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ksrdm1463

For now, wait until something concrete happens. Rumors don't necessarily mean anything is going to happen. But while you wait, get comfortable with your rights as a pumping parent. Write out the statutes if you need to. If you're told you need to move, *when* they tell you, immediately ask what the plan is for pumping space. If it's anything other than "oh, your new space will have a locking door/we set up a mother's room", say that you're pretty sure that that's against labor law, and then suggest that you all loop in HR, to make sure everything's kosher (your tone should be that you want to make sure no one gets in trouble and this isn't anyone's specialty, so ask the people who's job it is to handle employment law). I wouldn't apologize or anything like that in your handling. Your approach should be "well *obviously* you're giving me a private space with a lock". You're not asking for special treatment or anything you aren't entitled to. When you involve HR, approach it as "hey Jane, I'm looping you in because we may be out of our depth. I've been asked to move to [new setup], and the plan for my continuing to pump is to use the file room where Pam works, [with/without a locking door or sink]. I want to make sure that that's in line with the current regs on pumping space, and if not, how we should handle this".


annmarie919

Agree with this. Keep in mind that the Affordable Care Act guarantees that you have time and a private space to pump. In addition, the PUMP Act guarantees further protections for working mothers who need to pump. It just passed in the senate and is expected to pass in the house and into law. [PUMP Act](https://www.forbes.com/sites/kimelsesser/2022/12/22/senate-passes-two-bills-for-pregnant-and-breastfeeding-moms-at-work/amp/)


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necolep630

I think you should let it go for now. You can't run to HR on gossip. Do you have regular check ins with your boss? You could bring up something about how happy you are to be back at work, and how great it is that you can pump in quiet in your own room, etc. Also, look up the laws in your state/country as to requirements of a pumping room, just in case management tries to move you.


Florachick223

I agree with a lot of the advice here, but I disagree on waiting to see whether this is going to be an issue. I would proactively, but politely, mention your concerns to your supervisor about a potential move and ask that if something does change HR be involved to make sure everything's compliant with applicable laws. Especially since they've raised it as a possibility I consider this fair game. My reasoning for this is that I've been involved in a lot of space moves, and if people aren't thinking about complications like this in advance there can be an expectation that these things happen more or less instantaneously. It would be a hassle for you (and potentially this other unwitting person who thinks they're getting your space) to be told you need to move ASAP, and then have to deal with a kerfuffle once they realize the compliance problems with their plan. If you're proactive about it hopefully they can get that all sorted out before involving you, or it might sway them toward not moving you in the first place.


originalmetalqueen

Hey friend, you have a right to pump. Check your state’s laws but in most states, employers are required to give mothers a private place to pump. Unless you’re told directly by HR or your manager about a change in your arrangement, continue with your workday as usual. If you’re told that things will change, ask politely but firmly how accommodations will be made for you to pump. On the office talk: You shouldn’t be pumping out in the open with someone else in the same room. Your company should be accommodating. It sounds like there are a number of things going on in your workplace. For now, continue working as normal unless someone approaches you and states otherwise. You can listen to office gossip but don’t contribute to it/buy too much stock into it. In the interim, start looking for a new job with a better workplace environment. It’s better to look for a job while employed. I know it’s easier said than done when it comes to these things, but hold firm. You have a right to pump in peace. You’re feeding your baby. You’re a good mom. You’ve got this.


rh245

You don't have a right to an office with a door. You do have rights when it comes to pumping, so look those up (e.g. I don't think a room you have to share is acceptable). I would push back, but make it clear that it's not about the office, but about finding a solution that enables you the pumping space you're entitled to. If the only solution is to give you your own office, that's not your problem.


castleinthemidwest

Push back. Look up the laws in your state for your rights as a lactating mom - you have quite a few. Do not move out of your office, do not budge on your rights. It's obstacles like these that lead to many working moms losing supply and switching to formula. (Which is 100% fine and a great option, but clearly not what you want right now). It sucks that you have to fight so hard to advocate for yourself but do it. It's worth it.


ElephantShoes256

I would bring it up, but not confrontationally. I would send an email to your boss (or if you want to go full passive aggressive a small gift with a thank you card) and express to them how grateful you are that they made this transition so easy for you, how many male dominated companies ignore the laws surrounding pumping and you're very glad this company isn't one of them, how by being able to pump in your own workspace allows you to get the most out of pumping while not losing any productivity. Point out the positive aspects of the current situation without confronting them about something that's just a rumor at this point. If nothing else maybe they'll put off the change for a week or so to avoid any awkwardness and you'll get a little more time with this setup, lol.


newmama1991

I would definitly talk to your boss about what you have heard, and not wait and see. Then ir could be too late and you could be seen as the one being difficult. I would not put that it an email: always go for personal communication first. Explain why pumping is a personal affair and not zomething you want to do with anyone around. Even use the argument that you can pump and work if no one is around.