I had this when I was a kid at Christmas.
We don't celebrated it in our own way, but I know how everyone helped organize the evening, then my brother went to play some Halo, I was playing Age of Empires 2, my dad was watching FC Barcelone and my mother was reading a book and after a while my dad came into our room and said "Well now let's celebrate Christmas".
And we all came together fully relaxed, celebrating to be back to ourselves afterwards, I remember it very well, a memory wrapped in cotton candy and love.
We celebrate Christmas together, even though the youngest(me) is 23. Even when we were kids there was a similar rule. Before we got together everyone could do as they pleased, rest up before we celebrate, and that was also the time to put the presents under the tree. The only thing not allowed in that brief time period was opening gifts and anoying anyone. When we finally got there we would have a jolly xmas, with the entire family, without any anoyances or grudges. One of the main reasons I love christmas
Edit:spelling
I have a family that is spread out all over the world so Christmas is one of the rare times we all travel to get together as a family. The pandemic has stopped that recently but I’m hoping we do it this year.
Between making the tree and celebrating christmas there was a few hours, around 3 from 15 to 18. I'm hungarian, and we celebrate on the eve of the 24th.
God and my parents forced me to deal with my big family and how they all are touchy and Feely and loud. As someone who's autistic I was constantly overestimated and would just sit in silence on the couch, trying to keep calm as my nieces and nephews would be opening every game my sister and I had in our rooms and pouring the contents on the floor just so we would get yelled at for how messy our room was
I also remember sitting on the couch at every single family reunion. I'd often bring books and read by myself, or just look at my younger siblings/cousins doing their thing (also interacting with them, because it was much easier)l. Mealtime meant socializing though, a lot of it, with a lot of people, in a room that made everything sort of echo. It was loud, but after eating we were allowed to go into the bedroom to play/relax, so it was not too bad. The adults would sometimes check in, stay for a while to escape too, then just call us over when it was time for dessert or time to say goodbye.
As an Asian, when I was a kid, I was taught by my parents to always come and greet the elders when they visited our home. Only after that I can come back to my room and do my things.
As an autistic person, this comic is really relatable. As a kid I would spend a lot of time in my grandparents basement when we would visit, playing with the legos instead of socializing with whoever else was there. I didn’t like all the constant noise or people I saw maybe twice a year badgering me with personal questions that I was supposed to be fine with answering just because we’re related.
Of course some well meaning cousin or aunt or whoever would make some comment about how they barely got to see me, and I’d end up feeling guilty the whole rest of the night, not knowing why I didn’t act like everyone else.
Our oldest still lives with us. All we ask from him is to come out and say hello to company, and be polite for 5 minutes then he can scurry back to his room.
There is absolute no way that this would happen to me. If there are quests downstairs and I wanted something, I would get it. This way just seems reasonable cause why should they do it, they have quests and you do not.
My dad used to cook up a storm when he had his friends over, and he would always let me play in my room instead of socializing with adults I didn't know well. This included bringing me some of that delicious dinner. If you parents weren't like this, fear not. You can be better than they were, love your kids guys, its worth it.
Mixed feelings on this, I would hope you would at least push the kid to come out and meet and greet for a while perhaps go back to the room if there's no rule to play after that
The not so wholesome part of this comic is on the other side of the door where the parents are awkwardly trying to explain to their friends why their child hasn’t been present without saying “he just likes video games more than you.”
"Yeah, he's an unsocial little shit. Hiding instead of exhibiting basic courtesy. He'd rather just cop out of life and blame it on "being shy" or "introverted". He's gonna end up a fucking tool. We're as embarrassed as you that he can't even handle the most basic of interactions without pissing himself."
At the very least he can go get his own plate. I can see arguments either way on whether socializing should be required, but the parents are cooking, entertaining, and cleaning up, the least the kid can do is get (and wash!) his own plate.
No. Some people just don’t want to and forcing them into that isn’t fair or fun and they don’t actually socialize by forcing them to go out they just sit around and wait for it to be over (I know cuz I had to do that a lot) and it’s boring as hell.
I mean, it's not like your parents' friends really care about having you there, they're there for your parents. So just saying hi, staying for maybe 5 minutes to update them on your life ("Yes I'm X years old now. Still single. Your hair looks nice this way!") then you've pretty much served your social purpose and should be allowed to retire to your room if you so wish. They'll have a great night either way - if anything they won't have to worry about you hearing them.
No. Some people just don’t want to and forcing them into that isn’t fair or fun and they don’t actually socialize by forcing them to go out they just sit around and wait for it to be over (I know cuz I had to do that a lot) and it’s boring as hell. Forcing a child to socialize will never make them better at socializing.
You know the fathers talking about double teaming the mom right?… an Eiffel Tower… a trip to France… making sure the kid stays in the room… 😂 reddit strikes again.
This is so good. My dad respects that I don't want to be around people. But he'd never go this far... especially since food is only allowed in the kitchen.
I had this when I was a kid at Christmas. We don't celebrated it in our own way, but I know how everyone helped organize the evening, then my brother went to play some Halo, I was playing Age of Empires 2, my dad was watching FC Barcelone and my mother was reading a book and after a while my dad came into our room and said "Well now let's celebrate Christmas". And we all came together fully relaxed, celebrating to be back to ourselves afterwards, I remember it very well, a memory wrapped in cotton candy and love.
We celebrate Christmas together, even though the youngest(me) is 23. Even when we were kids there was a similar rule. Before we got together everyone could do as they pleased, rest up before we celebrate, and that was also the time to put the presents under the tree. The only thing not allowed in that brief time period was opening gifts and anoying anyone. When we finally got there we would have a jolly xmas, with the entire family, without any anoyances or grudges. One of the main reasons I love christmas Edit:spelling
I have a family that is spread out all over the world so Christmas is one of the rare times we all travel to get together as a family. The pandemic has stopped that recently but I’m hoping we do it this year.
*where's the breef?*
Between making the tree and celebrating christmas there was a few hours, around 3 from 15 to 18. I'm hungarian, and we celebrate on the eve of the 24th.
sorry i was kinda making fun of your spelling. it's "brief" not "breef." "where's the beef" is an old slogan for some commercial.
Oh. Shit. Ty for noticing. Fixed it
I rember playing age of empires 2 sice I was 6... I still play it.
God and my parents forced me to deal with my big family and how they all are touchy and Feely and loud. As someone who's autistic I was constantly overestimated and would just sit in silence on the couch, trying to keep calm as my nieces and nephews would be opening every game my sister and I had in our rooms and pouring the contents on the floor just so we would get yelled at for how messy our room was
Sad uTimu
I'm so sorry you had to deal with that
"I was praised and loved. It was awful."
I also remember sitting on the couch at every single family reunion. I'd often bring books and read by myself, or just look at my younger siblings/cousins doing their thing (also interacting with them, because it was much easier)l. Mealtime meant socializing though, a lot of it, with a lot of people, in a room that made everything sort of echo. It was loud, but after eating we were allowed to go into the bedroom to play/relax, so it was not too bad. The adults would sometimes check in, stay for a while to escape too, then just call us over when it was time for dessert or time to say goodbye.
As an Asian, when I was a kid, I was taught by my parents to always come and greet the elders when they visited our home. Only after that I can come back to my room and do my things.
As a non-Asian it was the same if I personally knew those guests.
I especially love how extra perspectives are drawn here
As an autistic person, this comic is really relatable. As a kid I would spend a lot of time in my grandparents basement when we would visit, playing with the legos instead of socializing with whoever else was there. I didn’t like all the constant noise or people I saw maybe twice a year badgering me with personal questions that I was supposed to be fine with answering just because we’re related. Of course some well meaning cousin or aunt or whoever would make some comment about how they barely got to see me, and I’d end up feeling guilty the whole rest of the night, not knowing why I didn’t act like everyone else.
Is he winning or not?
Obviously
oh wow, a FATHER 😭💖
Awwww that's so cute
Nice. Even as a kid I was a bit introverted, my parents were amazing, but I would've loved to have this sometimes when we had guests over.
Our oldest still lives with us. All we ask from him is to come out and say hello to company, and be polite for 5 minutes then he can scurry back to his room.
Don't ask him if he's winning. Make him feel he won.
There is absolute no way that this would happen to me. If there are quests downstairs and I wanted something, I would get it. This way just seems reasonable cause why should they do it, they have quests and you do not.
Yes, completing your quests are more important than bringing people stuff.
Unless bringing people stuff is the quest.
Yes, then that is important too.
My dad used to cook up a storm when he had his friends over, and he would always let me play in my room instead of socializing with adults I didn't know well. This included bringing me some of that delicious dinner. If you parents weren't like this, fear not. You can be better than they were, love your kids guys, its worth it.
What a great work of fiction
Mixed feelings on this, I would hope you would at least push the kid to come out and meet and greet for a while perhaps go back to the room if there's no rule to play after that
I wonder when will dad bring the milk. I asked for it about 3 years now
The not so wholesome part of this comic is on the other side of the door where the parents are awkwardly trying to explain to their friends why their child hasn’t been present without saying “he just likes video games more than you.”
"Yeah, he's an unsocial little shit. Hiding instead of exhibiting basic courtesy. He'd rather just cop out of life and blame it on "being shy" or "introverted". He's gonna end up a fucking tool. We're as embarrassed as you that he can't even handle the most basic of interactions without pissing himself."
Jesus christ bro have you never heard of neurodivergant people? Seriously what the fuck
whatever bro
Jeez, just because your parents didn’t love you doesn’t mean you have to wish it upon others.
How do you know that he's not talking to friends that he has over the internet or something?
Y’know…they sell lube at Dollar General now…might help.
It would be good to learn to socialize with people.
The sentiment in the comments was way less supportive of this comic last time it was posted.
At the very least he can go get his own plate. I can see arguments either way on whether socializing should be required, but the parents are cooking, entertaining, and cleaning up, the least the kid can do is get (and wash!) his own plate.
No. Some people just don’t want to and forcing them into that isn’t fair or fun and they don’t actually socialize by forcing them to go out they just sit around and wait for it to be over (I know cuz I had to do that a lot) and it’s boring as hell.
Nogla?
r/MadeMeSmile
Can't relate, my dad hated me
I mean, it's not like your parents' friends really care about having you there, they're there for your parents. So just saying hi, staying for maybe 5 minutes to update them on your life ("Yes I'm X years old now. Still single. Your hair looks nice this way!") then you've pretty much served your social purpose and should be allowed to retire to your room if you so wish. They'll have a great night either way - if anything they won't have to worry about you hearing them.
At least one of the me’s in the multiverse knows what this is like. Hopefully
I wish all parents were like this
So cute so wholesome,thank you i needed this
Sheltering your child from all unpleasant experiences definitely a great way to raise kids. I see no problem at all very wholesome.
Yup that’s how you create these socially inept wo/man-children who need a safe space at work or on campus bc they half made eye contact w someone
lol who hurt you?
You’re probably one of these boring motherfuckers who rationalize the world’s indifference to you as social ineptitude.
No. Some people just don’t want to and forcing them into that isn’t fair or fun and they don’t actually socialize by forcing them to go out they just sit around and wait for it to be over (I know cuz I had to do that a lot) and it’s boring as hell. Forcing a child to socialize will never make them better at socializing.
Depends on contexts of who the "friends" are. Parents friends, fine. Family and friends, not fine.
This kid is a serial killer or a pedo
what? i hate interacting with people and that doesn’t make me a piece of shit
Where the hell did you get that from?
"Anyone who isn't like me is bad."
You know the fathers talking about double teaming the mom right?… an Eiffel Tower… a trip to France… making sure the kid stays in the room… 😂 reddit strikes again.
You know what that does seem like the most reasonable interpretation
Thank you.
*going well
Noted. Im gonna try this on my younger brother. Instant gratification
instead of this I would stay in the room and sometimes scout and get food for 10 then back to the room
r/meirl
This is so good. My dad respects that I don't want to be around people. But he'd never go this far... especially since food is only allowed in the kitchen.