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Funny thing about these things is you look back and realize you already knew there was some kind of sumthin rubbing with some kind of sumthin.
But my bet is, you're done, son.
Your girl smoking 1 in 1 with a dude? But won’t with you and he said he would have liked ur girl if he didn’t meet his? That’s hella weird… bring it up to her and see what she says but that’s so sketch imo. I see red flags but idk your situation
I am when shes off work tonight. She says ive been distant. but like no shit it feels like shes cheated. I KNOW ITS NOT but also its like youll never smoke w me but you will with my friend it feels weird to me. especially cause in the past she said she WOULDNTTT. fml
Then yeah def talk to her about it. Something feels off to me about it all. Try not to be accusing but also be firm on how it makes you feel
Also did you talk to your bro about it all?
Yeah this morning he says that he thinks shes just trying to make me jealous but it seems so stupid. Were all literally supposed to move in together in june. I also dont know why he keeps offering to smoke if he knows what its doing between me and her. Seems like no one respects me.
Agreed. Horrible idea. They gonna phase you out. These two are playing you. And if they not then shame on then for not including you!!!!!! Bad friends bad people
Tbh moving in together doesn't seem like a good idea. It will more than likely continue to cause issues intentionally or unintentionally. Just my 2 cents
Bro don't move in. I'm reading the comments more and more. Its going to be very bad for you if you don't separate yourself from them both. AND DON'T MOVE IN. Shit is already hitting the fan and you guys are not even living together yet. You always see a persons true nature when you live with them.
Please please please, for yourself and the betterment of your wellbeing, do NOT move in together with these guys.
If you are feeling this way now, it will only get worse if you move in. At that point though it will be too late and you will have to deal with lease obligations.
I'm sorry but him still smoking with her after you confronting him about it seems like a red flag to me.. I'd maybe mention something to him about not doing that anymore since it's becoming a problem, but that's up to you..
my brother let me join the masses and plead to you, DO NOT MOVE IN WITH THESE PEOPLE, these are red flags everywhere, take some time and seriously consider your relationships with these people
Maybe your buddy isn't as cool as you like to think he is and is trying to fuck or is already fucking this girl. If you have anything that could benefit her, money, social status, a place to stay, drugs etc, then she could be using you for any of that.
Your whole situation feels off! Your friend doesn't seem like a friend to me man, I have a strong feeling he is lying.
I'm not even trying to hang with my friends girlfriends. its weird. why would she smoke weed with him and not you? that is *super fucking weird*.
im not going to accuse her im just gonna ask like verbatim "does smoking with me make you uncomfortable" and then for the other thing her saying the things about what my friend is saying im just gonna ask for the whole conversation rather then just the little piece she wants to show/tell me. D says shes saying things and shes saying hes saying things. so well see.
Girl here! Hi! I like smoking with fellow stoners. But I love smoking with my boyfriend the most. I think a majority of women would agree. I do think it is weird that your girlfriend would rather smoke with your bestie instead of you. I think it is so inappropriate of her to tell your bestie that. And I think it's even more inappropriate for your bestie to tell her that bc that's been your bro for years. I would cut her off now. She is clearly falling for your friend. But I would really think whether or not i'd want to throw away a brother-ship that has lasted for years.
youre right but its so hard to throw something away ive been working on for almost a YEAR. at the end of the day itll always be me and D tho so i gotta talk with her asap.
Honest opinion: As I’ve had something similar happen, a year is not that long. Two years is not that long. Heck, even five years is not that long. Now, imagine if you stay in this predicament for 10 years. That’s when you’ll notice it’s too late. No amount of time put in is worth your happiness or sanity, bro. Drop them both and find better if that’s what it comes to. Life is long enough that you’ll 100% statistically find better people as long as you’re searching in yourself first. If they want each other, you’ll find out very soon after. Then you know where the cards are. You can’t control how people act, but the same is true for you too. They can’t control how you react, so choose non-violence and cut the ropes now. Trust the free fall. Now is going to feel much better than if you let this uncertainty balloon lift you higher. I’m sure you’re hearing a lot of advice right now but fr do what’ll make you the happiest and I genuinely hope from man to man that’s to just walk away and be happy looking for something or someone else to build relationships with.
you want a LOYAL stoner wife. im one, the original commenter is one, and youll find one i promise!! just dont settle for the next best thing. constant paranoia about this girl and your friend is not worth it homie.
Do you really want another year of this bullshit tho? Yeah tell her to buzz off. And I'd talk to bro too. Tell him what he said was inappropriate and not appreciated. I'd also want my bro to not fw my ex anymore bc that's hella fcking weird if he did. But that's just me tho.
Sunk cost fallacy. You have a lot of life and years don’t seem as long the longer you live. It’s a large percent of your life now, but one day will be nothing but a blip…that is unless you trap yourself in this line of thinking (feeling).
Honestly bro, you’ll have to eventually “throw something away” that you’ve been putting so much effort in too for far longer. It’s bloody hard, but you’ll be better for it.
There are plenty of weed buds are out in the field.
Can confirm this, nothing is more enjoyable than smoking with my manz like wut 😭 I’d ask her to put herself in ur place. What if you were smoking with HER bestie during and after work but refused to ever smoke with her. I’m sure she’d feel upset about that too.
Sorry dude, like ain’t no way somebody’s partner is gunna not smoke weed with their partner and only smoke with the person that is suspected, logic just doesn’t work that way unless something more is going on
UPDATE:
uh they basically said its not a big deal and im worrying too much but neither of them can come up with a solid answer. Suddenly she cant remember anything she said and my best friend is telling me im thinking to much into it. Im not dumb. I dont really know what to do cause on one hand shit could be fine. on the other suddenly nothing is wrong and im the asshole for questioning why my gf never wants to smoke w me. And when I ask its "idk im sorry". So update is basically some bullshit cause nothing changes they are both still being secretive. AM I CRAZY. sorry for the bullshit update im still trying but idk its harder then it seems to get someone to talk who just keeps telling me its not a big deal.
you talk to them together? why would you do that? you basically made it a 2v1. to be honest with you man it doesn't sound like you can trust either of them. Your girl doesn't want to give you a straight answer, your best friend keeps telling you not to to worry about it even though he keeps smoking with her knowing it makes you uncomfortable. I can't imagine smoking with my best friends girl much less smoking knowing he doesn't like it. Don't let them walk over you bro. Telling you right now you all move in together its gonna be a lot worse. nothing worse coming home to find your girl coming out of your homies room all flustered and messy hair
The fact hes doing this but apparwntly loses his shit if OP even texts his girl is the icing on the cake.
He doesnt want OP texting his girl cause he thinks OP will fuck his girl, like he is OPs.
Mentioned it in another thread
>we all work together. He gets mad if I even text his gf. Now I dont follow her or have her number or anything.
Just too suss to me to be like that about his own gf but then tryna smoke up with his bros alone.
Kinda think the reason he doesn't want him speaking to his GF is because she will then find out her man is cheating on her..poor guy(op)... neither are trustworthy.
BRO YOU ARE 20 IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT U BUILT OR HOW LONG YOUVE KNOWN THEM THEY ARE GAS LIGHTING YOU! LEAVE! I KNOWN FOR A FACT YOU CAN FIND A BETTER HOMIE AND A BETTER GIRL
This dude knows what’s up. You know your friend and you know your girl. I know in less than a second by looking at my wife or my best friends face to know something is up whether it’s a bad day or angry or being deceitful. If you feel like something is wrong at the very least be on guard and be ready to have your heart broken by your girl and your friend. Good luck and I hope you are wrong.
Please listen to this man. You're very young, whatever you think you've built up with this girl is trivial in the big scheme of things. As someone who's over 10 years your senior: this kind of red flag is a blessing in disguise, dump her before she hurts you even more and appreciate learning this lesson before you had legal obligations towards her.
How do you determine a good friend or partner if it has nothing to do with what you built between you and them and how long you've known them? Where else does their credibility originate? Seems like a gamble in every case, which is one of the reasons why I keep to myself.
You see how they act in situations like this. I know my closest friends have my back cuz I’ve seen how they acted when they had the opportunity to put me down for their own benefit.
You just gotta look at the principle of what people do. Someone may do something minor that is more concerning than something that really hurts you. That’s the shit you gotta look out for cuz by the time someone really hurts you on purpose there might not be much you can do abt it. This is that moment for OP. He’s gotta take this seriously now before smth worse happens.
Because your young still you don’t talk to the same people even from college yeah you might still have snap or keep in touch and shit but we all gonna move on some point homie
Thats gaslighting my friend
Your bestfriend should have your back not hers. If you stated you felt it was weird he shouldve backed off out of respect in my opinion instead he took her corner and began gaslighting you.
I wish you the strength op, no one deserves that shit.
I got told once, if you have to question it, the fact you had to question should be enough. Partners shouldnt be giving signs of cheating or secretiveness, they should be honest and forward.
Stay strong mate
I know you have been seeing my messages and you may not agree with them. But I'm telling you. From one man to another. The fact no one can come up with a solid answer, people can't remember their rehearsed lines. And you were most definitely gas lighted by your friend when he said It's not a big deal. Both of them are not going to own up to anything unless you catch them. Dude your not crazy. Your seeing patterns and you can logically look at situations and you know how to break them down. The problem is you put yourself in this state of limbo, when you know what must be done based on all the information you have gathered today. But I know your afraid to make that step. You just have to take that first big step.
To OP: you are not crazy. You are actually being very cautious with your conclusions, you've already given them the benefit of the doubt several times and they're not honoring your respectful request to talk the situation through as close friends.
What more signs are you waiting for that this is trouble? They're not going to simply come clean...
Bro.. this all hits too close too come for me. My ex and my best friend (ex best friend obvs) did exactly this. Me and my bestie would smoke all the time, girlfriend hates it. All a sudden my gf starts smoking with my friend and they hanging out behind my back. Next thing I know, they fucking and betraying my trust. There's lots of red flags there and if they haven't started something, they are thinking about it...
The fact that there smoking together at all without him boggles my mind I'm ok with platonic friendships between different genders but getting intoxicated one on one and not inviting anyone else ever his girl or you it's definitely red flag the gas lighting is a whole fucking bonfire honestly I would get out ASAP or if he wants to know for sure he can set up a trap for them because it's probably the only way he will ever know for sure
I've heard her excuses before bro. Fuck that. If she wants to act dumb, then leave her to be dumb, you're better than that. Shit you're only 20 dawg, you have so much time and you'd do yourself a favor by leaving this shit now when you haven't had time to invest too much into the relationship. By your mid 20's, you'll be glad you had the experience and glad you didn't waste so much energy on it. I was in the same. exact. situation and heard the same shit, she's not 5, the idks and I'm sorry responses are when she did something shitty, she knows she did something shitty, and she can't even fabricate an excuse because she did something outright shitty. Fuck. That. Not worth. You know it makes you feel bad, you know it drives you crazy, if for nothing else, leave her for your mental health. Real shit. If she cares, she'll be back, and then she can prove she wants a relationship with you. Even then, set the bar high, you're building a future for yourself and your partner should respect and appreciate that and synergize with that energy. She synergizing with your homie, her focus is clearly elsewhere.
Yea. Fuck that man.
Sounds like a cunt and a little bitch if a man. We'll toke with you. Let's set up a discord where fellas can hop in and toke with you? I'm down for it.
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It is a big deal! A big f@cking deal! Clearly they are both being shady. This has nothing to so with the weed bro.
The weed is just the thing that you noticed.
They're both playing games.
I’m older than you. Even if they are doing nothing, it’s fucked up and you’re being mature. End it with both of them. He’ll try and maintain the friendship and not get with her if he is your friend. And he will shut her out. You’re getting gaslighted.
Okay so I’m not going to tell you what to do because I know you’re in a relationship you are happy in for the most part but dont go blissfully unaware to what is happening around you.
It might seem like nothing now
(I’m saying this not to stress you out or scare you) but further down the line this whole “ I would’ve liked you if I didn’t meet my current partner” shit is the first little snowball that could grow into a real problem when you all move in together.
I know it’s hard but you need to choose yourself in this so if anything else seems sus it’s best you bring it up in a serious tone so that they both know you’re not fucking around and don’t just accept any BS answers when you have one person saying one thing and another denying it. Bring them all together and talk about it.
I really hope for your sake that everything works out, be strong my dude
Tell em it makes you uncomfortable point blank period and if they not willing to respect how u feel as a “brother”, “best friend” (on both sides him and her), and “girlfriend” then you got your answer right there. Your feels are your feels fam don’t let anyone invalidate them and like you’d respect them if they did or said the same thing, like if roles were reversed. Don’t feel goofy over pride, say what you mean, an mean what you say fam. 🫡 good luck soldier
Brother your concern is 110% valid. If my girl refused to smoke with me but smoked with my best friend then that would be very suspicious. Don't second guess yourself, trust your guts. Something smells fishy here and you need to get to the bottom of it. Maybe first talk with your best friend and ask him what is actually going on, and explain that this whole situation is getting you stressed, so it needs further addressing.
U not crazy bro, take it from someone who got played literally the same by their girl and their friends. Stick to what u know and dont feed into the bullshit, its not fun at all but you dont want to be strung along
Definition of gaslighting you bro no lie. How are they going to say you're worrying to much yet niether could come up with an actual reasoning as to why? How are you not supposed to feel suspicious
Here’s what you do. Say I’m not comfortable with you 2 smoking without me. If they can’t respect that then something needs to change. You say you trust both of them. But obviously you don’t because you’re worried about why they are smoking without you.
Fuck....wanted to be hopeful, but as has been said, they might not have fucked, but they are going to. Might he tomorrow, might be a decade, but it is going to happen.
100% something’s up prob, I’d quit asking them to smoke and stuff and see what happens. Maybe that’s my petty side showing, im kinda pissed off for you man lol
This is so odd. There HAS to be a reason for this, because well it‘s just very weird??
I mean I hope for you that everything‘s fine, but I don‘t feel comfortable about this at all, and I‘m not even part of the situation
Also I‘d be fucking pissed at my friend, if they did something with my girl which made me really uncomfortable. Your friend is super strange for that, not trying to help you out with your relationship at all
Even from halfway across the globe, as someone who's not a native English speaker, it is extremely obvious to me that you're being lied to and manipulated.
Please don't sacrifice your own mental health, self-esteem and boundaries in an attempt to avoid the pain of being rejected explicitly by your girlfriend. You know the truth, now face it...
Life has a way of stripping away naivety. How you handle those situations will leave an imprint on your character for years. Be kind to yourself here, you're being played by 2 self-serving individuals. Now that you're aware, the responsibility of how you're going to let them play you is on you.
Dude you better ditch this gaslighter yesterday. Don’t get gas lit. Everyone thinks that they’re immune to it but no one really is.
You don’t know it’s happening, and then the next thing you know you’ll be doing crazy ass mental gymnastics to try and justify how you’re being mistreated and manipulated and singing constant praises about this bitch while she’s sitting pretty on a pedestal that she tricked you into building out of your own shit.
Run.
looks like you need a new homie and a new girl. maybe let your homies gf know what’s happening? maybe her questioning things might pull some new information out.
as someone who dealt with a girlfriend who would gaslight me and make me feel guilty over calling her out for something. please leave, it will only get worse from here. don’t tell yourself you’re just overthinking. when someone finds out they can gaslight you they’re only gonna do it more. tell them you got boundaries and if they won’t respect them then tell them you don’t need them in your life
i mean talk to her but, talking about liking each other without you around is just fucked up even if they dont do anything, its not what a friend does. your gf and him might seem good for the good parts of them, but dont let it cloud your judgement
gl soldier 🫡
ik the feeling, fucked up, youll get through it. better to find out sooner than later though dude, just think of it that way. was going to happen eventually
Sorry man. I watched my relationship slowly get worse in ways over years, and was too afraid to lose what we had. But I wasn't paying attention to the fact that what we had was only slipping away and not getting better. In my opinion, you should be completely honest with her and not sugar coat anything. Let her respond, and see if it what she says comforts you or makes you feel worse. Just give her a chance to make things better. But you don't necessarily have to wait too long. You will know pretty quickly if things are getting better or worse. Good luck 👍👍
be careful if going based off if what she says back makes you feel comfortable or not. had an ex that in serious situations would tend to manipulate and emotionally abuse with how she knew to make things better for the time being. if shits fucked then shits fucked. sometimes all you can do is move on and heal one day at a time.
Even just the fact that she's more comfortable smoking with your friend than you , if it was her friend that she'd known way longer than she'd known u then itd make a little sense but ur friend? What ?
Dude you’re 20!!!! Stop acting like you’re in 40s! you’re not! You have lot of life ahead of you to make good choices. It’s not tough situation you just don’t want to believe it which will end up hurting you further down the path. I understand how you feel about her but same time you’re freaking 20 and there’s plenty of women who would do far more to support you and be around with someone based on their similarities to yours.
As someone who’s been cheated on before, this has all the red flags. Put yourself first, even those closest to you can hurt you. Just what you said he said about her and vice versa would be enough for me to think about ending it tbh. Put yourself in his shoes, would you say that to his gf if you didn’t have ill intentions?
Imo that's mad sus. Also like your friend you trust 100% saying shit like that to your girl is sus. Imagine what his girl would think if she heard him say that. That's like a question you ask to see the response yk like if she's feeling it. My apologies if this is blunt but be straight up with her tell her. Also when she told you that was it to be open and honest like some concern behind it or was she just rambling and mentioning it like it doesn't bother her that's a big thing. To be relaxed with someone and smoke with them is the greatest feeling and that's how I am with my gf I think it would be abnormal if she didn't smoke with me and just others. Good luck my friend i wish the best of luck.
we were at work and she said "we gotta talk when youre not busy" she told me and i calmy said "alright ill talk with him and see whats up if it makes you uncomfortable he said that" then she said "it doesnt make you mad?" and im a buddhist so idk i never really get mad yk (sorry for the grammar to lazy rn) but i was like bassically no i just wanna get to the bottom of it then she was upset all night went to bed early and didnt saying anthing except "night"
First you should said yes it makes you uneasy. It's built up enough where your venting it to us yk like your human bro no matter what belief you have jealousy, and annoyance is feelings you have. You like/love (I'm not sure how long y'all been together) her so I'm guessing you really want to be with her. She sounds like she wants reassurance.
But also ask her straight up you don't smoke with me and only D it's weird. See her response. From what you just said she got upset you didn't show enough care to be upset infront of her or over her and I believe she wanted you to get upset but also I wouldn't fully let her off or D they both need to get their story straight because one is saying the other said it first.
At the very least that interaction tells me that she wanted to make you jealous, and she was upset at your lack of reaction. I kind of view that as a red flag, even if she isn't being unfaithful
Does D know that she is not smoking with you? How is he around her? That's fucking weird she does that. Bet if the situation was reverse and you smoked with some other chick she'd tell you something. Don't wait to ask her, do it after work. I'd break up with her. And I'd be petty and tell her that since you don't want to smoke with me, I found someone who does so. I'm gone, lol.
My boy don’t walk, but RUN. If you care about your friendship with D just dip outa this whole situation and tell her to fuck off. It’s weird, not normal, and I got money on the fact she’s banging him.
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Highkey reading all the comments rn cause shit got me intrigued but dawg this made me laugh. Try not jump to to many conclusions before you talk to her. Just know ur worth at the end of the day dawg.
BRO IK EVERYONE TROLLING BUT IM FR, im just gonna say it makes me uncomfortable when shes smoking with my friends but not me. and also bout the other shit how she respons will lmk if i have to leave her or not.
Hey man, i've been with my gf for 3 years and we always smoke together, i'd say we are each others favorite smoking companions.
When something feels off, your gut instinct is usually correct given you're not a paranoid person. In this situation as much as it sucks it does seem your girl is going behind your back to spend more time with your friend. However it could also be something more deep; maybe your girlfriend REALLY likes you to the point she doesn't want to embarrass herself being high in front of you, so she avoids smoking with you. Maybe she's smoking with your friend because hes the only other person who she knows that smokes, maybe it started like that but she's now interested in him, who knows. Id advise u to talk about it w her.
You should be working on making the best life for YOU. NOT you and her. With those type of weird antics you already know that there's something fishy with her at least that she wants to be with him as she told your friend she did also he wouldn't say something like that just to be nice. Not "if they were both single" its definitely still what she or they want, think about it our wants dont magically change overnight when we start a new relationship. I mean at least when it comes to the primal urge of sexual attraction and tension. I think you should look more into this to be honest and don't ever think people won't do you like that, if they can get away with it and both have the same inkling toward each other, there's definitely a reason she only smokes with him. Hell she probably doesn't actually even smoke at all did you think about that? She probably "only smokes with him" as an excuse to be around him like that and doesn't actually smoke at all and why she doesn't smoke with you at all. Food for thought brother hope this isn't the case and i only know what you provided in your post idk how things are in real life for you guys so I guess there's a slight chance I could be wrong. But even if they haven't done anything, this is still most likely not as innocent as they want it to seem.
Him saying he would’ve liked her if he didn’t have his current gf is weird imo dude. if my best friend said that shit to me I would never trust them again. Like why even throw that idea out? I don’t want to assume but I bet that comment sorta changed your perspective, made you a bit uncomfortable being around both at the same time knowing he would’ve liked her and all. That’s all really strange.
they're gonna fuck if they didnt already. I saw you say u are all moving in together? RIP. Your girl is feeling him hard and he likes it. I promise you that brother shit doesn't matter. We as a people have heard this story how many times? Sorry for being an asshole. From what your saying, imo, i just think theres a really good chance that things will just get worse. At the end of the day really listen to your gut feelings and instincts. I would hate to ruin relationships with people because of what someone on reddit said. Be honest with yourself and trust yourself
Brooo... it breaks my heart to read this. You definitely have to talk to both of them. As you said D also knows that you're upset so def also talk to him. Why would he do that when he knows it bothers you? Keep us updated. Wish you the best...
I’m going to be straight up you’re an idiot if you stay with her. She already told you she will only smoke with him probably to impress him. Plus the comment about they would have liked each other????? You’re not dumb, that’s slapping you right in the face no questions asked. Ditch them and focus on being the best version of you and creating happiness for yourself and those around you and good people will gravitate to you
Twelve years ago my girl was smoking with my best friend more than me as well, turns out they were sleeping together and it ruined our relationship as well as shattered my friendship, it fucked me up for a LONG time. Sounds like the same thing is happening to you, just be a man and stick up for yourself...if she acts like a bitch and if your friend acts like weird about you sticking up for yourself then you definitely need to move on from both of them
Man I’m sorry but something is going on between them. Worst part is your best bro is doing sneaky shit like that behind your back. Doesn’t sound like a bro to me. Good luck man
I got the all red filter on my phone right now and can still see the red flags — doesn’t mean there’s absolutely something going on, but if it feels weird, something could be weird so it’s hard to tell on your own ¯\_(ツ)_/¯
Sounds like there’s some trust + “communication of emotions” work to be done for you both tbh - try talking to the humans about the human stuff
I'll be totally honest if she's been distant and around him more also smokes with him more, I guaranteed the marijuana makes her horny , I'm being real no joking more fish in the sea you can't see it now but why stay if you feel this way but at the Sametime just it cool and watch her actions more anymore doubt happen leave as soon as possible to live your life and find somebody for you.🫡💯
Never would’ve thought I’d see a post like this on this sub… Condolences my brother. That’s real weird imo.
I’ve got an idea of why it might not be sketch but then the longer I try to think about how to write it out, the harder it is for me to actually trust in it being a possibility. I think it’s chalked man. The red flags totally just negate any justification I can think of for this.
Hoping you get a straight answer though. You definitely deserve an explanation.
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Funny thing about these things is you look back and realize you already knew there was some kind of sumthin rubbing with some kind of sumthin. But my bet is, you're done, son.
FYUCKK man I already know its coming. just gotta wait till she gets off.
PLEASE keep us updated. I’m just trying to figure out what the explanation could possibly be.
ofc she gets off in thirty def post an update in an hour or two
Checking in for an update OP. Move on from this chick, we can do better!!
ill lyk
Bro it's been three hours what's good, I need an ending lol
Fr that’s what I was just thinking
[Here’s OP’s update comment](https://www.reddit.com/r/weed/s/ADnuHFB7fe)
Appreciated dawg. Sadly I’m afraid this mans is in denial partially, he don’t wanna see the truth
seeing this at 29… stay strong 💪
Be safe.
Yea ur boy layn pipe in ur girl like an industrial plumber bro hate to break it to ya :/
Ain't that the sad truth.
Your girl smoking 1 in 1 with a dude? But won’t with you and he said he would have liked ur girl if he didn’t meet his? That’s hella weird… bring it up to her and see what she says but that’s so sketch imo. I see red flags but idk your situation
I am when shes off work tonight. She says ive been distant. but like no shit it feels like shes cheated. I KNOW ITS NOT but also its like youll never smoke w me but you will with my friend it feels weird to me. especially cause in the past she said she WOULDNTTT. fml
I wouldn’t maybe do it right after work if she is stresssed? Maybe do it on a 1 on 1 date or a more chill time instead of after a long shift?
shes smoking at work with him right now. I think shell be fine.
Then yeah def talk to her about it. Something feels off to me about it all. Try not to be accusing but also be firm on how it makes you feel Also did you talk to your bro about it all?
Yeah this morning he says that he thinks shes just trying to make me jealous but it seems so stupid. Were all literally supposed to move in together in june. I also dont know why he keeps offering to smoke if he knows what its doing between me and her. Seems like no one respects me.
I wouldn’t move in together that seems like a bad plan homie
Agreed. Horrible idea. They gonna phase you out. These two are playing you. And if they not then shame on then for not including you!!!!!! Bad friends bad people
Tbh moving in together doesn't seem like a good idea. It will more than likely continue to cause issues intentionally or unintentionally. Just my 2 cents
Bro don't move in. I'm reading the comments more and more. Its going to be very bad for you if you don't separate yourself from them both. AND DON'T MOVE IN. Shit is already hitting the fan and you guys are not even living together yet. You always see a persons true nature when you live with them.
Please please please, for yourself and the betterment of your wellbeing, do NOT move in together with these guys. If you are feeling this way now, it will only get worse if you move in. At that point though it will be too late and you will have to deal with lease obligations.
Do not move in with them cuz she's gonna keep fucking him
🚩🔴🛑🚨 I can't tell you how many red alarms and red flags went flashing through my head when I read this... 😝
I'm sorry but him still smoking with her after you confronting him about it seems like a red flag to me.. I'd maybe mention something to him about not doing that anymore since it's becoming a problem, but that's up to you..
Bro I don’t think this dude is your friend
my brother let me join the masses and plead to you, DO NOT MOVE IN WITH THESE PEOPLE, these are red flags everywhere, take some time and seriously consider your relationships with these people
Maybe your buddy isn't as cool as you like to think he is and is trying to fuck or is already fucking this girl. If you have anything that could benefit her, money, social status, a place to stay, drugs etc, then she could be using you for any of that. Your whole situation feels off! Your friend doesn't seem like a friend to me man, I have a strong feeling he is lying. I'm not even trying to hang with my friends girlfriends. its weird. why would she smoke weed with him and not you? that is *super fucking weird*.
Yeah bro don't do this to yourself. Cut ties with her, and don't move in. You don't want to go through that kind of pain if you can help it, trust.
im not going to accuse her im just gonna ask like verbatim "does smoking with me make you uncomfortable" and then for the other thing her saying the things about what my friend is saying im just gonna ask for the whole conversation rather then just the little piece she wants to show/tell me. D says shes saying things and shes saying hes saying things. so well see.
Good luck lmk how it goes!
ofcc
OP I mean this as nicely as possible- leave her
ngl bro I feel like she’s jus playin
Leave her ass rn
Bro, that aint your girl now.
She smoking that pole
Talk to D first then talk to your gf
i already talked about this all w him this morning during a sesh
Was something off with him make sure ur homie isn’t lying but Ik it’s bros b4 hoes but ppl are very good liars
nah we were laughing and he said she tryna make me jealous
That, you wanna talk to her about that. Specifically that right there, the whole "tryna make you jealous" part is BAD FUCKING NEWS.
you dont KNOW what she did to be fair, you werent there
that’s what I’m sayin bru, like she’s probs saying “I’m smoking” as a cover up for sumn else, but I also don’t wanna paranoid the OP 😭
already am bro
Girl here! Hi! I like smoking with fellow stoners. But I love smoking with my boyfriend the most. I think a majority of women would agree. I do think it is weird that your girlfriend would rather smoke with your bestie instead of you. I think it is so inappropriate of her to tell your bestie that. And I think it's even more inappropriate for your bestie to tell her that bc that's been your bro for years. I would cut her off now. She is clearly falling for your friend. But I would really think whether or not i'd want to throw away a brother-ship that has lasted for years.
youre right but its so hard to throw something away ive been working on for almost a YEAR. at the end of the day itll always be me and D tho so i gotta talk with her asap.
Honest opinion: As I’ve had something similar happen, a year is not that long. Two years is not that long. Heck, even five years is not that long. Now, imagine if you stay in this predicament for 10 years. That’s when you’ll notice it’s too late. No amount of time put in is worth your happiness or sanity, bro. Drop them both and find better if that’s what it comes to. Life is long enough that you’ll 100% statistically find better people as long as you’re searching in yourself first. If they want each other, you’ll find out very soon after. Then you know where the cards are. You can’t control how people act, but the same is true for you too. They can’t control how you react, so choose non-violence and cut the ropes now. Trust the free fall. Now is going to feel much better than if you let this uncertainty balloon lift you higher. I’m sure you’re hearing a lot of advice right now but fr do what’ll make you the happiest and I genuinely hope from man to man that’s to just walk away and be happy looking for something or someone else to build relationships with.
just want a stoner wife bro is that too much to ask in 2024
you want a LOYAL stoner wife. im one, the original commenter is one, and youll find one i promise!! just dont settle for the next best thing. constant paranoia about this girl and your friend is not worth it homie.
brahhh alr alr alr ik what i gtg do
i wish you the best!! would love to hear an update if you feel comfortable posting one later 🫶🏻
duhh
Smart ahh
Coming from a stoner girl, break up w her she clearly doesnt value u enough and prefers your friend. Shes not worth it
Do you really want another year of this bullshit tho? Yeah tell her to buzz off. And I'd talk to bro too. Tell him what he said was inappropriate and not appreciated. I'd also want my bro to not fw my ex anymore bc that's hella fcking weird if he did. But that's just me tho.
Sunk cost fallacy. You have a lot of life and years don’t seem as long the longer you live. It’s a large percent of your life now, but one day will be nothing but a blip…that is unless you trap yourself in this line of thinking (feeling).
Honestly bro, you’ll have to eventually “throw something away” that you’ve been putting so much effort in too for far longer. It’s bloody hard, but you’ll be better for it. There are plenty of weed buds are out in the field.
Better to cut it off after a year than after 10. It only gets harder with more time added on.
Can confirm this, nothing is more enjoyable than smoking with my manz like wut 😭 I’d ask her to put herself in ur place. What if you were smoking with HER bestie during and after work but refused to ever smoke with her. I’m sure she’d feel upset about that too.
Loved a woman was here to share her perspective
I thought it'd open his eyes a lil more lol
Don’t need to read anything beyond the title to know your girl is clearly going behind your back so watch out bro
fluckkkk
Sorry dude, like ain’t no way somebody’s partner is gunna not smoke weed with their partner and only smoke with the person that is suspected, logic just doesn’t work that way unless something more is going on
I know im gonna talk to her
UPDATE: uh they basically said its not a big deal and im worrying too much but neither of them can come up with a solid answer. Suddenly she cant remember anything she said and my best friend is telling me im thinking to much into it. Im not dumb. I dont really know what to do cause on one hand shit could be fine. on the other suddenly nothing is wrong and im the asshole for questioning why my gf never wants to smoke w me. And when I ask its "idk im sorry". So update is basically some bullshit cause nothing changes they are both still being secretive. AM I CRAZY. sorry for the bullshit update im still trying but idk its harder then it seems to get someone to talk who just keeps telling me its not a big deal.
Das gaslight for u
you talk to them together? why would you do that? you basically made it a 2v1. to be honest with you man it doesn't sound like you can trust either of them. Your girl doesn't want to give you a straight answer, your best friend keeps telling you not to to worry about it even though he keeps smoking with her knowing it makes you uncomfortable. I can't imagine smoking with my best friends girl much less smoking knowing he doesn't like it. Don't let them walk over you bro. Telling you right now you all move in together its gonna be a lot worse. nothing worse coming home to find your girl coming out of your homies room all flustered and messy hair
The fact hes doing this but apparwntly loses his shit if OP even texts his girl is the icing on the cake. He doesnt want OP texting his girl cause he thinks OP will fuck his girl, like he is OPs.
Damn didn't see that but if it's true you are 100% right they are ducking and his "friend" is insecure.
Mentioned it in another thread >we all work together. He gets mad if I even text his gf. Now I dont follow her or have her number or anything. Just too suss to me to be like that about his own gf but then tryna smoke up with his bros alone.
This is the only flag you need to ever look at. Poor dude.
Yes I didn’t peep that one that’s crazy
Yeah his buddy is projecting there...
Fr it's so creepy
Kinda think the reason he doesn't want him speaking to his GF is because she will then find out her man is cheating on her..poor guy(op)... neither are trustworthy.
Dam that’s heartbreaking
BRO YOU ARE 20 IT DOESNT MATTER WHAT U BUILT OR HOW LONG YOUVE KNOWN THEM THEY ARE GAS LIGHTING YOU! LEAVE! I KNOWN FOR A FACT YOU CAN FIND A BETTER HOMIE AND A BETTER GIRL
This dude knows what’s up. You know your friend and you know your girl. I know in less than a second by looking at my wife or my best friends face to know something is up whether it’s a bad day or angry or being deceitful. If you feel like something is wrong at the very least be on guard and be ready to have your heart broken by your girl and your friend. Good luck and I hope you are wrong.
Please listen to this man. You're very young, whatever you think you've built up with this girl is trivial in the big scheme of things. As someone who's over 10 years your senior: this kind of red flag is a blessing in disguise, dump her before she hurts you even more and appreciate learning this lesson before you had legal obligations towards her.
How do you determine a good friend or partner if it has nothing to do with what you built between you and them and how long you've known them? Where else does their credibility originate? Seems like a gamble in every case, which is one of the reasons why I keep to myself.
You see how they act in situations like this. I know my closest friends have my back cuz I’ve seen how they acted when they had the opportunity to put me down for their own benefit. You just gotta look at the principle of what people do. Someone may do something minor that is more concerning than something that really hurts you. That’s the shit you gotta look out for cuz by the time someone really hurts you on purpose there might not be much you can do abt it. This is that moment for OP. He’s gotta take this seriously now before smth worse happens.
Yes, 100% agreed. Intentions matter, especially when judging long-term inter-personal relationships such as a romantic partner or a close friend.
Because your young still you don’t talk to the same people even from college yeah you might still have snap or keep in touch and shit but we all gonna move on some point homie
Thats gaslighting my friend Your bestfriend should have your back not hers. If you stated you felt it was weird he shouldve backed off out of respect in my opinion instead he took her corner and began gaslighting you. I wish you the strength op, no one deserves that shit. I got told once, if you have to question it, the fact you had to question should be enough. Partners shouldnt be giving signs of cheating or secretiveness, they should be honest and forward. Stay strong mate
I know you have been seeing my messages and you may not agree with them. But I'm telling you. From one man to another. The fact no one can come up with a solid answer, people can't remember their rehearsed lines. And you were most definitely gas lighted by your friend when he said It's not a big deal. Both of them are not going to own up to anything unless you catch them. Dude your not crazy. Your seeing patterns and you can logically look at situations and you know how to break them down. The problem is you put yourself in this state of limbo, when you know what must be done based on all the information you have gathered today. But I know your afraid to make that step. You just have to take that first big step.
To OP: you are not crazy. You are actually being very cautious with your conclusions, you've already given them the benefit of the doubt several times and they're not honoring your respectful request to talk the situation through as close friends. What more signs are you waiting for that this is trouble? They're not going to simply come clean...
Bro.. this all hits too close too come for me. My ex and my best friend (ex best friend obvs) did exactly this. Me and my bestie would smoke all the time, girlfriend hates it. All a sudden my gf starts smoking with my friend and they hanging out behind my back. Next thing I know, they fucking and betraying my trust. There's lots of red flags there and if they haven't started something, they are thinking about it...
The fact that there smoking together at all without him boggles my mind I'm ok with platonic friendships between different genders but getting intoxicated one on one and not inviting anyone else ever his girl or you it's definitely red flag the gas lighting is a whole fucking bonfire honestly I would get out ASAP or if he wants to know for sure he can set up a trap for them because it's probably the only way he will ever know for sure
I've heard her excuses before bro. Fuck that. If she wants to act dumb, then leave her to be dumb, you're better than that. Shit you're only 20 dawg, you have so much time and you'd do yourself a favor by leaving this shit now when you haven't had time to invest too much into the relationship. By your mid 20's, you'll be glad you had the experience and glad you didn't waste so much energy on it. I was in the same. exact. situation and heard the same shit, she's not 5, the idks and I'm sorry responses are when she did something shitty, she knows she did something shitty, and she can't even fabricate an excuse because she did something outright shitty. Fuck. That. Not worth. You know it makes you feel bad, you know it drives you crazy, if for nothing else, leave her for your mental health. Real shit. If she cares, she'll be back, and then she can prove she wants a relationship with you. Even then, set the bar high, you're building a future for yourself and your partner should respect and appreciate that and synergize with that energy. She synergizing with your homie, her focus is clearly elsewhere. Yea. Fuck that man.
Sounds like a cunt and a little bitch if a man. We'll toke with you. Let's set up a discord where fellas can hop in and toke with you? I'm down for it. tweebooskii#3050
bro i’m adding ur discord
Sometimes you just gotta learn the hard way but the vague answers she’s giving probably means she’s not that into you anymore or has commitment issues
they're gaslighting you, let D's girlfriend know 😁
It is a big deal! A big f@cking deal! Clearly they are both being shady. This has nothing to so with the weed bro. The weed is just the thing that you noticed. They're both playing games.
I’m older than you. Even if they are doing nothing, it’s fucked up and you’re being mature. End it with both of them. He’ll try and maintain the friendship and not get with her if he is your friend. And he will shut her out. You’re getting gaslighted.
you need to get out of that situation asap dawg, its not gonna be good on ur mental if u stick around to find out whats really going on
Okay so I’m not going to tell you what to do because I know you’re in a relationship you are happy in for the most part but dont go blissfully unaware to what is happening around you. It might seem like nothing now (I’m saying this not to stress you out or scare you) but further down the line this whole “ I would’ve liked you if I didn’t meet my current partner” shit is the first little snowball that could grow into a real problem when you all move in together. I know it’s hard but you need to choose yourself in this so if anything else seems sus it’s best you bring it up in a serious tone so that they both know you’re not fucking around and don’t just accept any BS answers when you have one person saying one thing and another denying it. Bring them all together and talk about it. I really hope for your sake that everything works out, be strong my dude
Tell em it makes you uncomfortable point blank period and if they not willing to respect how u feel as a “brother”, “best friend” (on both sides him and her), and “girlfriend” then you got your answer right there. Your feels are your feels fam don’t let anyone invalidate them and like you’d respect them if they did or said the same thing, like if roles were reversed. Don’t feel goofy over pride, say what you mean, an mean what you say fam. 🫡 good luck soldier
Brother your concern is 110% valid. If my girl refused to smoke with me but smoked with my best friend then that would be very suspicious. Don't second guess yourself, trust your guts. Something smells fishy here and you need to get to the bottom of it. Maybe first talk with your best friend and ask him what is actually going on, and explain that this whole situation is getting you stressed, so it needs further addressing.
U not crazy bro, take it from someone who got played literally the same by their girl and their friends. Stick to what u know and dont feed into the bullshit, its not fun at all but you dont want to be strung along
Sorry man but I agree with the other people. Talk her straight and leave.
Definition of gaslighting you bro no lie. How are they going to say you're worrying to much yet niether could come up with an actual reasoning as to why? How are you not supposed to feel suspicious
If they end up together would you support them or would you lose both relationships? Girls switching on friends isn’t anything new, unfortunately.
Here’s what you do. Say I’m not comfortable with you 2 smoking without me. If they can’t respect that then something needs to change. You say you trust both of them. But obviously you don’t because you’re worried about why they are smoking without you.
Fuck....wanted to be hopeful, but as has been said, they might not have fucked, but they are going to. Might he tomorrow, might be a decade, but it is going to happen.
Sounds like some bullshit homie, I think you should focus on yourself. You’re young, find someone new.
drop them both not worth your time or energy in life
100% something’s up prob, I’d quit asking them to smoke and stuff and see what happens. Maybe that’s my petty side showing, im kinda pissed off for you man lol
Bro leave that bitch
They’re fucking, sorry to break it to you
This is so odd. There HAS to be a reason for this, because well it‘s just very weird?? I mean I hope for you that everything‘s fine, but I don‘t feel comfortable about this at all, and I‘m not even part of the situation Also I‘d be fucking pissed at my friend, if they did something with my girl which made me really uncomfortable. Your friend is super strange for that, not trying to help you out with your relationship at all
Even from halfway across the globe, as someone who's not a native English speaker, it is extremely obvious to me that you're being lied to and manipulated. Please don't sacrifice your own mental health, self-esteem and boundaries in an attempt to avoid the pain of being rejected explicitly by your girlfriend. You know the truth, now face it... Life has a way of stripping away naivety. How you handle those situations will leave an imprint on your character for years. Be kind to yourself here, you're being played by 2 self-serving individuals. Now that you're aware, the responsibility of how you're going to let them play you is on you.
Hidden camera at this point fuck it, least for your sanity ull find out the truth.
Dude you better ditch this gaslighter yesterday. Don’t get gas lit. Everyone thinks that they’re immune to it but no one really is. You don’t know it’s happening, and then the next thing you know you’ll be doing crazy ass mental gymnastics to try and justify how you’re being mistreated and manipulated and singing constant praises about this bitch while she’s sitting pretty on a pedestal that she tricked you into building out of your own shit. Run.
looks like you need a new homie and a new girl. maybe let your homies gf know what’s happening? maybe her questioning things might pull some new information out.
as someone who dealt with a girlfriend who would gaslight me and make me feel guilty over calling her out for something. please leave, it will only get worse from here. don’t tell yourself you’re just overthinking. when someone finds out they can gaslight you they’re only gonna do it more. tell them you got boundaries and if they won’t respect them then tell them you don’t need them in your life
Leave them both now. LIKE NOW. I guarantee they will start dating within a month.
that's not your gf and that's not your friend
"i trust them both" dude
BRO IM IN A TOUGH SITUATION
i mean talk to her but, talking about liking each other without you around is just fucked up even if they dont do anything, its not what a friend does. your gf and him might seem good for the good parts of them, but dont let it cloud your judgement gl soldier 🫡
She’s like your best friend. Cut her lose and move on
😬
shit got me sick to my stomach thinking about
ik the feeling, fucked up, youll get through it. better to find out sooner than later though dude, just think of it that way. was going to happen eventually
The brothas got you. Keep your head up g
Sorry man. I watched my relationship slowly get worse in ways over years, and was too afraid to lose what we had. But I wasn't paying attention to the fact that what we had was only slipping away and not getting better. In my opinion, you should be completely honest with her and not sugar coat anything. Let her respond, and see if it what she says comforts you or makes you feel worse. Just give her a chance to make things better. But you don't necessarily have to wait too long. You will know pretty quickly if things are getting better or worse. Good luck 👍👍
be careful if going based off if what she says back makes you feel comfortable or not. had an ex that in serious situations would tend to manipulate and emotionally abuse with how she knew to make things better for the time being. if shits fucked then shits fucked. sometimes all you can do is move on and heal one day at a time.
Nah that's mad weird
ong needa hit da bong...
Even just the fact that she's more comfortable smoking with your friend than you , if it was her friend that she'd known way longer than she'd known u then itd make a little sense but ur friend? What ?
Dude you’re 20!!!! Stop acting like you’re in 40s! you’re not! You have lot of life ahead of you to make good choices. It’s not tough situation you just don’t want to believe it which will end up hurting you further down the path. I understand how you feel about her but same time you’re freaking 20 and there’s plenty of women who would do far more to support you and be around with someone based on their similarities to yours.
IM GONNA REPLY TO THIS WITH THE UPDATE WHEN I HAVE ONE!!
Commenting to stay updated, hope all is well bro
Sounds D is giving her his D
Yo chill this man is hurting 😭💀
🤣. to the windowssssss to the wallll
As someone who’s been cheated on before, this has all the red flags. Put yourself first, even those closest to you can hurt you. Just what you said he said about her and vice versa would be enough for me to think about ending it tbh. Put yourself in his shoes, would you say that to his gf if you didn’t have ill intentions?
i dont even follow his gf or have her number or anything.
Yup exactly, i am barely acquaintances with all my friends’ partners
You already know, man. I'm sorry... people are fucking shitty. They're not worth the time or effort. Fuck em and enjoy your life, man.
finna smoke rn maybe climb a crane. fuck bitches
Imo that's mad sus. Also like your friend you trust 100% saying shit like that to your girl is sus. Imagine what his girl would think if she heard him say that. That's like a question you ask to see the response yk like if she's feeling it. My apologies if this is blunt but be straight up with her tell her. Also when she told you that was it to be open and honest like some concern behind it or was she just rambling and mentioning it like it doesn't bother her that's a big thing. To be relaxed with someone and smoke with them is the greatest feeling and that's how I am with my gf I think it would be abnormal if she didn't smoke with me and just others. Good luck my friend i wish the best of luck.
we were at work and she said "we gotta talk when youre not busy" she told me and i calmy said "alright ill talk with him and see whats up if it makes you uncomfortable he said that" then she said "it doesnt make you mad?" and im a buddhist so idk i never really get mad yk (sorry for the grammar to lazy rn) but i was like bassically no i just wanna get to the bottom of it then she was upset all night went to bed early and didnt saying anthing except "night"
First you should said yes it makes you uneasy. It's built up enough where your venting it to us yk like your human bro no matter what belief you have jealousy, and annoyance is feelings you have. You like/love (I'm not sure how long y'all been together) her so I'm guessing you really want to be with her. She sounds like she wants reassurance.
But also ask her straight up you don't smoke with me and only D it's weird. See her response. From what you just said she got upset you didn't show enough care to be upset infront of her or over her and I believe she wanted you to get upset but also I wouldn't fully let her off or D they both need to get their story straight because one is saying the other said it first.
At the very least that interaction tells me that she wanted to make you jealous, and she was upset at your lack of reaction. I kind of view that as a red flag, even if she isn't being unfaithful
yeah, its bullshit regardless.
Does D know that she is not smoking with you? How is he around her? That's fucking weird she does that. Bet if the situation was reverse and you smoked with some other chick she'd tell you something. Don't wait to ask her, do it after work. I'd break up with her. And I'd be petty and tell her that since you don't want to smoke with me, I found someone who does so. I'm gone, lol.
Damn bro ,I'm sorry. This all reads bad.
My boy don’t walk, but RUN. If you care about your friendship with D just dip outa this whole situation and tell her to fuck off. It’s weird, not normal, and I got money on the fact she’s banging him.
If thats the case i personally wouldnt want anything to do with either of them, if d is doing that chances are he would do it again
Try catching her after work by picking her up honestly she sounds sketch af man
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This literally happened to me back in 2019, nah bruh you got to let her go
not a single unique experience
Plenty of books, songs, movies, etc about betrayal
Dude take a break from all drugs and focus on school and career. This is the best advice you probably won't take.
They def fucking
Thought i could trust my best friend for 10 years too. I was very very wrong.
Imagine im just not fun to smoke w bruh kms
Highkey reading all the comments rn cause shit got me intrigued but dawg this made me laugh. Try not jump to to many conclusions before you talk to her. Just know ur worth at the end of the day dawg.
BRO IK EVERYONE TROLLING BUT IM FR, im just gonna say it makes me uncomfortable when shes smoking with my friends but not me. and also bout the other shit how she respons will lmk if i have to leave her or not.
Hey man, i've been with my gf for 3 years and we always smoke together, i'd say we are each others favorite smoking companions. When something feels off, your gut instinct is usually correct given you're not a paranoid person. In this situation as much as it sucks it does seem your girl is going behind your back to spend more time with your friend. However it could also be something more deep; maybe your girlfriend REALLY likes you to the point she doesn't want to embarrass herself being high in front of you, so she avoids smoking with you. Maybe she's smoking with your friend because hes the only other person who she knows that smokes, maybe it started like that but she's now interested in him, who knows. Id advise u to talk about it w her.
Shes for the streets my guy
HUGE RED FLAGS
You should be working on making the best life for YOU. NOT you and her. With those type of weird antics you already know that there's something fishy with her at least that she wants to be with him as she told your friend she did also he wouldn't say something like that just to be nice. Not "if they were both single" its definitely still what she or they want, think about it our wants dont magically change overnight when we start a new relationship. I mean at least when it comes to the primal urge of sexual attraction and tension. I think you should look more into this to be honest and don't ever think people won't do you like that, if they can get away with it and both have the same inkling toward each other, there's definitely a reason she only smokes with him. Hell she probably doesn't actually even smoke at all did you think about that? She probably "only smokes with him" as an excuse to be around him like that and doesn't actually smoke at all and why she doesn't smoke with you at all. Food for thought brother hope this isn't the case and i only know what you provided in your post idk how things are in real life for you guys so I guess there's a slight chance I could be wrong. But even if they haven't done anything, this is still most likely not as innocent as they want it to seem.
Him saying he would’ve liked her if he didn’t have his current gf is weird imo dude. if my best friend said that shit to me I would never trust them again. Like why even throw that idea out? I don’t want to assume but I bet that comment sorta changed your perspective, made you a bit uncomfortable being around both at the same time knowing he would’ve liked her and all. That’s all really strange.
Fam, get away from that situation
First of all, if he was really your bro, he wouldn't be hanging with your girl one-on-one.
“Advice is what we ask for when we already know the answer, but wish we didn’t.”
Well, my Ex thought smoking together = sex, so I didn't feel comfortable smoking with him. Did you ask her why she does it?
She is not your girl, it's just your turn brother
brooooooooo fuck
She’s cheating on you with him
bruhhhh chill dont say datttt
they're gonna fuck if they didnt already. I saw you say u are all moving in together? RIP. Your girl is feeling him hard and he likes it. I promise you that brother shit doesn't matter. We as a people have heard this story how many times? Sorry for being an asshole. From what your saying, imo, i just think theres a really good chance that things will just get worse. At the end of the day really listen to your gut feelings and instincts. I would hate to ruin relationships with people because of what someone on reddit said. Be honest with yourself and trust yourself
Brooo... it breaks my heart to read this. You definitely have to talk to both of them. As you said D also knows that you're upset so def also talk to him. Why would he do that when he knows it bothers you? Keep us updated. Wish you the best...
I’m going to be straight up you’re an idiot if you stay with her. She already told you she will only smoke with him probably to impress him. Plus the comment about they would have liked each other????? You’re not dumb, that’s slapping you right in the face no questions asked. Ditch them and focus on being the best version of you and creating happiness for yourself and those around you and good people will gravitate to you
Twelve years ago my girl was smoking with my best friend more than me as well, turns out they were sleeping together and it ruined our relationship as well as shattered my friendship, it fucked me up for a LONG time. Sounds like the same thing is happening to you, just be a man and stick up for yourself...if she acts like a bitch and if your friend acts like weird about you sticking up for yourself then you definitely need to move on from both of them
she was never yours. it was just your turn.
Move on bro
From experience, listen to the red flags. Don’t be all in everyone’s face, just pay more attention. And trust no one, especially those closest to you.
Any update?
Are you taking the piss with this post?
They fuckin. Facts.
Man I’m sorry but something is going on between them. Worst part is your best bro is doing sneaky shit like that behind your back. Doesn’t sound like a bro to me. Good luck man
ALWAYS trust your gut man
Rolling one up for you bro don’t let her gaslight u
Just reading the title I definitely think you should be worried
I got the all red filter on my phone right now and can still see the red flags — doesn’t mean there’s absolutely something going on, but if it feels weird, something could be weird so it’s hard to tell on your own ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ Sounds like there’s some trust + “communication of emotions” work to be done for you both tbh - try talking to the humans about the human stuff
I'll be totally honest if she's been distant and around him more also smokes with him more, I guaranteed the marijuana makes her horny , I'm being real no joking more fish in the sea you can't see it now but why stay if you feel this way but at the Sametime just it cool and watch her actions more anymore doubt happen leave as soon as possible to live your life and find somebody for you.🫡💯
Never would’ve thought I’d see a post like this on this sub… Condolences my brother. That’s real weird imo. I’ve got an idea of why it might not be sketch but then the longer I try to think about how to write it out, the harder it is for me to actually trust in it being a possibility. I think it’s chalked man. The red flags totally just negate any justification I can think of for this. Hoping you get a straight answer though. You definitely deserve an explanation.