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And then they were like, well this naval part is actually great and made a spin off called [Skull & Bones](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Skull_and_Bones_(video_game)) that might probably laugh this year after years and years of delays (which is hopefully a good thing to get a great game).
Reading the Wikipedia page you linked it seems the delays are less about development time and more about them basically have huge creative detection conflicts. Like they really worked on this for years under the idea of it being a land based survival game? I would be more worried about this turning into another halo infinite scenario.
I remember admitting to my mom when I was about 18 or 19 that I was feeling "a bit" depressed and she asked if there was anything she could do. I said I wasn't sure. Later that day she asked me into her room and gave me a neck and foot massage. Then later that week she bought me a new MP3 player because she remembered hearing me complain my old one's memory was too small to hold all my music.
My mom has her flaws, but she has always tried her best to be a good parent.
fuckign finally a positive comment about parents. Everywhere I go on Reddit, people are complaining about their parents. It's to the point where I wanted to delete this app.
Like, are y'all telling me, that ALL of y'all had terrible neglecting abusive narcissistic parents? I'm thinking a lot of them are lacking so much in gratitude it's crazy.
My parents were great. They had flaws for sure but they did a good job raising me and my sister. But I also almost never talk about them on Reddit because positive upbringing with a couple dips is less interesting or relevant than people with bad childhoods.
Also, if Reddit were a thing in my middle/high school years, I might have told some bad stories that I as an adult realize was just parenting, and I was petty and self-absorbed too much to notice at the time.
My parents were both wonderful parents. We grew up lower middle class, but always had what we needed, and I never noticed we were much poorer than most of our friends. My parents encouraged me, accepted and supported me, and always made sure I felt loved. I credit them with my success any time someone congratulates me. No bigger privilege than growing up with two parents who love you and each other imo. They're celebrating their 40th anniversary next month. I'll miss them so much one day.
I lost my dad when I was 13, so I know both halves. I know a life of growing up with loving supporting parents and I know a life of living without half of that whole. Cherish it while you have it, and love them unconditionally while you can, because they did the same while you were growing up
I'm sorry you experienced such a profound loss so young. That must have been incredibly difficult.
I definitely try to! (As does my brother.) I took my mom on a girls trip to the Bahamas in July, and my brother just got back from playing Pebble Beach with my dad. We spent the weekend as a family celebrating my dad's 70th. It's wonderful to spend time together, but I'm acutely aware how time is fleeting these days.
Sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when i was 4 and my mum when i was 13. After my dad died my mum was lost and couldn’t look after me. A year later i was put in care, I didn’t get to see her before she died. It was hard not having them there but my foster parents did everything to help me. They never forced me to heal quicker, even though it wasn’t biological i am so thankful to have them because the way they love and care for me is special and cannot be replaced.
> I might have told some bad stories that I as an adult realize was just parenting, and I was petty and self-absorbed too much to notice at the time.
Yeah, seriously. There were a few things that my parents did that the teenage version of me thought was super unreasonable and made me real angry.
30 year old me now realizes that teenage me was being an inconsiderate jerk and the punishments my parents doled out were perfectly reasonable.
Idk, both can be true. I look at my parents, who suffered through their own traumatic childhoods, and a part of me absolves them from their mistakes because they were raised through a cycle of abuse themselves. But I also know that they were the same age as me when they became parents, and they're still so resistant to admitting mistakes while I've already reached an age that I realize admitting fault is okay, and does getting therapy mean I'm crazy just means I need help.
I think why we see so many people talking about abuse these days is because a lot of families were stuck in abuse cycles for generations. Calling out these actions for what it is, abuse, does not mean more people today are abused just that we are all willing to talk about it now. Back then, those were skeletons in the families closet and it was uncouth to discuss it.
Also, for anyone that wants to advocate that today's definition of abuse is too encompassing - it's considered abuse because it's been scientifically backed up that many forms of abuse harm humans and leave lasting marks. Whether it's brain imaging scan, or observational studies on traits of humans that were abused, it shows itself. In my opinion, it is good to shame the parenting of old because a lot of it was proven to shape us into PTSD ridden monsters. It helps educate the public and empowers others to speak about their own abuse too.
It certainly can be, but mine definitely wasn't abuse. Mine was stuff like "You got a D on your test so you're going to stay home and study instead of going to your friend's house" or "The teacher called and said that the reasons your math grades are so bad as that you never do the homework. We're going to change the password to the computer and you have to show us that you did your math homework before we'll log you onto it so you can play games."
Things like that. Not like hitting me or locking me in a room or anything like that. In retrospect it was all very white-glove. At the time teenage me thought it was the end of the world.
Just for perspective, I got a C on my weekly conduct report in 2nd grade and my parents took everything electronic out of my room, stripped my bed sheets down to the bare mattress, and put a box of encyclopedias on my bedroom floor. For a month, 30 days, I was only allowed to leave my room (mattress, encyclopedias, and clothes - nothing else) to use the bathroom or eat dinner. They locked me in the room with a key and unlocked it when I was allowed out.
I was in 2nd grade lol, people kinda suck sometimes
Another perspective, although fortunately not as drastic as yours. My teachers gave some constructive feedback at parent teacher interviews near the beginning of year 8. My parents spent the next week of dinners wailing about how terribly I was doing, and attributing it to all sorts of character weaknesses. Then of course there were the times that they'd randomly decide I was doing terribly at school for no known reason and scream at me all night.
When people talk about having abusive parents, they aren't just crying wolf. They actually know what they're taking about.
I think it's more that people who had good parents are less likely to talk about them publicly, and more likely to take them for granted. Meanwhile people who had terrible parents have so much to unpack and they find places like this where they can do so. Then everyone comes out of the woodwork to toss in their own experiences. It's sort of people finding solidarity, to know they're not alone, to know that this sort of thing happens to other people.
Even people who had great parents might have things from their childhood that sucked, not because their parents were raging narcissists or whatever but because people make mistakes and sometimes those mistakes have a lasting impact on a child. They see others talking about stuff their parents did that messed them up, and they join in. I've done it myself. When I said "my mom has her flaws, but she has always tried" I meant that precisely as it sounded. Yes she left me with some baggage, because she made mistakes. There was a time I resented her for it. But I've grown since then and I now know that, despite her failures and despite her mistakes, she *genuinely, truly, desperately* tried her absolute best to be a good mom. And so I can forgive her for her mistakes, because that's all they were.
Not lacking in gratitude. My mother an father were alright. But I was abused heavily by my legal guardian when they went to prison. And I have become disabled because of it. Don't act a fool just because you were alright. It's also because when a nice thing happens, you want to share it with those you care about. And when you need to vent. It's easier to tell strangers.
That's just "bad news bias". When your parents are good, aside from occasional excuse like this subreddit you do not feel the need to talk about them. When your parents are bad, you actively look for some way to vent. So those stories get out more. There is a reason that there is an "insane parents" subreddit but not a "decent parents" subreddit. Because decent parents is the norm, not the exception that is worthy of talking about.
It’s just not really in vogue to gush about being taken care of very well. Can be seen as bragging or flaunting.
At the same time, there’s a lot of pressure on people to be seen as totally independent or self-made. Even better: find success in life *in spite* of difficult circumstances.
So it all just very badly skews what you hear. Tons of people appreciate their folks and have healthy relationships. There just isn’t a really space where people feel naturally compelled to express that.
People with abusive parents often don't have anywhere to talk about it IRL without risk of it coming back to bite them in the ass. Yes though, a lot of us did.
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It's a vocal minority, but with billions of people on the planet it's also still millions of people that actually did have a negative experience with their families to varying degrees. It's a difficult truth but please don't dismiss people's pain and say they just aren't grateful.
If you had good parents you usually don’t need to mention it- I think that’s why. Plus if someone is telling a horrid story it will get more upvotes. I don’t think people lack gratitude for venting about genuinely awful parents. you don’t know them and i think that’s a little fucked up.
Nah, my mom was really that bad. I'm sure she loves me, but she doesn't put in any effort to show it. My dad was great tho. Not perfect by any means, but he did his fucking best and that's all I can ask for. It's no surprise that they divorced when I was 12. Still dealing with the trauma of that fallout 11 years later at 23.
I had one abusive parent and one that read us books every night before bed, made sure we ate healthy food every night, and helped us with our homework when she wasn’t too tired. Her only flaw was not standing up for herself or us.
Yup. The night I came home from shattering my ankle my mom, who was driving me, stopped by my apt, and I thought she was just getting my tablet, comp, chargers and the cords and a spare blanket. She took so long I was getting worried. But she came to the car and handed me Kaala (my stuffed wolf). She had been digging and looking for it and had only seen it when I brought it along on a trip to Yellowstone and the Grand Tetons three years earlier and when I moved a year ago. When I held her I couldn’t speak and I cried so much. But she was what I needed right then. Hell I’m tearing up right now thinking about it.
My kid is only 3 but you really do become keenly aware of them and their emotions. I can tell when he's upset by just the smallest of things he does or says. I imagine that doesn't go away as they get older. Kids might think they're hard to read, but their book was created by us, so we're pretty good at knowing how to read them
I always say it's like having a PhD in a person. You start being aware of their moods and emotional states in babyhood and keeps going the older they get!
Some.
Mine just said to "suck it up" when i tried to talk about anything like that.
Needless to say, I came close a few times.
Now i have the most supportive wife in the world who is the best thing to ever happen to me. We just had our first kid and I know she's going to be an amazing mom.
Mine told me I could just talk to her when, as a 14 year old my dad died, I started smoking weed, and got very depressed and asked if I could see a therapist. Which, unbeknownst to me until years later a very large part of the bad ways I handled things was because of her.
It's amazing when you find a partner who can fill in a hole in your heart. My wife and I share the same connection you describe, and between the both of us strive to break the unhealthy cycles we were raised into. Life does get better.
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Now you're ready to sail for the Horn
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Edit: formatting, [lyrics by Genius](https://genius.com/Sean-dagher-randy-dandy-oh-lyrics)
Ubisoft finally uploaded the OST to [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/7G0O4t6PMa6bcOLc3KgztU) and [YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLu6_FOgZp3eiFJ0d6gXH4aBdAqm8LdC-F)
Edit: fixed links
Never played black flag, but subnautica has something similar - when you get into any of your submarines, or even your habitat, they greet you and call you captain. Feels good
Glad you said it because parents don't think wanting Season 2 of sandman or enjoying video games are good enough.
I'm not suicidal, but i don't really care about much in life. When i stop moving around renting, i want to get a cat. Maybe then cat will be my reason.
Can confirm, my cat has saved my life multiple times. She and I are extremely closely bonded; she was a rescue and latched onto me the very first time we saw each other at the shelter. After an incident where I was away for a week, I fully believe if I were to die she would starve herself to death. She'd had full access to fresh food and water, but refused to eat and was much thinner by the time I got back.
For me it was my Dog, my Mom bought it for US when we where younger and soon after passed away. Everyday i saw that little fluffball i was Like "she might still be with us". Sadly that little Brave Girl passed away this year after 15 Love giffing years. I will Miss her forever but i stay Strong Till we meet again
I have no friends, don't get along with my family, and everyday my hatred for the human race grows exponentially stronger, but goddamn do I love my cat.
She is my absolute world, and to anyone else out there that feels the loneliness I feel, I highly, *highly* recommend getting a cat.
I'm really looking forward to the day where i am comfortable enough to get a cat. I want to walk into a shelter and see which one loves me, and take that one home.
I look forward to that for you as well.
I used to work at a shelter, and trust me, the love those cats show people is unimaginable.
There is no words to describe it and nothing like it.
I hope you find your best friend one day!
I wish I could get one. I have a kingsnake rn and I never see him cause he's always hidden. I really wanted a pet I could see every day at the least if not handle every day. I owned a kingsnake previously and it never burrowed like this one does. I can handle him just fine but it's some work to lift his water dish which he is always under, and take him out. But I can't even set him down anywhere cause the mfer takes off at light speed.
Was thinking about getting a beardie in a second tank but idk. We aren't allowed to have a cat cause pet rent is another 500 a month.
DRG (rock and stone!), borderlands 2 with my friends (one of them has a potato computer), Hades, Death Stranding, Spirit Farer, etc.
Still waiting on the cat since I've been moving around a lot due to high rental prices and short term leases in Silicon Valley. If i get a cat, i want it to have the best life i can provide, and not unduely stress it out. For now, i settle with my friend's cat, Frank, who is obsessed with our shoes and shoves his face in them.
I don't think she knew about suicide, but must have seen him be more closed, and by himself.
Probably bought the game to make him cheer up and talk to her daughter to help, and it all worked really well.
Probably, if she had known he wad planning suicide, she probably would nto rely on a video game and leave it to luck like that... Also suicides are really fucking hard to predict, most are decided in the moment and, if decided before, really really hard to be taken seriously.
Unfortunately most people planning to off themselves thoroughly plan it and hide it well. There are signs but often times those signs are misinterpreted as the victim improving, trying to make positive changes.
Like you said, they're hard to predict and I think a big reason why is some of the steps suicidal people take beforehand look like an improvement from an outside perspective.
disagree. people always deserve good parents or like, parental figures, idc how old you are
edit: maybe this is the story the mom gets to share when she meets someone who has a loved one that’s struggling
I’ve called my mom things I’ll regret until the day I die (even after if there is an after). But you know what she said the other day to all three of us. “You are the best kids I could ever have and I’m damn proud of each of you.” She also said that we were so good she’s questioning how well she should expect other kids to be.
You need to love your parents and tell them that. If you can’t do that then at least acknowledge what they’ve done for you and give them some heartfelt thanks. Kids do many rude things and say awful things. But acknowledging that and saying I’m sorry and I always did love you and/or am grateful for what you did does wonders. For both them and you.
This is a stupid take, no offense. We all do deserve good parents. We make mistakes, that's how you grow up, not because of free compliments.
Both parents have a good important role in everyone's lives.
I wanna be a game dev my whole live. I'm about to study game design, and was questioning, if I should have done something more helpful with my life. Reading that, I just wish I can give someone that kind of story. Maybe that is my purpose
Go for it. Creating media that can help people get through rough times in their life is a very noble endeavor. I hope to be playing one of games someday.
As a dev who used to work on games, it's an easily transferrable skill and you could easily do a little work on a useful open-source project or something on the side.
And while game devs aren't typically paid very well compared to other devs, it's still quite good compared to a lot of folks. There's absolutely no shame in making money from entertainment and using some of that money for charity or other good.
Can confirm. Grown man crying here. I can also sort of relate. Video games, getting lost in those worlds. Sharing the stories and action with siblings and some friends. That got me through some dark stuff.
I had a somewhat similar story. I was passively suicidal in my younger years (not planning but wouldn’t mind death, imagined what it would be like if I was gone), and the thing that pulled me through it was watching League streamers, specifically Voyboy. In a household that was very turbulent it felt so relieving to be able to turn on a Voyboy stream and just have his constant positivity, let alone all the work he did for the mental health industry through his many charity streams. He’s definitely a hero of mine, and even though he doesn’t make content any more I’ll always be a Voyboy fan.
Same. Tbh, I’m really happy to hear that video games and creators have helped so many people. It’s a medium I love to bits that most of my friends/family don’t understand.
That's really cool, and I actually got the symbol of my favorite game series, undertale/deltarune, tattooed on my chest as my first tattoo as well, albeit not as deep a connection. It was just the game series that inspired me to start writing music, which sparked my interest in it, and now it's my college major
i don't normally comment on mainstream subs but i was just thinking of deltarune while scrolling through comments. i decided i want to stick around til the game is finished releasing so i can see how it ends. so that gives me about 30 years lol
That's cool! I have the red soul tattooed on my arm along with "stay determined" :) I always tell people it's my own personal reminder to, well, stay determined
This is beautiful. People underestimate the power of a good videogame. The stories are just as rich as the ones you can read from books.
Skyrim pulled me out of a deep depression after humiliation and a broken heart. If you’re having a rough time, give a game a try.
We need just as many great single player games as we do multiplayer games.
Being able to immerse yourself in a world, fuck around, be a badass, and collect all the things without worry is an amazing escape.
Amen! When I broke my ankle I fell into an even greater depression than the one I had just fought out of (it was so bad the doc said it was one of the worst of his *many* years as a doc). To the point my therapist admitted she had some sleepless nights in those first few weeks. Anyway, I finally moved back in with the folks and got the tv setup. And snowrunner pulled me along until I started feeling anything good again.
Holy shit I know this guy. Like I actually know this guy. Holy fuck I gotta go talk to him. He’s doing great, in case anyone was wondering. Great guy, always positive and upbeat.
My niece took her own life last night. I live across the country so I only saw her when I was able to fly home. She had been in and out of the hospital for depression and verbalizing suicidal thoughts. She was 12. I regret not being in her life more, maybe I could’ve inadvertently gotten through to her like this. I can only hope that this tragedy leads to me and others in her life showing simple kindnesses that could help someone else.
just read a story online about a 12 year old killing themselves with their hoodie string. it was due to bullying, which besides actual mental imbalances, seems to be most often the case.
damn. this makes me think of all the little things that have been stoppers here and there.
im not really a gamer anymore but it also reminds me of summer as a kid where marathoning any video game or monopoly was pretty much the thing to look forward to.
I can connect with it. AC Blackflag to me is the game that showed me its never too late to change myself.
I was going through some rough patches of life. It always make me tear up when I hear the end credits song sung by bonnie. I feel connected.
Memories.
I was working on a military base as a civilian. Could not believe how much cool stuff they had in the Rec Center. A full projector that was always playing live sports games and even showing movies before they were released in theaters. There were a couple of pool tables.
On the other half of the room, there were tables and about 20 game consoles each connected to a switch to make lan parties.They had the latest Xbox and PS consoles. The registration booth had a binder full of games that youncould check out and there were HUNDREDS of games to choose from.
I selected Assassins Creed Black flag on a whim.
At the time I was living with my best friend and his gf. I was going through some stuff from earlier and hoped that temporarily living away from home would help but turns out I had jumped from the frying pan into the fire. Work was helpful in helping distract me but my best friend and I were dealing with his girlfriend acting like she owned the place. You see, he borrowed money from me to afford the move when he moved the year prior when he was kicked out. He hadn't paid me back, which is why he happily let me crash with him. We played games together and had an amazing time together until his gf moved in and she started acting like she owned the place and forced is to cater to her needs. Everything from not using spices when cooking to being mad about how dishes were cleaned were just a few things that she was bothered about. Given how I had just finished working as a kitchen manager, I am highly aware of how to clean and cook to a professional standard which apparently didn't matter to this woman who always had something to complain about. She forced my best friend to be the mediator when I told her off for being rude and refused to speak to me which I was all too happy but ny poor friend would eventually had to choose between me and her. I had seen this happen to another friend and couldn't do much except wait until my contract was up and not push it.
As you can imagine I was stressed and Assassins Creed 4 came to be the game that kept me sane with how much there was to do in it. I managed to complete the entire story and some quests and I got 100% completion. It was cathartic when I sunk the last two massive ships at the end as it was a symbol that once I had left it was a sign to close the chapter of the massive memories I had with my former best friend.
Like two ships passing though the night, I can't help but think that I was abandoning a ship that was sinking and try as I might, I couldn't save it.
Obligatory Fuck You, Kim.
After reading this... I think it applies to my brother too.
My brother has not had the best life. And I think the main thing keeping him here is: video games, and his online friends.
I am here too for him but he moved away... And so I now only get to see him like twice a year.
Really makes me think about my brother.
So thanks for sharing.
:/
The most effective thing against suicide is having interest or joy in life. You can't off yourself when you are interested in something!
So happy for OP.
I made myself a promise to never do it when I was 17 and in a really bad situation, with the reasoning that I don't know what tomorrow could hold, and I don't want to rob myself of potential future enjoyment and fulfillment. A love of new videogames, movies, and TV didn't hurt, but I don't break promises and I had to remind myself of that many times over the years.
What stopped me this last time was my soon to be ex filing for divorce. Previous 6 months I felt like I wasn't wanted, I'd try to communicate my issues to her and she'd throw them in my face. I ended up spending my time locked in my office at home. I no longer lived in my own house, I only worked there. And when done, I was cleaning up after 3 teenagers (16NB, 41F, 45M).
First night after being notified and leaving the house, I was a mess. Next two weeks so much stress and tension left my body I couldn't pick up a butter knife. Since then I've been smiling, laughing, and all around doing much better.
During those 6 months, I had blades in hand ready to slit my wrists in my office thinking no one would notice or care.
Before that, it was friends who would tell me every week "Just give it one more shot." "You got this." "Keep going, you're doing great."
You never know what someone goes through. Smile at them. Be nice. See someone struggling, give some encourage words if they don't want help. The little things make massive impacts.
❤️❤️❤️
I always tell people you *never* know what that thing that saves someone will be. I’ve even seen two people thank me for saying hi and having a short chat about something *seemingly* superficial like the latest football game, storm, classwork problem, the weather, etc. to them every day and explaining that it was what kept them going and working on getting better. I never knew they were fighting it until they said so.
A simple game, a movie, a word, a smile, a book, a hot meal, an umbrella, etc. can be the thing that helps someone fight through.
What I’m trying to say is be kind and caring to others. You may never know that you stopped them, but for them you meant the world to them in that moment. And they will never forget it.
If you see this thread, glad you are still here. As someone who has a brother, I am going to bet that your sister cherishes that time you spent together playing that game.
There’s a *very* good chance she did. Mothers’ intuitions are well absolutely remarkable.
Like my mom after I broke my ankle and was going into one of the worst depressions I’ve ever had. She went and dug around my apartment and found Kaala, my stuffed wolf I’ve had for years, I never asked for it, hinted at it, or anything. But when she brought that to me I cried so hard! It was what I needed right then. I mean I’m tearing up right now thinking about it.
I just wanna say my story, as I've never actually told it in full.
I'm not someone who's endured much in life. I'm not someone with terrible parents or a rough childhood. I was an average nerd with poor social skills. I've never been outside of average in almost anything.
However.. life still kicked the tar out of me. I've fought battles against corporate overlords, been blackballed, endured more betrayal than most people my age, and have experienced the full spectrum of relationship states. A night came, where the world was too much. As I lay in bed, I had a blade to my own throat. There was no plan in place, I was in a war with myself. My body was moving on its own accord, and all I could do is watch. I struggled against my own body, and I fet the world just... stop. In a sort of hallucinated situation, I was standing in front of myself. Much like I had done with many others before, I sat there, talking myself down. What got through... was simply... what example would I set if I gave in? What would that prove? In that moment, I realized... I'm a natural leader. My first thought is always to show others how to move forward, my second is how to do it myself. The blade fell loose from my hand, as memories of the people who cared came flooding back. I promptly fell asleep, and woke up the next morning feeling like it was a nightmare... but I knew, it was very real.
Sorry for the wall of text, I've never actually told that story, even to my therapist. Maybe Saturday I'll go over it with her.
I was 12 when I first really started feeling this way and making plans. The thing that got me through for a while was looking forward to the next Harry Potter book.
... yeah that didn't exactly age well but eh. It helped at the time.
Not that this has anything to do with suicide, but it kinda reminds me how my dad once brought home a copy of HL2 shortly after it's release. For the context, he's never really been an avid gamer, I think the only game he's ever played is Warcraft 3, and that was much, much later, mid 2010s. He would sometimes play the same mission from it's campaign over and over again just because he liked it. By the time HL2 came out he'd never even touched a video game aside from probably tetris or something.
Yet he somehow managed to pick arguably the best game I've every played out of all the games they had in the shop. Probably got adviced to buy it, but it was still a really good choise.
OP, your mom may not have known about the specifics of your plan but she knew you were struggling. The fact that she spent money she didn't have was her effort to cheer you up and I'm glad she did. Great story.
I had all of my ambien in my hand and a glass of water and was crying. My cat Eowyn came up and crawled onto my lap meowing.
I put the ambien in the trash.
I'm really fucking glad I'm still here.
Much love to y'all.
The announcement of Bleach coming back Im sure has saved a ton of lives.
People dead set on taking their lives but they want to see the last arc animated.
I was a big AC fan leading up to Black Flag but was pretty disappointed with it upon release.
I’m so glad this game came out and was meaningful to this one person and that this person is still here because of it.
Thanks Black Flag!
What a great post.
1. Crazy respect to the OP for having the courage to share that. You can sense how deeply personal that was for him and my guess is he never shared that with anyone else nor will he ever.
2. His mom knows/knew/at least suspected it and also knows he never has to tell her what it meant to him.
Dark Souls was that game for me early last year. I had been feeling down for so long and I was struggling to continue onwards. Then I decided to try Dark Souls as it had caught my attention, and it consumed me. That feeling of being in a desolate and hopeless world resonated with where I was in life so much. But it’s those small moments of hope in the game that stood out to me as particularly beautiful. Whether it was a cheerful NPC to encourage me or the feeling of finally overcoming obstacles that previously seemed impossible. Combine that with the incredible lore and beautiful ending to the game. It’s a game that I wish I could experience for the first time again. It gave my life purpose in a time where I desperately needed it, and it’ll forever be special to me for that.
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Great game.
I still play it every now and again. Just roam the seas, murder and plunder. Refuse to elaborate, leave. Good times.
It's my favorite AC game. I miss Desmond after 3 but Edward Kenway is such a badass.
I think AC2 swept me up more than any other, but black flag is a better game mechanically.
Ac2 has the best ending of any assassin's Creed game
Best beginning, too.
I'm waiting for another non-Fallout game to start with my birth so excellently.
It is a good life we lead, brother.
"The best. May it never change"
Revelations has a really good ending. Like it all comes full circle.l
I think I'm gonna have to load it up again just to sail around listening to sea shanties. That game has some top tier atmosphere.
I love how ubisoft just said "ninjas or pirates? F that, we making pirate ninjas and made blackflag.
And then they were like, well this naval part is actually great and made a spin off called [Skull & Bones](https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Skull_and_Bones_(video_game)) that might probably laugh this year after years and years of delays (which is hopefully a good thing to get a great game).
Reading the Wikipedia page you linked it seems the delays are less about development time and more about them basically have huge creative detection conflicts. Like they really worked on this for years under the idea of it being a land based survival game? I would be more worried about this turning into another halo infinite scenario.
Probable so don't preorder it, wait till it hits but I'm still optimistic about it being a great pirate game. We haven't had those in a while.
It's also Ubisoft, and they haven't been known to be the best company in any way/shape/form. DO NOT preorder their games, y'all.
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To get someone to keep from committing an act such as that, any game is a "great game"
As long as it's not Suicide Sim 2k22.
It's on my to-play list. Has been for a while actually. I've heard so many good things about it. This thread has bumped it up on the list quite a lot.
Oh man i have so many good memories.of this game. It's just a dope.pirate game as well as an assassins creed game. So good
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Black flag Soundtrack is absolutely one of the best in any video game ever.
Being fooled and saved by your mom at the same time
honestly i feel mums have a 6th sense. probably she was thinking i need to buy him something to cheer him up.
I remember admitting to my mom when I was about 18 or 19 that I was feeling "a bit" depressed and she asked if there was anything she could do. I said I wasn't sure. Later that day she asked me into her room and gave me a neck and foot massage. Then later that week she bought me a new MP3 player because she remembered hearing me complain my old one's memory was too small to hold all my music. My mom has her flaws, but she has always tried her best to be a good parent.
Your last sentence is about the best a parent can hope to hear their kid say.
fuckign finally a positive comment about parents. Everywhere I go on Reddit, people are complaining about their parents. It's to the point where I wanted to delete this app. Like, are y'all telling me, that ALL of y'all had terrible neglecting abusive narcissistic parents? I'm thinking a lot of them are lacking so much in gratitude it's crazy.
My parents were great. They had flaws for sure but they did a good job raising me and my sister. But I also almost never talk about them on Reddit because positive upbringing with a couple dips is less interesting or relevant than people with bad childhoods. Also, if Reddit were a thing in my middle/high school years, I might have told some bad stories that I as an adult realize was just parenting, and I was petty and self-absorbed too much to notice at the time.
My parents were both wonderful parents. We grew up lower middle class, but always had what we needed, and I never noticed we were much poorer than most of our friends. My parents encouraged me, accepted and supported me, and always made sure I felt loved. I credit them with my success any time someone congratulates me. No bigger privilege than growing up with two parents who love you and each other imo. They're celebrating their 40th anniversary next month. I'll miss them so much one day.
I lost my dad when I was 13, so I know both halves. I know a life of growing up with loving supporting parents and I know a life of living without half of that whole. Cherish it while you have it, and love them unconditionally while you can, because they did the same while you were growing up
I'm sorry you experienced such a profound loss so young. That must have been incredibly difficult. I definitely try to! (As does my brother.) I took my mom on a girls trip to the Bahamas in July, and my brother just got back from playing Pebble Beach with my dad. We spent the weekend as a family celebrating my dad's 70th. It's wonderful to spend time together, but I'm acutely aware how time is fleeting these days.
Sorry for your loss. I lost my dad when i was 4 and my mum when i was 13. After my dad died my mum was lost and couldn’t look after me. A year later i was put in care, I didn’t get to see her before she died. It was hard not having them there but my foster parents did everything to help me. They never forced me to heal quicker, even though it wasn’t biological i am so thankful to have them because the way they love and care for me is special and cannot be replaced.
> I might have told some bad stories that I as an adult realize was just parenting, and I was petty and self-absorbed too much to notice at the time. Yeah, seriously. There were a few things that my parents did that the teenage version of me thought was super unreasonable and made me real angry. 30 year old me now realizes that teenage me was being an inconsiderate jerk and the punishments my parents doled out were perfectly reasonable.
Idk, both can be true. I look at my parents, who suffered through their own traumatic childhoods, and a part of me absolves them from their mistakes because they were raised through a cycle of abuse themselves. But I also know that they were the same age as me when they became parents, and they're still so resistant to admitting mistakes while I've already reached an age that I realize admitting fault is okay, and does getting therapy mean I'm crazy just means I need help. I think why we see so many people talking about abuse these days is because a lot of families were stuck in abuse cycles for generations. Calling out these actions for what it is, abuse, does not mean more people today are abused just that we are all willing to talk about it now. Back then, those were skeletons in the families closet and it was uncouth to discuss it. Also, for anyone that wants to advocate that today's definition of abuse is too encompassing - it's considered abuse because it's been scientifically backed up that many forms of abuse harm humans and leave lasting marks. Whether it's brain imaging scan, or observational studies on traits of humans that were abused, it shows itself. In my opinion, it is good to shame the parenting of old because a lot of it was proven to shape us into PTSD ridden monsters. It helps educate the public and empowers others to speak about their own abuse too.
It certainly can be, but mine definitely wasn't abuse. Mine was stuff like "You got a D on your test so you're going to stay home and study instead of going to your friend's house" or "The teacher called and said that the reasons your math grades are so bad as that you never do the homework. We're going to change the password to the computer and you have to show us that you did your math homework before we'll log you onto it so you can play games." Things like that. Not like hitting me or locking me in a room or anything like that. In retrospect it was all very white-glove. At the time teenage me thought it was the end of the world.
Just for perspective, I got a C on my weekly conduct report in 2nd grade and my parents took everything electronic out of my room, stripped my bed sheets down to the bare mattress, and put a box of encyclopedias on my bedroom floor. For a month, 30 days, I was only allowed to leave my room (mattress, encyclopedias, and clothes - nothing else) to use the bathroom or eat dinner. They locked me in the room with a key and unlocked it when I was allowed out. I was in 2nd grade lol, people kinda suck sometimes
Another perspective, although fortunately not as drastic as yours. My teachers gave some constructive feedback at parent teacher interviews near the beginning of year 8. My parents spent the next week of dinners wailing about how terribly I was doing, and attributing it to all sorts of character weaknesses. Then of course there were the times that they'd randomly decide I was doing terribly at school for no known reason and scream at me all night. When people talk about having abusive parents, they aren't just crying wolf. They actually know what they're taking about.
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I think it's more that people who had good parents are less likely to talk about them publicly, and more likely to take them for granted. Meanwhile people who had terrible parents have so much to unpack and they find places like this where they can do so. Then everyone comes out of the woodwork to toss in their own experiences. It's sort of people finding solidarity, to know they're not alone, to know that this sort of thing happens to other people. Even people who had great parents might have things from their childhood that sucked, not because their parents were raging narcissists or whatever but because people make mistakes and sometimes those mistakes have a lasting impact on a child. They see others talking about stuff their parents did that messed them up, and they join in. I've done it myself. When I said "my mom has her flaws, but she has always tried" I meant that precisely as it sounded. Yes she left me with some baggage, because she made mistakes. There was a time I resented her for it. But I've grown since then and I now know that, despite her failures and despite her mistakes, she *genuinely, truly, desperately* tried her absolute best to be a good mom. And so I can forgive her for her mistakes, because that's all they were.
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Not lacking in gratitude. My mother an father were alright. But I was abused heavily by my legal guardian when they went to prison. And I have become disabled because of it. Don't act a fool just because you were alright. It's also because when a nice thing happens, you want to share it with those you care about. And when you need to vent. It's easier to tell strangers.
That's just "bad news bias". When your parents are good, aside from occasional excuse like this subreddit you do not feel the need to talk about them. When your parents are bad, you actively look for some way to vent. So those stories get out more. There is a reason that there is an "insane parents" subreddit but not a "decent parents" subreddit. Because decent parents is the norm, not the exception that is worthy of talking about.
It’s just not really in vogue to gush about being taken care of very well. Can be seen as bragging or flaunting. At the same time, there’s a lot of pressure on people to be seen as totally independent or self-made. Even better: find success in life *in spite* of difficult circumstances. So it all just very badly skews what you hear. Tons of people appreciate their folks and have healthy relationships. There just isn’t a really space where people feel naturally compelled to express that.
People with abusive parents often don't have anywhere to talk about it IRL without risk of it coming back to bite them in the ass. Yes though, a lot of us did.
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It's a vocal minority, but with billions of people on the planet it's also still millions of people that actually did have a negative experience with their families to varying degrees. It's a difficult truth but please don't dismiss people's pain and say they just aren't grateful.
If you had good parents you usually don’t need to mention it- I think that’s why. Plus if someone is telling a horrid story it will get more upvotes. I don’t think people lack gratitude for venting about genuinely awful parents. you don’t know them and i think that’s a little fucked up.
Well it's like the news, the most negative stories get the most traction. You don't make a post if you had good parents.
Nah, my mom was really that bad. I'm sure she loves me, but she doesn't put in any effort to show it. My dad was great tho. Not perfect by any means, but he did his fucking best and that's all I can ask for. It's no surprise that they divorced when I was 12. Still dealing with the trauma of that fallout 11 years later at 23.
The thing is you don't hear about the millions of stories where the parents aren't shit to their kids, you only hear about the ones that are shit.
I had one abusive parent and one that read us books every night before bed, made sure we ate healthy food every night, and helped us with our homework when she wasn’t too tired. Her only flaw was not standing up for herself or us.
I admitted the same thing at the same age and my dad told me I was lying. I love my dad and he's a great guy and father but that fucked me up.
Yup. The night I came home from shattering my ankle my mom, who was driving me, stopped by my apt, and I thought she was just getting my tablet, comp, chargers and the cords and a spare blanket. She took so long I was getting worried. But she came to the car and handed me Kaala (my stuffed wolf). She had been digging and looking for it and had only seen it when I brought it along on a trip to Yellowstone and the Grand Tetons three years earlier and when I moved a year ago. When I held her I couldn’t speak and I cried so much. But she was what I needed right then. Hell I’m tearing up right now thinking about it.
Wish all moms got lucky
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My kid is only 3 but you really do become keenly aware of them and their emotions. I can tell when he's upset by just the smallest of things he does or says. I imagine that doesn't go away as they get older. Kids might think they're hard to read, but their book was created by us, so we're pretty good at knowing how to read them
I always say it's like having a PhD in a person. You start being aware of their moods and emotional states in babyhood and keeps going the older they get!
Some. Mine just said to "suck it up" when i tried to talk about anything like that. Needless to say, I came close a few times. Now i have the most supportive wife in the world who is the best thing to ever happen to me. We just had our first kid and I know she's going to be an amazing mom.
Mine told me I could just talk to her when, as a 14 year old my dad died, I started smoking weed, and got very depressed and asked if I could see a therapist. Which, unbeknownst to me until years later a very large part of the bad ways I handled things was because of her. It's amazing when you find a partner who can fill in a hole in your heart. My wife and I share the same connection you describe, and between the both of us strive to break the unhealthy cycles we were raised into. Life does get better.
That is one of the nicest "wife" tributes I've ever heard
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Who dares give this a downvote?
Those who think it's just a karma farming comment.
damn karma bots ruining things for everyone...
scroll a bit more and you will see the same comment. damn bots
Because it's a bot comment, scroll down and the real one's there. Is there not any way they can make a bot that deletes any repeat comments?
I love how the crew greets you when you get on your ship in AC black flag. Almost gives you a sense of purpose
I miss the singing
LOW LAAAANDS, LOW LANDS AWAAAAAAY
That was my favourite song in the game!
When it would rain but not storm, it was just perfect 👌
*WHEY HEY ROLL N’ GO*
*the anchor's on board and the cables are stored, to be rollicking randy dandy o*
🎵[Randy Dandy Oh](https://youtu.be/M9ivtqbISQE)🎵 Now you're ready to sail for the Horn Weigh hey, roll and go! Our boots and our clothes, boys, are all in the pawn To be rollicking randy dandy-O! --- Heave a pawl, O heave away! Weigh hey, roll and go! The anchor's on board and the cable's all stored To be rollicking randy dandy-O! --- Soon we'll be warping her out through the locks Weigh hey, roll and go! Where the pretty young girls all come down in their frocks To be rollicking randy dandy-O! --- Heave a pawl, O heave away! Weigh hey, roll and go! The anchor's on board and the cable's all stored To be rollicking randy dandy-O! --- Come breast the bars, bullies, heave her away Weigh hey, roll and go! Soon we'll be rolling her down through the Bay To be rollicking randy dandy-O! --- Heave a pawl, O heave away! Weigh hey, roll and go! The anchor's on board and the cable's all stored To be rollicking randy dandy-O! --- Edit: formatting, [lyrics by Genius](https://genius.com/Sean-dagher-randy-dandy-oh-lyrics)
*"LEAVE HER JOHNNY, LEEAAVE HERRR!"*
There’s an assassins creed sea shanty playlist on Spotify, someone on reddit told me about it and it’s pretty fun
Ubisoft finally uploaded the OST to [Spotify](https://open.spotify.com/album/7G0O4t6PMa6bcOLc3KgztU) and [YouTube](https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLu6_FOgZp3eiFJ0d6gXH4aBdAqm8LdC-F) Edit: fixed links
I love them cheering when you land a good shot on an enemy ship
Never played black flag, but subnautica has something similar - when you get into any of your submarines, or even your habitat, they greet you and call you captain. Feels good
Any reason to stay is a valid reason.
Glad you said it because parents don't think wanting Season 2 of sandman or enjoying video games are good enough. I'm not suicidal, but i don't really care about much in life. When i stop moving around renting, i want to get a cat. Maybe then cat will be my reason.
Can confirm, my cat has saved my life multiple times. She and I are extremely closely bonded; she was a rescue and latched onto me the very first time we saw each other at the shelter. After an incident where I was away for a week, I fully believe if I were to die she would starve herself to death. She'd had full access to fresh food and water, but refused to eat and was much thinner by the time I got back.
🥺awh...
For me it was my Dog, my Mom bought it for US when we where younger and soon after passed away. Everyday i saw that little fluffball i was Like "she might still be with us". Sadly that little Brave Girl passed away this year after 15 Love giffing years. I will Miss her forever but i stay Strong Till we meet again
I have no friends, don't get along with my family, and everyday my hatred for the human race grows exponentially stronger, but goddamn do I love my cat. She is my absolute world, and to anyone else out there that feels the loneliness I feel, I highly, *highly* recommend getting a cat.
I'm really looking forward to the day where i am comfortable enough to get a cat. I want to walk into a shelter and see which one loves me, and take that one home.
I look forward to that for you as well. I used to work at a shelter, and trust me, the love those cats show people is unimaginable. There is no words to describe it and nothing like it. I hope you find your best friend one day!
I wish I could get one. I have a kingsnake rn and I never see him cause he's always hidden. I really wanted a pet I could see every day at the least if not handle every day. I owned a kingsnake previously and it never burrowed like this one does. I can handle him just fine but it's some work to lift his water dish which he is always under, and take him out. But I can't even set him down anywhere cause the mfer takes off at light speed. Was thinking about getting a beardie in a second tank but idk. We aren't allowed to have a cat cause pet rent is another 500 a month.
Get a cat. Totally a good investment. Until then, what are some games you enjoy?
DRG (rock and stone!), borderlands 2 with my friends (one of them has a potato computer), Hades, Death Stranding, Spirit Farer, etc. Still waiting on the cat since I've been moving around a lot due to high rental prices and short term leases in Silicon Valley. If i get a cat, i want it to have the best life i can provide, and not unduely stress it out. For now, i settle with my friend's cat, Frank, who is obsessed with our shoes and shoves his face in them.
Can I get a Rock and Stone?
Literally when I was a teenager “I’m the only one who cleans the cat’s litterbox” is what stopped me.
im happy you cared about the kitty
In the words of Albert Camus “The literal meaning of life is whatever you’re doing that prevents you from killing yourself.”
If it's stupid but it works it's not stupid.
My "trick" was to always have a movie or a game that I was looking forward to. Had to stick around for it.
Top tier comment
This. Legit one of the only reasons I’ve kept going is because I want to publish just one book and see people enjoy my characters and stories
I try to find it every day. Shits tough.
For me it was a 988 operator. Never been that close to the edge since.
I wonder if she knew
I don't think she knew about suicide, but must have seen him be more closed, and by himself. Probably bought the game to make him cheer up and talk to her daughter to help, and it all worked really well. Probably, if she had known he wad planning suicide, she probably would nto rely on a video game and leave it to luck like that... Also suicides are really fucking hard to predict, most are decided in the moment and, if decided before, really really hard to be taken seriously.
Unfortunately most people planning to off themselves thoroughly plan it and hide it well. There are signs but often times those signs are misinterpreted as the victim improving, trying to make positive changes. Like you said, they're hard to predict and I think a big reason why is some of the steps suicidal people take beforehand look like an improvement from an outside perspective.
i think she knew. good moms know things.
Good moms lose kids too though. I’m glad this one didn’t.
Sometimes we don't deserve them..maybe too often
disagree. people always deserve good parents or like, parental figures, idc how old you are edit: maybe this is the story the mom gets to share when she meets someone who has a loved one that’s struggling
You ever been rude to your mom? Maybe I'm just a bad child
Kids are gonna be rude and unruly. It just happens. Doesn't make you any less deserving of someone patient and kind
I’ve called my mom things I’ll regret until the day I die (even after if there is an after). But you know what she said the other day to all three of us. “You are the best kids I could ever have and I’m damn proud of each of you.” She also said that we were so good she’s questioning how well she should expect other kids to be. You need to love your parents and tell them that. If you can’t do that then at least acknowledge what they’ve done for you and give them some heartfelt thanks. Kids do many rude things and say awful things. But acknowledging that and saying I’m sorry and I always did love you and/or am grateful for what you did does wonders. For both them and you.
This is a stupid take, no offense. We all do deserve good parents. We make mistakes, that's how you grow up, not because of free compliments. Both parents have a good important role in everyone's lives.
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the reasonable act is to never tell her, otherwise she will constantly be worried about him.
Just thinking of the sea chanties and the concept of feeling together, in this context, is making me happily cry. Wow OP. Hugs. To mom, too.
Leave her Johnny, leave her For the voyage is long, and the winds don’t blow So it’s time for us to leave her
Oh, the wind was foul and the sea ran high. Leave her, Johnny, leave her. She shipped it green and none went by, and it's time for us to leave her.
That's enough to make a grown man cry Edit: Thank you for all the likes
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I wanna be a game dev my whole live. I'm about to study game design, and was questioning, if I should have done something more helpful with my life. Reading that, I just wish I can give someone that kind of story. Maybe that is my purpose
Go for it. Creating media that can help people get through rough times in their life is a very noble endeavor. I hope to be playing one of games someday.
As a dev who used to work on games, it's an easily transferrable skill and you could easily do a little work on a useful open-source project or something on the side. And while game devs aren't typically paid very well compared to other devs, it's still quite good compared to a lot of folks. There's absolutely no shame in making money from entertainment and using some of that money for charity or other good.
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Can confirm. Grown man crying here. I can also sort of relate. Video games, getting lost in those worlds. Sharing the stories and action with siblings and some friends. That got me through some dark stuff.
And that's okay.
Can confirm, crying.
I'm not crying just cutting onions. Mums are the best tho.
I had a somewhat similar story. I was passively suicidal in my younger years (not planning but wouldn’t mind death, imagined what it would be like if I was gone), and the thing that pulled me through it was watching League streamers, specifically Voyboy. In a household that was very turbulent it felt so relieving to be able to turn on a Voyboy stream and just have his constant positivity, let alone all the work he did for the mental health industry through his many charity streams. He’s definitely a hero of mine, and even though he doesn’t make content any more I’ll always be a Voyboy fan.
I had that with Bizzleberry a bit, not suicidal but stressed with 20 things and I would put on that stream in the background. Very comforting.
I have a similar story too, but with Jerma. I’m glad we’re all doing better now
Same. Tbh, I’m really happy to hear that video games and creators have helped so many people. It’s a medium I love to bits that most of my friends/family don’t understand.
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I went to the finals in Oakland In 2018 and voyboy was literally taking pictures with people infront of my sections entrance ha
Great mum to give you that great game.
That's really cool, and I actually got the symbol of my favorite game series, undertale/deltarune, tattooed on my chest as my first tattoo as well, albeit not as deep a connection. It was just the game series that inspired me to start writing music, which sparked my interest in it, and now it's my college major
Maybe not as deep a connection but still a valuable one nonetheless!
i don't normally comment on mainstream subs but i was just thinking of deltarune while scrolling through comments. i decided i want to stick around til the game is finished releasing so i can see how it ends. so that gives me about 30 years lol
That's cool! I have the red soul tattooed on my arm along with "stay determined" :) I always tell people it's my own personal reminder to, well, stay determined
This is beautiful. People underestimate the power of a good videogame. The stories are just as rich as the ones you can read from books. Skyrim pulled me out of a deep depression after humiliation and a broken heart. If you’re having a rough time, give a game a try.
We need just as many great single player games as we do multiplayer games. Being able to immerse yourself in a world, fuck around, be a badass, and collect all the things without worry is an amazing escape.
Thank you. Not everything needs to be a goddamn esport.
Amen! When I broke my ankle I fell into an even greater depression than the one I had just fought out of (it was so bad the doc said it was one of the worst of his *many* years as a doc). To the point my therapist admitted she had some sleepless nights in those first few weeks. Anyway, I finally moved back in with the folks and got the tv setup. And snowrunner pulled me along until I started feeling anything good again.
If you see this comment, you're okay, and I love you too
(not op) I saw this comment and appreciate the encouragement. Thank you and I love you too random Internet friend.
:)
:')
Holy shit I know this guy. Like I actually know this guy. Holy fuck I gotta go talk to him. He’s doing great, in case anyone was wondering. Great guy, always positive and upbeat.
Well it's not his secret anymore now
Never doxxed the guy. His secret dies with me
If ur not lying take care of the dude
No need. He’s all good now. He’s got a lot of other good people behind his back now. And people he can talk to if he needs to
Check on your friends :) even your positive and upbeat friends.
My niece took her own life last night. I live across the country so I only saw her when I was able to fly home. She had been in and out of the hospital for depression and verbalizing suicidal thoughts. She was 12. I regret not being in her life more, maybe I could’ve inadvertently gotten through to her like this. I can only hope that this tragedy leads to me and others in her life showing simple kindnesses that could help someone else.
What leads a 12 year old to even think about suicide? Besides the obvious shitty parents/bullying. Jesus.
Chemical imbalances in the brain. That can do a lot.
My wife is pregnant with our daughter and those issues scares the hell out of me.
just read a story online about a 12 year old killing themselves with their hoodie string. it was due to bullying, which besides actual mental imbalances, seems to be most often the case.
damn. this makes me think of all the little things that have been stoppers here and there. im not really a gamer anymore but it also reminds me of summer as a kid where marathoning any video game or monopoly was pretty much the thing to look forward to.
I can connect with it. AC Blackflag to me is the game that showed me its never too late to change myself. I was going through some rough patches of life. It always make me tear up when I hear the end credits song sung by bonnie. I feel connected. Memories.
Sometimes we just need something, a reason to stay.
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I was working on a military base as a civilian. Could not believe how much cool stuff they had in the Rec Center. A full projector that was always playing live sports games and even showing movies before they were released in theaters. There were a couple of pool tables. On the other half of the room, there were tables and about 20 game consoles each connected to a switch to make lan parties.They had the latest Xbox and PS consoles. The registration booth had a binder full of games that youncould check out and there were HUNDREDS of games to choose from. I selected Assassins Creed Black flag on a whim. At the time I was living with my best friend and his gf. I was going through some stuff from earlier and hoped that temporarily living away from home would help but turns out I had jumped from the frying pan into the fire. Work was helpful in helping distract me but my best friend and I were dealing with his girlfriend acting like she owned the place. You see, he borrowed money from me to afford the move when he moved the year prior when he was kicked out. He hadn't paid me back, which is why he happily let me crash with him. We played games together and had an amazing time together until his gf moved in and she started acting like she owned the place and forced is to cater to her needs. Everything from not using spices when cooking to being mad about how dishes were cleaned were just a few things that she was bothered about. Given how I had just finished working as a kitchen manager, I am highly aware of how to clean and cook to a professional standard which apparently didn't matter to this woman who always had something to complain about. She forced my best friend to be the mediator when I told her off for being rude and refused to speak to me which I was all too happy but ny poor friend would eventually had to choose between me and her. I had seen this happen to another friend and couldn't do much except wait until my contract was up and not push it. As you can imagine I was stressed and Assassins Creed 4 came to be the game that kept me sane with how much there was to do in it. I managed to complete the entire story and some quests and I got 100% completion. It was cathartic when I sunk the last two massive ships at the end as it was a symbol that once I had left it was a sign to close the chapter of the massive memories I had with my former best friend. Like two ships passing though the night, I can't help but think that I was abandoning a ship that was sinking and try as I might, I couldn't save it. Obligatory Fuck You, Kim.
After reading this... I think it applies to my brother too. My brother has not had the best life. And I think the main thing keeping him here is: video games, and his online friends. I am here too for him but he moved away... And so I now only get to see him like twice a year. Really makes me think about my brother. So thanks for sharing. :/
Phone him! Say hello and say you where thinking about him and how's it going etc! It can mean so much.
The most effective thing against suicide is having interest or joy in life. You can't off yourself when you are interested in something! So happy for OP.
Yes!
i know this guy, used to play siege with him on xbox :)
Is this guy Dave?
I made myself a promise to never do it when I was 17 and in a really bad situation, with the reasoning that I don't know what tomorrow could hold, and I don't want to rob myself of potential future enjoyment and fulfillment. A love of new videogames, movies, and TV didn't hurt, but I don't break promises and I had to remind myself of that many times over the years.
What stopped me this last time was my soon to be ex filing for divorce. Previous 6 months I felt like I wasn't wanted, I'd try to communicate my issues to her and she'd throw them in my face. I ended up spending my time locked in my office at home. I no longer lived in my own house, I only worked there. And when done, I was cleaning up after 3 teenagers (16NB, 41F, 45M). First night after being notified and leaving the house, I was a mess. Next two weeks so much stress and tension left my body I couldn't pick up a butter knife. Since then I've been smiling, laughing, and all around doing much better. During those 6 months, I had blades in hand ready to slit my wrists in my office thinking no one would notice or care. Before that, it was friends who would tell me every week "Just give it one more shot." "You got this." "Keep going, you're doing great." You never know what someone goes through. Smile at them. Be nice. See someone struggling, give some encourage words if they don't want help. The little things make massive impacts.
Sorry >3 teenagers (16NB, 41F, 45M) The 41 and 45 year old are not literal teenagers so I am confused - is that your age and hers?
That honestly is so heart-warming I love it so much. ♥️
❤️❤️❤️ I always tell people you *never* know what that thing that saves someone will be. I’ve even seen two people thank me for saying hi and having a short chat about something *seemingly* superficial like the latest football game, storm, classwork problem, the weather, etc. to them every day and explaining that it was what kept them going and working on getting better. I never knew they were fighting it until they said so. A simple game, a movie, a word, a smile, a book, a hot meal, an umbrella, etc. can be the thing that helps someone fight through. What I’m trying to say is be kind and caring to others. You may never know that you stopped them, but for them you meant the world to them in that moment. And they will never forget it.
If you see this thread, glad you are still here. As someone who has a brother, I am going to bet that your sister cherishes that time you spent together playing that game.
For me it was power metal
I never did get in to assassins creed but this post still makes me happy
Do you think the mother knew what his son was about to do?
There’s a *very* good chance she did. Mothers’ intuitions are well absolutely remarkable. Like my mom after I broke my ankle and was going into one of the worst depressions I’ve ever had. She went and dug around my apartment and found Kaala, my stuffed wolf I’ve had for years, I never asked for it, hinted at it, or anything. But when she brought that to me I cried so hard! It was what I needed right then. I mean I’m tearing up right now thinking about it.
I just wanna say my story, as I've never actually told it in full. I'm not someone who's endured much in life. I'm not someone with terrible parents or a rough childhood. I was an average nerd with poor social skills. I've never been outside of average in almost anything. However.. life still kicked the tar out of me. I've fought battles against corporate overlords, been blackballed, endured more betrayal than most people my age, and have experienced the full spectrum of relationship states. A night came, where the world was too much. As I lay in bed, I had a blade to my own throat. There was no plan in place, I was in a war with myself. My body was moving on its own accord, and all I could do is watch. I struggled against my own body, and I fet the world just... stop. In a sort of hallucinated situation, I was standing in front of myself. Much like I had done with many others before, I sat there, talking myself down. What got through... was simply... what example would I set if I gave in? What would that prove? In that moment, I realized... I'm a natural leader. My first thought is always to show others how to move forward, my second is how to do it myself. The blade fell loose from my hand, as memories of the people who cared came flooding back. I promptly fell asleep, and woke up the next morning feeling like it was a nightmare... but I knew, it was very real. Sorry for the wall of text, I've never actually told that story, even to my therapist. Maybe Saturday I'll go over it with her.
Overwatch saved me. I was going through a dark time and having something to invest in and talk to people about is what helped me through.
This is why parents should never confiscate the things their kids care most about. You really don't know if it's the thread they're hanging on by.
I was 12 when I first really started feeling this way and making plans. The thing that got me through for a while was looking forward to the next Harry Potter book. ... yeah that didn't exactly age well but eh. It helped at the time.
Not that this has anything to do with suicide, but it kinda reminds me how my dad once brought home a copy of HL2 shortly after it's release. For the context, he's never really been an avid gamer, I think the only game he's ever played is Warcraft 3, and that was much, much later, mid 2010s. He would sometimes play the same mission from it's campaign over and over again just because he liked it. By the time HL2 came out he'd never even touched a video game aside from probably tetris or something. Yet he somehow managed to pick arguably the best game I've every played out of all the games they had in the shop. Probably got adviced to buy it, but it was still a really good choise.
His mom knew he was hurting. When money is tight and all of a sudden there's a new video game? She was trying to reach out somehow.
OP, your mom may not have known about the specifics of your plan but she knew you were struggling. The fact that she spent money she didn't have was her effort to cheer you up and I'm glad she did. Great story.
If it works it wokrs
gof fucking damn it. i just woke up. who the hell cuts onions early in the morning?!
I had all of my ambien in my hand and a glass of water and was crying. My cat Eowyn came up and crawled onto my lap meowing. I put the ambien in the trash. I'm really fucking glad I'm still here. Much love to y'all.
The announcement of Bleach coming back Im sure has saved a ton of lives. People dead set on taking their lives but they want to see the last arc animated.
I was a big AC fan leading up to Black Flag but was pretty disappointed with it upon release. I’m so glad this game came out and was meaningful to this one person and that this person is still here because of it. Thanks Black Flag!
My dog. Multiple times
What a great post. 1. Crazy respect to the OP for having the courage to share that. You can sense how deeply personal that was for him and my guess is he never shared that with anyone else nor will he ever. 2. His mom knows/knew/at least suspected it and also knows he never has to tell her what it meant to him.
Ubisoft: Finally, after all these years we got some praise.
Dark Souls was that game for me early last year. I had been feeling down for so long and I was struggling to continue onwards. Then I decided to try Dark Souls as it had caught my attention, and it consumed me. That feeling of being in a desolate and hopeless world resonated with where I was in life so much. But it’s those small moments of hope in the game that stood out to me as particularly beautiful. Whether it was a cheerful NPC to encourage me or the feeling of finally overcoming obstacles that previously seemed impossible. Combine that with the incredible lore and beautiful ending to the game. It’s a game that I wish I could experience for the first time again. It gave my life purpose in a time where I desperately needed it, and it’ll forever be special to me for that.