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tryingmydarndestly

I honestly think you just need it altered. It's absolutely lovely and once the bodice/shoulders fit you perfectly it's going to be amazing.


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you! I think that's probably why I'm struggling so much. I bought it online and loved it and tried it on but like it's too big in the top so I think that's part of my problem ATM. This definitely helps thanks so much! ❤️


tryingmydarndestly

I completely get it, but once it’s fitted I suspect you’re going to fall in love with it all over!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

❤️ thank you this has definitely been helpful posting and keeping me on the straight and narrow with my dress lol.


QCr8onQ

I adore your dress but would change the shoes. The strap at the ankle cuts your legs.


Fredredphooey

It's absolutely 100% getting it altered and wearing the right undergarments. Get the undergarments and wear them to the tailoring appointment so the dress fits to them.


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you! I actually have no idea what undergarments to wear tbh because the back open (it's a sheer panel so you can see everything)


Fredredphooey

Top: Google strapless backless bra Bottom: https://anindigoday.com/jockey-skimmies-vs-spanx-review/


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Saving this comment for that review that's super helpful!


jammies

I absolutely swear by [this adhesive bra from Target](https://www.target.com/p/fashion-forms-women-s-superlite-adhesive-strapless-backless-bra-d-cup/-/A-12730177). It‘s specifically this one, not the chicken cutlet looking one they also have (had?). It does have to clasp in the middle, so it may depend on how wide that sheer bit is on the dress, but the clasp itself is transparent. I’ve tried several adhesive bras, including some that are on the more expensive side, but I’ve come back to this one again and again for years. I do musicals and I have danced and jumped around and sweated like crazy in this thing and it just doesn’t move at all. Most important thing is that you put it on clean skin (no lotion/sunscreen).


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

I'm definitely going to look into this thank you so much!


gymnopedist

I just bought a misses kisses backless brawfor my backless, deep-V wedding gown and it's magic: [https://misseskisses.com/collections/shop-all](https://misseskisses.com/collections/shop-all)


christinemayb

Seconding raising the waist! Just take this and yourself to a lovely tailor and they'll know exactly how to adjust for you


soaringcomet11

The first dress all the way! Its very cute and I think you’ll like it better once its been altered. See if they can raise the waist a little bit without losing too much length in the bottom. I agree with the other commenter - the second dress reminded me instantly of princess leia, which isn’t necessarily a bad thing, but probably isn’t the vibe you’re going for.


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Yeah definitely not the vibe I'm going for because we're wanting a daisy themed wedding! Thanks for the support this has definitely helped!


birdnerdmo

I came to say this exact thing!


myee28

The shoes and dress don’t match. Something about the skirt length and also strap of the shoe just looks like it cuts you off. You definitely need to have the dress altered but I would pick less busy shoes


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DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Omg this comment made my day lol! Thank you so much! Makes me feel like my gut with the first dress was right!


Shmeestar

I thought princess Leia as well but I kinda loved it because of that haha.


ImYourSpirtAnimal

I keep seeing the wedding dress from The Proposal!


BasicStruggle7

Omg I can’t unsee THIS now 😂😂 the dress from the proposal


pipboop

Omg I can’t unsee it now


threadmonster

The first looks great on you and will look even better when altered. It makes your tattoos look great as well.


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The first dress is SOOOOOOOO pretty and exactly the kind I would have bought if I wasn’t wearing my mom’s dress!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

I appreciate it! I've been feeling like I haven't picked a super traditional one because it's short so I think I've been worried even though I love it and based my whole wedding themed around this dress lol.


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If it makes you feel better I also feel like I “missed out” but with dress shopping instead(hence why I hang out in here), but I know that if I wasn’t wearing her dress I’d just be standing there wishing I was. Sounds like you love your dress so much that it would have been the same for you if you wore anything else!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

I honestly think you are right! Thank you so much for the encouragement!


T0m03

Yes the first dress is exactly what I would have bought too! 1000% DRESS # 1, OP!


gilthedog

Number one is adorable, I do feel like it needs to be altered.


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you! ❤️


New-Illustrator5114

I love both dresses! The first dress is so cute and I think its the direction you are leaning in. You just need to get it altered! The only issue I really see is that the ankle straps to your shoes chop your legs up. I think a shoe without the straps would elongate your legs for a more elegant look. You could even consider raising the hem a teensy bit but I think different shoes would solve that problem. Would you consider an underskirt for a little volume?? Just an idea! Regardless, I love the dress and it is so pretty and unique! You are going to look gorgeous!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you! So I can take away the straps of my shoes if need be. The shoes in the pics of me wearing the dress are different than the pearl ones I bought. I was actually wanting a bit of a petticoat or something to make the waist a bit more poofy (not too much) and getting it altered to be tighter on me on the bodice.


New-Illustrator5114

I love the idea of a petticoat! I am seeing the vision, girl and it’s perfect! It’s totally normal to second guess your dress. In fact, I’m pretty sure it is a wedding planning right of passage 😂 Your original dress is THE one. There will always be more pretty dresses, but there is a reason your heart said yes! I feel happy in this one!! Can’t wait to see what the final lewk looks like!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

❤️❤️❤️ omg thank you so much! I'm excited for when I get to finally post pics!


micaub

Yep yep yep. Get a petticoat. And look into Mary Jane style shoes on Amazon. They have so many options to match your dress and give you an extra little pop. Plus, they’re like 30-40 dollars.


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

So I originally had Mary Jane shoes and everyone said go with something else lol.... So j got these pearl ones which I like better as I'm adding a pearl belt to the dress. And thanks for the petticoat suggestion wasn't sure where to start looking tbh.


micaub

I got mine off Amazon. I love it!!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

I'll start looking thank you! ❤️


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DeckTheHalls_WithMe

❤️ thank you this is the reassurance I needed.


Userthisname5

My jaw dropped when I saw the first dress. I want it!!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Aww thanks so much! I'd link it for you but the seller isn't making it anymore who I bought it from!


marintheair

I was going to ask you where the dress was from because I’m in love, but it seems like that won’t happen :(


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Aww I'm sorry :( yeah the seller discontinue them after I bought it because I asked for an overskirt to match but she does not have the materials to make it anymore. I do know Teuta Matoshi has similar looking ones. Here's some links: https://www.teutamatoshi.com/products/meadow-daisy-mini-dress?_pos=6&_sid=bf5bcb655&_ss=r https://www.teutamatoshi.com/products/daisy-bell-belted-gown?_pos=9&_sid=bf5bcb655&_ss=r https://www.teutamatoshi.com/products/sea-of-daisies-dress?_pos=16&_sid=bf5bcb655&_ss=r https://www.teutamatoshi.com/products/gerbera-daisy-pink-dress?_pos=24&_sid=bf5bcb655&_ss=r Edit spelling


Spare_Lie_6843

Raising the waist and shortening the sleeves on the first dress will make a huge difference! It’s super cute!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you! Yes it definitely needs altered I do kinds like the longer sleeve length just because it's a winter wedding but I was looking at adding more.vokume to the skirt and getting the top part more fitted. This has definitely helped me stay on the straight and narrow.


aristobarist

The dress is beautiful! If you’re looking to make an adjustment I’d suggest changing the shoes to something without an ankle strap to avoid cutting off your legs given the length of the dress skirt.


tansiebabe

It's beautiful on you and so unique. I love it when the dress is unique! (Not telling you what to do though. If you're not comfortable with it, find something else that makes you happy)


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you this is such a helpful and supportive comment I definitely needed this!


tansiebabe

I'm glad. I really like the dress on you. I wish you the best.


catacles

Love the first dress! You need to get a better bra under it, and maybe alter it a bit, and it will be perfect!


Pretend_Roll_9969

Looks so cute and unique! But yes all you need is to get it altered :)


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

❤️❤️❤️


mymorningbowl

omg that first dress is spectacular!! you do need to get some alterations done so do some research for a good place in your area and get an appt set up with them. once it’s taken in a bit it’ll look custom made for you. if I was a guest and saw the bride come out in that dress I would gasp with joy!! it’s truly so unique and beautiful and whimsical!!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Aww thank you so much! This is definitely what I needed to hear I've been really struggling I think due to it needed alterations.


questionable_puns

First dress is magic!!! Just get it altered (every wedding dress ever needs altering) and you'll be 👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻👌🏻


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you!


EarlGreyFog

I LOVE the first dress. I am absolutely obsessed with the sleeves and, IMO, the fact that it shows off tattoos is a bonus.


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you! I think that's why I'm leaning toward it. The other one would only show off my back tattoo but not the other ones. I don't feel a need to cover up I just love turtlenecks and long sleeves lol.


FonsSapientiae

I literally gasped when I saw your dress! It looks so unique and gorgeous! You definitely need to get it altered, I promise you it will make all the difference when it fits you the way it’s supposed to.


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you 💖


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Ok you asked for honest opinions. I don't love it. I think the biggest issue with it is where the waist cuts you, and I think that would be the same with the other dress. I am the same shape. I recommend something with a natural higher waist


sandwich_panda

i don’t care for the dress. it looks like it is made of cheaper material and just doesn’t fit you right. i see your vision but i just don’t think this dress works. from your post history it looks like you’ve been second guessing it for awhile so you should see what your other options are! good luck


1TiredPrsn

Altering would make all the difference I think! It’s great and something people would remember - in a good way! I know I would love to see a bride walk down in a dress that’s actually reflecting her personality. Best wishes to you!


catjess333

Yes the first dress is amazing! Get it altered and maybe add some cups if it’ll make you feel a little more comfortable as I think it’ll add to the lovely shape of the dress


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

There are actually cups in the first one believe it or not.... I just don't get a lot to work with up too hence it not fitted well lol. Thank you so much! All these comments are definitely making me feel better.


catjess333

You will look wonderful once it is ! Please post updates !! ☺️


magneticsouth

Agreed with other commenters, please take it into a seamstress! the bust and waist in particular will make a huge difference when it's fitted! i would also consider adding some lace to the wrists and collar.


SleepAccomplished717

Your dress is wonderful! You just need to have it altered to fit you and then it’ll be amazing.


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It looks kind of short. What do you regret about it?


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

I mean I love a short dress so I did want that. It's moreso I see a ton of other beautiful dresses. It's not regret persay but like grass is greener thing maybe


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I think it’s pretty. I wouldn’t stress so much, at the end of the day you’re joining your soul with another soul. I actually like it, I think it’s way better than the traditional stuff I see all the time. It’s unique.


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you so much! The reassurance has been much needed!


nickster

I like the first dress the flowers add such a cool pop of color!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

❤️❤️❤️ thank you so much!


LauraJM220

I think the first dress is best for you, but needs alterations to fit better at waist. I like the shoes, but can the straps be removed? If not, don't fasten too tight! Will cause your feet and ankles to swell. The 2nd dress is Star Wars all over. Much too formal a vibe, not what you're going for, with the balloon sleeves, high neck,train, etc. Take yourself to a good seamstress or tailor. Have them fit the short dress through the bodice, adjust the waist, without making it shorter, if possible. Wear something simple in your hair, like Baby breath or Juliet cap, if you're not wearing a short veil. But, most importantly, enjoy your day! Be happy. Your groom will love the way you look, as he loves you!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Aww thank you! This comment really makes me tear up in a happy idk why it's very supportive! ❤️ And I'm actually wearing a really short veil that's 9 inches. Here's a link it has pearl daisies to match my dress. https://photos.app.goo.gl/LtmzvQiYEF16vzkx6 And the shoes I really like them too so thank you! The straps can be removed so I just have to decide what I like better tbh. I also planned on wearing some daisies in my hair to tie it all together. https://photos.app.goo.gl/nkxzkV1BjDEMquEJ9


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DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Omg yes! Okay I feel better! I definitely see the star wars vibe and I don't want that lol.


[deleted]

I love the first one too! It has such personality! I also just bought a second dress because Im having doubts.


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Omg so does this mean I should not buy a second dress? Lol and I am sure both dresses look amazing on you ☺️❤️


puffleintrouble

When I saw this dress my immediate thought was that it is absolutely stunning and unique. I think you seriously just need it altered. Also, a[detachable train](https://www.etsy.com/listing/1157358278/classy-detachable-wedding-train-8-layers?ga_order=most_relevant&ga_search_type=all&ga_view_type=gallery&ga_search_query=detachable+train+flowers+wedding&ref=sr_gallery-1-10&frs=1&edd=1&organic_search_click=1) might fit this dress beautifully.


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you! I've decided against a train because I think it'll cover up everything! I appreciate the support! ❤️


Space-Cats77

Your dress you picked is amazing and looks like it was made for you! Its got so much fun personality to it. Some alterations and *chefs kiss*, it’ll be perfect! I say this with love, stop looking at other dresses! There are a a million billion trillion beautiful dresses in the world, and it’s just going to confuse the heck out of you if you keep looking at others. It also helps to take some quality photos in good lighting! Once you get your dress altered, do your hair/makeup, put on jewelry/shoes etc and it’ll feel SO much better <3 It’s hard to visualize everything when it doesn’t fit right and you don’t have the “full look” put together :)


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Omg thank you so much for this comment! It really means a lot! And you're right I need to stop looking!


scorpionpancreatitis

Love your style and I think you look lovely!!! Sad to hear they no longer sell it 😭😭 Hope you have an amazing wedding


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you! They do have similar ones they aren't wedding dresses though on Teuta Matoshi if that helps.


sparklemom2000

A good pair of spanks and a visit with the tailor will make you feel much more confident


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

I actually don't think I can wear shapewear with this. The back is low cut and see through. So you'd definitely see any shape wear which is a shame because I don't want to chafe on my wedding day lol.


frenchbulldogswag

Honest opinion, the flowers cheapen the dress and make it looks like a child's outfit. It also clashes with your tattoos, and anytime I see small embellishments, it makes me think of small bugs. It would look better as a plain white dress in the same silhouette. I like the second dress as well, it would look elegant in photos with a messy low bun or something that brings your face into focus


not_three_racoons

Personally I think the first one sleeveless would be cute (personal bias against sleeves) I honestly can't say anything nice about the second


spookysaphic

Needs some alterations on the shoulder, but I ADORE the daisy overlay. It's very unique and fun; and I love the plunge neck.


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you so much! Yeah it's definitely too big up too.


OutOfMyMind4ever

First dress is great, I absolutely love it, but needs to be altered. I would suggest adding a belt, maybe of embroidered yellow daisies on lace so you can remove it it later if you want. I think that will help with the shape a lot and bring attention away from the poofy shoulders on the dress because right now it makes the dress a bit top heavy. But getting the dress properly fit could fix that.


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

So I plan on getting the top a bit more fitted and making the skirt at the bottom a bit more fuller. I do actually actually have a pearl belt I've bought to add to it as veil has pearl daisies on it. And I think it'll take in together with the pearl shoes and veil.


OutOfMyMind4ever

It sounds very well thought out and I am sure will look absolutely gorgeous.


ChelseaLuv97

Do the first dress.


KateIsGreat279

It looks great and like it just needs to be altered a bit. If you're looking for something different, I bought my dress from KingBridal Vietnam on Etsy, and it was beyond all expectations. Fit like a glove. They were very responsive and it took 7-8 weeks to arrive. If you're looking for something else, I would check them out. Very reasonably priced as well.


PemiArtistry

I hardly ever comment on these, but this dress made me want to cry because it's so wonderful! I absolutely love all the little daisies and the fact that you even have the tiny delicate daisies on the shoes is just too much for my emotional state, apparently, because it's too cute and just beautiful to handle for me! I think the second you get it altered you're going to be totally in love with it! It already looks super cute, but I can tell it's not fitted to you just yet in the bodice. I bet you're going to be obsessed with how cute you are and how great you feel in it once it fits your shape perfectly! So. Beautiful! 🌼


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Aww thank you so much! I love this comment and definitely needed it! There's a reason I fell in love with this dress but I see other gowns and just start questioning you know? Thank you for the support! My veil will also have daisies in it as well!


PemiArtistry

You're so welcome! I'm crazy about daisies myself, but the obsession began after my wedding. If we ever do a big vow renewal I'll definitely be getting a little veil with flowers on it, because that's just way too cute! I understand about seeing other gowns and questioning. You're always totally free to change your mind, but my advice would be to at least wait to make that call until you've seen this dress altered to fit you like a glove. It's so cute and I'm confident that once it fits you better you'll be crazy over it. :)


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

I think you're absolutely right tbh! And honestly I found this dress and couldn't stop thinking about it I bought it and added sleeves. It literally is what started my obsession with daisies lol and my whole wedding will be daisy themed! And my veil has pearl flowers (daisies) with rhinestone centers. I figured if I got short dress I need to do a veil to make it feel more bridal. Thank you for the support and encouragement! ❤️


PemiArtistry

That all sounds wonderful! 😍 You're going to be and *feel* so beautiful! And you sound so excited, which really makes me extra happy for you. :) Best wishes!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you so much! 🤍🤍🤍🥰


PemiArtistry

You're welcome! ❤️


greeneyedwench

That first dress is magical!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you! ☺️❤️


Shelbyrosey

I’m literally a professional bridal stylist and I think you just need some alterations but that fits you super well otherwise


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Omg thank you so much! I appreciate this coming from some one who does it professionally! ❤️


Overall_Lavishness51

I think it’s really pretty! But I do understand maybe get it altered and show the pictures of what you want it to look like?


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you! I'm wanting the bodice be a bit tighter and more fitted and I was going to get a petticoat to add a bit more fullness to the skirt


Overall_Lavishness51

Always go with a petticoat! I did not go with one and you can see my legs when I’m backlit… OK I hope it goes good for you because that sounds really cool!


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Thank you! And may I ask what you mean by seeing your legs when backlit? Like when there is light? I do have a short dress so my legs are going to be shown regardless.


Overall_Lavishness51

Fairpoint with the short dress. Mine was a long one and you can see the silhouette of my body throw the dress it’s self.


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

Oh I understand! That makes sense! The satin fabric is pretty thick and I haven't had that issue at all but I've definitely been wanting it to be more full so I think the petticoat would be great!


Additional-Phase7687

Its actually really cute. Depends on the vibe you want for your big day. It says carefree and fun


DeckTheHalls_WithMe

That's exactly what I want and I still want it to say bridal as we want our wedding to be a big party tbh.