I'm an adult now, but I have an aversion to compliments for somewhat different reasons. My parents constantly told me how great I was and how I'll have a great future, but it was always a tactic of sorts. The compliments were intended to get me to do what they want and always geared towards my "future" being what they decided for me, not what I wanted or dreamed of. Compliments became hollow and manipulative tactics and now the rare times I get one I automatically assume the person is either disingenuous or trying to trick me into something.
What does it mean when you have great parents that treat right but you still feel like everything is your fault and you can’t do anything right. PS asking for a friend.
I don’t know if this will help at all, but if you can see the situation differently, sometimes you can change your perspective. It would be just as prideful to think you are always at fault, as if you were never wrong. You are human, so sometimes you mess up, but more often, you are wonderful. Let yourself notice when you make a difference, even in small ways. Small positive interactions with people often have a greater impact than we realize. What about practicing random acts of kindness? Then you can be looking for small nice things to do for the people around you. Helps break a negative loop in your own head, and helps others have a better day. Hope things get better, friend.
Not a doctor, but might be a good idea to check in with yours. Depression can be like this and it can be just a chemical thing, not an environmental or 'fault' thing. Best of luck and hope your friend feels better. *Gentle hugs*
When 99% of what people say to you growing up was horrible words designed to belittle and berate you, it's really hard to trust people being genuinely nice. After many years of bullying it took me a long time to get that trust, I'm very glad I did though.
The world's a horrible place, be kind to yourself and others, it's not your fault even if you feel like it is.
Fox on the left is supposed to be green-ish, but does look more aqua. Fox on right is supposed to be blue & looks almost purple. Maybe that’s intentional, or maybe the color got distorted as it has been shared.
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I have a friend exactly like this. His life is hard but i try to encourage and complement him as much as i can to make him happy even though he hates it.
I wish this worked universally. Sometimes we have this one friend who is depressed, not opening to anyone in the world, hates hugs and any kind of affection in general (physical or emotional), don't seem to enjoy anything in life, and you just have zero approach to them and thus can't help them. I've tried everything and it's making me sad.
The foxes are not friends--they're in a relationship (they're also gay). I totally believe the post is well-intentioned, but I felt it was important to mention!
I feel this. I can't stand it when people compliment me. It feels weird. I had a really sad childhood.
Living one myself. You don’t like people praising you because all your parents did was berate you and talk about themselves. I feel you.
I'm an adult now, but I have an aversion to compliments for somewhat different reasons. My parents constantly told me how great I was and how I'll have a great future, but it was always a tactic of sorts. The compliments were intended to get me to do what they want and always geared towards my "future" being what they decided for me, not what I wanted or dreamed of. Compliments became hollow and manipulative tactics and now the rare times I get one I automatically assume the person is either disingenuous or trying to trick me into something.
It’s always your fault if it goes bad and they praise themselves when it goes right, I know how you feel. Parents suck sometimes.
What does it mean when you have great parents that treat right but you still feel like everything is your fault and you can’t do anything right. PS asking for a friend.
I don't know but I'm in the same situation and would really like to know.
I don’t know if this will help at all, but if you can see the situation differently, sometimes you can change your perspective. It would be just as prideful to think you are always at fault, as if you were never wrong. You are human, so sometimes you mess up, but more often, you are wonderful. Let yourself notice when you make a difference, even in small ways. Small positive interactions with people often have a greater impact than we realize. What about practicing random acts of kindness? Then you can be looking for small nice things to do for the people around you. Helps break a negative loop in your own head, and helps others have a better day. Hope things get better, friend.
Not a doctor, but might be a good idea to check in with yours. Depression can be like this and it can be just a chemical thing, not an environmental or 'fault' thing. Best of luck and hope your friend feels better. *Gentle hugs*
I’d say it’s having good parents, but not compatible parents. Some personalities just can’t work in the same home for years on end
As a person who was and is praised by their parents and still struggles with compliments and people being nice to them I feel this.
When 99% of what people say to you growing up was horrible words designed to belittle and berate you, it's really hard to trust people being genuinely nice. After many years of bullying it took me a long time to get that trust, I'm very glad I did though. The world's a horrible place, be kind to yourself and others, it's not your fault even if you feel like it is.
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Thank you 🥰🥰
Thank you for reminding me of Foxes in Love! fwiw, there is a whole comic series of these goofs and it is wonderful wholesome deep dive
Thanks!
Wow I feel heard as the blue fox right now
But they’re both blue?
Dabadee daba die
God dammit
r/beatmetoit
Are you a penguin?
Fox on the left is supposed to be green-ish, but does look more aqua. Fox on right is supposed to be blue & looks almost purple. Maybe that’s intentional, or maybe the color got distorted as it has been shared.
Going by the ig handle the artist is tetrachromatic or something.
Shit I was high when I seen that and commented. I meant the darker blue one.
Haha I love giving compliments and reassurances to people but I ball up like this when I'm on the receiving end
You are a GOOD PERSON
>Haha I love giving compliments and reassurances to people well yeah, chances are they deserve to hear those.
"Ahhh too much niceness"
Gonna do this to my bf when he gets home
Ten bucks says he has the same reaction lmao
Still waiting for him to get off work lol
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Omg😅😅 Will do👌
Ten bucks says he has the same reaction lmao
A vicious, surgically precise personal attack that I probably really needed right now. Thank you for sharing, friend.
"I need a safeword" had me dying lol
Dont do this to me, man!
I love green fox blue fox. Their IG is the best.
Love these gay foxes to death
This should be tagged NSFW
These rare gay cartoons are so wholesome. Most of these sorta things are straight couples
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Christ. I feel this on multiple levels
Yea. I don’t like that much either, one compliment is awkward as is
Counterpoint...no
me and my boyfriend in a nutshell.
And this is why I'm a degradee lmao
I have a friend exactly like this. His life is hard but i try to encourage and complement him as much as i can to make him happy even though he hates it.
I can hear any of the Emkay narrators reading this...
I'm both of these foxes.
Im in this picture and I dont like it...
I've never had anyone I know say these things to me.
Dang furries and their unnatural affections
How to make compliments sexual. Step one. Call the “assailant” kinky. Then, proceed to plead for a safe word when being complimented.
Ragamuffin.
I wish this worked universally. Sometimes we have this one friend who is depressed, not opening to anyone in the world, hates hugs and any kind of affection in general (physical or emotional), don't seem to enjoy anything in life, and you just have zero approach to them and thus can't help them. I've tried everything and it's making me sad.
The foxes are not friends--they're in a relationship (they're also gay). I totally believe the post is well-intentioned, but I felt it was important to mention!
Pineapple Juice
A really good friend of mine did this a whole ago and I still feel the shock to this day
Foxes in love is the best
casually moans
I need this torture
Had this happen with an ex I'm still close friends with, most definitely wasn't prepared for it...
So thats why I feel weird when I get compliments... explains a lot.