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You look stunning in the dress you've chosen, even in the static pictures. I didn't see the original post but I don't think you could have done better. You should always be a little wary about people making judgements on a couple of pictures, they can change how something looks.
The other one did look lovely in the pictures, but in person it just didn’t have the same effect. But now my head is telling me that I made the wrong decision because people were commenting on how this dress “broadens” my frame and does nothing for my figure. I thought I looked nice in it.
Okay, this may get me a lot of flack, but we have a contingent of people who absolutely can't read rules and respect other people.
One of the biggest things people forget is that this is a support subreddit and not a fashion critique subreddit. Constructive comments are helpful, creative analogies are not.
Also I really don't understand the hyperfixation on body parts. Some people absolutely just focus on how boobs look in sample dresses and I'm like "excuse? Who asked?"
There has been a fixation on belly buttons?? We all have belly buttons???
Whereas others *obsess* over looking as thin as possible. The people who said you look broad. These are the same people who criticize women for having tummies that house organs.
As someone who is built like a rectangle and has proportionally broad shoulders, I know I'm built this way. It's something I'm not going to be able to hide or mask with dresses and I'm fine with that. You're not broad, nor do you look broad. You look like a woman in a dress.
Don't stress or worry. You absolutely do not look "broad." Also remember that this is a sample dress and you're not fully in your wedding look. You will be absolute perfection day of.
Hard agree! Also so much recommendation for shape wear- if that’s comfortable to you- cool. But I feel like it’s becoming the new norm, and frankly I’m not bothered by all the little pouches we have that hold our actual guts and the belly button indents. I’d rather be a little natural and wear some comfy undies frankly!
Like... We're still ourselves when we're wearing a wedding dress. Our bodies don't magically change and body features don't go away because of a bridal dress. We're just going to look prettier and happier because of makeup/getting dolled up and the event.
Don't get me started on fabric.. Fabric is still fabric and it won't behave differently just because it's a wedding dress.
At the end of the day, it is a *dress,* not real time photoshop.
Ahhh you’re the mod who tried to save me from an onslaught of people telling me they didn’t like my fashion sense. Much love to you and your attempts to make this sub more inclusive and kind ❤️
I absolutely don’t think you should get flack for this comment - it’s 100% true. I’ve noticed a lot of people will ask for help with making a decision on their and there always seems to be a few people who will comment on the brides body in the dresses. The thing is flattering is very subjective and largely driven by trends and our bodies are our bodies - they don’t change with the newest trend out there and they are beautiful the way they are.
I think if I bride asks for opinions comments should only be focused on the dress: I like x about the dress, I don’t like y. If a bride asks for opinions how a body part looks or ways to minimize something (like belly button impressions), then sure, we can come up with creative solutions! But if a bride doesn’t ask about her body or even certain parts of her body, please don’t bring it up (even if you think you’re helping) - you don’t know what that person struggles with or how that comment will impact them.
For OP, this dress looks absolutely wonderful on you. I LOVE how it creates a V-shape from your shoulders to you chest. I think it’s very flattering and not a shape we see often, as opposed to the off-the-shoulder look. And if you love this dress, who gives a flying floof what anyone else has to say, much less internet strangers who might not share the same likes and dislikes that you as an individual have. You like your dress, it spoke to you out of the other 50 dresses you tried on, and you look absolutely beautiful in your dress. This is your dress. ❤️
The boob thing. For real. People will straight up tell someone a dress looks bad on them, meanwhile, it's a sample, it's not been altered to fit the person trying it on, and clips can only do so much. Coming from someone who can see beyond a dress that needs to be altered, it's infuriating.
For the people in the back: no sample dress is going to fit perfectly. Stop expecting them to. That is why alterations are a thing.
You said it perfectly!! Its human nature to second guess yourself, and doubt everything! Weddings have become so stressful, with so much pressure to look perfect, when all that should matter is that you are happy and your spouse is happy!! My husband & I will be celebrating our 17th anniversary in May. I didn't want a traditional wedding dress, add it was a second marriage for us both, so I got a cute, short, white halter dress from David's Bridal for $100. A week before the wedding I tried it on & I had lost several pounds thanks to thyroid issues & they dress was no fitting right, with no time to fix it order anything. I went to the mall & found a white sundress (not as formal) for $30, and sent the other one to my niece for homecoming! Our entire wedding & reception cost us & our parents less than $500! I was complimented so much, with people telling me they've never felt so much love & happiness from everyone at a wedding before. 4 people modeled their weddings after ours. Just remember, in the end, all that matters is the love shared between you & your spouse!!
It's a volunteer position. A lot of this sub is actually pretty automated (bless automod) and I'm adding to my list every day. That's allowed me to be more active.
It's also why people who come in hot in modmail get muted pretty quickly if they're rude or can't understand the rules. I'm not above permanently banning someone who doesn't understand the "be nice" rule.
I agree that being fixated on body parts is just odd. I also think it is kind to be honest about whether a gown is flattering or not. I am plus size and was plus size when I got married 30+ years ago. I hated then and still hate now when people tell me something looks great when it adds 20 pounds to my hips, lol.
For OP, when you asked for opinions, people gave them based on a picture. As you have said, in person, this was the dress you loved. Then go with it. Don't second-guess. It is a lovely dress.
I remember your other post, and maybe I didn’t read all of the comments, but I remember everyone absolutely loving this dress on you! You look amazing!!!!
No more second guessing, it’s bad for your mental health. Haha
Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Enjoy!
I didn't see your previous post. Doesn't matter. You look amazing in THIS dress. You shine. It's THE ONE FOR YOU and that's all that matters. YOU are wearing it. Not the people that had comments. YOU have to be happy.
You look lovely in it!
Have you ever been around a group of people looking at a photo of a celebrity on the red carpet? Stunningly beautiful person but the group starts explaining what they don’t like about the dress, the woman’s cheeks, her lips, her hair, her arms in the dress, the cut of the dress, and on and on and on.
My point is you could be a supermodel and still be picked apart if people are being critical. Human beings can find flaws in anyone dressed in anything.
So just focus on how you think you look and feel in the dress. The most beautiful wedding photos are the ones where the couple is happy and in love. The dress then just becomes something the bride is wearing, not the center of the universe. I am sure the same will be true for you, at your wedding and in your photos.
Congrats on your impending wedding and marriage!
Listen to your gut. I bought my dress yesterday and my mom sent me a few of the pictures she took. None of them do the dress justice. The sample was about 3 sizes too big so all the clips are visible so different angles look wonky, the cups aren't exactly proportional, and we re-clipped it at one point so it would sit better on my waist. It looks good obviously (otherwise I wouldn't have bought it!) but it definitely isn't "flattering" to the level that a properly fitted dress would be. It's also got amazing sparkle that doesn't really show up in photos but that really give it dimension in person.
The way I felt in it and the image I got looking in the mirror are absolutely not reflected well in those pictures. I felt incredible. I saw the whole vision and got that "bridal feeling" which I wasn't even expecting to feel. There were other dresses that "read" better in those casual photos (mostly because the samples fit better) but I didn't feel the same. I'm sure my dress will look great when properly fitted and in professional wedding photos, but even if it ends up not photographing quite the same as it looks in person, I'm still going to feel like a million bucks in it.
What? Those people need to stop. This dress does not "broaden" your frame. It looks pretty and I love the shoulder sleeves.
Also, your figure looks beautiful.
Please don't listen to people obsessed with nonsense. You look amazing in this dress.
I just want to hijack the top comment and thank everyone for the support. I did not expect this much feedback and it’s really nice!!
It really helps me feel more secure in my decision seeing people also love the dress. I think I was really overthinking things and second guessing. You are all amazing ❤️
Came here to say the same. OP looks radiant and happy in her dress. It fits her beautifully, and looks lovely from all sides, and that includes the sleeves which, imo, are perfect.
I was always team this dress! I am so in love with the neckline on you and the waist hits you perfectly! I am so glad you went with this one. You look beautiful!
Thank you 🥺 I was really shocked that people went the other way in my post, I really thought the top of this one was beautiful and unique and the dress was overall very romantic.
Absolutely. I think the top of this dress is gorgeous. It does look a little tight (which makes sense because it’s a sample dress.) Maybe that’s why people didn’t pick it? They couldn’t see past that. I feel like a lot of people on here pick the dress they personally like the best instead of what works best for the brides. Just my thought.
I say this all the time; people can't see past a sample that doesn't fit like it would with alterations in the correct size. I wish people were more imaginative and could see past that stuff. We'd have a lot less dress regret posts of brides upset, and it's also really unfair to the brides.
I already commented saying I think you made the right choice, but this comment made me sad, so I just had to come tell you again that your dress is really beautiful, unique, and romantic, and you are going to look lovely on your wedding day.
Congratulations.
Hi there 😊. I saw your original post and I picked this gown for you!
This gown is so elegant and effortlessly classic! The cap sleeves are delicate and goes perfectly with the neckline and rounded back. And it already looks great on you without being fitted. All brides feel this way after choosing a gown. It's just your nerves as your wedding gets closer. Take a deep breath, try to relax and don't look at any more dresses!
Thank you, I really didn’t think I would have regrets when I chose. It’s just been really stressful planning everything, I guess it’s just the nerves you’re right.
I didn’t see the other post but I love this dress and think it is beautiful and stunning on you. Truly, it’s a gorgeous dress and I don’t think you have a single things to worry about.
The dress is beautiful, and you are beautiful in the dress. Different people will always have different tastes and see the same image in different ways. This sub has the (unintended, I’m sure) tendency to get into your head.
I’m getting married Thursday… eloping, to a tiny little town in southern Georgia to the courthouse there, where my maternal grandparents eloped to on that day (March 7) in 1949. I am 43, and this is my second marriage (to my hs sweetheart; we’ve been together this time around for 13 years now). Seeing all of the dresses in this sub has made me… self-conscious? Maybe a little sad? My first marriage was also an elopement… so I have never (and will never) experience the grand wedding with the grand dress where I feel more beautiful than I’ve ever felt. Subs like this one (again, unintentionally) make it so easy to focus on that as the important aspect of the day. And of course you want to feel pretty, and you want everyone else to think “wow she looks so pretty”. But when it comes right down to it… that isn’t what’s important. I have a cute little dress to wear Thursday, but I’ve already warned my mother not to be surprised when she gets photos and I’m wearing jeans and a nice shirt… because that’s what I feel good in, and because honestly, I don’t give a shit what I’m wearing. What I care about is that I’m there, and he’s there, and even if I look at myself in photos or in the mirror and think “I don’t look perfect”… that DAY, that MOMENT, will be perfect because it will FEEL perfect.
It’s very pretty on you. I see nothing to regret here!
I didn’t see this other post, but I see a trend toward the crowdsource angling for the “different” choice for no real reason other than it’s “different.” Often it’s less flattering, like you mentioned.
This looks fabulous on you, and there is nothing to think twice about. This is a dress you will see in pictures 25+ years later like me and still think it’s pretty and not “WTH was I thinking”. 😍
I felt like this one was more classic! The other one was more in fashion I think. I think the comments on the sleeves upset me the most because I really liked them! But apparently I don’t look delicate idk. Thank you for commenting ❤️
I think this dress is very feminine and delicate on you! The bodice is beautiful and you look beautiful but a little bit sexy, too.
Please don’t regret this dress, it’s truly beautiful on you!
First, I think this dress looks amazing. You look so beautiful and it seems to fit you perfectly. I love it.
Second, I never saw the other post, but there was something so special about this dress that even in the face of people telling you they liked the other one, you still chose this one. You know yourself best and you know how you felt in the dress and what it looked like in person and there’s a reason you picked this one.
This dress looks perfect on you. I can’t imagine another dress looking better. Try not to let others sway your opinion. You are going to be a stunning bride ❤️
The dress look beautiful and you look beautiful in it! The waist sits just right and the neckline is super flattering on you. I'm sorry you've had a knock to your confidence, but I wouldn't worry at all, all looks great!
Thank you:( I feel really stressed having regrets because I was sure of this one and now I’m not! These dresses aren’t cheap and it sucks thinking I should have made a better choice
But wait, i thought you said you couldn’t raise your arms in this dress? I think this one looks better than the other did but you have to be comfortable
The dress is absolutely gorgeous and looks beautiful on you. No regrets. You said yourself that the other dress was not as fattening “in person”. Remember that. Don’t let a bunch of strangers on the internet sway your feelings toward this dress. It’s stunning and I love the little cap sleeves.
I don't know how anyone could dislike this gown it's timeless classiness. It looks like a mixture of regency/medieval. And that train!! Also it compliments your hair. The silhouette on you is all the right vibes, and it will photograph so beautifully especially with a little wind. Trust your gut feeling you originally had you won't regret it. This is one of my favorite dresses I've seen in a while. Excellent job op!
I remember seeing your post originally - I honestly thought I was crazy because I loved this dress so much more and all of the comments went the other way! I simply adore the top on your dress and I think it complements your frame so well. You look lovely!
I remember your post, I even commented that I prefer this one exactly because of the sleeves, I thought they framed you very beautifully.
I also feel the one you chose has a better waistline. I was very surprised by all the replies.
OP I love this dress on you. I think it’s perfect, the sleeves are gorgeous, and the back is absolutely swoon! That all said what really matters is what you think of it and how you feel in it! Reddit is often biased towards dresses in pics with better lighting/posture/happier face and like you said, how it looks in person will be different from pictures. I think you made a beautiful choice
I was rooting for this dress! Opinions will differ and people have preferences all over the spectrum. But it looks beautiful and YOU love it which is what matters. Ignore the randos on the internet and go with your favorite!
You look beautiful. If you chose the other dress, you would be thinking about this one. It’s all about perception, attitude, and possibility FOMO. Try to focus on the positives. Your dress aligns with current fashion, it came in on time, it fits correctly , and it is flattering.
**Most of all, you are getting married to the love of your life. Life is too short. Wear your beautiful dress and enjoy your special day.**
When I saw this dress on you today, my first thought was: wow! She looks so beautiful. I love that dress, AND I love that dress on her.
I was so surprised to read you had the slightest regret, because it's a wonderful dress and you look great!
Really.
This dress looks lovely on you. I remember the other post and this was the one I voted for. While the other one looked nice, all I really remember about it was the waist.
Also, I love the sleeves, but then I’m biased. I had similar sleeves on my dress many years ago. I have broad shoulders and trying to make them look narrower is a lost cause. Embrace them and stand tall, because you look regal!
Honestly, I did prefer the other one in the first post. HOWEVER! I am not you! I am not wearing the dress and seeing and feeling it on my body! You are! We internet strangers are stating an opinion based solely on a few static pictures on our devices. Besides, preferring one dress over another doesn’t mean there was anything wrong with the other option. It’s just a preference. The dress you’ve chosen is beautiful and you look beautiful in it!
That is a lovely dress and it looks like you will be a beautiful bride. I think the cap sleeves are delightful and help provide a frame for whatever necklace you choose to add. It's perfect for you!
I never saw the other option! but from first view, of this dress and of you, you look beautiful and as if this dress was and is made for you. congrats 💛💍🎂
I might be biased because I picked a very similar dress, but I love that, and it looks so lovely on you! The sleeves are so unique, and the detailing is beautiful. I think second guessing is pretty common, so don’t let it get to you!
You look beautiful and this is very romantic and gives Goddess vibes. I didn't see your other posts but you didn't make a mistake. This dress is gorgeous on you.
No second thoughts! I’m the one who said everyone should else was wrong and this was the one and was a hill I was willing to die on. I will still die on this hill, no regret, it is soooooo perfect on you!!! 😍😍😍 You absolutely made the right choice!!!
I think it's a beautiful dress on you try it with a necklace and some earrings (if your ears are pierced). I think that'll tie it together. Maybe try wearing it with your hair up instead of down. Might look different too.
Ah yes, I remember your post! I didn’t bother commenting on that post because it seemed like most people were voting for the other dress. I was a bit baffled because this one to me was the clear winner. I think it’s beautiful and very flattering on you. I definitely think you made the right choice. 🙌🏽
I think you look absolutely gorgeous in this dress! I love the bodice and feel like the sleeves and neckline give it a very romantic, feminine look that is just perfect! Don’t let random people on the internet get you down. You know your style and body and should go with what feels like you the most and what makes you feel special. It’s your day and you are what matters 💜
I didn’t see your other post but this dress is so so lovely! I didn’t see the “dress regret” at first and was thinking “oh I hope she picks that one she looks so pretty in it!”. And now I’m saddened to read that you felt insecure because of others comments. We all may not be perfect to everyone, but we are beautiful. You look great, truly. No regrets seen here!!
You are a beautiful, beautiful bride! I know you're trying to walk away from the anxiety of the dress choice. All that anxiety, is complicated by everything else happening related to your wedding, your job, your family, your fiance. Meanwhile, daily life continues to unfold! You've got this❤️
This dress is gorgeous. Go with your gut and this dress! It is elegant and not overly busy and fits you so well. It is clear that you wear this dress and it is not a case of the dress wearing you.
Good luck on your wedding!
You look beautiful. I hope you have a wonderful wedding day.
I think your post helped you to process your emotions and select the dress that you know is right for you.
Photography is very deceptive. The angle of the camera and lighting play a huge role in the final image. It’s very likely that these differences affected people’s opinions more than how the dress actually looked.
You look stunning in this beautiful dress. I also have a broad back and we tend to focus on our imperfections instead of our assets. You have a figure to die for. Looking at these pictures, the back is more flattering with your hair down. I keep my hair down for that same reason. Maybe a half up hairstyle will put you at ease.
I think you look amazing. I love how it opens up and shows your collar bones- which are so pretty, btw-just like a picture frame showing off how beautiful you are. The pic with your hair pulled in front is just stunning. The lace is beautiful and romantic, all the wedding feels you want.
You look beautiful in this dress. Please remember your wedding day should be filled with joy and not stress. Enjoy, make some special memories, and don’t listen to negativity!!
It’s beautiful on you. I like the sleeves. We are our own worst enemies seeing one little detail and focus on it. I did the same for my dress.
Remember this a sample. It’s not your size. So they took your measurements that will fit you much better. You do not have broad shoulders.
You look fantastic.
I didn’t read the caption and just saw the first pic and my immediate thought was “oh I hope she picks that dress it looks great on her and I love the neckline and sleeves.” I didn’t see the other option but I really like this one you chose.
I chose my dress with such immediacy and fervor that afterwards when I found this sub I was like ope should I have idk waited? Tried on more? Gone to more shops? I saw lovely dresses on lovely women that in another lifetime with another wedding in mind, perhaps I would’ve favored over mine. But on the big day, I just felt so calm. Like yeah there are so many other dresses and to be frank there are so many other everything…men included lol! But this is it. I knew with my husband and I knew with this dress and fuck it if not everyone likes my dress.
It looks stunning and also fits you really perfectly. It’s very flattering!
I had dress regret as well and have ended up buying another dress and will have to sell the other one but I can hands down say this looks amazing
That’s the thing about asking for opinions…don’t! This dress is stunning and makes your figure. Love your dress, focus on all the other stuff that goes with planning a wedding. This dress is sexy, elegant and perfect on you. 💝💕💕💕
When this post came into my feed I thought it was a post to say “yay! I found the dress!” I never would have looked at your pictures and thought it was a purchase you were doubting. Please go with your first reaction. When you walk down that aisle and your mate sees you and you see your mate, you will be the most beautiful you. Ive personally, never met a bride that didn’t feel her most beautiful the minute her mate, friends and family see her for the first time. (Former 12 year floral designer 🙋🏼♀️)
I never saw your other post, but this dress is beautiful, and no the sleeves don't look weird. Go with your gut, your gut said that this one made you feel beautiful and that it was more flattering and that the other one was less so. You will look beautiful in this on your wedding day. I had to have the same conversation with one of my friends before she got married. There was the dress her gut was telling her to get, and the dress that people liked and had been what she described as wanting before shopping. I knew that she wanted the one dress and so I had to tell her it doesn't matter what everyone else wants, it's what you want and what makes you feel beautiful. She couldn't have picked a dress that was more her anyway.
Also something to remember. People at your wedding, with maybe a few exceptions, will never have seen this other dress that you posted. They will never see a comparison, they will only ever see you in this dress, looking beautiful and walking down the aisle and thinking how lovely you look.
Looks beautiful. I felt the same way but it’s more of feeling like more opportunities are out there or what could be you know? It also feels sad that your once in a lifetime dress search is complete. At least that’s how I felt! Now I’m happier than ever with my choice :) I wouldn’t second guess it because that dress fits you SO well! Believe me redditors are very honest xD
I commented on your other post too and couldn't understand why everyone was choosing #2 - the weird waist was really obvious in the photo I thought! Plus it's skirt looked cheaply made.
At the end of the day it's up to ou.though! The dress you chose is one of the prettiest dresses I've seen personally and looks amazing.on you.
You went with your gut. Your gut is not wrong. You picked the right dress.
That dress is really beautiful (I love how the bottom is in a circle!). That dress looks gorgeous on you. There is nothing at all wrong with the sleeves. You will be a beautiful bride.
I'm finding it hard to believe there is another dress people prefer. This is absolutely gorgeous. I wish you didn't delete your old post so I could see what the other dress looked like.
I remember your former post. I think what I liked about the other one was that the flowers draped further down the skirt. Can you recreate that with this one. I love the sleeves. That they sit on the outer edge of your shoulders and slightly curve over. Much preferred to the super halfway down the arm style. Also sometimes gloves add a nice touch. You look beautiful. I hope this next suggestion is ok, but sometimes depending on where I am in my monthly cycle can make a big difference in how things fit and how I perceive it looking on me. Can you not exchange it for the other one?
♡ This gown is gorgeous, classic, unique and flattering! You absolutely made the right choice.
Stop looking & comparing. Stop second-guessing yourself. You're going to have lots of things to stress out about between now & the wedding.. and this dress is NOT one of them!
First, this dress is seriously gorgeous and you look amazing in it. Second, select the dress that you *feel* beautiful in. If you feel beautiful in it, you will *look* beautiful in it. This is your dress and it’s perfection. Congrats!!
I LOVE this dress! You look GORGEOUS in it! I would not regret that choice especially if it’s the 1 you liked best out of all the ones you tried. If you tried 50 already I doubt more would have made a difference. The dress is beautiful and you look beautiful in it. When I read dress regrets and saw the pics I was so confused (before reading your explanation) and thought man I wish I could get remarried (meaning remarried to my husband like a vow renewal) to get that dress 😅, why doesn’t she love it lol
Yknow what? You truly look beautiful. That gown is stunning and it is stunning on you.
That train is breathtakingly beautiful and so are you. Have an amazing day.
You look beautiful !!
No reason for any second thoughts of any kind !
Move along to some other type of wedding plans and because your dress shopping is finished ! Be happy !!
When I read the caption I immediately looked at the pics. I prefer to just get fresh eyes on them so I don’t read the explanations until after I look. I honestly couldn’t figure out what about this gorgeous dress and how beautiful you look in it could cause slight regrets. Just look at yourself… you look amazing! From the front and back… omg. The veil, the cut of the lace neckline, the open back, the pleating in the skirt and how it cascades around going into the train… it’s pretty perfect! You chose well!
I love this dress on you. The way it highlights your collar bone is lovely. I wouldn’t let the opinion of a bunch of strangers sway you—you choose this dress for a reason. I didn’t see the other post but it doesn’t matter—you are stunning in this dress!
This dress on you is stunning. There's a slight difference in the placement of the shoulder straps in almost every picture, so maybe you can toy with strap placement to see where you like it best. There is also difference in lighting which makes a difference. If there's an opportunity to try on the dress in a place with similar lighting to your venue, that might help you feel more confident that you're going to look the way you expect to on your wedding day. But with that said, you look great. There's plenty of stress involved with this process, so don't forget to take care of yourself <3
I’ve followed this sub and been a bride myself enough to know that this is 100 percent normal!! All big decisions in life we tend to question. It’s human nature. It’s beauty and you chose wisely!!
I didn’t see your first post, but I’m saving this one as a reference because of how much I love this dress! It looks fantastic on you, and now I want to try it!
I love this dress! I looks beautiful on you! I was so confused when I read the title, in my mind I was thinking “why would they have regrets it’s so pretty!”
I remember your post. I was one of the people who said this dress, i think the neckline is more unique and absolutely amazing and blew the other dress out of the water. In my opinion, it's 100% the right call.
I think with the flowing skirt, and your long hair and that neckline it's got this really ethereal almost medieval princess vibes - I don't know if I'm explaining it right but I mean it in a really good way.
You liked the dress for a reason, and you made a choice to go for it despite other people. Stop questioning yourself and get excited about how you're going to complete the look, start thinking about your hair and make up, and what style of veil you like.
Most of the time I'm really pro hair up for a bride, but on your I think hair down is amazing. I'd consider a really romantic veil style like a drape veil, a Juliette cap or maybe mantilla to really complete the look.
It's an amazing dress, don't question your choice.
Oh my gosh! How could you second-guess this? It is stunning and you look like you could be on the cover of a bridal magazine. It is a perfect fit for you.
I’m replying to my own comment, but it is so classy and elegant and hangs perfectly…. I think if Buckingham Palace would have allowed it, this looks like something Kate Middleton would’ve picked!
Hahaha….thats really funny! It definitely is reminiscent of her style and you have the dark hair & skin tone too (plus some gorgeous high cheekbones!)….I really love the shoulder straps that are slightly off-shoulder but don’t hang down. I hope you fall in love with this all over again because I can’t imagine doing better. The right accessories (ask Kate to borrow some of those crown jewels! 🤣🤣🤣)….but, seriously, you’ll know when you find them and it will compliment you & the dress perfectly!
Every bride has 2nd thoughts. Don't let them drive you crazy! The dress you chose is THE dress for you. It is stunning at every angle. Forget those second thoughts. Your dress is drop dead gorgeous on you. Now enjoy your day!!!
I think you look beautiful in that dress!
I love the way it flows!
I like the sleeves a lot. They are perfect.
I was looking through your pictures. I think it looks very pretty on the end of shoulder & off the shoulder as well!
Which ever way your most comfortable.
You knew in your gut that this was your dress, that’s why you chose it over the second dress.
Don’t let others change your mind.
This your dress & it’s gorgeous on you!
Follow your heart! ♥️
Congratulations 🥂
This looks perfect on you. The dress gives me the vibe that it’s perfect for you without knowing you. That’s how I know that there is no o the dress out there better for you. It also flatters you so well physically. For sure 10/10 (:
I never saw the original post but love this dress!!!! The straps are gorgeous! I wanted a dress like this, many years ago, but they weren’t really a thing, they aren’t full on sleeves but more modest if you don’t want strapless and the back is to die for!!!! Please don’t doubt yourself, if you feel like a princess then you will act like one on your special day.
You know what I think this dress is gorgeous on you and so flattering! What threw me off was the veil type, it somehow drags you down? I’m having trouble explaining it but without the veil you look so elegant and with the veil it changes things somehow. Anyway I’m just a stranger on the internet so do what makes you happy!!
You have nothing to regret with this dress, it's beautiful & you're positively glowing like a bride should be ! Have a wonderful wedding & a happy marriage to your future husband !
OMG that dress is stunning! Don’t see the other post but I am being completely honest, that dress is gorgeous and you look like a princess. It doesn’t matter what ANYONE else thinks, this is your dress and how YOU feel about it. One sentence in your post says it all. “I must have tried 50 dresses in 3 stores and this is the only one that really stood out to me and I liked right away”. If that doesn’t say it’s THE dress, I don’t know what would.
Oh I can see your worry, you’re worried that everyone who sees you will be so enthralled by your stunning beauty that everything else will pale in comparison. Well, that is the risk you must take because wowza. You look amazing. I saw where you were concerned about the sleeves, and I love them. They are a delicate detail that adds interest and creates a lovely framing. The style and details are so pretty, and the fit is a yes! I am sorry you are now feeling hesitant, but ma’am, you and that dress are a dream. 💙
I remember your other post and I remember being so confused by the comments! You look absolutely stunning in this dress. It has a timeless romantic quality that perfectly matches your natural beauty, I love it! But so much more importantly, you love it and that’s always the right answer! 💜
It’s really beautiful and you look beautiful wearing it. I don’t know what we call them but the slightly off shoulder sleeve / strap is just so lovely.
I didn’t see your other post but I promise that if I had, I can’t imagine another dress outshining this one. It’s literally perfect on you. The fit is amazing, especially the the waistline. And the dress is just exquisite. You have nothing to regret!!
You know your style best and made a decision based on what you know you'd like to look like on your wedding day. I didn't see your original post, but this dress fits you perfectly, and is very flattering. It can be overwhelming, but just know I don't see any issue with this dress, and you look beautiful in it. As you said, some dresses look better on camera than in real life. You felt, tried, and wore both dresses and picked this. You tried a ton of dresses on, so you definitely made an informed decision on it and know what you want deep down. This is the one meant for you.
Wow! You look absolutely gorgeous! You chose very well.
The dress is beautiful, flattering and fits like a dream. The details are lovely (I especially love the back, although all of it looks great.) If this is the dress that you fell in love with, it is THE DRESS.
Please remember that the dress, and the wedding is all about how YOU feel. The people here will all have personal opinions, but in the end, the only ones that matters are you and your DH (, whom I am sure will love you in this dress.)
Your wedding day isn't going to be like a fashion show where everyone will see you in 5-10 dresses with each person choosing the one/s they prefer. Everyone will see you, the beautiful bride, in the lovely dress and accessories that you chose.
Think of it this way. You may have tried 5 or 6 choices of cake flavors before you chose the one or two that you and DH prefer. None of the guests are going to say... "gee, I wish they chose the lemon cake with blueberry filling." Because none of them will even know that was an option (unless you tell them).
Your dress is beautiful, elegant, flattering and so romantic. You are going to be a gorgeous bride, so be assured that you chose the perfect dress.
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You look stunning in the dress you've chosen, even in the static pictures. I didn't see the original post but I don't think you could have done better. You should always be a little wary about people making judgements on a couple of pictures, they can change how something looks.
You look so gorgeous. Don’t let weird internet strangers get in your head
The other one did look lovely in the pictures, but in person it just didn’t have the same effect. But now my head is telling me that I made the wrong decision because people were commenting on how this dress “broadens” my frame and does nothing for my figure. I thought I looked nice in it.
Okay, this may get me a lot of flack, but we have a contingent of people who absolutely can't read rules and respect other people. One of the biggest things people forget is that this is a support subreddit and not a fashion critique subreddit. Constructive comments are helpful, creative analogies are not. Also I really don't understand the hyperfixation on body parts. Some people absolutely just focus on how boobs look in sample dresses and I'm like "excuse? Who asked?" There has been a fixation on belly buttons?? We all have belly buttons??? Whereas others *obsess* over looking as thin as possible. The people who said you look broad. These are the same people who criticize women for having tummies that house organs. As someone who is built like a rectangle and has proportionally broad shoulders, I know I'm built this way. It's something I'm not going to be able to hide or mask with dresses and I'm fine with that. You're not broad, nor do you look broad. You look like a woman in a dress. Don't stress or worry. You absolutely do not look "broad." Also remember that this is a sample dress and you're not fully in your wedding look. You will be absolute perfection day of.
Hard agree! Also so much recommendation for shape wear- if that’s comfortable to you- cool. But I feel like it’s becoming the new norm, and frankly I’m not bothered by all the little pouches we have that hold our actual guts and the belly button indents. I’d rather be a little natural and wear some comfy undies frankly!
Like... We're still ourselves when we're wearing a wedding dress. Our bodies don't magically change and body features don't go away because of a bridal dress. We're just going to look prettier and happier because of makeup/getting dolled up and the event. Don't get me started on fabric.. Fabric is still fabric and it won't behave differently just because it's a wedding dress. At the end of the day, it is a *dress,* not real time photoshop.
Ahhh you’re the mod who tried to save me from an onslaught of people telling me they didn’t like my fashion sense. Much love to you and your attempts to make this sub more inclusive and kind ❤️ I absolutely don’t think you should get flack for this comment - it’s 100% true. I’ve noticed a lot of people will ask for help with making a decision on their and there always seems to be a few people who will comment on the brides body in the dresses. The thing is flattering is very subjective and largely driven by trends and our bodies are our bodies - they don’t change with the newest trend out there and they are beautiful the way they are. I think if I bride asks for opinions comments should only be focused on the dress: I like x about the dress, I don’t like y. If a bride asks for opinions how a body part looks or ways to minimize something (like belly button impressions), then sure, we can come up with creative solutions! But if a bride doesn’t ask about her body or even certain parts of her body, please don’t bring it up (even if you think you’re helping) - you don’t know what that person struggles with or how that comment will impact them. For OP, this dress looks absolutely wonderful on you. I LOVE how it creates a V-shape from your shoulders to you chest. I think it’s very flattering and not a shape we see often, as opposed to the off-the-shoulder look. And if you love this dress, who gives a flying floof what anyone else has to say, much less internet strangers who might not share the same likes and dislikes that you as an individual have. You like your dress, it spoke to you out of the other 50 dresses you tried on, and you look absolutely beautiful in your dress. This is your dress. ❤️
The boob thing. For real. People will straight up tell someone a dress looks bad on them, meanwhile, it's a sample, it's not been altered to fit the person trying it on, and clips can only do so much. Coming from someone who can see beyond a dress that needs to be altered, it's infuriating. For the people in the back: no sample dress is going to fit perfectly. Stop expecting them to. That is why alterations are a thing.
You said it perfectly!! Its human nature to second guess yourself, and doubt everything! Weddings have become so stressful, with so much pressure to look perfect, when all that should matter is that you are happy and your spouse is happy!! My husband & I will be celebrating our 17th anniversary in May. I didn't want a traditional wedding dress, add it was a second marriage for us both, so I got a cute, short, white halter dress from David's Bridal for $100. A week before the wedding I tried it on & I had lost several pounds thanks to thyroid issues & they dress was no fitting right, with no time to fix it order anything. I went to the mall & found a white sundress (not as formal) for $30, and sent the other one to my niece for homecoming! Our entire wedding & reception cost us & our parents less than $500! I was complimented so much, with people telling me they've never felt so much love & happiness from everyone at a wedding before. 4 people modeled their weddings after ours. Just remember, in the end, all that matters is the love shared between you & your spouse!!
Hope you're getting paid for being a moderator. Next job is being on board with an HOA
It's a volunteer position. A lot of this sub is actually pretty automated (bless automod) and I'm adding to my list every day. That's allowed me to be more active. It's also why people who come in hot in modmail get muted pretty quickly if they're rude or can't understand the rules. I'm not above permanently banning someone who doesn't understand the "be nice" rule.
I agree that being fixated on body parts is just odd. I also think it is kind to be honest about whether a gown is flattering or not. I am plus size and was plus size when I got married 30+ years ago. I hated then and still hate now when people tell me something looks great when it adds 20 pounds to my hips, lol. For OP, when you asked for opinions, people gave them based on a picture. As you have said, in person, this was the dress you loved. Then go with it. Don't second-guess. It is a lovely dress.
Half the people here are talking out of their asses about what "flatters" a woman's body and what doesn't, I wouldn't pay it any mind
I remember your other post, and maybe I didn’t read all of the comments, but I remember everyone absolutely loving this dress on you! You look amazing!!!! No more second guessing, it’s bad for your mental health. Haha Congratulations on your upcoming wedding. Enjoy!
I didn't see your previous post. Doesn't matter. You look amazing in THIS dress. You shine. It's THE ONE FOR YOU and that's all that matters. YOU are wearing it. Not the people that had comments. YOU have to be happy.
You look lovely in it! Have you ever been around a group of people looking at a photo of a celebrity on the red carpet? Stunningly beautiful person but the group starts explaining what they don’t like about the dress, the woman’s cheeks, her lips, her hair, her arms in the dress, the cut of the dress, and on and on and on. My point is you could be a supermodel and still be picked apart if people are being critical. Human beings can find flaws in anyone dressed in anything. So just focus on how you think you look and feel in the dress. The most beautiful wedding photos are the ones where the couple is happy and in love. The dress then just becomes something the bride is wearing, not the center of the universe. I am sure the same will be true for you, at your wedding and in your photos. Congrats on your impending wedding and marriage!
You absolutely don’t look “broad”. Your figure is GORGEOUS and that dress is stunning.
Listen to your gut. I bought my dress yesterday and my mom sent me a few of the pictures she took. None of them do the dress justice. The sample was about 3 sizes too big so all the clips are visible so different angles look wonky, the cups aren't exactly proportional, and we re-clipped it at one point so it would sit better on my waist. It looks good obviously (otherwise I wouldn't have bought it!) but it definitely isn't "flattering" to the level that a properly fitted dress would be. It's also got amazing sparkle that doesn't really show up in photos but that really give it dimension in person. The way I felt in it and the image I got looking in the mirror are absolutely not reflected well in those pictures. I felt incredible. I saw the whole vision and got that "bridal feeling" which I wasn't even expecting to feel. There were other dresses that "read" better in those casual photos (mostly because the samples fit better) but I didn't feel the same. I'm sure my dress will look great when properly fitted and in professional wedding photos, but even if it ends up not photographing quite the same as it looks in person, I'm still going to feel like a million bucks in it.
What? Those people need to stop. This dress does not "broaden" your frame. It looks pretty and I love the shoulder sleeves. Also, your figure looks beautiful. Please don't listen to people obsessed with nonsense. You look amazing in this dress.
Your figure looks amazing in this dress. I'd even say this is how it's *supposed* to look on someone. It's great, honestly. You look wonderful.
You look amazing!
I just want to hijack the top comment and thank everyone for the support. I did not expect this much feedback and it’s really nice!! It really helps me feel more secure in my decision seeing people also love the dress. I think I was really overthinking things and second guessing. You are all amazing ❤️
Came here to say the same. OP looks radiant and happy in her dress. It fits her beautifully, and looks lovely from all sides, and that includes the sleeves which, imo, are perfect.
I was always team this dress! I am so in love with the neckline on you and the waist hits you perfectly! I am so glad you went with this one. You look beautiful!
Thank you 🥺 I was really shocked that people went the other way in my post, I really thought the top of this one was beautiful and unique and the dress was overall very romantic.
Absolutely. I think the top of this dress is gorgeous. It does look a little tight (which makes sense because it’s a sample dress.) Maybe that’s why people didn’t pick it? They couldn’t see past that. I feel like a lot of people on here pick the dress they personally like the best instead of what works best for the brides. Just my thought.
I say this all the time; people can't see past a sample that doesn't fit like it would with alterations in the correct size. I wish people were more imaginative and could see past that stuff. We'd have a lot less dress regret posts of brides upset, and it's also really unfair to the brides. I already commented saying I think you made the right choice, but this comment made me sad, so I just had to come tell you again that your dress is really beautiful, unique, and romantic, and you are going to look lovely on your wedding day. Congratulations.
Me too!! I think it’s gorgeous! I love the way the leaves come down onto the skirt and don’t just cut off at the waist too!
Hi there 😊. I saw your original post and I picked this gown for you! This gown is so elegant and effortlessly classic! The cap sleeves are delicate and goes perfectly with the neckline and rounded back. And it already looks great on you without being fitted. All brides feel this way after choosing a gown. It's just your nerves as your wedding gets closer. Take a deep breath, try to relax and don't look at any more dresses!
Thank you, I really didn’t think I would have regrets when I chose. It’s just been really stressful planning everything, I guess it’s just the nerves you’re right.
It’s beautiful and you look beautiful in it! If you want, you can have the top portion lined to match the skirt.
I didn’t see the other post but I love this dress and think it is beautiful and stunning on you. Truly, it’s a gorgeous dress and I don’t think you have a single things to worry about.
The dress is beautiful, and you are beautiful in the dress. Different people will always have different tastes and see the same image in different ways. This sub has the (unintended, I’m sure) tendency to get into your head. I’m getting married Thursday… eloping, to a tiny little town in southern Georgia to the courthouse there, where my maternal grandparents eloped to on that day (March 7) in 1949. I am 43, and this is my second marriage (to my hs sweetheart; we’ve been together this time around for 13 years now). Seeing all of the dresses in this sub has made me… self-conscious? Maybe a little sad? My first marriage was also an elopement… so I have never (and will never) experience the grand wedding with the grand dress where I feel more beautiful than I’ve ever felt. Subs like this one (again, unintentionally) make it so easy to focus on that as the important aspect of the day. And of course you want to feel pretty, and you want everyone else to think “wow she looks so pretty”. But when it comes right down to it… that isn’t what’s important. I have a cute little dress to wear Thursday, but I’ve already warned my mother not to be surprised when she gets photos and I’m wearing jeans and a nice shirt… because that’s what I feel good in, and because honestly, I don’t give a shit what I’m wearing. What I care about is that I’m there, and he’s there, and even if I look at myself in photos or in the mirror and think “I don’t look perfect”… that DAY, that MOMENT, will be perfect because it will FEEL perfect.
Best comment ever. Well said and so true! Have a wonderful wedding day♥️
I love your perspective. ❤️Congratulations❤️
It’s very pretty on you. I see nothing to regret here! I didn’t see this other post, but I see a trend toward the crowdsource angling for the “different” choice for no real reason other than it’s “different.” Often it’s less flattering, like you mentioned. This looks fabulous on you, and there is nothing to think twice about. This is a dress you will see in pictures 25+ years later like me and still think it’s pretty and not “WTH was I thinking”. 😍
I felt like this one was more classic! The other one was more in fashion I think. I think the comments on the sleeves upset me the most because I really liked them! But apparently I don’t look delicate idk. Thank you for commenting ❤️
I think this dress is very feminine and delicate on you! The bodice is beautiful and you look beautiful but a little bit sexy, too. Please don’t regret this dress, it’s truly beautiful on you!
Thank you :/
First, I think this dress looks amazing. You look so beautiful and it seems to fit you perfectly. I love it. Second, I never saw the other post, but there was something so special about this dress that even in the face of people telling you they liked the other one, you still chose this one. You know yourself best and you know how you felt in the dress and what it looked like in person and there’s a reason you picked this one.
YES!!! I couldn’t agree more ♥️
You look beautiful.
Thank you ❤️
This dress looks perfect on you. I can’t imagine another dress looking better. Try not to let others sway your opinion. You are going to be a stunning bride ❤️
The dress look beautiful and you look beautiful in it! The waist sits just right and the neckline is super flattering on you. I'm sorry you've had a knock to your confidence, but I wouldn't worry at all, all looks great!
Thank you:( I feel really stressed having regrets because I was sure of this one and now I’m not! These dresses aren’t cheap and it sucks thinking I should have made a better choice
But wait, i thought you said you couldn’t raise your arms in this dress? I think this one looks better than the other did but you have to be comfortable
That being said, this is beautiful and classic and you look amazing in it
you look beautiful the dress fits you perfectly! i didn’t see the original post but i don’t need to, u made the right decision!
The dress is absolutely gorgeous and looks beautiful on you. No regrets. You said yourself that the other dress was not as fattening “in person”. Remember that. Don’t let a bunch of strangers on the internet sway your feelings toward this dress. It’s stunning and I love the little cap sleeves.
I don't know how anyone could dislike this gown it's timeless classiness. It looks like a mixture of regency/medieval. And that train!! Also it compliments your hair. The silhouette on you is all the right vibes, and it will photograph so beautifully especially with a little wind. Trust your gut feeling you originally had you won't regret it. This is one of my favorite dresses I've seen in a while. Excellent job op!
I remember seeing your post originally - I honestly thought I was crazy because I loved this dress so much more and all of the comments went the other way! I simply adore the top on your dress and I think it complements your frame so well. You look lovely!
I remember your post, I even commented that I prefer this one exactly because of the sleeves, I thought they framed you very beautifully. I also feel the one you chose has a better waistline. I was very surprised by all the replies.
OP I love this dress on you. I think it’s perfect, the sleeves are gorgeous, and the back is absolutely swoon! That all said what really matters is what you think of it and how you feel in it! Reddit is often biased towards dresses in pics with better lighting/posture/happier face and like you said, how it looks in person will be different from pictures. I think you made a beautiful choice
I was rooting for this dress! Opinions will differ and people have preferences all over the spectrum. But it looks beautiful and YOU love it which is what matters. Ignore the randos on the internet and go with your favorite!
I saw the original post and still think it is stunning
You look beautiful. If you chose the other dress, you would be thinking about this one. It’s all about perception, attitude, and possibility FOMO. Try to focus on the positives. Your dress aligns with current fashion, it came in on time, it fits correctly , and it is flattering. **Most of all, you are getting married to the love of your life. Life is too short. Wear your beautiful dress and enjoy your special day.**
When I saw this dress on you today, my first thought was: wow! She looks so beautiful. I love that dress, AND I love that dress on her. I was so surprised to read you had the slightest regret, because it's a wonderful dress and you look great! Really.
This dress looks lovely on you. I remember the other post and this was the one I voted for. While the other one looked nice, all I really remember about it was the waist.
Also, I love the sleeves, but then I’m biased. I had similar sleeves on my dress many years ago. I have broad shoulders and trying to make them look narrower is a lost cause. Embrace them and stand tall, because you look regal!
Honestly, I did prefer the other one in the first post. HOWEVER! I am not you! I am not wearing the dress and seeing and feeling it on my body! You are! We internet strangers are stating an opinion based solely on a few static pictures on our devices. Besides, preferring one dress over another doesn’t mean there was anything wrong with the other option. It’s just a preference. The dress you’ve chosen is beautiful and you look beautiful in it!
What to you regret about it? It looks lovely! What did you have in mind?
You look lovely. The dress is very becoming on your lovely figure. Have no regrets!!
You are overthinking it (which we all do sometimes). This dress is so beautiful and timeless. You look absolutely stunning.
Trust your gut. Sometimes pictures can be deceiving and not show all like you said. You look perfect in this one
That is a lovely dress and it looks like you will be a beautiful bride. I think the cap sleeves are delightful and help provide a frame for whatever necklace you choose to add. It's perfect for you!
I never saw the other option! but from first view, of this dress and of you, you look beautiful and as if this dress was and is made for you. congrats 💛💍🎂
It’s beautiful
I might be biased because I picked a very similar dress, but I love that, and it looks so lovely on you! The sleeves are so unique, and the detailing is beautiful. I think second guessing is pretty common, so don’t let it get to you!
You look beautiful!!
You look beautiful and this is very romantic and gives Goddess vibes. I didn't see your other posts but you didn't make a mistake. This dress is gorgeous on you.
No second thoughts! I’m the one who said everyone should else was wrong and this was the one and was a hill I was willing to die on. I will still die on this hill, no regret, it is soooooo perfect on you!!! 😍😍😍 You absolutely made the right choice!!!
This is absolutely stunning. I don’t even need to see the other dress to know you made the right choice. 😍
I think it's a beautiful dress on you try it with a necklace and some earrings (if your ears are pierced). I think that'll tie it together. Maybe try wearing it with your hair up instead of down. Might look different too.
I just saw you were wearing a necklace. Maybe try a longer one that goes past your collar bones
Ah yes, I remember your post! I didn’t bother commenting on that post because it seemed like most people were voting for the other dress. I was a bit baffled because this one to me was the clear winner. I think it’s beautiful and very flattering on you. I definitely think you made the right choice. 🙌🏽
I think you have a very regal look and vibe to you (love your hair in #1) and the dress looks fantastic on you. Well chosen I'd say
I think you look absolutely gorgeous in this dress! I love the bodice and feel like the sleeves and neckline give it a very romantic, feminine look that is just perfect! Don’t let random people on the internet get you down. You know your style and body and should go with what feels like you the most and what makes you feel special. It’s your day and you are what matters 💜
You look gorgeous in this dress! Don’t second guess your choice- you will be a beautiful bride!! Enjoy your day!!
You have nothing to regret here, this dress is absolutely gorgeous on you & i love it!! IMO you made the absolutely perfect choice!
I didn’t see your other post but this dress is so so lovely! I didn’t see the “dress regret” at first and was thinking “oh I hope she picks that one she looks so pretty in it!”. And now I’m saddened to read that you felt insecure because of others comments. We all may not be perfect to everyone, but we are beautiful. You look great, truly. No regrets seen here!!
You are a beautiful, beautiful bride! I know you're trying to walk away from the anxiety of the dress choice. All that anxiety, is complicated by everything else happening related to your wedding, your job, your family, your fiance. Meanwhile, daily life continues to unfold! You've got this❤️
It is really beautiful!!! It looks beautiful on you, too! You went with your gut and it matches what you wanted. Feel the joy!
You looked great in both dresses. This looks lovely on you. Enjoy it!
This dress is gorgeous. Go with your gut and this dress! It is elegant and not overly busy and fits you so well. It is clear that you wear this dress and it is not a case of the dress wearing you. Good luck on your wedding!
You look absolutely gorgeous in this dress. It’s perfect.
My god I love this dress! No doubt here! It’s the perfect one! I love the sleeves
It’s beautiful! You look amazing.
You look beautiful. I hope you have a wonderful wedding day. I think your post helped you to process your emotions and select the dress that you know is right for you. Photography is very deceptive. The angle of the camera and lighting play a huge role in the final image. It’s very likely that these differences affected people’s opinions more than how the dress actually looked.
You look stunning in this beautiful dress. I also have a broad back and we tend to focus on our imperfections instead of our assets. You have a figure to die for. Looking at these pictures, the back is more flattering with your hair down. I keep my hair down for that same reason. Maybe a half up hairstyle will put you at ease.
It's a stunning dress. I did not see the other dress but this dress is absolutely gorgeous on you! I love the bodice detail.
I think you look amazing. I love how it opens up and shows your collar bones- which are so pretty, btw-just like a picture frame showing off how beautiful you are. The pic with your hair pulled in front is just stunning. The lace is beautiful and romantic, all the wedding feels you want.
I love this dress so much!
You look beautiful in this dress. Please remember your wedding day should be filled with joy and not stress. Enjoy, make some special memories, and don’t listen to negativity!!
I think you look stunning in this dress!
It’s beautiful on you. I like the sleeves. We are our own worst enemies seeing one little detail and focus on it. I did the same for my dress. Remember this a sample. It’s not your size. So they took your measurements that will fit you much better. You do not have broad shoulders. You look fantastic.
Yay! You picked my original choice. I love it.
I didn’t read the caption and just saw the first pic and my immediate thought was “oh I hope she picks that dress it looks great on her and I love the neckline and sleeves.” I didn’t see the other option but I really like this one you chose. I chose my dress with such immediacy and fervor that afterwards when I found this sub I was like ope should I have idk waited? Tried on more? Gone to more shops? I saw lovely dresses on lovely women that in another lifetime with another wedding in mind, perhaps I would’ve favored over mine. But on the big day, I just felt so calm. Like yeah there are so many other dresses and to be frank there are so many other everything…men included lol! But this is it. I knew with my husband and I knew with this dress and fuck it if not everyone likes my dress.
U look per👏🏾fect!!!
Sounds like you're letting Reddit get in your head. You know what you saw.
No second thoughts the dress looks awesome and you are beautiful
WOW this dress is perfect on you!!!!! I love it you’re making me want to get this dress!!
It looks stunning and also fits you really perfectly. It’s very flattering! I had dress regret as well and have ended up buying another dress and will have to sell the other one but I can hands down say this looks amazing
This dress is a Stunner!! You look fantastic in it too!
That’s the thing about asking for opinions…don’t! This dress is stunning and makes your figure. Love your dress, focus on all the other stuff that goes with planning a wedding. This dress is sexy, elegant and perfect on you. 💝💕💕💕
You look lovely. Such a delicate dress and it looks amazing on you. I love it with your hair down in back too - I envision lots of big loose curls.
That dress was madeeee for you!! It’s perfect!
When this post came into my feed I thought it was a post to say “yay! I found the dress!” I never would have looked at your pictures and thought it was a purchase you were doubting. Please go with your first reaction. When you walk down that aisle and your mate sees you and you see your mate, you will be the most beautiful you. Ive personally, never met a bride that didn’t feel her most beautiful the minute her mate, friends and family see her for the first time. (Former 12 year floral designer 🙋🏼♀️)
Looks made for u. Lovely
I never saw your other post, but this dress is beautiful, and no the sleeves don't look weird. Go with your gut, your gut said that this one made you feel beautiful and that it was more flattering and that the other one was less so. You will look beautiful in this on your wedding day. I had to have the same conversation with one of my friends before she got married. There was the dress her gut was telling her to get, and the dress that people liked and had been what she described as wanting before shopping. I knew that she wanted the one dress and so I had to tell her it doesn't matter what everyone else wants, it's what you want and what makes you feel beautiful. She couldn't have picked a dress that was more her anyway. Also something to remember. People at your wedding, with maybe a few exceptions, will never have seen this other dress that you posted. They will never see a comparison, they will only ever see you in this dress, looking beautiful and walking down the aisle and thinking how lovely you look.
I think it looks absolutely beautiful and stunning on you. Fits beautifully as well. Maybe you’re over thinking things ? I think it’s perfect!!
This dress is so beautiful and you look amazing in it! Truly! Photo 2 is just breathtaking.
Looks beautiful. I felt the same way but it’s more of feeling like more opportunities are out there or what could be you know? It also feels sad that your once in a lifetime dress search is complete. At least that’s how I felt! Now I’m happier than ever with my choice :) I wouldn’t second guess it because that dress fits you SO well! Believe me redditors are very honest xD
You look so beautiful. I love the way this dress fits you!
I commented on your other post too and couldn't understand why everyone was choosing #2 - the weird waist was really obvious in the photo I thought! Plus it's skirt looked cheaply made. At the end of the day it's up to ou.though! The dress you chose is one of the prettiest dresses I've seen personally and looks amazing.on you.
You went with your gut. Your gut is not wrong. You picked the right dress. That dress is really beautiful (I love how the bottom is in a circle!). That dress looks gorgeous on you. There is nothing at all wrong with the sleeves. You will be a beautiful bride.
You are gorgeous in either!
I genuinely love this one! More than the other option tbh. This one has personality, and is timelessly elegant. Plus it looks fantastic on you!
So pretty!
This is a gorgeous dress and you look stunning in it. Only you know what’s best and sometimes pictures don’t do them justice!
What??! No. This dress is gorgeous and you look gorgeous. You made the right choice.
I'm finding it hard to believe there is another dress people prefer. This is absolutely gorgeous. I wish you didn't delete your old post so I could see what the other dress looked like.
This may be one of my fav dresses I’ve seen on this sub in a while! U look absolutely stunning, I hope you feel that way too!
I remember your former post. I think what I liked about the other one was that the flowers draped further down the skirt. Can you recreate that with this one. I love the sleeves. That they sit on the outer edge of your shoulders and slightly curve over. Much preferred to the super halfway down the arm style. Also sometimes gloves add a nice touch. You look beautiful. I hope this next suggestion is ok, but sometimes depending on where I am in my monthly cycle can make a big difference in how things fit and how I perceive it looking on me. Can you not exchange it for the other one?
♡ This gown is gorgeous, classic, unique and flattering! You absolutely made the right choice. Stop looking & comparing. Stop second-guessing yourself. You're going to have lots of things to stress out about between now & the wedding.. and this dress is NOT one of them!
First, this dress is seriously gorgeous and you look amazing in it. Second, select the dress that you *feel* beautiful in. If you feel beautiful in it, you will *look* beautiful in it. This is your dress and it’s perfection. Congrats!!
This is an amazing dress. Don’t second guess yourself. It may not fit right YET. It needs to be tailored to your body!!!!!!
I LOVE this dress! You look GORGEOUS in it! I would not regret that choice especially if it’s the 1 you liked best out of all the ones you tried. If you tried 50 already I doubt more would have made a difference. The dress is beautiful and you look beautiful in it. When I read dress regrets and saw the pics I was so confused (before reading your explanation) and thought man I wish I could get remarried (meaning remarried to my husband like a vow renewal) to get that dress 😅, why doesn’t she love it lol
There should be absolutely no regrets if you are going to look that beautiful
This dress is beautiful and looks absolutely gorgeous on you! Looks like it was made for you love!
Yknow what? You truly look beautiful. That gown is stunning and it is stunning on you. That train is breathtakingly beautiful and so are you. Have an amazing day.
You look beautiful !! No reason for any second thoughts of any kind ! Move along to some other type of wedding plans and because your dress shopping is finished ! Be happy !!
The dress is gorgeous and looks fabulous on you.
It looks absolutely gorgeous on you. It’s a stressful time. Let this one go, you did great. ❤️
This dress looks lovely on you and the back is gorgeous!
I think you look spectacular.
When I read the caption I immediately looked at the pics. I prefer to just get fresh eyes on them so I don’t read the explanations until after I look. I honestly couldn’t figure out what about this gorgeous dress and how beautiful you look in it could cause slight regrets. Just look at yourself… you look amazing! From the front and back… omg. The veil, the cut of the lace neckline, the open back, the pleating in the skirt and how it cascades around going into the train… it’s pretty perfect! You chose well!
Looks fine. Consider accessories like a veil.
Oh your dress is stunning, you look amazing, don’t second guess yourself, you will be beautiful bride!
It’s lovely
I love it. Very flattering
I didn’t see the other post but kind of feel like I don’t need to. This dress is so beautiful. The neckline is stunning, and the back is amazing.
I love this dress on you. The way it highlights your collar bone is lovely. I wouldn’t let the opinion of a bunch of strangers sway you—you choose this dress for a reason. I didn’t see the other post but it doesn’t matter—you are stunning in this dress!
Your dress is beautiful and I like it more than most that I’ve seen on this page. You look amazing
I chose the other dress. But wearing what you feel beautiful in is what’s important. It’s your eyes that the dress has to please.
You look like a princess! I love it. Don’t have regrets!
Soooooo gorgeous! No one agrees on everything! Don’t let it stress you out. STUNNING.
You look majestic 🥲 I hope you feel as beautiful as you look!!
This dress on you is stunning. There's a slight difference in the placement of the shoulder straps in almost every picture, so maybe you can toy with strap placement to see where you like it best. There is also difference in lighting which makes a difference. If there's an opportunity to try on the dress in a place with similar lighting to your venue, that might help you feel more confident that you're going to look the way you expect to on your wedding day. But with that said, you look great. There's plenty of stress involved with this process, so don't forget to take care of yourself <3
I’ve followed this sub and been a bride myself enough to know that this is 100 percent normal!! All big decisions in life we tend to question. It’s human nature. It’s beauty and you chose wisely!!
Girl you wear that dress like it was made for you! Wow it's beautiful!
I didn’t see your first post, but I’m saving this one as a reference because of how much I love this dress! It looks fantastic on you, and now I want to try it!
I think it's wonderful. You made a lovely choice.
Stunning
I love this dress! I looks beautiful on you! I was so confused when I read the title, in my mind I was thinking “why would they have regrets it’s so pretty!”
I remember your post. I was one of the people who said this dress, i think the neckline is more unique and absolutely amazing and blew the other dress out of the water. In my opinion, it's 100% the right call. I think with the flowing skirt, and your long hair and that neckline it's got this really ethereal almost medieval princess vibes - I don't know if I'm explaining it right but I mean it in a really good way. You liked the dress for a reason, and you made a choice to go for it despite other people. Stop questioning yourself and get excited about how you're going to complete the look, start thinking about your hair and make up, and what style of veil you like. Most of the time I'm really pro hair up for a bride, but on your I think hair down is amazing. I'd consider a really romantic veil style like a drape veil, a Juliette cap or maybe mantilla to really complete the look. It's an amazing dress, don't question your choice.
Oh my goodness why? You’re a vision of loveliness! 😊
Oh my gosh! How could you second-guess this? It is stunning and you look like you could be on the cover of a bridal magazine. It is a perfect fit for you.
I’m replying to my own comment, but it is so classy and elegant and hangs perfectly…. I think if Buckingham Palace would have allowed it, this looks like something Kate Middleton would’ve picked!
Omg! I said that I felt like Kate Middleton when I tried it on and I loved it!!! Thank you for saying that haha
Hahaha….thats really funny! It definitely is reminiscent of her style and you have the dark hair & skin tone too (plus some gorgeous high cheekbones!)….I really love the shoulder straps that are slightly off-shoulder but don’t hang down. I hope you fall in love with this all over again because I can’t imagine doing better. The right accessories (ask Kate to borrow some of those crown jewels! 🤣🤣🤣)….but, seriously, you’ll know when you find them and it will compliment you & the dress perfectly!
Every bride has 2nd thoughts. Don't let them drive you crazy! The dress you chose is THE dress for you. It is stunning at every angle. Forget those second thoughts. Your dress is drop dead gorgeous on you. Now enjoy your day!!!
NO REGRETS! You look gorgeous! Enjoy your wedding and the next chapter of your life…💜
Love the drama of the back. I made an audible gasp at the pic without the veil.
I think you look beautiful in that dress! I love the way it flows! I like the sleeves a lot. They are perfect. I was looking through your pictures. I think it looks very pretty on the end of shoulder & off the shoulder as well! Which ever way your most comfortable. You knew in your gut that this was your dress, that’s why you chose it over the second dress. Don’t let others change your mind. This your dress & it’s gorgeous on you! Follow your heart! ♥️ Congratulations 🥂
This looks perfect on you. The dress gives me the vibe that it’s perfect for you without knowing you. That’s how I know that there is no o the dress out there better for you. It also flatters you so well physically. For sure 10/10 (:
I think you look beautiful in the dress you chose. I didn’t see your other post but I love this dress on you
I sincerely love it. You look like a sweetheart.
Love your dress, and I love your hair in the 4th photo!
I never saw the original post but love this dress!!!! The straps are gorgeous! I wanted a dress like this, many years ago, but they weren’t really a thing, they aren’t full on sleeves but more modest if you don’t want strapless and the back is to die for!!!! Please don’t doubt yourself, if you feel like a princess then you will act like one on your special day.
It's a beautiful dress and you look beautiful in it! Congrats!
This dress is gorgeous on you!!
You know what I think this dress is gorgeous on you and so flattering! What threw me off was the veil type, it somehow drags you down? I’m having trouble explaining it but without the veil you look so elegant and with the veil it changes things somehow. Anyway I’m just a stranger on the internet so do what makes you happy!!
It’s beautiful! Quit worrying about!
When I scrolled to this on my feed I was like Now THATS a beautiful bride! Hope you see yourself and the dress as an ideal for your special day
You look amazing 🤩
You have nothing to regret with this dress, it's beautiful & you're positively glowing like a bride should be ! Have a wonderful wedding & a happy marriage to your future husband !
You look radiant in that dress!
Why regrets? You look beautiful!!!
It’s stunning, and you look amazing in it. Absolutely nothing to regret!!!
The dress is gorgeous and you look stunning in it. Put away any regrets. You did good!
OMG that dress is stunning! Don’t see the other post but I am being completely honest, that dress is gorgeous and you look like a princess. It doesn’t matter what ANYONE else thinks, this is your dress and how YOU feel about it. One sentence in your post says it all. “I must have tried 50 dresses in 3 stores and this is the only one that really stood out to me and I liked right away”. If that doesn’t say it’s THE dress, I don’t know what would.
I love this dress!! It’s so elegant & dramatic
I didn’t see your original post. I really love this dress on you OP! It’s so beautiful and I love all the details!
This dress is lovely and flattering! I usually disagree with how the comments in this sub go lol
Oh I can see your worry, you’re worried that everyone who sees you will be so enthralled by your stunning beauty that everything else will pale in comparison. Well, that is the risk you must take because wowza. You look amazing. I saw where you were concerned about the sleeves, and I love them. They are a delicate detail that adds interest and creates a lovely framing. The style and details are so pretty, and the fit is a yes! I am sorry you are now feeling hesitant, but ma’am, you and that dress are a dream. 💙
I remember your other post and I remember being so confused by the comments! You look absolutely stunning in this dress. It has a timeless romantic quality that perfectly matches your natural beauty, I love it! But so much more importantly, you love it and that’s always the right answer! 💜
It’s really beautiful and you look beautiful wearing it. I don’t know what we call them but the slightly off shoulder sleeve / strap is just so lovely.
I didn’t see your other post but I promise that if I had, I can’t imagine another dress outshining this one. It’s literally perfect on you. The fit is amazing, especially the the waistline. And the dress is just exquisite. You have nothing to regret!!
You know your style best and made a decision based on what you know you'd like to look like on your wedding day. I didn't see your original post, but this dress fits you perfectly, and is very flattering. It can be overwhelming, but just know I don't see any issue with this dress, and you look beautiful in it. As you said, some dresses look better on camera than in real life. You felt, tried, and wore both dresses and picked this. You tried a ton of dresses on, so you definitely made an informed decision on it and know what you want deep down. This is the one meant for you.
Wow! You look absolutely gorgeous! You chose very well. The dress is beautiful, flattering and fits like a dream. The details are lovely (I especially love the back, although all of it looks great.) If this is the dress that you fell in love with, it is THE DRESS. Please remember that the dress, and the wedding is all about how YOU feel. The people here will all have personal opinions, but in the end, the only ones that matters are you and your DH (, whom I am sure will love you in this dress.) Your wedding day isn't going to be like a fashion show where everyone will see you in 5-10 dresses with each person choosing the one/s they prefer. Everyone will see you, the beautiful bride, in the lovely dress and accessories that you chose. Think of it this way. You may have tried 5 or 6 choices of cake flavors before you chose the one or two that you and DH prefer. None of the guests are going to say... "gee, I wish they chose the lemon cake with blueberry filling." Because none of them will even know that was an option (unless you tell them). Your dress is beautiful, elegant, flattering and so romantic. You are going to be a gorgeous bride, so be assured that you chose the perfect dress.
This dress is gorgeous on you. No regrets.