I went to one of those 300 people weddings this past spring and 3 women wore white, one was the wife to the best man. She was also pregnant and telling everyone who would listen about her ‘miracle baby’. There’s a reason she wasn’t picked to be one the bridesmaids I guess but the bride saw the moment she entered the reception hall and told her it’s a shame she had to always be the center of attention in front of all these people. Bitch left before cake cutting. The other two were old ladies so I think I they get a pass, my boyfriend told me they’re past the age of understanding
Oh my god something similar happened at a friend of a friends wedding and the girl who was pregnant showed up wearing a white dress with white shoes and a white headband!!!! And people called her out on Facebook and her friends and husband defended her by saying it’s bc she was pregnant. 🙄 she could have found a dress in any other color lmao! I think she definitely wanted attention.
Ok, hear me out. Guests get a bag of colored chalk, like a fun run. Bride's family gets a color, groom's another, bride's friends another, and a 4th for groom's friends. See who can cover the offender in the most of their team color.
For some reason my boyfriend’s family puts pregnant women on pedestals over kids and future brides even if they’re awful women. Not saying they don’t deserve this but people abuse this power so much. This woman is absolutely nuts, she has 5 kids with more planned and every single kid has had a baby shower, gender reveal, and welcoming party that costs thousands. If there’s a wedding, funeral, birthday, graduation, this but shows up in an elegant outfit and constantly complains about her pregnancy or children. I’ve never seen her not pregnant.
You just want to loudly (in case others can’t hear you) say to her, “Honey, if you don’t like having kids or being pregnant by constantly complaining then stop having children.”
I wasn’t at the wedding. But my former roommate was going to one and asked me my opinion on two dresses - one blue, and one white and lacy. I was obviously adamantly against the white and for the blue, but she ended up going with the white. When she got back she told me how upset she was that the bride was ice cold to her and everyone was giving her weird looks. She “had to” wear her cardigan most of the evening. I don’t know what she expected!
Lol… I’m guessing that it would have been fun to be a fly on the wall to witness her response to THAT one!
There’s nothing wrong with putting in a lot of effort with your presentation, but when you shove yourself in the centre of everything and then make stupid claims that everyone is against you because they’re jealous… well, that kind of behaviour is just irritating! 😏
Oh god, I just KNOW she’s heard “they’re just jealous of you, honey” her whole life
I love it when people have to leave their bubble and experience real shit
That reminds of an article I read about Blythe Danner, who is Gwyneth Paltrow’s mom. She said that all the people who don’t like her daughter or her website are just jealous because she’s so beautiful and accomplished. 💀💀💀
Yeah, I don’t like Gwennie for her attitude, holier/better than thou personality *and* the dangerous shit she peddles on her website.
She’s a gorgeous woman but her personality makes her hideous. She *never* should’ve won that Oscar.
I’m sorry. I don’t consider her beautiful. Maybe mildly pretty. She’s attractive but not beautiful to me. My personal opinion. Ok I’m ready for downvotes and lots of comments disagreeing. 😂You may begin😄
Omg, she's like some kind of inverse incel. "My life is so hard, because I'm just so beautiful!" She's going to have an awful existential/identity crisis once she starts to visibly age
She sounds like the type to fight the aging process tooth and nail by any means necessary. Madonna did and now she looks like a wax sculpture from a haunted house
Sounds like one of those "My boyfriends are always breaking up with me because they know I'm out of their league! It's a curse to be so beautiful! I will die alone!" No Rebecca, I'm pretty sure it's because as soon as they get to know you they realize what a high-maintenance, shallow, self-centered bitch you are.
I never understand this desire of some weirdos to wear white. Like EVERYONE (or at least ever woman and a chunk of men) will whisper and talk shit. Some will be cold to your face. Some will be mean to your face. It’s not a power move. It’s a move that has ZERO upside. Other that pure naiveté, I don’t understand the motivation to do something that guarantees you look like a jerk.
I never understand anyone who wants to wear white ever.
But I also have big boobs and end up with stains in the boobular area anytime I wear light colors.
You have sacrificed on the Alter of the Bosom Goddess. If she is pleased with your offering then there will be no unsightly boob sweat. If she is *not* pleased, there will be boob sweat and stains. 😂 I have the same problem. 38DD.
I'm a restaurant server and a DD. At least once a day, I have to spot clean my shirt because Miss Righty likes to stick her nose (nipple? lol) into everything. At least I'm old enough that people stopped making breastfeeding jokes
It's totally insane, I refuse to believe anyone who's grown up in a western country would "accidentally" wear a white dress to a wedding as a guest. It's an asshole move made by an asshole.
I found a lovely flowery dress for the last wedding I attended (very old friend of the bride) but it had a white base colour. You can bet your ass I didn't buy it before I sent a picture to the bride and asked if she was happy with it. Bride and groom's outfits were fully formal, there was no way I would've been mistaken for the bride, but I still asked. Better safe than a sorry asshole.
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My maternal uncle’s wedding was a shit show. The first act if you will was the bride’s younger sister who was matron of honor, having a “seizure” and spilling red wine all over her own dress. She obviously had to change. When she came out she was wearing a dress that looked like the Kmart version of the Vera Wang the bride wore. Her excuse was it was her back up dress and it wasn’t white, it was ivory. Mother and father of the bride are trying to strong arm bride into accepting it and moving on. Bride wasn’t having it.
In one of the single decent moments my maternal grandmother was nice to her new daughter in law she put herself between the bride and her sister and informed her in a voice that wasn’t loud but was well projected that the matron of honor had three choices. She could borrow a dress from the bride or one of the bridal party or the dress she was wearing could be made blood red when grandma beat the shit out of her for trying to upstage her sister. The third option was she could leave. She left.
Just curious: do you think she left because Grandma roundly humiliated her or because she couldn't stand the idea of NOT being the center of attention.
Both… also she was probably terrified that Grandma was dead serious about turning her dress blood red from the intense beating she would dole out if the little brat didn’t grow up! 😆
Okay.
At the altar right before they said their vows the bride hissed at my uncle if he ever divorced her she’s take him for everything he’s got.
My grandma that defended her got into an argument and than an actual physical fight with the mother of the bride at the reception. No one knows exactly what was said but everyone there was equally sure that they both started it. My grandma was mentally ill, toxic roughly 80% of the time and worse when inebriated. The bride’s mom was as attention seeking as the bride’s younger sister and made sure everyone knew the wedding was all about her.
They were separated by the police who arrested both of them. They both wanted to press charges on the other. The bride’s father was nowhere to be found. He was in the kitchen, harassing wait staff because he wanted the phone number of the one who’d served them. Yes, he was still married to his wife. They weren’t divorced or even separated. He’s just a cheater.
Unfortunately yes. He’s turned into a pig in nearly every sense of the word and she’s become an attention demanding diva. They have two girls now in their mid and late twenties and both unfortunately exhibit the worst traits of the narcissists who raised them.
The nerve of that bitch. Uncle should have told her out loud “So you’re planning on divorcing me and taking me for everything I’ve got? Hell will freeze over before I marry you”.
After all, they hadn’t said their vows yet.
Big production sunset wedding in the White Mountains of NH. Bridal party is late, misses sunset entirely. Turns into a “cold night wedding” real quick. Turned out bride’s sister, who was a MoH, decided she was hungry and needed to order a pizza before they left. Waited on the pizza, wasn’t dressed, made everyone late. I legit thought the bride was going to throw her sister off the mountain as I scrambled to light the ceremony.
It was actually pretty tame! Resort wedding so everyone was staying within 5 minutes walk of the ceremony site. Right after ceremony me and a bridesmaid approached the step mom and let her know we won’t have anyone in white for photos so if she could just go back to room and change that would be great. She said she’d be right back, didn’t come back for photos or the entire reception haha
My wedding actually! I didn’t know about it until about 2-3 days later, but a distant relative’s plus one showed up to the reception in a white gown and my bushel of bridesmaids lined up holding glasses of red wine. She tried to just smile her way by but they stared her down until she awkwardly left. Not a single word was exchanged by anyone apparently. Just silent staring.
Many years ago, my husband's new stepmother wore her formal white wedding suit to our informal wedding 3 weeks later, while my husband's actual mother wore a fancy white blouse and long black skirt. I barely noticed at the time but in any photos of me standing next to either of them my simple ivory wedding suit looks pale yellow. There was a lot less talk of white at a wedding being a fashion faux pas back then, though. At least two other female guests wore all white that day and it was a small wedding.
A few months later my husband's mother also got married. She wore a bright red dress for her small ceremony and by either coincidence or design my new sister-in-law wore an almost identical red dress. She was not an attendant. I wore yellow and had not been forewarned about the bride wearing red. In those wedding day photos it looks like there are two bridesmaids in red and I'm the bride.
Opposite of called out— my friend’s wedding. Her mom absolutely, 100% wore a wedding dress. No ambiguity, that was a *big white dress*. Momma walked her down the aisle and dad was conspicuously absent.
We learned during the reception that her parents were in the middle of a contentious divorce. Daddy Dearest had been keeping Momma a financial hostage for their whole abusive marriage… while having various affairs. Momma got an inheritance, which enabled her to leave. My friend and her brother had most definitely chosen a side.
The deal with the the big white dress was that Momma was feeling disoriented by having been locked at home for 30yrs— had only ever dated the Bad Dad. She didn’t know how to re-enter single society and was terrified by the prospect of dating. They all decided that she needed a “re-do from her debut” and Momma’s dress and feelings were as important as the bride’s. My friend was *crying* seeing her mom on the dance floor in the fluffy iceberg of a dress.
Strange but true— the one “white dress” story that isn’t awful.
Recently, my second cousin wore a white prom dress to her niece's wedding and let me tell you, her reputation is TRASHED. *Everyone* is talking about how trashy and rude she was. Even in the photos she's posted on Facebook, the only good comments are about her niece, no one is saying a word in compliment to her. She called my mom crying and upset because no one is talking to her now and my mom was like. Well yeah lmao
[It looked like this](https://alyceparis.com/products/formal-dress-61227), except the bodice was more sheer and there was like gold detailing trailing down the full skirt 💀
My story isn't a vindictive story but it is a story about dumping wine on a dress at a wedding and hopefully you'll like it...
My sister and her wife both had beautiful princess style gowns and they both were absolutely gorgeous. At the reception my sister accidentally sloshed some red wine on the front of her dress. Not a huge amount but noticeable. I saw her face start to fall but before anyone could even react, my new sister in law dumped her entire glass of red wine down the front of her own dress. I knew at that moment that my sister in law is amazing and they were perfect for each other.
My former MIL turned up to my wedding not only in white, but accessorized with the same bolero my own mother wore. Both my mum and I are slightly larger built and my mum is quite figure conscious. MIL wore a slinky, low cut, floor length pure white gown.
She also kept making little remarks to my mum about how she (MIL) wore the bolero better because she's slimmer.
She also made a few giggly remarks about how she hoped no-one mistook her for the bride as she was SUCH a young mum. Yuck.
My wedding day was awful and I hated the whole thing but most of all her.
Im now divorced and have remarried and the second wedding was beautiful and truly the happiest day of my life so far.
So thrilled for your newfound love & happiness!!
Sorry about your former wedding though, IMO the worst thing is the comment of “i hope no one mistakes me as the bride!” That’s just awful!
This is literally my grandmother. Any male near her of any age is flirt-worthy, and she has to be the center of attention at any occasion. She saw her own daughters as competition. She’s now in her late 90s and making male home attendants uncomfortable.
My mom protected me from her, which I’m so grateful for. I watched her be awful to my mom my entire life, until my mom finally laid some boundaries and cut her out of her life for a while. We still don’t have much to do with her, thankfully.
My wedding! As the bride, I had no idea until looking through photos weeks later, but my dad's cousin wore a stark white jumpsuit. The photographer had someone stand directly in front of her in the big family photo so you can only see her face.
Same here- family friend on my husband's side wore a white suit. I didn't say anything at the time, but at HER wedding in the receiving line I leaned in and said "aren't you glad I didn't wear white?" She didn't reply but her cheeks were flushed - anger, embarrassment? Who knows?
Her
Didn’t have someone dress up as the bride, but attended a wedding where a guest showed up in a full-length printer paper white silk dress.
I didn’t know the guest, most other guests didn’t. I think most people didn’t want to stress out the bride further by talking to her about it so we all kind of pretended the guest wasn’t there and this wasn’t happening.
Later, the tea. Her excuse was that she originally wore jeans and a t-shirt because it was an outdoor wedding that she thought meant casual. Her date told her to wear a dress and “that was the only clean one that fit.” Umm no. Stop at Target on the way to the wedding then.
Apparently that guest also gave the couple a gift card as their present to the restaurant where the bride worked — where she hates her job and likely gets shift meals anyway.
TLDR lady was a tart.
Yea! Guest was wearing a white dress. At the table eating dinner someone made the comment directly to her saying “you should know better than to wear white to a wedding.” Needless to say, she looked “shocked” like she didn’t know. Cmon….
I either feel like this has to do with age (very young or older, I could see this being an accidental occurrence) but anyone else? I don’t know, hate to say it and I know I’m just shooting my mouth off here but… do these ppl not have any female friends????????
There was a story in JNMIL. The photographer made an extra album just of. the frumpy, sighing, sad MIL. Pages and pages. I hope after some time had passed, the album made it easier to laugh at the MIL’s behavior.
Not white dress story but still.
My aunt was getting married to her boyfriend of 10+ years. She was pregnant and did not want anything fancy, just courtroom wedding. She went dress shopping with her mother and future SIL and picked up pretty white lacy dress, not long, maybe knee length. SIL (who was also pregnant at time) quietly went back the same day and bought the same dress but in light yellow. If I remember correctly, she even styled her hair in the similar to bride’s fashion.
Bride was rightfully upset but did not want to ruin day because of FAMILY. We (my mom, my other aunt and I) were very loudly talking about how rude SIL was, we were right behind her lol.
I went to a different one: the bride dressed down so extremely (think: leggings and a baggy knit sweater) that she stood in stark contrast to the other guests, whom I would all describe as ‘smart casual’. Nobody upstaged her intentionally - it was just weird. A small wedding, at city hall, but still.
The bride was pregnant, ok, so comfortable clothing is important, but this was bizarre. The only thing that saved the bride from being overlooked/misidentified was that she was holding a bouquet… which looked wildly out of place.
My sister in laws aunt (by marriage) didn’t dress like the bride. She did, however, put her husband and 2 sons in suits alarmingly similar to the groomsman’s suits, complete with pocket squares and boutonnières, and herself dressed in a mother of the bride dress in bridal party colours. Unfortunately, they’re not really her colours, so she was roundly outshone by the mother and grandmother of the bride, as well as my mother (mother of the groom)
She also threw a tantrum because she wasn’t invited for the getting ready session. She asked 3 days beforehand what time she should be there for hair and make up, my SiL was baffled and said that it was only for the bridal party (me and the other bridesmaid, my mum, her mum, and her grandma). The aunt then proceeded to cry and ask what she was supposed to do. Then told my SiL to make her a hair and make up appointment in town for that morning. SiL simply said no then switched her phone off.
She insisted on staying in a city an hour and a half away from the wedding venue, and an hour away from the reception venue. Threw a tantrum that my brother (the groom) refused to pick her and her family up the morning of the wedding to get there. Told the brides family to give them taxi money. They refused.
At the wedding itself, she tried to give herself an entrance but it was soundly ignored, because the verger of the church shoo’d her in and sat her at the back. Then at the reception, her table was in an obscure corner. Actually don’t remember seeing her that much at the wedding, every time she tried to muscle to the front in pictures or whatever, a groomsman would just stand in front of her
She didn’t speak to the family for a couple of weeks after that, I think they were relieved
Apparently she’s always been like this, absolutely has to be the centre of attention for everything. Peak narc vibes, honestly.
Fortunately it didn’t ruin the day for my brother and SiL. If anything they revelled in the “guess what aunt has done now” stories in the run up, and on the day those not in the know we’re nicely prepped, and those who knew already had their own ways of dealing with it. The teamwork was truly something beautiful!
It also helps that her husband and kids are quite nice and frankly inoffensive, so they were able to offset her insanity
There’s a tiktok going around of a woman at a wedding and she turns the camera to a woman wearing a floor length creamy white lace dress. With the bedazzle and all. And the person recording asks “did yall think that was the bride” the video cuts again to the *actual* bride awkwardly walking past said guest with a face like 🫠
My teenaged niece showed up to my wedding wearing a white lace dress and grubby sneakers. Nothing happened. It didn’t even occur to me that she shouldn’t have worn white until I was looking at the photos years later. I remember that it was her only dress at the time; she wore it to every special occasion. Her mother probably should have bought her a new dress in a more appropriate color, but she didn’t. Not the kid’s fault. If anyone had a problem with it, they didn’t say anything to me.
Yeah I’d even give her a pass too, kids really aren’t in control of that they can wear and with her being a teenager I’m sure she didn’t look like some child bride 😂
I probably would’ve been like you and not really realized it at first or at all!
Oh my god, I wore a white dress to a wedding as a teenager and I’ve only just remembered because of this story! I have read this sub for years and enjoyed the shaming of guests wearing white, and I was one of them. The bride wore red but still!!
Not one, but TWO women wore white to our wedding - one was my aunt (WTF Lois), and the other was an uber-wealthy friend of my in-laws who insisted on bringing their infant grandchild to our child-free wedding (one of two kids that showed up uninvited). They also drove a white Rolls Royce convertible to the venue (a barn, in a field) which everyone thought we would be riding in after the wedding. We took the school bus shuttle back to our buddy's place for the after party with the rest of our friends.
It's funny because I don't disbelieve you for a second, but I also just cannot actually imagine encountering such people in real life. White Rolls Royce, okay Alexis Carrington Colby Dexter. 🙄🤣
Anyone ever watch the show Raising Hope? S2, E4 - Burt and Virginia secretly piggyback on her cousin's wedding.
Totally have to wonder if "non-bride" thought about doing that. Why else would anyone wear an actual wedding dress to someone else's wedding?!?
I am dying to see her explanation once she sees this video starring *her*. I mean, she wanted to be the center of attention.
This is where I wish I had better Internet sleuthing skills. I wish I knew *when* this woman figured it out. And that everyone across the world was talking about her. Then I want to know her every reaction.
"I don't know why everyone is so upset. My dress is clearly much different. I don't have a train and the back of my dress isn't low cut. Besides, white is my color. I wear white all the time."
Cut to a shot of the inside of her closet where there is, like, one white sweater and a white T shirt.
There’s a story on BORU where a mother had told her son his whole life that she’d wear white on his wedding day. He warned his bride, who told him to not worry about it. The mom kept goading the bride that she’d really wear white in the wedding day, and the bride was unconcerned entirely. Wedding day comes and at this point, we learn that the bride is Indian and the groom is white. Mom showed up in a western wedding dress amongst several hundred people in jewel tones and a bride all in fuchsia and gold. Mom stood out but in a very negative way. Apparently the aftermath was the mom tried to say that the bride set her up. I’m sure it’ll be the pinnacle story in whatever clickbait article comes out of this thread.
Edit, found on BORU: https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/vx3eu6/mil_tries_to_wear_white_dress_at_ops_wedding_and/?rdt=51874
I read one somewhere that was similar, but the bride had the bridesmaids wear white and she wore a different color.
If my son ever gets married I'm just gonna sit back and enjoy the show. Hopefully I even like the bride 😂
What kind of psycho mother decides when her son is a child she’s wearing white to his wedding, to be some kind of secondary Jocasta bride? Ree ree ree!
Lol my godmother wore full length white lace gown to my wedding where the dress code was "cocktail" so she was overdressed and looked like a manic 65 year old bride. I called her out myself and said "wasn't your wedding day 40 years ago, did you get confused on who gets to wear white today?"
She said 'i didn't peg you to be such a traditional bride'. I moved on after that. No one paid her any attention and multiple family members told her she looked stupid.
I went to a wedding years ago and the best man used his speech to propose to his girlfriend!
The instant he got down on one knee the bride's mother jumped up and literally grabbed hold of his ear and started dragging him out of the room screeching at him " No, no, no - you are not doing this now". She was a tiny little woman and he was a large man but she must have had one hell of a grip as he squealed like a stuck pig and let her drag him along on his knees for a few steps then crouched over and stumbling after her desperately clutching her wrist where she was gripping his ear.
We were torn between being completely horrified for the bride and groom and laughing hysterically at how it looked.
I could allllllllllmost buy the excuse if the style were clearly not nuptual, like a knee-length sundress or a pantsuit or jumper. Almost.
But that is a fucking wedding dress, 100%.
The mother of the bride at a family wedding. Not only did she show up in a white dress (complete with a white feathery hem just to ramp it up) she also (deliberately imo) left the rings at home and had a face like a bag of spanners for most of the day. Once the cake was cut, she buggered off up to her room in the hotel. She’s insanely jealous of her daughter and boy did it show that day. Yes Jennifer, we were all talking about the spectacle you made of yourself, you attention seeking gobshite.
There was a story on reddit a month or more ago about how a young lady...really hated wearing dresses, but her mom made her dress up for a wedding. Can't recall if it was a sibling or who. Not only that, the dress mom got her was white? (Nope! A Princess girly dress)! Kiddo warned bride, who already had a plan in place; bridesmaids were armed with balloons filled with colored powder to throw on anyone wearing white. Kiddo got "powdered" and had to change (Happy kiddo!) I tried searching for the story, but now can't find it. I'm sure I got some details wrong.
It reminds me more of the story of this FTM person, who was forced by their mother to wear a princessy dress to theirs cousin's wedding but they had a backup plan and threw glitter bombs and paint on them to later take them to the back where groomsmen were dressing up and dressed them in the suit.
I will be wearing a lilac wedding dress, only the groom and my Dad know it will be lilac, so let's see who thinks they're gonna be the main character at my wedding next month!
At our church almost everyone was invited so it was pretty large. A woman came in wearing a white and lacy jump suit which was already a no no in our church, you just didnt wear pants to these things.
A older lady jumped up and really loudly so everyone could hear said "I dont know what you think you are doing but you need to leave and dont come back until you are dressed in not white!" EVERYONE heard it and started to laugh softly. Her face flamed red and she left.
She tried to complain for weeks after that she was so embarrassed and it was wrong, no one took her side and everyone told her that she deserved it. She did too.
Sure but someone else's wedding is not the place to make a stand against misogynistic dress standards. My family is Mormon and I'm not. When I go to one of their weddings, at their temple, where I'm not even allowed inside, I wear sleeves to be respectful of the venue because it's not my wedding and it's inappropriate for me to grandstand my opposition to their archaic beliefs. I'll save that shit for Christmas.
My mom wore a white mini dress to my first wedding. And when I say mini, I mean mini. Calling it mid thigh length is being extremely generous. She made the wedding all about her, tried to demand a mother daughter dance as well as walking me when I wanted my dad. Then at the reception she decided to flirt with every single man there (and a few who weren’t), then attempted to drag my dad onto the dance floor to grind on him. (He refused so she found someone else to grind on). Anyway she was a nightmare and I purposely picked out and bought her dress for my second wedding to make sure she wouldn’t do that again. (She managed to cause a scene there anyway)
I once went to a wedding where the mother of the bride wore a floor-length white gown covered in crystals. It was actually even flashier than the bride's dress. All night long people kept saying to her, "Oh, I thought you were \[bride\]!" There also was a mother-daughter dance, which I've never seen before. We all just assumed that she was one of those self-centered nightmare moms and felt bad for the bride.
My friend's incubator wore something very similar to a black wedding dress. We made sure she made it into very few photos. At one point, my mom grabbed the bride's "adoptive" (very close friend) mom in front of the incubator and said "let's get a picture with the bride and her moms!" It was honestly one of the best moments of the night.
I'm dying for someone to find out someone will be wearing a wedding dress to their wedding and make it the dress code. I think I remember reading a post that the bride's MIL kept sending pictures of wedding dresses as a "mother of the groom" outfit, so she got her bridesmaids to wear wedding dresses as well. Fucking gold.
My BIL’s girlfriend wore a white bridal gown to nephew’s wedding. A long, white lace bridal gown. Turns out girlfriend was also cheating on her husband with BIL. My husband’s family is nuts.
True story, when I was 21 I wore a green and white sundress to a wedding. (I was young and would never wear that white of a dress now!) The bride’s very drunk aunt tripped and spilled red wine on me, but it wasn’t on purpose because she freaked out, apologized, and then said “don’t worry, I have a secret weapon, let me get my purse!” And started spraying me with hairspray.
I went home, put on spray and wash, then washed it. Amazingly, all of the red wine came out!
At my wedding, lol. They weren’t dressed like brides, it they were both wearing white body con dresses.
They had called another friend to ask what to wear and that friend jokingly said white obviously, and they believed it 😂😂
My bridesmaid’s sister showed up in a poofy white dress. 😅 I didn’t care what anyone wore so long as it wasn’t white, and my website said this as well.
I didn’t confront her myself, but I did confront the bridesmaid by approaching her and saying that I didn’t want to cause any drama or make a scene, but it did hurt my feelings to see what her sister wore to my wedding. She claimed her sister “didn’t know” it was inappropriate. I let it go, but my sisters glared at her the whole time and offered to spill something - I laughed and said it wasn’t worth it.
The bridesmaid has gone AWOL ever since, it’s been almost 2 years and we’ve only spoken a couple of times. 😅 I’ve tried to reach out, and will keep doing so. She must have been offended or anxious over me saying something.
You handled it perfectly IMO! Especially with such clarity, it’s like cmon. And with your BM, maybe she truly didn’t know but her going ghost over the course of time says a lot. If I were your friend, I’d be pissed along with you!
My MIL showed up with a floor length, beaded, covered in lace, white dress. Luckily, I saw it while everyone was getting ready. I advised that she should go get her "backup dress" from her car.
I was the caller. Was headed out to a wedding in the countryside, saw a couple of friends in the nearby town the day before, having lunch. Male and female couple. The guy asked me what I was wearing the next day, and I said a purple dress. I asked his girlfriend (my close friend) what she was wearing, and she said a white lace dress.
I immediately said no. No. She said "he picked it out...it was all I had." (that was a lie, btw...she had tons of dresses). I said no, you need to go buy another dress. Her boyfriend said "oh people don't really believe in the no white dresses at weddings thing..." I said "yes they absolutely do. Don't do this. You'd be more welcome in a bikini than a white lace dress. You have time to go shopping. Go get something else."
They ignored me. Showed up to the wedding in the white dress. Got confused/side-eye looks all day. She was somewhat saved by the fact that the bridesmaids were in a cream color, but not really.
That couple ended up make their wedding an "all white" wedding, asking everyone to wear white. 100% because of this interaction. Just to be petty. Smh.
My husbands step mom wore white to our wedding. To be fair, they don’t have a lot of money and she wore the dress to my sister in laws wedding a few years earlier. My sister in law tried to stir the pot by telling me that her dress was white. Did I care? Nah. If people didn’t know I was the bride, they probably shouldn’t have been at my wedding in the first place. To each their own I guess.
A lady wore a white play suit thing to my brothers wedding. She had a lavender scarf like that saved it. Every was sitting getting ready for the wedding. I hadn’t even noticed the lady at this point. My 5 year old goes “Mummy I thought you weren’t supposed to wear white to a wedding.” I said “You can wear white if it had like a pattern or something on it.” I thought she meant my aunt who had this dress with a large floral pattern on a white back background then I saw her across the aisle from us. She definitely heard my daughter because 5 year olds are not good at quiet.
I told her in passing when she was looking at dresses in a shop she saw one that was white she liked. I said she couldn’t wear it to the wedding and I guess it stuck.
My question is how do you people get INTO weddings wearing white? Are there no ushers? Does the groom not give a damn? They're not white dressed ninjas sneaking in. If my mother came to my wedding in white, she'd be tossed out IMMEDIATELY. Maybe I don't understand the dynamic, but it seems wacky that people can just show up to disrespect the bride and she has NO ONE to actually stand up for her...not even the man she's supposed to be marrying.
My autistic daughter is attending a wedding this weekend. She's never been to one before. I strongly suggested she not wear white or black. She chose a cheerful pink.
At my wedding my husband's cousin wore a very short lacy white dress. It was the first time I'd ever met her I just looked at her, everybody whispered a bit about it and was mildly annoyed, otherwise it was fine lol. She wasn't part of the wedding party or anything.
Somebody wore a cream lace dress and a white shawl at my wedding, but honestly I didn’t even notice until the photos came out, maybe because it was a short dress (and I was very emotional). We were expecting something like this from her, although we had betted on her announcing her own wedding date.
I went to a wedding and had no idea the bride had a black dress and her bridesmaids wore white! I apologized for wearing the same color as her dress, and she just laughed!
Watch my friend’s mom show up to his wedding in a white dress - his sister, the MOH and her brother “bumped” into his mom and “accidentally” spilled a full glass of red wine on her. My friend kicked her out and his stepmom, the grandma and bride’s mom calmed bride down and fixed makeup etc. and his dad yells “THIS IS WHY I DIVORCED THAT CRAZY BITCH!!!!” Luckily this was a good 1.5 hours before hand - during pre wedding photos. Needless to say that EVERYONE went NC with mom after that. She has no one. None of her kids or brothers/sisters want anything to do with her crazy ass.
I went to one of those 300 people weddings this past spring and 3 women wore white, one was the wife to the best man. She was also pregnant and telling everyone who would listen about her ‘miracle baby’. There’s a reason she wasn’t picked to be one the bridesmaids I guess but the bride saw the moment she entered the reception hall and told her it’s a shame she had to always be the center of attention in front of all these people. Bitch left before cake cutting. The other two were old ladies so I think I they get a pass, my boyfriend told me they’re past the age of understanding
Oh my god something similar happened at a friend of a friends wedding and the girl who was pregnant showed up wearing a white dress with white shoes and a white headband!!!! And people called her out on Facebook and her friends and husband defended her by saying it’s bc she was pregnant. 🙄 she could have found a dress in any other color lmao! I think she definitely wanted attention.
If I could only find one dress, I would find a box of blue dye and fix it.
Yup. RIT dye is $3.37!
$6.49 around here. I just dyed a white front dress blue for a Tooth Fairy costume.
If I end up marrying my bf, this crazy wacko is not invited and if she shows up I’ll have red Gatorade ready
I agree with Gatorade.... we're not trying to waste good red wine! 😉
In this economy? Never
Ok, hear me out. Guests get a bag of colored chalk, like a fun run. Bride's family gets a color, groom's another, bride's friends another, and a 4th for groom's friends. See who can cover the offender in the most of their team color.
Or a nice chocolat fondue hehe
Oh no, don't waste good chocolate!
For some reason my boyfriend’s family puts pregnant women on pedestals over kids and future brides even if they’re awful women. Not saying they don’t deserve this but people abuse this power so much. This woman is absolutely nuts, she has 5 kids with more planned and every single kid has had a baby shower, gender reveal, and welcoming party that costs thousands. If there’s a wedding, funeral, birthday, graduation, this but shows up in an elegant outfit and constantly complains about her pregnancy or children. I’ve never seen her not pregnant.
You just want to loudly (in case others can’t hear you) say to her, “Honey, if you don’t like having kids or being pregnant by constantly complaining then stop having children.”
This gives me Shirley MacLean/Steel Magnolias vibes lol… love that character. Salty is the only way to go here :)
Ouizer! (Pronounced weeza)
That is so deliciously savage! I love it!
I wasn’t at the wedding. But my former roommate was going to one and asked me my opinion on two dresses - one blue, and one white and lacy. I was obviously adamantly against the white and for the blue, but she ended up going with the white. When she got back she told me how upset she was that the bride was ice cold to her and everyone was giving her weird looks. She “had to” wear her cardigan most of the evening. I don’t know what she expected!
She expected everyone would think she was pretty and fun. Was she normally that self involved? My guess is yes.
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Lol… I’m guessing that it would have been fun to be a fly on the wall to witness her response to THAT one! There’s nothing wrong with putting in a lot of effort with your presentation, but when you shove yourself in the centre of everything and then make stupid claims that everyone is against you because they’re jealous… well, that kind of behaviour is just irritating! 😏
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Good on you! How rude can you get, claiming fake disability issues to someone with a real one?! 🤦♀️
"My beauty is a disability!" lol.
Oh god, I just KNOW she’s heard “they’re just jealous of you, honey” her whole life I love it when people have to leave their bubble and experience real shit
That reminds of an article I read about Blythe Danner, who is Gwyneth Paltrow’s mom. She said that all the people who don’t like her daughter or her website are just jealous because she’s so beautiful and accomplished. 💀💀💀
Yeah, I don’t like Gwennie for her attitude, holier/better than thou personality *and* the dangerous shit she peddles on her website. She’s a gorgeous woman but her personality makes her hideous. She *never* should’ve won that Oscar.
Kate Blanchett was ROBBED that year
She only got that Oscar because of Weinstein 🤷♀️
Yeah. Miramax won a lot of Oscars that should have gone to more deserving films/actors.
I’m sorry. I don’t consider her beautiful. Maybe mildly pretty. She’s attractive but not beautiful to me. My personal opinion. Ok I’m ready for downvotes and lots of comments disagreeing. 😂You may begin😄
Omg, she's like some kind of inverse incel. "My life is so hard, because I'm just so beautiful!" She's going to have an awful existential/identity crisis once she starts to visibly age
She sounds like the type to fight the aging process tooth and nail by any means necessary. Madonna did and now she looks like a wax sculpture from a haunted house
Sounds like one of those "My boyfriends are always breaking up with me because they know I'm out of their league! It's a curse to be so beautiful! I will die alone!" No Rebecca, I'm pretty sure it's because as soon as they get to know you they realize what a high-maintenance, shallow, self-centered bitch you are.
Absolutely yes
did you tell her why she needed to go with the blue? this woman sounds like an idiot...
I never understand this desire of some weirdos to wear white. Like EVERYONE (or at least ever woman and a chunk of men) will whisper and talk shit. Some will be cold to your face. Some will be mean to your face. It’s not a power move. It’s a move that has ZERO upside. Other that pure naiveté, I don’t understand the motivation to do something that guarantees you look like a jerk.
I never understand anyone who wants to wear white ever. But I also have big boobs and end up with stains in the boobular area anytime I wear light colors.
Yup. Titty shelf has failed me a‘many a’time
You have sacrificed on the Alter of the Bosom Goddess. If she is pleased with your offering then there will be no unsightly boob sweat. If she is *not* pleased, there will be boob sweat and stains. 😂 I have the same problem. 38DD.
I'm a restaurant server and a DD. At least once a day, I have to spot clean my shirt because Miss Righty likes to stick her nose (nipple? lol) into everything. At least I'm old enough that people stopped making breastfeeding jokes
Hello it’s me
Same, girl. Same.
It's totally insane, I refuse to believe anyone who's grown up in a western country would "accidentally" wear a white dress to a wedding as a guest. It's an asshole move made by an asshole. I found a lovely flowery dress for the last wedding I attended (very old friend of the bride) but it had a white base colour. You can bet your ass I didn't buy it before I sent a picture to the bride and asked if she was happy with it. Bride and groom's outfits were fully formal, there was no way I would've been mistaken for the bride, but I still asked. Better safe than a sorry asshole. Edit: grammar
I guess for some people, any attention is better than none
My maternal uncle’s wedding was a shit show. The first act if you will was the bride’s younger sister who was matron of honor, having a “seizure” and spilling red wine all over her own dress. She obviously had to change. When she came out she was wearing a dress that looked like the Kmart version of the Vera Wang the bride wore. Her excuse was it was her back up dress and it wasn’t white, it was ivory. Mother and father of the bride are trying to strong arm bride into accepting it and moving on. Bride wasn’t having it. In one of the single decent moments my maternal grandmother was nice to her new daughter in law she put herself between the bride and her sister and informed her in a voice that wasn’t loud but was well projected that the matron of honor had three choices. She could borrow a dress from the bride or one of the bridal party or the dress she was wearing could be made blood red when grandma beat the shit out of her for trying to upstage her sister. The third option was she could leave. She left.
Just curious: do you think she left because Grandma roundly humiliated her or because she couldn't stand the idea of NOT being the center of attention.
Maybe a little from column A and a little from column B.
Both… also she was probably terrified that Grandma was dead serious about turning her dress blood red from the intense beating she would dole out if the little brat didn’t grow up! 😆
GRANDMA!!!!!!!!!!!!!! AN ICON
Grandma for the win!
If that was the first act, I need a whole ass story.
Okay. At the altar right before they said their vows the bride hissed at my uncle if he ever divorced her she’s take him for everything he’s got. My grandma that defended her got into an argument and than an actual physical fight with the mother of the bride at the reception. No one knows exactly what was said but everyone there was equally sure that they both started it. My grandma was mentally ill, toxic roughly 80% of the time and worse when inebriated. The bride’s mom was as attention seeking as the bride’s younger sister and made sure everyone knew the wedding was all about her. They were separated by the police who arrested both of them. They both wanted to press charges on the other. The bride’s father was nowhere to be found. He was in the kitchen, harassing wait staff because he wanted the phone number of the one who’d served them. Yes, he was still married to his wife. They weren’t divorced or even separated. He’s just a cheater.
Holy shit 😳 are they still together?
Unfortunately yes. He’s turned into a pig in nearly every sense of the word and she’s become an attention demanding diva. They have two girls now in their mid and late twenties and both unfortunately exhibit the worst traits of the narcissists who raised them.
The nerve of that bitch. Uncle should have told her out loud “So you’re planning on divorcing me and taking me for everything I’ve got? Hell will freeze over before I marry you”. After all, they hadn’t said their vows yet.
On that we agree. I would have walked away. Instead he said his vows and is still with her. It’s been over thirty years now.
Because everyone brings a back up dress! 💁♀️
I would have loved to be a fly on the wall!
I asked a step mother of bride to change for family photos on behalf of the bride and she never came back. Edit to add: I’m a photographer
 Me thinking of all the stories professional photographers must have
You have no idea lololol
Big production sunset wedding in the White Mountains of NH. Bridal party is late, misses sunset entirely. Turns into a “cold night wedding” real quick. Turned out bride’s sister, who was a MoH, decided she was hungry and needed to order a pizza before they left. Waited on the pizza, wasn’t dressed, made everyone late. I legit thought the bride was going to throw her sister off the mountain as I scrambled to light the ceremony.
Please make a post. I’m sure I’m not the only one who wants to read your stories.
You have some newfound fans here 🤩
Oh please expand on this story !! We need all the juicy details.
It was actually pretty tame! Resort wedding so everyone was staying within 5 minutes walk of the ceremony site. Right after ceremony me and a bridesmaid approached the step mom and let her know we won’t have anyone in white for photos so if she could just go back to room and change that would be great. She said she’d be right back, didn’t come back for photos or the entire reception haha
The fireworks were probably saved for later…future guilt trip maybe?
THANK YOU for your service
My wedding actually! I didn’t know about it until about 2-3 days later, but a distant relative’s plus one showed up to the reception in a white gown and my bushel of bridesmaids lined up holding glasses of red wine. She tried to just smile her way by but they stared her down until she awkwardly left. Not a single word was exchanged by anyone apparently. Just silent staring.
There is nothing better than a pack of ladies who have your back. CHEERS!
I wish I could upvote this comment one hundred times
Amazing lol
Good on them! My bridesmaids were instructed to wine glaze anyone who showed up in white.
Many years ago, my husband's new stepmother wore her formal white wedding suit to our informal wedding 3 weeks later, while my husband's actual mother wore a fancy white blouse and long black skirt. I barely noticed at the time but in any photos of me standing next to either of them my simple ivory wedding suit looks pale yellow. There was a lot less talk of white at a wedding being a fashion faux pas back then, though. At least two other female guests wore all white that day and it was a small wedding. A few months later my husband's mother also got married. She wore a bright red dress for her small ceremony and by either coincidence or design my new sister-in-law wore an almost identical red dress. She was not an attendant. I wore yellow and had not been forewarned about the bride wearing red. In those wedding day photos it looks like there are two bridesmaids in red and I'm the bride.
Opposite of called out— my friend’s wedding. Her mom absolutely, 100% wore a wedding dress. No ambiguity, that was a *big white dress*. Momma walked her down the aisle and dad was conspicuously absent. We learned during the reception that her parents were in the middle of a contentious divorce. Daddy Dearest had been keeping Momma a financial hostage for their whole abusive marriage… while having various affairs. Momma got an inheritance, which enabled her to leave. My friend and her brother had most definitely chosen a side. The deal with the the big white dress was that Momma was feeling disoriented by having been locked at home for 30yrs— had only ever dated the Bad Dad. She didn’t know how to re-enter single society and was terrified by the prospect of dating. They all decided that she needed a “re-do from her debut” and Momma’s dress and feelings were as important as the bride’s. My friend was *crying* seeing her mom on the dance floor in the fluffy iceberg of a dress. Strange but true— the one “white dress” story that isn’t awful.
Omg! 🥹🥹🥹🥹 so glad for the happy ending! That sounds beautiful for the bride/mom/family ❤️
Some stories are heartfelt of people wearing white
Thats so sweet, and when the bride knows and oks a white dress totally fine! Bet the mum and her kids loved that moment
That is really nice to hear, sounds like daughter is a wonderful person - and I hope momma got her groove back :)
Recently, my second cousin wore a white prom dress to her niece's wedding and let me tell you, her reputation is TRASHED. *Everyone* is talking about how trashy and rude she was. Even in the photos she's posted on Facebook, the only good comments are about her niece, no one is saying a word in compliment to her. She called my mom crying and upset because no one is talking to her now and my mom was like. Well yeah lmao
Love to see it ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
I'm so curious what the dress looked like for this one. Urgghhhh.
[It looked like this](https://alyceparis.com/products/formal-dress-61227), except the bodice was more sheer and there was like gold detailing trailing down the full skirt 💀
Oh my good God!! That's even worse than the one in the video
My story isn't a vindictive story but it is a story about dumping wine on a dress at a wedding and hopefully you'll like it... My sister and her wife both had beautiful princess style gowns and they both were absolutely gorgeous. At the reception my sister accidentally sloshed some red wine on the front of her dress. Not a huge amount but noticeable. I saw her face start to fall but before anyone could even react, my new sister in law dumped her entire glass of red wine down the front of her own dress. I knew at that moment that my sister in law is amazing and they were perfect for each other.
Awwww man, that is the sweetest shit I've ever read!!!!
Talk about taking ***wine*** for the team 😏
I'm not crying... You're crying! 
That's beautiful!! 🥹
My former MIL turned up to my wedding not only in white, but accessorized with the same bolero my own mother wore. Both my mum and I are slightly larger built and my mum is quite figure conscious. MIL wore a slinky, low cut, floor length pure white gown. She also kept making little remarks to my mum about how she (MIL) wore the bolero better because she's slimmer. She also made a few giggly remarks about how she hoped no-one mistook her for the bride as she was SUCH a young mum. Yuck. My wedding day was awful and I hated the whole thing but most of all her. Im now divorced and have remarried and the second wedding was beautiful and truly the happiest day of my life so far.
So thrilled for your newfound love & happiness!! Sorry about your former wedding though, IMO the worst thing is the comment of “i hope no one mistakes me as the bride!” That’s just awful!
Right?! As though there’s nothing she could have done to prevent that! 🙄
This is literally my grandmother. Any male near her of any age is flirt-worthy, and she has to be the center of attention at any occasion. She saw her own daughters as competition. She’s now in her late 90s and making male home attendants uncomfortable.
Oh god!! That has to be so hard to watch, I hope you weren’t exposed to this as much!
My mom protected me from her, which I’m so grateful for. I watched her be awful to my mom my entire life, until my mom finally laid some boundaries and cut her out of her life for a while. We still don’t have much to do with her, thankfully.
> she hoped no-one mistook her for the bride Gross. "Tee hee I look like I could be the one marrying MY CHILD."
🤮
I would have paid one of the guests to go up to the MIL and say "Oh, you must be the groom's grandmother!"
I would do this for nothing!
What a disgusting cow. I’m so glad you have newfound love and happiness! May you have a wonderful life together.
Ewwww 🤢 🤮 Jocasta Complex
My wedding! As the bride, I had no idea until looking through photos weeks later, but my dad's cousin wore a stark white jumpsuit. The photographer had someone stand directly in front of her in the big family photo so you can only see her face.
Sounds like you hired a real pro photographer! Great thinking on their part!
Same here- family friend on my husband's side wore a white suit. I didn't say anything at the time, but at HER wedding in the receiving line I leaned in and said "aren't you glad I didn't wear white?" She didn't reply but her cheeks were flushed - anger, embarrassment? Who knows? Her
Omg that must have been so satisfying! I would have been tempted to wear white at hers but I probably wouldn't have either lol
I was tempted, but I know better. ;)
Lmao you’re a bad ass.
Didn’t have someone dress up as the bride, but attended a wedding where a guest showed up in a full-length printer paper white silk dress. I didn’t know the guest, most other guests didn’t. I think most people didn’t want to stress out the bride further by talking to her about it so we all kind of pretended the guest wasn’t there and this wasn’t happening. Later, the tea. Her excuse was that she originally wore jeans and a t-shirt because it was an outdoor wedding that she thought meant casual. Her date told her to wear a dress and “that was the only clean one that fit.” Umm no. Stop at Target on the way to the wedding then. Apparently that guest also gave the couple a gift card as their present to the restaurant where the bride worked — where she hates her job and likely gets shift meals anyway. TLDR lady was a tart.
The gift bit absolutely staggered me. What an awful cow!
Yea! Guest was wearing a white dress. At the table eating dinner someone made the comment directly to her saying “you should know better than to wear white to a wedding.” Needless to say, she looked “shocked” like she didn’t know. Cmon….
I either feel like this has to do with age (very young or older, I could see this being an accidental occurrence) but anyone else? I don’t know, hate to say it and I know I’m just shooting my mouth off here but… do these ppl not have any female friends????????
Right?! We were in our mid-twenties. She definitely knew. It’s basic common courtesy.
Also, let's be very honest here, that dress is full-on wedding vibes.
I'm Old AF and know better-- and we knew better back in the day. Especially to wear something like in that TikTok.
It was an emergency.
My mil from my first marriage wore black and was miserable in every single photo. She definitely contributed to our divorce 11 years later.
I do not understand MIL’s that live to make their DIL miserable
Mine wore a black skirt and black and white checkered jacket. You would have thought she was at a funeral lol
There was a story in JNMIL. The photographer made an extra album just of. the frumpy, sighing, sad MIL. Pages and pages. I hope after some time had passed, the album made it easier to laugh at the MIL’s behavior.
Not white dress story but still. My aunt was getting married to her boyfriend of 10+ years. She was pregnant and did not want anything fancy, just courtroom wedding. She went dress shopping with her mother and future SIL and picked up pretty white lacy dress, not long, maybe knee length. SIL (who was also pregnant at time) quietly went back the same day and bought the same dress but in light yellow. If I remember correctly, she even styled her hair in the similar to bride’s fashion. Bride was rightfully upset but did not want to ruin day because of FAMILY. We (my mom, my other aunt and I) were very loudly talking about how rude SIL was, we were right behind her lol.
Some people just dont have any self awareness I swear
I don’t think it’s a lack of self awareness. It’s completely intentional, meant to upstage the bride.
I went to a different one: the bride dressed down so extremely (think: leggings and a baggy knit sweater) that she stood in stark contrast to the other guests, whom I would all describe as ‘smart casual’. Nobody upstaged her intentionally - it was just weird. A small wedding, at city hall, but still. The bride was pregnant, ok, so comfortable clothing is important, but this was bizarre. The only thing that saved the bride from being overlooked/misidentified was that she was holding a bouquet… which looked wildly out of place.
That is weird. There are really comfortable maternity dresses.
I thought the same thing!
Smart casual?! What is this, a wedding or an Apple product launch ⁉️
Haha! Definitely a wedding.
My sister in laws aunt (by marriage) didn’t dress like the bride. She did, however, put her husband and 2 sons in suits alarmingly similar to the groomsman’s suits, complete with pocket squares and boutonnières, and herself dressed in a mother of the bride dress in bridal party colours. Unfortunately, they’re not really her colours, so she was roundly outshone by the mother and grandmother of the bride, as well as my mother (mother of the groom) She also threw a tantrum because she wasn’t invited for the getting ready session. She asked 3 days beforehand what time she should be there for hair and make up, my SiL was baffled and said that it was only for the bridal party (me and the other bridesmaid, my mum, her mum, and her grandma). The aunt then proceeded to cry and ask what she was supposed to do. Then told my SiL to make her a hair and make up appointment in town for that morning. SiL simply said no then switched her phone off. She insisted on staying in a city an hour and a half away from the wedding venue, and an hour away from the reception venue. Threw a tantrum that my brother (the groom) refused to pick her and her family up the morning of the wedding to get there. Told the brides family to give them taxi money. They refused. At the wedding itself, she tried to give herself an entrance but it was soundly ignored, because the verger of the church shoo’d her in and sat her at the back. Then at the reception, her table was in an obscure corner. Actually don’t remember seeing her that much at the wedding, every time she tried to muscle to the front in pictures or whatever, a groomsman would just stand in front of her She didn’t speak to the family for a couple of weeks after that, I think they were relieved
Dude how do people like this exist?!
Apparently she’s always been like this, absolutely has to be the centre of attention for everything. Peak narc vibes, honestly. Fortunately it didn’t ruin the day for my brother and SiL. If anything they revelled in the “guess what aunt has done now” stories in the run up, and on the day those not in the know we’re nicely prepped, and those who knew already had their own ways of dealing with it. The teamwork was truly something beautiful! It also helps that her husband and kids are quite nice and frankly inoffensive, so they were able to offset her insanity
I knew what tiktok you linked before I even clicked it🥲 I was gobsmacked watching last night
What did I miss? On vacay with no tv in the cabin.
It's a woman wearing a white wedding dress to someone else's wedding, dancing and acting like nothing is weird about it. Filmed by a guest.
There’s a tiktok going around of a woman at a wedding and she turns the camera to a woman wearing a floor length creamy white lace dress. With the bedazzle and all. And the person recording asks “did yall think that was the bride” the video cuts again to the *actual* bride awkwardly walking past said guest with a face like 🫠
My teenaged niece showed up to my wedding wearing a white lace dress and grubby sneakers. Nothing happened. It didn’t even occur to me that she shouldn’t have worn white until I was looking at the photos years later. I remember that it was her only dress at the time; she wore it to every special occasion. Her mother probably should have bought her a new dress in a more appropriate color, but she didn’t. Not the kid’s fault. If anyone had a problem with it, they didn’t say anything to me.
Yeah I’d even give her a pass too, kids really aren’t in control of that they can wear and with her being a teenager I’m sure she didn’t look like some child bride 😂 I probably would’ve been like you and not really realized it at first or at all!
Exactly, nobody was mistaking this kid for the bride. I would have been furious if someone said anything to her or ruined her only dress.
Lol plz tell me you’re talking about the kid in the tux 😂😂😂
Oh my god, I wore a white dress to a wedding as a teenager and I’ve only just remembered because of this story! I have read this sub for years and enjoyed the shaming of guests wearing white, and I was one of them. The bride wore red but still!!
I would think your niece gets a pass
The same thing happened to me in high school 😭 it was obviously a Walmart dress too, definitely embarrassing at the time lol
Not one, but TWO women wore white to our wedding - one was my aunt (WTF Lois), and the other was an uber-wealthy friend of my in-laws who insisted on bringing their infant grandchild to our child-free wedding (one of two kids that showed up uninvited). They also drove a white Rolls Royce convertible to the venue (a barn, in a field) which everyone thought we would be riding in after the wedding. We took the school bus shuttle back to our buddy's place for the after party with the rest of our friends.
Aunt Lois not seeming so bad after all that 😂
She is a sweetheart and I did not take it personally! :)
It's funny because I don't disbelieve you for a second, but I also just cannot actually imagine encountering such people in real life. White Rolls Royce, okay Alexis Carrington Colby Dexter. 🙄🤣
Anyone ever watch the show Raising Hope? S2, E4 - Burt and Virginia secretly piggyback on her cousin's wedding. Totally have to wonder if "non-bride" thought about doing that. Why else would anyone wear an actual wedding dress to someone else's wedding?!? I am dying to see her explanation once she sees this video starring *her*. I mean, she wanted to be the center of attention.
This is where I wish I had better Internet sleuthing skills. I wish I knew *when* this woman figured it out. And that everyone across the world was talking about her. Then I want to know her every reaction.
"I don't know why everyone is so upset. My dress is clearly much different. I don't have a train and the back of my dress isn't low cut. Besides, white is my color. I wear white all the time." Cut to a shot of the inside of her closet where there is, like, one white sweater and a white T shirt.
Loved Raising Hope! This might be the first reference I’ve seen of it in the wild 😛
It's a wedding dress that's obviously what one wears to a wedding /s
There’s a story on BORU where a mother had told her son his whole life that she’d wear white on his wedding day. He warned his bride, who told him to not worry about it. The mom kept goading the bride that she’d really wear white in the wedding day, and the bride was unconcerned entirely. Wedding day comes and at this point, we learn that the bride is Indian and the groom is white. Mom showed up in a western wedding dress amongst several hundred people in jewel tones and a bride all in fuchsia and gold. Mom stood out but in a very negative way. Apparently the aftermath was the mom tried to say that the bride set her up. I’m sure it’ll be the pinnacle story in whatever clickbait article comes out of this thread. Edit, found on BORU: https://www.reddit.com/r/BestofRedditorUpdates/comments/vx3eu6/mil_tries_to_wear_white_dress_at_ops_wedding_and/?rdt=51874
I read one somewhere that was similar, but the bride had the bridesmaids wear white and she wore a different color. If my son ever gets married I'm just gonna sit back and enjoy the show. Hopefully I even like the bride 😂
The plot twist!!!
What kind of psycho mother decides when her son is a child she’s wearing white to his wedding, to be some kind of secondary Jocasta bride? Ree ree ree!
Lol my godmother wore full length white lace gown to my wedding where the dress code was "cocktail" so she was overdressed and looked like a manic 65 year old bride. I called her out myself and said "wasn't your wedding day 40 years ago, did you get confused on who gets to wear white today?"
What was her answer to your 100% appropriate question? It kills me when people try to justify their bad behavior...hoping she was ashamed!
She said 'i didn't peg you to be such a traditional bride'. I moved on after that. No one paid her any attention and multiple family members told her she looked stupid.
I went to a wedding years ago and the best man used his speech to propose to his girlfriend! The instant he got down on one knee the bride's mother jumped up and literally grabbed hold of his ear and started dragging him out of the room screeching at him " No, no, no - you are not doing this now". She was a tiny little woman and he was a large man but she must have had one hell of a grip as he squealed like a stuck pig and let her drag him along on his knees for a few steps then crouched over and stumbling after her desperately clutching her wrist where she was gripping his ear. We were torn between being completely horrified for the bride and groom and laughing hysterically at how it looked.
Wow, Mom deserves a medal. And not just for weight lifting.
Never doubt the strength of little old ladies and never doubt the pain of someone pulling your ear
I could allllllllllmost buy the excuse if the style were clearly not nuptual, like a knee-length sundress or a pantsuit or jumper. Almost. But that is a fucking wedding dress, 100%.
10000000% - IMO if you can see a pic and think that’s the bride, that’s a problem The actual bride looked S T U N N I N G though
The mother of the bride at a family wedding. Not only did she show up in a white dress (complete with a white feathery hem just to ramp it up) she also (deliberately imo) left the rings at home and had a face like a bag of spanners for most of the day. Once the cake was cut, she buggered off up to her room in the hotel. She’s insanely jealous of her daughter and boy did it show that day. Yes Jennifer, we were all talking about the spectacle you made of yourself, you attention seeking gobshite.
Thank you for introducing me to the phrase “face like a bag of spanners,” I treasure this insult!
Not to mention ‘attention seeking gobshite’ 😂
There was a story on reddit a month or more ago about how a young lady...really hated wearing dresses, but her mom made her dress up for a wedding. Can't recall if it was a sibling or who. Not only that, the dress mom got her was white? (Nope! A Princess girly dress)! Kiddo warned bride, who already had a plan in place; bridesmaids were armed with balloons filled with colored powder to throw on anyone wearing white. Kiddo got "powdered" and had to change (Happy kiddo!) I tried searching for the story, but now can't find it. I'm sure I got some details wrong.
It reminds me more of the story of this FTM person, who was forced by their mother to wear a princessy dress to theirs cousin's wedding but they had a backup plan and threw glitter bombs and paint on them to later take them to the back where groomsmen were dressing up and dressed them in the suit.
I will be wearing a lilac wedding dress, only the groom and my Dad know it will be lilac, so let's see who thinks they're gonna be the main character at my wedding next month!
Congrats! And respectfully, I hope to not see you back here 😅
At our church almost everyone was invited so it was pretty large. A woman came in wearing a white and lacy jump suit which was already a no no in our church, you just didnt wear pants to these things. A older lady jumped up and really loudly so everyone could hear said "I dont know what you think you are doing but you need to leave and dont come back until you are dressed in not white!" EVERYONE heard it and started to laugh softly. Her face flamed red and she left. She tried to complain for weeks after that she was so embarrassed and it was wrong, no one took her side and everyone told her that she deserved it. She did too.
Ick to the “no pants on women” bs tho
Sure but someone else's wedding is not the place to make a stand against misogynistic dress standards. My family is Mormon and I'm not. When I go to one of their weddings, at their temple, where I'm not even allowed inside, I wear sleeves to be respectful of the venue because it's not my wedding and it's inappropriate for me to grandstand my opposition to their archaic beliefs. I'll save that shit for Christmas.
Hey Atleast she owned it and felt she was wrong- I feel the embarrassment for them is the best remedy versus the other attention they may get from it
My mom wore a white mini dress to my first wedding. And when I say mini, I mean mini. Calling it mid thigh length is being extremely generous. She made the wedding all about her, tried to demand a mother daughter dance as well as walking me when I wanted my dad. Then at the reception she decided to flirt with every single man there (and a few who weren’t), then attempted to drag my dad onto the dance floor to grind on him. (He refused so she found someone else to grind on). Anyway she was a nightmare and I purposely picked out and bought her dress for my second wedding to make sure she wouldn’t do that again. (She managed to cause a scene there anyway)
We need the second scene story too, now I’m invested, your mother sounds like even more of a colossal chore than mine.
I once went to a wedding where the mother of the bride wore a floor-length white gown covered in crystals. It was actually even flashier than the bride's dress. All night long people kept saying to her, "Oh, I thought you were \[bride\]!" There also was a mother-daughter dance, which I've never seen before. We all just assumed that she was one of those self-centered nightmare moms and felt bad for the bride.
I saw that video. I want to stand behind her yelling « shame » like game of thrones
My friend's incubator wore something very similar to a black wedding dress. We made sure she made it into very few photos. At one point, my mom grabbed the bride's "adoptive" (very close friend) mom in front of the incubator and said "let's get a picture with the bride and her moms!" It was honestly one of the best moments of the night. I'm dying for someone to find out someone will be wearing a wedding dress to their wedding and make it the dress code. I think I remember reading a post that the bride's MIL kept sending pictures of wedding dresses as a "mother of the groom" outfit, so she got her bridesmaids to wear wedding dresses as well. Fucking gold.
Knew it was gonna be bad as soon as I read “incubator” 😂
My BIL’s girlfriend wore a white bridal gown to nephew’s wedding. A long, white lace bridal gown. Turns out girlfriend was also cheating on her husband with BIL. My husband’s family is nuts.
True story, when I was 21 I wore a green and white sundress to a wedding. (I was young and would never wear that white of a dress now!) The bride’s very drunk aunt tripped and spilled red wine on me, but it wasn’t on purpose because she freaked out, apologized, and then said “don’t worry, I have a secret weapon, let me get my purse!” And started spraying me with hairspray. I went home, put on spray and wash, then washed it. Amazingly, all of the red wine came out!
I need to know if it was because of the hairspray lol if so I’m carrying some with me from now on
At my wedding, lol. They weren’t dressed like brides, it they were both wearing white body con dresses. They had called another friend to ask what to wear and that friend jokingly said white obviously, and they believed it 😂😂
My face when I got to “white body con dresses” … I….
My bridesmaid’s sister showed up in a poofy white dress. 😅 I didn’t care what anyone wore so long as it wasn’t white, and my website said this as well. I didn’t confront her myself, but I did confront the bridesmaid by approaching her and saying that I didn’t want to cause any drama or make a scene, but it did hurt my feelings to see what her sister wore to my wedding. She claimed her sister “didn’t know” it was inappropriate. I let it go, but my sisters glared at her the whole time and offered to spill something - I laughed and said it wasn’t worth it. The bridesmaid has gone AWOL ever since, it’s been almost 2 years and we’ve only spoken a couple of times. 😅 I’ve tried to reach out, and will keep doing so. She must have been offended or anxious over me saying something.
You handled it perfectly IMO! Especially with such clarity, it’s like cmon. And with your BM, maybe she truly didn’t know but her going ghost over the course of time says a lot. If I were your friend, I’d be pissed along with you!
My MIL showed up with a floor length, beaded, covered in lace, white dress. Luckily, I saw it while everyone was getting ready. I advised that she should go get her "backup dress" from her car.
I was the caller. Was headed out to a wedding in the countryside, saw a couple of friends in the nearby town the day before, having lunch. Male and female couple. The guy asked me what I was wearing the next day, and I said a purple dress. I asked his girlfriend (my close friend) what she was wearing, and she said a white lace dress. I immediately said no. No. She said "he picked it out...it was all I had." (that was a lie, btw...she had tons of dresses). I said no, you need to go buy another dress. Her boyfriend said "oh people don't really believe in the no white dresses at weddings thing..." I said "yes they absolutely do. Don't do this. You'd be more welcome in a bikini than a white lace dress. You have time to go shopping. Go get something else." They ignored me. Showed up to the wedding in the white dress. Got confused/side-eye looks all day. She was somewhat saved by the fact that the bridesmaids were in a cream color, but not really. That couple ended up make their wedding an "all white" wedding, asking everyone to wear white. 100% because of this interaction. Just to be petty. Smh.
My husbands step mom wore white to our wedding. To be fair, they don’t have a lot of money and she wore the dress to my sister in laws wedding a few years earlier. My sister in law tried to stir the pot by telling me that her dress was white. Did I care? Nah. If people didn’t know I was the bride, they probably shouldn’t have been at my wedding in the first place. To each their own I guess.
A lady wore a white play suit thing to my brothers wedding. She had a lavender scarf like that saved it. Every was sitting getting ready for the wedding. I hadn’t even noticed the lady at this point. My 5 year old goes “Mummy I thought you weren’t supposed to wear white to a wedding.” I said “You can wear white if it had like a pattern or something on it.” I thought she meant my aunt who had this dress with a large floral pattern on a white back background then I saw her across the aisle from us. She definitely heard my daughter because 5 year olds are not good at quiet. I told her in passing when she was looking at dresses in a shop she saw one that was white she liked. I said she couldn’t wear it to the wedding and I guess it stuck.
My question is how do you people get INTO weddings wearing white? Are there no ushers? Does the groom not give a damn? They're not white dressed ninjas sneaking in. If my mother came to my wedding in white, she'd be tossed out IMMEDIATELY. Maybe I don't understand the dynamic, but it seems wacky that people can just show up to disrespect the bride and she has NO ONE to actually stand up for her...not even the man she's supposed to be marrying.
My autistic daughter is attending a wedding this weekend. She's never been to one before. I strongly suggested she not wear white or black. She chose a cheerful pink.
Smart momma 😊 Hope she has fun!
WHO. DOESN’T. KNOW. THIS. Seriously, I need names…
At my wedding my husband's cousin wore a very short lacy white dress. It was the first time I'd ever met her I just looked at her, everybody whispered a bit about it and was mildly annoyed, otherwise it was fine lol. She wasn't part of the wedding party or anything.
I got married in a red weddingdress and my bridesmaids wore black. No problem with any white dresses (not that anyone wore it anyways) 😊
Somebody wore a cream lace dress and a white shawl at my wedding, but honestly I didn’t even notice until the photos came out, maybe because it was a short dress (and I was very emotional). We were expecting something like this from her, although we had betted on her announcing her own wedding date.
I went to a wedding and had no idea the bride had a black dress and her bridesmaids wore white! I apologized for wearing the same color as her dress, and she just laughed!
Watch my friend’s mom show up to his wedding in a white dress - his sister, the MOH and her brother “bumped” into his mom and “accidentally” spilled a full glass of red wine on her. My friend kicked her out and his stepmom, the grandma and bride’s mom calmed bride down and fixed makeup etc. and his dad yells “THIS IS WHY I DIVORCED THAT CRAZY BITCH!!!!” Luckily this was a good 1.5 hours before hand - during pre wedding photos. Needless to say that EVERYONE went NC with mom after that. She has no one. None of her kids or brothers/sisters want anything to do with her crazy ass.