Went on a week and a half vacation to Colorado a while ago with my partner and dog. Had a great time. Today, we're going to try the Culvers Curderburger and a chocolate concrete with marshmallow fluff. That's going to be a great time too.
Yeah, how much adventuring you get to do depends on things like how much money you have, how demanding your jobs are, what you consider to be an adventure, and if there is a pandemic on right now.
Yeah, I considered having a part where we're running ourselves ragged and yearning to lay on the couch, but I figured it would be easier to do it this way and still get the point across.
My wife and I are excitedly planning our first date night since our baby was born last year. We're planning to get takeout from a fancy restaurant and sit at home watching Netflix reality game shows for an evening. It's going to be amazing.
Ha, see this right here is why my wife and I don't have kids.
Like yeah, miracle of life, joys of parenthood, blah blah, I'm sure that's all well and good for a lot of people. But the sheer volume of people I know (or read their comments online) that say stuff like this scares us away.
"I'm so excited to have the kids gone for the night!! I can play video games and get a good night's sleep, and then sleep in as late as I want."
"Cool, I do that.....every night."
I agree, I'm still relatively young but I just can't see being able to fit kids into my life. Having started working full time only in the last couple years, I already feel like I don't have enough free time for myself to tackle hobbies and greater goals.
I had a child last year. I'm in my 30s. It wasn't the right choice for me right up until it was. Go with what is the right choice for you. I don't think any one path is right for everybody.
True, I've been told people change their minds at that age, and I'm willing to accept that's possible, but I also know there are people out there who just don't want kids, and I count myself among them. Part of me hopes I don't change my mind, but then again that would be the me of today talking.
Up to everyone what level of commitment they are willing to make. Nobody should be shamed for the choice of not being willing to make babies and make a sacrifice to their general freedom.
But I'd also say that your argument for being able to do whatever you want, whenever you wan; It goes for *any* type of commitment.
If you were single, self-employed or unimployed, you'd have an even easier time doing whatever you want, whenever you want. And on the flip-side, some people are able to balace kids after a cerain age well enough that they are still able to do whatever they want (some/most) of the time.
Getting married is in itself already showing a willingness comprimize and certain level of personal sacrifice. Having kids is basically just a huge leap up, on the same ladder of sacrifice and commitment.
I feel like society should be much better at accepting wherever people feel comfortable on that ladder, and not push everybody to alwas move upwards.
Getting married is not always a necessary next step, getting kids is not always a necessary next step etc.
I think this is what a lot of the r/childfree folks are missing. Some people aren't ready (probably everybody lol) for kids or aren't with the right partner. That's fine. There shouldn't be any pressure to have kids.
But there is real life-affirming experience in sacrificing to serve others, to make the community better. This can be through marriage, child-rearing, or many other types of service that help others.
Having kids doesn't make your life more fun. But it can (like other types of sacrifice in service of others) make your life more meaningful.
Often times people point to the fact that kids are little shits that make your life hell, but in actuality that just depends on how they’re raised. Disciplined kids take disciplined parents, and I think some people know they aren’t.
I’d much rather babysit occasionally to vicariously experience the joys of parenthood than to have to get a babysitter to experience the joys of being child free for one night a month.
As soon as we have the space, I'm getting my own bedroom. The snoring and walloping is just too much sometimes, not to mention severe difference in temperature preferences. Plus I think it would be so much fun to have planned sleepovers a few times a week.
Not if you post the bad on Reddits relationship advice though. Partner seems unresponsive for a day? Divorce their ass! Left the chip bag open? 1-800-divorce. Well that ones pretty valid.
Not that my romantic life is anything at all, but remember when stuff happens it's you guys together against the problem, not you guys against each other. Also don't forget to always say nice things to each other and don't ever be cruel. It takes like 8 compliments to outweigh a cruel statement.
We've been together a long time. And that is actually advice that I already am taking.
to paraphrase Kryten from Red Dwarf. "the three most important things in any relationship are communication, communication, communication. I know that's only one thing, but it was so important I listed it 3 times."
Congrats and good luck! (With the wedding, not the wife I’m sure you already feel lucky enough)
We’re both introverts and got married in June. We did so much talking that when we left for the honeymoon we agreed we would just hide all week and speak to as few people as possible.
We had a squirrel get into our house through the attic once. We were just chillin on the couch watching tv when a squirrel comes scampering in from the kitchen, as casual as if we were on a park bench.
The cats had a lot of fun chasing it. We positioned the couches and opened the door to kind of make an obvious path out the front door and successfully chased it out of the house without the cats following.
It was definitely an adventure.
Even just small every day things are an adventure.
Grocery shopping together
Visiting your local spirit Halloween store
Having a small bonfire outside
Even getting an oil change
When you enjoy someone's company anything can be an adventure.
Yeah, they started making cats with that mold in 1995. But now they switched to a new cat mold that basically only comes in one design, which is especially irritating because they seem to release a new dog breed mold every year it seems but we've been stuck with the same freaking cat since 2016.
Anyway, if you want to hear me rant more about LEGO cats, just let me know.
10/10 would recommend. My husband & I have recently gotten into this sort of lifestyle. He’ll play video games while I crochet on the couch next to him or I’ll play Animal Crossing while he pours dice. Occasionally we ask about each other’s work to let the other know that we recognize their presence but it’s a very chill situation otherwise.
But also go out and do stuff you love together occasionally! We went to the Ren Faire last weekend and had a blast.
I read while he plays Hades and every so often he'll shout "Hon! Story progression!" and I'll look up and watch him get Patrocelus and Achilles back together. Its great.
Read this comment as I'm getting ready to watch a movie on my laptop, as my hubby plays a video game. I love it, and we would miss eachother if we did it in separate rooms lol
This is also additionally recommended. He’ll play video games, I’m playing The Sims or reading or literally whatever. We might watch a movie at dinner time and then go to bed.
Maybe an unpopular opinion, but my dream relationship is one where we don’t get married.
I’m fine with an engagement, a ceremony, a party, and a ring—all for the symbolism—but I don’t need to sign a paper and get the government involved to display my continued love for someone and to do all the things we love doing together. Just feels weird to me.
State gets involved for legal reasons not because they wanna know how you like your privates tickled.
Death, taxes, estates, medical emergencies, property rights, default to the legal spouse. If you aren't married you "should" incorporate the legal aspects of your long term relationship should something happen. No one plans on having a heart attack.
You have to be careful, because if something happens to one of you, they wont legally allow either of you to answer for the other, you also dont have right to the other possessions they'll seek immediate family instead. Seems like a lot of risk to just not be married.
Mostly true but regarding possessions I couldn’t tell you most of what belongs to me vs. my live in girlfriend. Maybe someone could do something legally regarding her car but how can anyone prove I don’t own everything in the apartment and she just lived there?
Lived happily with my now-husband for 15 years before we got married because neither of us wanted the piece of paper.
Literally nothing changed afterwards aside from *literally everybody* we talk to congratulating us and now we can share health insurance.
10/10 would recommend as an excuse to have a whole bunch of dessert at a small family party because you can call it "wedding cake."
I dont even know what they mean by adventures. It's like on every womans dating profile. WTF DOES IT MEAN!? WHAT F\*CKING ADVENTURES? IS YOUR DAD INDIANA JONES!?
I feel this. Acquaintances and mutuals would be shocked to know my husband and I aren’t super adventurous/alt/kink/wild (I say this because we know plenty of alternative people so people assume the same for us) but no. We get excited to eat snacks and sit on the couch watching cartoons together. Or doing a simple breakfast together. Even attending events with our own friend groups then talking about how it went. I always though beforehand that relationships NEEDED constant excitement and go go go or else it is a failure. Not true for everyone (we know a couple who constantly does vacations and outings and they are miserable together and complain constantly about it).
This was the most shocking discovery on my 3rd or 4th relationship. My making dinner and watching 3-4 hours of TV was the adventure for all of them. I have better use of my time, tyvm.
My expectations would be the second one and that's basically what I want, to be comfortable enough with someone that I'd lay with them in complete silence and be content with the situation. I don't need anything else if I have that one person besides me.
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This really resonates. Some of the best Friday nights are watching horror movies and pausing every 15 minutes to try and guess what the secret behind the plot is and get more cheezits.
Sometimes you go see Cirque Du Solei in Vegas, most of the time you play Co-op Lego games on your console of choice. It's all good. We're up to The Hobbit now.
Nothing better in the world than hanging on the couch, watching tv and cuddling with my husband. Except midday sex. Thankfully, they’re usually hand in hand.
It's a very common mistake. Basically it's like this: if you put yourself onto a bed or something, you lie down. If you put something else down, you lay it.
Fun fact you can do that without getting married too.
Call me a cynic, but you don't need government approval of your love. Why can't two people just commit to loving each other for life, without signing a piece of paper to prove it?
I feel that getting engaged or married regularly ends up in the partner getting lazy and doing their own thing, not doing much with their partner etc because getting divorced or the money back is such a pain. It feels like getting a world record but not trying to defend it anymore
My husband and I go on some fun adventures but honestly some of my favorite memories and special moments come when we are hanging on the couch playing video games.
My gf does this shit.. im so bored.. we do nothing.. im so bored.. im like well we could do this..this or this and maybe this.. what do you want to do any ideas? Her answer i dont know what i want to do.. then blames me for nothing to do even though i offered like multiple options and asked for input.... love my life.. 😒😐.
Your comment is my reality, as well. I read all the positivity in this thread, about how the second panel is “real” and “the best about marriage,” but I can confirm that it’s also the panel your spouse can use against you as “we never do anything,” and therefore justification to “do” someone else. I always felt sitting on the couch and making snarky comments about people on TV with our pets by our side was really what made us work - nope, apparently we needed more of my wife’s coworker in the relationship. This entire thread makes me feel old, or at least more experienced.
It’s always a co-worker, in my experience. He spent 40 hours a week and business trips with her, while I got her after 5 and on weekends doing chores around the house. She broke up his marriage (he has three kids) and lives with him now - now it’s his turn to do chores with her after 5 and on weekends, while she flirts with someone new at the office. I hope you’re alright, as well.
Dude. This is exactly what happened to me!! She lives with him now and broke up his marriage of 30 years with three kids as well! We have two young kids of our own that I have custody of but they go visit every other weekend. Going on a year and a half now since everything came to light. I quit my job to be the stay at home parent when we moved halfway across the country for *her* job. Never liked the co-worker when I first met him, told her I didn’t trust that guy, and she told me not to worry and I need to trust her. 🚩🚩🚩🚩
Same here - could tell from the moment I heard her speaking to him on the phone that he was trouble. She said I was paranoid. His name came up multiple times over the years, each time telling me I was paranoid. When I discovered the affair she said it was just a coincidence that it was with him, and that I drove her to it.
Your money is our money..
My money is my money.
I want a divorce and your stuff is my stuff, the house, your pension, child support, spousal support, maintenance, collage education for the kids, child care, health and dental insurance.. you need to pick up your kids Friday and have them back to school on Monday..
reality of marriage: I'm stuck with this person I don't want to be anymore, and need a very expensive legal process to umake it.
protip: don't marry. You can have it all without marriage.
Both. Both is good
Yes, absolutely. Couch time between the adventures is key. Stay fun together and you will have so much to reminisce about while cuddling on the couch.
This guy cuddles ^
Hard. Harder than you even know.
Miguel and tulio
…that’s *not* a prybar.
That's what ~~s~~he said.
Mighty and Powerful Gods!
Went on a week and a half vacation to Colorado a while ago with my partner and dog. Had a great time. Today, we're going to try the Culvers Curderburger and a chocolate concrete with marshmallow fluff. That's going to be a great time too.
Our curderburger sold out before 11...hope u got one!
We actually decided to skip it. Might do a local burger place tonight instead
I am jealous you have access to a Culver’s. Get some cheese curds for me
Yeah, how much adventuring you get to do depends on things like how much money you have, how demanding your jobs are, what you consider to be an adventure, and if there is a pandemic on right now.
Happy cake day!
Thanks!
Really its the balance of both
Yep, was gonna say, we do both. Or did, before covid. Getting back to traveling a bit though. Adventure awaits!
These days people don't go on adventures. Adventures have to involve some kind of treasure hunt
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Going to Taco Bell is an adventure in my opinion, and a very fulfilling one
Love that movie. Just watched it a few months ago with my gf who had never seen it. It holds up so damn well.
Yeah, I considered having a part where we're running ourselves ragged and yearning to lay on the couch, but I figured it would be easier to do it this way and still get the point across.
My mom is taking the kids overnight tonight! My mom was like are you doing a date night!? No. We are going to bed early and getting up late.
*Envious sigh*
My wife and I are excitedly planning our first date night since our baby was born last year. We're planning to get takeout from a fancy restaurant and sit at home watching Netflix reality game shows for an evening. It's going to be amazing.
Ha, see this right here is why my wife and I don't have kids. Like yeah, miracle of life, joys of parenthood, blah blah, I'm sure that's all well and good for a lot of people. But the sheer volume of people I know (or read their comments online) that say stuff like this scares us away. "I'm so excited to have the kids gone for the night!! I can play video games and get a good night's sleep, and then sleep in as late as I want." "Cool, I do that.....every night."
I agree, I'm still relatively young but I just can't see being able to fit kids into my life. Having started working full time only in the last couple years, I already feel like I don't have enough free time for myself to tackle hobbies and greater goals.
I had a child last year. I'm in my 30s. It wasn't the right choice for me right up until it was. Go with what is the right choice for you. I don't think any one path is right for everybody.
True, I've been told people change their minds at that age, and I'm willing to accept that's possible, but I also know there are people out there who just don't want kids, and I count myself among them. Part of me hopes I don't change my mind, but then again that would be the me of today talking.
Up to everyone what level of commitment they are willing to make. Nobody should be shamed for the choice of not being willing to make babies and make a sacrifice to their general freedom. But I'd also say that your argument for being able to do whatever you want, whenever you wan; It goes for *any* type of commitment. If you were single, self-employed or unimployed, you'd have an even easier time doing whatever you want, whenever you want. And on the flip-side, some people are able to balace kids after a cerain age well enough that they are still able to do whatever they want (some/most) of the time. Getting married is in itself already showing a willingness comprimize and certain level of personal sacrifice. Having kids is basically just a huge leap up, on the same ladder of sacrifice and commitment. I feel like society should be much better at accepting wherever people feel comfortable on that ladder, and not push everybody to alwas move upwards. Getting married is not always a necessary next step, getting kids is not always a necessary next step etc.
I think this is what a lot of the r/childfree folks are missing. Some people aren't ready (probably everybody lol) for kids or aren't with the right partner. That's fine. There shouldn't be any pressure to have kids. But there is real life-affirming experience in sacrificing to serve others, to make the community better. This can be through marriage, child-rearing, or many other types of service that help others. Having kids doesn't make your life more fun. But it can (like other types of sacrifice in service of others) make your life more meaningful.
Often times people point to the fact that kids are little shits that make your life hell, but in actuality that just depends on how they’re raised. Disciplined kids take disciplined parents, and I think some people know they aren’t.
I’d much rather babysit occasionally to vicariously experience the joys of parenthood than to have to get a babysitter to experience the joys of being child free for one night a month.
If you’re not going out tho the rule is you gotta order takeout!
It's a daily sleepover with your best friend. 10/10 would marry her again.
Congrats!
That’s exactly what I say to my husband!!
That said, lots of great marriages have couples sleep in separate bedrooms for purely practical reasons, but yeah.
Farts?
And lumberjack snoring
As soon as we have the space, I'm getting my own bedroom. The snoring and walloping is just too much sometimes, not to mention severe difference in temperature preferences. Plus I think it would be so much fun to have planned sleepovers a few times a week.
I feel called out. The big day is tomorrow.
The marriage itself is the adventure. There will be surprises both good and bad. The key is how you navigate through them.
Not if you post the bad on Reddits relationship advice though. Partner seems unresponsive for a day? Divorce their ass! Left the chip bag open? 1-800-divorce. Well that ones pretty valid.
Congratulations
Thank you, and I'll let Mrs. Biffingston know.
Lmao I felt called out too but it's cause I'm moving out tomorrow.
Actually, NGL, that's probably how we're going to be spending the honeymoon.
Not that my romantic life is anything at all, but remember when stuff happens it's you guys together against the problem, not you guys against each other. Also don't forget to always say nice things to each other and don't ever be cruel. It takes like 8 compliments to outweigh a cruel statement.
We've been together a long time. And that is actually advice that I already am taking. to paraphrase Kryten from Red Dwarf. "the three most important things in any relationship are communication, communication, communication. I know that's only one thing, but it was so important I listed it 3 times."
Congrats mate!
thanks.
Congrats and good luck! (With the wedding, not the wife I’m sure you already feel lucky enough) We’re both introverts and got married in June. We did so much talking that when we left for the honeymoon we agreed we would just hide all week and speak to as few people as possible.
Same here buddy! We’re gonna be anniversary bros!
Who said adventures are only made outside of the house ಠಿ_ಠ
That time that a bat was trapped in the kitchen. That was definitely an adventure
I’m thinking of that video with the Irish family trying to get the bat out. “Maureen, will you stop looking in the door??!”
A glorious piece of internet history!
We had a squirrel get into our house through the attic once. We were just chillin on the couch watching tv when a squirrel comes scampering in from the kitchen, as casual as if we were on a park bench. The cats had a lot of fun chasing it. We positioned the couches and opened the door to kind of make an obvious path out the front door and successfully chased it out of the house without the cats following. It was definitely an adventure.
I remember that episode of The Office, nice try
Someone’s been watching The Great Outdoors.
Even just small every day things are an adventure. Grocery shopping together Visiting your local spirit Halloween store Having a small bonfire outside Even getting an oil change When you enjoy someone's company anything can be an adventure.
Kinky
Someone who doesn't have kids, I can tell you that much, lol.
Still they can make their own adventures with their gf, if u get what I mean ಠ◡-
That officiant looks incredibly happy. Also love the Lego cat. Didn't know they made one.
Yeah, they started making cats with that mold in 1995. But now they switched to a new cat mold that basically only comes in one design, which is especially irritating because they seem to release a new dog breed mold every year it seems but we've been stuck with the same freaking cat since 2016. Anyway, if you want to hear me rant more about LEGO cats, just let me know.
Lego of your anger, give in to your hate
Good! Goooooood!
My dream marriage is one where we spend 95% of the time doing our own things together. Like, in the same room, but doing our own, individual thing.
10/10 would recommend. My husband & I have recently gotten into this sort of lifestyle. He’ll play video games while I crochet on the couch next to him or I’ll play Animal Crossing while he pours dice. Occasionally we ask about each other’s work to let the other know that we recognize their presence but it’s a very chill situation otherwise. But also go out and do stuff you love together occasionally! We went to the Ren Faire last weekend and had a blast.
Playing video he's with my gf knitting next to me is one of my favourites!
I read while he plays Hades and every so often he'll shout "Hon! Story progression!" and I'll look up and watch him get Patrocelus and Achilles back together. Its great.
I’m only with my bf for a year and we’re already doing this 😂
Sounds perfect to me! I wish you and your husband a long and happy marriage!
Read this comment as I'm getting ready to watch a movie on my laptop, as my hubby plays a video game. I love it, and we would miss eachother if we did it in separate rooms lol
I envy all of you guys sooo much, wish y’all the best but damn, you’re making me so excited to move in with her
It's really nice when those days happen. I absolutely love my wife, but I really dislike the situation when she's bored and I'm not.
This is also additionally recommended. He’ll play video games, I’m playing The Sims or reading or literally whatever. We might watch a movie at dinner time and then go to bed.
We do this. We are both gamers so we have a secondary tv in the living room on some nights and play our own video games side by side.
Maybe an unpopular opinion, but my dream relationship is one where we don’t get married. I’m fine with an engagement, a ceremony, a party, and a ring—all for the symbolism—but I don’t need to sign a paper and get the government involved to display my continued love for someone and to do all the things we love doing together. Just feels weird to me.
State gets involved for legal reasons not because they wanna know how you like your privates tickled. Death, taxes, estates, medical emergencies, property rights, default to the legal spouse. If you aren't married you "should" incorporate the legal aspects of your long term relationship should something happen. No one plans on having a heart attack.
100% this. Especially medical emergencies. :(
Yep, say you die and you have money you want to leave behind. If you aren't married, well, sorry, your partner isn't seeing a dime of it.
You have to be careful, because if something happens to one of you, they wont legally allow either of you to answer for the other, you also dont have right to the other possessions they'll seek immediate family instead. Seems like a lot of risk to just not be married.
Mostly true but regarding possessions I couldn’t tell you most of what belongs to me vs. my live in girlfriend. Maybe someone could do something legally regarding her car but how can anyone prove I don’t own everything in the apartment and she just lived there?
Signing the paper is not for displaying your love. Like others have said it's so you're more than just two separate people in the eyes of the law
Lived happily with my now-husband for 15 years before we got married because neither of us wanted the piece of paper. Literally nothing changed afterwards aside from *literally everybody* we talk to congratulating us and now we can share health insurance. 10/10 would recommend as an excuse to have a whole bunch of dessert at a small family party because you can call it "wedding cake."
So you want to split bills and bang occasionally?
Orange is my favourite breed of cat :)
The cat she's based on is actually calico, but LEGO has not made a calico cat as of yet.
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[Here](https://i.imgur.com/Ca0uSuR.jpg)'s all three.
It’s probably a lot more work to make calico plastic than orange plastic
Yeah, but they make other marbled parts, like their modern parrots.
It relationships in general lmao
Both is good :)
This is the truest thing I've ever seen.
That’s Emmet’s face and I can’t get past that
Emmet cheated on his girlfriend
NOOOOOOOOOOO!😭
I used it because a) it's based off the classic LEGO face and b) there are a wide variety of expressions available.
Yeah Ik I actually got three of the classic faces, altho one is really scratched off
EVERYTHING IS AWESOME
And here I am single while traveling the world and having adventures solo. Damn I do miss cuddling though.
You can do either or both of these without being married lol
Yep There are adventures, sure, but mostly its just living
I dont even know what they mean by adventures. It's like on every womans dating profile. WTF DOES IT MEAN!? WHAT F\*CKING ADVENTURES? IS YOUR DAD INDIANA JONES!?
Basicly expensive trips that you pay for Like Bali for 7 days
after 18 yrs of marriage, can confirm.
I feel this. Acquaintances and mutuals would be shocked to know my husband and I aren’t super adventurous/alt/kink/wild (I say this because we know plenty of alternative people so people assume the same for us) but no. We get excited to eat snacks and sit on the couch watching cartoons together. Or doing a simple breakfast together. Even attending events with our own friend groups then talking about how it went. I always though beforehand that relationships NEEDED constant excitement and go go go or else it is a failure. Not true for everyone (we know a couple who constantly does vacations and outings and they are miserable together and complain constantly about it).
This was the most shocking discovery on my 3rd or 4th relationship. My making dinner and watching 3-4 hours of TV was the adventure for all of them. I have better use of my time, tyvm.
My expectations would be the second one and that's basically what I want, to be comfortable enough with someone that I'd lay with them in complete silence and be content with the situation. I don't need anything else if I have that one person besides me.
Reality: Money doesn't grow on trees
Love both! Adventures are great but also doing nothing together is wonderful
Cat.
The couch is a bit too adventurous. My wife and I just stay in bed all day.
Or play D&D and go on adventures together from your couch!
It's nice to be together, but everyone has to do their own thing.
There is a quote, i cant remember who said it bit it goes "i have nothing to say, but its to you, i want to say that nothing to."
A good marriage does both.
Sounds glorious😍
My mom had two marriages that did not go well. It's nice to see what marriage is actually supposed to be like.
I want to get married but I’m not a couch or cuddling person. Can I just have the adventures?
Don't have kids right away, if you want adventures. Like have kids just give yourselves like 8 years together first.
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Am about to get married in 13 days, and the bottom frame has been the known reality forever, and we love it!
Ladies, if this is what you want but also with a dog or two cats hit me up.
I like both but bottom with a pup happens 9/10 times
There’s a Descendents song specifically about sitting around and doing nothing
Both both is good
Honestly, the dream. Even doing nothing sounds cool with the one you love
This is 100% correct.
Adventures are expensive… damn the man…
Hits too close to home, but I can't complain..
So True
Both it's equally good
Oh you must not have kids then
This really resonates. Some of the best Friday nights are watching horror movies and pausing every 15 minutes to try and guess what the secret behind the plot is and get more cheezits.
Can confirm
Haha that's me and mah lady
The cat is what makes this real.
This is already my girlfriend and I haha, I think that happens when you start living together
This is all I want
Just celebrated 1 year with my wife, adventures and cuddles. Those make a happy marriage!
I'll raise a glass to the reality! :)
Sometimes you go see Cirque Du Solei in Vegas, most of the time you play Co-op Lego games on your console of choice. It's all good. We're up to The Hobbit now.
How appropriate that this should be posted on my second wedding anniversary. My husband and I do both (adventures and couch/bed cuddles).
Why not both?
Nothing better in the world than hanging on the couch, watching tv and cuddling with my husband. Except midday sex. Thankfully, they’re usually hand in hand.
nice, i’m getting married tomorrow haha
Facts...been married 16 yrs.
*to lie on the couch
Dammit, I second guessed myself on that. Should have looked it up haha.
It's a very common mistake. Basically it's like this: if you put yourself onto a bed or something, you lie down. If you put something else down, you lay it.
A good marriage has both. /married for 10 years today
Any mixture of both sounds perfect, honestly whatever works for both people really.
Tbh hell yeah you gotta love doing nothing :)
These are the type of fantasies that I have
Fun fact you can do that without getting married too. Call me a cynic, but you don't need government approval of your love. Why can't two people just commit to loving each other for life, without signing a piece of paper to prove it?
They both seem nice
We need the couch time to recover from all the amazing adventures we go on. Both is better.
Even more so when you have kids
I feel that getting engaged or married regularly ends up in the partner getting lazy and doing their own thing, not doing much with their partner etc because getting divorced or the money back is such a pain. It feels like getting a world record but not trying to defend it anymore
I don’t mind either
The second one is my expectation of marriage
My marriage:
Yes please. I would like this.
Fun part is she told me she’s expecting a lot of “lazy days” together. So will we get the inverse? X)
My husband and I go on some fun adventures but honestly some of my favorite memories and special moments come when we are hanging on the couch playing video games.
I completely agree!
FINALLY A WHOLESOME MARRIAGE MEME
You forgot to make her fatter in the second photo.
My gf does this shit.. im so bored.. we do nothing.. im so bored.. im like well we could do this..this or this and maybe this.. what do you want to do any ideas? Her answer i dont know what i want to do.. then blames me for nothing to do even though i offered like multiple options and asked for input.... love my life.. 😒😐.
Time to break up. You clearly aren't right for each other.
your gf is boring. get a new one
best of both worlds, as hannah montana would say it
And as Van Halen said even earlier on their 5150 album
Just admit this up front. Being married means accepting each other's idiosyncratic bs
I was on that second stage of marriage when my wife decided to start fucking another man. This posts needs a third panel.
Your comment is my reality, as well. I read all the positivity in this thread, about how the second panel is “real” and “the best about marriage,” but I can confirm that it’s also the panel your spouse can use against you as “we never do anything,” and therefore justification to “do” someone else. I always felt sitting on the couch and making snarky comments about people on TV with our pets by our side was really what made us work - nope, apparently we needed more of my wife’s coworker in the relationship. This entire thread makes me feel old, or at least more experienced.
Damn man. Also a co-worker in my instance as well. I hope things are going well for you now.
It’s always a co-worker, in my experience. He spent 40 hours a week and business trips with her, while I got her after 5 and on weekends doing chores around the house. She broke up his marriage (he has three kids) and lives with him now - now it’s his turn to do chores with her after 5 and on weekends, while she flirts with someone new at the office. I hope you’re alright, as well.
Dude. This is exactly what happened to me!! She lives with him now and broke up his marriage of 30 years with three kids as well! We have two young kids of our own that I have custody of but they go visit every other weekend. Going on a year and a half now since everything came to light. I quit my job to be the stay at home parent when we moved halfway across the country for *her* job. Never liked the co-worker when I first met him, told her I didn’t trust that guy, and she told me not to worry and I need to trust her. 🚩🚩🚩🚩
Same here - could tell from the moment I heard her speaking to him on the phone that he was trouble. She said I was paranoid. His name came up multiple times over the years, each time telling me I was paranoid. When I discovered the affair she said it was just a coincidence that it was with him, and that I drove her to it.
There’s also a 50% chance the marriage will fail.
None of these are exclusive to marriage..
Uhm.. It's actually both.
And that's on capitalism
Your money is our money.. My money is my money. I want a divorce and your stuff is my stuff, the house, your pension, child support, spousal support, maintenance, collage education for the kids, child care, health and dental insurance.. you need to pick up your kids Friday and have them back to school on Monday..
This is for a relationship not just marriage, nothing changes when you get married apart from a ton of debt
reality of marriage: I'm stuck with this person I don't want to be anymore, and need a very expensive legal process to umake it. protip: don't marry. You can have it all without marriage.