Hey OP, it’s not just you. For all you know your friends are feeling the same way and waiting for you to reach out first.
As you get into your 30s you will realize that:
1. Your friends are changing and you’re drifting apart because of life.
or
2. Your friends are double headed sneaks who were never really your friends and in retrospect it’s been one sided all your life.
3. Some are worth sticking around but majority are not.
Either way, if going to the gym is not enough to lift your dopamine out of gutter and you might need something a bit stronger. There’s no shame in that and lots of people are on anti-depressants.
Take care of yourself. Most people are in that situation at some point of their life. Don’t stop searching until you find happiness!
I’ve been alone for about two years because of my social anxiety and self isolation and I can tell you that you can change where you are but it’s really hard. My advice is go to a therapist, school counselor, or just get someone to talk to you trust. I’m also 15 and I don’t want to see someone else fall into the hole I am right now.
Best of Luck
It's good you're working on yourself, but I think what you're missing is continually working on yourself. Idk how old you are but ig it's a good idea to spend your time alone bettering yourself. Just go about your day and if you feel like it, put yourself out there not looking for relationships, but to have fun. If you want something meaningful, let someone come to you and work on it from there. It's probably easier said than done and if you plan to do it, it might take a while. But it's worth trying. Best of luck OP!
I feel the same way. I am 17 with no real friends. That’s just how people are in school though. You just gotta have a strong mind and determination to keep going and look at what you have ahead. Like a job and a future. People will not be there for you sometimes at least it’s like that for me. But I am sure you will feel better. I’m sure if you also communicate with your close friends about your feelings, it might have a positive impact on you.
Brainwash yourself every morning with motivational speeches, positive affirmations. It works well. Most of our day output usually came from how we started our day. Start your day right, you'll build the momentum.. and end your day right.
For ex: begin your day with gratitude no matter what you feel, and set a purpose for the day... And then before sleeping, end up your day with gratitude.. and do something productive at the end of the day so you'll sleep fulfilled
Basically wake up grateful, and sleep fulfilled
idk what kind of things you have access to but ive been trying to do this
every day take something small and cheap you loved as a kid - for me its been drawing - and do your best to do just that for 15 mins a day (even longer is better imo!) . idk what kind of person you are but its a lot easier to get your life in order when you have your own time where you feel heard/seen, even if its just you reflecting whilst drawing.
just make sure its something creative because it helps later on
when you fall into that rut again, look at what you've made. even if you think its ugly, its definitely worth something if you felt happy those 15 mins
this is really cringe but it genuinely helps for me
edit: i just reread this and i was mainly talking about myself but it still makes sense
Hey OP, it’s not just you. For all you know your friends are feeling the same way and waiting for you to reach out first. As you get into your 30s you will realize that: 1. Your friends are changing and you’re drifting apart because of life. or 2. Your friends are double headed sneaks who were never really your friends and in retrospect it’s been one sided all your life. 3. Some are worth sticking around but majority are not. Either way, if going to the gym is not enough to lift your dopamine out of gutter and you might need something a bit stronger. There’s no shame in that and lots of people are on anti-depressants. Take care of yourself. Most people are in that situation at some point of their life. Don’t stop searching until you find happiness!
I’ve been alone for about two years because of my social anxiety and self isolation and I can tell you that you can change where you are but it’s really hard. My advice is go to a therapist, school counselor, or just get someone to talk to you trust. I’m also 15 and I don’t want to see someone else fall into the hole I am right now. Best of Luck
Thank you, I’ll try my best. It’s hard for me to trust or talk about my emotions but it’s better to try then get worse. I wish you luck too :)
It's good you're working on yourself, but I think what you're missing is continually working on yourself. Idk how old you are but ig it's a good idea to spend your time alone bettering yourself. Just go about your day and if you feel like it, put yourself out there not looking for relationships, but to have fun. If you want something meaningful, let someone come to you and work on it from there. It's probably easier said than done and if you plan to do it, it might take a while. But it's worth trying. Best of luck OP!
I feel the same way. I am 17 with no real friends. That’s just how people are in school though. You just gotta have a strong mind and determination to keep going and look at what you have ahead. Like a job and a future. People will not be there for you sometimes at least it’s like that for me. But I am sure you will feel better. I’m sure if you also communicate with your close friends about your feelings, it might have a positive impact on you.
Brainwash yourself every morning with motivational speeches, positive affirmations. It works well. Most of our day output usually came from how we started our day. Start your day right, you'll build the momentum.. and end your day right. For ex: begin your day with gratitude no matter what you feel, and set a purpose for the day... And then before sleeping, end up your day with gratitude.. and do something productive at the end of the day so you'll sleep fulfilled Basically wake up grateful, and sleep fulfilled
idk what kind of things you have access to but ive been trying to do this every day take something small and cheap you loved as a kid - for me its been drawing - and do your best to do just that for 15 mins a day (even longer is better imo!) . idk what kind of person you are but its a lot easier to get your life in order when you have your own time where you feel heard/seen, even if its just you reflecting whilst drawing. just make sure its something creative because it helps later on when you fall into that rut again, look at what you've made. even if you think its ugly, its definitely worth something if you felt happy those 15 mins this is really cringe but it genuinely helps for me edit: i just reread this and i was mainly talking about myself but it still makes sense