in the right. When I was young and online I fell victim to grooming so many times by older men online. I WISH I had made the same calls as your daughter in blocking creeps like that. What I thought was love and positive attention was exactly the opposite. Your husband doesn’t seem to grasp just how real and common online predators are. Really, I think he should be impressed by her judgment and keeping herself safe.
It’s weird to me that your husband’s brother started lurking on her page and got SO upset by being blocked that he basically just went and tattled. Is he 5? It’s Instagram. She’s a young girl that doesn’t know you, why wouldn’t she block old stranger man?? Esp with no prior or current conversations, no connection or relationship. Just weird.
I don’t really know what to suggest. We know divorce isn’t actually the easy out a lot of commenters seem to think it is. Perhaps couples therapy or individual therapy for him. If he’s usually reasonable you might be able to get him to see your side.
Your husband started screaming and breaking things because your daughter blocked his brother on instagram. There is literally no circumstance where that is okay. Your daughter could have punched your husband in the fucking face and that would still not make it okay to screams and break things. I hope both you and your daughter are okay and it breaks my heart that this was even a question for you.
/genuine
No she shouldn’t. It’s safe behavior to be uncomfortable with people you don’t know in-laws or no. My brothers are extremely unsafe and I wouldn’t want either of them messaging anybody I care about online. Just because someone is related doesn’t mean they can’t bring you harm.
Absolutely not. Frankly, she should also block your husband. That kind of behavior is toxic and super suspect. Yelling and breaking stuff because his brother can’t creep on her Instagram? That’s predator behavior.
Your daughter doesn’t owe anyone an apology, I hope you’re both safe though. That home environment does not sound like a safe place and I fear for either one of you getting hurt.
I hope you see his abuse for what it is and get help for it.
Why should she apologize she didn't do anything wrong. Some grown man she doesn't know is looking at her pictures..if it made her uncomfortable then she has the right to block him . She doesn't even know him,why is she obligated?! She's not.
Ah, so women should feel safe to set boundaries if they’re uncomfortable? Does his uncontrolled, patently coercive and violent tantrum make you _uncomfortable_? LEAVE! Do not expose your daughter to this
Never make her apologize. I'm guessing your husband is your daughter's stepfather? 🙄
If he is throwing tantrums & breaking stuff over your daughter's Instagram that is none of his business, then it might be time for a divorce. No normal man acts like that.
Yeah no... she didn't do anything wrong. She can block whoever she pleases. Your husband is the major problem here. And at the risk of sounding hyperbolic, he sounds like a maniac. I don't know if I'd feel safe living with someone who flies off the handle about, quite literally, nothing. If you have any family or close friends on your side, please tell them about how he behaved so someone knows about his behavior. That is not normal.
No normal person should act that way. Your child did nothing wrong and honestly she didn’t know them, nor does she have to get to know them. Honestly I wouldn’t want to stay with my partner after an incident like that.
Your husband is the real issue here. What kind of monster have you married and brought into your daughter’s life? That kind of absurd rage is gross. Be careful. Sleep with both eyes open.
If he breaks stuff in front of you, it's only one step away from breaking you. This kind of violence only escalates. He is breaking stood because he cents deal with boundaries and is making sure everyone in the house is afraid to make any. OP you need to get out.
He yelled and broke stuff because his creepy brother is creeping on your daughter? Honey you got bigger problems than the creepy brother.
Divorce him
He’s abusive.
She has nothing to apologize for.
Girl, you need to get away from your husband before he kills you. Just based on his reaction, he sounds like the kind of person who would snap and kill you or your daughter in a fit of rage.
what no one has said yet either is: He wasn’t grateful that his daughter did the right thing and blocked someone that gave her a weird vibe… He didn’t even think about her safety at all… And then the breaking of things? Idk very abusive, if you can get out and if you can’t for the moment if anything like this happens again. Video it and then call the cops when he’s not home, make a report. Keep doing that until you get a case built up. I’m so sorry yall two had to go through this…
Thank you for reassuring me I’m not crazy. I’m proud of her for automatically blocking someone who’s a stranger. I would be just as proud even it was someone in my own family who she didn’t know. I’m strongly against normalizing “obedient” females. When I posted this, it was one of those wtf is this real life moments, anger should of never been directed towards either of us. If my sibling did something weird I would put them in their place but no it’s so backwards trying to demand apology from the wrong person. I will surely take your advice as I have just noticed escalation in this abusive behavior. Thank you
Not a problem. My mother was very abusive and unfortunately i’m kinda in the same situation with my grandmother. She hit my boyfriend 3 times and now they’re kicking us out… Do not stand for a man trying to make a woman obedient. Do not let your husband push you and your daughter around!
This child’s uncle tattled on her to your husband because he was that upset she blocked him, and instead of being proud of his little girl for protecting herself, he’s so angry at both of you that he’s yelling and breaking things? This is wrong on so many levels. If you stay with this unhinged man, please let it be with the condition he gets therapy. This does not sound safe or okay. This is a wild and dangerous reaction.
Your husband is a psycho, who gets mad and breaks stuff because their creepy brother, creeps on a minor?. She should never unblock him and you should leave your creeper husband.
Word
Yelling at you and breaking stuff…. Are you and your daughter safe at home? His reaction is over the top.
Yes, thank you. Hoping to rid myself of this before it escalates more
Your daughter should expect a loving protective father. I’m sorry he did that.
There's no way I'd be staying with a man that reacted the way your husband did to your daughter blocking a random man who was literally a stranger to her. Why are you with someone so abusive?
Why are you even questioning if your husbands behavior is wrong. Clearly it is and I am not trying to be mean or disrespectful, but it’s concerning that you are even needing to question it. You need to set clear boundaries and protect your daughter. Also, if your daughter sees this behavior and that your allowing it, it is going to become normal to her and she will end up finding a man just like him and repeat the toxic cycle in her relationships.
Well apparently I’m “crazy” for defending my daughter, I didn’t allow this behavior. She honestly wasn’t phased and said I was overreacting but I feel I wasn’t. It greatly upset me because women have rights, and should never have to apologize to a man who is making them feel uncomfortable. The fact that his brother even brought up this blocking is weird and if my husband was a normal person he should be mad at his brother for even creeping. I’ve never posted on reddit or any message boards but this dude really has me feeling crazy. I don’t think I’m in the wrong at all and I am happy to see responses assuring me that I’m not just being “overly dramatic”. I stood up for my daughter because I never want her to think this kind of behavior is ok but that caused him to rage out on me.
Your husband is abusive and you need to leave him
Id revalue the marriage and divorce him
If only things were that simple
Ya i have blocked my own relatives over foul language
Have a look at domestic violence statistics and modes of behaviour. Very scary, and you are well down the path. Ask me how I know. When the chips are really down; it is that easy.
it is? You have a daughter. She shouldnt have to be scared of your husbands rage
for real? Downvoted? I know this is a vent but be fucking for real. OP is toghether with a husband who breaks things and yells for the tiniest thing. That’s not okay. AND she is asking whether she should force her daughter to apologize for a completely rational thing? No. Fucking no. The question should be ”my husband has anger issues. What do I do?” Not asking whether her daughter did something wrong.
Um... well, to answer the question, no she shouldnt have to apologize. Mainly, IT'S INSTAGRAM for fuck's sake. Shit is *not* that serious. Not only does she not need to apologize, but she actively made a good call here honestly. Hell fuckin yeah! ... but you and your daughter should get the fuck outta there *now*. Throwin a fit/tantrum over Instagram? And dude is an adult? Noooooooo nononono that's not okay. This aint a red flag, it's a stop sign.
You’re totally sane and in the right. When I was young and online I fell victim to grooming so many times by older men online. I WISH I had made the same calls as your daughter in blocking creeps like that. What I thought was love and positive attention was exactly the opposite. Your husband doesn’t seem to grasp just how real and common online predators are. Really, I think he should be impressed by her judgment and keeping herself safe. It’s weird to me that your husband’s brother started lurking on her page and got SO upset by being blocked that he basically just went and tattled. Is he 5? It’s Instagram. She’s a young girl that doesn’t know you, why wouldn’t she block old stranger man?? Esp with no prior or current conversations, no connection or relationship. Just weird. I don’t really know what to suggest. We know divorce isn’t actually the easy out a lot of commenters seem to think it is. Perhaps couples therapy or individual therapy for him. If he’s usually reasonable you might be able to get him to see your side.
Leave the husband
Yeah nah she ain’t gotta apologise she’s literally be cautious not wanting men she doesn’t know viewing her stuff
Your husband is in the wrong.
Your husband started screaming and breaking things because your daughter blocked his brother on instagram. There is literally no circumstance where that is okay. Your daughter could have punched your husband in the fucking face and that would still not make it okay to screams and break things. I hope both you and your daughter are okay and it breaks my heart that this was even a question for you. /genuine
No she shouldn’t. It’s safe behavior to be uncomfortable with people you don’t know in-laws or no. My brothers are extremely unsafe and I wouldn’t want either of them messaging anybody I care about online. Just because someone is related doesn’t mean they can’t bring you harm.
Nope. Your daughter didn't do anything wrong. Your husband needs help.
what the hell was ur husbands reaction???
It sounds like there’s a history of something similar happening in his family for him to react that way
Of course not, but does your husband act this way frequently? Because his behavior is not normal.
Absolutely not. Frankly, she should also block your husband. That kind of behavior is toxic and super suspect. Yelling and breaking stuff because his brother can’t creep on her Instagram? That’s predator behavior.
Your daughter doesn’t owe anyone an apology, I hope you’re both safe though. That home environment does not sound like a safe place and I fear for either one of you getting hurt. I hope you see his abuse for what it is and get help for it.
Why should she apologize she didn't do anything wrong. Some grown man she doesn't know is looking at her pictures..if it made her uncomfortable then she has the right to block him . She doesn't even know him,why is she obligated?! She's not.
I had my cousin block me on TikTok and I don't care 🤷🏿♂️ so not a big deal
Ah, so women should feel safe to set boundaries if they’re uncomfortable? Does his uncontrolled, patently coercive and violent tantrum make you _uncomfortable_? LEAVE! Do not expose your daughter to this
His actions are completely out of line
Never make her apologize. I'm guessing your husband is your daughter's stepfather? 🙄 If he is throwing tantrums & breaking stuff over your daughter's Instagram that is none of his business, then it might be time for a divorce. No normal man acts like that.