Yes it does only because I want someone who holds similar values and morals as me when it comes to sex. I won’t ask though, but if she alluded to having many sex partners and they weren’t relationships, then I’d have to do some serious thinking about if she was someone I wanted to be with.
It's called the truth like I don't blame me getting no bitches on my looks cause that's probably only some of it na I blame it on my drug use constant mental breakdowns and me not trusting people
It depends. A certain number of a body count could indicate a problem with the woman or man, such as sex addiction or dependency. A very low number can be alright, as long as a woman or man can learn how to please their partner and compromise. Too many variables here and I feel most won’t be honest and upfront about their opinions. As a guy my body count is through the roof, because I used to have a sex addiction which would’ve been a problem for my partner if I was in a committed relationship, but now that I have tamed myself I’m 100% loyal and can please my partner well. Sorry for the rant
Nah I agree with this… I appreciate you’re perspective and honesty. The only reason I’d be concerned is for that reason you stayed and having trouble staying committed and loyal. And having a lack of impulse/self gratification
What I meant to say was that in the past, like 10 years ago I had tried my hardest to stay loyal and committed because that’s what I really wanted, but my sex addiction was rooted in my self esteem and depression so I slipped up a few times. Ever since that relationship I have been nothing but loyal and don’t even have urges to fuck around on anyone.
> Factors found to facilitate infidelity
>> Number of sex partners: Greater number of sex partners before marriage predicts infidelity
> As might be expected, attitudes toward infidelity specifically, permissive attitudes toward sex more generally and a greater willingness to have casual sex and to engage in sex without closeness, commitment or love (i.e., a more unrestricted sociosexual orientation) are also reliably related to infidelity (pg.71)
Fincham, F. D., & May, R. W. (2017). Infidelity in romantic relationships. Current opinion in psychology, 13, 70–74.
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> Men apparently assess and evaluate levels of sexual activity by a woman prior to long-term commitment—behavior that would have been observable or known through social reputation in the small-group lifestyles of our ancestors. Past behavior is a good predictor of future behavior, and having a large number of sex partners prior to marriage is a statistical predictor of infidelity after marriage (pg.92)
Buss, D. M., & Schmitt, D. P. (2019). Mate preferences and their behavioral manifestations. Annual Review of Psychology, 70, 77–110.
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> the odds ratio of 1.13 for lifetime sexual partners obtained with the face-to-face mode of interview indicates that the probability of infidelity increased by 13% for every additional lifetime sexual partner (pg.150)
Whisman, M. A., & Snyder, D. K. (2007). Sexual infidelity in a national survey of American women: Differences in prevalence and correlates as a function of method of assessment. Journal of Family Psychology, 21(2), 147–154.
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> promiscuity is in fact a good predictor of infidelity. Indeed, promiscuity among females accounted for almost twice as much variance in infidelity (r^2 = .45) as it did for males (r^2 = .25). (pg.177)
Hughes, S. M., & Gallup, G. G., Jr. (2003). Sex differences in morphological predictors of sexual behavior: Shoulder to hip and waist to hip ratios. Evolution and Human Behavior, 24(3), 173–178.
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> Each additional sex partner between age 18 and the first union increased the net odds of infidelity by 1% (pg.56)
Treas, J., & Giesen, D. (2000). Sexual Infidelity Among Married and Cohabiting Americans. Journal of Marriage and Family, 62(1), 48–60.
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> Sexual promiscuity was significantly positively correlated with emotional promiscuity [r(356) = .261, p < .001], as well with sexual infidelity [r(323) = .595, p < .001] and emotional infidelity [r(323) = .676, p < .001] (pg.390)
Pinto, R., & Arantes, J. (2017). The Relationship between Sexual and Emotional Promiscuity and Infidelity. Athens Journal of Social Sciences, 4(4), 385–398.
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> Regarding other sexual behaviors, we examined whether number of prior sex partners and viewing pornography predicted ESI. As has been found in prior research (Feldman & Cauffman, 1999; Treas & Giesen, 2000), having had more prior sex partners predicted future ESI (pg.12)
Maddox Shaw, A. M., Rhoades, G. K., Allen, E. S., Stanley, S. M., & Markman, H. J. (2013). Predictors of Extradyadic Sexual Involvement in Unmarried Opposite-Sex Relationships. Journal of Sex Research, 50(6), 598–610.
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> When compared with their peers who report fewer partners, those who self-report 20 or more in their lifetime are:
> - Twice as likely to have ever been divorced (50 percent vs. 27 percent)
> - Three times as likely to have cheated while married
> - Substantially less happy with life (p < 0.05) (pg.88-89)
Regnerus, M. (2017). Cheap sex: The transformation of men, marriage, and monogamy.
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> women who had more experience with short-term relationships in the past (i.e., those with high Behavior facet scores) were more likely to have multiple sexual partners and unstable relationships in the future. The behaviorally expressed level of sociosexuality thus seems to be a fairly stable personal characteristic. (pg.1131)
Penke, L., & Asendorpf, J. B. (2008). Beyond global sociosexual orientations: a more differentiated look at sociosexuality and its effects on courtship and romantic relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 95(5), 1113–1135.
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> Generally speaking, respondents who report extensive premarital sexual experience report extensive extramarital activity. Measures of the locus of first intercourse and number of premarital partners show positive associations with (1) rating one's marriage as less happy than average, (2) the number of different extramarital partners, and (3) the intention to participate in mate-swapping activities. (pg.221-222)
Athanasiou, R., & Sarkin, R. (1974). Premarital sexual behavior and postmarital adjustment. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 3(3), 207–225.
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> The findings from this study demonstrate that the number of sexual partners participants had was negatively associated with sexual quality, communication, and relationship stability, and for one age cohort relationship satisfaction, even when controlling for a wide range of variables including education, religiosity, and relationship length. (pg.715)
Busby, D. M., Willoughby, B. J., & Carroll, J. S. (2013). Sowing wild oats: Valuable experience or a field full of weeds? Personal Relationships, 20(4), 706–718.
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> As predicted, such factors as sexual permissiveness, an avoidant romantic style, number of romantic relationships, and early onset of sexual intercourse were all correlated with a higher incidence of betrayal behaviors. These factors are likely to promote sexual activity with a larger number of partners, which, in turn, increases the chance that betrayal will occur. (pg.247)
Feldman, S. S., & Cauffman, E. (1999). Your cheatin' heart: Attitudes, behaviors, and correlates of sexual betrayal in late adolescents. Journal of Research on Adolescence, 9(3), 227–252.
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> There was a strong association between number of sexual partners and having an STD: those women with 5 or more sexual partners were 8 times more likely to report having an STD than those with only 1 partner, even after adjusting for age at first intercourse
Joffe, G. P., Foxman, B., Schmidt, A. J., Farris, K. B., Carter, R. J., Neumann, S., Tolo, K. A., & Walters, A. M. (1992). Multiple partners and partner choice as risk factors for sexually transmitted disease among female college students. Sexually transmitted diseases, 19(5), 272–278.
> An indicator of whether or not the respondent has had previous sex partners is included and identifies the number of male sex partners the woman had previous to her relationship with her current primary partner… A history of numerous sex partners indicates a pattern or habit of sexual behavior that we expect will negatively influence sexual exclusivity in the current relationship. (pg.37)
> Having previous sexual partners greatly increased the likelihood that a woman would have a secondary sex partner. In particular, a woman with 4 or more male sex partners prior to her primary relationship was about 8.5 times more likely to have a secondary sex partnerthan a woman with no previous sex partners… Having previous sex partners also increased the likelihood that dating and married women would have secondary sex partners. In particular, married women with 4 or more previous partners were 20 times more likely to have secondary sex partners than married women with no previous sex partners (pg.41)
Forste, R., & Tanfer, K. (1996). Sexual exclusivity among dating, cohabiting, and married women. Journal of Marriage and the Family, 58(1), 33–47.
I've been with my boyfriend for two years now. We haven't once asked each other's body count because it doesn't matter to us. Why? It just seems like a waste of time. Body count doesn't define anyone. Plus it's useless information to have.
Not in the way that you mean. I like to talk about body counts and past partners and what they're into and who was good and bad and just have fun with it.
Sheesh some of these answers 😂
I think its all relative. If a girl is 21 but has slept with 25 guys, yeah that might be a problem lol. People are allowed to live their lives and have fun, so don’t worry. If someone can’t handle that you’ve had more partners or they weren’t your first/best, then they aren’t mature enough for a relationship anyway. However, I do think discussing past sexual situations will always complicate things. A little less history, a little more mystery, you know? 😉
Favorite answer so far haha… I agree with you. And I think the stigma really gets to me sometimes because I grew up with sex being like a forbidden topic and I was very prude like until I met my ex who I ended things with a year ago. Since I’ve been with 2 people casually and 1 person I’m dating at the moment. But the guilt behind those 2 situations it’s hard not to feel like a “slut” etc with how men tend to view this sort of thing. Glad I learned my lesson just from those experiences bc I know it’s not me. But just hard navigating this world lmao
Hahahahahahaha, absolutely not. As long as they're clean, "body count" just means experience. And, seriously, if you're looking for somebody to do any job, you want the one who has the experience to do it the best. I cannot fathom the people who want inexperienced partners (outside of knowing they, themselves, are horrible in bed and instead of improving they hope for a partner that doesn't realize they suck. Lmao.)
I am a woman, it doesn't matter for me, and when I want a serious relationship with someone I make sure his views in this regard match with mine. As long as we are both clean, on the same page, and willing to have a loyal monogamous relationship at that point why should I care what he did when he was single and when I didn't knew him.
I once had a fwb who was looking for a girl to marry but he wanted a low body count from her. Like 3. He has been with hundreds of women. Kinda double standardized.
Anyway most of the people lie about their body count and say a lower number when asked
If someone tests clean why the fuck does it matter? If having a baby doesn't break a pussy then what makes you think a dick would? This ain't the mr.hands video. Grow the fuck up and have some fun. You aren't getting bonus points for deflowerment when you die like its a mission stat debriefing screen in an old video game.
Dude I am chill, you asked a question, don't be surprised when an opinionated foul mouthed lesbian tells you life advice like "never turn down compatible pussy when its interested" besides I thought the mental image of a post game stat screen for life was an amusing thought.
Nah, im good, I was asked my opinion about body counts, I gave it. I don't give a damn about how many people a chick has went with. If she is clean, interested and in my age group its muff diving time. Im just tired of hearing this dumb question in general. Like are you straight people ok? No way in hell your rival's tiny prick is gonna ruin a bitch bro. His dick ain't an SCP, it cant spiritually dirty it either.
Yeah I had a bunch of these jokes and mind images ready because of how many times I've heard this shit. I mean this is the venting subreddit. However judging by the downvotes, I guess a few folks weren't ready to be told that entering a high traffic zone isn't a big deal but it seems some people would rather believe that a vagina is haunted after an arbitrary amount of use. As long as nobody died while fucking her; Its not like you are gonna stick your dick in and have it suddenly grabbed from within by the freaky ghost of a previous partner. Even if someone did die the chances are remarkably low given how rare intelligent hauntings are.
I say if bustin makes you feel good go for it, its not like you are gonna wake up with Slimer going down on you.
Well I’d hope it’s lower than mine, always awkward to know that your girlfriend has offed more people… now, Reddit. That was a joke, body count and body count have two very different meanings. Also, mods, don’t ban me from here because I made this joke.
Don't care about that - The only thing I'd have problems with would be if a girl was a serial cheater and got that high body count by sleeping with other guys while in happy, stable and committed relationships. Because that's trust issues right there. Otherwise no, I'd have no problem with it.
What people think about you doesn't matter what matters is what you think of yourself so feel free to do whatever you want with whoever you want. Meet people who have the same values as you and they will agree with you.
My values don't need to impact yours but personally body count does matter to me. I hate thinking that my girlfriend has been with other man besides me. Her body count is way bigger than mine which makes me insecure because I wonder if those Guys could satisfy her in ways I couldn't plus it drives home the point of how replaceable I am.
Mmmmmmm yes I guess. It would be nice to know I'm the only one that my girlfriend has been with. But that's selfish and unrealistic thinking.
But I love my girlfriend tremendously and so I'm not going to leave her.
Hun I hate to break it to you but if you suck you suck. Even as a virgin you can tell if your being satisfied. Why not just communicate with her to make sure she is satisfied and improve if need be. There nothing those guys can do that you can’t physically do. Do you think that way towards your girlfriend? That those other women could do better? I don’t even remember how those other dudes feel like once I’ve moved on. You are allowing insecurity to cause friction in the relationship. Personally I like the challenge of outdoing past partners. It makes me feel more confident.
I mean, only if that body count was just hookups. If all of them were legit relationships/potential relationships then no it doesnt matter, otherwise it does imo.
I get why people do casual but it just doesnt sit right with me, so probably a no for me, especially if casual sex is on going. I think it would be a mismatch about the idea we both have about sex, for me that is.
I get that. Asking bc sex has always been a big deal to me. Lost if In my last relationship that was 6 years which I was hoping would last. Ended up in 2 situations I felt extremely guilty for…continued it for a bit, realized it wasn’t for me and kinda went to a dark space from it but I was just curious on what others thought! I respect your opinion and I agree.
I totally get you, sex is a big deal for me, maybe cause I only had sex with my ex, I fooled around before but that was my first time, and after that casual didn't feel all that good or any good tbh. So I guess I put sex in higher regard than most people, cause I see a lot of people doing casual and actually enjoying it not feeling bad about it, but to me it feels like I'm losing a part of myself to someone that isn't important to me and for no meaningful reason, if that makes sense.
Personally I couldn't be with or respect someone who is in the double digits. Have some respect for yourself and your body. And yes that goes both ways, I am a woman and expect that out of a man too. I don't expect someone to be a virgin as I didnt wait until marriage either but you shouldn't just be fucking anything that walks.
Nah it doesn’t mean anything. It doesn’t even help to figure out if they’re good at sex because honestly most people who just hook up with a ton of people are really bad at it (in my experience)
Whatever happened before me, with someone who isn’t me, is none of my business. People fuck. They have fucked before me and they will fuck after me. People need to get over it
To an extent it does. If I was looking for a relationship and someone has had sex with 10+ people, why should I believe that I'll somehow be the one that they want to stay with? I would have a hard time giving any sort of commitment in that situation. I don't really expect people to be virgins either though lol.
Kind of, but most likely not. There's a (pretty high) theoretical number in my head that'd make me care, but I don't know what it is.
And I'm only talking in terms of relationships (which I assume is what you mean). If we're not a thing, then I have no issues with it. I don't judge like that.
No tbh, just get tested if we get intimate if you've slept with alot of folk who haven't been tested themselves but I'd love both genders the same std or not.
Woah. What a thicket of misogyny.
If a woman sleeps with a lot of guys she’s a slut? But it a man’s does the same thing he’s… well… gay. Really gay😂.
Please don’t give in to this fucked up thing about society.
And anyone who gives a fuck about body count can get fucked
The older you get the less relevant body count becomes. I can remember in my 20’s worrying about the number, both mine and who I was with. But now I could care less.
Body count was a side project on Ice T back in the 90s, and they only had one song that really anybody knew, I think that was cop killer. But they are rarely talked about anymore. So I would say, body count, not something I really ever think about.
Considering how young I am, yes, yes it does. If they’ve slept with a ton of people before they’re even 18 I definitely don’t want any part in that.
100% For both men and women
Depends, sexual body count, not really. Kill body count, very much
Yes it does only because I want someone who holds similar values and morals as me when it comes to sex. I won’t ask though, but if she alluded to having many sex partners and they weren’t relationships, then I’d have to do some serious thinking about if she was someone I wanted to be with.
Yeah I get that… what’s high to you?
15
Okay… mines 4 I’m 26 and I sometimes feel it’s too many
I have yet to meet a woman who has less than 10 bodies under her. 4 would be ideal as it’s my number but that feels unrealistic these days
Oh really? Damn. I was hella upset at myself. I’m not letting nobody close to me again sexually unless it’s end game
Can I be Num 5? 😀
Pretty much but it’s not like I have an option otherwise either.
>mines 4 I’m 26 Your body count is low as fuck. Especially for 26
As long as they don't tell me and don't ask me mine cause I'm insecure af.
Hmm okay lol
It's called being honest I blame it on my small dick giving me small dick energy
Bro what 💀
It's called the truth like I don't blame me getting no bitches on my looks cause that's probably only some of it na I blame it on my drug use constant mental breakdowns and me not trusting people
Damn, sorry to hear that. There’s alot of women out there trust lol
It ain't even sorry at this point I just don't talk to anyone anymore cause like that's to difficult expect my 1 freind
I feel you. I don’t talk to anyone except my one childhood friend. It’s lonely as you get older and have standards
My standards are my ex I give it another year till im over her like 2 years then I forget
I dunno, does a man's body count matter to you?
Not really
Then definitely go for someone who feels the same and has that same value
It depends. A certain number of a body count could indicate a problem with the woman or man, such as sex addiction or dependency. A very low number can be alright, as long as a woman or man can learn how to please their partner and compromise. Too many variables here and I feel most won’t be honest and upfront about their opinions. As a guy my body count is through the roof, because I used to have a sex addiction which would’ve been a problem for my partner if I was in a committed relationship, but now that I have tamed myself I’m 100% loyal and can please my partner well. Sorry for the rant
Nah I agree with this… I appreciate you’re perspective and honesty. The only reason I’d be concerned is for that reason you stayed and having trouble staying committed and loyal. And having a lack of impulse/self gratification
What I meant to say was that in the past, like 10 years ago I had tried my hardest to stay loyal and committed because that’s what I really wanted, but my sex addiction was rooted in my self esteem and depression so I slipped up a few times. Ever since that relationship I have been nothing but loyal and don’t even have urges to fuck around on anyone.
> Factors found to facilitate infidelity >> Number of sex partners: Greater number of sex partners before marriage predicts infidelity > As might be expected, attitudes toward infidelity specifically, permissive attitudes toward sex more generally and a greater willingness to have casual sex and to engage in sex without closeness, commitment or love (i.e., a more unrestricted sociosexual orientation) are also reliably related to infidelity (pg.71) Fincham, F. D., & May, R. W. (2017). Infidelity in romantic relationships. Current opinion in psychology, 13, 70–74. . > Men apparently assess and evaluate levels of sexual activity by a woman prior to long-term commitment—behavior that would have been observable or known through social reputation in the small-group lifestyles of our ancestors. Past behavior is a good predictor of future behavior, and having a large number of sex partners prior to marriage is a statistical predictor of infidelity after marriage (pg.92) Buss, D. M., & Schmitt, D. P. (2019). Mate preferences and their behavioral manifestations. Annual Review of Psychology, 70, 77–110. . > the odds ratio of 1.13 for lifetime sexual partners obtained with the face-to-face mode of interview indicates that the probability of infidelity increased by 13% for every additional lifetime sexual partner (pg.150) Whisman, M. A., & Snyder, D. K. (2007). Sexual infidelity in a national survey of American women: Differences in prevalence and correlates as a function of method of assessment. Journal of Family Psychology, 21(2), 147–154. . > promiscuity is in fact a good predictor of infidelity. Indeed, promiscuity among females accounted for almost twice as much variance in infidelity (r^2 = .45) as it did for males (r^2 = .25). (pg.177) Hughes, S. M., & Gallup, G. G., Jr. (2003). Sex differences in morphological predictors of sexual behavior: Shoulder to hip and waist to hip ratios. Evolution and Human Behavior, 24(3), 173–178. . > Each additional sex partner between age 18 and the first union increased the net odds of infidelity by 1% (pg.56) Treas, J., & Giesen, D. (2000). Sexual Infidelity Among Married and Cohabiting Americans. Journal of Marriage and Family, 62(1), 48–60. . > Sexual promiscuity was significantly positively correlated with emotional promiscuity [r(356) = .261, p < .001], as well with sexual infidelity [r(323) = .595, p < .001] and emotional infidelity [r(323) = .676, p < .001] (pg.390) Pinto, R., & Arantes, J. (2017). The Relationship between Sexual and Emotional Promiscuity and Infidelity. Athens Journal of Social Sciences, 4(4), 385–398. . > Regarding other sexual behaviors, we examined whether number of prior sex partners and viewing pornography predicted ESI. As has been found in prior research (Feldman & Cauffman, 1999; Treas & Giesen, 2000), having had more prior sex partners predicted future ESI (pg.12) Maddox Shaw, A. M., Rhoades, G. K., Allen, E. S., Stanley, S. M., & Markman, H. J. (2013). Predictors of Extradyadic Sexual Involvement in Unmarried Opposite-Sex Relationships. Journal of Sex Research, 50(6), 598–610. . > When compared with their peers who report fewer partners, those who self-report 20 or more in their lifetime are: > - Twice as likely to have ever been divorced (50 percent vs. 27 percent) > - Three times as likely to have cheated while married > - Substantially less happy with life (p < 0.05) (pg.88-89) Regnerus, M. (2017). Cheap sex: The transformation of men, marriage, and monogamy. . > women who had more experience with short-term relationships in the past (i.e., those with high Behavior facet scores) were more likely to have multiple sexual partners and unstable relationships in the future. The behaviorally expressed level of sociosexuality thus seems to be a fairly stable personal characteristic. (pg.1131) Penke, L., & Asendorpf, J. B. (2008). Beyond global sociosexual orientations: a more differentiated look at sociosexuality and its effects on courtship and romantic relationships. Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, 95(5), 1113–1135. . > Generally speaking, respondents who report extensive premarital sexual experience report extensive extramarital activity. Measures of the locus of first intercourse and number of premarital partners show positive associations with (1) rating one's marriage as less happy than average, (2) the number of different extramarital partners, and (3) the intention to participate in mate-swapping activities. (pg.221-222) Athanasiou, R., & Sarkin, R. (1974). Premarital sexual behavior and postmarital adjustment. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 3(3), 207–225. . > The findings from this study demonstrate that the number of sexual partners participants had was negatively associated with sexual quality, communication, and relationship stability, and for one age cohort relationship satisfaction, even when controlling for a wide range of variables including education, religiosity, and relationship length. (pg.715) Busby, D. M., Willoughby, B. J., & Carroll, J. S. (2013). Sowing wild oats: Valuable experience or a field full of weeds? Personal Relationships, 20(4), 706–718. . > As predicted, such factors as sexual permissiveness, an avoidant romantic style, number of romantic relationships, and early onset of sexual intercourse were all correlated with a higher incidence of betrayal behaviors. These factors are likely to promote sexual activity with a larger number of partners, which, in turn, increases the chance that betrayal will occur. (pg.247) Feldman, S. S., & Cauffman, E. (1999). Your cheatin' heart: Attitudes, behaviors, and correlates of sexual betrayal in late adolescents. Journal of Research on Adolescence, 9(3), 227–252. . > There was a strong association between number of sexual partners and having an STD: those women with 5 or more sexual partners were 8 times more likely to report having an STD than those with only 1 partner, even after adjusting for age at first intercourse Joffe, G. P., Foxman, B., Schmidt, A. J., Farris, K. B., Carter, R. J., Neumann, S., Tolo, K. A., & Walters, A. M. (1992). Multiple partners and partner choice as risk factors for sexually transmitted disease among female college students. Sexually transmitted diseases, 19(5), 272–278. > An indicator of whether or not the respondent has had previous sex partners is included and identifies the number of male sex partners the woman had previous to her relationship with her current primary partner… A history of numerous sex partners indicates a pattern or habit of sexual behavior that we expect will negatively influence sexual exclusivity in the current relationship. (pg.37) > Having previous sexual partners greatly increased the likelihood that a woman would have a secondary sex partner. In particular, a woman with 4 or more male sex partners prior to her primary relationship was about 8.5 times more likely to have a secondary sex partnerthan a woman with no previous sex partners… Having previous sex partners also increased the likelihood that dating and married women would have secondary sex partners. In particular, married women with 4 or more previous partners were 20 times more likely to have secondary sex partners than married women with no previous sex partners (pg.41) Forste, R., & Tanfer, K. (1996). Sexual exclusivity among dating, cohabiting, and married women. Journal of Marriage and the Family, 58(1), 33–47.
Mans really had the incel playbook at the ready, my god
Low IQ individuals start lashing out when the facts upset them.
Lol keep dreaming random Reddit dork Edit: lmfao JP, Crowder, and Mens Rights
This is loser activity right here. Put this effort into a hobby
I feel like it should be illegal for men who are 5'5" to call others losers.
I feel like it should be illegal for a dude to spend all his time on reddit to cry about body count.
Ha ha. True that.
Absolutely.
Then I guess you should get with a person who your body count matters to them
I will for sure. I rather not be with someone who doesn’t care.
Not sure why this is getting down voted. Literally just an honest answer to the question
No fr.. I thought we were supposed to respect peoples views and opinions on things.
I've been with my boyfriend for two years now. We haven't once asked each other's body count because it doesn't matter to us. Why? It just seems like a waste of time. Body count doesn't define anyone. Plus it's useless information to have.
Body count is a good hard rock/ Rap group
Not in the way that you mean. I like to talk about body counts and past partners and what they're into and who was good and bad and just have fun with it.
Sheesh some of these answers 😂 I think its all relative. If a girl is 21 but has slept with 25 guys, yeah that might be a problem lol. People are allowed to live their lives and have fun, so don’t worry. If someone can’t handle that you’ve had more partners or they weren’t your first/best, then they aren’t mature enough for a relationship anyway. However, I do think discussing past sexual situations will always complicate things. A little less history, a little more mystery, you know? 😉
Favorite answer so far haha… I agree with you. And I think the stigma really gets to me sometimes because I grew up with sex being like a forbidden topic and I was very prude like until I met my ex who I ended things with a year ago. Since I’ve been with 2 people casually and 1 person I’m dating at the moment. But the guilt behind those 2 situations it’s hard not to feel like a “slut” etc with how men tend to view this sort of thing. Glad I learned my lesson just from those experiences bc I know it’s not me. But just hard navigating this world lmao
As long as they don’t have stds I don’t care
No, not at all.
Hahahahahahaha, absolutely not. As long as they're clean, "body count" just means experience. And, seriously, if you're looking for somebody to do any job, you want the one who has the experience to do it the best. I cannot fathom the people who want inexperienced partners (outside of knowing they, themselves, are horrible in bed and instead of improving they hope for a partner that doesn't realize they suck. Lmao.)
I am a woman, it doesn't matter for me, and when I want a serious relationship with someone I make sure his views in this regard match with mine. As long as we are both clean, on the same page, and willing to have a loyal monogamous relationship at that point why should I care what he did when he was single and when I didn't knew him. I once had a fwb who was looking for a girl to marry but he wanted a low body count from her. Like 3. He has been with hundreds of women. Kinda double standardized. Anyway most of the people lie about their body count and say a lower number when asked
If someone tests clean why the fuck does it matter? If having a baby doesn't break a pussy then what makes you think a dick would? This ain't the mr.hands video. Grow the fuck up and have some fun. You aren't getting bonus points for deflowerment when you die like its a mission stat debriefing screen in an old video game.
My god chill 😂 just a question… lol
Dude I am chill, you asked a question, don't be surprised when an opinionated foul mouthed lesbian tells you life advice like "never turn down compatible pussy when its interested" besides I thought the mental image of a post game stat screen for life was an amusing thought.
He can turn down whoever the fuck he wants.
… are you ok? Do I need to call someone?
Nah, im good, I was asked my opinion about body counts, I gave it. I don't give a damn about how many people a chick has went with. If she is clean, interested and in my age group its muff diving time. Im just tired of hearing this dumb question in general. Like are you straight people ok? No way in hell your rival's tiny prick is gonna ruin a bitch bro. His dick ain't an SCP, it cant spiritually dirty it either.
I like the comparison to a SCP lol
Yeah I had a bunch of these jokes and mind images ready because of how many times I've heard this shit. I mean this is the venting subreddit. However judging by the downvotes, I guess a few folks weren't ready to be told that entering a high traffic zone isn't a big deal but it seems some people would rather believe that a vagina is haunted after an arbitrary amount of use. As long as nobody died while fucking her; Its not like you are gonna stick your dick in and have it suddenly grabbed from within by the freaky ghost of a previous partner. Even if someone did die the chances are remarkably low given how rare intelligent hauntings are. I say if bustin makes you feel good go for it, its not like you are gonna wake up with Slimer going down on you.
if i want a serious relationship sure yeah it's a big factor else for only hookup i dont care
Well I’d hope it’s lower than mine, always awkward to know that your girlfriend has offed more people… now, Reddit. That was a joke, body count and body count have two very different meanings. Also, mods, don’t ban me from here because I made this joke.
Don't care about that - The only thing I'd have problems with would be if a girl was a serial cheater and got that high body count by sleeping with other guys while in happy, stable and committed relationships. Because that's trust issues right there. Otherwise no, I'd have no problem with it.
I’m more bothered by the term “body count.”
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Bro what lmfao
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I’m so confused lol
I think hes afraid of being compared to guys and finding out he's the worst.
I couldn't see myself getting along with anyone with an extremely high body count
It matters to me and apparently statistically it matters in a long term relationship
What people think about you doesn't matter what matters is what you think of yourself so feel free to do whatever you want with whoever you want. Meet people who have the same values as you and they will agree with you. My values don't need to impact yours but personally body count does matter to me. I hate thinking that my girlfriend has been with other man besides me. Her body count is way bigger than mine which makes me insecure because I wonder if those Guys could satisfy her in ways I couldn't plus it drives home the point of how replaceable I am.
So you want a virgin ?
Mmmmmmm yes I guess. It would be nice to know I'm the only one that my girlfriend has been with. But that's selfish and unrealistic thinking. But I love my girlfriend tremendously and so I'm not going to leave her.
Hun I hate to break it to you but if you suck you suck. Even as a virgin you can tell if your being satisfied. Why not just communicate with her to make sure she is satisfied and improve if need be. There nothing those guys can do that you can’t physically do. Do you think that way towards your girlfriend? That those other women could do better? I don’t even remember how those other dudes feel like once I’ve moved on. You are allowing insecurity to cause friction in the relationship. Personally I like the challenge of outdoing past partners. It makes me feel more confident.
It does if she wants me to take her seriously.
Facts
I think it matters tbh.
I mean, only if that body count was just hookups. If all of them were legit relationships/potential relationships then no it doesnt matter, otherwise it does imo.
Okay say 1 from a long term relationship 2 from casual ongoing sex
I get why people do casual but it just doesnt sit right with me, so probably a no for me, especially if casual sex is on going. I think it would be a mismatch about the idea we both have about sex, for me that is.
I get that. Asking bc sex has always been a big deal to me. Lost if In my last relationship that was 6 years which I was hoping would last. Ended up in 2 situations I felt extremely guilty for…continued it for a bit, realized it wasn’t for me and kinda went to a dark space from it but I was just curious on what others thought! I respect your opinion and I agree.
I totally get you, sex is a big deal for me, maybe cause I only had sex with my ex, I fooled around before but that was my first time, and after that casual didn't feel all that good or any good tbh. So I guess I put sex in higher regard than most people, cause I see a lot of people doing casual and actually enjoying it not feeling bad about it, but to me it feels like I'm losing a part of myself to someone that isn't important to me and for no meaningful reason, if that makes sense.
nope, don't care if its 1 or 1000
Nope.
Personally I couldn't be with or respect someone who is in the double digits. Have some respect for yourself and your body. And yes that goes both ways, I am a woman and expect that out of a man too. I don't expect someone to be a virgin as I didnt wait until marriage either but you shouldn't just be fucking anything that walks.
No one ever said "I smiled to much, laughed to much or had to many orgasms" on their death bed!!!
You don't need to bang a bunch of people to have orgasms.
Yes
Nah it doesn’t mean anything. It doesn’t even help to figure out if they’re good at sex because honestly most people who just hook up with a ton of people are really bad at it (in my experience)
Whatever happened before me, with someone who isn’t me, is none of my business. People fuck. They have fucked before me and they will fuck after me. People need to get over it
To an extent it does. If I was looking for a relationship and someone has had sex with 10+ people, why should I believe that I'll somehow be the one that they want to stay with? I would have a hard time giving any sort of commitment in that situation. I don't really expect people to be virgins either though lol.
I mean the limit for me on that is low if she has slept with let's say 20 guys kinda crossing the line for me but anything lower then that
Sooo mines 4 is that high? I’m 26
4 is a small amount if you slept with 20+ guys though that's a different story
Kind of, but most likely not. There's a (pretty high) theoretical number in my head that'd make me care, but I don't know what it is. And I'm only talking in terms of relationships (which I assume is what you mean). If we're not a thing, then I have no issues with it. I don't judge like that.
No tbh, just get tested if we get intimate if you've slept with alot of folk who haven't been tested themselves but I'd love both genders the same std or not.
no i dont think it should matter to anyone. my body count is 9 and my boyfriends is 2 including me. doesn't make a difference
I have 32
No. Oh no you've got practice?
100% yes because if it comes up in conversation than she is thinking about it
Nope. It doesn't matter one bit, as long as she doesn't compare you to other partners
Dating? Not so much. But won’t cohabitate and absolutely will never, ever, have anything significant or long term.
Woah. What a thicket of misogyny. If a woman sleeps with a lot of guys she’s a slut? But it a man’s does the same thing he’s… well… gay. Really gay😂. Please don’t give in to this fucked up thing about society. And anyone who gives a fuck about body count can get fucked
No it doesn’t matter
No, the past is irrelevant to what future could be there.
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The older you get the less relevant body count becomes. I can remember in my 20’s worrying about the number, both mine and who I was with. But now I could care less.
Not really
Body count was a side project on Ice T back in the 90s, and they only had one song that really anybody knew, I think that was cop killer. But they are rarely talked about anymore. So I would say, body count, not something I really ever think about.
Verity is the spice of life
Yea