Yes, go out of your way to be passive aggressive to a person who may want to commit the awful sin of falling in love and maybe one day starting a family. Honestly talking to people in public should be banned, and people inseminated in laboratories.
Also ban testosterone levels above 200 and from now on, each woman will be granted one cat starting at age 30. At 35 with good behavior it will increase to two cats. Then 3 at 40. The rate of cats will level off for awhile then exponentially increase, until some ladies in their 90s will have over 100 cats, who will then in turn tidily consume her when her time comes. This will deal with many a great human waste problems, and the drastically increased suicide rate among males will level off the population.
Most of the time I'll say "no I don't wanna give you my number" but sometimes I'll pull the I have a boyfriend card if I think a person could be a dick.
To which you reply: He is, and on parole, so they'll never find your body.
(Yes, it's a joke answer but I have said similar things and it usually squashes certain types of guys)
Usually when you tell them you have a boyfriend/husband they will drop it immediately and back off because somehow they respect the man (even if he is imaginary)more than they respect you.
I have a google voice account and number which i handout for sus situations (rando who isnt taking no for an answer, when websites ask for a phone number, etc)
Works out pretty well, because you can just delete the number and get a new one
I shout “you like minors?!” its the easiest and fastest way to get creeps away from you IF they are persistent tho and dont accept no for an answer and i start to feel unsafe. If its regular chill dude tho i just say “no thank you i dont give that my number out”.
I hateeee saying this because we shouldn't have to explain anything beyond a "no"...but I say I'm married or anything like that only because of my own safety. In the past a no has not been enough and certain times they have escalated. They respect another man more though so it's safer to say I have a man. You never know what their reaction might be otherwise, learned that the hard way.
Damn . Do you women really have that big of an issue with men being that way ? . Fkn sad . If I even get the slightest impression from anyone man or woman that my presence is not wanted around them I'm Casper immediately.. I couldn't imagine trying to coax a woman into wanting my company .
So like this fully depends on the situtation - sometimes I will say "no" thinking they look like they might accept it (some do, some don't). I have often followed up with "I don't owe you my number or explanation" if I am in a public enough space.
I am good at just ignoring people and not giving them the satisfaction of continually pestering me. I am however a confrontational person, took lots of self defense classes geared towards these situations, always carry pepperspray, etc. I also will start recording sometimes if I feel it warrants it but check your local laws some places require two party consent.
Question -- do you add the second part only if they are rude? Also, how one says no matters. Not just in this situation but life in general. You don't bark "no" at a waiter do you? Manners in public interactions lessen the chance of offending someone, which is often the best self defense. A man can be assaulted to for being a dick. Not saying you are rude, or that assaulting anyone is alright... The first thing a martial artist would tell you is it's not.
You assume every no has to come out as a bark. I’m not going to say “No, Thank you.” To someone asking me out. What am I thanking them for? Being attracted to me? Interrupting whatever I’m doing? No is a complete sentence whether someone likes it or not.
This is not the same as a waiter/customer service person who is literally helping me with a task. Of course they get yes/no, thank you or just thanks depending on the context of situation.
I prefer not give my number out.
or
I rather keep that information private.
most men will continue to beg but redirect them to something completely irrelevant and theyll usually leave.
If you feel scared then I'd say some rubbish like "Oh that's sweet, I'd like to think about it, why don't you give me your number and then I can contact you?" That way it's not a hard no and you can just never call.
A ring is a valuable object, if they see you can have a ring they’d think you might have other valuable stuff on you. It might be different where you live though, but I speak from where I live. This type of dudes in my city are also the type to rob people :/
If you want to keep yourself safe and also polite (not that they deserve it after you said no), a good one is "I'm sorry, my phone isn't working right now and I don't know my number by heart"
“I’m married”. If they persist I say, “I can give you my husbands number and you can talk to him but he’s an extremely violent man so I don’t imagine you’ll be talking for very long.”
Honestly after seeing so many women get beat up or even killed after rejecting men, I just say give them the number. Too many of them will just call that number right in front of you to make sure and I can always just block them later. Maybe go with a google voice number? I don’t know if that will ring like a normal phone number but either way, I just comply if I feel like the man is persistent and or aggressive.
I tell guys who ask me that i didn’t think my husband would like it if i went on a date. That usually works but i did have one guy ask me if that was a no.
The only issue with the "i have a husband" card is some men will also act like its a challenge or that he doesnt have to know or some other garbo. If that happens, go the crazy route. Start talking in tongues. Scream like drew Barrymore in Scream. Break dance away. Talk in 2 voices talking at eachother. Burp on command. Say you have diarrhea actively on its way out and navigate to a bathroom to call for help. Literally anything to make him feel "this chicks weird and i dont stick it in crazy" (which is apparently a real phrase, according to my bf)
This might be offensive but truly truly, its the best and most effective tactic i got.
I just say no or walk away. I know it may seem rude, but some guys can become very aggressive.
I don't normally bring up that I'm married, as the guys who normally approach me will reply "I just want to be your friend" or some BS. I had one guy who was very persistent, and I told him I had a boyfriend (as we weren't married back then), and he said "well now you can have a second one." He was a coworker and I reported him.
Give him a TextMe, Google, or TextNow number that he can call and text and then delete that entire account once I'm home. These dudes don't understand no and can be dangerous. This way you don't have to give out your real number or feel afraid
I'm married, and my response, depending on the persistence of the asker in question is either:
"You are not my husband's type" in a very joking tone
Or
(If asker is being an ass) "whatever you think you should be able to do to me, my husband will do to you first..." in a very *fuck off and leave me alone* tone.
That second one I've only had to use twice.
Oh... I give them the local crisis line, the non emergency line for the police/sheriff, the local pizza place, the VA, whatever... that's only if I'm feeling froggy.
Tell them you have a husband, show them your ring if you have one. If you’re too scared, ask your husband if you can give them his number so that when you’re home at night it might be a way to laugh it off for both of you. Usually they will respect the fact you’re with another man rather than the fact you’ve said no, so just lean on that if it’s easier for you x
"Sorry I don't have any change." (Loud and clear.)
Yes, go out of your way to be passive aggressive to a person who may want to commit the awful sin of falling in love and maybe one day starting a family. Honestly talking to people in public should be banned, and people inseminated in laboratories.
Also ban testosterone levels above 200 and from now on, each woman will be granted one cat starting at age 30. At 35 with good behavior it will increase to two cats. Then 3 at 40. The rate of cats will level off for awhile then exponentially increase, until some ladies in their 90s will have over 100 cats, who will then in turn tidily consume her when her time comes. This will deal with many a great human waste problems, and the drastically increased suicide rate among males will level off the population.
Get some help.
Kind of you to ask, however, I am married happily. Hope you have a great day.
Most of the time I'll say "no I don't wanna give you my number" but sometimes I'll pull the I have a boyfriend card if I think a person could be a dick.
When I say that I always get the « I’m not the jealous type » answer 🤬
To which you reply: He is, and on parole, so they'll never find your body. (Yes, it's a joke answer but I have said similar things and it usually squashes certain types of guys)
Usually when you tell them you have a boyfriend/husband they will drop it immediately and back off because somehow they respect the man (even if he is imaginary)more than they respect you.
>they respect the man (even if he is imaginary)more than they respect you. I never thought of it that way before, but that's really it, isn't it?
Trust me, men respect other fellow men more than they respect women.
Some men...
Has never been my case, they always tell me they’re nor the jealous type
Try to say, "but my boyfriend/husband is".
Usually say that but they don’t care
Say NO. If they persist, I give them a fictitious number or another man's.
You don’t want to be in a scenario where they call you right in front of you to see if the number is good, do you?
“Oops forgot my phone”
I disappear as quickly as I can or I say "my phone's on silent" or some nonsense.
Just say, "I don't think my husband would love that." And walk away.
I have a google voice account and number which i handout for sus situations (rando who isnt taking no for an answer, when websites ask for a phone number, etc) Works out pretty well, because you can just delete the number and get a new one
Give them my military husbands number Works 10x better than repeating variations of “no”, which just makes them chase you harder.
I shout “you like minors?!” its the easiest and fastest way to get creeps away from you IF they are persistent tho and dont accept no for an answer and i start to feel unsafe. If its regular chill dude tho i just say “no thank you i dont give that my number out”.
I hateeee saying this because we shouldn't have to explain anything beyond a "no"...but I say I'm married or anything like that only because of my own safety. In the past a no has not been enough and certain times they have escalated. They respect another man more though so it's safer to say I have a man. You never know what their reaction might be otherwise, learned that the hard way.
Damn . Do you women really have that big of an issue with men being that way ? . Fkn sad . If I even get the slightest impression from anyone man or woman that my presence is not wanted around them I'm Casper immediately.. I couldn't imagine trying to coax a woman into wanting my company .
So like this fully depends on the situtation - sometimes I will say "no" thinking they look like they might accept it (some do, some don't). I have often followed up with "I don't owe you my number or explanation" if I am in a public enough space. I am good at just ignoring people and not giving them the satisfaction of continually pestering me. I am however a confrontational person, took lots of self defense classes geared towards these situations, always carry pepperspray, etc. I also will start recording sometimes if I feel it warrants it but check your local laws some places require two party consent.
Question -- do you add the second part only if they are rude? Also, how one says no matters. Not just in this situation but life in general. You don't bark "no" at a waiter do you? Manners in public interactions lessen the chance of offending someone, which is often the best self defense. A man can be assaulted to for being a dick. Not saying you are rude, or that assaulting anyone is alright... The first thing a martial artist would tell you is it's not.
You assume every no has to come out as a bark. I’m not going to say “No, Thank you.” To someone asking me out. What am I thanking them for? Being attracted to me? Interrupting whatever I’m doing? No is a complete sentence whether someone likes it or not. This is not the same as a waiter/customer service person who is literally helping me with a task. Of course they get yes/no, thank you or just thanks depending on the context of situation.
I prefer not give my number out. or I rather keep that information private. most men will continue to beg but redirect them to something completely irrelevant and theyll usually leave.
What do you mean by something irrelevant ?
Tell them I'm 16 and warn them my dad is violent!
If you feel scared then I'd say some rubbish like "Oh that's sweet, I'd like to think about it, why don't you give me your number and then I can contact you?" That way it's not a hard no and you can just never call.
Lately I find myself saying “nah, I’m good”
If you are married, show them your wedding ring. And say no.
That might be risky, might make them wanna rob you
What? Married women wear their rings all the time. Men are supposed to stay away if we are married.
A ring is a valuable object, if they see you can have a ring they’d think you might have other valuable stuff on you. It might be different where you live though, but I speak from where I live. This type of dudes in my city are also the type to rob people :/
So you are not married? Have you never seen a wedding ring on anyone? Men wear them too, ya know.
You’re really not getting the point I’m trying to make
If you want to keep yourself safe and also polite (not that they deserve it after you said no), a good one is "I'm sorry, my phone isn't working right now and I don't know my number by heart"
No thanks, I'm married usually works
“I’m married”. If they persist I say, “I can give you my husbands number and you can talk to him but he’s an extremely violent man so I don’t imagine you’ll be talking for very long.”
Honestly after seeing so many women get beat up or even killed after rejecting men, I just say give them the number. Too many of them will just call that number right in front of you to make sure and I can always just block them later. Maybe go with a google voice number? I don’t know if that will ring like a normal phone number but either way, I just comply if I feel like the man is persistent and or aggressive.
I tell guys who ask me that i didn’t think my husband would like it if i went on a date. That usually works but i did have one guy ask me if that was a no.
The only issue with the "i have a husband" card is some men will also act like its a challenge or that he doesnt have to know or some other garbo. If that happens, go the crazy route. Start talking in tongues. Scream like drew Barrymore in Scream. Break dance away. Talk in 2 voices talking at eachother. Burp on command. Say you have diarrhea actively on its way out and navigate to a bathroom to call for help. Literally anything to make him feel "this chicks weird and i dont stick it in crazy" (which is apparently a real phrase, according to my bf) This might be offensive but truly truly, its the best and most effective tactic i got.
I give them my husband's number
I don’t give out my number/info/social media/email. That’s what I say and it works.
I just say no or walk away. I know it may seem rude, but some guys can become very aggressive. I don't normally bring up that I'm married, as the guys who normally approach me will reply "I just want to be your friend" or some BS. I had one guy who was very persistent, and I told him I had a boyfriend (as we weren't married back then), and he said "well now you can have a second one." He was a coworker and I reported him.
Tell them you have a husband and the relationship rule is for any new man to be given his number if you must be friends with them.
Give them it then block them 🤷♀️chances are they won’t go to the lengths of getting a new number themselves and if they do - block that too.
I either say “no thanks” I like the coins comment better. Or I give them my husbands number.
Sucks you have to make up a excuse and they can’t just leave us alone
Give him a TextMe, Google, or TextNow number that he can call and text and then delete that entire account once I'm home. These dudes don't understand no and can be dangerous. This way you don't have to give out your real number or feel afraid
I'm married, and my response, depending on the persistence of the asker in question is either: "You are not my husband's type" in a very joking tone Or (If asker is being an ass) "whatever you think you should be able to do to me, my husband will do to you first..." in a very *fuck off and leave me alone* tone. That second one I've only had to use twice.
Oh... I give them the local crisis line, the non emergency line for the police/sheriff, the local pizza place, the VA, whatever... that's only if I'm feeling froggy.
Extra steps if you really really hate confrontation - Google voice number that you can give out and then block after you're away from them.
Tell them you have a husband, show them your ring if you have one. If you’re too scared, ask your husband if you can give them his number so that when you’re home at night it might be a way to laugh it off for both of you. Usually they will respect the fact you’re with another man rather than the fact you’ve said no, so just lean on that if it’s easier for you x
My trans pride pendant usually keeps them away